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(Before getting started – It’s all about SEATTLE this weekend as Jeffy and I will be in town for the Free Tour and Hot Seat events. Free Tour is Thursday August 19th from 6:00-8:30PM, Holiday Inn Seattle at 211 Dexter Ave North. Hot Seat will be the following Saturday from 1:00-9:00PM. If you live in Seattle then click over to  www.rsdfreetour.com and www.rsdhotseat.com this very f**ken second.)

Woooo, been a crazy month!!

Honolulu, Chicago, Napali Coast for big hike, Vegas for World Summit, and finally back to Los Angeles (hmmm just did a big hike in Malibu Creek with Tim before he left for Australia as well).

Been recording the whole thing. The Free Workshops have been getting better and better in my opinion, and obviously I’m continuing to work to improve the few remaining events.

Here’s a ten minute video from Chicago if you weren’t able to be there to experience it LIVE. This "must watch right now " video will reveal to you some crucial secrets about how humor is a foundation of your "inner world", and WHY women become immediately attracted to you when you've made these simple shifts of perspective.

Click here RIGHT NOW and apply these ideas IMMEDIATELY.  (A hot girl will instantly jump out of the video box and effortlessly make all your dreams come true.  Click.  The.  Box.)



Fun huh??  Yeeeeeahhhup so much fun. :)

Anyway I’m very happy that you watched the clip, thrilled and titillated in fact.  And what I hope you gleaned from it is the way that your "inner world" makes women instantly attracted, even without having to use a lot of words.

What I'm trying to get across here is how your inner filters create funnier and more awesome INTERPRETATIONS of the world, and how this keeps you in a state that makes women "all hot and bothered".

(In fact one of the reasons I left in that bit with me saying “BITCH BITCH” at the end was as an example of how although what I *initially* thought the guy said something stupid, I just reframe it in my head into something even more ridiculous.  "More ridiculous" = everything is awesome, nothing sucks, and girl FEELS THIS WAY when they're around you.)

Now why do WOMEN respond to you with ATTRACTION when your “inner world” is set up in a way where everything is funny, nothing is a big deal, etc?

Well when your web of mental-interpretations has been setup to make the stresses of the world seem funny and amusing, you are now in a position to be resourceful, upbeat, and MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.

(Although this isn’t as important in modern society (which keeps us alive even at the base level of being lazy slugs of human bio-mass if we’re so inclined – due to its removal of most evolutionary pressures) it was far more important during the times in which we EVOLVED.)

And of course, the times when we evolved is when women’s “attraction mechanisms” were evolved as well, so that’s what they tend to respond towards with attraction, interest, burning desire, etc etc. :)

Incidentally I think a LOT of people in the pickup community, and particularly in some of the fringe communities, take shit waaaaaaaaaaaaay too seriously.

On one level it’s good to take yourself (and your success in life) very seriously.  I actually often find it absurd to hear a message of “don’t take things too seriously” from people who lack success in life, because their personal results prove them as being out of balance.

But on the other hand, you have to also realize that NOTHING IS SERIOUS, nothing is a big deal, and it's ALL good.  ALL of it.

This “care free attitude” is one of the biggest creators of attraction that exists (think Vincent Chase from "Entourage").  Not only with women, but all people in general respond to a care free attitude, because it's a breath of fresh air to be around.

The secret to this, and EVERYTHING IN LIFE??  Intent + Freedom Of Outcome.

If your intent is too high, and the dimension of freedom of outcome does not equally balance it out, your actions are corrupted (you are a “try hard” and wind up creating results that you didn’t intent). On the other hand if freedom of outcome is too high without any intent, you’re just lazy, and eventually you wind up having to rationalize your shitty life.

Soooo, how to cultivate an inner world that scrambles up anything negative and finds the humor in it??

I think some of it is just your natural personality, and some of it comes from modeling other people who have been successful in doing so themselves.

My favorite show for this sort of thing is “South Park” because it delves into the absurdity of “group think” (a very funny topic for me) and the way people get overly identified with their “outer character”.

Funny enough I actually think South Park is probably the best show I've personally seen to illustrate the message that guys like Eckhart Tolle are trying to convey – look past the "off the wall surface" of the show and at the CORE of it's message, and it will become obvious why.



(^^This is a compressed clip from one of my favorite episodes, although the edit makes it seem less cool so watch the full episode if you're inclined.)

Anyway I’m getting ready for Seattle this weekend -- literally PSYCHED out of my mind to get back up there.  Then I'll be in ATLANTA two weeks later, so if you’re in that neck of the woods I’ll see you there!

Let me know what you learned from watching the Chicago Free Tour video, how you ALREADY bring these ideas into your life (you’re already using them to an extent), and how you’re going to bring them in EVEN MORE.  Tyler wants to know!!

Tyler
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#1
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Love it. The universe is pretty absurd, isn't it?
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i learned nothing
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Yeah to say the least, from the perspective of the mind, and our cultural conditioning.

Normal as far as how things ACTUALLY are, but for us to make sense of as human beings, ultra-weird to the extreme.
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Love it. The universe is pretty absurd, isn't it?
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Soooo you're saying that the base of your sense of humor is constantly perceiving all the absurd and dumb shit around us as funny and expressing that out loud so it sucks other people in - awesome.

So by this perspective being a little out there or weird is a great thing.  You're "weird" by common standards but you're so rooted in it that to you everyone else are the weird ones.  And then you laugh at the world's weirdness (from a silly place not an arrogant one).  And then the "normal" people start to wonder what is actually normal since you're having so much more fun than them, and then their head explodes and you get the girl.  Gotcha.

"Weirdness-reversal-head-explode-AMOG-technique."
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"You can either wipe it out n jerk it off or cry"

hahahaha

I fucken love Nilhilists!
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 im gonne go out and slap a bitch.
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 You talk really fast TD 
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That WAS the funniest video of Tyler ever, SO fucking cool!
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Yeah intent + freedom of outcome is DEFINETLY awesome.
Example:
It's awesome when you have LMR from a girl because it becomes this kind of moment that you want it more from her...but at the same time if you have your life goin on...you can just get another girl! theres only like BILLIONS or somethin that'll fuck you! you get the opportunity to feel POWERFUL by DENYING HER instead and playing up her LMR. :D Start joking about like her legs are like chewy etc and how she can't put any bruises on my ass for the ass show tomorrow and say quickly 'goodnight! :)' and roll over then sleep. She goes..."WTF!!!!! AHHH!!!" and attacks you and you then push away, push away, push away and it becomes this game! Plus you might end up getting some WHILE having fun. :)

So many guys go out with the mindset of "if I can't get laid now....I'll NEVER GET LAID AGAIN. D: *gasp* DUH DUH DUHHHHHH. They are having a bad time. When girls! just want to have fu-un ;) if you get me ;) no? ;) ahwell ;) someone will ;)

RESPECT THE COCK!!
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Look for the deeper meaning in THIS video ;D




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 no recordings of the hikes?
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Cool video Tyler, reinforcing what you said at the Summit. Using humor as life's natural antidepressive, sleeping and taking Omega 3, and having the paradigm of intent + freedom of outcome.

I wonder if you bashed Kobe's performance on the playoffs in the Free Tour as well. Haha.

I'm thinking of traveling to America to attend the Free Tour + BC + Hot Seat. I'm in Europe, I know Papa's here, but Tyler will always be Tyler. I wanna see the Polish video one more time narrated by the original author. It struck me!

I wonder if in any free tour or post you will elaborate on that extreme narcissist, flipping the girl's reality on her head. Since you mentioned that at the Summit it has been my sole objective in this game. Letting the irreverent adventurous motherfucker come out! shades

Keep evolving your paradigms and giving us goodies Tyler! Cheers
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Simply awesome!
Once again funny as..
Really reminded my how I´ve been taking this stuff way too seriously lately.
And how humour really isn´t something you turn on when needed. It´s a way of life.
And it does become way too hard to keep it that way if you don´t sleep enough, you´re not healthy etc. It becomes fake then, at least for me..

This became my number 1 video for now. I will watch this again now and then to make these ideas stick!
Thank you, again, Owen!
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On your free tour schedule it says you're coming to austin the 21st but it also says you're going to Oslo Norway as well on the same day!  Please choose Austin ;).
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 I can find the value in South Park other than entertainment.

But it can help you explore your humor and ways to self-amuse. Exaggerating, retarded humor,...

What did you guys/Tyler got out of South Park.

ChinaBoy

BTW: Tyler you vibe has changed since BP to more fun.
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I was there!  haha.  Awesome free tour Tyler.  Loved your sense of humor and it's all good attitude.  
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Cool videosi like your stuff!! , you ever do outer game stuff anymore?
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Awesome message, Tyler. Felt like you were speaking directly to me. Big Mahalo's fo dat one bra! Think my issue has been LOTS of intent but too much outcome dependancy. Exactly why when I go out to enjoy and have fun the girls seems to love me and my penis, but when I go out to meet the girls, and I'm focused on that the girls believe I have a vagina.

p.s. Napali Coast hike is beautiful... another shorty but killer view is Pill Boxes in Lanikai
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Hey Tyler!
You really get better and better in public speaking!
Awesome!
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Tyler -- truly my favourite video I've seen of you in ages, and that's saying a lot because you've put out a lot of great content recently. "Humour is a perspective on life..." brilliant
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Although I dunno if ending the video on the note you did is the best PR for anyone stumbling across RSD who DOESN'T have a sense of humour... wink
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I was there at the free tour in Chicago - this bit changed my whole perspective... 

The game isn't some grand chore; it's the cultivation of being retarded, amusing and loving yourself for the weirdness you spew forth.  And at its heart, it's no big deal.  I thought I had been doing something "wrong" when I had acted like that prior until I saw the Hot Seat.  

Awesome.  And retarded.  Always.
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See you in Seattle.
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Yeah I'd say that's a pretty accurate summary of why I find the world funny, among other reasons.

Why YOU find it funny would be up to you -- everyone's different.  THAT is actually what's cool about humor, because you're bringing people into YOUR world.  That's actually the reason it offers value.
Turok wrote:
Soooo you're saying that the base of your sense of humor is constantly perceiving all the absurd and dumb shit around us as funny and expressing that out loud so it sucks other people in - awesome.
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Yeah man, ending of that episode is super good.
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By the way that episode of South Park is hilarious, it reminds me of our McDonalds society towards the end and how people is against some stuff but is ironically in favour of other stuff that is not so different to the first because of the group think says so and not because they have think about it for themselves. I'm totally agree about how is exactly the same core element of Tolle's teachings.
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"This is from TYLER."
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I think like 10X faster and slow myself down to talk.
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Definitely man -- freedom of outcome massively diffuses LMR.  Helps her to realize the whole prudish game playing is pointless, because you've seen it before and don't care either way.
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It's awesome when you have LMR from a girl because it becomes this kind of moment that you want it more from her...but at the same time if you have your life goin on...you can just get another girl! theres only like BILLIONS or somethin that'll fuck you!
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Got a few vids from the hikes, they're pretty fucken otherworldly.  Maybe I'll post something.
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Haha yup.  I test out random new bits at Free Tour, then take the good stuff and flesh it out into dense content for Summit.

That's also why Free Tour is a bit more scattered than the talks on the DVDs (which have already been through this process), but also newer than anything I've put out.
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Cool video Tyler, reinforcing what you said at the Summit. Using humor as life's natural antidepressive, sleeping and taking Omega 3, and having the paradigm of intent + freedom of outcome.

I wonder if you bashed Kobe's performance on the playoffs in the Free Tour as well. Haha.

I'm thinking of traveling to America to attend the Free Tour + BC + Hot Seat. I'm in Europe, I know Papa's here, but Tyler will always be Tyler. I wanna see the Polish video one more time narrated by the original author. It struck me!

I wonder if in any free tour or post you will elaborate on that extreme narcissist, flipping the girl's reality on her head. Since you mentioned that at the Summit it has been my sole objective in this game. Letting the irreverent adventurous motherfucker come out! shades

Keep evolving your paradigms and giving us goodies Tyler! Cheers
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Nick's got Europe, I've got it state side.
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On your free tour schedule it says you're coming to austin the 21st but it also says you're going to Oslo Norway as well on the same day!  Please choose Austin ;).
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Yeah I like to play around with different styles, it's the same as with game.  I switch my shit up constantly.
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 I can find the value in South Park other than entertainment.

But it can help you explore your humor and ways to self-amuse. Exaggerating, retarded humor,...

What did you guys/Tyler got out of South Park.

ChinaBoy

BTW: Tyler you vibe has changed since BP to more fun.
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Thanks bro.  Next Free Tour video which I recorded in Hawaii is on outer game.
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Haha nice, Hawaiian in the house.  Napali = my fav place in the world.
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Awesome message, Tyler. Felt like you were speaking directly to me. Big Mahalo's fo dat one bra! Think my issue has been LOTS of intent but too much outcome dependancy. Exactly why when I go out to enjoy and have fun the girls seems to love me and my penis, but when I go out to meet the girls, and I'm focused on that the girls believe I have a vagina.

p.s. Napali Coast hike is beautiful... another shorty but killer view is Pill Boxes in Lanikai
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Thanks man that's strangely a big compliment.
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 I had a bit of a moment in that clip inside me, like when i watch an eckhart tolle clip. an "obnoxious tolle" clip 
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Dude, someday, someday, you will see............
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LOL yuuup.  Confusing people = forcing them to think.
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Although I dunno if ending the video on the note you did is the best PR for anyone stumbling across RSD who DOESN'T have a sense of humour... wink
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Awesome dude, thanks for coming!  Great group.
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I was there at the free tour in Chicago - this bit changed my whole perspective... 

The game isn't some grand chore; it's the cultivation of being retarded, amusing and loving yourself for the weirdness you spew forth.  And at its heart, it's no big deal.  I thought I had been doing something "wrong" when I had acted like that prior until I saw the Hot Seat.  

Awesome.  And retarded.  Always.

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Nice dude.  Got in tonight, staying at my buddy's crib downtown.  Wednesday seems slow, psyched for Thurs - Sat.
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LOL Hilarious video!
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 You're funny as fuck! :))) These vids keep getting better and better!!
The next time I'm out I'll try the slapshit, and get my ass kicked! 

This is what I get out of it; If your life is fun, it will reflect. And the girls can see that, aswell as they can feel it! :) 
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Awesome video, yo.  My fave so far from free tour clips..
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 dude this video is really close to listening to a comedian.. only the dude is way cooler and endearing. I learn just from watching you ramble and tell stories.. pretty sick man. 
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 this is becoming more of like life coaching vs. pickup.. I like it. 
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I've been meaning to read this Tyle & watch the video. Great break.

It amazes me how much "natural" abilities aid in pulling. It also amazes me how social conditioning, elements such as parents, friends, enviornement, religion, etc all play a role unless, you are strong enough person to implement your intent.

I have always wondered if you believe in God Tyler?

I pulled last night. Thats is 2x in 4 nights. I am hungry. Its coming & only getting better. I am greatful for the gifts I have been given & all that I have. It is weird to cause, I didn't always have a positive mindset nor a free mind (not to say I am completely free).

Where I have had my success throughout life was from an absent try hard mindset & free mind.

Tyler, some days, I spit game like crazy. I am not talking community or some line I read. I mean, I am on, fully in state, the girls know it, they want me, & they love it. I am able to be articulate, fully express what I want to say, have humor, project my intent, give space (freedom) & pull without any effort. Other times, it just is not in sync. I found this in sales, in pick up, in martial arts, in life. I don't know what it is but, I am assuming it is a negative entity or something to do with the cosmos in that space & time. What I have learned is to stop focusing on it cause, it takes me into the past, into my head, and away from what IS. I PLOW; I know that, "THIS TOO WILL PASS." Guess what? It does. It could be that instant mega sale in commision that I then anchor positivity into future sales & it goes well. It maybe that hottie I pull before nights end or I gain some new insight or learn a new martial art move or philosphy. I gain more life insight.

I do feel I like to punish myself. I reflect on the past or girls I should have pulled when I dropped the ball. I should have pulled or pushed her away. I should have lifted her over my shoulders & shower fucked her. I should have brought the burly macho man that kicks in the bed room door & man handles her. You know what? I am that fucking guy now. I wasn't always in the past. Its part of stepping it up. I've always pulled but, I had been extremely subtle so, I missed out on opps at times. When I feel the judgment, I just go into a humorous moment. Its good to laugh at ones self. Day where I am not articulate, I just laugh at myself. It will pass.

Tyler, thanks so much man. The only thing I wish you & RSD would put together is something in regards to relationship management. I know the main concept is to meet girls. I got this in tune but, I run from relationships. You went in depth on my topic thread & I am greatful for the time. I think a lot of guys are running around humping, some are trying to live up to the PICK UP GODS, & others have no success what so ever. Your in a relationship. Not sure about the RSD pannel. I know Jeffy is now single. Any relationship insight or words of advise I believe the RSD group crew could grow from.
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 Thanks Tyler I have gotten away from RSD Nation for reasons of my own.  (Was spending to much time on it and not out there living my own life and other reasons)  Anyway this article move than the video was great for me.  When I read advice I really like to be skeptical and use my own brain and really see if I can picture applying in the real world.  I totally felt that away about this article.  Not to mention you had some great points that really came as great reminders.
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i am going to heaven and get my 7 virgins!

Word!
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From the dumbass who couldn't read the calender correctly and missed Chicago Freetour:

"More please!!!!"
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 That part on intention balancing with freedom from outcome is pure Gold, baby!
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