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(World Summit is coming this August 2nd in Las Vegas.  If you suspect that a week of full immersion into pickup in the city of sin would be both massively fun and change your life forever, click over to www.rsdworldsummit.com)

Hey there, happy Monday fucken morning.

I've just uploaded this recent video which I recorded from my apartment in Hawaii the other evening.  It's on the topic of how the new Eminem album "Recovery" relates to the game.

Click this video right now and watch it very carefully.

The secret of how guys who are the absolute best in the game get girls to like them by "unleashing the barrage of awesomeness" will become immediately clear after watching it.



btw something I sort of failed to make clear in this video is that the WAY that you do this is with the ability to "carry a conversation regardless of the other person's responses".

That does NOT mean that you don't expect her to talk, and force it by creating vacuums.  And it doesn't mean that you're a dancing monkey.

Rather it means that you have to be so utterly in the moment and AMUSED by the unexpected and AWESOME things that flow out of your mouth, that her participation is just something to bounce off of, and not entirely needed.  The party is with you *regardless*.

I'll go into this in future blogs.  In the meantime, let me know what insights you've gained here, and how you'd relate it to your existing experiences.

Tyler

PS:  Here's a video I recorded a while back in Vegas about how to lock down a sweet place to stay for cheap at the World Summit.  If you haven't seen it yet, watch it right now as well.



If you're coming to Vegas, I'll see you there!!
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#1
Caligula

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Dude at 3:42 you raised your left eyebrow in a way that looks really beta.

Hurr durr I pwned Tyler, Caligula ftw
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eminem>all
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Cool vid

Some nice points are made here.

I think one needs to be careful with this hole irreverent/leading the frame/having the stronger sense of reality. All good concepts but some guys go way overboard, to the point that instead of drawing your audience in the actually push them away. (a speaker I heard this year) Its like they're over compensate for a lack of_____and come out looking like there trying to do something which funnily enough makes you look like your "trying" obnoxious.

I personally believe one can come from a place were integrity, standard, fun, not caring others think, respect for others are all in place yet, you communicate from a place of ease. 

The 13th verse in the Tao is great. In fact the hole Tao is money, Lao tzu was on some real shit!

Keep it up dude,
Peace. 
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Cool vid. I really like the pick up is fun frame. Being free of outcome and having intent. It is like you guys get closer and closer to conveying the true core of what this pick is all about.
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take a tube for me bro, but do it headstandingly to set yourself apart from this
boring standard surfer dudes (prly a situation where u don't want to break the
barrage though)
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You using a new shampoo or something?  (no homo)
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Tyler, great vid thanks.

What are some practical steps towards this mindset?

How do you train your mind to not give any importance to the responses coming from the other person?
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The party is right here and you can ether CUM or NOT CUM
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 Tylr you said that we should suck  the girl  to own worlds. But how we do this? 
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Every time you think your night 'should' be going good, remind yourself of this sheet.
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you start by not doing that - I mean, the moment you say you must something, it is because you want something, not because you like to do something. If you want to "suck girl to your own world" in order to get the girl, it means you are reacting to her, you are changing for her, you are adapting yourself and looking for feedback from her whether it is working or not, because you think in order to get succesfull you have to suck a girl into your reality.

but that is not true - it is more like, girls get sucked in your reality as a by-product of what you are doing. it is a sign you are doing well, not a tactic to get you going. all you need to do is to be unreactive and express from the core. the last is sometimes difficult to do as you are tempted to react to all sorts of things. you get tempted by things you desire, things you desire outside yourself - like a girls reaction, needing validation or attention, etc.

this is why self-amusement is like key in expressing yourself truely. if you immediatly amuse yourself, then the reaction is irrelevant - this makes you unreactive (but not unresponsive). i hope you also can see the link with irreverence and being unapolagetic...
Noronha wrote:
 Tylr you said that we should suck  the girl  to own worlds. But how we do this? 

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markzor wrote:
you start by not doing that - I mean, the moment you say you must something, it is because you want something, not because you like to do something. If you want to "suck girl to your own world" in order to get the girl, it means you are reacting to her, you are changing for her, you are adapting yourself and looking for feedback from her whether it is working or not, because you think in order to get succesfull you have to suck a girl into your reality.

but that is not true - it is more like, girls get sucked in your reality as a by-product of what you are doing. it is a sign you are doing well, not a tactic to get you going. all you need to do is to be unreactive and express from the core. the last is sometimes difficult to do as you are tempted to react to all sorts of things. you get tempted by things you desire, things you desire outside yourself - like a girls reaction, needing validation or attention, etc.

this is why self-amusement is like key in expressing yourself truely. if you immediatly amuse yourself, then the reaction is irrelevant - this makes you unreactive (but not unresponsive). i hope you also can see the link with irreverence and being unapolagetic...
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 Tylr you said that we should suck  the girl  to own worlds. But how we do this? 


Ok, so, the key is  self-amusement and unreactive? 
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 Eminem has always been something of a role model for me, since his crazy drug maniac days to his more mature persona now. The key is evolving while retaining the essential core. This album really struck a chord with me especially the track with rihanna since I just broke up with my gf. 

:'(
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yes, self-amusement means you do things to amuse yourself - you do things that you like; the enjoyment is in the action itself, not in the reaction you get.

a key feeling is: enjoyment, happiness, careless, amusement, laughing, having fun.

unreactive means freedom of outcome, you get this by being free of desire. there is no time for desire if you immediatly enjoy what you are doing. there is time to feel desire if you are hoping for a certain outcome (i.e. reaction). 

a key feeling to look for is: not worried, at ease, comfortable, relaxed, not stressed, happy. taking your time, feeling in control of yourself, not wanting anything.
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Liked this alot. Yea it probably applies to cold approaching but actually I think it's even more important for day to day life. stuff like school, work, friends, family and so on. This is gonna decide if you are the social conditioner or you are the social conditioned.

pretty inspiring stuff, I think this will help me when I go back to school to.

cheers sky
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brad said it in his previous blog; some people are constantly trying to be nice and adjusting themselves to other persons, and while at the surface it would seem nice and a good thing to do, there is something not to be trusted about these people. Because you do not know what they actually feel and think. Because, why would somebody adjust themselves for you? What do they want? Who is the true person behind this cameleon?

and people may at first not like what you say, but in the long-term staying true to yourself has much more value than adjusting to fit other peoples needs. First of all, you think for yourself. Second of all, your happiness is contagious - other people will enjoy it too. Third of all, it shows honesty and integrety, which is someting people respect. Fourth of all, enjoying yourself regardless of what people think of you, being unphased by other peoples reactions because you know what you do is right because you have the best of intentions, that gives a person strength and power that can be admired. Not everybody is able to find happiness in its actions alone instead of other peoples reactions.
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markzor wrote:
yes, self-amusement means you do things to amuse yourself - you do things that you like; the enjoyment is in the action itself, not in the reaction you get.

a key feeling is: enjoyment, happiness, careless, amusement, laughing, having fun.

unreactive means freedom of outcome, you get this by being free of desire. there is no time for desire if you immediatly enjoy what you are doing. there is time to feel desire if you are hoping for a certain outcome (i.e. reaction). 

a key feeling to look for is: not worried, at ease, comfortable, relaxed, not stressed, happy. taking your time, feeling in control of yourself, not wanting anything.
markzor, i have other problem. Its my wing. 
he is prettier than me so the girls pay more attention to him, touch him more, talk more with him. Thats my big problem these days
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Noronha wrote:





markzor wrote:
yes, self-amusement means you do things to amuse yourself - you do things that you like; the enjoyment is in the action itself, not in the reaction you get.

a key feeling is: enjoyment, happiness, careless, amusement, laughing, having fun.

unreactive means freedom of outcome, you get this by being free of desire. there is no time for desire if you immediatly enjoy what you are doing. there is time to feel desire if you are hoping for a certain outcome (i.e. reaction). 

a key feeling to look for is: not worried, at ease, comfortable, relaxed, not stressed, happy. taking your time, feeling in control of yourself, not wanting anything.
markzor, i have other problem. Its my wing. 
he is prettier than me so the girls pay more attention to him, touch him more, talk more with him. Thats my big problem these days

first you post a off topic vid strikingly similar to alex's (same songs too lmao).  and now you're derailing tylers thread.  cmon ..
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subx wrote:



first you post a off topic vid strikingly similar to alex's (same songs too lmao).  and now you're derailing tylers thread.  cmon ..

hahaha just 1 song brow, wtf? 
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 That cd is fucking awesome, and definitely feeling the "barrage of awesomeness"
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Insights I got here?

I'm on a Seth Godin reading spree. Finished Linchpin, which is awesome and he even talks about Resistance and the lizard brain, and read The Dip today (it's only 80 pages long).

There's something about doing your own thing that just communicates all of the right things, whether you're a company working for some market share or a guy trying to get a girl.

There's even a little tidbit about the difference between the reaction of a market and a person. If you try again and again to sell something (he's a marketer) to a specific prospect, after a while each try will only make him hate your persistency more. There's a fine line called calibration, in pickup.

When it comes to markets, dripping keeps slowly adding up, and the tale about Google is amazingly cool.
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#23
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The song with Eminem and Lil Wayne was aweful.

And I can relate to what Tyler says. I little.
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#24
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I love the Russell Brand "Forgetting Sarah Marshall" Jimmy Kimmel Live episode, Tyler,
Russell overcomes barrages of little shit tests and scools Jimmy like a retard. Jimmy.
I wanna see you in set, How can we make your audience that big you get to do your attract stage
to millions of viewing women? Well, Im glad your just a "regular guy" like us, on our month
long vacation beach front in Hawaii, having hot girlfriend sex...

Seriously like your just sitting across from me on the deck, although too much green in the video, but great content!
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HEY TD!

Here's something that made me woke up from sleep to write this here:


I had this girl (which is in this pic of my profile) who I MOST LOVE in my life. (maybe is bcoz even I saying that I WOULDN'T wanna make out / get lady with her, she grab me in a Tango dance style and then kiss me and we both fall on the ground kissing wildly)

So.. from that, every time when I was at her house, during the time she says things like "NO / I DON'T WANNA GO OUT / ETCETC" but... when as we chat, SHE OPENS UP.

Its almost Ridiculous. I get an bad mood from the begginig and later I had the most cool reactions (not bcoz I wanna provoken them expecting for it, but bcoz it was naturally happening)

And I was in this situation. EVERY TIME that I was going to see her, we go throug the same process over and over and oooover. I said to he

C'MON!!!!!!!!!!! EVERY TIME I HAVE TO DO THIS?! IT'S LIKE THAT MOVIE



*damn... every time i saw this movie on tv i remember her ;o

And then the same process again.

This was back in 2008.

NOW I evolve pretty much

and I hit this plateu: I have girls repeating those stupid jokes that I do, saying that remember me coz they saw somebody saying comon things that i turn into jokes (things like 'hun?' in portuguese "HEIN!?" in a dork voice - it's awesome do jokes with comon words, coz they always remember you ;D)

etc and I have literally GROUP of girls imitating my jokes / having the reaction when I call to them "OOOOH ITS YOU!"


BUT!!!!!


NO


KISSS!



GOD DAMN IT!

I have great physycal contact. Even girls KNOWS that i gonna get they boobs in a non bizarre needy way, but no kiss.

Any ideias?

I saw you asking for feedbacks and how this video afects us... Dont make people put theyr experiences here for nothing ;]
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 yeah, this is so true. I love the whole "being unapologetic"-thing. SO POWERFUL. And CRUCIAL especially for artists, athletes, etc.

That hammering away, just BAM BAM BAM. 
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jlaix wrote:
 Eminem has always been something of a role model for me, since his crazy drug maniac days to his more mature persona now. The key is evolving while retaining the essential core. This album really struck a chord with me especially the track with rihanna since I just broke up with my gf. 

:'(
you mean the demon inside him?
that's how i see it.
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That's absolutely hilarious. Same thing happened to me when I bought it. I listened to the first 5 songs and I'm like "god I hope this gets better".

Then I got to "Almost Famous" (track 14) and the only thing I can think is "siiiiiiiiiick". Best song on the album by far.
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Matt281 wrote:
That's absolutely hilarious. Same thing happened to me when I bought it. I listened to the first 5 songs and I'm like "god I hope this gets better".

Then I got to "Almost Famous" (track 14) and the only thing I can think is "siiiiiiiiiick". Best song on the album by far.
Music fans are familiar with albums that ‘grow on you.
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#30

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No disrespect, but this video is boring as hell. Nothing interesting, sorry if I bother anyone in here. After Blueprint Decoded and Flawless Natural there is nothing left to be said. Tyler you can retire now, knowing that you changed and improved the life of a lot of guys all over the world.
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Dr. Climax wrote:
No disrespect, but this video is boring as hell. Nothing interesting, sorry if I bother anyone in here. After Blueprint Decoded and Flawless Natural there is nothing left to be said. Tyler you can retire now, knowing that you changed and improved the life of a lot of guys all over the world.
When you love your job and love what you do?  Do you think he is not learning anymore? 
Dude, this world is too big to discovery, an too big to say "stop" 


Never stop dudde. 
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Noronha wrote:

Dr. Climax wrote:
No disrespect, but this video is boring as hell. Nothing interesting, sorry if I bother anyone in here. After Blueprint Decoded and Flawless Natural there is nothing left to be said. Tyler you can retire now, knowing that you changed and improved the life of a lot of guys all over the world.
When you love your job and love what you do?  Do you think he is not learning anymore? 
Dude, this world is too big to discovery, an too big to say "stop" 


Never stop dudde. 
that`s true. good point of view.
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 Oh I wasn`t being negative by the way. didn`t mean it. 
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nery nice talk.u were the shit this time. cool, relaxed .. bravo tyler

''the key is always evolving while retaining the essential core''
jlaix
 
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Caligula wrote:
Dude at 3:42 you raised your left eyebrow in a way that looks really beta.

Hurr durr I pwned Tyler, Caligula ftw

Wow! Extremely lame comment.. And I heard good things about caligula too..
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jlaix wrote:
 Eminem has always been something of a role model for me, since his crazy drug maniac days to his more mature persona now. The key is evolving while retaining the essential core. This album really struck a chord with me especially the track with rihanna since I just broke up with my gf. 

:'(

Yea.. heard you've been trying to "bang through the pain"

sweet!
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My favourite track is talkin to myself. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VT-ELvgEWAc 
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#38

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Tyler, doesn't this become a solipsism? I kinda like it; I have recently started turning off the lights of any room whenever I leave, cuz why waste the electricity..

Jeffy, my ex gf name is Rehana, and we just broke up! I thnk you n I are like third cousins in some parallel universe!
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Everywhere I look for the definition of IRREVERENT it says a lack of respect???  Is that what you mean by the keys to the kingdom Tyler?
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#41

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Damn I can't view this video from my friends iPhone. You guys should take to consideration that flash is not available for iPhone apparently. Also it's a bit more of and edge in you effort to reach people cause it's so portable. Btw I'm loving these videos they are really teaching me things and I feel I'm understanding some concepts much better gestalt.
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Barrage of awesomess... true that.

I would consider that initial judgement which posed resistance to this awesomeness as that is a cloudy perception which would be fucking up your game.

A clear mind... if it has taken you this long to realise this album is the shit... how many girls do you look straight past who pack exactly what you are looking for? Heads in the clouds with a mind full of judgement...

Self delusion is a good start to get to the space of not needing validation. Another place to start is to actually have a purpose greater than picking up girls so that the judgement of individuals becomes insignificant. If you are actually just an empty vessel without any kind of purpose here.. well, you can self delude yourself all the way to be the barrage of awesomeness but it will last all of 3 seconds.

Eminem has clocked up 100's of thousands of hours in rapping and lyric writing. He's got his topics, doesn't he? Homophobism... hating... mutated sex... the sadness of his childhood... etc etc... So he can bring the barrage because he has mastered his topics. You can't fake that. Don't try to - you will been seen through unless you are picking up a mutant.

Keep in mind, everybody is the best at something. Figure that out. Who are you. What are #1 at. Don't try to be #1 at something you more than likely never will be as you will burn out.
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 Hey Tyler that's for the reminder.

I'll be in Vegas next year, so I'll meet you there.

The two speaches that you did for the Secret audiences and Enterpriers Sumit. Is anyone selling those? Do you have a copy of them? If so would you sell them too?

Question about those audience you said that you put a vibe where it was opsite to approval seeking but I'm pretty sure they already approved from the bigging, how do you know they didn't approve in the begenning?
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I liked this video and the way you presented it Tyler.

I'm starting to understand these concepts a LOT more since I started going out consistently. some nights, i experience this and think of meeting girls like messing with my little sister or something. i'll be plowing for a while and she may find it annoying or whatever, but i find it funny and keep going, and eventually she gives in. 

it's a lot easier to get into this mode when i go out with a positive wing. like someone I can joke around with about our sets/blowouts cause i really stop caring about the girl's reaction and just focus on having a good time. but its kinda paradoxical cause i still have to keep in the back of my mind my sticking points and what im working on that night, but it makes everything 10 times more fun.

its harder for me to get in this mode when im going out solo. i can still do mostly everything technically correct, but just feel like i'm not having as much fun and that comes through my subcommunications when im talking to a girl.

anyone else have this sticking point and did you just overcome it by going out by yourself instead of going out with a shitty wing?
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#45

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I've been a huge Em fan since SSLP, but honestly, Eminem has always been a reaction seeker. At his best, he's pushing buttons effortlessly, getting under everyone's skin in a way that almost seems an unintentional byproduct of the raw emotion he needs to share. At his worst, he's just desperate for attention, desperate to be hated or considered controversial again. This was of course at its worst with Encore and Relapse... like he was a guy in the club over-hitting a girl with ridiculous negs with the hopes that she will at least act scandalized for a second. He's never really "just not given a fuck".

And then he uses his jaw-dropping talent at rapping to dig himself out of his trench. Great, but this feels kind of like the band-aid over the gaping wound. Maybe Recovery means he's realized a lot of this shit and is fixing his inner game.
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