So I'm back home in Los Angeles spending time with my kids.  Resting up before my upcoming programs in Las Vegas, Los Angeles, and San Diego.

Got a lil stressed out over all the workload lately and was spending all night awake getting things done -- didn't see sunlight for nearly a week and wound up getting sick.

It's to the point I can barely sit up to write this out in my chair or drink water without spilling it on the keyboard.  You'd think this sounds bad but in it's own way I find it kind of funny. :)  Weird, I know.

I'll talk about some insights from this in a moment, but first I'll hit you up with a new video from the 2011 World Summit in Las Vegas.  It's going to reveal some really subtle aspects of what allows me to get the types of results you've seen on my Bootcamps and Hot Seat events, or at least read about in reviews if you haven't been. :)

HINT:  The past 10 years of creating an eco-system of non neediness and emotional control has been a big part of it.  Click this video right now and what I'm rambling about will become clear.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AErf9MRus6U&feature=channel_video_title

Interesting huh?

btw most people don't know this but Papa is actually a really sick public speaker -- which is from the years he's spent doing hundreds of Free Tour and Hot Seat events.  The video here shows a small amount that's hard to read a lot from but he's actually super legit.

Dood has gotten overweight though -- look how funny it is seeing Saad, Alex, Brad and myself all in a row in good shape, and then there's Papa in the middle all curvy and sexy style. :)

We did lunch in Malibu with Mark Sisson from "The Primal Blueprint" the other day (we may do an interview together because I really like his overarching philosophies) -- so let's hope it inspires him to transform back into the leaned up Papa he was 2 years ago when he was running marathons, before he got injured.

No excuses Nick! :)

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(Here's what I'm listening to now.  Dood goes in pretty hard -- I'm always impressed by someone who cultivates their talents.)



So yeah it's crazy to be all fucked up, makes you think of how someday you'll get sick and sicker and then just......DIE. :)

The way I am now it's like a faded state of consciousness, so I guess it's like a gradual dimming of the light until it's out.  I was so sick today it got me thinking about euthenasia and how people should be allowed to kill themselves if they're sick enough.  Like I'm just a 32 year old man with a nasty fever.  Oooooooh big deal!  And yet if I had to feel like this rest of my entire life hell no it wouldn't be very fun.

Now imagine having some CRAZY FUCKEN DISEASE that's robbed all the pleasure out of living life?  You're not even able to hold coherent thoughts because you're in so much pain?  Yet the powers that be are like "Nope you gotta kick around with us because death is this big scary thing..."

Still, you've gotta assume it's because like with the medical marijuana licenses, that shit will be abused.  For you guys who don't live in California -- basically everyone and their brother has free legal weed.

Well whatever.  It is what it is.  Probably change eventually.  I'll keep it in mind if I ever get to run a country. :)

And remember:  YOUR HEALTH IS EVERYTHING.  Seriously  you can get all pissy about this or that or the other thing, but it's the people you care about and your health that are the context for every desire you could possibly have.

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So aside from these random musings about weed and mercy killings, I've been finding being sick a good opportunity to take responsibility for how I fucked up.

It's funny growing up into an accountable human being, and continually trying new things and then taking the lessons from when they don't go well.  I really had no good reason to stay awake all night and not see sun for a week so that was just plain dumb.  I should've just kept my cool and maintained a sustainable pace.  Funny how I did the same thing a few weeks ago by burning my voice out from teaching too many programs -- gotta take the lessons from this and move on.

Most people see me sick and tell me I should take Advil or whatever but aside from the fact that I've often wondered if it slows down recovery time (heard different things) I've often felt that getting sick is a good chance to reflect on the way you've lived your life.  Obviously you sometimes just get sick and it is what it is, but I usually think it's because of 1) bad sleep, 2) not enough sun, 3) stress, 4) improper nutrition.

I maintained good nutrition but the rest I fucked up on.  And if I want to keep growing as a person I have to maintain those things.  I'm not in a position in life given the responsibilities I have to let that shit slide.

I've taken this mindset in my game progress as well.  For many years in fact.

I'll continually go out, interact with tons of girls, and see where I fucked up.  Let the lesson REALLY BURN ITSELF INTO YOUR SOUL -- like it HURTS when you really liked a girl and you fucked it up.  Then learn from it, maybe create an article or video blog about it, and move on. :)

This learning process in the game is absolutely amazing.  Just keep going out, keep interacting, and keep learning from your mistakes.  You can't just get that from a seminar because the lessons aren't emotionally relevant -- that's why "keyboard jockeys" get stuck in their heads, because they've got all these NON EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT LESSONS FLOATING AROUND IN THEIR BRAINS.

The videos I post here oftentimes sound a little ephemeral and big picture, and yet if you're going out this shit is actually very hands on and practical.  I don't think I've ever met someone who goes out regularly who finds any of it confusing. But I'm sure there's folks who do not go out enough and find it "TMI" (too much information).

Regardless I do this shit for the people who really go out like I do.  I have a deep love for the game and want to relate with people who feel the same way, live a similar lifestyle, etc.  Generally I create the content that I personally wish somebody would make for me -- like I actually go back over my old articles and vids to suck up lessons that have been forgotten, then I go out and kick ass.

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It's crazy though how our society is very much not in a mode of personal responsibility.

That comes from the darker sides of socialism (there's a lot of great stuff in both the right and left wing -- but there's some really dark stuff as well and that's what I'm referring to) as well as a "Brave New World" sort of mindset where people who aren't in charge are often simply not taught to take responsibility for themselves as a part of their moment to moment thinking process.

You'll always hear me talking about "Pointing in the mirror".  I'm constantly doing this.  Trying out new things, enjoying the wins, and looking in the mirror when things don't go the way I planned.  I blame nobody but myself, ever.  Not in a brow beating way but in a way that's constructive and helps me to learn.  I really let the lessons "seep in".

It's funny because I really love self development.  I used it to get laid with many cute girls I never remotely would have met otherwise, create a business that does millions a year in sales, get down to 6% bodyfat, gain more energy, become happier and take in life with more interest, etc.

Yet I never viewed it as something that was meant to "fix" me.  I just viewed it as some interesting material to get me thinking "bigger picture" so that I could benefit from the positive influences.

It was always FUN for me, and continues to be. I've never had bad vibes towards it like "They told me I could do XYZ and it WASN'T TRUE!!"  Instead I just viewed it like I was always the person who had to sort out my own life and anyone who had books or videos that talked about the topic were worth checking out -- even if there were a few things that helped.

The path of taking responsibility is harder in the short run but easier in the long run.

Ultimately it's about taking constant action.  Constant, constant, constant action.  Crazy amounts.  As long as you're in motion you're gaining references.

Then taking the lessons over and over. Seeking feedback from people you trust.  Focusing on what you do well and do it better.  A good "guide" from places like RSDN or other sources is invaluable to help you to decode your experiences as well.  That's who I make this stuff for -- not guys THINKING about going out, but guys who are actively doing it and want to figure out what's been going on.

The shit is a huge hobby and produces amazing results.  The fact that sometimes you're in pain makes the wins a lot sweeter because you earned them.  I wouldn't change it for the world.

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Anyway that's about as good of an article I can hammer out in this state of mind so I'm off to bed.  I've got some really, really sick video content coming out over the next few months so look forward to it.  I think the next few are decent like this one but around a month off it's gonna get pretty "next level".

(It's actually funny to be sitting here all fucked up editing this shit and thinking "Damn I look so much more alive than right now.  Is that the same guy?")

I'm also contemplating the launch of a new Free Tour and Hot Seat as I never really got to show the Hot Seat 2 to the masses and I've gotten so much good feedback on the portion that Jeffy has shown on his recent tour.  You can see the tentative USA dates below which someone from RSD will be doing, possibly me and if not then someone REALLY good.  I'm considering the USA dates but for sure am not travelling overseas due to having several children -- regardless it'll be the Tyler Hot Seat 2 being shown and will be a high quality event.

So be on the look out for a possible Free Tour launch next week.  This one would leave me with a really good legacy of content for the Free Tour vids so that I could move on with a feeling that I did it as best as I could.

Let me know what you think of the video or this article here.  Thanks for reading and have fun!

Tyler