I'm the co-founder / executive producer of Real Social Dynamics, and the author of "The Blueprint Decoded" -- I was born in Ottawa Canada (1979) and majored in philosophy at Queens University. Now live and work in Los Angeles California -- My life consists of managing Real Social Dynamics, running Bootcamp and Hot Seat, going to the gym, reading everything under the sun, and a twice a week surfing habit.
I've barely slept the past several weeks to put everything together for this huge endeavour -- and it's been WORTH IT because I know the Hot Seat 2 is going to exceed your expectations in every way. If you haven't see the page above yet absolutely check it out, because the stakes for you are HUGE!
Anyway with that news "out into the atmosphere" I'd like to introduce you to my wingman Julien -- the dood I've been hitting it up with 4-7 nights a week since 2009.
The guy is a prodigy of the game and pulls 9's and 10's more consistently than anyone I've personally seen with my own eyes. All my natural buddies are really shocked with how good he is. He's also been teaching Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp with me nearly every weekend for the past 2 years.
A month ago Papa flew into Los Angeles, sat me down and revealed that he wanted Julien to takeover the Hot Seat 2 events outside the USA so that people could learn from the most qualified man for the job. This was a pretty big shocker and so we decided to spend the month filming him to create a FREE BONUS DAY OF JULIEN FOOTAGE for people who sign up during the official launch.
So we were thinking we could put out a lil extra infield footage to help people get to know dood a bit better, and figured we wanted to create something lil different and off the wall.
We thought it over and decided to create something that made Julien appear to be a TOTAL ASSHOLE who swindles women out of their hopes and dreams. :) Why?? Well cause it's not totally untrue, but mostly because we thought it'd be funny. We created it to mess with your concept about what women respond to, what authenticity means, and what's possible as far as picking up girls.
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO SEE THE MOST HARDCORE PICKUP RAMPAGE YOU'VE EVER SEEN ON THE INTERNET. THERE'S NOTHING ELSE LIKE THIS ONLINE. ALL WILL BE REVEALED...
Funny shit huh?? :) Like he's doing makeout after makeout, then says to a girl "I don't do this with any other person, I've never done this before...." Then...... DOUBLE MAKEOUT. :)
Basically we just wanted to crack you up a bit and lighten up your day -- while simultaneously teaching you a few important fundamentals of the game.
We included "flash game" that anyone could do just by pumping up a gir'ls' state, but also "solid game" as far as even the way you see Julien "hold state" in his eyes during some of the opens, or frame controlling obstacles like the girl freaked out about the cameraman (this is NOT easy...), or getting the girls to chase you.
Hope you enjoyed it. And yes, it's obvious that we're able to put out videos like this because it's not even 0.00001% of the value of the Hot Seat 2.
Which of course breaks down entire pulls from start to finish, ripping them apart and analyzing them so that you know EXACTLY WHAT TO DO when you leave. No vagueness, no ambiguity. Just the most complete education in how to pick up girls, social dynamics, and the self actualization concepts surrounding it that you'll ever expeirence in your life.
This is the exact program I dreamed about back when I was learning the game. I never thought something like this would come to exist, but here it is.
There was also a question about who is teaching what during the events, so here's a quick clarification...
USA = Tyler shows Tyler footage day 1, Tyler shows Julien footage day 2.
Outside USA = Julien Shows Tyler footage day 1, Julien shows Julien footage day 2.
**HOWEVER for the first 3 events in the USA (Chicago, New York, Miami...) Julien will still be on USA soil and will do his own footage. Then he leaves and it'll be on me. He'll also be around for the Boston, Austin, and Honolulu events when he happens to be back in the States.
Also note the non USA schedule had MASSIVE UPDATES done on it for the launch, so check the dates below. The changes are FINAL so you are good to go! We're also adding a "2012 Year Pass" option so that you if you get TWO Hot Seats you have the ability to attend ANY "Tyler/Julien Hot Seat 2" event you want the ENTIRE YEAR. It's not needed at all but I met a few people who told me they'd like the option so we added it.
Be sure to sign up during the launch to gain both days. Show that monkey procrastinating brain whose boss and get it done! You can hopefully see that it's going to be very worthwhile to attend the second day!
Anyway I also had a question last week about why Papa and I chose Julien to teach the Hot Seat 2.
Julien has been in the game for 5 years and the field with me around 4 to 7 nights a week for the past two years. Usually 7 nights a week the past few months since I've been on the recent tear. His results are the best I've seen with my own eyes (I'm sure there's better but it's the best I've personally seen IN PERSON...). He's been teaching Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp with me for 2 years
My standards are insanely high. It's hard to put into perspective how hard I work on these programs. I typically run Bootcamp until 7AM despite that it ends at 3AM. I go and go and go. I view every program as like a unique moment in history and that I'm literally MAKING HISTORY even though there's only 3 students there to see it -- that's how hardcore I am with the shit. This is the environment that Julien has been around for 2 years.
He's also had to listen to me rant and rave for hours a day about work ethic, how disgusted I am with laziness, how anyone who delivers less than a 10 out of 10 should go KILL THEMSELVES and is garbage to humanity and not worth being born, etc. It's like a cult being around me. You get brainwashed fast. I have no respect for anyone around me who doesn't go hard and deliver their best. Rise to this standard or FUCK OFF.
I can't stand it when I hire someone and they talk a big game about how they want to do good shit and then it turns out they're SELFISH FUCKERS who care more about doing less work than satisfying the people who spend their HARD EARNED money trusting that it's up to the standards they see from me -- which is why I've spent a decade building systems to ensure that's not possible. Julien has had this pounded into him again and again and has similar values at this point in time.
When I first met Julien I could see the natural talent written all over him but he was unfocused and too passive in his life. I knew he would be one of the best because he didn't have access to the influences that I had or GET the insane things that could be achieved in life if you focused yourself -- and yet he'd still come a long way on his own. He was in his second year at a top school in Europe and decided to drop out of a guaranteed six figure salary in order to come to Hollywood and see the world and blow off a conventional life -- this takes BALLS and I respected that even though he was wet behind the ears and had no idea what he was doing.
I introduced him to the high end clubs in Hollywood and we started going out. Julien would always hit up the 9's and 10's no matter how hard to get at they were. He made no excuses. He'd also do whatever it took to get in the best clubs -- like go up to girl after girl on the street and say "Is it just the 2 of you? Come with me..." and march them up to the front of the line as if he were a promoter, and then trick the bouncer into letting us all in. Then he'd go inside and tear it up. I've never seen someone in the PUA community consistently date the legit 9's and 10's more than this guy. He'll be on very sexy 7's and 8's (like slim cute girls) and blow them off to go for the top girls, fully playing to win not to "not lose".
So from being around this it was interesting because I helped him with work ethic and then he helped me to get back on track the past few years in terms of game. You've probably heard that I'm killing it right now, which is accurate. This is funny because Julien learned game from the oldschool RSD products but then wound up excelling past me and then I wound up learning from him.
I've since surpassed him and then he's surpassed me, and we've done this over and over. It's like Ken and Ryu from Street Fighter being competitive and just building and building it up. We push eachother to do better and crazier shit for no other reason than a pure passion for the game. Being around us you become passionate about it as well because we have so much fun.
As far as understanding of the game Julien is on par with me. He gets it as well and if not possibly better than I do. He's internalized all the subtleties and nuances and can recognize everything going on, make adjustments, shift his behaviour in real time to optimize the possibility of getting the girl, etc. If you want to learn from a top guy in the game who is the most influenced by me of anyone, then do the program with him. I'd also consider a bootcamp EVEN IF you're the shit in the game, he will wipe the floor with you as long as you let him know where you're at going into it.
The best way I'd put it to you is this. The Hot Seat is honestly undervalued. Yeah 300 for a one day event (although TWO days if you sign up during the launch) is a good price, but understand that we could have easily REFORMATTED the event in different ways that would make it easily valued at ten times the price. I know exactly how to do this and people would be raving about it.
I chose to keep it at a cheap pricepoint for the selfish reason that I want a lot of people to do programs with RSD and build up the brand because I believe I'll run a 20 to 100 million dollar self help company someday, and as the younger guys get into marriages and grow their careers and have more money to spend, I want them to remember the impact our shit had on them and come take the self development stuff.
That being the case if you're doing this outside the USA it's kinda like this. You can either focus on the fact "It's not Tyyyyyyllllleeerrrrr...." or you can focus on the fact that it's a wicked ass deal and you've got the best guy in the game I've personally seen who is conditioned by me for over 2 years as a super instructor TEACHING YOU how to get the results that you want.
The fact that this also resulted in the second free day of Julien infield footage makes this totally bomb. As you sit there for a SECOND DAY of the event and realize that Julien is the reason this happened, you'll be very psyched that it did.
Anyway here are the dates for the Hot Seat 2. You'll notice the NON USA dates have been HEAVILY CHANGED based on the flood of requests we've had since launching the event, so take note!!
For sure you should be able to find something on here that works for you. If there's nothing close, I recommend choosing a city that interests you to visit and make an adventure out of the big weekend.
United States
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA (Julien running day 2)
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA (Julien running day 2)
February 26, 2012: Miami, FL, USA (Julien running day 2)
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA
April 28, 2012: Washington DC
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA (Julien running day 2)
May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA (Julien running day 2)
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA (Julien running day 2)
September 1, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 7, 2012: Paris, France
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
September 22, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
September 29, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 6, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 13, 2012: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
October 20, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
November 17, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
December 1, 2012: Moscow, Russia
December 8, 2012: Athens, Greece
February 23, 2013: Bucharest, Romania
March 2, 2013: Sofia, Bulgaria
March 23, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
March 30, 2013: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Australia May 26, 2012: Perth, Australia
June 2, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
June 9, 2012: Sydney, Australia
Canada August 25, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
September 1, 2012: Toronto, Canada
September 8, 2012: Montreal, Canada
Latin America June 16, 2012: Bogota, Columbia
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
July 7, 2012: Mexico City, Mexico
Middle East
December 15, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
January 5, 2013: Dubai, United Arab Emirates
South Africa
January 12, 2013: Cape Town, South Africa
January 19, 2013: Johannesburg, South Africa
Asia (presented by Alex)
March 17, 2012: Hong Kong
March 24, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 31, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
Okay so I'm crashing out now after being up all night to see the launch go off without a hitch, and now that it's finally DONE the vision has come into reality and I can finally sleep!! :)
I'd be curious to hear what insights you took from that video, as I think you can probably make MAJOR use of it even though it's a highlight vid. There's a lot to be gleaned from there if you're going out regularly and know what you're looking for. LET ME KNOW!!
Very psyched to see you at the Hot Seat 2!! Thanks for checking this out and I'll talk to you soon! Have fun!!
So just saw Julien's Hot Seat bonus day for the first time this weekend in Los Angeles. W - O - W!!
Best shit I've ever seen. SHOCKINGLY GOOD.
SO PSYCHED!! --> The Hot Seat 2 is launching this Wednesday -- January 25 @ 12PM EST.
Your bonus for signing up during the launch is a FULL EXTRA DAY of Julien's infield footage and the "Foudations: Reloaded" seminar. Makes it a Saturday + Sunday event, instead of just Saturday as I've been doing it the past 2 years (which was still overflowing with obnoxious levels of value...).
I wanted to create a truly kick ass bonus for people who conquer their procrastinating monkey brains and get signed up DURING the actual launch this Wednesday. The bonus day with the most insane advanced game you've ever seen was the best idea I could come up with for you. Take advantage on January 25th.
Okay so today I'm cracking out a short video that shows how we do the "Interactive Exercises" at the Hot Seat 2. The exercises build on eachother and hammer down on ideas like "How to talk and talk" or "How to vibe without being logical" or "How to use your voice" or "How to pass shit tests without having an emotional reaction to interfering obstacles or the girl".
There's a bunch of them and the first builds upon the next and builds upon the next.
This video shows the first simple exercise just to give you an idea of how it works when you attend. You'll learn something valuable from it, which is that to "talk and talk..." (ie: never run out of things to say) you simply need to DIVORCE THE EMOTIONS FROM THE CONTENT.
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO LEARN THE "LIL WAYNE PRINCIPLE" THAT GIVES YOU THE "MILLION DOLLAR MOUTHPIECE" SO YOU NEVER OUT OF THINGS TO SAY...
Okay so the "Lil Wayne" principle as well as seeing me breaking down the student briefly on speaking in a way where he expects to be LISTENED TO (as opposed to assuming if he doesn't stimulate her enough she'll walk away) are the main lessons I wanted you to gain out of this.
The exercises are pretty damned cool because I invented them over the previous years I was teaching Bootcamp. It's funny because I'm usually the last person who wants to do exercises since I prefer to just hit the field, but I found that my verbal game and other aspects of my game got better and better when I started doing them.
It sounds funny, but it's almost like there's a certain way you "flex your brain" when you're in that endless talking, vibey, no thinking ahead, non logical type of mode. And the exercises help you to become consciously aware of how to SLIDE into the mode.
I love them. But of course, they're a supplement to seeing how game is done properly, and GOING OUT!!
Hot Seat 2 is so effective because we combine the hidden camera footage showing every aspect of the game played at a high level, then the continual breakdown of the footage, and then the exercises to "hammer it home".
Hopefully this gave you a bit more clarity on how it works -- with all the previews this week, that was the goal.
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I also wanted to crack out a quick video from Julien while I'm at it from the San Diego Free Tour.
This Wednesday we'll be putting out the PROPER Julien promotion, which will have even better speaking as well as infield footage that will blow your fucking mind.
I liked this video though because it makes an important point about persistence and FINDING A SOLUTION NO MATTER WHAT.
CLICK THIS RIGHT NOW TO HEAR A REALLY QUICK, ENTERTAINING, AND VERY EDUCATIONAL STORY ABOUT JULIEN AND I IN MIAMI SOUTH BEACH...
That week we spent in South Beach he was talking about was very educational. So many lessons hammered home that week. Learned a lot.
This Wednesday's video with Julien will be so compelling because we cut it to make him come across as the ultimate scumbag who swindles women out of their dreams. :)
That's really only one aspect of Julien's personality, and you can probably see he's a good guy, but I wanted to create something that messed with people's heads a lil bit. I wanted people to QUESTION the way they play the game -- so we cut it really over the top.
Check back shortly and you'll see what I mean!! Hope you're looking forward to it cause you're going to have your eyes opened on many things in pickup and be highly entertained!
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Anyway I'm basically passing out on my keyboard right now as all the preparations I've made for this Wednesday's BIG LAUNCH have run me into the ground.
The weekend's final Hot Seat 2 beta test went off absolutely amazing and blew my expectations away 1000%. We've really taken it to another level with this event, kept it inexpensive so it's accessible to anyone, and created something that's truly transformational that you'll take with you for the the rest of your life.
If you want to check out the dates of these once in a lifetime events, hopefully you find something that works for you. And if you aren't based out of one of these cities I highly recommend you pick one you've wanted to visit and make a crazy weekend of experiencing the event and going out at night with the other people who attend!
United States January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA
February 26, 2012: Miami, FL, USA
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA
April 28, 2012: Washington DC
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 7, 2012: Berlin, Germany
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
September 22, 2012: Paris, France
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 6, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 20, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
November 24, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
December 8, 2012: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Australia & New Zealand
May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
Asia & South America March 17, 2012: Hong Kong
March 24, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 31, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
November 10, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
btw we're also getting in TONS of emails about various cities who want this event, so we may shift around this schedule a bit to accomodate them. The FINAL schedule will be out on the Wednesday official launch based on all the feedback we've had -- but the one above here is pretty good and gives the basic idea.
REMEMBER TO GET ON IT FOR THE BONUS DAY THIS WEDNESDAY!! SEE YOU THERE!!
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Okay so this Wednesday's video is my fav out of all the bunch, and I hope you're psyched to check it out!
It's going to really mess up your concept of what works and what doesn't in the game. And give you a taste of the adventures we've been having while going out 7 nights a week the past many years!
Let me know your thoughts on either of the topics in the videos -- Julien's stories about persistence, or the lessons you took from how to talk and talk.
Hope you've been enjoying the extra posts that have been going up as a result of the launch, and this Wednesday's will be the best yet! Thanks for reading and I'll see you soon! :)
It's 7AM and I've just come back from Bootcamp. There's nothing I like to do more at this time than pump up the new RSDN article and then wake up at 11AM to run the LA Hot Seat and BC until 7AM again the next day!!
YEAH!!! :)
Well that's what it takes sometimes. I'd rather die than be lazy, what can I say? If you ever send me PM's and I don't respond, this is why. ;)
Hot Seat 2 launch is coming January 25 @ 12PM EST and offers a BONUS SECOND DAY with Julien's infield footage and the "Foundations: Reloaded" seminar when you get your seat during the launch. That's a pretty over the top incentive to get on the train this Wednesday as opposed to putting it off. BE SURE TO DO IT.
CLICK THIS LINK NOW AND SEE THE RAD LOOKING NEW SITE, IT'S VERY COOL.....
In the meantime I'm now posting a kick ass new video that shows maybe 0.00001% of the value of event, but since the Hot Seat 2 is so obnoxiously loaded with value you're going to like it a lot. :)
The goal for this one is to reveal to you 1) the basic themes of the Hot Seat newbies wil internalize, 2) some intermediate lessons in the game, and 3) the more subtle themes of "lifetime momentum" and "walking the journey" that the advanced guys will want to learn.
It starts in with a silent video of me breaking down a street pull of a girl out of a taxi. This is the intro to the event where I lay down what to look for as far as "non verbals" before all the newbies start furiously writing down every little thing I say.
From there you'll discover how to be "at the cause, not the effect..." with hot girls, how to easily blow out competing guys, and how to do fast extractions. There's a lot of important lessons you'll pickup, which are just flashes of what you learn at the actual event with full length videos -- but you'll learn some really results producing ideas here so enjoy.
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW AND WATCH HI DEF HIDDEN CAMERA FOOTAGE OF ME DOING WHAT I'VE BEEN DOING 4-7 NIGHTS A WEEK FOR 11 YEARS...
Okay so fun stuff. Speed of implementation baby. Internalize immediately.
The proper Hot Seat 2 event has a good combo of me letting videos run through a bit more than you see here so that you can get the gist of it, but here we showed some examples of how I break things down.
I get into some serious game wisdom that has some major levels to it, but there wasn't time to show it in the clip. What I wanted you to see was the style of how the event is run so you know what to expect when you attend.
The remaining 4th and 5th preview videos will feature how I do the "Interactive exercises" to hardwire into you what you learn, and Julien's video that we designed to make him look like the world's biggest scumbag just for our own amusement. It's going to shock, entertain, and educate the heck out of you.
(Actually most likely it will really make you question the way you play the game... This one will be pretty controversial outside of RSD.)
Anyway I'm waking up in 3 hours to shoot into a 20 hour workday, which should be fun. :)
The Free Tour I did on Thursday was by far my best yet so I'm psyched about posting it as well. Stay tuned.
Ih the meantime here are the Hot Seat 2 cities and dates, which you can sign up for on January 25 @ 12PM EST if you want to get the FREE BONUS DAY featuring Julien's infield footage and Foundations: Reloaded.
United States January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA
February 26, 2012: Miami, FL, USA
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA
April 28, 2012: Washington DC
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 7, 2012: Berlin, Germany
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
September 22, 2012: Paris, France
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 6, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 20, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
November 24, 2012: Dublin, Ireland
December 8, 2012: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Australia & New Zealand
May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
Asia & South America March 17, 2012: Hong Kong
March 24, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 31, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
November 10, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
Okay so I'm off to bed. I'll see you guys at the Los Angeles event in a few hours!!
Let me know your thoughts on what you learned here.
Does it surprise you that you can pull hot women so easily??
Of course the truth is that for every "public victory" there are countless "private" ones. I've already built up momentum with the other women I'm dating, hit up tons of other girls that night and become relaxed in the environment, and I'm just more compelling than any guy there because of the work I've done to become that type of guy.
Then of course you also have to realize that women enjoy sex -- which for so many guys their brains will simply not accept. :)
What did you learn from seeing a girl blow off a taller and better looking guy for a lil ginger man?
Do you "get it" that if you're not needy and offer the value of more emotions, and then act decisively, you can do the same thing?
And lastly, do you see in that last approach why women like that "masculine energy" from a guy who is icey and just does what he wants?
See how they giggle and touch you for no reason because they sense this from you? I'm not a traditionally "masculine" guy (well maybe now with the obnoxious beard...) but you can still possess that "masculine polarity" as a funny lil dork by CHOOSING to play the masculine role.
Let me know your thoughts on this! Personal experiences and what you learned! I want to know.
Thanks for reading!! Have fun and talk soon!
Tyler
PS: The Chicago and New York programs are coming up SOON! I'll have Free Tours and Bootcamps there with Julien as well.
I think New York is now sold out but Chicago has some seats left. It's an amazing place to do a BC. Love it over there.
If you ever wanted to do one of the last Bootcamps with BOTH Julien and I at the same time -- and experience that vicious combo that we've developed over the past 2 years -- these are the final times you can do it. He's off to Europe and to travel the world after this.
The events we run together are totally mindblowing and I couldn't recommend one of these last events highly enough. We absolutely kill it for you.
We'll also both be on the Miami 5 Day "Alumni Only" Model Season Bootcamp this late Feb / early March along with Jeff. It's nearly full. If you want to come to Miami with me during model season check out...
It's Wednesday morning and I've been up working all night. My brain is so numb it's become difficult to formulate sentences or thoughts. :)
The Hot Seat 2 red hot official launch is happening this January 25 @12PM EST.
There's a BONUS of a FREE SECOND DAY featuring the "Foundations: Reloaded" seminar and JULIEN'S INFIELD FOOTAGE so be sure to sign up during the launch to get a 2 day event!!
The kickass new launch page is right here, check it out right now... www.rsdhotseat.com
So today I'm going to crack into one of the most meaningful videos I'll ever release. It's on the topic of emotional self control and shows infield footage of me pulling a tall cutie while being completely out of state.
I really love this one, and got kind of creative with it to demonstrate such an important point.
HAVE YOU EVER WISHED YOU COULD PULL HOT WOMEN WHILE YOU'RE "OUT OF STATE"? THIS VIDEO WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER IF YOU IMPLEMENT WHAT YOU LEARN. CLICK THE VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO DISCOVER SECRETS THAT HAVE TAKEN ME YEARS TO FIGURE OUT.
(Fun stuff huh?? I'd planned to release this video as the THIRD Hot Seat 2 promo, but the render of the second one wound up screwing up. I'm hustling to get all this done on time so I'll re-render it tomorrow and release it to you Friday. It'll demonstrate the way Hot Seat 2 does the infield footage based tutorials for you.)
Okay so this a mini representation of the types of directions I've taken with the Hot Seat 2.
I took it to a "new level" with the second coming of Hot Seat by going beyond just "recording pickups" but actually getting CREATIVE with all sorts of different aspects of the game that I wanted to hammer into you.
The PROPER VIDEO at Hot Seat 2 is FULL LENGTH and shows everything I did to make the pull go down -- as opposed to the 90 seconds of highlights you see here.
But this brief highlighted version at least gives you the basic idea -- there ARE field proven processes that you can use to control your emotions, and you can implement them to consistently get the girl.
This has been huge for me. This is actually what keeps me interested in the game.
NOT just the "on" nights where I'm killing it -- ie: the nights of effortless attention from women that all newbies desperately crave.
Rather what I love about the game is the mental discipline that it teaches you. The power that it has to throw you into your head in a fuzzy cloud of emotions, and then the personal mastery that it takes to EXECUTE the PROVEN PROCESSES that will crack you out of your head and succeed.
I'm going to get into an article about this below -- for now here are the DATES of the Hot Seat 2 -- I'm going to be teaching all the USA events and my wingman of 2 years Julien will be teaching all NON USA events.
Julien has the best results in the game of anyone I've personally seen. He shocks even my most experienced natural buddies and has been teaching nearly every Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp with me for the past 2 years. You're in good hands with a battle proven veteran of the game I've personally groomed for you!
Anyway here are the dates for the upcoming Hot Seat 2, and then we'll get into the article about this video below...
United States January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA
February 26, 2012: Miami, FL, USA
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA
April 28, 2012: Washington DC
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
September 22, 2012: Paris, France
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 6, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 20, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
December 8, 2012: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Australia & New Zealand
May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
Asia & South America & Middle East March 15, 2012: Hong Kong
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
November 10, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
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Alright so I mentioned that this was one of the most meaningful videos I will ever release. Here's why.
For many years I've been fascinated by the power that dark, stifling, bullshit emotions have to control our behaviour. My father was an angry violent man and my mother was oftentimes upset and felt victimized. I watched this wreak havoc on my family life and by the time I was 15 I was out hustling in the streets where I saw significantly more bullshit than any kid should have to see.
I also grew up under a dark cloud of believing that there was "something wrong with me" and that I couldn't get girls. I was depressed and angry and confused, similar to most of the people I grew up around. Frankly it was like being trapped in a psychological JAIL for the first two decades of my life.
As I sit here typing this I look at my son Vincent running around the house playing and laughing. He's having a great time. I hope that this is because his parents are "present to the moment" and raise him around a lot of happiness and fun. I hope that the bullshit he encounters growing up in Los Angeles doesn't fuck up his spirit and that he'll find the strength to carve out a happy life.
I've seen the same shit happen all over the world. This lower consciousness BULLSHIT that people are simply TRAPPED INSIDE. And frankly it makes me fucking sick.
It is what it is though. It's up to US as forward thinking individuals to change the world. Not to get melodramatic here -- this is a site about BANGING HOT HOES afterall -- but I've learned from experience that this stuff teaches you a lot of deeper knowledge and abilities.
One of those insights and abilities I've learned is this -- we have LIMITED WILLPOWER to change our thinking and emotional state -- like we can't just say "Be self amused!" or "Be confident!" and do it instantaneously (yeah yeah, you TECHNICALLY can, but it's not really sincere).
What we CAN do however is IDENTIFY the SMALL behaviours that we DO have control over, execute them, and then create a CHAIN REACTION towards changing our state.
Have you ever wondered why I'm able to consistently kill it for paying students on bootcamp? It's because of exactly what I'm teaching you here.
I often show up on program with little sleep and in a bad mood. And while I don't have the "willpower" to say "feel confident while you do pick up demonstrations for these students!" I DO know that I have the willpower to do the simple processes that WORK to EVENTUALLY get back into state.
And why is this important?
Because motherfuckers are always talking a big talk about changing the damned world, but if we can't muster the EMOTIONAL CONTROL to go pull a cute lil girlie home and fuck her, how can we expect a guy in the Middle East to forgive a neighbouring country for bombing his fucking family??
IT'S EASY TO TALK ABOUT HOW *OTHER* PEOPLE SHOULD JUST CHANGE THEIR EMOTIONAL STATE, HARDER TO WALK THE TALK AND DO IT OURSELVES.
We have to represent the change that we wish to see. If we wish that people in the world would learn to take control of themselves, we have to do it ourselves and lead by example.
Like I have a desire that people who come from fucked up backgrounds will step up and make something out of their lives. I try to push forward this agenda by doing it myself. Motivate people by offering proof that I'm a regular guy and it can be done.
I've known that my path in life will be full of challenge and that I'll be called upon to do a lot -- maybe even pay the ultimate price. I know that if I can't control myself in these BASIC situations (that pathetically most guys can't control...) that I have no chance of handling myself when I'm REALLY under the gun.
People are always dreaming of doing big things, but if you can't handle the small things then how will you handle it when you're called upon to change the world?
Mental discipline comes from repetition and habit. The game teaches you this mental discipline night in and night out. If I ever do big things that make a real impact, I'll be able to attribute it to the combination of running a business and running game. The focused self discipline that it took to succeed day in and day out.
I focus myself on what's in front of me. I don't say "Someday I'm gonna start controlling my own emotions..." I start NOW with the things I'm focused on at my current age -- getting laid. And then I parlay that into bigger things as my sphere of influence begins to change.
Whatever period of your life you're in just focus on doing awesome at it. You learn to walk and talk as a baby. You learn to read and socialize as a teenager. You learn to get laid and build a career as an adult. Then as your life gets into it's later phases you learn to contribute and give back. That's the point of MATURATION. It's all part of growing up and if you give it your all throughout your life then in the end you can accomplish great things!
Have you ever really thought of this though? The fact that MOST PEOPLE -- YOURSELF INCLUDED -- are often trapped in a bizarre emotional HAZE??
Choose to escape it. Choose to overcome. Choose to NOT sit around WISHING that you'd feel confident and happy, and focus on the SMALL THINGS that you CAN control in order to build up momentum.
Then go in and kill it. Take the girl home and fuck the shit out of her. Bask in the glory, go out the next day and do it again. This may sound fucked up but it doesn't change the fact that it's done insane things for me over the past 11 years.
I love this game from the depths of my soul because of what it's done for me. I am NOTHING without the time I've spent in the game. A common peice of garbage. With the work I've done in the game, anything is possible. I know I will do big things.
And the pleasure I've gotten from it?? Well yeah the sex life has been fucken great. It's to a point where it's so guaranteed that I'm focused on bigger things, but I'll never lose my interest in having sex with hot girls and the day I do is the day I've lost my passion for LIFE.
:)
Again a lot of this may sound over the top, but it's just me being real with why I found motivation to stay in the game for 11 years. Everyone has their own personal reasons, and these have been mine.
You can see how the no-booze and meditation all feeds into this. I love it all so much.
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There's also a deeper issue here that's covered in the video though, and that is: DOES "STATE" EVEN MATTER AT ALL?
The premise of "state" is that as our status changes within an environment our emotions change with it as a sort of thermometer, and then our behaviour becomes more loose. Women pick up on this and become attracted pretty much automatically.
This is pretty much common sense to anyone who goes out and picks up girls, so it's not really up for debate.
Yet simultaneously this knowledge can both HELP you and HURT you.
It helps you by making you realize that 1) you don't need a bunch of "pick up techniques" to get laid (this was the understanding that freed the PUA community from being so routine based), and 2) that we can do things to consciously improve our state BOTH in the moment AND in the way we live our day to day lives.
Then on the flipside it can also HURT you, because it makes you QUESTION YOURSELF about whether or not you're "in state". You wind up seeing the hottest girl in the club and think "Oh no I can't approach her, I'm not IN STATE!!"
Of course only a weak minded newbie succumbs to this, but it's still an issue because there's a decent demographic of weak minded newbies in the PUA community. :)
The bottom line is that you want to UNDERSTAND and BENEFIT from the knowledge of how "state" helps you, while simultaneously not being all WEIRD or SCARED about it.
Take action no matter what. It builds you towards the emotions you want. And guess what? Oftentimes by simply being CONGRUENT TO EVEN A LOW STATE you will get the girl.
The video to me is an execution of veteran ability in the game -- recognizing when you're in a bad mood and NOT RESISTING IT. Full acceptance of whatever state you're in and communicating authentically from that place so that it's at least congruent.
Look at it again from the angle of "Tyler is AWARE that he's in a low state, he's not resisting it or acting try-hard, he's just opening from a chill place and slowly moving it forward..."
That's the other aspect that I want you to gain from this: Full acceptance, non resistance of negative emotions, not being try-hard or trying to cover it up, just taking action and "letting it come when it comes".
(You may remember THIS video which the last 25 minutes about "Charisma VS Congruence" -- and this is the theory behind the infield footage you saw in the first clip.)
Many years ago I would have been frustrated that I wasn't getting "instant makeouts" and girls fawning over me, but I've learned that you've just gotta let that shit comes when it comes. Be congruent to however you feel and then taking action is the best path to getting there regardless.
By realizing this what happens? You enjoy the best of both worlds. You ride the wave when you're "on" and take action anyway when you're not. :)
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Okay so I'm gonna bounce out of here and I hope you enjoyed this!
Check back Friday for the preview I was SUPPOSED to post today if the render hadn't screwed up. It'll introduce the way I use infield footage to create tutorials for you with both basic and advanced concepts in the game.
You'll see me pulling a stunner and various different hilarious opening techniques and aspects of setting the frame. You're going to learn a lot from this and hopefully it shows you why it's so important to attend the Hot Seat 2 during this short window of time that it's being run.
The Hot Seat 2 is by far the best and most inexpensive education in success with women and social dynamics you will ever experience, and it will entertain the shit out of you at the same time. Hit up the VIP Interest List page right now and sign up to be kept in the loop and be sure to sign up during the launch on January 25 @12PM EST in order to get the second full free day as a bonus.
Let me know what you gained from this. Give me your thoughts! Have you had similar experiences as what you saw in the video of being out of state? Did you stay congruent or become try-hard? Did you overcome or give in? And if you have any questions about the Hot Seat 2 let me know and I'll hit you back up!!
Thanks for reading. Have fun!!
Tyler
PS: The Los Angeles Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp is taking place DOWNTOWN this weekend.
The LA Hot Seat page is not up because it's on the countdown clock but if you're based out of LA and want to attend the very first Hot Seat 2 this weekend you can sign up at the Free Tour, or else click the following link.
January 25th @ 12PM EST is the red hot official launch so be sure to get signed up.
Here is the first of five Hot Seat 2 previews that will be released Mon/Weds/Fri and then Mon/Weds between now and the big launch.
It features infield footage of what your "typical decent night out" looks like in the game.
Your typical night has you making out with a few girls on the way to the club to get warmed up, doing a few street sets and grabbing a few numbers, setting up options for later in the night, hitting it up inside the venue, and then meeting a girl you like and pulling her home.
I actually shot this over 2 nights while I was scrambling to get the promotional material together. The first night I jumped out at 2AM and shot the "Welcome to Hot Seat 2" page and then wound up meeting that lil girlie you see at the end of the compilation the same way I did in that other bearded romp video from last week. The other segments I shot on my walk to a Bootcamp in San Diego the next day.
CLICK THIS LINK RIGHT NOW TO SEE THE UTTER HILARITY AND DEBAUCHERY OF A TYPICAL NIGHT OUT IN THE GAME. FOLLOWED BY THE START OF THE HOT SEAT 2 SEMINAR AND ENDING WITH AN EXAMPLE OF HOW TO OPEN MIXED SETS ON THE STREET.
Fun stuff huh?
btw I have other videos at Hot Seat where I show just ONE night out (and where I did a lot better...) but I liked that I had the same beard and clothing as I did in the seminar portion to make it congruent so I thought I'd just cut it up like this. The element of the BEARDED mini romp makes it so funny to me just defying the typical assumptions that you have to look a certain way to do well with girls.
(Then again I guess the typical "pasty ginger on a romp" also defies the typical stereotype huh? But IMO the beard makes it especially ridiculous -- even funnier is that when you see the proper long versions it makes you think "It must be the beard!! Maybe I need to grow one too!!" Funny how social conditioning works that way and we'll do anything to avoid internalizing the TRUE TRIGGERS that create attraction between guys and girls.)
Anyway this is a TINY PREVIEW of the Hot Seat 2, but there's still a few mini lessons you can see here.
1) Girls on the street are horny and will makeout with random guys (well duhhh, but if you're new you didn't know that). Just say "You'll never see me again" or "No one will find out!" and they'll often do things you wouldn't believe.
2) Girls are as desperate to have sex as guys are and will make themselves available to you if they can tell YOU'RE THE TYPE OF GUY WHO WON'T DILLY DALLY AND ACTUALLY FUCK THEM and not waste their time (that's why that girl wanted to meet me later in the night -- honestly I did basically nothing).
3) Yes even the dime peices (third girl was really hot) may be into you if you have a ridiculous beard.
4) You don't always need to "befriend" the fat friends. You can simply SCARE THEM AWAY. Love how the girl tries twice and then just gives up. If there's nothing else you learned in the whole video I hope it's that one thing cause for some weird reason it took me like a decade to figure it out.
5) Girls are obsessed with cock. Their brothers may not be to thrilled about this. Remain calm and bounce if he appears to be about to kill you.
6) Meeting girls on the street late at night and pulling them home is fun. Be cool and indifferent to their silly objections about how you're a bad man. Maintain a "this happens all the time..." type attitude. Yes it's totally normal. It's ALL good.
Well I guess these aren't exactly the deepest lessons. :) But to be honest I remember back when I was new to all this and I would have taken a LOT even from just that lil clip.
How much the Hot Seat 2 itself would have cut my learning curve back then? Insane.
I don't want to pull the "When I was a boy I used to walk to school in twenty feet of snow..." rap on you, but honestly back when I was new to this if I'd had access to an event like this it would've cut my learning curve by a few years easy.
It's also just fucken FUN.
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Anyway I'll be teaching the USA dates and Julien -- my wingman and co-instructor of nearly every Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp I've taught the past 2 years -- will be running the non USA events.
Julien has the best results in the game I've personally seen with my own eyes, and is trained from me bashing him over the head for 2 years to run events at the same high intensity and oversaturation of value that I do.
The bonus for signing up during the "launch" period is going to be a FULL FREE SECOND DAY of Hot Seat that will feature infield footage from Julien as well as the "Foundations: Reloaded" seminar.
The reason I chose to be obnoxiously generous with the bonus this time (2X the value...) for people who sign up during the launch is that Julien said he wanted to show his footage and keep working on his teaching, and I wanted to work on the new Foundations seminar.
The Hot Seat 1 has only been a ONE day event for the past two years so this is a RARE situation where we're re-inventing it into a TWO DAY EVENT to reward people who sign up during the launch, just because both Julien and I are in a mode where we want to WORK MORE in order to improve our teaching skills. I strongly recommend you take advantage of this and sign up.
Hot Seat 2 is frighteningly inexpensive and contains decades worth of insights into success with women, social dynamics, and self actualization. The new event has all new footage and all new themes that you've never seen. It will absolutely make your head spin by how much you learn and how much it changes your day to day life.
Here are the dates that are currently being planned out...
United States
January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA
February 26, 2012: Miami, FL, USA
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA
April 28, 2012: Washington DC
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
September 22, 2012: Paris, France
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway
October 6, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
October 20, 2012: Frankfurt, Germany
December 8, 2012: Birmingham, United Kingdom
Australia & New Zealand
May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada
July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada
Asia & South America & Middle East March 15, 2012: Hong Kong
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
November 10, 2012: Tel Aviv, Israel
GET ON THIS!!
Sign up for the VIP Interest List page and be sure to sign up for that free second day on the January 25 12PM EST red hot official launch.
Anyway on the topic of infield footage, there was a really popular short article I wrote a while back on the topic of how to best learn from watching guys who are highly experienced “in the field”.
I think you're going to like it, check this out...
SOCIAL INTUITION EXPLAINED -- HOW TO LEARN FROM WATCHING GUYS WHO ARE GOOD WITH GIRLS
Okaaaaay SO.
The big realization I’ve had from teaching several thousand students "live in the field" is that you can look at someone and immediately size up…:
1) What types of emotions they’re feeling
2) What types of thoughts they’re thinking
3) How their self image is made up in their heads
…and
4) How much energy they’re projecting outwards to the people they’re talking to.
Now this probably sounds crazy, and honestly if I’d read that ten years ago I would have thought the same thing.
However it’s not about being psychic or some nonsense like that – actually many hypnotists and psychologists have the ability to see the same things, simply from the reference experiences of working with so many people and getting into their heads.
(I live in this weird world where every weekend I’m getting to know three different people on a really deep level, so I get to be familiar with the psychological makeup of people who exhibit similar characteristics.)
What’s interesting about human beings is that while we’re all unique and special snowflakes, we also tend to share more SIMILARITIES than differences.
The way you tell the four characteristics is the following…:
1) If you’re “fully present” without being lost in your own thoughts and judgments and interpretations, you can generally get a feel what another person is feeling by YOUR OWN emotions.
Basically if they’re feeling happy, you’ll feel happy, and if they’re feeling sad, you’ll feel sad. This isn’t about cultivating some crazy empathetic ability as much as it is getting out of your own head and allowing your natural emotional intuition to do the job it’s designed for.
Obviously this leads to the question “Shouldn’t you be happy regardless of whether or not another person is happy?” And as a bootcamp instructor that is probably one of your most important jobs (a great instructor has to be able to “hold the frame” if a student becomes distraught in order to pull him out of it – and this requires a lot of emotional muscle NOT to rely on other people at all).
The answer is basically that you can choose to either allow another person’s emotions IN, or you can choose to just draw your own state from within yourself. It’s a choice you make in the moment at all times -- like "YEAH this is fun to synergistically feed off of each other's emotions, or NOPE none of this bullshit, I'm having my own fun.".
2) Now as far as what people are thinking, I think this comes from reference experiences. Generally as you move through life, you can become a student of human psychology. If you talk to people and dig deep into their real purposes and opinions on things, you can derive all sorts of patterns.
Eben Pagan (aka David DeAngelo) has told me that he’s a big fan of the Myer’s Briggs personality test. I haven’t studied it myself, but generally I’ve found that people’s thought loops are fairly predictable. If they’re feeling a certain emotion, they’re probably thinking a predictable CORRESPONDING type of thought.
As humans we love to think we’re so deep and unique, but generally our thoughts go like this: whatever emotional state we access the most, we’re ADDICTED to those emotional chemicals. That being the case, let's say for example we’re addicted to a negative type of emotional state, we’ll tend to be thinking thoughts along the lines of 1) something that was frustrating, 2) how someone screwed us over, 3) how someone or something isn’t “all that” and really sucks, and 4) how some event we anticipate in the future will be total crap
(And if we're more addicted to positive and funny emotions, we'll be thinking the opposite -- 1) how things are amusing and cool, 2) hilarious nonsense we've had with people we hang out with, 3) how there's this cool stuff we're into, and 4) how there's some awesome shit we're hoping to do in the future if things go well.)
Just as important is what someone’s primary motivator is. So if someone’s motivation is approval seeking, they’ll be thinking about ways to get approval. If someone’s motivation is laughing and having fun, they’ll be thinking about nonsense that cracks them up. Etc etc.
3) Alright now as far as people’s self image is concerned, generally the two factors I look for are 1) if it’s empowering or disempowering, BUT ALSO, 2) if it’s STRUCTURE in terms of what it’s “attached” to in order to sustain itself is rigid and dense or fairly fluid and adaptable.
This is interesting because while on one level you want a self image that’s empowering, you also don’t want it attached to too many external sources, because then you’re constantly clasping to maintain them (and this creates neediness, frustration, anxiety, etc.)
You can generally see how much “space” there is in someone’s mind for their natural “presence” to come through, as opposed to how much of the space is taken up by mental noise and blocking their natural awesomeness.
Likewise you can see someone’s self image by the beliefs they have in themselves, what they think they can accomplish, etc. One thing I think is REALLY intense is that people generally have beliefs about themselves and the world that are based in what their unconscious mind believes they have the mental/physical/emotional resources to be capable of. This is a really, really deep topic and would warrant an entire article -- like I've had some pretty scary realizations about this that I need to get out at some point.
4) Lastly, as far as the energy that people are projecting outwardly towards other people, I’m generally looking for 1) how “self contained” or “unreactive” they are in terms of being happy in their own reality without “socially pinging” other people to rely on “group think”, and 2) the way they project their energy outwards and draw attention on themselves.
Interestingly I find that many people focus ONLY on the first one, and not on the second, as they feel that it’s approval seeking and not "being themselves".
In my experience the people who put out the best energy have a LETHAL COMBINATION of being unreactive and irreverent, as well as having cultivated all sorts of funny / interesting / attention-grabbing elements in their personality and way of seeing the world that gets compels people to take notice.
(Real life “pimps” generally possess a cartoon like exaggerated version of this with a lot of “turns of phrase” and crazy clothing – and certain girls gravitate towards it like moths to a flame.)
Essentially it’s about living your own life without seeking approval, BUT ALSO about cultivating your own cool way of seeing the world (and carrying yourself in the world) that keeps you amused.
Anyway from these basic factors, you can generally get a good idea of what to look for when you’re watching another person in the field. Ask yourself...:
“Are they feeling the emotional state of a guy who attracts women?”
“Are they thinking the types of thoughts that women see as being empowering and confident?”
“Are they simultaneously high self esteem but self forgetting and not seeking validation for a self image that needs continual reinforcement from outside sources?”
“Are they unreactive and just doing their own thing, while also having a cool worldview and things about themselves that stand out and project their energy out towards other people?”
**From there it's basically just seeing if they have a good understanding of how to strike up a conversation with a people they've never met and move it forward through all the obstacles between "open and close".
Anyway thought I’d share that short lesson—I have a LOT more to say on the topic, but I thought it would be a fitting introduction given the release of the upcoming Hot Seat 2 event.
Be sure to check out the video if you haven’t yet -- and hit up the Hot Seat VIP page to be kept in the loop on what’s up between now and the JANUARY 25 @ 12PM EST official launch.
Have fun!! Thanks for reading and I'll see you soon!!
Tyler
PS:
I've been cutting together the 5 previews like a madman and you're going to LOVE them. They're all absolutely awesome and will teach you things that will blow your mind. This is gonna be a big week on the RSDN frontpage. Hope you're psyched.
PPS:
So there I am in the picture I took shooting over on a train from Boston to New York about two months back. I took pictures of myself regularly as a "beard growing record". :)
I'd just come from a corporate event and thought my voice was going to crap out on me. Arrived in New York to Jeffy running his Free Tour and HIS voice was about to go out as well. He looks over at me like "Dude a lil help here..." so I ran up and took over for a bit -- you'll see it in the video below, where we're talking to a huge New York turnout and trying to yell over the crowd.
Then my voice runs out and I look at him to finish the event, he whispers back to me "My voice is GONE!" Dammit I gotta finish it for him -- all good he's got his own Hot Seat the next day and has been outworking me.
You can check out the vids from that Free Tour and the Foundations: Reloaded event I did below.
Oh yeah and btw... THE HOT SEAT 2 RED HOT OFFICIAL LAUNCH IS QUICKLY APPROACHING US LIKE A TSUNAMI -- JANUARY 25 AT 12PM EST.
Be sure to check it out and sign up.
And other hot news...
IT'S JUSTBEEN DECIDED THAT THE *BONUS* FOR SIGNING UP DURING THE LAUNCH WILL BE A SECOND DAY OF JULIEN'S HOT SEAT AND THE FOUNDATIONS: RELOADED EVENT.
THIS IS AN ABSURDLY HUGE BONUS SO BE SURE TO SIGN UP AS SOON AS YOU CAN. IT'S DOUBLE THE VALUE FORYOU WHEN YOU SIGN UP ON THE JANUARY 25 LAUNCH.
It's obviously unusual to be doing an entire 2nd day as a bonus but the reason I'm offering such an oversaturation of value is I wanna keep working on the Foundations: Realoaded seminar, and Julien wants to get more time in on his public speaking and start showing his infield footage.
We're both in the mode of "Offer more value without asking anything in return, wind up improving your career as a result anyway...." So YOU are the beneficiary of this mental trip we're on when you sign up during the launch.
Lastly, some amazing news about Hot Seat 2 outside the USA as well....
1) It's just been decided that Julien is now the guy running all events outside the US. That means Europe (where he's from originally), Australia, Canada, South America, the Middle East, and the whole deal.
2) If you didn't know: Julien has been out with me 7 nights a week and been my co-instructor on nearly every Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp for TWO YEARS -- and is trained by my repeatedly bashing him in the head to maintain my level of intensity and work ethic.
3) Julien has the best game of anyone I've personally seen (there may be better but he's the best I've seen with my own eyes). Him and I have been pushing eachother like Ken and Ryu from Street Fighter to break through plateaus and reach next levels for so long it seems like no other reality exists.
The guy is human and has on nights and off nights, but watching him when he heats up is like watching a newbie's delusional fantasy about what a superhero PUA looks like embodied into real life -- to the point it's like he has superpowers. All my natural buddies were initially skeptical of him, then they see him infield and they're like "Okay uhhhh, YEEEEAH okay, HOLY SHIT."
Dood cuts through ANY BULLSHIT to get the lay. Zero excuses -- full on GOES. Pulls 9's and 10's more consistent than anyone I've personally seen. Imagine a one dimensional cartoon character who likes nothing else other than the game and teaching game. Many people joke that Julien IS the game -- like a full on player whose life outside running programs consists of watching Vampire Diaries and then mimicking Damon Salvatore to swindle women out of their hopes and dreams.
Anyway we've just cut a "Julien preview video" this week that will show the most compelling infield footage the pickup community has seen online. Of course anyone who has been to a Hot Seat has seen shit about 1000X better but for you guys who have never attended this will be pretty eye opening.
Speaking of which the Hot Seat 2 preview videos are beginning to come out this Monday and are absolutely fucking awesome.
Keep your eyes open for these -- it's going to be an UNFORGETTABLE week here on RSDN.
(This is the Hot Seat 1 website which you can sign up on now if you choose, and then the Hot Seat 2 page will be updated with the VIP Interest List this Monday.)
Here's the dates...
United States January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA. (me and Julien)
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA. (me and Julien)
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA. (me and Julien)
February 25, 2012: Miami, FL, USA. (me and Julien)
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA. (from here down I'll show his footage on Sunday, but he'll be overseas)
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA.
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA.
April 28, 2012: Washington DC.
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
.May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA.
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA.
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA.
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA.
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA.
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA.
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands.
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany.
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom.
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark.
September 22, 2012: Paris, France.
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway.
Australia & New Zealand May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia.
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada.
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada.
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada.
Asia March 15, 2012: Hong Kong.
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore.
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan.
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina.
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
I'll see you there! And if you want to see the signup page for the Hot Seat 1 here it is -- again the Hot Seat 2 VIP Interest List page will go up this Monday so stay tuned.
I'll also be doing Bootcamps in all the USA cities, so if you want to take a program with me get on it now as there's a 3 student maximum (yes you work up close with me, 3 on 1, it's an amazing life changing experience).
Los Angeles is on deck, followed by Chicago, New York, and San Francisco.
Lastly if you want to do the once a year 5 day "alumni only' bootcamp with Jeff and Julien and myself during model season in Miami South Beach, hit up the following page before it fills up...Here are 2 videos from the website.
Alright so 2 new long ass siiiiick videos today, let's crack into them...
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So the past year of recording Hot Seat 2 footage has forced me back into the game harder than I've ever been.
The lifestyle has been absolutely insane. Hammering the guns 7 nights a week, watching it on video every day afterwards, and then looking to go out the next night and do it again.
It's funny because for the 3 years I lived in Hawaii I wasn't overly focused on game. I managed to grow RSD into a respectable organization, worked with Papa to build a global infrastructure, and created a business that's pretty legit. The Blueprint was my major accomplishment during that time, and then when I moved back to Los Angeles I thought that I was pretty much done with teaching game.
Then one night I was out at Hermosa Beach and my buddy broke out a lil cheap camera and started filming me. I got a double makeout with these two girls and went home to check it out.
And when this happened I realized........THIS IS THE FUCKEN BOMB.
I'd spent years of my life cultivating a skillset and had no high quality recordings of it. With Blueprint done I thought I'd taken my pickup teaching to the highest level I was capable of and wanted to move into new industries, but then realized I'd barely even scratched the surface.
Yeah seminar is a cool format to teach game, but the Hot Seat format is the absolute bomb. That's why I stopped recording DVDs and started doing the current format of infield footage as a backbone for a high impact live interactive event.
(This is actually what allowed me to "bump the freeline" to the point I give away all seminar on the frontpage. The Hot Seat is so much better than any seminar I do that everyone still sees the exponential value in it, no matter how much free content I give away. It's pretty cool how this has worked out for everyone involved.)
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Anyway I saw a massive potential here -- I've always been compelled by challenge and breaking new ground, so decided I'd get back into the game as hard as I could for three more years. This was a lot like being a movie actor going FULLY INTO THE CHARACTER.
It's funny because to run RSD I've always had to be a practical person and put aside any personal feelings I have in order to get the job done. That could mean travelling for months at a time, or not sleeping to meet self imposed deadlines, or staying calm when dealing with big egos, or keeping my mouth shut when I disagree with stupid shit being said, or ignoring all distractions in order to make sure I get shit done. Whatever it is, I've always just seen what needs to be done and executed it without a second thought.
Seeing the crazy potential with the Hot Seat format I was basically like "Okay I'm going back into FULL GAME MODE for SEVERAL YEARS until I have this done."
Essentially it was a commitment I made as a practical person to just do whatever it took to deliver the highest amount of value I could to the people who are into RSD. I've always known to trust my intuition and when I saw the potential I knew it was going to produce some amazing results for RSD if I just made no excuses and got the fucken thing done.
The commitment to go FULL GEAR when you've been in business mode for the past few years is pretty intense, but I knew immediately that this was the best thing I could ever do.
Like every Nike add tells you...: HEY LITTLE BITCH STOP MAKING EXCUSES JUST FUCKING DO IT.
(Everything but "just do it" added for emphasis...)
You've probably noticed this in my videos as sometimes I'm more chilled out and academic, and then sometimes I'm a fucken FOOL. Sometimes I come into Free Tour literally minutes after dropping off some girl I just pulled and my head is still in that zone. I'm all belligerent and crazy -- pumping the crowd the way I've been pumping the girl.
This is how I was in this video right here, in spite of my tiredness off the train from Boston and the voice hanging on by a thread (which I hide pretty professionally I think). I'm spouting all this crazy talk about how the only thing I love is the game -- and in the moment I'm saying it, it's ABSOLUTELY TRUE.
Of course I have many other interests -- but in videos like this you get a secret window into the headspace of a guy hitting it up about as hard as humanly possible. All the obnoxious opinions and over the top passion I've been maintaining to hit it up 7 nights a week non stop is coming through.
CLICK HERE TO SEE ME FULLY IN GEAR ABOUT MY PASSION FOR THE GAME, THE SAME PASSION I USED TO RECORD THE HOT SEAT 2. AND REALIZE THAT IN TAKING ON THIS MINDSET ALL THE PETTY PROBLEMS YOU HAVE IN THE GAME SIMPLY GO AWAY.
Cool stuff huh?
It's funny because the audio crapped out on the microphones similar to that vBlog I shot on the "Top of the Rock" you saw 2 weeks ago. It was the same mic problem actually.
My very cool editor Aron decided to use the backup audio from a secondary camera, and funny enough we realized that it could make for some pretty cool shots in the video itself. So even though the audio had some funny parts that's what got you the more interesting look/feel to it. Hopefully you thought it was cool.
So aside from entertainment value of the video, what's the main lesson I'm hoping you'll take from it?
The biggest element here is the fact that in order to solve my SMALL AND PETTY problems with women, I've gone to a HIGHER LEVEL PARADIGM. I no longer get all butt hurt over approach anxiety or girls who don't like me, because I've cultivated a true passion for THE GAME ITSELF.
The peak experiences have become the juice for me. All I want to do is be out there killing it. It's like how a skiier might win a race, but what's better? The medal he gets around his neck, or FLYING THROUGH THE FUCKING AIR WHILE HE'S IN A PEAK EXPERIENCE??
What's crazy is that in order to reach the level I needed to for Hot Seat, this is what the game had to become for me. To get this footage I had to move past any interest in material success or status, and make the focal point of my life GETTING BACK IN THE FLOW.
I had to say FUCK IT. FUCK IT ALL. And shift my brain into a space where I'm a full on peak experiences junkie -- feeding off of the pure love and passion for the game.
Does a pro surfer give a fuck about the trophy he gets from the competition, or BLASTING THROUGH THE FUCKEN HALFPIPE OF A 20 FOOT WAVE? Does Eminem give a fuck about living in an oversized mansion, or does he live for ripping it on a crowd of 50,000 people screaming and freaking out?
I had to internalize this mindset and make it completely real.
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So how does this apply to YOU ........ RIGHT NOW??
Well imagine being in my current headspace and then hearing newbies ask questions like "How can I do less WORK to meet SUPER MODELS??"
Einstein says that the problems we face can't be solved at the level of thinking with which they were created. So evolve to the NEXT level. A love for the process as much as the result.
YOU can take a small peice of this mindset as well. Maybe not on the same level if you don't wanna go this extreme (I've chosen to make it my JOB and FOCUS afterall...). But at least to a certain degree.
Of course it's up to you.
It's just something that in recording the Hot Seat 2 I found to be helpful to get the damned job done. Where the "character" versus the "reality" of this mindset begins and ends, I'm not entirely sure.
Bottom line is I amped the fuck out of myself into this headspace over the past 2 years as a consummate professional who was willing to do whatever it took to create a great program that I'm proud of, and I found this to get me some pretty insane results with girls.
Take it or leave it -- up to your personal preference. Just thought it could make a cool Free Tour frontpage video in case you found it to be cool.
So on Sunday after this speach I ran a bonus event for Jeff's Hot Seat attendees called "Foundations: Reloaded".
It's the same event I'll be running on the Sundays for you if you sign up for Hot Seat 2 during the launch period -- although this one will also feature Julien's Hot Seat footage which you'll learn around 10X more from than just the talk.
This was my chance to work on the newbie website I want to build, but I also went into some other topics that I thought would make cool ideas for RSDN frontpage videos -- ie: this one right here! :)
The topic is "Massive action" and why "Field experience is king".
I wanted to create this for the RSDN forums more than anything. I think it's kind of a classic video actually, in the sense that it pounds the shit out of the idea of taking MASSIVE ACTION. In the future whenever some guy posts something that's theoretical nonsense out of his ass, we can take this and post it up in his thread to help him out.
I think the video also raises a larger and more important point, however.
THE FOUNDATION OF THE ENTIRE PICKUP COMMUNITY WAS BUILD ON THE IDEA THAT YOU HAD TO *TEST* SOMETHING AT LEAST 10 TIMES BEFORE ASKING ABOUT IT OR TALKING ABOUT IT.
I'm from the "old school" of the community. The types of questions and demands that newbies make these days weren't really tolerated back then because it wasn't as commercialized -- the only response they'd get is "GO FUCKING TEST IT AND REPORT BACK."
The idea was that if you had an idea you not only tested it 1 time, but 10 times, while you were in a different mood, and on different types of girls, before making any conclusions about it.
It was this core principle that made the community great. The idea of EVERYTHING MUST BE FIELD TESTED. It was to the point that whenever Papa and I were out, we'd get some silly idea and then say "Well....Everything must be field tested."
If we saw some girls who seemed too intimidating, "Well, everything must be field tested..."
If we wanted to go to some new city or get into some new club to see if the game worked, "Well, everything must be field tested..."
Even in business over the coming years if we'd have an idea, "Well, everything must be field tested..."
That's what made the community stand out from all the bullshit dating advice. It was ALL field tested.
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO HAVE ME PASSIONATELY EXPLAIN HOW I FEEL ABOUT THIS, AND HOW *YOU* WILL BENEFIT IMMEDIATELY FROM TAKING THIS APPROACH...
For some reason I really loved this lil talk. Hope you did too.
And btw when you read all the "pickup can't be real" people in the media and the internet you wanna know where they fail?
They don't observe this simple principle: GO TALK TO GIRLS AND TEST OUT THE IDEAS.
Do you think LOOKS matter? GO FIND OUT. Do you think MONEY matters? GO FIND OUT. All these lil bullshiut questions in your head? GO FIND OUT.
If you're not out there banging the guns, and banging them hard, you don't really know. So TEST it.
By doing this I was able to do the things you see in the Hot Seat 2 -- and of course, the cool preview videos that you'll see coming out of it this week.
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Anyway it's nearly 11AM and I've been up all night prepping this launch which is why I keep saying "Hot Seat 2" over and over in every damned line of this article. :) I obviously want to make sure you're in the loop about it.
The preview VIP Interest list page will be coming out this Monday, and you'll see some really eye opening previews being slammed out all week. They're going include a lil beared rampage, various thematic videos that show pull highlights, and Julien's all out scumbag ROMP.
It's gonna be a big week. Probably the coolest ever on the frontpage of RSDN.
(Planning to post the previews Monday, Wednesday, Friday, the following Monday, and then launch the Wednesday January 25th. Working to have them all done up on time so we'll see!)
Definitely let me know what you took out of the Passion video and how you think this might help to solve many of your challenges AUTOMATICALLY by taking on this mindset. And then what you thought about taking massive action and how field experience is king?
Any personal experiences or anecdotes. All comments and ideas here are appreciated! Let me know what you think.
I'm off to bed late, but at least maintained the rule to stay up til the jobs of the day are finished -- which this article was my last job of the day and it's now done! Thanks for reading this! Have fun!
Tyler
PS: For you Los Angeles people the Free Tour is THIS THURSDAY in Downtown L.A.
It's also probably my last Bootcamp in Los Angeles any time soon, so if you want to get on that BC last minute you have a chance as it was just added to the schedule and will feature Julien and myself. It's already half sold out.
The rest of you guys in Chicago and New York -- I'll be seeing you soon. Psyched from Miami as well!
Worked all day and hit up a lil beastmode before bed. Julien was out recording Hot Seat footage. I arrived just as he was hitting up Sasha Grey who he failed to close. OH WELL!
Now I'm back here realizing that Hot Seat 2 is launching January 18 2012. So with all the promotional materials coming out in this week I figured I'd get up an article to hold you over.
(Damn it. Another hour until sleep. Nooooooo!!!)
The Hot Seat 2 is going to be.........GANGSTER.
It's the program I've spent all my time developing since Blueprint Decoded. Basically I decided that I'd prefer to release my seminar content for free on the front page of RSDN, and then created a live event that's so three dimensional and effective that it blew any type of seminar away.
(In other words, if you think the FREE material on RSDN is good, the Hot Seat is so much better it puts it to shame. This is why I can release so much content for free and yet have people raving about the live event.)
Here are the dates in case your city is on the list. If it's not I recommend making a weekend of a new city and checking it out, then going out with the people you meet there at night.
Here are the upcoming dates which I'll launch officially in early January -- with substantial bonuses for people who sign up during the launch.
United States January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA.
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA.
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA.
February 25, 2012: Miami, FL, USA.
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA.
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA.
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA.
April 28, 2012: Washington DC.
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
.May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA.
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA.
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA.
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA.
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA.
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA.
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands.
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany.
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom.
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark.
September 22, 2012: Paris, France.
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway.
Australia & New Zealand May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia.
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada.
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada.
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada.
Asia March 15, 2012: Hong Kong.
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore.
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan.
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina.
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
I'll see you there! And if you want to see the signup page for the Hot Seat 1 here it is...
The updated page for Hot Seat 2 will be up shortly, but feel free to sign up now if you're inclined and you'll still get the bonuses that are offered to people during the official launch.
I'll also be doing Bootcamps in all the USA cities, so if you want to take a program with me get on it now as there's a 3 student maximum (yes you work up close with me, 3 on 1, it's an amazing life changing experience).
Los Angeles is on deck, followed by Chicago, New York, and San Francisco.
Lastly if you want to do the once a year 5 day "alumni only' bootcamp with Jeff and Julien and myself during model season in Miami South Beach, hit up the following page before it fills up...Here are 2 videos from the website.
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Check out the rest of the videos and the very cool Model Season Bootcamp webpage at...
The events will be right in the middle of the infamous South Beach "Model Season" on February 21 and February 28. They're both nearly full and I'd consider adding a third round on the schedule but Papa wants me to speak at a business networking event his girlfriend is putting on, so it's unlikely.
Alright now let's get into it!!
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So you've probably noticed I've got so much video content on deck that I've been releasing it at a furious rate.
I think it sort of devalues the content to be honest. It's really TOO MUCH.
But as you can probably tell, I don't give a fuck. I create these videos as practice to create a self development company that I've built the knowledge, teaching ability, and infrastructure to do 20 to 100 million dollars a year in revenues someday. This is all practice to me in terms of creating content, working on speaking, and consistently putting out my latest ideas.
It's easy to TALK about being a great teacher, an effective business owner, a talented writer, a consistent executer. It's another thing to slowly build up the skills and DO IT.
BLAH BLAH BLAH. That's mostly what I hear. People think they're entitled to this or that. They can go suck a dick. I'm hammering this out and living this lifestyle. Progressing that 1% everyday.
I want to get caught up with the videos because the content is 2 months behind. So for now I'll keep hammering it out. Wait til you see the Hot Seat 2 previews this week -- they're SICK!!!
For now I'm going to release a video on this exact topic: The TRUTH About Success.
I've subtitled it: Why you should rather DIE than miss a day at the gym.
That's a funny title because I'm not exactly jacked. Although I've been in the gym the past few years as I dropped 70 pounds of fat and went from nearly 30% bodyfat to 6.4%.
I travel year round so not interested in slamming down protein shakes -- get by on maybe 60 grams of protein per day. I won't get huge doing that and yet I've stayed in the gym every day even while travelling to stay fit, mentally alert, in a good mood, and strong.
My main focus has been "anti-aging" which is why the food I eat is meant to make me look like a 13 year old. :)
(Makes tha sex with 18 year olds pretty natural even as a balding 32 year old man. Plus I can fuck the shit out of any girl with the cardio and strength I've built up. And my brain works properly which means I can get work done.)
That's not the point though. The "gym" is more of an ANALOGY for the MENIAL DAY TO DAY TASKS that you know you really gotta do.
This is a video that I created on about 2 hours of sleep, so my more natural way of thinking and speaking came out because I was too tired to filter myself. I was bluntly honest here which I think people will appreciate -- though some will be offended.
btw as a sidenote -- you can see here that my view of success is that is should be HARD. That doesn't mean to have a "limiting expectation" where if it becomes easy you can't accept it -- but just that you should brace yourself to STEP UP and MEET THE CHALLENGE.
I also believe that success has a spiritual component in that it is more of a goal to force you to evolve than a "happiness you find in the future". These aspects may put some people off but I'm pretty firm in my beliefs.
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO LEARN THESE IMPORTANTTRUTHS ABOUT SUCCESS...
This is a video that I expect to be "polarizing". The core RSD fans will love it but most people who see it in the future will not. You can probably guess that I created it as a TOLD YOU SO when I kill it when I'm older.
Well at least they'll have their excuses of "Well those guys are assholes and cheat the system, the little man can't win if he's playing FAIR" blah blah blah. No it's not even that complex actually I did this by doing what the U.S. Constitution tells you to do -- pursue your fucking dreams, WORK FUCKING HARD.
(How funny was it last week those Youtube comments of guys who think it's LESS WORK to HIRE ACTRESSES to pretend to like you than GO OUT AND MEET A REAL GIRL! WHAT - THE - FUCK - ???!!!)
Amazing the rationalizations that people come up with to avoid facing the fact they need to work harder, isn't it?
Why not just say "I don't want to work and everyone doing better than me is working harder than me? At least I don't have to work and have more free time so it's all good. I'm cool to live with my choices."
It's too hard I guess -- they want to not work AND feel proud of themselves. :)
Actually that's kind of clever when you look at it like that. Maybe I should become a lazy self pitying hater. LOL.
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Anyway aside from that meglomaniacal mini rant, hope you spotted the execution in the "before and after" pics from 30% bodyfat to 6.4%. ;)
I said I'd lose the obnoxious amount of fat over 2 years, went and executed. Then said I'd gain 10 pounds of muscle over the year, went and executed. I didn't make some ridiculous goal and then self sabotage myself by not reaching it. I just made something attainable and felt good about it when it got done.
Where will I go from here in the gym btw?
Mostly anti-aging and building up strength. Don't need to be huge as I travel and too inconvenient to maintain. I want to live a long life and have my brain working properly -- that means eating a ton of greens, anti aging compounds (ie: healthy foods), continue to improve my game, get with hotter girls, and build the value of the company by becoming better and better at what we do.
I hope what you gained from this is a life philosophy. I've been working hard since I was 9 years old delivering newspapers and always believed in hard work.
I admire people who GO HARD and conversely think people who don't want to work and produce value are fucken wack and generally their brains burn out and they become lame. There's like this weird CORNER that I'll see people turn at a certain point where I can see the gears in their brains are no longer trying to figure out how to OFFER MORE VALUE but instead how to MINIMIZE WORK.
It's like they become these little creepy fucken snakes that make me want to puke. It really scares me when I see friends go like this. I lose all desire to want to help them or see them succeed -- because they feel overly entitled and yet no longer want to help THEMSELVES.
I like to work hard and play hard. A great year for me is becoming better in the game and as a teacher of game, improving the business by 50% to 100% (that's how we made the Inc 5000 list for growth), travel to awesome cities, read great books, have good conversations with funny and inspired people, take a few vacations to tropical island paradises, and have a LOT of extremely good sex.
(I'm a full on sex addict and very much driven by sex. The quality is more important to me than a lot of variety. I just go out a lot because I want to KILL on Hot Seat and Bootcamp, and that's how I'm able to put on that type of show. But I always want to be pulling women of such quality and chemistry that I'm ready to go again within minutes of being done.)
The "norm" was always fucken BORING to me.
I remember hating the boring ass shit they taught me in school and asking my father "Is work any better than school?"
He answered "No school is more fun, enjoy it while it lasts because work sucks!"
This put me into a spiral of depression and I became a hardcore juvenille deliquent, totally indifferent if I got killed or went to jail because I thought that I had no future.
Finally I hit my twenties and saw an opportunity to create a life of my own design. And I never looked back.
The craziest part of all this?
I've had so much given to me at this point that there's little left for me to gain. The "juice" for me is the embodiment of my values and the evolution of my state of mind.
The process is what I love. I feel the most alive when I'm killing on bootcamp or on the stage. I love it when I create new material on the spot or invent new teaching methods, or pull a girl from some crazy difficult situation and showing that what seemed impossible is in fact possible.
The results come when they come. Whatever. Life is lived in the present moment. Not some empheral "better future".
I'm obviously an INTENSE DOOD and I have friends who are super chill. They like learning from me but they live at a different pace of life. I respect that as well as long as they're still challenging themselves to some extent and not backsliding into mental atrophy. Everyone has their own personalities and priorities, so as long as they're optimists and fun to hang out with it's all good.
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Anyway I thought this would be a cool topic in the same vein, so decided to also create a video on gaming while DRUNK versus SOBER.
I've got some pretty good insight into this because most of my friends game drunk, and I've seen how my results stack up to theirs.
You'd probably guess that I think gaming sober is the only way to go. Not the case. Many of my friends have pulled off shit that you wouldn't believe while being wasted out of their minds.
That said, I think every guy has the desire to pull women without the crutch of "liquid courage" and I've proven over and over that it can be done. I always want to play the game at an elite level and it's hard to stand beside me in set if I'm "on" and you're drunk. Too slow, you'll fuck up the energy, fuck up the pull.
The video covers the main reasons you're likely to drink, and what's involved in hitting up hot women sober if you're inclined. As a bonus I also have a section by none other than DERRICK -- the man, the myth, the legend.
(Derrick is a hardcore gamer who has been with around 200 women, including many models, strippers, and Playboy Playmates. He's so good it's scary. In the video he tells the story of BUTT FUCKING THE SCARY CAT so I'd pay very close attention.)
CLICK THIS VIDEO NOW TO DISCOVER THE BENEFITS AND GAME-KILLERS OF GAMING DRUNK, AND THE LEGEND OF THE SCARY CAT....
I think this will be a popular video in the future, because so many guys get stuck on alcohol in order to meet girls.
It's like this hidden epidemic that nobody talks about in the PUA community. Then again there's a lot of guys who just like it and it is what it is.
Incidentally since this video was shot, I was out with my buddy Seth and he's just come back from a 6 week European vacation where his game went SKY HIGH.
Then he decided to get wasted when we went out, he was killing it, but when we finally pulled these two lil tight bodied 21 year olds he was TOO BUZZED and wound up misreading the signals when we were deciding to pull into either the restaurant or his house.
Girls were FULL DOWN. Like FULLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL. And they got weirded out and bounced. Seth went to bed with his buzz and some handcream. I went home to rip my hair out and cry. :)
Joking, joking.....And Seth was looking LEGIT the next two days when he didn't go out to drink. It's amazing how solid this dood is when he's sober, I'm oftentimes envious when I see him in set.
Something to think about. Yes, you've pulled many women while drunk. But what quality could you be pulling if you went sober? How much sharper could you be? What higher level could you accomplish??
Like I said the MAIN KEY in all this is RE-LEARNING the processes of getting in state.
Alcohol gives you the crutch of not having to worry about building or maintaining momentum. Or being self amused. Or bouncing back from rejection. Or drawing state from within.
So you've got to re-learn these things from the ground up, like a newborn baby. And as soon as you do, that natural cool guy you are with the booze will come out anyway and it'll be fucken sick.
Re-watch that "fine tuned momentum building" video I put out -- which I think is the sickest shit I ever stumbled upon for consistency -- if you want more help on this. Implement and let me know how it goes.
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Aaaaaaaaaaah okay I'm so sleepy, I think it's time for bed. Hope you enjoyed these topics and took some lasting value from them.
I'm going to crack out of here now, but please let me know what you thought about the video on life success, and what your experiences have been in this area? Any interesting take-aways?
How about as far as alcohol and game? Has this been an issue for you? What have you done to get around it? Or maybe you prefer to just roll with it and make alcohol a part of the game? If so, why?
Also keep your eyes open for the Hot Seat 2 VIP interest list page goes live this week.
This is going to be an event that you NEED to attend. It's what you've learned here but about 1000X times more potent. It's our most popular and highly raved about event for a very good reason -- sign up on the January 18 2012 red hot official launch to get he bonuses, then attend the program to find out what all the fuss is about.
Thanks for reading. See you soon!!
Tyler
PS:
Upcoming Bootcamp schedule looks like the following -- I'll be teaching these with Julien, and if you've ever wanted the life experience of a Bootcamp with me check out the following dates as head's up someday it will be a lot more difficult to get on one of these.
January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA.
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA.
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA.
February 25, 2012: Miami, FL, USA. (alumni only -- 5 day)
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA.
PPS:(Edit just added this a day after posting....hot news!)
So it's looking like we may be able to get my Bootcamp co-instructor of 2 years JULIEN on to do the non USA events of the Free Tour 3 and Hot Seat 2.
This is in the works right now and we're trying to figure out the details. He'd potentially come with me on the LA, Chicago, NYC, and Miami events. Then leave for Europe, Canada, Australia, South America, etc.
You guys are probably aware that this is the guy who is most responsible for the massive surge in game I've had over the past 2 years. I'm not sure who is the best in RSD because I don't hang out with everyone as often as I'd like, but Julien is the best I've personally seen.
The reason I'm psyched about this is that it would allow us to have a guy who is hardcore in the game teaching these events. Papa has done a phenomenal job but Julien has been out with me nearly 7 days a week for 2 years now and so he's the most capable of teaching what I would personally teach at these events. His game is also better than mine, as will become obvious by the infield footage he's been amassing (although he'd be showing mostly my footage at the events -- his segment is literally jaw dropping though, to the point that it's brain frying to see it).
Anyway this isn't set in stone as of yet but it's a strong possibility. We'll see if we can get it done. If not we'll find a good solution regardless. The Hot Seat 2 previews will start coming out this week and they're going to be REALLY sick. Something very different than anything you've seen.
I've got three new videos for you that are probably the best I've ever released (the Free Tour one for sure, and the vBlog has infield footage). A quick update and then we'll get into it.
I'm busy as hell right now, preparing for the launch of the HOT SEAT 2.
It may launch January 11 or maybe January 18. I'm working on the infield footage preview videos right now and we'll see when I finish.
So what IS the Hot Seat 2?
Basically it's an event where I show a WHOLE DAY of hidden camera infield footage -- every type of opener, way of attracting women, type of girl, type of scenario whether day or night or streets, full pulls of stunners from open to close, etc -- and break it all down for you in meticulous detail.
This reveals to you the perspective that I've gained from 11 years of going out 4-7 nights a week and hitting this up. You leave the program knowing everything secret of the game I've ever stumbled upon, and a 3D "experiential" grasp of powerful principles that have taken me years to understand.
Do you want to learn how to pull women easily and consistently? Date the girls that you want? Get in the relationships that you want?
Maybe you just want to be a confident mofo, learn social sklls, humor, and all that fun stuff. Well this is the most effective and inexpensive daylong program you could ever take.
It's called the HOT SEAT 2 and I spent several years of my life recording and creating it.
The classic "Hot Seat 1" was wildly popular and reviewed OFF THE CHARTS because it was a masterpeice that opens your eyes to a universe that few people know exists.
Well Hot Seat 2 blows it away by 10 fold -- the game is better, the explainations are more powerful, and it reflects another two years of me hammering away in the field.
Here are the upcoming dates which I'll launch officially in early January -- with substantial bonuses for people who sign up during the launch.
United States January 21, 2012: Los Angeles, CA, USA.
February 4, 2012: Chicago, IL, USA.
February 11, 2012: New York, NY, USA.
February 25, 2012: Miami, FL, USA.
March 17, 2012: San Francisco, CA, USA.
March 31, 2012: Phoenix, AZ, USA.
April 14, 2012: Las Vegas, NV, USA.
April 28, 2012: Washington DC.
May 5, 2012: Boston, MA, USA
.May 19, 2012: Austin, TX, USA.
June 2, 2012: Atlanta, GA, USA.
June 16, 2012: Seattle, WA, USA.
June 30, 2012: Philadelphia, PA, USA.
July 14, 2012: Denver, CO, USA.
August 4, 2012: Honolulu, HI, USA.
Europe March 17, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands.
March 24, 2012: Munich, Germany.
April 21, 2012: London, United Kingdom.
April 28, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark.
September 22, 2012: Paris, France.
September 29, 2012: Oslo, Norway.
Australia & New Zealand May 26, 2012: Sydney, Australia.
June 9, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada
July 7, 2012: Montreal, Canada.
July 14, 2012: Toronto, Canada.
July 21, 2012: Vancouver, Canada.
Asia
March 15, 2012: Hong Kong.
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore.
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan.
June 23, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina.
June 30, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
I'll see you there! And if you want to see the signup page for the Hot Seat 1 here it is...
The updated page for Hot Seat 2 will be up shortly, but feel free to sign up now if you're inclined and you'll still get the bonuses that are offered to people during the official launch.
I'll also be doing Bootcamps in all the USA cities, so if you want to take a program with me get on it now as there's a 3 student maximum (yes you work up close with me, 3 on 1, it's an amazing life changing experience).
Lastly if you want to do the once a year 5 day "alumni only' bootcamp with Jeff and Julien and myself during model season in Miami South Beach, hit up the following page before it fills up...
So if you've been diggin' the videos today is your lucky day....
I'm about to go back on what is probably my final tour, I've got tons of really sick material backed up, and I want to get "caught up" so I can start releasing the new videos AS THEY COME OUT.
That being the case I'm going to be releasing a little extra the next few weeks. Including THREE right now.
Can you do me a small favour though?
Whenever I release 3 videos on the frontpage people don't click them as much, and the Youtube view counts wind up lower than when I release just one. So if you like it when I release 3 videos a way to encourage me to do it more regularly is to click the videos a few times to bump up the view count.
I don't really care if my Youtube vids have crazy views or not, but I want them to at least crack the 7000 views they'd get normally if I uploaded just the one video at a time. Today's Free Tour video is IMO MY BEST EVER so I want people to see it.
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Anyway first up we're going to crack into a video that I shot my first night out after a month of "forced rest" after my tour.
My voice had gotten so bad from teaching 7 weeks of program after program, and then going out 7 nights a week to film infield footage as well, that I wasn't able to go out.
This sucked so bad because I was on a streak of going out 7 nights a week for the previous several months. I finally got to spend more time "serving the rotation" during this time, and had more sex than I've ever had in my life - which was extremely cool, although a blurry haze that I barely remember. :)
Yet my true love and passion is going out to meet NEW girls. Not even because of the sex (if I'm dating a girl it's because the sex is amazing....) but because I want to work on my craft. So being in the house was like dying for me.
Regardless I got back out my first night and funny enough, MY APPROACH ANXIETY HAD COME BACK. I wandered around like an idiot newbie too scared to approach, and it really reminded me of how much many of you guys SUFFER with this.
Honestly I don't know if I could go back to being a newbie again. It would be like going through puberty and having zits and hormones and all that. Having approach anxiety again felt the same way. It made me really empathize with you guys who don't know how to meet girls -- I only had to feel that way for an hour, but even that one hour was BULLSHIT. :)
(Actually it inspired me to finish the damned newbie site. For a while I was getting indignant like, "If someone doesn't get the basics of this they're just being lazy!!" But after feeling what it's like to be a newbie it reminded me that it's like a hell most people can't get out of. The hell is of your own making and it's all up in your head -- but it's hard to remember when you're in the thick of it.)
Anyway I was about to give up and go home, and then I decided I should at least record a "video blog" to document my challenge in getting back out there. But then funny enough I decided after "FUCK THIS I'm gonna see if I can get something crackin' -- which I did, and included the highlights to give a lil inspiration.
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO SEE HOW TO GET BACK ON TRACK, AND WATCH ME DOING MY THING IN THE FIELD...
Fun stuff huh?
Here's what's crazy though...
I rarely read Youtube comments because I usually maintain a "no googling yourself" policy, because if you're going to be a FRINGE OF SOCIETY "pickup guru" you'd better not be pre-occupied with what people are thinking or saying about it. :)
But in this case I was all excited to see the comments because it was the first time I ever added infield footage of a pull online. So I kept checking back on the comments. *blush*.
Well funny enough, many of the comments were people thinking the video is fake!!!!!! They thought the ending was too short with the original version, so I even asked my editor to re-cut an expanded one because I felt the feedback was reasonable and you needed to see a lil more to get the idea.
(Here's the original that was a bit shorter...Check the comments on it if you're interested.)
That lil pull in there -- you can do that shit ALL DAY LONG.
I mean shit, on command just say "Owen, go do that shit again...." and bam it's on. That's the whole point of the "demo" part of the bootcamp every weekend -- except obviously I don't bounce in the car and leave the students. :)
My life is busy as fuck. So many tasks, so much to get done. The last thing I'm worried about is being a 32 year old man with a full deck of life experience and responsibility being unable to attract a TWENTY ONE YEAR OLD LIL GIRLIE. ;)
(Maybe it takes a lil time to get warmed up -- some nights it's even brutal and takes a few hours to get out of my head-- but come on, I've done the same MENIAL activity over and over my whole adult life)
Ideally if you take my programs and consistently go out after to internalize what you learned, you can do a LOT more than what you see in that fun lil video. Again it may take a night of warmup, but it shoudn't be a big deal.
Let me make a more important comment here though...
My roots are from the old school "pick up artist" community.
(Dorky term, I know. But that's what it was called.)
I come from a background of hardcore weird motherfuckers, where you had a SIMPLE RULE as far as what you could talk about, and what you couldn't.
THE FOUNDATION OF THE OLDSCHOOL PICKUP COMMUNITY WAS THIS...
YOU *TEST* SOMETHING BEFORE *TALKING* ABOUT IT OR *THEORIZING* ABOUT IT.
In other words, on the old forums if a guy asked, "What would happen if I said / did / tried XYZ on a girl??" they didn't get the privilege of a response from a veteran guy.
Instead they'd get reemed out with, "Go try it on 10 girls and see what happens, and then report back.." There was no tolerance of speculation and people speaking out of their asses.
(Without this one important foundation, the community never would have become the movement that it has...)
You PHRASED your language in such a way where if you wanted information you'd say, "I went out and tried XYZ ten times, and here's what happened. Can anyone give me help on this?"
To speculate, theorize, or talk out of your ass was viewed as WEAK and NOBODY LISTENED TO YOU.
Well here's how that correlates to the comments on the video.
The guys giving their "comments" are perfectly capable of going out and trying EXACTLY WHAT THEY SAW IN THE VIDEO FOR THEMSELVES.
If they went and tried, and then said, "Look I tried the shit in the video and it didn't work for me..." we could talk about how to get them the results they're looking for.
And they'd be WAY better off for it! Make sense? ;)
Ultimately the game is about YOU.
YOU have to go out and meet girls, date different women, and find a relationship that works for you. Talking and speculating is a waste of time. Take what you can get from RSD and go out and produce the life that you want. I want to help you, but you also gotta help yourself. Listen to the people who go out and live this shit. Take action. Test things out. Then take what's helpful and discard what's not -- create your own style and keep it moving.
Okay rant done. :)
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So check it out.......
If you're one of the folks who attended a Hot Seat that lil demo was probably not that interesting to you, as you've seen crazy ass shit go down from open to close.
(Hopefully you at least liked the aspect of getting back in the game and not making excuses after time off though.....)
Well it's all good cause I've got some real sick shit popping off here today -- this new "Free Tour" video that's my favourite to date.
I actually have ones that are better already in the pipeline, but this is my favourite I've released so far. This is going to clear up a LOT for you if you go out and apply it immediately.
It's on the topic that I think is most important in the entire game, and the speaking is exactly what I'm looking to accomplish when I only have a half hour window to open for Jeff -- just go up and RIP it.
This shit is off the dome, I just slam it out, educate and enlighten you on how to MAKE IT HAPPEN.
TOOK ME YEARS TO FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT. IT'S SIMPLE YET DEEP. BIGGEST SECRET FOR MY SUCCESS RIGHT HERE. CHECK IT OUT.
Okay so I'm super thrilled to get this one out.
If you pay attention to it, your results will explode. Here's what's crazy though.
On average I think I'm only TRULY in this zone like 33% of the time. It's a struggle right?
But the more you go out, the easier and more natural it becomes. It's all a process of internalizing and living it.
As I get older I imagine a day where I'm acting through my own intent like 80% of the time. Would be totally sick. That's what maturing is all about -- aging with some fucken dignity, making it an asset and not this ridiculous mockery that it is for most.
Make an action plan to implement these ideas. Don't let this be yet another video you watch and forget about. Watch it again and internalize.
I don't view this stuff as MY ideas. It's shit I scraped around a decade to stumble upon. I did this for myself, but also for YOU.
Internalize it. Live it.
Not to be crass here, but your dick will thank you. ;)
And it'll affect your life in far more profound ways than just sex -- it's about the way you interact with the world.
Hit me up with feedback on this one. I'll try to answer any questions about becoming clearer in your intent.
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Anyway the last video I wanted to show is on a topic that has a lot of personal meaning to me.
This is something I"ve watched for years now, and it's deep to me because I've watched friends THRIVE and friends become shadows or their former selves.
It's the decision of whether or not to keep growing, evolving, and living life at the fullest.
CLICK THE VIDEO NOW AND REMEMBER THIS SHIT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. IT'S NO EXAGERATION TO SAY YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. WELL AT LEAST WHETHER YOU BECOME A BADASS DOOD OR AN OLD WEIRD LAMO DEPENDS ON IT. :)
So let's review again why this is so important.
I've seen friends who are passionate about life, fun, cool, funny, bad ass doods.
And I"ve watched them drop like flies, gives up on pushing the envelope, and go back to living a predictable life.
Like I said in the video, here's what's crazy....
It's all good for you to live a conservative life. That's really more an issue of personal choice.
But what often (usually...) winds up happening is that it affects YOUR STATE OF MIND.
You get angry more easily, become petty, afraid, lame, pathetic.
It's been hard for me to watch this over the years. It's my fear of becoming like this that motivates me, equally as powerfully as the incentive of becoming the person I feel I can become.
Honestly it's just pathetic watching this go down. So, so, sad. I see it in the puppydog "I'm not with it anymore..." eyes of people I've known over the years.
My buddy's mom is a seasoned veteran in business and she once told me "If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will go floating by..."
Well I often feel like this has happened not only to people I had disputes with, but also people who I valued tremendously. People I really loved. People I still DO love but we've just gone in such differnet directions. I'll never stop caring about them, but it's really tough to watch.
Again like I said in the video, this isn't about being all crazy about self development or any of that. That's more of a personal interest to me, and if someone doesn't like it it's all good. Many of my friends are badasses and don't give a fuck about Tony Robbins or Eckhart Tolle, right? :)
It's more about the choice to LIVE. Like to do COOL SHIT. Not the same old repetitious habits every single day.
This isn't just about lifestyle. It's not about results. It's about who you are as a person. Your ability to think clearly. To maintain perspective.
Being a father I've begun to think that we have children to SAVE OURSELVES.......
Our children teach us how to be curious again, to experience childlike joy, to evolve. They provide a role model. I've learned more from Vincent than he's learned from me. FOR REAL.
Hope this makes sense. And if you're an old buddy of mine reading this, I'm not necessarily talking about you because I've had a lot of buddies over the years. I'm busy as fuck so pretty unreachable, I'm in the middle of the damned Hot Seat launch and hard to reach! :)
(Seriously though, dammit have I got a lot going on right now.....DOH!!).
I'm in this journey for the long haul. I want to make my children proud. I want to take it to the limits. On my tombstone I want it to read HARD FUCKING CORE. I can be the biggest dork on the planet, but god damned nobody can say I didn't try my best.
And I fucken love it.
I remember my first trip out of the little strip of 401 Highway between Toronto and Montreal.
I flew through Chicago and looked down on this huge city, bigger than I'd ever seen, and wondered what was in it. I flew over the snow covered rocky mountains and the Grand Canyon, to California with the ocean and desert.
I travelled and travellled, met interesting people, read great books, tried new things, met girls and had experiences with them I'll never forget. It's like being on a voyage far away from home -- I don't even know home anymore, the world is home, that's all I know.
(Was broke as a joke at the time. Papa and I travelled on nothing. Slept in bus shelters and floors of abandoned apartments in winter. No excuses...)
Like Christopher Columbus or some shit, you live unhinged, no certain direction, figure it out as you go along. FUCK IT. FUCK IT ALL. LET'S SEE WHAT HAPPENS.
Got a bad opinion of this? All good baby. Watch the adventures from Youtube and chill. I'll be doing this shit. Just gets crazier and fucken crazier. Life is fleeting, soak it up while you can.
I'm a blessed motherfucker. Can't wait for my sons to join the journey with me. So much to show them, gives me something to live for.
Hope you enjoyed this. That Free Tour video was really a next level for me. Since the last Seattle Free Tour it was my next "peak" along my journey, and I've got more peaks for you on deck.
Stay tuned.....
And in early January keep your head up for the red hot mega launch of the Hot Seat 2. It's gonna be one of the big events that makes a lasting impact on your life. IF you choose to make use of it. ;)
(The Hot Seat 2 new page will be up there in early January -- sign up now if you want, and you'll still get the bonuses.)
Let me know your thoughts on the video blog, why you're not gonna be one of these poor souls who sees something cool and doesn't at least try it, and why you're gonna go out RIGHT NOW and do this shit. :)
How about the "Intent" video. It's my most powerful secret in the game. What are your thoughts? Will you make use?
Lastly -- do you have experiences with the journey of personal growth? Friends who you've had trouble relating with as they faded out? Experiences or thoughts to share?
I want to know! Hit me up!
Thanks for reading!!! See you next week!! Have fun!!
Tyler
PS:
My Free Tour, Hot Seat 2, and Bootcamp schedule is listed on the drop-down menu right below.
Some of my programs like the Bootcamp fill up really fast, so if you're interested in getting on board, I'm X-Mas gift this to yourself as a part of your New Year's resolutions right now.
This a peak in the game where a hardcore veteran is still actively teaching small ratio programs -- people will look back one day and wonder WTF it was like to do something like this with that crazy motherfucker Owen Cook
I go very, very hard on my programs -- and they're producing the best results for students I've ever produced. I want to work with you. The currency of life is experineces. Hit me up.
Hey there it's Owen AKA TYLER of REAL SOCiAL DYNAMICS.
MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM ME AND ALL OF RSD!! :)
My family is in bed sleeping, while I sit out here just me and Santa Claus deep in beard-to-beard conversation. The Beard is still going strong as you can see, although by last week it had become so epic I was becoming MORE BEARD THAN MAN -- then trimmed it down to more of a "Player Beard" as you see here.
This hasn't stopped the endless flow of women oowww'ing and awww'ing however. In the coming weeks leading up to the January 11 2011 Hot Seat 2 official launch you'll be seeing little bursts of infield footage with me pimping with The Beard mixed in with the vblogs and promotional materials.
And you will realize that yes: YOU CAN DO IT TOO. That's right, even YOU can pimp with a ridiculous beard.
(Get excited for this -- the first one is already uploaded to Youtube and waiting for me to make it public -- the Hot Seat 2 promos are obviously advertisements but gonna be VERY COOL nonetheless...)
Anyway I thought I'd crack out the closest thing to a Christmas present as I could give to you, so I'll be releasing 3 new videos today.
All 3 are absolutely solid, but ONE of them is the best present I could ever give to you -- because it's going to reveal the secret I've used to KILLITfor many years and never been able to properly explain.
We'll jump into them below in a sec -- first a few dates to put you in the loop on the upcoming Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp schedule.
January 19, 2012: Los Angeles, CA
February 2, 2012: Chicago, IL
February 9, 2012: New York, NY
February 23, 2012: Miami, FL
March 15, 2012: San Francisco, CA (Note that SF has been bumped to this new date...)
I'd recommend you take a program with me while I'm in full gear like I've been. Free Tours have been ridiculously fun and educational, Hot Seats have been ripping people's eyes open about what's possible and how success gets done, and Bootcamps have been more and more the landmark program they've always been.
THESE ARE DESIGNED FOR OVER A DECADE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER: IF THIS AREA INTERESTS YOU THEN MAKE YOUR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION TO GET ON THE DAMNED TRAIN.
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One last thing as well, as not many people know about this...
Last year I decided to create a "5 Day Alumni Only Bootcamp" during the Miami Model Season. I wasn't sure if it would be a good idea but it turned out to be the best program I've ever done -- as well as being a "next level" for both Jeff and I in terms of game.
We've decided to do this elite program at least once more, so we've opened up spaces just today. This one filled very fast last year so if you're interested check out this video and then the very cool RSD Miami page.
You can also email stuart@realsocialdynamics.com with the subject "Miami Bootcamp" if you want to ask more questions about this, such as logistics, what to expect, etc.
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So we've got a lot of material to cover today. Let's crack into it!!
As I've talked about in previous blogs I've been working a lot on my speaking and communication over the past 2 years of touring -- obviously with the goal of preparing for the future with the self help company I've been building up in my head since my early twenties.
I've been working on mastering the delivery of "off the cuff" content -- to allow myself to create content on the spot with no preparation, deliver it clearly and provide lots of examples, while lacing in comedy, entertaining stories and thought experiments to keep other guys my age entertained.
(Honestly I wouldn't watch something unless it's entertaining as hell, so I try to keep both the content good and the entertainment value really high. Basically I aim to create the videos I'd personally want to watch.)
I also challenged myself to hit a nice balance between being authoritative (which is pretty authentic -- I know my shit...) as well as humble and not "talking down" to people. My goal is to just share what I know and you can take it or leave it -- to be at ease but with a focused intensity. It's all a learning curve and I've found a lot of highs and lows as I progressively improve -- just like how I continue to improve in the game.
Anyway the recent series of events I did during the USA SF/LA/CHI/NY tour with Jeff were IMO the best ever. I just slid into a nice groove and each program was more and more awesome.
And the first videos from those series of events are here today. :) So without further rambling here, we'll start with a pretty off the wall video that covers the debate between "Strapping up" and "Hitting it RAW". :)
The backwoods hick guys who think condoms are ridiculous made this one HILARIOUS. I always love capturing these funny moments of interaction with an interesting audience. Love these guys -- although hopefully their dicks haven't rotted off since the event. ;)
CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO DISCOVER FUNNY YET FRIGHTENING PERSONAL EXPERIENCES I'VE HAD THAT CHANGED MY PERSPECTIVE ON THIS ISSUEFOREVER (HOPEFULLY YOU'LL VAGUELY REMEMBER THIS SHIT THE NEXT TIME YOU'VE GOT A GIRL IN BED)...
I joked around a lot here because I don't think anyone wants a lecture, but the issue is serious as fucking hell.
All the sex you've ever had will feel like a waste of your time if you contract a serious disease from this shit, and you've got to remember that basically NOBODY uses the damned condoms.
Everyone thinks that THEY are BEATING THE SYSTEM. They think EVERYONE ELSE is strapping up so they can "get away with it". Well guess what dumbass? Everyone has the same mentality so you're potentially dipping your dick into a warm wet hole of infectious nasty shit if it's a girl who you don't know.
Yeah it feels good temporarily as your DNA rewards you for the increased chance of GETTING HER PREGNANT. But then over the next few days as it begins to burn, or swell up, or your immune system gets comprimised because you've got AIDS, the vague distant memory of getting laid becomes blurred as the new reality of your situation comes to the forefront of your day to day life.
I wouldn't let my kids learn the game unless I believed they'd strap up. If you're going to learn this shit and fail to do so, you're better off being a chode. Save hitting it raw as a personal reward for seeing the same girl more than a few times and getting to know her.
And if you're going to rail new women on the regular, get tested at least once a year. Nobody gets tested although everyone claims it. Funny enough though most STD's can be easily fixed if you learn about them early -- but otherwise something as simple as Chlamydia can asymptomatically rot out your nuts and make it so you're not capable of fathering kids.
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Well wasn't that a nice Christmas warning. Merry Christmas you're infected! :)
LOL uhhh yeah, so next up we're gonna crack into what is by far the most results-producing set of ideas I've ever released.
But here's the deal...
The secrets in this video took me years of introspection and personal experience to figure out. They are rock solid and if you follow them religiously for a month or two your life will change in ways you cannot remotely grasp at this point in time in front of your computer.
You'll have heard me allude to everything in here before, but if you follow it SPECIFICALLY the small subtleties will make a world of difference.
To put it in perspective, using what you'll learn in this video allows me to get laid like fucking crazy -- IF I FOLLOW MY OWN RULES. It's to the point that I even get laid on nights I "shouldn't" be getting laid -- like nights I'm too tired to have sex or in a bad mood, and I go out and apply this and wind up taking the hottest girl home and fucking the shit out of her.
(Then the next day I'm even MORE tired and destroyed, but let's not focus on that...)
I realize that you read a lot of marketing mumbo jumbo, "This is the super secret blah blah..." and that that's what I'm sounding like here. I want to emphasize that SOMETIMES THE MUMBO JUMBO IS TRUE.
The reason I'm hyping this up so much is because I WANT YOU TO FOLLOW WHAT YOU LEARN HERE.
Here's another thing though. What you're going to learn here is what I believe will be my lasting contribution to pickup after I'm done with it. There's an entire philosophy behind this, which I cover extensively in the Hot Seat 2 and show video examples to back it up and make it super clear.
This video I actually did not intend to release as it only GLOSSES over the philosophy and I want to explain it with a crazy intense clarity later, like with Powerpoint and the whole deal. It deserves that kind of attention.
But as I was cutting out the "condoms" video and saw that this, I realized it was the first time I'd alluded to the philosophy in a Free Tour event. Then I thought "Fuck it, I'm going to probably cover this so extensively in the future that it wouldn't be a bad idea to put it out NOW."
Anyway check out the video right now and then I'll explain what I want you to really look at below.
Again this is sort of an "introduction" to these ideas that have gotten me laid more than anything else I've ever stumbled upon. I've covered this in the past but the subtleties in the explaination are what makes it really work.
Merry Christmas!! CLICK THIS NOW AND WATCH IT SEVERAL TIMES THIS MONTH UNTIL YOU HAVE IT DOWN!!
Okay so as you can see this video covers the idea of "Social Momentum". However it's covering it from a FINED TUNED PERSPECTIVE.
Let me give you a few examples of how my brain works here...
I arrive in a new city a day before bootcamp and decide to go out. My wingman has already arrived and he's tired as hell and having a shitty night. He says "Fuck it man it's closing in an hour, we're both tired..."
I say to him "No follow the method exactly and we will get laid.."
I walk into the bar and TIREDLY say "AAAAYYYYEEEE!!!" and fuel my brain with "proof NOT promises..." that nothing will happen to me.
I feel my "RAS" is finding EVERY REASON NOT TO APPROACH and I KNOW THIS IS A FICTION CREATED BY MY BRAIN.
MY ONLY GOAL IS TO SHIFT MY "RAS" TO LOOK FOR THE UPSIDE AND NOT THE DOWNSIDE, AND I KNOW THAT IF I PROVIDE MY BRAIN WITH ENOUGH "PROOF" THAT NOTHING BAD WILL HAPPEN THAT IT WILL REALIZE IT'S A MINIMAL TIME INVESTMENT TO LET ME APPROACH.
As I prove to my brain that nothing in the environment will hurt me, both through yelling and approaching the "mid range" girls, I feel "RAS" looking around to see if any guys are getting mad. After all, my brain thinks I'm in a new 150 person tribe and doesn't know who has the high status.
Once my brain thinks that I HAVE THE HIGH STATUS I suddenly burst into STATE. Then my "RAS" suddenly stops trying to prevent me from approaching, and makes me want to do it.
I make out with a few 6's and 7's which gets me aroused, and my brain sees that nobody is getting angry. Yet my brain isn't sure yet if anyone will be confrontational if I approach the top girls in the environment -- the 9's and 10's.
Funny enough I'm probably ALREADY DATING GIRLS WHO ARE HOTTER THAN THE HOTTEST IN THE VENUE.
As a general rule I'm dating hot women, and because the girls I "keep around" are usually the best I get over a year period or so, they're really hot. Yet funny enough my brain is intimidated by lesser women for the simple reason that my brain recognizes that IN THIS PARTICULAR ENVIRONMENT THEY ARE THE TOP GIRLS and therefore the guys may get mad.
This isn't an entitlement issue of what I deserve, because I already have hotter. Rather this is my brain's VERY SANE WAY OF PROTECTING ME FROM BEING ATTACKED IN A FOREIGN ENVIRONMENT.
If this were MY environment and MY social circle I wouldn't have to deal with this. But my very sane brain gives me approach anxiety to provide IMPULSE CONTROL from doing something stupid. My brain doesn't WANT me to get laid until I give it PROOF NOT PROMISES that nothing bad will happen.
So I start hitting up the hotties and doing short little approaches. Again my "RAS" starts looking around to see if anyone is mad (this is very subtle -- you've gotta be ultra self aware to notice it). Nothing bad happens, and suddenly all my RAS can see is the DIMES of the club.
I hit up one of the top girls, she shit tests me and I plow through it with charisma and hilarity, because my brain now has the proof that it's okay to do so.
We make out, I take her home, have sex with her, take her for dinner at an afterhours restaurant to further joke around and cement the day2. Then we fuck the rest of the weekend during the off time between the program while I"m still in town, and for the rest of the year she hits me up on text to say how amazing it was and how much she thinks every other guy she's met since me SUCKS.
(Obviously....who the hell works at this shit so much?? Zero competition.)
This shit has allowed me to go on runs when my body chemistry would actually prefer I chill out for a bit. In other words, I actually believe there's just times that your body wants you to CHILL for a minute and not go out and bang new girls. But you can literally DEFY this tendency by FORCING It.
Not sure how healthy this is, and yet it fucking works.
What's interesting here is that all this relies on sticking to the principles. If you don't stick to them, it doesn't work. You've got to establish your own rhythm and build upon it quickly. It is the bomb.
Think of it like how the best elite NBA players not only put up 30 points on the scoreboard, but also establish a rhythm on the basketball court where EVERYONE IS REACTING AROUND THEM. They are dictating the RHYTYM of the game.
The same goes for pickup. You've gotta force yourself to hit a rhythm and slide into being at the "Cause and not the effect". This shit allows this to happen.
Anyway think of this as a preview. It's not adaquately explained as of yet so if anything about it seems a lil "off" to you or incorrect, you'll likely have a different opinion later. It's an entire philosophy about how momentum bleeds not only through a night, but a weekend, and a lifetime. The philosophy even goes into every day life -- health, finances, and the whole deal.
More to come on this. :) Stay tuned. And if you want to see the version that has all the infield videos showing how I do this and the results I get with it, check out a Hot Seat 2 event. You can sign up now at...
(It's still listed as the Hot Seat 1 page, but over the next few weeks it'll be upgraded to Hot Seat 2 with the official launch. If you sign up early you can still get the bonuses that will come out later, so you're good to go.)
THE MAIN KEY TO SUMMARIZE THOUGH:
When I get out there, whether it's for bootcamp students or reporters who whoever, my main thought is...
"My RAS is blocking me. I need to keep fuelling my brain with proof and not promises so that my RAS shifts..."
Then I just keep slamming it until my RAS shifts. No matter how hard it is to believe that my RAS will shift I know that it will.
I have a TOTAL TRUST that once my RAS shifts that my natural charisma will unlock. I have the understanding that the ability to attract women is buried within us all naturally, and that I simply have to "unlock" it.
Then I do so.
Think of it like a horse and chariot rider. You can't just tell the horse to go where you want it to go. But you can do something that TRIGGERS it do move where you want.
Well in the same way you can't just say to your brain "BE SELF AMUSED AND CONFIDENT". But you DO have the limited ability to put STIMULUS IN FRONT OF YOUR BRAIN that tells it that it should unlock.
It's no different than how you can't say to your dick "Ejaculate right now!!" (Well if you can, that's pretty cool...). But you can give it the stimulus to do so, and trust that it soon will.
Then you monitor this as you move from environment to environment, until your brain neurochemistry crosses a point to where the emotional state becomes SELF PERPETUATING and deeper and deeper.
(My friend Mellissa who studied brain neurology actually gave me a term that explains this, after hearing me talk about it. Mel if your'e reading this please post a link to Wikipedia or something, thanks!)
EDIT: She just texted me that it's called "self propagation". If anyone here has a link to an relevant article please post it below.
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Okay so that's a lot of video but I thought that with Christmas being here I'd throw in one more.
I was totally trashed (underslept) in NYC but thought it would be cool to record at the top of Rockerfeller centre before I left town. So Julien and I trekked up there and shot a quick video with like 50 people staring at me while I did it.
What a view!!!! DAMN!!
It took a lot of concentration and felt a lil weird. And then guess what? We found out the camera was out of focus and had to reshoot! With my tiredness in effect is was like "OOOOH SHIT NOOOOOO!!"
Then I realized that it's always good to talk about a topic that relates to whatever state you're in, and I'd been planning for a while to do a talk on overcoming negative emotions, so I did it up here.
Funny enough though, I think the height of the building caused audio signal interference between the microphone and the camera, so the audio is a little spotty. Sorry! I decided that I loved the view and that it would offer value overall, so rather than reshooting it in a different location I figured we'd release it.
This is a very important video to me on a personal video, as this glosses over a decade long personal journey that it took me to crawl out of the hell of addiction to bullshit negative thoughts and emotions.
Check it out now....
(Funny enough I thought that that beard was CRAZY at the time. But I look at it now compared to the current beard and it just looks like a bit of stubble. Isn't it funny how our minds make our self image into a big deal?)
btw please let me know if you liked the video or not with the fucked up sound. I wasn't sure if I should put it out. Would it have been overly uptight to scrap it once I saw the sound wasn't perfect, or do you think it's better to focus on the highest standards like I normally do?
Like I said I released it rather than re-recording because I personally really enjoy that view and wanted to share it, but maybe you don't really care. :) I also threw in that lil bonus stuff with me and Julien at the end because it basically just shows what was explained -- ie: socializing, having friends to joke around with, having interests that keep you passionate, etc. Then we randomly bumped into the statue that's on the cover of "Atlas Shrugged" (a common favourite of people who are into RSD) so that was really sick, too.
Also -- do you remember how in that previous Chicago video in my friend's apartment I said "This video isn't for you if you're weird, but we could make another video for you if that's the case..."
Well THIS is the type of video I was talking about. I think that in the future I want to make a series of videos for guys who are "hard cases" and totally fucked up. This one was a starting point, and yet I think EVERYONE could benefit from doing what I talked about here.
Also note that I think pharmaceuticals are a miracle of science for people who have mental health diseases that cannot be treated otherwise. But for the overwhelming majority of people these methods could have been implemented beforehand
There's a lot that's within your control that doctors will usually not recommend -- it's an absurdity of modern society that people don't try these things before using what should be a last resort. Check out "The Ultramind Solution" by Mark Hyman if this interests you.
I can definitely attest that by following the ideas I spoke about, I was able to shift my "happiness set point" from around a 2 out of 10 to around an 8. In the future maybe it will be a 10, but then again I sometimes find people who are too happy a lil weird. ;)
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Okay so I'm out of here!! Santa and I will be resuming our lil chat and then I'll be off to bed.
Hope your Christmas is kicking ass, and if not, then I hope this lightened it up a bit from me to you.
The coming weeks have some SERIOUSLY LEGIT content coming up on here as well, so I hope you're looking forward to it.
I'll also be back with the Hot Seat 2 promotional materials in the week between January 4 and the January 11th release. This material will be really engaging and not just commercials -- you'll love it as it will feature short tiny bursts of infield footage that in and of themselves will teach you a lot, and I think entice you to realize the immense value of the Hot Seat 2 event and prompt you to attend.
Absolutely let me know what you took from the videos!! I know it's 3 videos which is a lot to get any conversation going in the comments, but I'll check back and respond.
Any experiences with the "condoms VS bareback" debate? Be honest. It's all good, it's an anonymous forum anyway right? :) Let me know.
Also have you tried out the momentum building stuff that I explained. There were subtleties here that I've never been able to properly get into, and it's these exact subleties that have allowed me to get the craziest results of my life. I feel good to have gotten this out and will properly expand on it later (or see the infield version at Hot Seat 2) but FOR NOW what have you learned?
And any thoughts about combating depression and addiction to mental bullshit by the 5 ways I covered in the videos? How was your experience of watching it with the sketchy audio? And do you have any experiences with improving your emotional health in your own life?
Thanks for reading and watching. Have fun!!
Tyler
PS:
Get on this! Now is the time!
January 19, 2012: Los Angeles, CA
February 2, 2012: Chicago, IL
February 9, 2012: New York, NY
February 23, 2012: Miami, FL
March 15, 2012: San Francisco, CA (Note that SF has been bumped to this new date...)
Hot Seat 2 will begin promotions January 4th and include some funny bursts of infield footage as previously promised, and will officially launch to the world on January 11!!
The Hot Seat 2 is really cutting edge and this is definitely something you'll want to attend. Stay tuned.
Just crackin’ along the Pacific Ocean on a train from Los Angeles to San Diego. Winter in California so it’s a lil cloudy but still beautiful. I’ll be running a few programs there this weekend, should be sweet.
I’ve recently decided to do another Free Tour – the Free Tour 3 – between January and the World Summit in August.
We're going to get into a NEW VIDEO in a minute, but check out the dates right now and if your city is on the list get registered ASAP.
United States (taught by me, I'll be doing Hot Seat 2 and Bootcamps in these cities as well...)
January 19, 2012: Los Angeles
January 26, 2012: San Francisco
February 2, 2012: Chicago
February 9, 2012: New York
February 23, 2012: Miami
March 29, 2012: Phoenix
April 12, 2012: Las Vegas
April 26, 2012: Washington DC
May 3, 2012: Boston
May 17, 2012: Austin Texas
May 31, 2012: Atlanta
June 14, 2012: Seattle
June 28, 2012: Philadelphia
July 12, 2012: Denver
August 2, 2012: Honolulu
Europe (will be taught by a variety of instuctors including Brad, Alex, Ozzie, and Papa...) January 5, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
January 12, 2012: Helsinki, Finland
January 19, 2012: Budapest, Hungary
January 26, 2012: Berlin, Germany
February 2, 2012: Zurich, Switzerland
February 9, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 15, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 22, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 19, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 26, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
July 27, 2012: Athens, Greece
August 26, 2012: Madrid, Spain
August 28, 2012: Valencia, Spain
August 31, 2012: Barcelona, Spain
Australia (taught by Alex and Papa)
May 24, 2012: Sydney, Australia
June 7, 2012: Melbourne, Australia
Canada (taught by Jeffy and Papa) January 5, 2012: Vancouver
January 12, 2012: Calgary
January 19, 2012: Toronto
January 26, 2012: Montreal
...and a second set of dates (two different instructors I recommend attending both!)
July 5, 2012: Montreal, Canada
July 12, 2012: Toronto, Canada
July 19, 2012: Vancouver, Canada.
South America (taught by Brad) February 23, 2012: Rio de Janeiro, Brazil
March 1, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
March 22, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
...and a second set of dates (two different instructors I recommend attending both!)
June 21, 2012: Buenos, Aires, Argentina
June 25, 2012: Montevideo, Uruguay
June 26, 2012: Rio De Janeiro, Brazil
June 28, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
Asia (taught by Alexander) March 15, 2012: Hong Kong
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan
Take 5 seconds and hit up the following site to get "in the loop" on this, the free events are absolutely THE SHIT...
This may be the last time I run a tour this extensively as it’s *technically* not so good for RSD for me to be working so much IN the business when I should be working ON the business.
Regardless the improvements in teaching are obviously a big asset to the company, and I’ve been working out the systems for instructors do to future similar tours. They say that in business you’ve got to master the process before getting other people in on it, so I’ve been really getting this down.
Then obviously from a hobby standpoint, this has been the most fun I’ve ever had in my entire life. It’s challenged me and run me into the ground, but the glory of being out there killing this shit is something I’ll take with me until the day I die.
This sounds funny but I often find myself having so much fun I feel bad for everyone else. Like EVERYONE ELSE. On the entire planet.
My brain is so stimulated and I’m in a creative peak. The camaraderie on the programs is so intense, it’s like being in the movie “The Hangover” every single weekend – except everyone is getting laid left and right and stays sober so they can actually remember it. :)
I’m often out in some new city in some crazy club, just listening to the music, macking out with some girl, looking at the room around me…..and it’s like, AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHH LIFE IS FUCKING AWESOME.
I have the Miami programs to look forward to in the winter and Vegas to look forward to in the summer. Then I have a beautiful family waiting for me back home, and good variety of both “wins” and “losses” (both success as well as exasperating frustrations) to keep me challenged and moving forward.
It’s crazy to think about growing the business because I’m having so much fun at the current size and rate of growth. It used to double every year pre-recession and these days it grows around 50% ever year which is great. The promotion we had from David and The Game has slowed down but the positive word of mouth from students getting good results has increased. It’s pretty rare to see a business grow organically just by improving product quality and offering more value, without any advertising or marketing to push in new leads, but we’ve become an example that it can be done.
My main reason for moving forward is that I strongly believe it keeps you young.
I’ve been lucky to have some really talented friends over the years, and the ones I’ve watched grow have become happier and more successful, whereas the ones who have stopped have just sort of become......OLD.
Well obviously you become old regardless, my receding hairline and increasing crow’s feet around my eyes are evidence of that. But mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually I feel younger than ever pretty much every year.
I feel like this is SUPPOSED to be how it all works. You’re not supposed to become some shit talking bitter old man. You’re supposed to kick fucking ass and have a more fun life every year. There’s really no excuse for it to be otherwise -- but sometimes people just get bogged down by life and it "doesn't work out".
Obviously doing the same thing over and over would be holding myself back, so I’m going to continue to grow and challenge myself. Then we can have new sets of challenges and puzzles to figure out. I think I owe it to my team and the people around me, and if you’re given gifts and don’t cultivate them to add value then you’re going to have them taken from you -- that's one hundred percent for sure.
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So today I'm going to crack out a new video on the topic of holding onto a girl when you're first seeing eachother.
This topic has been sort of beaten to death over the years, but this video has A UNIQUE TWIST. :)
What you're going to see in here isn't just talking about the blatantly obvious idea that you need to maintain your own sense of self as you begin dating a girl, but what happens when you're at an ADVANCED LEVEL IN THE GAME and then the scarcity based "one-itis" hits you by surprise.
This is a funny one because when you haven't experienced it in a while it can really floor you. And the lessons you learn from it wind up taking your game to the next level.
Funny enough, if you follow what I'm saying in here, you can even wind up pulling the girl you've messed up with back in. This has actually happened to me where I've messed up with a girl, followed the instructions I reveal in here, and then she wound up back in my life.
CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW AND GAIN THE WISDOM FROM THIS, THIS IS SOMETHING YOU'LL DEFINITELY NEED IN YOUR ARSENAL IF YOU'RE GOING HARD IN THE GAME, SO GET READY FOR IT NOW...
Interesting stuff huh?
What's funny about this video is that most people watching it will halfway take it on board, but then hit a point where it becomes relevent to them and it's like, "OHHHH YEAH!!!! WHOOOOAAAA!!!"
I combined the vblog format with the seminar in the video because I had more to say on the topic and felt a bit inspired to expand on it. Please let me know how you liked it -- I probably wouldn't be inclined to do it again, but you never know.
One other thing btw -- the video is for people in the EARLY PHASES OF DATING before they've established a relationship.
I think I messed up in my communicatinon a bit in the video -- it somewhat comes across like I'm saying "If you don't have tons of hoes at ALL TIMES you sink into SCARCITY and you are FUCKED!!" Or even that EVEN IN A RELATIONSHIP you need to have tons of girls for your main chick not to leave you.
That's not what I meant at all, but it sort of came across like that. I only noticed this after uploading the video.
What I meant is that sometimes you meet that rare girl who is so attractive to you that she "knocks you off your perch" and you become overly attached as a bit of a fluke -- and then the GIRL hasn't experienced the same emotional attachment as you have, so she loses interest in you when she sees it happening.
So now you've stopped seeing other girls because you like her so much, and she doesn't feel the same way.
The way out of this is to take massive action, even if you don't want to. Hit it back up! After all, she's probably doing the same thing.
We're only human. The reality is that sometimes you just LOSE your sense of abundance -- even if you usually maintain it. It's no different than how even if you do meditation and stay present most of the time, you can still sink back into a "painbody attack" occassionally.
And if you're really experienced in the game this can really floor you. So these are the instructions on how to get back on track that I personally found really useful. In my case I wound up attracting the girl back into my life -- a girl who has so many guys hitting her up that it was really difficult to regain her attention after I'd lost it, but when the tables shifted back to abundance on my end she wound up making more effort than I did to get back together, etc. :)
You obviously do NOT need to maintain "abundance with women" your entire life. That would be pretty weird unless you run a company on the topic like I do. There's obviously other aspects to life that keep you in that "higher state of mind" when you've entered into a relationship -- it's simply the next phase in your life.
The main point of this video is to hammer home the vital importance of staying in that same state of mind that you were in when you first met the girl, and not to use her as a crutch to sink back into old weaker behaviours.
Stay abundant! Stay happy in your own reality! Stay appreciative of your own life!
It's YOUR movie. You want your movie to be so kick-ass that she's drawn into it. She should be the one tripping out, never ever YOU. Do this for her and she'll thank you by wanting to stick around.
Oh yeah and PS...:
There was another video blog I made a while back on a similar topic a while back if you want to explore it further.
If you want to really cement this topic I'd highly recommend giving it a lil click. :)
Okay you're good to go! ;)
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On another note, there was an post that some buddies and folks on the forum liked so I'll repost it here in case you didn't see it.
It's on the topic of using "failure as an anti-example" in order to get ahead. I really believe that modelling success is important because it provides a light at the end of the tunnel, but FAILURE is equally important because it gives you the bondaries to the narrow road you need to walk to keep moving forward.
This has been pretty key for me so check it out. It was in response to Utopia5's comment that there had been some bullshit in the forums in terms of people's attitudes and whatnot.
HERE IT IS.
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What you're seeing with any bad posts in the forum (it's not all bad your RAS is overly focusing on it at this exact second, but there's a lot of bullshit for sure...) is basically ANTI EXAMPLES.
This is actually one of the things that got me to become good at this: reading the whiny, pathetic, self limiting posts on forums for so many years gave me a roadmap for what not to do, what mental pitfalls to avoid, what behaviours are a waste of time, etc.
The anger you feel when reading this is actually not at the individuals writing it. It's at that PART OF YOURSELF that is a whiney self limiting little pussy, which begins to resonate with these types of posts for a second and then you write something like this to DETOX IT OUT OF YOURSELF. It's like your brain's immune system.
I remember when I was having my first kid it was by accident and a buddy of mine who had a kid spent an hour on the phone with me giving me a sob story about how 1) he couldn't make progress in his career because he had to raise his kid, and 2) there was no way I'd be able to be successful anymore now that I had a kid coming.
It was around an hour conversation and had some of the most hardcore limiting beliefs and EXCUSES I'd ever heard. Problem was this guy was my friend so it got a little bit too far into my system and made me doubt myself. I was sickened by it, absolutely fucken sickened.
Then I spent the next week writing this article...
That's funny because an average article takes me only a few minutes or maybe an hour, but this one took a week because it was like my brain's immune system detoxing from all the excuse-making bullshit I let into my system. I had to really "work out" what I actually believed and the article wound up being the springboard I used to find the motivation to do the crazy touring and grow the business while simultaneously dealing with the new pressure of having a kid.
I think that ANTI examples are equally important as examples.
Study failure. The guys who make posts about excuses and limiting beliefs, or who want to focus on small issues of little relevence, are FAILURES. They sick a fat dick in life. That doesn't mean that they won't improve but that's where they're currently at.
It's very real to them what they're saying. They feel it deeply. On the good side they may want someone to disagree with them and put them in check, but often it's just to reinforce their need not to take significant action. So study them and tap that toxic feeling to focus yourself on what you don't want to become.
To study only success creates optimism, sure, but it also makes you think that you can be unfocused and "everything will be okay" as long as you stay positive. It won't be. Books like Jim Collins "Great By Choice" talks about this rational paranoia that you need to maintain -- if you don't focus you'll be another fat dick sucking failure like the millions who have already existed. God hates pussies, God hates unfocused people, and God has given you the tools to manage yourself and become what you want to become. It's up to you what that's going to be.
The world will keep spinning either way and it's not really a big deal. But if you're gonna be ALIVE why not try to make something out of it? You've gotta laugh at yourself and not take things too seriously because nothing is ultimately serious, but if there's a game in front of you that's worth playing, you may as well give it a real shot and see what you can make of it. :)
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Alright so I'm out of here. Hope you enjoyed it!
The article was delayed this week due to uploading issues but I'll be back next Wednesday with some material from the San Francisco event I did with Jeff on the topics of 1) condom use (maybe the funniest video ever) and 2) building momentum (one of the most important videos ever).
It's going to be sweet!
From there I'll be returning home to prepare the launch of the Hot Seat 2. The promotional materials should be pretty bomb. And obviously the event itself is going to be OFF THE FUCKING HOOK.
Just absolutely loaded with value. Wait until you see this.
Let me know about your experiences "crawling out of scarcity" and what you've found helpful from the video. I want to know what's on your mind!!
Have fun I'll see you soon!
Tyler
PS: Brad Branson has up a kickas new video on his blog which is at... www.bradbranson.com
PPS: The Hot Seat 2 launch is going to feature new content that I'm shooting right now. I'm hoping so anyway, depending on how much time I have.
It's going to be a bit of a different style of launch than I've done in the past, and I think you'll enjoy it. Stay tuned. :)
