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Hey there!

SOOOOO PSYCHED for Brad's "Evolutions" program coming out soon!

www.bradschosenfew.com

He's going to be taking over the frontpage shortly, so enjoy learning from a guy who I consider to be among the very best in the world at picking up and fucking hot women!

(And please for God's sake -- do NOT deprive yourself from learning from one of my own top resources over the fact he's "good looking" -- about half of my top pick up mentors are really good looking, and I model what they do and get IDENTICAL results to them!  Get "Evolutions" you will LOVE it!)

Anyway just gotten back from a quick business event in Washington DC, and am shooting off to Palm Springs for Anthony Robbins "Date With Destiny" in a few days!

Then off to Las Vegas to meet Jeff for a stack of programs (Bootcamp is full but hit me up on Free Tour and Hot Seat!) and finally Papa's wedding!

As usual I've been working non stop but also enjoying life.  I'm getting really strong in the gym and reading a ton of books in my small amount of spare time!

Anyway here's my schedule for the coming months!  Come to an event with me if you can!

December 7, 2012: Las Vegas
December 20, 2012: Orlando
January 3, 2013: Los Angeles
January 17, 2013: Dallas
February 7, 2013: Aspen, Colorado
February 14, 2013: New Orleans Mardis Gras
February 21, 2013: Miami Model Season

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

I have a 3 person team that handles ALL of your questions about RSD events -- Stuart, Huey, and David -- all guys in their 20's who are highly active in the game and pimp it with instructors personally, call them any time to talk game or ask any questions you want!

NORTH AMERICA (Toll Free): +1 (888) 546 7286
EUROPE: +44 (0) 2079 934 034
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Lastly, Julien and I are going to be running "5 Day Alumni-Only Bootcamps" in New Orleans for Mardis Gras, and Miami South Beach during the infamous "Model Season" this Spring. So if you're considering attending then start looking into it now!

www.modelseasonbootcamp.com

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So you may have noticed I've been FIELD TESTING / EXPERIMENTING with a lot of Julien's ideas lately, especially in the recent infield video clips.

One of the things that shocked me was in a Julien Free Tour video he mentioned calling girls "SLUTS!" and "DOGS!"

My initial reaction was "This is too hardcore, not my personality..." but my general view of anything outside my comfort zone is that it is EXACTLY WHAT I NEED TO TRY.

Yes of course, you need to "Find what works, discard that which does not, and create something truly your own" as Bruce Lee would say.

But you ALSO need to TRY A LOT OF NEW THINGS so that you can even DISCOVER what is truly your own -- you have NO IDEA what you will resonate with or what will work for you until you shut the fuck up and try it!

Funny enough, I later realized that what Julien was teaching is completely congruent to me, for the simple reason that people FULLY MISUNDERSTAND where he's coming from and why he does what he does.

He does these types of silly things (which are maybe 1% of what makes his game work -- his game is DEEP and maybe the best I've ever seen with my own eyes) because they are HONEST SIGNALS that communicate directly with the CORE of the girl.

Julien doesn't care about superficial personality, he goes RIGHT TO THE CORE with HONEST SIGNALS that her DNA can read loud and clear.

So that's what we're going to talk about today, and I hope you enjoy it!

CLICK HERE TO BE WHISKED AWAY TO THE LINCOLN MEMORIAL WHERE TYLER WILL REVEAL THE POWER OF "HONEST SIGNALS" TO THE GIRL...


btw hopefully you've enjoyed the few "throw away" infield bursts I've added into the vBlogs recently!

I think they're great, but they're also in there cause they're not even on the level of the stuff I'm prepping for Hot Seat!

(So I figured I'd get some use out of them in the vBlogs...)

The value of the Hot Seat event is beyond anything you'd imagine, and that's why it has such amazing reviews.

(ACTUALLY read the website about it if you haven't:  www.rsdhotseat.com -- do it now!)

I also wanted to add in a few infield bursts into vBlogs this year since I won't be creating the dating stuff forever, and wanted to leave it as legacy for future years.

For some reason I always love imagining the shock of my future audience seeing this, like "Damn that dude was really PIMPIN'!!"  LOL.

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But yeah I hope you got as much out of watching this as I did out of creating it.

And like I mentioned multiple times in the video, the lines like "slut!" are basically the LEAST POWERFUL of any honest signal.

They're just one of many so do NOT get hung up on it.

And also like I said, those types of lines are meant to REVEAL something about you in HOW YOU RESPOND TO HER REACTION.

If you are not ACTUALLY centered in your power as a man, they simply reveal that you suck, and very likely could get you beat up.

So keep that in mind!

If that's YOU then I'd say use "honest signals" like how a guy with bad cardio would have sex -- don't try to pound the girl and then reveal you're weezing and out of breath, simply find a steady pace that works and you can still do okay. :)

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I also have a video I shot back in the day that's very related to HONESTY, and how by simply SHOWING WHEREVER YOU'RE AT can be extremely powerful.

Again this goes back to guys who aren't feeling like the shit and wanting to show those honest signals of high status, instead you can focus on CONGRUENCE.

By doing this I've also gotten laid.  It may not be as lethal, but it's damned effective with certain girls, and allows you to build upon success after success until you actually become the shit.

So it's very relevant right now to have a second look at this, click it right now!

CLICK THIS VIDEO TO SEE TYLER AT THE ROCKEFELLER CENTRE IN NEW YORK REVEALING THE POWER OF HONEST CONGRUENCE...


Ohhh the memories, there was such a banging girl I was with watching me record that one.

God I'd love to hit that again LOL.

But life moves on, and if we're gonna be real, my current situation is even better. :)

Anyway hope you've got a full picture now!  Some good deep issues revealed in these ones!

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So I'll hit you back next week with a video I shot this weekend in MALIBU!

It's on the topic of how to simulate the carefree / fun vibe of a natural every time, and the pros and cons of going out constantly versus once in a while.

Then it wraps with Papa and I in the monthly meeting.

I uploaded it last night as well since I'll be at the Anthony Robbins seminar next week, and won't have time to put up anything new.  So it'll come out then. :)

PLEASE HIT ME UP WITH COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR THOUGHTS ON "HONEST SIGNALS"!

Let me know how you've used them, and what an "honest" game means to you!

I'll be sure to read them and let you know what I think!

Big scramble to get everything done before my trips this week, thanks so much for reading and I'll talk to you soon!

Tyler
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First
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Weeee :)
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 I already watched the congruence video so many times, lol.

I'll watch the new one at night when the internet is free, and give my feedback, haha.

I just wana know something, being congruent is putting your vulnerable personality on the line right? It can come out as very attractive and high value. They all mean the same, real, congruent, vulnerable...

I'm getting confused by the terms. I think this is what lets me get the girls, I sometimes feel so depressed, but get the girl by not hiding it, it comes out as me being very high value and not needing approval.
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Tyler, when will be Hot seat 3 launch?
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I thought you were gonna show us some footage from that business event??

Nice vid anyway!
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Ya it's THAT or OTOH it may even be so congruent out of your mouth she's afraid to test on it!

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Nice video as always!

So basically calling a girl a "slut" or "dog" proactively forces a shit test which you can then beat, amping the girl up?

I like that you are expanding on your ideas about the personality vs the DNA, it's extremely interesting.


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Yup!

Didn't have time to cut it yet!

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I thought you were gonna show us some footage from that business event??

Nice vid anyway!
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6 - 12 months, but I most likely won't be teaching it so you may want to do what's out now!

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Tyler, when will be Hot seat 3 launch?
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It's all grey areas.

Best = be the shit.

Second best = if you're not the shit, at least don't FAKE being the shit, just be congruent.

Both can work!  Both can FAIL!

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 I already watched the congruence video so many times, lol.

I'll watch the new one at night when the internet is free, and give my feedback, haha.

I just wana know something, being congruent is putting your vulnerable personality on the line right? It can come out as very attractive and high value. They all mean the same, real, congruent, vulnerable...

I'm getting confused by the terms. I think this is what lets me get the girls, I sometimes feel so depressed, but get the girl by not hiding it, it comes out as me being very high value and not needing approval.
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Seems like this relates to basic confidence and centeredness as another way to put it.

When you have those things it doesnt matter what you say, it just matters that they sense a confident calm man and I suppose thats what their dna says they should be drawn towards.

Why do we have all that with girls we arent interested in and we dont with girls we ARE interested in.
Clearly , we have the ability if we can be cool and calm with girls we dont care about so why then is it so hard
to be that when you actually want is at stake.

I just dont get why that happens. Its nuts.
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bingobango wrote:
Seems like this relates to basic confidence and centeredness as another way to put it.

When you have those things it doesnt matter what you say, it just matters that they sense a confident calm man and I suppose thats what their dna says they should be drawn towards.

Why do we have all that with girls we arent interested in and we dont with girls we ARE interested in.
Clearly , we have the ability if we can be cool and calm with girls we dont care about so why then is it so hard
to be that when you actually want is at stake.

I just dont get why that happens. Its nuts.



You reach a stage at game and just really in life where you are in the fucking zone!



Here, you are not trying to be anyone but, who you truly are.

Its not something you will explain.

It just is and the world follows leaders from this way of being.

It just takes time and I am sure the rsd crew will admit, it fluctuates even still.

Its one of those things, its fleeting, you blink, and its gone.

If you try to hold onto it, it is lost, and so, just enjoying yourself, being in the moment, not having regrets or being too hard on yourself, and just letting go.

Letting that which truly doesn't matter slide.
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 when i let go trying everything comes out of me is honest......
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 I lol'd when you zoomed out from Lincoln's face to your face haha.

In terms of growing as a person, what if a newbie or anyone not "the shit" tried to show honest signals and then like you said that would highlight that they are not the shit, but if that person kept the right attitude and kept going out it could potentially be a good learning process and help them grow out of being a not the shit into being the shit. Lol sounds funny how I worded that. 
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Fucking Profound!

You are putting into words things that few had put into words before.  It's like shining light on once dark lands of the collective mind. 

Keep it up till the end, Man!
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Some of your videos lately have been unbelievable. I literally cannot find content of this kind of quality on ANY subject for less than a few hundred dollars, and you're putting it out for free every Wednesday.

Just wanna say thanks, and that your stuff inspires the hell out of me.
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Great combination of content and the infield footage example.

I like the clarity in how you present this concept. It's been one of the hardest ones for me to explain to others when they ask me. 
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Matt281 wrote:
Some of your videos lately have been unbelievable. I literally cannot find content of this kind of quality on ANY subject for less than a few hundred dollars, and you're putting it out for free every Wednesday.

Just wanna say thanks, and that your stuff inspires the hell out of me.
Ditto
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Matt281 wrote:
Some of your videos lately have been unbelievable. I literally cannot find content of this kind of quality on ANY subject for less than a few hundred dollars, and you're putting it out for free every Wednesday.

Just wanna say thanks, and that your stuff inspires the hell out of me.
Thanks man!

Here's my dirty little secret.

I'm motivated primarily by legacy (you can probably sense that) but financially my motivation is very arrogant.

I think if I kept a continual intense focus on creating content like this for another 10 years, it could become INCONCEIVABLY sick.

(I mean hey it's not really THAT hard -- imagine if this is all you did, all day long?)

It's my opinion that Web 2.0 is blowing the fuck up, and that if you spend years getting really skilled at envisioning and creating content, you can become basically your own mini version of NBC / ABC / CBS / FOX.

(A MINI version of course, but then again, it doesn't have to support a staff of thousands...)

IMO if I keep hammering at this I can create the sickest content imagineable, but if I just say "Ooooh yeah, I COULD do XYZ if I WANTED TO later when it's monetized in 10 years..." I won't have the skills built up over that time.

So the reason I keep doing this is for practice, at least financially. Legacy wise I just think the shit is hella sick.

OTOH I also think what I'm doing isn't actually THAT great, but rather that it's fucken crazy that nobody else has done anything like it before.

I feel like I've found a "lane" here that's shockingly unexplored. It's crazy to me nobody has done this.

Cause it's not like anything I said in this video is that revolutionary, and yet, nobody has really said it before!

How crazy is that??

And there's SOOOOOO MUCH  MORE that a lot of people know, but has never been said, and people want someone to say!

I've got such a baglog of content in my head the struggle is to get to it all and make formal content out of it, not coming up with more.

Craziest of all -- the more you "put out into the world" the more ideas you have given to you.

So it pays itself back exponentially, and the more I put out the more I'm flooded with new ideas!

And since aside from "legacy" my own to personal interest in this is just my own journey, it enhances it even more.

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Nice! 

I agree with everything you're saying - Especially business wise.

Finishing my Masters Thesis in Content Marketing and all the aspects of Web 2.0, the impact it's having on consumer behavior and how we percieve value and product information is insane.

I love the fact that great products and amazing content markets itself by way of digital word of mouth, giving suppliers the opportunity to just focus on creating even better and more valuable content.

Question: Who else do you see is delivering some very top-notch kind of information (besides Gary Vaynerchuk and Tim Ferris as examples). Is there anyone who's working in the same lane that you use as a benchmark? Unrelated to PU 
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Matt281 wrote:
Some of your videos lately have been unbelievable. I literally cannot find content of this kind of quality on ANY subject for less than a few hundred dollars, and you're putting it out for free every Wednesday.

Just wanna say thanks, and that your stuff inspires the hell out of me.
Thanks man!

Here's my dirty little secret.

I'm motivated primarily by legacy (you can probably sense that) but financially my motivation is very arrogant.

I think if I kept a continual intense focus on creating content like this for another 10 years, it could become INCONCEIVABLY sick.

(I mean hey it's not really THAT hard -- imagine if this is all you did, all day long?)

It's my opinion that Web 2.0 is blowing the fuck up, and that if you spend years getting really skilled at envisioning and creating content, you can become basically your own mini version of NBC / ABC / CBS / FOX.

(A MINI version of course, but then again, it doesn't have to support a staff of thousands...)

IMO if I keep hammering at this I can create the sickest content imagineable, but if I just say "Ooooh yeah, I COULD do XYZ if I WANTED TO later when it's monetized in 10 years..." I won't have the skills built up over that time.

So the reason I keep doing this is for practice, at least financially. Legacy wise I just think the shit is hella sick.

OTOH I also think what I'm doing isn't actually THAT great, but rather that it's fucken crazy that nobody else has done anything like it before.

I feel like I've found a "lane" here that's shockingly unexplored. It's crazy to me nobody has done this.

Cause it's not like anything I said in this video is that revolutionary, and yet, nobody has really said it before!

How crazy is that??

And there's SOOOOOO MUCH  MORE that a lot of people know, but has never been said, and people want someone to say!

I've got such a baglog of content in my head the struggle is to get to it all and make formal content out of it, not coming up with more.

Craziest of all -- the more you "put out into the world" the more ideas you have given to you.

So it pays itself back exponentially, and the more I put out the more I'm flooded with new ideas!

And since aside from "legacy" my own to personal interest in this is just my own journey, it enhances it even more.

Tyler
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This seems just like provoking and passing shit tests. That's why I try to dress outrageous, look weird, and say crazy shit. But you're right. If you do all of those things and then can't handle the negative reactions it just draws attention to how weak you are and makes you appear even less attractive LoL It's like you have to train and condition yourself to become someone who really thinks that everyone's opinions and ideas and beliefs relating to you and everyone else are utterly worthless and inconsequential. 98% of this stuff doesn't work for people because deep down they care what people think.
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I think anyone who knows how to talk into a camera in a way that captivates and shares good value / entertainment / knowledge is great.

Elliot Hulse is a guy I just recently stumbled onto, very engaging and has great info!

There's tons!

Tyler
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I like the simplicity in all rsd concepts.
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Tyler wrote:

 I also think what I'm doing isn't actually THAT great, but rather that it's fucken crazy that nobody else has done anything like it before.

I feel like I've found a "lane" here that's shockingly unexplored. It's crazy to me nobody has done this.

Cause it's not like anything I said in this video is that revolutionary, and yet, nobody has really said it before!

How crazy is that??
It's interesting because the stuff you put out IS amazing. But at the same time, the bar is SO LOW.

Even with something like pickup, the more I do it, the more I realize how much is possible. Even having what most people would consider to be crazy success with women is still just scratching the surface. People get discouraged because of that. But the bar for moderate success is still so low. It amazes me that people aren't willing to do more to get what they want.

Cheers
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 hey, tyler
i really like the video about honest signals. all i hear constantly whenever i try to "school" my friends on game, is that you have to walk up and say something nice. im glad you gave in-field examples and explained throughly that its all in the subcommunications. 
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Awesome! i found total congruence being working best for me of late.

Super awesome reactions from all sorts of girls especially ones with bfs for some reason.

Like theyd almost look paralysed trying to work out why the hell no one else had ever said or done something so from the core without expectations.

Im writing little notes in my notebook the next day, which is the one i used for hotseat.

Funnily enough, scribbled through it on every second page from HS is BE CONGRUENT.

LOL.

That and JUST HAVE FUCKING FUN.

On the money again Owen!
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soo this very thing is something I've been working on since I started game. Kinda the idea that I alone am enough, without the gimmicks or the techniques or anything. Honesty is the absolute best policy. I've been struggling to gain a clear understanding of what it is that I am doing.... until this vid. I don't normally post in these cuz i don't wanna be all fanboyish, but good shit owen, really helped me clear shit up thumbs up
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Dude I really enjoy the tiny infield footage bursts here and there. Good job!

You should release that "old" clip of yours, the one where it looks like you're moving under water. It's was actually one of your first video clips (you were a bit heavier back then but truly a great exemple of how looks don't mather at all). Yes, the one where the girl's actually goes for the kiss herself.

Please man, I'm really nostalgic about this one! It was the first time I ever saw you infield and my reality was BLOWN :-)

Good times.
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Hahah, been watching Tyler's videos since about 2006 and every week I'm thinking "what more could he possibly tell me about game" and every week the video is usually better than the last one. It's kinda like... well, you'd had to follow his stuff for years to get how insane that is.
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He Good!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lVHsahS_v64
Tyler wrote:
I think anyone who knows how to talk into a camera in a way that captivates and shares good value / entertainment / knowledge is great.

Elliot Hulse is a guy I just recently stumbled onto, very engaging and has great info!

There's tons!

Tyler
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 Another awesome video man.  I especially like the infield footage you add.  It helps hammer the point home by adding the real life example plus its hilarious.

I hadn't thought about the topic of "honest signals" in the way you describe but the general idea is something I stuggled with.  I used to wonder how I could reconcile saying certain things if I didn't ethically agree with them.  This video answered that question easily.  Thanks a lot.
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"You're so funny !!!"

They all react the same way indeed !
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Tyler you have lately mencioned a few times that you focus on fucking girls for hours... any tip on how to do that? Do you fuck them all that time without ejaculating or do you cum and them fuck them again various times?

Thank you
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Ha ha ha! LMAO... This is too much fun! I love this! You're a smarty little dude don't cha? :)
First things first: Touché douché! Hehe!
This content brings a "new angle" of value to the table. YOU KNOW ME, I can't help but to think of how "the jaded mind is taking this" every time I see one of your vids. So this time you nailed it.
You win, I win, everybody wins, when you explain yourself correctly.
Remember: (1+1+2+3+5+8=20<--complete! 1+1+X+Y+Z+W=20<--incomplete --> chode anger, jaded minds, psychological torture.... But free hehe)
When you say "why a guy that DO understand and CAN do what I can will go to the trouble of reclamation", think that despite the rules that makes the world turn I believe that there're always room for a little altruism. Don't you think?
Happy to see you decided to make a vid on "honesty" though.
Happy to see that you "lift" the "outside barrier" a little bit more.
Peace.
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Wow, this video was really awesome.

I find it amazing how so much high value things come out of your mind so fast. You are a great inspiration for me as a person who work so hard on developing yourself to archieve your greatest potential.

I've been meditating, fixing my nutrition and sleep for some weeks and I can already feel so much better! Meditation really is so much powerfull, I feel my mind so much more calm, without all that noise and emotional ups and downs - it really gives you a much better sense of self-control.
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 Some very useful stuff inside.

I guess honest communication can not only make the girl attracted, but let you make real connections with people, men or women, in general.
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i wanna see tyler's version of this
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lol. I love how I'm all stifled in the background at 1:16.
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He's taking this Purple Cow shit a bit far! LOL
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i wanna see tyler's version of this
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Love that you live what you speak. Great content. Keeps getting better. Sharper and sharper. I appreciate it. Thank.
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That's good stuff Owen,

I noticed this before this vid and that clarified it even farther. The first vid really explains a lot of the values in the 7 habits and it really does make a difference in game and life as a whole. The ability to be self aware win/win and honest allows extreme self amusement to me and helps me understand before trying to be understood.
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Im at 2:32 and god this video is already beautiful.
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jmeks23

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Tyler you would have the sickest mustache ever.
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tryhariwab

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this is one of my favorite videos of yours so far... It clarified a lot of questions about being truly honest in communication... We live in a world where saying a completely honest statement is thought of as a lie and so to avoid that subcommuncation comes into play with body langue, eye contact, and statements that show congruence.
A lot of the time it is easy to use "being honest" as an excuse to say and do manipulative and whiny things to stay in a negative state... aka editing what you say to not offend or stay in your comfort zone etc.
thanks again!
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TropicalMan

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 There is something I am not really getting here. I wouldn't be in the cool place I am here right now if it wasn't for the fact that I PUSHED my comfort zone REALLY HARD.

When I was a complete little bitch, I guess it was dishonest of me to walk up to a girl and tell her she is cute. Yet, somehow I did it. Now... I also know that when I did I was probably showing all of the lack of game I had at the time and how much I sucked... I guess. When I started daygame, my body language, tonality (probably everything) was pretty off, which just showed how much I lacked. But also, I wouldn't be able to do that right now and set up a date with a girl if I hadn't failed before. (Yay I am going to get my first date from cold approach this Saturday :D so proud!)

I actually think that you have to fail and be willing to look like a retard when you do strange/weird/crazy shit.

I mean... what if the guy who has bad cardio does hard/intense sex every day is actually improving his cardio by 0.00001% just by having sex? Then, in a year, he would be pretty good at having wild hard sex! Or not?

Hopefully somebody can give me their opinion on this. There must be something about "honesty" that I am probably not getting right.

Because... if you are congruent and honest to what you feel... and you are a little bitch, then you won't even leave your comfort zone and approach because you are a little and approaching is not congruent with the Being of the little bitch... right? 
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 I genuinely think this is the only article a newbie will ever need (or maybe just me)...
I want to give some constructive feedback though, Tyler, add some background music to your videos. It may sound stupid but maybe it was the music that made the video has so much more of an impact (I was listening to Tame Impala - Feels Like We Only Go Backwards whilst watching the first vid). Never even heard the song before.
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goosebump

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what was the book he quoted about honesty?
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Jake Green

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 You absolutely destroyed it again, it's just incredible. On a completely different level to what I see normally and this just inspires. It's amazing, even your writing/posts are just that much better now :) coooool
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Doge~

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goosebump wrote:
what was the book he quoted about honesty?
Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton
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Doge~

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TropicalMan wrote:
 There is something I am not really getting here. I wouldn't be in the cool place I am here right now if it wasn't for the fact that I PUSHED my comfort zone REALLY HARD.

When I was a complete little bitch, I guess it was dishonest of me to walk up to a girl and tell her she is cute. Yet, somehow I did it. Now... I also know that when I did I was probably showing all of the lack of game I had at the time and how much I sucked... I guess. When I started daygame, my body language, tonality (probably everything) was pretty off, which just showed how much I lacked. But also, I wouldn't be able to do that right now and set up a date with a girl if I hadn't failed before. (Yay I am going to get my first date from cold approach this Saturday :D so proud!)

I actually think that you have to fail and be willing to look like a retard when you do strange/weird/crazy shit.

I mean... what if the guy who has bad cardio does hard/intense sex every day is actually improving his cardio by 0.00001% just by having sex? Then, in a year, he would be pretty good at having wild hard sex! Or not?

Hopefully somebody can give me their opinion on this. There must be something about "honesty" that I am probably not getting right.

Because... if you are congruent and honest to what you feel... and you are a little bitch, then you won't even leave your comfort zone and approach because you are a little and approaching is not congruent with the Being of the little bitch... right? 
Yeah, I understand where you're coming from. There's really two ways to look at this game.

One is you FORCE the charisma. This comes across wildly incongruent and most likely the girl blows you off because she can sense you're not being real.

However, the benefit of this is you build momentum after each rejection and come into aligment with a high level of charisma later on in the night.

The other side of the equation is you're CONGRUENT but have very little charisma. The benefit of this is, the girl doesn't blow you off right away but because you're charisma is so low, she's also not very likely to sleep with you either.

Of course there's girls out there that will go for guys will low charisma because they're kinda shy themselves or they're at a place in their life where that's the type of guy she's looking for (ie. older women).

So what's ultimately better? I think it depends. It depends on what you respond to more but I also believe that anyone should incorporate a mix of both because each has it's advantages.

Take me for example.

I use to always force charisma. ALWAYS. However, I found that what ended up happening with me was because I was getting good responses from girls when I was in a state of high charisma (ie. building momentum, hitting state and executing good game), I developed an ego where I attributed my successes to "being in state" or "having good game". When I came down from all the social momentum I built up from the night, I felt like a total chode again, like my powers had drained away.

This also caused me to develop a game ego where it was very difficult to approach at the beginning of the night because I would identify with my results and walk around thinking, "Damn... I'm not in state, this approach is going to suck."

So after getting so sick of this, I switched it up, where instead of trying to force game and force the execution of principles, I just rolled up CONGRUENT. Very stifled, nothing impressive and just stayed with it. I found this was much better for me for a few reasons.

This forced my brain to realize that it's ok to roll up "chodey". Nothing bad is going to happen, she rejects you, no big deal. I use to be almost DEATHLY afraid of this. It also forced my brain to realize that it doesn't have to be afraid of anything. You don't need anything, game, confidence, state, etc. ANYTHING and you'll be fine. "It's ok brain, you got this. You can handle anything." Slowly but surely my self-trust gets better and better with each passing day.

It's also forcing me to realize that "I AM ENOUGH." There is nothing I need to do or say or become, I simply am enough and nothing in this world will change that.

However, I also found that there's one big flaw to congruence and that's when you want to tackle sticking points. If you want to improve some aspect of game, you have to step outside your comfort zone and try something new. You have to mess up and "force" it, at least a little bit.

That's actually what I'm doing right now with push/pull. I'm out there forcing the behavior because it's necessary to improve but again, it doesn't have to be one or the other. At the beginning of the night I'll just be congruent and be friendly. After I build some momentum then I'll try tackling some sticking points. Mix and match and see what works for you. :)
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