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Tyler
 
I'll be in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Seattle, and Honolulu for the Free Tour / Hot Seat / Bootcamp combo over the coming few weeks.  These are my final Hot Seat events as I no longer have the time available to run them -- if you want to attend this amazing event with me personally, this is the time.

The weekends are...:
Los Angeles:  May 26
San Francisco:  June 9
Seattle:  June 23
Honolulu:  July 14

Click over to
www.rsdfreetour / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com if you want to do this now.

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Happy Monday, I’m back in Los Angeles after a big East Coast trip to Chicago, NY, DC, and back to Chicago again. Just spent the day on the beach in Malibu with my sons and GF, and I’m typing this up Sunday night at home to go post it at the internet café when I wake up.

The New York Free Tour video I was telling you about last week is now up. I’m very happy with it, and it’s my favorite Free Tour clip so far. Then again I think every Free Tour clip I do is better than the last.

I do each of these events with “no parachute” meaning that I go in with very little prepared and hit it up off the cuff. I try to do new concepts, jokes, stories, and communication styles at every event in order to challenge myself to expand on my repertoire. Whatever has been on my mind at the time is what I talk about.

This is tricky because I walk a fine line between giving a great experience for guys who have been following RSD for a long time and making it relatable to newbies who aren’t in the loop.

The challenge is to create a seminar that “laces in” the basics of pickup while going into more advanced topics. I create it in my head as I’m speaking in real time and then hope to tie together something coherent as I’m doing it. Every talk is “experimental” and I try to do something totally new.

At the New York Free Tour I went into the most “advanced” ideas I’ve ever shared on pickup, but I’ve cut them out in this clip because I want to further refine them. Yes I realize you’re probably thinking “I want it NOW…” but this material was very hardcore and needs to be better explained and backed up with concrete examples to do it justice.

(You can't just run around saying the crazy shit I say at that event without properly explaining it -- you’ll see it within the next year or so. I’ve also thought to make a documentary film on the topic as one of my current instructor assistants is a professional film maker—he’s also helping me to record infield footage which is pretty sick.)

Regardless the NY event was SO AWESOME in my humble opinion. :)  I’ve put together a half hour clip of solid content here which I know you’ll love. It’s based on fundamentals about the game that I offered to help out the newbies in attendance.

This includes the attitudes, mindsets, and views that I have towards picking up girls and sex which allow me to be successful. This one is highly entertaining so CLICK IT NOW TO CHECK IT OUT.



LOL, amusing shit no??  Hopefully you enjoyed watching it as much as I did being up there as the speaker.

As a side note I wish MORE girls would come out to Free Tour. There’s usually one or two but I love talking to women. If you have any female friends that want to come out definitely bring them.

This is one of the big incentives for creating the self development company in the future. I can’t even imagine how awesome life will be when I’ve got a mixed room of both guys and girls.

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Anyway it's kind of late as I'm typing this, but I thought I'd spend a few minutes ripping off a quick article off the top of my head (please don't mind if it's rough around the edges or a bit unprecise).  Usually I like to talk about what's been on my mind lately, so I thought I'd talk about my love for the game, teaching pickup, and why I do what I do.

There’s a really cool book written by Russell Simmons called “Do You!” (he has another good one called “Super Rich” as well) where he made some great points about what’s meaningful in life, and what’s ultimately fleeting bullshit.

He tells a story in the book about a rapper who I presume is Ja Rule after having his career destroyed by 50 Cent, and how at first he made a lot of money, but later realized that what he really loved was creating music.

Russell has been around the block a few times, so I take his opinion at face value. He talks about how a new rapper will usually follow a pattern where he'll get an album out and buy some jewelry and a new car. Then he drives it around the block a few times, the novelty wears off and he realizes that it’s just transportation.  The jewelry is also cool at first but then they realize it’s just decorative shiny metal.

In the example of Ja Rule he talks about how he realized that what he really loved to do was rap. The bullshit surrounding it was more for ego purposes, but that wasn’t what he originally got into it for. Then by the time he realized that what he really loved was music, he didn’t really have an audience for his material anymore.

I’ve personally had some experience with this, where the first few years after the book “The Game” came out I was being stopped on the street around ten or twenty times, or in some cases even a few hundred times in a day.

This was probably also because I had the long blonde hair at the time so I was more recognizable. The times when it happened a lot was usually in cities like NY or LA or London where there were big pickup groups roaming around and they knew I was in town.

These days I’m only approached a few times a week, despite that RSD is now more successful as a business than we were after the book came out. But yeah it took me a while to wrap my head around it.  It’s funny because at this point I'm cool with it. I like it because I view it like I have friends all over the world, and also because people often sign up for a bootcamp after meeting me.

At the time though it used to fuck up my brain because I’d have experiences where I’d meet somebody and then later read online “Yeah I met that Tyler guy, he’s an ASSHOLE!” Or even “I didn’t see him pick up any GIRLS!!”  It fucked me up because I’d felt like I’d made a personal connection with the person, just there having a conversation, and then to find out there were these gears running in their heads the entire time.

Other times I remember how I’d teach a guy and we’d become friends, and then later he’d take a program with another pickup teacher and then say that I was a piece of shit and taught him the wrong stuff.  That was crazy to me because it was like, “Well man I just taught you the best stuff I know. If you don’t like it anymore that’s cool but it doesn’t say anything about me as a person. Did we only stay friends after the program so you could get more pickup tips?”

I also remember how I’d think I was friends with various people in the pickup community, and later if they didn’t make the money they wanted with RSD (either with teaching or if I declined to offer to create articles for their blogs or do interviews) they’d get all bitter about it.

Some of these guys were good buddies in my mind, but I was too young to realize that business and friendship aren’t totally the same thing. If somebody isn’t making the money with you but they hung out with you, why not just use the past association to get attention to whatever new project, right? The crazier the shit they fabricate the more attention they get, and if you say anything about it they get more attention so it’s a win no matter what.

The irony was that at a young age one of the core drivers of being a pickup teacher was the "petty desire" to make people like me.  I wanted acceptance and to have more friends -- but the result was this weird provisional acceptance and not knowing who my friends were.

All that shit used to make me walk around paranoid, and instilled a mindset where I had to constantly be offering value to people and that I wasn’t worth being friends with if I wasn’t “doing something” for somebody.

Anyway it was in my mid twenties that I was fucked up over all that. I was really too young for it and didn’t have any mentors to explain what was going on. The book “The Game” really spun my head out for a few years as well, and it was just a lot more than I got into pickup for.

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I think that if you lack the maturity and mentors, one of the hard parts of becoming a public figure and/or successful entrepreneur is the social isolation that comes from it.   It’s like the “breadth” of friends increases, but the “depth” goes to down significantly.  You’ve got all these people who seem cool with you, but it’s not based on anything. It’s basically surface level and based on value as opposed to real friendship.

But you know, what’s really the most fucked up part about it isn’t the petty issue of your social life. It’s seeing the fucked up parts of human nature, and how “good” people will rationalize using each other to try to get ahead.

You realize that if they’re doing this, you’re probably no better than them, and that YOU have the same inclinations as a part of your nature as well. You get exposed to the fucked up parts of human nature in ways that most people will never have to get rubbed in their faces, and it makes you feel like your own existence is pretty much pointless.

This is especially weird because you realize that you actually worked to expose yourself to this reality. You spent years of your life slaving to get ahead, only to live a life that’s isolated and weird.  If you love attention then it’s probably fine, but if you’re smart enough to realize that the attention is doesn’t have a lot of significance then it just feels like a waste of time.

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To be honest I think this is why a lot of successful business people just give up on humanity and figure they’ll focus on making money.  They realize that we’re ALL pieces of shit, most of humanity is fucked up (themselves included), and there’s no point in trying to fix it. One man can only do so much. The flaws of human nature run too deep so it’s best just to accept it.

My approach has been different, in that it’s my belief you have to make a “leap of consciousness” to deal with this sort of thing.

The big thing for me has been going back to what I love and focusing on it. I got into teaching pickup because I loved going out and I loved teaching. So I do this pretty much constantly.

This sounds weird to other teachers I meet, that I go out so much, that I teach nearly every weekend. I do this because it’s an activity that gets me into the moment, gets me present to what's in front of my face.

To deal with the nonsense you basically reach a point where all you can do it become present to it, accept it, understand why people they way they are, yourself included. You have to forgive other people for how fucked up they are before you can forgive yourself.

It sounds weird to say “forgive people” for fucked up behavior, but how can you let go of your own bullshit if you can’t get past the bullshit of others? You can’t.

All you can do is become present to it. So when I meet people on the street, I stay centered in my own energy, grounded in my own movie of life. Yeah they’re talking and who knows what the fuck is going on in their heads, who cares?   My nature is no different than theirs, so why think about it?

People just do the best that they can. They have good intentions, they don’t understand themselves. Even if they do it’s hard to have the willpower to make the right decisions all the time. That’s just the way that it is.

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The crazy thing about my life is that I work to build RSD, and yet the happiness I’ll gain has little to do with the actual growth of the business. The main thing I like about it is helping the people who are around me, but I don’t personally need to grow it to have whatever I need.

I don’t need to do self help in the future, I don’t need to work more than a few days a month. I think most guys in my position don’t have this realization until it’s too late, and then they get depressed about it. I’ve had enough forethought to understand it going in, so I know what I’m in for.

The reason I do what I do is because I think it’s awesome. :)  Seriously if you aren't producing work you think is awesome, then why do it?

I’ve realized that all I really like to do is teach programs, record new videos, write new shit, conceptualize new ideas, and generally CREATE.  I’m like that dude in the movie “The Hurt Locker” where at the end of the movie he tells his kid that when you’re young you have all these things you like to do, then as you get older there’s only a few, and after a while there’s maybe one or two, and then just one.

Then he goes back to the war to diffuse bombs because that’s what he loves to do. He’s realized it and accepted it.  I like other things than teaching obviously, like sex or eating good food or hanging out with buddies. I like travel and exercise going to Laker games, but as far as life goes there really isn’t much to it.

This stuff is more to relax me to get me in a better headspace to create better material. Even the reading and meditation is really just in the service of creating better material. Hell even GETTING LAID is to relax me and give me the juice to go out and create more awesome shit.

Actually sex is probably the one pure activity other than doing shit for RSD that I really enjoy. I’m lucky to have a girlfriend who has as strong a sex drive as I do and also has the confidence not to be jealous and let me be who I am.

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So yeah I’ve realized that what I like to do is be out travelling to new cities, running new programs, creating new shit. I love pushing the envelope and seeing what’s possible. I feel like my peak is still many decades away.

I look at Kobe Bryant and feel grateful that I don’t have to peak in a few years like he does. I can’t imagine the pain he’s going to deal with not being able to play at a competitive level anymore. The money he has is irrelevant garbage being some washed up basketball player, even though most people are in a paradigm where they think it would be awesome because they don’t understand it. I really don’t know what the guy is going to go through after all this is done.

I have a creative outlet where I’m still so far off my peak potential, I can double in creative output on a yearly basis and it only gets more awesome for year after year. At the same time I treat it like I’m Kobe where I could be dead in a few years and not leave behind the legacy I want to leave. I went through that car accident a few years ago and that changed me where I no longer take time for granted. I know I’m only going to have so much.

When my son was born I was tempted to put my aspirations onto him for a while. I felt like I had to live for him and that he had advantages that I would never have.  I thought raising kids and doing all this shit I have planned was just too much.  I felt like I got over the first hurdles and that he could carry the torch, take us over the next ones.  I see the potential in him to do amazing things, just seeing how he’s wired and the way his personality is already at a young age -- I see him emulating me constantly and know he could do it.

But I realized that there’s nobody who has the advantages that I do. Nobody who can do what I can do, because they haven’t had to push through the disadvantages. I’m the most advantaged person that exists to do what I’m here to do, so if I can’t do it then it’s me who failed and no one else.  There's nobody else who can offer your gifts for you.  What he's here to do is what he's here to do, I'm here to do what I'm here to do, that's all there is to it.

I know what’s possible, I know what my output could look like if I stay focused on it, so that’s my goal, my focus in life. I’m a blessed motherfucker to have an audience who loves what I do, who wants me to put things out, who want to learn from it.

So many creative people don’t have this, like I see a guy playing a harp at the farmer’s market today and I think about how he probably loves what he does but yet can’t get paid ten bucks to play there for four hours.  I think sometimes other guys in similar positions to me forget how blessed we are for this shit. Like putting out new ideas and material that people appreciate is a privilege and a blessing, not a job.

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I guess I just got sick of being a human after a while, sick of our petty natures and small minded desires. I’m as bad as anyone and I just got bored of it, uninterested.

My goal for myself is basically to become less dense, less personalized. I love the feeling of being nobody and that feeling of “offering value” flowing outwardly. Other than that I like the odd diversion but if I go too long without it I just feel bored and angsty.

I want to go deeper, to become more present to the moment, less dense than I am, more expansive and translucent (yeah that sounds weird I know). The thoughts that go through my head bore the shit out of me, they’re basically just repetitive and petty. That’s when I’m dense and contracted, not expansive and less.

This sounds strange but I feel like I’m at a point where the main progress I think about on a day to day basis is how still I become in meditation, and how present I become while teaching and running programs. I believe that life is a combination of “clarity of intent” and “freedom from outcome”. I feel like the quality of the output is directly correlated to the clarity in the intention of it, and whether or not it comes from a place of having no outcome.

It’s like the art of this is to become still and get in touch with the real intent, then allow it to flow outward without the pollution of needing the result. The “effort” you put in is like directing the energy outwardly, that’s the creative aspect.

This is the old philosophy that’s talked about in the old Bhagavad Ghita text and there’s obviously a reason why it’s had such longevity and impact on many creative individuals. That feeling of being in the zone creatively is what people live for. It’s a juice that’s more addictive than any drug. When you lose it you feel like you’re dying, feel like there’s no reason to live.

Most people can’t relate to this because they’re dead to life and have never experienced passion for something before, so they have no basis for comparison. Go read some tabloids or read some gossip or some shit, get a dirty “alert feeling” that’s comparable for a few minutes and then it’s gone. They never get to feel the clean extended version that comes from doing what you’re meant to do.

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Going through the odd dull days gets me thinking about structuring my life so that I can more often be doing what I love.

I’m hitting a point where any dull day is just killing me. I feel the potential wasted, I really can't deal with that anymore.   A day of rest is different from that.  But those grey-zone pointless days I can't stand.

I know that if I load up on clean food and green vegetables, I will have an awesome day. If I sleep deeply in a room that’s ideal for it, I will have an awesome day. If I read amazing shit in my spare time, I’ll have an awesome day. If I’m around top notch people who are hitting up life on the same level as I am, I’ll have an awesome day. If I’m exposing myself to awesome influences over the internet if I’m going to log onto it, I’m going to have a damned awesome day.

If I allow myself to eat bullshit, or absorb bullshit, or act in a way that’s bullshit, my life is going to suck. If I fail to take care of myself, to take time off from time to time, I become petty and self centered which makes me unhappy. I know this, so it’s a matter of sticking to it.

Scheduling as much teaching time as possible is awesome for me. If I do this I know I’ll be happy, and it’s also good because I only have so much time left with the blessing of teaching pickup full time. I’m appreciating it on a deeper level than I ever have, just soaking up these fleeting experiences while I can.

Ultimately I have to go deeper. I have to let go of so much, realize that it’s all pointless, it’s not leading anywhere. I have to accept that I’m bullshit, that other people are bullshit, that we do the best that we can. Let go of attachments to the world looking the way that I wished it would look, dissolve into it and accept that it is what it is, go deeper into it, see where it leads.

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For the past months I’ve been having these repetitive dreams where I see myself, and the total bullshit that is my life, in up close view like under a microscope.

I see myself going through life animating my personality for no reason at all. It’s leading nowhere, just this output of energy that’s accomplishing nothing other than expression of its own momentum.

That momentum is slowing in me. I don’t feel drawn towards it anymore. I don’t give a fuck about the same shit I used to give a fuck about, I don’t have the same desires that used to seem appealing to me.

In the dreams I see parts of my personality just peeling off like big chunks, being ripped away and I just sit there and there’s nothing. I see friends getting all wound up over petty shit and it’s ridiculous to me. Why, why why do they give a fuck?? Don’t they see what’s in front of them?

Yet paradoxically as the social isolation from other people’s surface level personalities becomes more entrenched, I feel closer to people than I did in the past. I feel as though I can see through them to the core and forgive them for everything they’re not able to be, as I’ve had to forgive myself in the same way.

My relationship to life has grown stronger, I don’t rely on others and external happiness for happiness, it REALLY IS all the same as long as I’m clear in my intention, or going deeper in letting go of the outcome of my life.

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Our minds are full of such bullshit is saddens me to see our culture so entrenched in it. Yet there also presents an opportunity for change, however remote that possibility may be.

It’s cool to sit around imagining this but until you embody the change you wish to see in the world, your opinion doesn’t mean shit.

I’ve seen so much petty shit in my life, both in others and especially myself, I sometimes feel induced to vomit. The feeling of being so sickened with yourself that you’re nauseous is a curious one, and yet I can’t hesitate to recommend it whole heartedly because it promotes change. :)

The most beautiful moments I’ve seen in life are those when people have found ways to rise above it. I’ve been so entrenched in mental bullshit at times that I can’t find my way out of it back to presence, almost like wading through a fog. I spent the first two decades of my life like that, in a hell of my own mind, and I’ve returned there repeatedly in adulthood.

Sometimes I need help to find my way back. This is what I want to do with my life. I want to be “THERE” and I want to help others to get BACK to “there”. To do this I need to make myself strong, more abundant. To become more expansive, less dense, less personalized, clearer in my intent towards life. Disciplined, focused, take myself less seriously, truly enjoy life.

I’m not really sure what the point of it is, but I feel intuitively that there may be one. The insanity of contemplating it can be used as a tool to push you back to “there” so I use it as that. There’s an artform to this, and this is what I want my life to represent.

Anyway obviously this is all pretty weird shit, and some people will relate to it and some won’t. That’s all good but I thought it would be interesting to some people to share it. This is really what goes on beneath the surface of what you see in the videos, beneath the endless game and teaching and motivation to succeed.

The other main reason I wanted to post this was that I'm hoping you've noticed how the segments at the top where I talk about being all butt hurt by petty bullshit seems almost ridiculous when you contrast it with the broader ideas at the bottom of the page.  I'm hoping you noticed how you can ultimately outframe the petty bullshit in your life by evolving to the next paradigm -- like getting re-focused on why you're doing what you're doing, and putting your attention on doing what you love.  I'm hoping you'll relate this to your own life.

I’m off to bed now and psyched to wake up in the morning to post this. Hope you enjoyed the video as well, let me know your thoughts and have a great day!

Tyler
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#51
Bitchboy

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Join Date: 04/29/2011 | Posts: 8

I'm frickin loving these posts from the seminars. I'm saving up to go to London seminar. Each one is so unique, thanks Tyler!
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#52

Gorgias

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Post seemed really self-indulgent and egotistical. How many times did Tyler use the word "I"? A lot. If I didn't know he wrote this I'd think it was written by one of those new age types who are way too much in to "self help" to the point where everything in their life has to be rationalized that it is improving them and perfect and justified and righteous and their life is so great and full of epiphanies. 

The video was cool but I really can't stand girls in the audience. Immediately they assume some special status and all the guys react to them pathetically. It is just disgusting to see even Tyler lose his cool because a girl is in his presence (although I could see how it would throw you off, your reputation is on the line and by the dynamics this ONE girl has the power to discredit everything you say)

And lol @ the random religious guy telling people they will go to hell. I wish Jeffy was there he would have handled he guy properly telling him to fuck off, take that bullshit elsewhere not cater to his absurdity. Even old Tyler would have gone off on a rant about religion causing sexual repression which would probably be more informative than anything else in the video. 

Still overall I liked the video thanks for sharing.
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#53
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 have said it before but this is seriously some of the best writing of our generation, such sick amount value
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#54
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QUOTE: The feeling of being so sickened with yourself that you’re nauseous is a curious one, and yet I can’t hesitate to recommend it whole heartedly because it promotes change. :) 


damn, definitely something i can relate to.
good that I had that, probably still have, pushes me to a better life.


THANKS for that outstanding article, i love those, because they mirror my own thoughtpatterns and you mix it greatly  with advice. 


Cheers
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#55

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 You couldn't be more inspiring.
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#56

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 i loved the lil pickup demo rite in the audience with that girl.  tyler was projecting sexual intent, eyes locked on her, physical, unreactive, self amusing.  she was infatuated with you.  good show
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#57
freshbit

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I totally get where you're at, but you did write this for no one but yourself. Guess I'm Mark Twain's Satan now, telling you there's no one else out there.
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#58
walter

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 Not in this headspace, but enjoyed seeing the "behind the scenes".
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#59
Maikuljay

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 Great vid/post.. I like where your thinking right now.. 

Everytime I read one of these type posts It motivates the shiit out of me to do more.. well done. As for the Vid, I love your new comedic twist on it all made me walk away not only think "aahhhhh yeah, that's awesome I should ponder that more".. It made me think that, with a smile.. and an improved mood. 
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#60

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Wow.  I can really relate to this article.  I had one of those lame ass days yesterday, where nothing terrible happened, but I got into this stupid debate and got caught up in a bunch of bullshit.  I could have been doing something constructive instead of trying to convince someone else that I was right.  Today has been better, but been kind of in and out of a fog and not really knowing why.  It was like this article was written just to get me back on track.  Anyway, there were some other interesting things in this article to say the least.  I've had a lot of friends that are really "surface friends".  I've actually had a number of friends/associates that I thought were good buddies of mine that turned out not to be.  It just makes me appreciate the people in your life who really like you for you.  I could see in myself in how I've probably treated others in this "surface/superficial" way as well.  I respect how Tyler is very introspective and looks for errors in his daily actions.  That's a very good habit and mature thing to do.  I should probably do more of that myself.  Great article.
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#61

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 lol at my pettiness. its shocking when i see it all around me, but thats how society works right now. i'd rather be alone than be around anyone because other people are distracting... and i dont want my own pettiness to be brought out. in the past, i probably attracted bad relationships because i was as prepared to be as "bad" as anyone else. this article has put me in a weird place, but its better than the status quo.
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SpikeSpiegel wrote:

Before you posted this I had to learn to detach myself from whenever you would write about yourself because (like you explained in that other video) I was always comparing myself and getting depressed about how, "I'm not living a life of my own design" or "I don't have that kind of commitment or passion towards anything," even though I am 10 years younger than you and have no reason to be at the same level of maturity.

@SpikeSpiegel: You hit the right keys there! At the beginning I was like "damn, i have to be like Tyler, every other state won't work", but then i realised that being "not in the moment" and having those feelings of "resistance" withing yourself are totally o.k.. U just take right action anyway, "feel the fear and do it anyway"
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#63

EricTH

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 Cool post. I can relate. Great timing. Thanks.

-Eric
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#64
pharmer7

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 hey Tyler,

really enjoyed the video-always something there to learn and laugh about!

what i appreciated most however was the latter section of yours-I'm currently reading The Power of Now and the concepts on life in that book are clearly reflected in your attitude and way of living. It's sure easy to read about 'how to live' but obviously a lot more challenging putting it into practice. I think to those who are in a similar headspace (or at least experienced glimpses of presence) to you now would appreciate the frankness of your article and will take inspiration from the lifestyle that you lead-be it in pickup or parenthood! lol

I'm very much a left-brained thinker...left to my own will, i'd start looking into the future and back and see how depressing and shitty life seems. how everyone is just retarded. im just learning now how being "present" or "in the moment" can really shift your outlook on life for the better =)

looking forward to seeing your self-help material in the future. in the meantime, keep these ideas flowing on RSDNation!

PS. just googled Eben Pagan to realise he was the one and only David D ahhaa, he's awesome too. 
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#65
JofSuperman

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Tylers is on fire with these videos
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I hate you so much Owen, you constantly explode my concepts and similarly expand on my current thinking. The more I get into this actualization I realize there is no way back. What you teach cannot be unlearnt and the change is Permanente. It is LIFE CHANGING. Unlike many others I have an idea on where this is all going and I am very excited to be alive to see it and contribute. One day this RSD will be but a foot note as you or we rather are tapping into next evolution. The re organization of Society or self. The internet had changed everything all that we need is to organization the information.
Can we cure world hunger, world poverty? YES. Can we cure it now? No. Whatever it is coming from you Tyler it’s going to shake the foundations. However as you said, my opinion isn’t worth shit until I live it. So here I go living it.
Love leads the way. Dam you shake me to my roots.
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ROBOTB0NER

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Tyler PLEASE tell me what kind of video camera you use. It gives such good quality for being so small.
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 Made a lot of sense to me. Almost everything.

Few months ago I went through this shitty realization that everything in life is pointless. Even sex didn't give happiness, I even wanted to cry for that. It's a desperate feeling, like anything you held importnat until now is a total bulshit, you see yourself just as this crappy compilation of stimulus-response patterns and repetative shitty thoughts.

 But like they say "the night is darkest just before the dawn". After the greatest desperation you just let go of everything. It goes on only for a while, but you feel completely free and unnatached. And then you start creating another false world, until it colapses again.

 I see this happening with me so many times, but the good think is it's getting faster and faster.

 In the moments when I realize you are enough, when I perceive true happiness beyound all content, it's very easy to give value and do everything you talk about in the videos.
But when I'm not in this mode, when I feel and know I'm looking for happiness from outer things and stimuli nothing of it happens. I literally feel like my energy is going out of me. And I suppose the knowledge for that I'm doing it fucks me up futher by beating myself for that. I think the downside of learning about all this is getting it too serious. I need to work on getting life lighter, I suppose.

 I just wanted to share my thoughts regarding this awesome article :)
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Hey Owen! I was hit in way I can't describe by this article. Very much of it is happening with me right now, so is good to know how was your journey towards this. Thank you, reaally thank you!

By the way, I'm leaving here a suggestion for the next article: why don't you do a article about meditation??
I hear you say so well about it and I wanna try it too. You could explore the theory about the benefits and, in pratical terms, how to do it. Then, you can relate this to Pick Up.

I hope you really do it, since you put so much value at what you do.

Best Regards,
from your brazilian friend,
Rodrigo.

Peace.
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Here I feel a bit lucky that someone in the headspace of Owen actually goes nd puts it up for me and everyone to get a feel of it, the video is funniest ever aswel haha
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#71

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 Jeez tyler I cant tell you how much i identify myself with you more than any other instructor. well, i sort of relate to Jeffy. (but thats more like me trying to be cool. and im more like you when i actually am cool). I like jeffy alot but hes not me..
anyways, I know exactly where you coming from on this one. My creative potenial feels like it can be FUCKIN unlimited when im doing what i love.( soccer and talking to chicks). and also i find it very difficult to get in to state when i all i see is humanitys BS like seeing people who im close to living in reaction, or people who take advantage of making you look like shit whenever they have the chance "up their value" this stuff didnt really bother me until i knew about all of this.. Its a blessing and a curse.. But im sure posting all of these erratic thoughts on the forums well help with all of that.. and turning 18 (may 6) recently allows me to go out like i really want to.. Im SO FUCKING MONEY! i cant wait! been following you/PU since i was like 14. Success when woman is inevitable. not even interested in learning anything else besides working on my awesome and being present.. CANT wait to see where RSD is going next.!
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 Hey tyler GREAT article. So as a mentor of mine, would you reccomend me to go after the money or do what I love.

I'm getting into internet marketing and I really do like it so far, it's not that annoying when I know I'll be making bank in about a year. And it's actually not a bad career field for me.

But I really want to be an actor. Do you reccomend me to pursue this over passive income? or is this one of those things where I figure it out on my own?
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#73

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Tyler this shit is fuckin crrayyyzaaaayyyy.

its so awesome I cant put it in words.

I didnt even read the whole post and I already know this is fucking money.

This hits the CORE of some things that have been occupying my mind lately as I´m on my journey.

Thanky you.
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Reloop

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Epic Story Tyler !
very cool to see how open you speak about your life and how honest it is .

"You have to forgive other people for how fucked up they are before you can forgive yourself."

"My goal for myself is basically to become less dense, less personalized. I love the feeling of being nobody and that feeling of “offering value” flowing outwardly"

this is so true!
I think it is about  becomeing and being so abundance with happiness so you can share your own happiness with the world and make it lighter place for other people.

I also think the world is a reflection of your mind . what you see outside here is actually inside your head.
Becoming present/peacfull in your head will show you a world with no fears.  


being happy/inner peace  takes a long time and takes a lot of work this is my life goal and i will do anything for it.

thanks for chaning my life Tyler
your a legend for me allready !

 
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WOW!  Thanks for the feedback!

Yeah I wrote this pretty late at night in a sort of daze, just thought I'd hammer something out and usually I do whatever's on my mind.

I wrote it and thought "Meeeh dunno if this is really meant for RSD or just some thoughts to write to myself" but I'm glad that people connected with it.  I thought maybe half would like it and half would think it's too weird (and maybe people did but just didn't comment) but I posted it cause I figured the video was good value regardless and you can't go wrong by adding more value for people to "take or leave".

Anyway psyched some people connected with it.  It's pretty much how I think so I was being pretty blunt.
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LOL
randombaz wrote:
btw Owen check out hillarious part at 1:23 in your video when a guy fails a shit test ;)
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#77

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 Yeah, I don't read the articles, not my kind of thing.  Vids are so awesome I'd rather just watch them over.
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Your move into self-help can't come soon enough. You are WAY too good to be teaching roomfuls of dudes how to get some cooter. This is the sorta shit that could save the world
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#79

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Cool video, awesome article.
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randombaz

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by the way, just realised i'm so happy i can adopt this style of direct game. i don't dig the indirect approach
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When reading the article - listen to this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rCLBGY0huVE
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#82

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Dude Kobe (32) wouldn't have to quit baketball for along time if he ate really alkaline (tony robbins has great stuff on this), like the ufc natural Randy Couture (47).
Tyler wrote:
I look at Kobe Bryant and feel grateful that I don’t have to peak in a few years like he does. I can’t imagine the pain he’s going to deal with not being able to play at a competitive level anymore. The money he has is irrelevant garbage being some washed up basketball player, even though most people are in a paradigm where they think it would be awesome because they don’t understand it. I really don’t know what the guy is going to go through after all this is done.

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In the video Tyler is relaxed and delivers. No way he is nervous and shit. Cool stuff and funny :) 
His gestures with hands (necessary for public speaking) and body language now feel really internalised and genuine.

Tyler, regarding your article. May feeling less dense and personalised become like Tolle spiritual medium? Or you still preserve your masculine polarity in interaction with the opposite sex? I mean you'll have a mixed audience in the future as a public speaker. Will you still have a dick and be an ultimate man even when not having topics on pickup and having a female audience, feeling less dense and personalised lol? sorry for not serious question but I guess you already thought about this:)

Overall, your article in relation to people around us and our motivation to grow connects with me, thank you very much. 
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#84
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I absolutely dig what you write, as a whole, but from my current perspective (as in, RIGHT NOW), it seems pretty lame.

The "I feel this is right for me" concept to me is Fucked Up. Start a sentance with "I Feel" and my mind says, an outdated reptile brain has come into the modern world to express lazyness and fear (which, judging from evidence, might not be true for you).

Truth is: I don't feel like doing the dishes. I don't feel like breaking my daily routine and approaching a hottie. I don't feel like BASICALLY ANYTHING that will logically benefit or challange me in any way. 

Right now, I've chosen to basically go against my feelings as often as possible. If I feel like not studying for my exam, I take some time to do that. I don't like these petty impulses stopping me, getting in my way. 

My personal creative mediums, where I fade out and just flow is, Guitarr playing, Music composing, Good Sex and Writing, teaching ( and to some extent, public speaking).

I guess, if I could do these things on full time, i'd be emotionally happy, but currently I despise my own fear so much, and how it stops me, that i could not live a comfortable life like that . To place myself in my fears, and do my best to push through it - that is what makes me really proud, the one feeling on the other end of the spectrum that goes against these other petty ones.'

It's a somewhat mechanical way of living life. I'm trying it for a moment, to see where it takes me. I don't know yet wether it's fucked up, or cool, so if you have time, some input could probably help me out;  I expected you to resonate with it because of what you said when you were on a diet, you LIKED to be challanged to grow your willpower at ALL TIMES - being hungry. Thats how I regard things right now. Pretty much, all things.
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#85

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Awesome. Thank you for the value man.
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Reloop

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Neo Neo wrote:
When reading the article - listen to this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rCLBGY0huVE
I feel the vibe on this song , thanks for it !
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About 8 mins into the video ... Tyler talks about Vince Neil from Crue. Awesome. Read 'The Dirt' all about those guys. I still think modelling naturals is one of the key ways to success, if you're lucky enough to be around them and know it when you see it. As Van Halen once said 'we're not the way we are because we're rock stars. We're rock stars because of the way we are'
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Thanks for sharing your experience. I truly get a lot of value from the post you post up lately, especially when you describe how your experience of going from the petty self-centeredness to the more selfless way of being in the world. The funny thing is that the more 'selfless' and less concerned about petty bullshit things you become, the more of it you will be able to notice it and be present to it. When you can see it and just watch it for what it is, you can laugh at yourself. I really enjoy that about life lately, suddenly seeing where I'm acting like a petty moron and than laughing at the silliness of my ego's imagined self-importance, then not get sucked into the emotional drama of it and experience as a source of being amused and enjoying myself. I guess the idea can be summed up like this: stop taking yourself too seriously and start placing more importance on doing what you want in life. Cheers.
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#89

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 btw owen--i know you're a philosophy nerd like me so i've got a serious book recommendation if you haven't checked it out. history of sexuality vol. 1 by michel foucault--talks a lot about the mechanisms by which social conditioning occurs and how society constructs a person's sexuality as the core of that person. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_History_of_Sexuality
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rOrO_thugin

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i was totally there!
awesome
finally got to me tyler my fuckin hero lol
dude changed my life
and he didnt even know it

awesome hope u come by nyc again
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 Amazing article man. Thanks
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I would love to see a documentary type thing....totally.
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 Thanks, man!

Simply mind-blowing.
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that's a really nice article man !! ... especially because its a peek into your head to give us all a mature perspective to many things even apart from pickup! ... absolutely loved it !!  smile
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beautiful article man. After Jeffy's "yOu can't be half a gangster" - this is my favourite one of RSD's this year.

Also i wanted to say I'm glad there's people like you reaing, learning and filtering all this "self-help" meets fucking girls shit - saves me a lot of work doing it myself.
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To me, this is one of your best articles ever. Very raw, stream of consciousness, very authentic.

I love the fact that you DIDN'T try to polish this up too much to suit all audiences. That you didn't change the ideas you're actually having in your head into a more palatable, dumbed-down vernacular. That you just put your thoughts out there in the raw and let whoever gets it get it, and whoever doesn't get it.... oh well.

I knew this level of insight must have been operating within you and yet much of what I have seen has been bite-sized chunks that are great when applied at the surface level, but which don't really touch the energetic level.

More of this type of writing please!
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 one of the best articles you have written and video that I have seen from you
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To whoever posted that Kid Cudi song, another thank you. Very fitting.

Tyler, new vibes from you, definitely going deeper. We all are in our own ways, it's cool how we are all unfolding, it gets more and more real.

Fav part of the article was your dream sequences about personalities peeling off in big chunks haha, heavy shit dude. Love it.
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#99

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youre a fag owen
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You're a great guy Owen. You've been a big influence on me, and I massively appreciate how expressive you are.
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