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Hey there, before video awesomeness, cool stuff coming up...

1- Prepping for Phoenix -- running my last RSD event there for at least a year (if not ever as I'm being pulled in many directions right now) February 10, 11, 12.  The first event is the Free Tour on Thursday at 6PM, and then Brad and I will be running the Bootcamp and Hot Seat the same weekend as well.

(Note:  there's one slot left on the program -- Phoenix at this time of year is absolutely amazing in terms of weather and women, and I highly recommend that you take advantage while I'm still doing these.  www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com)

2- Jeffy's book "Get Laid Or Die Trying" is coming March 29th.  The pre-sale price on Amazon is only $12.88.  Check out the page at:  http://www.amazon.com/Get-Laid-Die-Trying-Reports/dp/1451620896/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1296532088&sr=8-1

3- Brad's blog is still kicking ass, with new content going up almost daily.  Check it out at www.bradbranson.com.

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Hey there, hope your life is looking good.

I'm at the internet cafe and want to slam this out fast before shooting off to the gym.

I've got a new video today which is maybe the most important I'll ever post.  This is content that I'll probably talk about in a book at some point, but I haven't put out on video up until now.

The second segment is deceptively simple yet I absolutely rely on it -- it's LITERALLY how I get into the zone 100% of the time I go out.

("Consistency-wise" my own results have exploded beyond what I thought was possible in the past 18 months.  These are the paradigms with how I've done it -- please pay close attention to this video and watch it more than once, then implement.)

CLICK THE LINK RIGHT NOW TO CHANGE YOUR GAME....



This event was a bit bigger than a typical Free Tour, so you probably noticed my speaking style is aimed at the larger audience.

That last "East L.A." video was shot in a warehouse in the hood for like 12 guys (an event I did for my buddy Jared off the cuff) so that was more face to face, whereas this was for around 120 and included the head honchos from a monster company looking at possibly doing a joint-venture with RSD.  I really enjoyed this talk and may release the entire thing along with a book later in the year.

It's interesting keeping my motivation up between cities.  I remember reading a book by Michael Jordan called "Driven From Within" where he talked about the challenge of performing at that high level, night after night.  He said that he'd play games with his head, like imagining a young kid who spent his money to see Jordan only that one time.

In my case I go in there guns blazing on every Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp.  I want to build on every previous event, making the next one better.

It's crazy to think I've been teaching bootcamps nearly every weekend for the past two years.  These are small programs with only 3 students, or 6 if I have another instructor like Jeffy or Brad.  Nonetheless I teach them like I'm speaking to a 1000 person audience -- full passion, full intensity, from the beginning to the end.

I got back into teaching bootcamps two years ago because I could see how much it was benefiting the crew being out all the time.  I realized that it was the amount of time they spent hitting up girls in clubs that was making them so charismatic (this probably sounds too simple to be true, and yet, that's really the major factor that's been doing it -- along with just getting older and more centered).

It took a while to dawn on me, but I realized that that was the root of my power as a person -- I was a little bitch before the game, and it was the game that made me who I am.  So going back into the game was getting back to the core of what made my shit tight back in the day.

The past two years I've consistently improved -- both teaching and demo's wise.  I tend to explode for about 6 week periods where it gets crazier and crazier, then a week or two where it goes down by maybe 20%, and then it blows back up on the continual growth-curve for another six weeks.

My favorite part has been the JOURNEY.  I still learn so much in the game, it's insane.  What people don't realize about the journey is that you always want more, you always want to do better. My desire to do better has only gotten more intense over the years, not less.

Every part of the journey teaches something new.  But more importantly, every part of the journey teaches you the thing that you NEED TO LEARN.  All the things I've learned in the game in the past two years were things I couldn't imagine going through life without knowing -- it might have taken 30 hours a week in the field over 104 weeks to learn these things, BUT IT WAS WORTH IT.

The same phenomenon has happened with my diet and getting ripped.  Each 10 pounds I've lost has required me to learn something new about my habits.

-205 to 190 was being able to walk again, since I was so fat I couldn't walk or hike very much.

-190 to 175 was exchanging breads, pastas, and ultra sugar loaded desserts for a lot of fruits (I still lost a ton of weight just switching up to boatloads of fruit because it was earlier in the diet).

-175 to 165 was learning to sprint and do high intensity exercises again.

-165 to 155 came from adding in spices, sunlight, supplements, more outdoor FUN in general, and cutting down from massive amounts of fruits to regular amounts plus vegetables.

-155 to 145 was from adding in probiotic foods and loading up on green vegetables, and then eating more protein based meals.  More importantly, it was from mastering "willpower" and "pre-planning" my meals.  Learning all about my weakness points where I'd crack on the diet and how to prevent them.

-145 to 138 has recently come from closely monitoring my cortisol levels, sleeping more, and just eating literally pure health.

**Note that this is off the top of my head, I'd have a more accurate account if I thought about it.

Anyway it was at 205 that I got so sick at one point, my body started attacking itself.  That was the big "clue" to me that I had to do something about my weight.  Obviously I didn't really care, after nights after nights of mauling girls and getting told "You're so hot" several times a night as a fat guy -- it was pure hilarious.  But I knew this was something I had to do as a personal standard.

Now in the process of doing this I NEVER get sick (as in never, ever), and that's while I've been travelling 10 days a month for over a year, sometimes working over 20 hours days.

I've also probably removed all shit that would cause cancer / heart disease / diabetes later in life, my mental focus has exploded, and I've become more naturally "present to the moment" because my brain's neurotransmitters are all jacked up on good food.

My TASTES have changed.  I used to wonder why mother nature made healthy food taste bad, but now I taste more sweetness in a blueberry or carrot than I ever did in an expensive restaurant's chocolate cake.

Most important of all, however, is the willpower I've learned over the journey.  I've learned about myself in so many ways in order to do this, I could never imagine life without it.

I'm GLAD that I got fat and had to lose the weight.  Why??  Because the JOURNEY was so damned cool.

IMAGINE IF I JUST GOT RIPPED AND *WASN'T* FORCED TO BECOME ACTIVE AGAIN, SPRINT, HIKE, EAT AWESOME TASTING FOOD, FORCE MYSELF TO RELAX AND LOWER CORTISOL, LEARN WILLPOWER, ETC??

Well with the journey of getting good with girls -- because it's something I specialized in at a very high level -- it's probably been about 100X as intense as the diet journey that I've just described.  Success with women has got to be the coolest topic I have ever come across in my life, and that's as an avid reader of about 3 books a week.

The rabbit hole in success with women is endless, it just keeps getting more and more fun every year.  I really can't describe the benefits from it in words, other than to say that the true fun in life doesn't come from the "lifestyle" that you achieve but the "person who you become".

Living in your own damned skin is really the only true happiness in life.  The other shit just sort of comes and goes -- flows by from positive to negative, to positive and negative again.  It's who you are as a person that grounds the whole experience and makes it ALL seem cool.

Anyway I realize that the whole topic is tough for a lot of guys, which is also why you see these ridiculous "looks matter" threads pop up every other week.  Seeing a funny looking guy like me out kicking ass really reminds you that if you're not kicking ass as well, IT'S YOUR OWN DAMNED FAULT.

Jeffy put out a video recently called the "Good Looks Monologue" where, as a 5'7 funny looking guy, he straight up proves that you can get good at this.  I mean, yeah you can nit-pick it on this or that, but the damned thing has clips of him banging in it.



Funny enough this provoked the most angry responses on Youtube of any video I've seen.  Thats how I knew....the video is SICK. :)

(I always know my shit is high quality when people freak out and say it sucks.  Emotional reaction = their blind spots are being removed, and they're scrambling to put them back on.)

Let me ask you, do YOU have blind spots on?  What excuses do you tell yourself about why you can't have the exact dating and sex life that you want?

And another question while we're at it -- do YOU feel this need to SKIP the journey and go straight to the finish line?  Why don't you want to enjoy the journey?  Do you really want to stay as the same stagnant person you are now, but just have girls as well?

Fuuuuuck that, amigos.  The fun of going out and romping every night is too much to pass up.  It's like being in a damned orgy in the club, getting it on with many girls a night and then taking a girl home, while simultaneously learning shitloads about yourself that you couldn't learn in any other way.

This is like liquid gold from heaven in my mind.  I couldn't imagine life being any cooler.

Anyway what I've ultimately found is that it's the journey and who you become that's the juice of life, and ultimately the "goal" that you shoot at is simply the driving force for the awesomeness.

Me and my buddy Julien decided to take on the goal of getting "Rich, Ripped, and In The Zone" by the Miami South Beach model season bootcamp that's coming up (www.modelseasonbootcamp.com -- if you're curious about it).

Julien's goal was to get a good job, workout, and do meditation every day between now and then.  It was hard because California has high unemployment and his finances were totally fucked, as well as his health which has been a nagging problem for him.

My goal was to finish a book for beginner's on pickup, finish the diet once and for all, and do meditation as well.  That way I could go into Miami shirtless, relaxed, and knowing that I did something great for RSD which would allow me to relax on the workload for a bit.

Notice that life is good EVEN WITHOUT ALL THIS.  It's not like I need to be running around shirtless in Miami in order to enjoy my life (although obviously it doesn't hurt, eh?).  None of this is a point of feeling dissatisfied or ungrateful for where you're at.

Rather it's the fun of taking on a challenge that forces you to learn things about yourself in terms of personal discipline, pushing through comfort zones, and living on the edge.  The challenge has been a lot of fun and I know we'll both reap a lifetime of benefits from it -- even if we didn't accomplish our goals.

That, to me, is the fun of the damned journey.  Stop to smell the roses folks, this shit is meant to be tough, challenging, and yet fucken COOL and FUN.

I hope that this article, as well as the video which I feel is very important, will offer some good insights for you.  And like Jeffy's "Good Looks Monologue" I even hope that this article maybe freaks a few people out and gets them kinda mad (Angry and skeptical comments welcome!  Just promise me you'll hit up a Free Tour and check out the real deal if you're gonna freak out!)

I wrote this off the top of my head in about 15 mins and have little time for editing, but I was thinking you guys would probably prefer a hastily written article than none at all.  Hope you've enjoyed it.  Let me know what you think.

Tyler


PS:  Phoenix is FULL GO!  Weekend of Feb 10 - 12.  If you're in that neck of the woods, BE THERE.  www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

PPS:  Jeffy's book!  So excited to see this happen.  To get it for 12 bucks check out:

http://www.amazon.com/Get-Laid-Die-Trying-Reports/dp/1451620896/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1296532088&sr=8-1
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#1

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Tyler, you are such a great role model.

Best article you've writen. The best shit are spontaneous aren't they? :)

“The major value in life is not what you get. The major value in life is what you become”        - Jim Rohn
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The last half of the video and what you write about is ultimately the same thing. Enjoying the process.

I would buy a book written by you on that topic!
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 138 pounds? Haha you little bitch.
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"Rather it's the fun of taking on a challenge that forces you to learn things about yourself in terms of personal discipline, pushing through comfort zones, and living on the edge."

such a good post.
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Great video, you are radiating a powerful aura Owen.

This concept is mind-blowing. The seemingly 'high risk' approach IS the low risk. Blowing the doors off the whole thing by allowing yourself to be CREATIVE. Risks involve creativity.

Which connects to the most potent message --->  Human interaction is mysterious, beautiful, intriguing, and spontaneous: an ART. Art needs risk to be effective. Being social becomes more riveting when you ride the wave and make moves rather than sitting idly or making low risk feeble attempts.

Take music for example. People don't like boring, predictable music. They want to FEEL something by listening to it. Something NEW. Something captivating. Authentic. Think of your favorite artists/groups....I bet they provide something thats just so unique and fresh to you. The sound might be considered risky -- you probably know some people who don't like them at all, even though you LOVE them.....it's natural. Taking risks in music ....or painting, dj-ing, martial arts, and writing for that matter....taking risks in art is only way to make a lasting impression.    Sure. Those who don't like the risk may appall the art.... but the rest of the audience who appreciates the art is HOOKED, loyal, eager, gracious, and accomodating.

Take this beyond art. I'd argue even RSD as a company is an example of this. They take pretty high risks with their content -- a low risk company probably wouldn't promote a guy who drives a rape van with girl-stickers on the back which signify the number of girls he's fornicated within -- but RSD would, and they're the largest company in the biz, with the tightest community.

LOW RISK in art is just....boring . You won't LOSE anything, but there's not much to GAIN either. And although nobody will hate it, no one will love it, recommend it, or ever seek it out again.
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Agree with the first two commenters. One of the best articles I've ever read. Fuck that, one of the best things I've ever read, period. Straight up.
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radegast wrote:
 138 pounds? Haha you little bitch.
I'd like to see you call this man a little bitch... he's about 140 if i recall correctly

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Going to fucking miss this guy. Tyler, like 4 and a half years back, first day on the forum, you're the guy that told me I shouldn't be following a method that holds me back. You're the first dude that made me take a solid look at myself instead of the environment. You're the guy that set this entire process of massive change, growth, challenges and contribution in me in motion.

I read some field reports and topics that I wrote about back when I started and I can't even believe that was me.

Grateful for all the change you caused mate, I'm sure you dont even realize the scale and depth that it reaches. Just a little reminder.

- Luv Jack-Stripper
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Whoa man, I can't wait for Chicago!

Tight fucken video, jeffy's shit is fucken hilarious.
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Thanks alot Tyler
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Tyler wrote:
[/b]Do you really want to stay as the same stagnant person you are now, but just have girls as well?
Tyler wrote:

Fuuuuuck that, amigos.  The fun of going out and romping every night is too much to pass up.  It's like being in a damned orgy in the club, getting it on with many girls a night and then taking a girl home, while simultaneously learning shitloads about yourself that you couldn't learn in any other way.

This is like liquid gold from heaven in my mind.  I couldn't imagine life being any cooler.


Anyway what I've ultimately found is that it's the journey and who you become that's the juice of life, and ultimately the "goal" that you shoot at is simply the driving force for the awesomeness.



Notice that life is good EVEN WITHOUT ALL THIS.   None of this is a point of feeling dissatisfied or ungrateful for where you're at.

Rather it's the fun of taking on a challenge that forces you to learn things about yourself in terms of personal discipline, pushing through comfort zones, and living on the edge.  The challenge has been a lot of fun and I know we'll both reap a lifetime of benefits from it -- even if we didn't accomplish our goals.

That, to me, is the fun of the damned journey.  Stop to smell the roses folks, this shit is meant to be tough, challenging, and yet fucken COOL and FUN.


So many brilliant thoughts in this article. Thank you!

..and yeah I´m obviously the king of using quotes.. can´t be bothered to fix that..
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#12

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the amout of effort u put into shit is inspiring
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#13

pringles

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haha shits so sick i had to log back on and post again...this is the first time ive really been expired to fully step my shit up in fucking AAAAGGGGGGEEEEEESSSSS. See you in vegas mate
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ALL your video's are 100% pure gold but this just reached a new level... like a black AMEX or something... Good job Tyler. 

Im totally grateful that we have this resource at our finger tips!  Your a great role model!

Much appreciated.
Will
Boston November 2009 Alumni.
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 gold as always, the article was as good as the vid 
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Amazing. Thanks Tyler. Any more info on this book you speak of?

Keep the good stuff coming! :)
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 if i follow your advice to "just approach" in the beginning, I would not push myself out my comfort zone and I would stay an entertainer man. Just socializing and having fun, but not acting on my true (sexual) intentions because that was new and scary.

but last week i went out three days in a row; each day I asked more of myself.... first days went well, but day trhee, when I really wanted it to step up.. yeah, that was the most worse night! Although I knew  I had to stay cool and just trust in myself and in the evening.. still didn't do the trick.

like the raw article btw. it certainly is one awesome journey. I just talked yesterday on two seperate occasions how "going out" teaches me a lot and is just soo cool. People (who don't know about the game etc) find that weird as they view going out as a place to just get drunk and have "fun" -- instead of pushing your boundries and learning about yourself while simultaneously enjoying the girls, fun and debacuhery.
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Owen, great article and movie man! Love it. Your words come straight from the head to your mouth smoothy!  

Got a question though: 

How you do it with your gf? I still love the game but I am in a serious fun relationship as well and we respect each other's boundaries. Could you give an example of what boundaries you are not allowed to cross from your gf? You only verbally game or how you do it?  

and also are you still releasing that relationship book in the near future? 
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Owen, great article and movie man! Love it. Your words come straight from the head to your mouth smoothy!  

Got a question though: 

How you do it with your gf? I still love the game but I am in a serious fun relationship as well and we respect each other's boundaries. Could you give an example of what boundaries you are not allowed to cross from your gf? You only verbally game or how you do it?  

and also are you still releasing that relationship book in the near future? :D
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Really great article man. I've gotten back into going out regularly again but definatley enjoying the JOURNEY a lot more now, rather than stressing about the eventual result. Awesome writing dude.
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 Man, I remember I once asked this girl what time it was.. but I GENUINELY wanted to know lol. I remember seeing her face afterwards kindof like.."what a loser" I was like fuck you bitch!!! If only you knew. lol

Calavera
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#22

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what were the three points?
high risk is better than low risk
build momentum
..something else?
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#23
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Tyler, how do you enjoy the journey if you don't enjoy it at all? This, you never tell us.
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#24
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HEY! WHO ARE YOU? SIT DOWN! - ha that's what we call ASSUMING atraction ;D
very nice vid btw
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Fantastic shit Owen.

Love the news about the possible JV. Glad to know besides from giving value, RSD can get something big back finally.

Have you read the 4-Hour Body by Tim Ferriss BTW? If you're still into body transformation, that book is MONEY.
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403ANDERSON wrote:
what were the three points?
high risk is better than low risk
build momentum
..something else?
I would say the 2 parts are unrelated.
First part, high risk vs. low risk. Just that.

Second part, three points, first two unknown, third build momentum.
Knowing Tyler's recent stuff I would say the three points are intent, freedom of outcome, and momentum.
I might be wrong though.
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#27

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 Thanks Owen. High quality article.. I could feel the resonance in your text.
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#28

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 Building momentum and high risk approaches, check!

Just subscribed for both special workshops in Holland, BTW; great shit. Cheers!
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#29
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 its "you ever suck dick for coke" 

but great video anyway lol
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jlaix wrote:

radegast wrote:
 138 pounds? Haha you little bitch.
I'd like to see you call this man a little bitch... he's about 140 if i recall correctly

null


Man, I'll knock his ass out with my huge dick. I'll sneeze and blow you shorties over. Then I'll kidnap your girls.
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#31
kyte

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You have no idea how liberating it was to hear this.

Thank you.
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HAha I picked up a girl useing "hey what time is it?" -NRapport. Before I started learning the game..
But I was in vacation mode, as in cruise ship to Italy and so on.
Cool vid. ;)
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Matty Mills

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So damn tight. 
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#34

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I love you Tyler.

The feeling of being completeley in the moment is AMAZING. Definiteley the best feeling anyone can ever have. You feel good, focused, centered. I Love to meditate bro. After I saw the benefits of meditation after 2 months Ive just been hooked bro. I meditate about 2 hours every day ! Whenever something hits me that sets off an emotional reaction or negative thought pattern I go into meditation. Tolles Attachment, pleasure, resistance, and compulsion meditation.

Awakening Prologue by Bill Harris is also an amaizng Meditaiton program that has great benefits. If anyones really interested in meditation seriously check this guy out. Tolle + Awakening prologue= Happiness, Prescence.
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okay so here is a straight field report.

So i just went out to several different spots tonight. The problem i am having is: Basically when i go up to chicks i have a great "approach"... very in the moment and very emotionally stimulating. But here is my dilemma, I involve the chicks in a high risk approach and they are fucking loving it but then it's like, "where do I go from here". I have tried to be mellow and easy going and I have also tried just forcing my 'state' onto them at this point. They accept the state and like it but then i feel like i don't have direction after that.

What I receive..... direct opposition or just girls saying "you're crazy, I don't know what to do with you!"

So really I am just pissed off at the results i am getting. It has been a month now and i am not seeing any difference. I am going in with the "straight approach" mindset, but it doesn't seem to benefit me. In the recent past i went in with just thinking "approach" but my previous circumstances led my mind to believe that I would be........ Straight making out with girls, or having sex in the bathroom.....(from previous experiences....that shit happened... :) so i think that is what has disabled my performance with girls recently.

So i have the "approach" down. But, i do not have the follow through? I am looking for insite on what is to be done directly after engaging girls in a 'high risk approach'

I would like anyone to feel free to answer, but specifically one of the professionals, as this is something they could really help a newbie/intermediate guy on in with dealing with success with women! 

Fuck Yea son! I need some HELP!

-Jake
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radegast wrote:
jlaix wrote:

radegast wrote:
 138 pounds? Haha you little bitch.
I'd like to see you call this man a little bitch... he's about 140 if i recall correctly

null


Man, I'll knock his ass out with my huge dick. I'll sneeze and blow you shorties over. Then I'll kidnap your girls.
Sorry I did not realize. I meant no disrespect sir please spare me
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jakewetz wrote:
okay so here is a straight field report.

So i just went out to several different spots tonight. The problem i am having is: Basically when i go up to chicks i have a great "approach"... very in the moment and very emotionally stimulating. But here is my dilemma, I involve the chicks in a high risk approach and they are fucking loving it but then it's like, "where do I go from here". I have tried to be mellow and easy going and I have also tried just forcing my 'state' onto them at this point. They accept the state and like it but then i feel like i don't have direction after that.

What I receive..... direct opposition or just girls saying "you're crazy, I don't know what to do with you!"

So really I am just pissed off at the results i am getting. It has been a month now and i am not seeing any difference. I am going in with the "straight approach" mindset, but it doesn't seem to benefit me. In the recent past i went in with just thinking "approach" but my previous circumstances led my mind to believe that I would be........ Straight making out with girls, or having sex in the bathroom.....(from previous experiences....that shit happened... :) so i think that is what has disabled my performance with girls recently.

So i have the "approach" down. But, i do not have the follow through? I am looking for insite on what is to be done directly after engaging girls in a 'high risk approach'

I would like anyone to feel free to answer, but specifically one of the professionals, as this is something they could really help a newbie/intermediate guy on in with dealing with success with women! 

Fuck Yea son! I need some HELP!

-Jake
classic newb shit here. Go in guns blazing then WAHHH WAHHH WAHHHHHHHHHHHHH no payoff. 

Wooohoo you can go up to a girl and not look like a complete faggot anymore. Congratulations. Now you need to learn the mechanics of how to screen, manage logistics and PULL.

I would suggest bootcamp 
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 Insane vid Tyler, the bit about making approaching the only criteria for success is so incredible in a bunch of areas:

-At work, just make showing up to work and working most of the time your criteria of success
-At the gym, just make showing up and giving a solid effort your criteria for success
-In life, just make taking right action your only criteria for success

This truly does give you intent plus freedom from outcome.  Thank you.
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travis_bickle

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Hi Tyler,
Any plans for a free tour in India?
Regards,
Travis Bickle
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jlaix wrote:

jakewetz wrote:
okay so here is a straight field report.

So i just went out to several different spots tonight. The problem i am having is: Basically when i go up to chicks i have a great "approach"... very in the moment and very emotionally stimulating. But here is my dilemma, I involve the chicks in a high risk approach and they are fucking loving it but then it's like, "where do I go from here". I have tried to be mellow and easy going and I have also tried just forcing my 'state' onto them at this point. They accept the state and like it but then i feel like i don't have direction after that.

What I receive..... direct opposition or just girls saying "you're crazy, I don't know what to do with you!"

So really I am just pissed off at the results i am getting. It has been a month now and i am not seeing any difference. I am going in with the "straight approach" mindset, but it doesn't seem to benefit me. In the recent past i went in with just thinking "approach" but my previous circumstances led my mind to believe that I would be........ Straight making out with girls, or having sex in the bathroom.....(from previous experiences....that shit happened... :) so i think that is what has disabled my performance with girls recently.

So i have the "approach" down. But, i do not have the follow through? I am looking for insite on what is to be done directly after engaging girls in a 'high risk approach'

I would like anyone to feel free to answer, but specifically one of the professionals, as this is something they could really help a newbie/intermediate guy on in with dealing with success with women! 

Fuck Yea son! I need some HELP!

-Jake
classic newb shit here. Go in guns blazing then WAHHH WAHHH WAHHHHHHHHHHHHH no payoff. 

Wooohoo you can go up to a girl and not look like a complete faggot anymore. Congratulations. Now you need to learn the mechanics of how to screen, manage logistics and PULL.

I would suggest bootcamp 
Thank you for pointing out to me what i am already aware of.

As for bootcamp, really cannot afford that at this time.

I am just at least looking for a next focus to start directing myself towards....
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Wonderful post Owen. Model season :p
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#42

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 so, in a nutshell....
1. what seems most akward to do is actually less akward and vice versa...
2. Lowering criteria of success into action goals enables one to progress more quickly.. for example "just approach"
3. Gaining social momentum constantly till the night just happens. Even if it takes two hours, by the time that happens you just ROCK!

This is tight stuff man! I don't know how you stay in business giving away all this value man.. its just over my head. 

=D
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jakewetz wrote:

jlaix wrote:

jakewetz wrote:
okay so here is a straight field report.

So i just went out to several different spots tonight. The problem i am having is: Basically when i go up to chicks i have a great "approach"... very in the moment and very emotionally stimulating. But here is my dilemma, I involve the chicks in a high risk approach and they are fucking loving it but then it's like, "where do I go from here". I have tried to be mellow and easy going and I have also tried just forcing my 'state' onto them at this point. They accept the state and like it but then i feel like i don't have direction after that.

What I receive..... direct opposition or just girls saying "you're crazy, I don't know what to do with you!"

So really I am just pissed off at the results i am getting. It has been a month now and i am not seeing any difference. I am going in with the "straight approach" mindset, but it doesn't seem to benefit me. In the recent past i went in with just thinking "approach" but my previous circumstances led my mind to believe that I would be........ Straight making out with girls, or having sex in the bathroom.....(from previous experiences....that shit happened... :) so i think that is what has disabled my performance with girls recently.

So i have the "approach" down. But, i do not have the follow through? I am looking for insite on what is to be done directly after engaging girls in a 'high risk approach'

I would like anyone to feel free to answer, but specifically one of the professionals, as this is something they could really help a newbie/intermediate guy on in with dealing with success with women! 

Fuck Yea son! I need some HELP!

-Jake
classic newb shit here. Go in guns blazing then WAHHH WAHHH WAHHHHHHHHHHHHH no payoff. 

Wooohoo you can go up to a girl and not look like a complete faggot anymore. Congratulations. Now you need to learn the mechanics of how to screen, manage logistics and PULL.

I would suggest bootcamp 
Thank you for pointing out to me what i am already aware of.

As for bootcamp, really cannot afford that at this time.

I am just at least looking for a next focus to start directing myself towards....

You've sacked up and approached. But you don't know what to do next.
Practice getting physical quickly. Go for a kiss. Claw. Hug and spin. Whatever.
Combine your physicality with LEADING (ie grab her hand, take her to a new spot in the venue, or even better somewhere else)
Basically start trying to CLOSE as quickly as you humanly can.
As long as you keep approaching and being mindful of what happens in field, you'll learn automatically.
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 Wow, one of the best things of you i read in a while.

Something i'm totally reflecting on as i'm getting deeper and deeper into full MMA competition - knowing on the one hand that i'm too old/started this too late in life to become "elite" - but on the other hand AWED about the amount of stuff there is still to learn and be discovered EVEN BY THE TOP LEVEL FIGHTERS about martial arts. Like the sport itself is evolving and changing so fast, so constantly, that even the best fighters struggle to keep up and adapt their training, and i'm tripping so hard on all the amazing new techniques and styles and approaches to it...

... its the same thing with anything in life, a never ending dialogue of growth, discovery, adaptation, change... and then you die and realise it's all pointless

*Sigh*
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Appreciate that Laaavish!!
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 Owen man, thanks... what i've learned the most form this article is about enjoying the journey, i mean... sometimes i see life like i want this, i want that... but thats when i am missing the point of the journey, its like reframing your life completely, and you remembered me that, thanks man... Also the thing that you are speaking on the video about, taking risks is good, going safe is bad haha, thats true!

You should come to Guadalajara, Mexico sometime, here we have awesome girls, and it is a pretty city, C'ya
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#47

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Tyler once said if you get even just one thing from an article or whatever then it's all good. In this case there's lots more than one thing but this 'Do you really want to stay as the same stagnant person you are now, but just have girls as well?' is central to my positive reaction to this post. That and Jeffy gettin punk rock angry = funny (as usual) but spot on as well. The truth lifts the veil.
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#48

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Tyler come to europe. I would totally buy a bootcamp with you as instructor.
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Alex~

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travis_bickle wrote:
Hi Tyler,
Any plans for a free tour in India?
Regards,
Travis Bickle


Possibly for me about a month from now... I'll just drop in for some cricket and shit... And a speech!

But... Email support@realsocialdynamics.com and we should be able to set it up!

Alex~
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Wanted to say I talk about you everyte
I dk a free tour and show your old chode photos to make the point of far far you've come, what you've achieved and how you keep growing. Congrats on raising the bar AGAIN in this vid\content! Keep the pressure on us.

Alex~
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