I'm the co-founder / executive producer of Real Social Dynamics, and the author of "The Blueprint Decoded" -- I was born in Ottawa Canada (1979) and majored in philosophy at Queens University. Now live and work in Los Angeles California -- My life consists of managing Real Social Dynamics, running Bootcamp and Hot Seat, going to the gym, reading everything under the sun, and a twice a week surfing habit.
Really liked the content here. I think the resistance to "helping others" can be stemmed from the old school sort of mentality of "don't supplicate". Of course, guys will supplicate as a way to get something from others, whereas what you talk about here is about simply offering value for the enjoyment of it.
The value you get out of it is seeing others succeed and be lifted much in the same way you would succeed at any endevour in life.
for me personally i disagree with making other people happy to make myself happy.
perhaps not at that level of internal centeredness right now, right now I'm a validation addict constantly button pushing and not having self-esteem.
ironically i was just doing Ten Days To Self Esteem by David Burns today.
just found out how absurd those beliefs were about linking happiness and worth with how other people respond towards me
Interesting topic Tyler. I just typed a blog post for entrepreneurship where I analyze one of the topics you mention.
Something I realized in top performers is that they override their actual body and mind.
Just like you draw the boundary on other people, like "Sorry, I'm not gonna do that, that's not my thing", top performers draw the boundary on themselves. Anytime they have a shit thought like laziness/low self-esteem, they immediately draw the boundary on themselves, something like "All due respect, mind, I don't think those kind of thoughts. I'm ignoring you and overriding you".
When you have high demands/high accountability you just categorically ignore your physical sensations and thoughts because they don't matter. The only thing that matters is your vision and whatever your body or mind are thinking that's not within the boundaries is just immediately ignored or cut off.
Tyler reads my blog, take my issues, and use it as material for his videos for other people.
I m his only and ONLY ONE inspiration to creatte universal material .
haha... I m kidding. ding dong ding dong.
Fighting against inner demons/fears, daim I can relate!! Everybody can relate!!
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I wanna see these lights and beaches some day, too. I'm not interested in the elderly, fake tits or drug cartels, though^^
btw.
I like the message of the vid:
A go getta don't hate on other go gettas
on the happy thing:
One year ago, I had the mindset on how many women I have to approach till I get my dick wet. And I was a little dissapointed that I didn't got my cookies right away. Although, I got some good success over the year.
Nowadays I have a shift in my thinking, because I realised that I make the day for the most women that I hit on and that makes me happy. But hustlin for the poon, is still my 1st motivation.
funny i just started reading pressfields work and you mentioned it. My favorite is Warrior ethos..teaches you the crazy high standards taht spartans and marines have and how much they valued right action/honor. love the bit about helping otheres i tend to forget this and put the focus on me too much. It's a powerful mindset to have to help others very profound.
I love myself. I don't take shit too seriously, I have a plan and I follow through.
Domination? I like it, It's fun it's a good way to lead. I don't use it to prove myself, it's enjoyment and their's self amusement that comes with it. Love dominating, love taking the lead. I push myself to new comfort levels, it's those moment where you push yourself that you remember how awesome you are. If the girl is cool with it, I'm cool with it. Always looking for ways to push things forward and never looking back for introspection.
this is very valuable and practical advice, not just with girls. I used to hate assholes who are mean to me, prolly goes back to being bullied in middle school. Now my mentality is about giving love and making others feel better, and i notice i don't get affected by the few assholes who are mean anymore, who cares, i'm the one giving out love and if they don't want to recieve the love, too bad. I'm gonna keep making others happy and have strong boundaries at the same time. :)
Tyler,
I generally Agree.
- dominate yourself not others - I like this concept, I get good feeling when I push myself to go to MMA training when sometimes I am lazy ( Fuck it, go there or you are pussy, just make it you fucker) - and you know what - I am consistent in that.
- don't feel sorry, make other people happy - another great mindset that will make you charismatic
The only thing I have to add is that probably you go too far with this. I understand that this is RANT, you haven't sleep and in order to guys understand you make it extreme. I think that there are times when you have to DOMINATE this little bitch you are and take action., but there are moments you can just let go, relax not change anything and even allow some laziness.
With the second concept: Yeah make people feel good, but don't forgot about your needs as well, and have personal boundaries. Take care about your needs like sleeping, eating good not about crying how unfair world is to you :)
Liked this video. Your going to have a successful journey when you hit the self developement industry. I like the energy that you bring to a video thats designed to motivate as always. The domination of oneself is a learned process....the power over yourself is much more critical to any mans success than the power over others.
This video is great, but since you are a quality hound... the videos are getting pretty redundant. It's like i'm hearing the same thing every time - maybe switch up the vocal tonality or take some more time to plan them. It's funny because a lot of times i can tell by your videos thumbnail what kind of video it will be.
Best part about these videos where you are yelling is they do keep me engaged. I'm an entrepreneur myself so i can relate to a lot of what you are saying.
Pretty good content man! I think I've never seen so many inspired comments on a video in a long time! It seems like your message got through 100 % and people are uplifted already. I read through them like watching a mash-up of "success-stories" on video in high rate editing! :D
Something I've noticed during the learnign process. I think the rant style makes your message somewhat mis leading, because im sure the place youre coming from is a place of acceptance rather than assertion (assertion meaning constantly whipping yourself to dominate) From my experience drive that comes from assertion like that isnt really sustainable, it just makes me stressed and uptight.Where when you accept quietly that you were just meant to dominate, and that youre really selling yourself short when you dont, its more sustainable.
Although its engaging, the rant kinda anchors your message to that stressed feeling.
I mean if I took your message right now to carry out from both the emotions you were putting out, and the message that you were givin out, I wouldnt be able to keep that motivation up long term. It would be too stressful interms of the assertion and stress i would mentally put on myself.
Just an interesting observation ive made about motivation. Which ones last and which ones dont, and the places they come from.
Would LOVE if you could just give me a quick comment on this.
Cool shit! I'm reading 'a new earth' (thanks by the way) and I see a lot of parallels to Tolle's description of the ego. The core of the ideas are around in RSD a long time but you took it to another level. Usually the videos give another view on an existing topic in RSD but here you really went further. That's great!
One thing I see differentely: I'm not sure if sexual domination is in the same category as trying to dominate other people. It has more to do with leading. I'm not into the shit you described but I like to lead in bed and I the girls I like love when I do. That's why 'shades of grey' is such a massive blockbuster. It's a game.
i got rejected today couple dozen times, almost got police called on me by one scared girl who almost got run over by a car trying to run away from me, i also got kicked out of the club and still dont feel sorry for myself, actually i feel better for not ending up in jail... feels good to be free :) tomorrow will be same fucking thing... i am surprosed to see 2 hot girls standing alone and no guys trying to start a conversation with them.... i feel like this world is so fucked up... but i just gotto readjust myself to it... been living in my head for too long
This is the SHIIT! Your movies are so soooo helpful for me (newbie), just came back from London Alex Hot Seat, and i can truly say that RSD is the fuckin best datin company, and tyler you've found Pick-up Holy Graal!
Greetings from Poland
Great motivation,
Be carefull of aproaching girls near busy streets :)
NYtitsjunkie wrote:
i got rejected today couple dozen times, almost got police called on me by one scared girl who almost got run over by a car trying to run away from me, i also got kicked out of the club and still dont feel sorry for myself, actually i feel better for not ending up in jail... feels good to be free :) tomorrow will be same fucking thing... i am surprosed to see 2 hot girls standing alone and no guys trying to start a conversation with them.... i feel like this world is so fucked up... but i just gotto readjust myself to it... been living in my head for too long
Props for action taking, but try more to flirt with the girls and not to literally scare them to death;-)
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NYtitsjunkie wrote:
i got rejected today couple dozen times, almost got police called on me by one scared girl who almost got run over by a car trying to run away from me, i also got kicked out of the club and still dont feel sorry for myself, actually i feel better for not ending up in jail... feels good to be free :) tomorrow will be same fucking thing... i am surprosed to see 2 hot girls standing alone and no guys trying to start a conversation with them.... i feel like this world is so fucked up... but i just gotto readjust myself to it... been living in my head for too long
Thanks for sharing! Dominating myself as well, when I get too lazy if I am alone in the club I say to myself: TAKE ACTION!!! Then I MUST take action. I also do it for other parts in my life. No one else is kicking me, so I must do it myself.
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The value you get out of it is seeing others succeed and be lifted much in the same way you would succeed at any endevour in life.
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holy fuck.
what a video. I feel like busta rhymes yellin 'oh my god' on that fat Tribe Called Quest track from the 90's.
My consciousness just got uplifted.
Great stuff homie much love much gratitude keep it coming.
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perhaps not at that level of internal centeredness right now, right now I'm a validation addict constantly button pushing and not having self-esteem.
ironically i was just doing Ten Days To Self Esteem by David Burns today.
just found out how absurd those beliefs were about linking happiness and worth with how other people respond towards me
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Something I realized in top performers is that they override their actual body and mind.
Just like you draw the boundary on other people, like "Sorry, I'm not gonna do that, that's not my thing", top performers draw the boundary on themselves. Anytime they have a shit thought like laziness/low self-esteem, they immediately draw the boundary on themselves, something like "All due respect, mind, I don't think those kind of thoughts. I'm ignoring you and overriding you".
When you have high demands/high accountability you just categorically ignore your physical sensations and thoughts because they don't matter. The only thing that matters is your vision and whatever your body or mind are thinking that's not within the boundaries is just immediately ignored or cut off.
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haha... I m kidding. ding dong ding dong.
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I wanna see these lights and beaches some day, too. I'm not interested in the elderly, fake tits or drug cartels, though^^
btw.
I like the message of the vid:
A go getta don't hate on other go gettas
on the happy thing:
One year ago, I had the mindset on how many women I have to approach till I get my dick wet. And I was a little dissapointed that I didn't got my cookies right away. Although, I got some good success over the year.
Nowadays I have a shift in my thinking, because I realised that I make the day for the most women that I hit on and that makes me happy. But hustlin for the poon, is still my 1st motivation.
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Domination? I like it, It's fun it's a good way to lead. I don't use it to prove myself, it's enjoyment and their's self amusement that comes with it. Love dominating, love taking the lead. I push myself to new comfort levels, it's those moment where you push yourself that you remember how awesome you are. If the girl is cool with it, I'm cool with it. Always looking for ways to push things forward and never looking back for introspection.
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I generally Agree.
- dominate yourself not others - I like this concept, I get good feeling when I push myself to go to MMA training when sometimes I am lazy ( Fuck it, go there or you are pussy, just make it you fucker) - and you know what - I am consistent in that.
- don't feel sorry, make other people happy - another great mindset that will make you charismatic
The only thing I have to add is that probably you go too far with this. I understand that this is RANT, you haven't sleep and in order to guys understand you make it extreme. I think that there are times when you have to DOMINATE this little bitch you are and take action., but there are moments you can just let go, relax not change anything and even allow some laziness.
With the second concept: Yeah make people feel good, but don't forgot about your needs as well, and have personal boundaries. Take care about your needs like sleeping, eating good not about crying how unfair world is to you :)
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Best part about these videos where you are yelling is they do keep me engaged. I'm an entrepreneur myself so i can relate to a lot of what you are saying.
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Something I've noticed during the learnign process. I think the rant style makes your message somewhat mis leading, because im sure the place youre coming from is a place of acceptance rather than assertion (assertion meaning constantly whipping yourself to dominate) From my experience drive that comes from assertion like that isnt really sustainable, it just makes me stressed and uptight.Where when you accept quietly that you were just meant to dominate, and that youre really selling yourself short when you dont, its more sustainable.
Although its engaging, the rant kinda anchors your message to that stressed feeling.
I mean if I took your message right now to carry out from both the emotions you were putting out, and the message that you were givin out, I wouldnt be able to keep that motivation up long term. It would be too stressful interms of the assertion and stress i would mentally put on myself.
Just an interesting observation ive made about motivation. Which ones last and which ones dont, and the places they come from.
Would LOVE if you could just give me a quick comment on this.
Thanks
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One thing I see differentely: I'm not sure if sexual domination is in the same category as trying to dominate other people. It has more to do with leading. I'm not into the shit you described but I like to lead in bed and I the girls I like love when I do. That's why 'shades of grey' is such a massive blockbuster. It's a game.
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I watched this at the right time..coz I was debating calling Wambulance!!!
And you are absolutely right...a person who is constantly getting better and perfecting himself has little time hating on others...
Love this!
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Be carefull of aproaching girls near busy streets :)
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NYtitsjunkie wrote:
i got rejected today couple dozen times, almost got police called on me by one scared girl who almost got run over by a car trying to run away from me, i also got kicked out of the club and still dont feel sorry for myself, actually i feel better for not ending up in jail... feels good to be free :) tomorrow will be same fucking thing... i am surprosed to see 2 hot girls standing alone and no guys trying to start a conversation with them.... i feel like this world is so fucked up... but i just gotto readjust myself to it... been living in my head for too long
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