Rockin the lil pic of Jeff, Brad, and myself in Chicago last night.  Brad was drunk and pretty damned hilarious.

Anyway Jeff is hitting up his LAST UNITED STATES DATE for Free Tour and Hot Seat:  NEW YORK CITY!!

I'll be teaching the Free Tour and Bootcamp with Jeff (and Julien!) as well -- and a FREE FULL DAY SEMINAR ON SUNDAY for anyone who attends the Jeffy Hot Seat.  If you live in the USA (or anywhere in the world for that matter) and want to get a full two days of seminar for the price of one, hit up up the New York events.

New York Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp:  October 20 - 23, 2011

www.jeffyfreetour.com / www.jeffyhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

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Anyway I'm sitting here after a crazy weekend in Chicago on a Monday morning, about to shoot over to Boston for a corporate event and then off to New York!!

Autumn in NYC is always pretty amazing, so obviously very psyched. :)

I'm going to make today's article really short because I'm a lil underslept and got a lot going on.  I always figure that SOMETHING is better than NOTHING and a 15 minute video is pretty sweet so I'm just going to slam it up.

This is from the Honolulu Free Tour where I talked to a small audience about why PAIN is necessary to transform and succeed -- there's some very powerful ideas hidden in here you'll definitely want to see.

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO LEARN SECRETS ABOUT HOW VETERANS OF THE GAME THINK ABOUT PAIN AND TRANSLATE IT INTO MASSIVE SUCCESS...

This is a topic that's meant a LOT to me personally, and I hope you'll take these lessons on board.

Funny enough I have sooooo much sick video content coming out over the next few months I feel like this was the weakest out of the stash.  What did you think?

It was a small audience and they were a lil unresponsive (probably felt shy in a small group...) so I got it into my thick head that I was just going to hammer them with silliness and have fun whether they were or not.  In retrospect though I would've probably been a lil more relaxed and just related to them more on the level of where they were at.  There's a video I did on a similar topic actually that would've been more appropriate -- I'll post it below.

(Ultimately you LEARN by trying again and again and gathering experience right?  The video tracks my progress as a speaker -- and I'm sure you got some good value regardless...)

This is one of my fav vids I've recorded on the topic of the longterm journey -- check this out!



(I think this offers a cool expansion on the topic and makes for a good one-two punch...)

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I also posted a new article in the forum this week which if you haven't read you may want to check out.  It's also correlated to the videos so may as well post it here as well. :)

This is for anyone who isn't getting the results they want. For anyone who isn't pulling the type of girls they want to pull. For anyone who gets blown out way too much and goes home feeling bad.

You just CARE too much.

You GIVE A FUCK if the girl talks to you.

It would make you feel GOOD if she'd just be NICE.

And DAMMIT you're going out to meet girls and what's wrong with that? Why can't people just be friendly to one another? Why can't people treat one another with respect?

Here's why...

It's not like YOU are going up to all these physically UNATTRACTIVE girls and wanting them to like you. You're going up to HOT girls and wanting them to like you. THEREFORE YOU ARE NO BETTER THAN THE GIRL WHO BLOWS YOU OFF BECAUSE YOU'RE RESPONDING TOWARDS VALUE AS WELL. So stop being all mad and taking it personally that girls aren't nice to you because everyone just does what they do and there's no need to judge it -- simply make the choice to become happy in your own skin.

Girls (fully unconsciously...not consciously AT ALL...) want the guy who is already getting laid, already has tons of girls chasing him, needs absolutely nothing from her. Yeah he's attracted to her and thinks she's hot but ultimately he really doesn't give a fuck -- there's just too many hot girls and he's overstimulated and oversexed regardless.

The fact that you CARE if she talks to you or not signals to her that you aren't one of those guys. You're the guy who is NOT getting laid by hot girls. You're the guy who OTHER GIRLS DO NOT LIKE AND THEREFORE *SHE* SHOULD NOT LIKE.

So how do you stop?

Build social momentum, lifestyle momentum, and sex life momentum.

If you're a newbie who SUCKS because YOU CARE if girls are nice to you........then you may wanna start SMALL and then BUILD IT UP over time.

Go out and make out with a cute fat girl who is willing. It's easy just walk up and start yammering away as you put your face close to her, she'll giggle that you're doing it, and keep trying to make out with her as you blather away and she giggles until she's cool with it.

It may not be something to write home about, but let's be real here, if you're a newbie who isn't pulling girls you'll feel a boost in your emotional state.

Then use that to make you not give a fuck on a girl who is a lil more attractive. Make out with her too. Then use this emotional state to NOT CARE as you go around the venue talking to lots of people, and BECAUSE YOU DO NOT CARE people will start being a lot nicer to you because they respond to the "high value" of you "just being yourself" -- ie: having your own fun and not giving a fuck.

As the night progresses keep building up your emotional state. And because you've built your own emotional state you simply DO NOT CARE. All you want to do is have so much fun and amuse yourself, talk to lots of fun people, have a great time.

Then go up to the hottest girl in the club. Do exactly what you did on the fat girl and okay cutie girls. Makeout with her too. Yell and scream at her. Say "You're done get the fuck out of here! You're done in this town get the fuck out!" Then let her walk away confused and pull her back "Fight for me girl! I'm worth it! Don't have an ego about this! Fight for me!"

Take her to the corner and makeout with her more, stimulate her if she's okay with it and seems to like it, then drag her home and fuck. Do this every single night for a month with varying degrees of success -- sometimes you ride the wave of awesomeness and pull a few nights in a row, sometimes you hit a rough patch because as your self image starts to view you as this new awesome guy with girls you START TO CARE AGAIN AND THEREFORE SUCK.

Use this momentum building in your life as well. Build up your body and health and feel more and more awesome. Build up what you're doing at work so you feel more and more awesome. Do meditation every day and feel amazing and more amazing. Have fun and have fun friends, date the girls you want to date, read great books and enjoy life.

As you do this more and more, you build ABUNDANCE and therefore are a ROBUST individual as opposed to a FRAGILE one who posts threads on RSD Nation about how you can't get laid and you think it's because you're depressed or because of your looks. Keep working at it until you get it. Don't worry if you hit a rough patch just allow yourself to go through it and allow it to help you lose your attachment to people being nice to you. Then as you continue on it just gets better and better, and now you can offer value to OTHER PEOPLE because your'e just a cooler individual who is happy in his own skin and who people love and respect.

Over time you realize.......it doesn't even matter if you're getting laid a lot or not because that will come and go, but you can feel the sense of abundance and inner happiness just by being present to the moment and feeling the joy of this brief life. And then you no longer rely on this type of momentum as much. In the meantime though study the articles and videos RSD puts out and all that, and take massive action simultaneously to build up the shit out of your personal momentum -- keep improving at the ART of ENJOYING LIFE.

Try it!! Have fun!! Let me know what you think!!

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Anyway keep your eyes open for some pretty amazing stuff I have coming over the coming months.

Austin, Atlanta, San Francisco, Los Angeles, and Chicago Free Tours.  A few of my corporate speaches.  Video blogs shot in various cool spots I've been fortunate to visit.  There's been a LOT going on!!

I'm really psyched about these and it's going to take things to the next level.  Miss you guys in Los Angles I'll see you soon!!  Hit me up in Hawaii at the end of the month if you have time to join.

And let me know what you think of the video as well!!  Did you gain any new perspective?  What similar experiences have you had?  I want to know!!

Tyler

PS:  Again I'll be teaching the Free Tour and Bootcamp with Jeff as well -- and a FREE FULL DAY SEMINAR ON SUNDAY for anyone who attends the Jeffy Hot Seat. If you live in the USA (or anywhere in the world for that matter) and want to get a full two days of seminar for the price of one, hit up up the New York event.

New York Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp: October 20 - 23, 2011

www.jeffyfreetour.com / www.jeffyhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com