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Hey there!

So  Miami has been a blast.

Julien and I are smack dab in the middle of a 5 week stretch of non stop (NIGHTLY!) Bootcamps -- we have Jeffy, Alex, Brad, and many of our close friends visiting and teaching with us as well.

It's pretty hardcore but obviously I've learned a lot.  I love being young and still able to do something extreme like this.  My game and teaching is just getting better and better and it's amazing to watch.

The progress you make from going out non stop in an environment like this is something you really need to experience.  It makes me sad that most people never will -- but then again, if something is that high of a priority to you, you'd make it happen.

I've got a new 1 hour video today on the topics of relationships and monogamy.  I think it's pretty balanced and covers some really good ground so I hope you'll enjoy it.

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Hit up stuart@realsocialdynamics.com if you may want to attend. The first 4 weeks overfilled almost instantly and I've now decided to stay a 5th week for Ultra / WMC.

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Alright so today we're going to get into a video on the topic of monogamy and relationships.

People have asked me questions about this for years, and it's been difficult to answer because fans will oftentimes inadvertently upset and offend the girls I date by asking them INVASIVE PERSONAL QUESTIONS (or quoting me on things I said) when they bump into them in real life.

But I figured there were some general ideas I could throw out there, which will probably blow you away, and yet are like 1% of the tip of the iceberg on my knowledge of relationships that I've never shared.

Anyway we'll see how you enjoy this, and maybe I'll figure out more ways to reveal more in the future.

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO LEARN LEARN THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG ON HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK FROM THE ANGLE OF PUA...



Fun stuff huh?

Hope you enjoyed it!

And hope that this clarified many of your thoughts on relationships -- being self aware, and figuring out what you want!

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I also wanted to throw in an video from LAST YEAR'S Miami Free Tour video, which was the most popular I put out of the year...

Check it out!



Hope you enjoyed the progression!

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Okay so I'm out!

Let me know your thoughts on relationships, and what you learned from this vid!  Do you know what you want yet?  Where do you think you're at?

I'll be shooting some video blogs and you'll see me back next week!

Thanks for reading!  I appreciate it!  I'll talk to you soon!

Tyler
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#1

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Before I will comment on video. I want to adress this:

"People have asked me questions about this for years, and it's been difficult to answer because fans will oftentimes inadvertently upset and offend the girls I date by asking them INVASIVE PERSONAL QUESTIONS (or quoting me on things I said) when they bump into them in real life."

People can be fucking MORONS. They can't understand that your girlfriends are not part of RSD and they should respect their privacy, not to mention telling them about some of your ideas that you would like to keep for yourself in relationship.
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For many guys, a monogamous relationship is the right thing, and for many it isn't - however, most guys will never conciously know which one is true for them...

No wonder some of your students are too dumb to handle your girls - I guess that comes with the topic you teach. So the solution would be to leave the girl at home... 

Looking forward to the rest of the video. Your clips got also great entertainment value for me!
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YES!!!
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#4

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guess I have low testosterone.. :( i'm 18 i lift weights, eat healthy and my sex drive is pretty low compared to kids my age... how do I improve it !?
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Great video! i completely agree.
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Yeah, everytime I go to Vegas I always wonder how come I see packs of 10s walking down the Wynn, not every girl is hot, but the amount of hot girls is amazing.

In fac t I met quite a few girls that moved there and they started looking better after they moved there. So it makes me wonder why, LOL. I wish freaking Bakersfield California was like that, and I know is not happening.

Not saying that there are not stunners every where, but definitely you can see the difference in terms of percentages. A hot girl makes the game so much easier because it is so much easier to get aligned with your intent, even with just a bit of validation.
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#7

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FineReason wrote:
HOW CAN I BE INTENSE LIKE U??? IS IT ALL GENETICS OR IS IT MIND?

Get fucked in the ass and your good to go.
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#8

Tonatiuh

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Thanks Tyler,

This is clearly one of your most brilliant talks.
It is also a refreshing topic that you had not covered too much. This debate of being in a relationship or not is something I struggle with a lot, and I think it is also a very confusing point for many RSD guys. It ties up to the whole "should I break up or not" dilemma. (Yes, I am currently in a relationship and wondering if I should let go of her in the near future to go back to pimping, being one of those high-T guys who just can't have enough).

Also, this is one of those topics where we can really benefit from having mentors with more experience who have been there. Basically, you're one of the only people in the world who could shed some light on this topic. Because you're one of the rare few who've been doing it so intensely, for so long, and actually think about it and teach the stuff.
I mean, if the time scale for getting decent at game is 6months to 3years. The time scale to get this type of understanding on relationships is much longer (yearrrrs!), because you need to have been trough many relationship cycles. So the "just go out and it will autocorrect" principle applies less.... AND if you are in a relationship (like me) you're probably not going out so much anyway.
I guess I'm just trying to say: if you have more content about this topic please keep it coming. It's brilliant. It's unique (not many people in the world have the experience to talk about it). And it could  save us lots of time and frustration.

thanks again,
Best,
T
PS: Note to self: never get married. At least not before you're like 40 and your sex drive is decreasing.
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#9

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Hell ya. This video got me so siked. Totally enaged for the whole hour. I cant begin to describe how nice it feels to know that it is okay to be who I am. Ever since i hit puberty everyone(friends familly)were telling me that my feelings were not okay to have. As being non monogomous was always natural for me. Feels great after everyone was telling me to do something not natural to know its ight to be a player haha
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I didn't watch this yet, but I already no its going to be fire.. Thanks!!
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Looove itt. This is how one changes the world.........................
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#13

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i love this,  the in depth social critique using popupal culture examples "if you like it put a ring on it"
is straight up gold.

I am sure if tyler didin't have to tie this things to relationships nor pimping nor sex it would probably lead to revealing insights of the human condition. Social Theory and Philosophy. (i'll buy that book)
Just saying. 


good stuff
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#14

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This is a very interesting topic, thank you for bringing this up Tyler. 

Question, though (I am not arguing, I am genuinely interested to hear the opinion from someone with your expertise on this):

Let's say you are the high-T dude, and you have a high sex drive. But what if your wife's sex drive is on par with yours? Does being that 5% high-T dude mean that you will, regardless of that fact, still want to have sex with OTHER women? 
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lol
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put a ring on it
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this was funny as well inspirational and educational at the same time... would love to see move videos on relationships....

For me a thought of a good relationship disappears, when my girlfriend does something i dont like... especially if she repeats it again after i told her that....

i have been married once and all the best experience came with that woman was before the marriage....

i want a good relationship but i thiink its all about finding the right girl... and now i am single again, i am greatful for it and for RSD helping me to be the man who can do just that....
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Great!! topic came in at the right time
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#21

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This was not a very good video. I think it was pretty bad, actually. You did not make me angry, or anything (which you should have, you did not spike any emotion at all, to be honoust. Something I am not used to watching a video of you). You where all over the place. That's normal with you, but normally you get to a certain point where I am like: Ahh, that's where he was going with this. I didn't have that as strongly as normally, which made it kind of disapointing. At times, you didn't finish your story or your thought process. It's an hour long so you have to check it yourself again to see what I mean. I also thought it was a bit weak to say you are just fucking around several times at the end. It almost felt like you where defending yourself for having an opinion on relationships. Also something I am not very used to with you. 

Still, you made some good points about setting your standard at the beginning of the relationship. I think that was the overall message, but because of all the sidetracks, it was hard to stay focussed on that message. 
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#22

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You've made me at least twice as mysoginist... Thank you... I was looking for the next level and you helped me find it. haha! Freedom, fuck yea... the rest is just fuckery... and ppl are fucked because they allow fuckery to fuck up thier lives. Thanks dude, for being one of the leaders, to help me pull myself out of the darkness... I love it when things fuck with my head, I love it when things make me angry or other things I can't even imagine controlling. By mastering those areas I truly grow, and I know it like I know that i am alive. Those things are the keys to freedom. Freedom, never without responsiblity, cuz that wud just make it a privilage, and you're a shining example of that also. Thank you, once again...
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#23

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good candidate for a marriage partner is someone who makes u stronger and not weaker.... neutral doesnt cut it either..... this can be figured out fast... 
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Cool story bro, too bad Lil Wayne released a program on this weeks ago




For real though awesome talk, would love to hear more.
Making it to summit for sure
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Tyler I want to ask if you can develop your sex drive over the years. Right know I don't have fuckbodys and I am  having smiles  from irregular ONSs. I think it's becouse of my youth (I am 21, always using condom) but during sex I sometimes finish very fast, sometimes not at all. Sometimes its ok. Is there any hope that someday I will be a sex addict  like you?
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Anax wrote:
Cool story bro, too bad Lil Wayne released a program on this weeks ago




For real though awesome talk, would love to hear more.
Making it to summit for sure
Anax mate, that shit is soft. What the hell?

It blows my mind that black culture actually listens to this rubbish.
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#27

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Your new voice is hilarious lol. This video was captivating like a book I couldn't up down. I had to force myself to just go to sleep
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#28

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watched both videos for 3 hours straight.... never seen so much motivational content non stopt without any fluff... not once looked at how much longer till the video ends..... and when it was over, i was slightly dissapointed... of cause i will watch it over and again... thanksful to have access to this evolutional material from evolutional teacher.... 

I respect RSD more and more for not having commercials in their youtube channels... and the fact that they could easily charge good money for these valuable videos but put it out for free.... makes me feel rich by realizing how much value this material contains
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Great stuff as always.

Good to hear Tyler admit that marriage is ok...at least sometimes, for some people. The community rhetoric often seems to be, "Marriage is for chumps, if you don't become a player you will inevitably be cheated on and divorced, etc." The truth of course is that sometimes that stuff happens...and sometimes it doesn't.

There is tons of evidence suggesting that married people tend to be happier than non-married people. Of course, it's hard to say what is cause and what is effect. It could be that being an inherently happier person makes you more attractive, so you're more likely to get married earlier. Or marriage could make you happier than you would be if you were not married. Or it could be both, or something else entirely.

Whatever the case, it's obvious that monogamy works pretty well for a lot of people. There may be truth to the idea that what is usually called love is actually neediness, which they then backwards-rationalize. But even if that's the case, it doesn't mean that they can't end up being genuinely happy with the outcome.

On the other hand, it's not for everyone. And it might be right for someone at a certain point in their life and not at another point in their life.

It's funny how liberal feministy-types who are so adamant that it's wrong to judge people for being gay will judge the shit out of you, especially if you're a guy, for having a non-monogamous sexual orientation. Even if you make no secret about what you are, and you only have consensual sex with girls who want to have sex with you. Still, you're presumably doing evil manipulative things, because they can't wrap their heads around the idea of girls being down for that... Or, failing that, you're still "shallow" and "immature" because it's supposedly bad to be attracted to attractive women, and because you just haven't yet realized how "deep" and magical committed relationships are. And of course, being a "player" is assumed to be antithetical to ever having any kind real connection with a women.

So many false assumptions in the mainstream mindset...so many truths most people can't handle...

The useful and practical part here is about framing...about how what kind of guy you appear to be at the beginning of the relationship sets the tone for the relationship. This is what people don't get, and it's the problem newbs have when they start hooking up with girls, and then they automatically go into provider bf mode, even though they want to be player... And that's when they deceive and hurt girls. But of course, that is entirely unnecessary.

Two of the girls I was most recently with...I was sort of dating both of them at the same time for several weeks...not at exactly the same time, but there was overlap. They both told me basically, "Whatever, it's cool...you never did anything wrong. I knew you were seeing other girls, I heard you were a huge manwhore, and I decided to be with you anyway...you never lied about anything or tried to pretend it was anything other than what it was."

That's what people need to understand if they think PUAs are evil manipulators...and it's what guys who are learning need to understand both in order to have more success, and to not cause drama and hurt feelings when they don't need to.
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tyler are you sure you've never taken lsd?
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nestea wrote:
tyler are you sure you've never taken lsd?
lol. I've wondred the same thing.


I think most of the guys have said what I would say in reply to this already. But just to be clear...

Owen, this is MONEY! *PLEASE* make more content relating to game & relationships and possible ways of integrating or relating to having both in life. I'm sure you already sense that there's a HUGE market for this. In many ways, it may be THE question that most community (and non-community) guys want answered.
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#32

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you know any books, resources that talk more about "minimize time and effort" paradym?

I find myself wanting to do the least amount.

Need to get out of that mindset.
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Also wanted to say, it seemed like a few weeks ago you guys were running out of content (maybe I'm wrong) and BAM you guys came out with a lot more new super cool shit. Winner. 
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How the hell do you have time for sex 20 times a week with 1 girl?!?! Let alone the other girls you have in your life WHILE running bootcamp WHILE running a 3-4 million dollar a year business WHILE raising 2 kids and more to come... WTF. Inspiration for me to step it up. This isn't human sir. 
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I'll bet anything that you got mails regarding the Hillary-experiment.. haha, RSDN-crowd ftw. 
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By the way, if we look at the statistics, marriage actually benefits guys way more than it does women.
- Women, statistically speaking, still do most of housework. In Canada, women in double-income households spend 72% more time on childcare alone than men in those households (this is from Merav Michaeli at TED). 
- And women do 30 additional minutes a day of paid and unpaid work compared to men upon getting married. This adds up to 5 weeks of full-time work over the year.
- The earning potential of guys goes UP after they get married, that of women goes down. Perhaps because they are so busy doing the unpaid labour of housework? (Yes, this also maybe just because women get lazy, but the above statistics suggest otherwise)

Further,consider one of Tyler's main arguments against marriage is that the girl will take half your money and screw you over if you cheat on her. Actually, that's a very small percentage of all couples. Even the 50% divorce statistic is actually mostly coming from the lower socioeconomic status strata. Middle class folks (which is probably you) divorce rate is MUCH lower (not sure the exact number). 

Finally, according to research cited in this TED talk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y8u42OjH0ss)
- married people make more money
- are healthier physically and emotionally
- produce happier kids
- actually have MORE sex than signle friends
- MARRIED people LIVE LONGER
And yes, you can dispute the science on this (i.e., correlation vs. causation), but still..

So, in most cases, you are actually going to have a pretty sweet deal when you marry.
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#37

ary

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owen your not a jock your a great teacher ... wow man you hit the sh**t

that was owsome
i love the way you speak your mind !!!
aram
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Marriage is a mutual cop out. Sack up and die alone. 
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#39

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jlaix wrote:
Marriage is a mutual cop out. Sack up and die alone. 
Just because you had a fucked up childhood and upbringing doesn't mean this is true. Just saying. 
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#40

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Good post
Tritium wrote:

By the way, if we look at the statistics, marriage actually benefits guys way more than it does women.
- Women, statistically speaking, still do most of housework. In Canada, women in double-income households spend 72% more time on childcare alone than men in those households (this is from Merav Michaeli at TED). 
- And women do 30 additional minutes a day of paid and unpaid work compared to men upon getting married. This adds up to 5 weeks of full-time work over the year.
- The earning potential of guys goes UP after they get married, that of women goes down. Perhaps because they are so busy doing the unpaid labour of housework? (Yes, this also maybe just because women get lazy, but the above statistics suggest otherwise)

Further,consider one of Tyler's main arguments against marriage is that the girl will take half your money and screw you over if you cheat on her. Actually, that's a very small percentage of all couples. Even the 50% divorce statistic is actually mostly coming from the lower socioeconomic status strata. Middle class folks (which is probably you) divorce rate is MUCH lower (not sure the exact number). 

Finally, according to research cited in this TED talk (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y8u42OjH0ss)
- married people make more money
- are healthier physically and emotionally
- produce happier kids
- actually have MORE sex than signle friends
- MARRIED people LIVE LONGER
And yes, you can dispute the science on this (i.e., correlation vs. causation), but still..

So, in most cases, you are actually going to have a pretty sweet deal when you marry.

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#41

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Brilliant!...moments of glory from RSD!
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1- I confess I was always curious about tyler's deal with his girlfriend allowing him to fuck girls around, but I would never talk shit with his girlfriend if I met her in person. These morons people have shit instead of brains!

2- While watching this I could not stop thinking in some friends of mine who got girlfriends and got married because they 'cannot get anything better' than their actual girlfriends/wifes. I really feel this is not for me because I feel my potential in life is so huge, I wanna do so many things and fuck so many women that having a monogamous relationship would not allow.

3- This video was also very inspiring to me to be a better man, to get my shit together and become a pimp in my own way! Thankyou for that!
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#43

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Anyone else think Tyler is slowly morphing into Aziz Ansari?  The voice, gestures, and
fascination with rappers and the club are an eerie match.
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the is fucking genious but i have school in the morning fuck
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#45
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In my mind the HUGE variable in all of this is the children involved.  It's one thing to forever be a player and to not settle down with any one woman.  However, how does that affect the children involved?  

In my own life, I want to someday have long lasting open relationships and I also want to have children. Moreover, when I have children, I want to be an EXCEPTIONAL father.  I'm very uncertain as to whether  the player lifestyle is conducive to being a high quality father and vice versa.  Definitely something to explore in greather depth.  
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#46

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Good shit in this video! So many valid points and expressed very well.

I would add that there is that other group think narrative that is fueled by advertising and the media that pushes onto men that its glamorous and validating to live the Player lifestyle. Shows like Entourage, books about Rock Stars and even the PUA community are large forces in our culture that tell men that the barometer for success in life is how good you are with women.  not to mention we get bombarded with images of hot women all the time.  A guy thats been married for a long time is often viewed as a pussy-whipped chump, in a lot of cases its true but traditionally a man that gets married is a positive thing because he has that part of his life taken care of.

So there's stigmas for both sides, you'll never please everyone and people will always have their opinions. I suppose there is no right answer to this area of life because there are sooooo many people on this earth now and shit just keeps getting more complicated. I think if just need to trust our biology and be sensitive to others needs, even if they fall into the Group Think frame.
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Tokeyyy3 wrote:

jlaix wrote:
Marriage is a mutual cop out. Sack up and die alone. 
Just because you had a fucked up childhood and upbringing doesn't mean this is true. Just saying. 



That's a quote from Jeff Winger on the television program Community, but thanks for sanctimoniously pointing out and reminding me of my unfortunate family tragedy, asshole. Lol

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#48
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Marriage is a pretty scary thought to me, to be honest.
I mean I'm not as disillusioned as this guy...


But it was always a topic I've tried to avoid, but as the people in my environment start to get married I have to deal with such topics too. I mean I always admired the coziness and the warmth feeling of a committed relationsship, but as many guys here I got burned many times. I've never been in a relationsship longer than three months, either because I finished it first or the other way round. I don't want to kill the passion of a relationsship with a ring. What is actually the point of a marriage? getting lazy? sitting at home, watch tv, bore your life to death and getting fat from eating cheetos?
I think marriage is an institution that builds an emotional (and financial...) cage. You are married, so you have to love your partner. Free will doesn't exist any longer, you are married so you must love your partner till death do us part. At all cost, right? It tries to claim something that isn't claimable. I don't know, it sounds pretty shitty to me somehow. On the other hand being lonely forever sucks too! Its a dilemma...

There are couples who have children, are together and they aren't married. Love don't need a ring, it's something that comes from a place of freedom, interdependence and not from dependence. I'm talking about an ideal here, but I want to build something beautiful together with another independent person. I want to discover my girl every now and then. I want to develop my life with the girl together and don't get stuck or resigned.

Maybe I'm open for a committed relationsship in the future. Especially when I'm getting older and my sexdrive starts to slow down a bit. But for now I want my life to look like these x-art porns, 24/7. Everybody must have a dream:)

And what is the lesson of my post...
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ALGERIANO

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Join Date: 12/23/2008 | Posts: 138

there is no secret guys reas this from wikipedia

In Islam, polygyny is allowed, with the specific limitation that a man can have up to four wives at any one time. Prophet Muhammad had eleven wives in his lifetime, and had 9 wives when he died. The Qur'an clearly states that men who choose this route must deal with their wives justly. If the husband fears that he cannot deal with his wives justly, then he should only marry one. The Qur'an does not give preference in marrying more than one wife but allows it to make it easier on a woman who has no support. Islamic scholars opinion that the husband must tell the first wife if he wants to marry another. A husband does not have to have permission from his first wife.[61] Women, on the other hand, are only allowed to marry one husband, although they are allowed to remarry after a divorce. Although many Muslim countries still retain traditional Islamic law which permits Polygyny, secular elements within some Muslim societies challenge its acceptability. Polygyny is prohibited by law in some Muslim-majority countries that have not adopted Islamic law for marital regulations, such as Azerbaijan, Tunisia and Turkey.

Polygyny, and laws concerning polygyny, differ greatly throughout the Islamic world and form a very complex and diverse background from nation to nation. Whereas in some Muslim countries it may be fairly common, in most others it is often rare or non-existent. According to traditional Islamic law, a man may take up to four wives, and each of those wives must have her own property, assets, and dowry. Usually the wives have little to no contact with each other and lead separate, individual lives in their own houses, and sometimes in different cities, though they all share the same husband. Polygyny is an exception rather than the rule and is traditionally restricted to men who can manage things, and in some countries it is illegal for a man to marry multiple wives if he is unable to afford to take care of each of them properly.[citation needed]

In the modern Islamic world, polygyny is mainly found in[citation needed] Saudi Arabia, and West and East Africa; in Sudan it was encouraged by the president in 2001 to increase the population.[62] Among the 22 member states of the Arab League, Tunisia alone explicitly prohibits polygyny; however, it is generally frowned upon in many of the more secularized Arab states, such as Egypt. Few other countries including Libya and Morocco require the written permission of the first wife if her husband wishes to marry a second, third, or fourth wife.



thanx god im muslim
if i like monogamy, i mary just one time
if i like polygamy i mary with 4 wives

keep cool peace be with you guys
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Thrillseeker

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Join Date: 08/23/2006 | Posts: 426

Tritium wrote:

- actually have MORE sex than signle friends

That's the result to which my response is: duh and/or no shit. Of course people have more sex if they have someone with whom they have a sexual relationship, who is already willing and who is around all the time. That would be the obvious advantage of being in a relationship.

99.9% of single people are not players. Probably most guys who are naturals, and most guys who have been learning game for a while hook up often enough that it adds up over the years, but I think it's only top-notch players and/or sex addicts who are getting laid regularly and consistently, like on a weekly or more basis, and even they have their dry spells some times. Good PUAs are such outliers that there aren't really any statistics that apply to them.

All that other stuff is more or less true though. Can't argue with science. Marriage does work for a lot of people, and a lot of married people are happily married. But it's not for everyone, and it's not for everyone right now even if it might be later.
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