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Hey there!

Been working with Brad all day at the studio here in Hollywood, prepping his bomb new lifestyle development series of videos that's starting to come out this week.

Check the new pic and follow me if you aren't already!

www.instagram.com/rsdtyler

I also just got back from Austin which was crazy crazy crazy.

WOW what a busy weekend.  Slammed out a ton of new video content, I think I'm a good half year ahead on vids at this point.

There were a few girls and friends I didn't have time to see while I was out there btw - if you're reading this, sorry we didn't have time to catchup!

Teaching the stack of programs has provided me with so many high powered insights on pickup, it's been really insane.  I've loved teaching and pushing the envelop, it's just getting better and better every week.

George Leonard says that the real genius in anything kicks in after 10 years, and I've just been enjoying the effects.  Everything is clearer and clearer, like this puzzle that's been slowly unveiled.

Anyway there's a nice peice of the puzzle out in this week's video, which will take you on an adventure through my old stomping ground of Waikiki Hawaii - I know you'll enjoy!

Here's a list of my upcoming programs btw...

October 3, 2013: Philadelphia (with Julien)
October 17, 2013: San Diego
October 31, 2013: Phoenix
December 12, 2013: Los Angeles
December 19, 2013: New York (with Julien)
January 2, 2014: Chicago (with Julien)
January 16, 2014: Salt Lake City
January 30, 2014: San Francisco

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

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TODAY'S VID!

So if you've been following me for a while, you know I used to live on Waikiki beach in Hawaii, for nearly 4 years before moving to Los Angeles.

I moved out there after the book The Game came out, so I could isolate myself in an oceanfront pad and focus on creating The Blueprint (www.blueprintdecoded.com) and build up RSD.

The plan turned out to be a pretty big success.

I created our first few millions in revenues to flip back into the company over those years, and got us to a point where even after the big burst of press had subsided we were in a position to win.

I could see the "writing on the wall" that any PUA company that failed to see the bubble for what it was -- a temporary BUBBLE that needed to be fully exploited -- would regret every last minute they didn't spend working in the lab.

And so that's exactly what I did lol.

It was brutal at times, and it shocks me to contemplate just how many hours I spent couped up, but I learned a work ethic and the rest is history.

http://www.inc.com/profile/real-social-dynamics

Since then I've journeyed back to Hawaii every summer, so I wouldn't feel so disconnected after being ripped away to Los Angeles.

Ultimately living in LA was the better choice for personal and professional growth, but Hawaii will always hold a special place for me as a part of my development.  I basically "found myself" out there.

Of course at this point I feel like whatever pleasure I wanted to get out of life, I've gotten it, and my focus now is on absolutely crushing it before I die.  I know that day is coming soon enough (time flies...), and I want to stay focused and get done what I need to get done.

I feel myself coming into a certain type of peak as I turn 34 this week, and I know that like Hawaii this time has to be exploited as well.  My work ethic is still endless, energy has no limit, I can't be tired out - but as I age that will wane as my physical body can't take the strain.

I have to become better than I am, and continue to grow.  People keep waiting to see the ceiling but that's not coming any time soon.  They have no ability to relate to this type of drive as it's beyond anything they could relate towards, so it seems strange and they can't grasp the intention.

LOL anyway here's a video I shot up the beach from my old pad, that has so many memories for me, and it's going to reveal an amazing exercise I've developed this year to hammer in congruence.

If you apply this, you'll find yourself becoming a congruent natural nearly instantly.

CLICK THIS VIDEO NOW TO INSTANTLY BECOME A CONGRUENT NATURAL, IF YOU APPLY THE ADVICE...



So you checked it out, good stuff.

I wanted to take you an adventure through my old neighbourhood, and capture the vibe.

And I hope you'll make it out to Hawaii someday yourself, maybe to see me at a Hot Seat if you have the global pass.

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GO DEEPER ON CONGRUENCE - CLASSIC VID!

This was one of my best talks of all time.

It's the best explaination of "charisma VS congruence" I've ever put out.

It helped my game massively, and I'd urge you to check it out.

The first half is all funny stories which are hysterical, and the second is where I get into "Charisma VS Congruence" going really deep.

Definitely check this out....



That's actually such a good vid, I'm really psyched you took the time to go through it.

This won't be the last time you hear from me on congruence, but for now get cracking on sorting it out!

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POST OF THE WEEK

Here's a link to the new lifestyle development ideas Brad and I are working on.  Top notch!

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/497179/forum

And here's a cool vblog recorded in SOUTH AFRICA by a RSDN member, love it!

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/496336/forum

Thanks to everyone who contributed real value to the forum.

IGNORE all distracting posts.  Suffocate them by not responding.  Conversely, respond to content rich ideas and create discussion!

Anyone who fails to value their own time doesn't deserve YOURS.  Ignore them, they are losers.  Focus all attention on likeminded guys wanting to improve!

Thanks!!!!

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EXTERNAL RESOURCE OF THE WEEK

This fellow is quite strange but I love people who are a little weird, they're far more interesting.

His vid is a GREAT supplement to the vid on congruence - "not trying" etc.

It will HELP you, watch it with a critical eye, take the value.



Hope you enjoyed and if you like his stuff, subscribe to his Youtube channel!

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THANKS!

So I'm crashing out after a very long day.

HIT ME BACK WITH COMMENTS ABOUT BECOMING A CONGRUENT NATURAL!  I WANT TO KNOW YOUR IDEAS, THOUGHTS, AND EXPERIENCE!  LET ME KNOW!

Have an amazing day and I'll hit you back next week with some serious heat!

Tyler
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#1
thecrochunter

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Killer content. Its whats scribbled everyehwere in my notepad from hotseat last year.
" be congruent, be congruent, be congruent..."

Cheers T
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The Hawk

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Very nice.

Would you say it is the same as having no filters?
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LethalLex

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Congruence is about 80% of my game I'd say. Especially congruence in each interaction while continuely hitting it up - that's the trick to getting in the zone consistently, rather than running around with like a chicken with it's head cut off trying to be dominant, loud, cocky or whatever.

Glad you liked my VBLOG ;) Getting going with the skills to create great content that I know I'll be making in one area or another in the future. 
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 I love exercises! 
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Kris-

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 That waitress you picked up at the end, it's funny because she walked past you filming earlier in the vlog and I just could tell she was intrigued who this guy was. Good on you mate, you practice what you preach.

Kris
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#6
RollnRock

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 Epic stuff as always tyler! Will apply it when I go out today! Thank you as always tyler!!

I am fucking tired of saying this shit over and over in each of your vids but you are THE MOST INSPIRATIONAL person I have ever met and you seriously changed my life!

But PLEASEEE COME TO TURKEY!! ISTANBUL IS ONE OF THE GREATEST CITIES IN THE WORLD AND I WANT RSD TO COME TO ISTANBUL SO I CAN ATTEND A FREETOUR AND HOTSEAT!! YOU CAN ALWAYS COME TO ANKARA TOO. lol :D:D:D
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#7

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 What if I have to implement some sort of calm sexuality to the interaciton. It makes it less natural, but gives much better, densier vibe to the whole thing.
 I;ve been approaching girls being completely natural without adding any sort of sexuality (sexual EC, voice, pauses) and the girls would respond to my future texts.
 On the other hand I just got a date after talking for, literally, 1 minute with a girl, but being sexual in the voice, ec, and being relatively close to her.
 How does that add up to being natural? If being sexual with a girl, which apparently IS A MUST for me to create some man-to-woman emotions, is a unnatural thing for me and I have to sort of enforce it during the interraction, does it mean Im incongruent and should immediately stop or pummel through it until this sexual behavior of me becomes natural, and thus congruent with my approaches?
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#8
zero13

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fuck, finally. thanks for the video Owen
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MakeItHappen

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May I post another one of owens masterpieces on the same topic:



That video changed EVERYTHING for me back in the day.

I think RSD's major shift from "state state state" in the blueprint to "congruence" over the last years was the last piece in the puzzle. Or maybe there will be more? For me it was what finally got me results.
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RezznT!

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I like this video Owen. The exercise looks super cool/effective so I'll make sure to give it a try.

However, it also gives rise to a lot of questions for me. For instance, what if you're naturally introverted and don't feel like saying anything? Are you really gonna stand there awkwardly for the sake of being "congruent"? What if you're, like you briefly mentioned in the video, in a loud party environment where you do need to be intense and need to "spin the magic"?

Just some things to consider off the top of my head. Haven't really had that much time to think about it, but I would like to hear your thoughts on it, since you mentioned you're never gonna be the pinnacle example of congruence.
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Matrim

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 Good stuff man and yeah it was funny seeing the girls checking you out.
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Kid_Ink

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 this was actually an amazing vid.. one of the better ones

it made me realize how un- elite i am.. 

Oh well im going to keep doing my thing
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#13

teddydan

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Everyone needs to watch this!!

Something every instructor should expand on and explain it in their own way.
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I saw a huge similarity between this and my Sunday Zen sitting a few weeks back. "If you're hot, be hot. If you're cold, be cold." It doesn't mean you're passive and don't look to improve your state. It means accepting reality. Being congruent is being authentic to your experience.

I had a day two yesterday and she showed up all made-up for me. Attachment to outcome began to creep in and I found myself wanting NOT to blow more than having it be fun. And I thought "what would it be like if I actually said it?" .. So I said it. "I'm nervous right now."

We made out about 10 minutes later. : )
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Dann_y

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 Awesome, as always.

Great job bro - thanks!


peace thumbs up
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I started going aged around 17.18 and I was just being me, so i was and am a  natural. Another thing I always have noticed whether it be someone you are introduced to that night or someone you watch on tv,   and you see them or speak to  them and straight away you think this person isn't being theirself.
There are some people are so hyper like all the time or there are others i've met who seem so serious and are quite, so i felt uncomfortable to speak because i feared they would judge me and what i say but not speak any words. Also they don't laugh and joke so much in public, although they want to, they hide it, because it's putting them out there, their real personality. This person is a somone i know well. Anyway, we'd all been out to the cinema and they came out and with a big big smile on their face said "the film was great wern't it"
And i was just in shock. It took the film and how much they liked it, to show their real self to others in public.

I remember a video Julien did about drama, he said a girl is going to have way much more fun with me than a guy who just talks to her..... as a lot of natural stuff when you first go out would be like - hey, what's your name? Sarah. Yeah. Where you from? Birmingham. Which is the city your actually talking to her in. So then the convo dies..... and she leaves. I had this happen when i first went to clubs where i didn't like the music.
So adding stuff like "drama" into conversation is something to include in your game. So long as your congruent with it, as some convos can get boring if you don't bring no excitment into it. It's all well and good approaching a girl natrually and being like i'm jonny, whats your name? but in a sad tone and looking abit shy, you can even say your shy and she'll be like aww but would more feel sorry for you than have attraction.
So i think you're still gotta bring the fun, if you don't feel good, then you don't have to go out, because then you will approach but not be congruent with yourself because your not really feeling the fun inside.
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#18

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 Great stuff and I can see how much work you have put into the video, it's like a piece of art. By the way, this is something I have found on the internet to share (its a video from the clouds in San Fransisco):

http://vimeo.com/69445362
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Like SOME little part of you likes it. 
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Zer0.Point

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 All the congruence videos people have posted here have by far been my personal favourites. Not only is the content solid as shit but the presentaton of ideas is so tight that it really has a REAL influence on my game big time. More of this!!!
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Zer0.Point

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 So the congruence subject strikes a big resounding ***DINGGGG*** when it comes to things that are at the very core of game. Sickk.
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smack_attack

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 349% Fucking Insane, but not surprising.
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#23
Techsmith

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 haha, preatty mothafuck. definitly a bridge to advance level game. 
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RagaTanha

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 Great post,

I'll try tonight. 
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 Loved the new video!! The girl at the end..... you had her at "hello". ;)
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Burton

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I felt the video focused a lot on the middle ground vibe. When the girl at the end came you definitely had the low end suave tone to your voice. Not that it wasn't congruent, just an observation. The low end and high end vibes aren't bad as long as they're congruent to how you feel.
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jumbomonkey

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 Great video, consistant as ever. Touched upon two things for me, kind of ashamed to not be going out at the moment but i'm in a work mode to get a business going, so i try to be grateful for that. Reminded of that from your post. Trying to reinforce consistant work ethic as strong as possible right now, get the master work out there before moving on to the next step. 

Same same with the work ethic and ambition, people don't really get it and begin to see you as different. Even admiration which i equally dislike, because they put you on some different level because your pushing yourself and challanging yourself when its just really really normal ...like more normal than the "normal" people. Thats my mindset now anyway. 

I think i was very incongruent in the past, perhaps still am. Topic resonated. Believe i need to address this more in the future. Theres a fear there of being myself and being accepted for being me. Faulty belief system left over from growing up i guess. looking forward to addressing those limiting beliefs in time. 

I'm a little detached from the video, few things on my mind but one thing which i am reminded of for some reason is the importance of continuous improvement, lifelong learning, work ethic, habits but balancing that need for improvement with an acceptance of who you are presently, at whatever moment just being congruent  which allows you be present with someone, allowing the possibility to connect. 

Looks like i could wax on for a while about this, topic got me going. Thanks again. 
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#28

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The sudden change in your tonality from speaking to the camera, then to the girl was fucking boss owen! 
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#29
Shayne

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 Tried yesterday night. And wow. Best game ever.

It gave me energy, a lot of times my energy gets drained, this time completely the opposite.

Everything was flowing and every girl was so attracted to me, made me feel incredible after only a few minutes of "gaming" (doing nothing except say "hi", haha). Every minute I became more confident and dominant without even thinking about that shit. This video is so simple, yet so amazing.

Thanks Owen.
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CoolWingDude

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He just said he will kiss a girl and he did it, hah nice

amazing stuff again owen, gotta remind myself sometimes to be congruent yes!
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#31

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You say 80%?   Th's nice if is up to that.
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#32
ODonovan

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This was amazing, I love how I already knew this but its so easy to forget. Also every iteration of the concept gives a new perspective on it and kind of drives it into my head a little bit more, helps me make being congruent with myself a bit more permanent.

Stuff Eoin.
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jumbomonkey

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Reading some of the comments here and like the really positive vibe. Very Cool
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Very true and a bloody good example!
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Very true and a bloody good example!
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#36

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To me i love all owen's videos i've seen have been insightful and i've thought about them.
Where with this one, for the first time, i couldn't take anything from it. Because that's what i do in my approaches.
I never even really used the word congruent before until i found RSD which was in July this year.

My approaches were always hey, what's your name? And just having a natural convo with her and flirting.
I come across RSD when looking at more stuff to say, to bring more fun into my interactions regularly and throught this, i know about self amusement and cold reads etc. Before i never even had a game, it was just the natural way of chatting, flirting, kissing and getting the number to meet again.
Since finding out about rsd i've tried lots of funny of fuck stuff, but now i've switched back to my natural game and just intro'ing yourself is the best!

Introduce yourself first! Then ask her name, shake hands and then be you.
Obviously when i do it, i like to be fun and flirty..... but thats how i feel. I wouldnt approach if i was feeling down.
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#37

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Lately ive been obsessed with "authenticity" and "congruence" because i believe that they are necessary in order to be happy. Also all my "role-models" seem to be 100% congruent (tupac, russell brand,malcolm x eliott hulse....).

I searched on youtube for vids on authenticity and congruence and i could barely find anything so thanks so much for. This is why RSD is the best.
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joe91 wrote:
 all my "role-models" seem to be 100% congruent (tupac, russell brand,malcolm x eliott hulse....).
Nice role models!
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#39

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 Why did you tell the girl a the end you're only 32? Aren't you 33?
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TheRoyalFlush wrote:
 Why did you tell the girl a the end you're only 32? Aren't you 33?
I guess we now know where Tyler stands on the age old (see what I did there?) "What do I say when she asks my age?" question / sticking point lol
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#41
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 Lol, Tylers bizarre trick, aka Alexs theres no reason why you're not enough
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Great stuff. The spiritual video is basically a summary for the principles found in the Power of Now.

What I'm having trouble with, although, is beating the dicotomy between not resisting (letting go) and trying new ideas and behavoiurs. I'm also having trouble with letting of the outcome given the fact that I absolutely suck with women and can't even get laid to save my life. How can you let go of the outcome when you suck and hace no positive references of good reults?
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#43

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 I posted last week here and it never came up and it still says i posted it on my account...
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Smokin'

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When I look at that last part where Owen is talking to the girl and stays with the tention I thought of Drive... awesome movie. Oh, and awesome video! Thanks

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drevil

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 Where will the freetour in phoenix arizona be??
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#46

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sometimes I act without thinking... or think too much without acting... and sometimes I just talk bullshit and girl doesn't relate... haha, but thats just me
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