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So I'm back home in Los Angeles spending time with my kids. Resting up before my upcoming programs in Las Vegas, Los Angeles, and San Diego.
Got a lil stressed out over all the workload lately and was spending all night awake getting things done -- didn't see sunlight for nearly a week and wound up getting sick.
It's to the point I can barely sit up to write this out in my chair or drink water without spilling it on the keyboard. You'd think this sounds bad but in it's own way I find it kind of funny. :) Weird, I know.
I'll talk about some insights from this in a moment, but first I'll hit you up with a new video from the 2011 World Summit in Las Vegas. It's going to reveal some really subtle aspects of what allows me to get the types of results you've seen on my Bootcamps and Hot Seat events, or at least read about in reviews if you haven't been. :)
HINT: The past 10 years of creating an eco-system of non neediness and emotional control has been a big part of it. Click this video right now and what I'm rambling about will become clear.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AErf9MRus6U&feature=channel_video_title
Interesting huh?
btw most people don't know this but Papa is actually a really sick public speaker -- which is from the years he's spent doing hundreds of Free Tour and Hot Seat events. The video here shows a small amount that's hard to read a lot from but he's actually super legit.
Dood has gotten overweight though -- look how funny it is seeing Saad, Alex, Brad and myself all in a row in good shape, and then there's Papa in the middle all curvy and sexy style. :)
We did lunch in Malibu with Mark Sisson from "The Primal Blueprint" the other day (we may do an interview together because I really like his overarching philosophies) -- so let's hope it inspires him to transform back into the leaned up Papa he was 2 years ago when he was running marathons, before he got injured.
No excuses Nick! :)
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(Here's what I'm listening to now. Dood goes in pretty hard -- I'm always impressed by someone who cultivates their talents.)
So yeah it's crazy to be all fucked up, makes you think of how someday you'll get sick and sicker and then just......DIE. :)
The way I am now it's like a faded state of consciousness, so I guess it's like a gradual dimming of the light until it's out. I was so sick today it got me thinking about euthenasia and how people should be allowed to kill themselves if they're sick enough. Like I'm just a 32 year old man with a nasty fever. Oooooooh big deal! And yet if I had to feel like this rest of my entire life hell no it wouldn't be very fun.
Now imagine having some CRAZY FUCKEN DISEASE that's robbed all the pleasure out of living life? You're not even able to hold coherent thoughts because you're in so much pain? Yet the powers that be are like "Nope you gotta kick around with us because death is this big scary thing..."
Still, you've gotta assume it's because like with the medical marijuana licenses, that shit will be abused. For you guys who don't live in California -- basically everyone and their brother has free legal weed.
Well whatever. It is what it is. Probably change eventually. I'll keep it in mind if I ever get to run a country. :)
And remember: YOUR HEALTH IS EVERYTHING. Seriously you can get all pissy about this or that or the other thing, but it's the people you care about and your health that are the context for every desire you could possibly have.
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So aside from these random musings about weed and mercy killings, I've been finding being sick a good opportunity to take responsibility for how I fucked up.
It's funny growing up into an accountable human being, and continually trying new things and then taking the lessons from when they don't go well. I really had no good reason to stay awake all night and not see sun for a week so that was just plain dumb. I should've just kept my cool and maintained a sustainable pace. Funny how I did the same thing a few weeks ago by burning my voice out from teaching too many programs -- gotta take the lessons from this and move on.
Most people see me sick and tell me I should take Advil or whatever but aside from the fact that I've often wondered if it slows down recovery time (heard different things) I've often felt that getting sick is a good chance to reflect on the way you've lived your life. Obviously you sometimes just get sick and it is what it is, but I usually think it's because of 1) bad sleep, 2) not enough sun, 3) stress, 4) improper nutrition.
I maintained good nutrition but the rest I fucked up on. And if I want to keep growing as a person I have to maintain those things. I'm not in a position in life given the responsibilities I have to let that shit slide.
I've taken this mindset in my game progress as well. For many years in fact.
I'll continually go out, interact with tons of girls, and see where I fucked up. Let the lesson REALLY BURN ITSELF INTO YOUR SOUL -- like it HURTS when you really liked a girl and you fucked it up. Then learn from it, maybe create an article or video blog about it, and move on. :)
This learning process in the game is absolutely amazing. Just keep going out, keep interacting, and keep learning from your mistakes. You can't just get that from a seminar because the lessons aren't emotionally relevant -- that's why "keyboard jockeys" get stuck in their heads, because they've got all these NON EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT LESSONS FLOATING AROUND IN THEIR BRAINS.
The videos I post here oftentimes sound a little ephemeral and big picture, and yet if you're going out this shit is actually very hands on and practical. I don't think I've ever met someone who goes out regularly who finds any of it confusing. But I'm sure there's folks who do not go out enough and find it "TMI" (too much information).
Regardless I do this shit for the people who really go out like I do. I have a deep love for the game and want to relate with people who feel the same way, live a similar lifestyle, etc. Generally I create the content that I personally wish somebody would make for me -- like I actually go back over my old articles and vids to suck up lessons that have been forgotten, then I go out and kick ass.
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It's crazy though how our society is very much not in a mode of personal responsibility.
That comes from the darker sides of socialism (there's a lot of great stuff in both the right and left wing -- but there's some really dark stuff as well and that's what I'm referring to) as well as a "Brave New World" sort of mindset where people who aren't in charge are often simply not taught to take responsibility for themselves as a part of their moment to moment thinking process.
You'll always hear me talking about "Pointing in the mirror". I'm constantly doing this. Trying out new things, enjoying the wins, and looking in the mirror when things don't go the way I planned. I blame nobody but myself, ever. Not in a brow beating way but in a way that's constructive and helps me to learn. I really let the lessons "seep in".
It's funny because I really love self development. I used it to get laid with many cute girls I never remotely would have met otherwise, create a business that does millions a year in sales, get down to 6% bodyfat, gain more energy, become happier and take in life with more interest, etc.
Yet I never viewed it as something that was meant to "fix" me. I just viewed it as some interesting material to get me thinking "bigger picture" so that I could benefit from the positive influences.
It was always FUN for me, and continues to be. I've never had bad vibes towards it like "They told me I could do XYZ and it WASN'T TRUE!!" Instead I just viewed it like I was always the person who had to sort out my own life and anyone who had books or videos that talked about the topic were worth checking out -- even if there were a few things that helped.
The path of taking responsibility is harder in the short run but easier in the long run.
Ultimately it's about taking constant action. Constant, constant, constant action. Crazy amounts. As long as you're in motion you're gaining references.
Then taking the lessons over and over. Seeking feedback from people you trust. Focusing on what you do well and do it better. A good "guide" from places like RSDN or other sources is invaluable to help you to decode your experiences as well. That's who I make this stuff for -- not guys THINKING about going out, but guys who are actively doing it and want to figure out what's been going on.
The shit is a huge hobby and produces amazing results. The fact that sometimes you're in pain makes the wins a lot sweeter because you earned them. I wouldn't change it for the world.
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Anyway that's about as good of an article I can hammer out in this state of mind so I'm off to bed. I've got some really, really sick video content coming out over the next few months so look forward to it. I think the next few are decent like this one but around a month off it's gonna get pretty "next level".
(It's actually funny to be sitting here all fucked up editing this shit and thinking "Damn I look so much more alive than right now. Is that the same guy?")
I'm also contemplating the launch of a new Free Tour and Hot Seat as I never really got to show the Hot Seat 2 to the masses and I've gotten so much good feedback on the portion that Jeffy has shown on his recent tour. You can see the tentative USA dates below which someone from RSD will be doing, possibly me and if not then someone REALLY good. I'm considering the USA dates but for sure am not travelling overseas due to having several children -- regardless it'll be the Tyler Hot Seat 2 being shown and will be a high quality event.
So be on the look out for a possible Free Tour launch next week. This one would leave me with a really good legacy of content for the Free Tour vids so that I could move on with a feeling that I did it as best as I could.
Let me know what you think of the video or this article here. Thanks for reading and have fun!
Tyler
Got a lil stressed out over all the workload lately and was spending all night awake getting things done -- didn't see sunlight for nearly a week and wound up getting sick.
It's to the point I can barely sit up to write this out in my chair or drink water without spilling it on the keyboard. You'd think this sounds bad but in it's own way I find it kind of funny. :) Weird, I know.
I'll talk about some insights from this in a moment, but first I'll hit you up with a new video from the 2011 World Summit in Las Vegas. It's going to reveal some really subtle aspects of what allows me to get the types of results you've seen on my Bootcamps and Hot Seat events, or at least read about in reviews if you haven't been. :)
HINT: The past 10 years of creating an eco-system of non neediness and emotional control has been a big part of it. Click this video right now and what I'm rambling about will become clear.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AErf9MRus6U&feature=channel_video_title
Interesting huh?
btw most people don't know this but Papa is actually a really sick public speaker -- which is from the years he's spent doing hundreds of Free Tour and Hot Seat events. The video here shows a small amount that's hard to read a lot from but he's actually super legit.
Dood has gotten overweight though -- look how funny it is seeing Saad, Alex, Brad and myself all in a row in good shape, and then there's Papa in the middle all curvy and sexy style. :)
We did lunch in Malibu with Mark Sisson from "The Primal Blueprint" the other day (we may do an interview together because I really like his overarching philosophies) -- so let's hope it inspires him to transform back into the leaned up Papa he was 2 years ago when he was running marathons, before he got injured.
No excuses Nick! :)
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(Here's what I'm listening to now. Dood goes in pretty hard -- I'm always impressed by someone who cultivates their talents.)
So yeah it's crazy to be all fucked up, makes you think of how someday you'll get sick and sicker and then just......DIE. :)
The way I am now it's like a faded state of consciousness, so I guess it's like a gradual dimming of the light until it's out. I was so sick today it got me thinking about euthenasia and how people should be allowed to kill themselves if they're sick enough. Like I'm just a 32 year old man with a nasty fever. Oooooooh big deal! And yet if I had to feel like this rest of my entire life hell no it wouldn't be very fun.
Now imagine having some CRAZY FUCKEN DISEASE that's robbed all the pleasure out of living life? You're not even able to hold coherent thoughts because you're in so much pain? Yet the powers that be are like "Nope you gotta kick around with us because death is this big scary thing..."
Still, you've gotta assume it's because like with the medical marijuana licenses, that shit will be abused. For you guys who don't live in California -- basically everyone and their brother has free legal weed.
Well whatever. It is what it is. Probably change eventually. I'll keep it in mind if I ever get to run a country. :)
And remember: YOUR HEALTH IS EVERYTHING. Seriously you can get all pissy about this or that or the other thing, but it's the people you care about and your health that are the context for every desire you could possibly have.
<>===================<>
So aside from these random musings about weed and mercy killings, I've been finding being sick a good opportunity to take responsibility for how I fucked up.
It's funny growing up into an accountable human being, and continually trying new things and then taking the lessons from when they don't go well. I really had no good reason to stay awake all night and not see sun for a week so that was just plain dumb. I should've just kept my cool and maintained a sustainable pace. Funny how I did the same thing a few weeks ago by burning my voice out from teaching too many programs -- gotta take the lessons from this and move on.
Most people see me sick and tell me I should take Advil or whatever but aside from the fact that I've often wondered if it slows down recovery time (heard different things) I've often felt that getting sick is a good chance to reflect on the way you've lived your life. Obviously you sometimes just get sick and it is what it is, but I usually think it's because of 1) bad sleep, 2) not enough sun, 3) stress, 4) improper nutrition.
I maintained good nutrition but the rest I fucked up on. And if I want to keep growing as a person I have to maintain those things. I'm not in a position in life given the responsibilities I have to let that shit slide.
I've taken this mindset in my game progress as well. For many years in fact.
I'll continually go out, interact with tons of girls, and see where I fucked up. Let the lesson REALLY BURN ITSELF INTO YOUR SOUL -- like it HURTS when you really liked a girl and you fucked it up. Then learn from it, maybe create an article or video blog about it, and move on. :)
This learning process in the game is absolutely amazing. Just keep going out, keep interacting, and keep learning from your mistakes. You can't just get that from a seminar because the lessons aren't emotionally relevant -- that's why "keyboard jockeys" get stuck in their heads, because they've got all these NON EMOTIONALLY RELEVANT LESSONS FLOATING AROUND IN THEIR BRAINS.
The videos I post here oftentimes sound a little ephemeral and big picture, and yet if you're going out this shit is actually very hands on and practical. I don't think I've ever met someone who goes out regularly who finds any of it confusing. But I'm sure there's folks who do not go out enough and find it "TMI" (too much information).
Regardless I do this shit for the people who really go out like I do. I have a deep love for the game and want to relate with people who feel the same way, live a similar lifestyle, etc. Generally I create the content that I personally wish somebody would make for me -- like I actually go back over my old articles and vids to suck up lessons that have been forgotten, then I go out and kick ass.
<>=================<>
It's crazy though how our society is very much not in a mode of personal responsibility.
That comes from the darker sides of socialism (there's a lot of great stuff in both the right and left wing -- but there's some really dark stuff as well and that's what I'm referring to) as well as a "Brave New World" sort of mindset where people who aren't in charge are often simply not taught to take responsibility for themselves as a part of their moment to moment thinking process.
You'll always hear me talking about "Pointing in the mirror". I'm constantly doing this. Trying out new things, enjoying the wins, and looking in the mirror when things don't go the way I planned. I blame nobody but myself, ever. Not in a brow beating way but in a way that's constructive and helps me to learn. I really let the lessons "seep in".
It's funny because I really love self development. I used it to get laid with many cute girls I never remotely would have met otherwise, create a business that does millions a year in sales, get down to 6% bodyfat, gain more energy, become happier and take in life with more interest, etc.
Yet I never viewed it as something that was meant to "fix" me. I just viewed it as some interesting material to get me thinking "bigger picture" so that I could benefit from the positive influences.
It was always FUN for me, and continues to be. I've never had bad vibes towards it like "They told me I could do XYZ and it WASN'T TRUE!!" Instead I just viewed it like I was always the person who had to sort out my own life and anyone who had books or videos that talked about the topic were worth checking out -- even if there were a few things that helped.
The path of taking responsibility is harder in the short run but easier in the long run.
Ultimately it's about taking constant action. Constant, constant, constant action. Crazy amounts. As long as you're in motion you're gaining references.
Then taking the lessons over and over. Seeking feedback from people you trust. Focusing on what you do well and do it better. A good "guide" from places like RSDN or other sources is invaluable to help you to decode your experiences as well. That's who I make this stuff for -- not guys THINKING about going out, but guys who are actively doing it and want to figure out what's been going on.
The shit is a huge hobby and produces amazing results. The fact that sometimes you're in pain makes the wins a lot sweeter because you earned them. I wouldn't change it for the world.
<>==================<>
Anyway that's about as good of an article I can hammer out in this state of mind so I'm off to bed. I've got some really, really sick video content coming out over the next few months so look forward to it. I think the next few are decent like this one but around a month off it's gonna get pretty "next level".
(It's actually funny to be sitting here all fucked up editing this shit and thinking "Damn I look so much more alive than right now. Is that the same guy?")
I'm also contemplating the launch of a new Free Tour and Hot Seat as I never really got to show the Hot Seat 2 to the masses and I've gotten so much good feedback on the portion that Jeffy has shown on his recent tour. You can see the tentative USA dates below which someone from RSD will be doing, possibly me and if not then someone REALLY good. I'm considering the USA dates but for sure am not travelling overseas due to having several children -- regardless it'll be the Tyler Hot Seat 2 being shown and will be a high quality event.
So be on the look out for a possible Free Tour launch next week. This one would leave me with a really good legacy of content for the Free Tour vids so that I could move on with a feeling that I did it as best as I could.
Let me know what you think of the video or this article here. Thanks for reading and have fun!
Tyler
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yorro
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even if it comes out even then kanye west still wins with dre as he puts solo album after album and all of them ROCK!!! i can't believe dre could make something more creative and impactful than "my beautiful dark twisted fantasy"
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vURXoPnN0m4
if you can't get energised by this your dead! turn it up!
Skyisthelimit
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Great words/Video mate. I was thinking about this too, that you need to focus on basically one thing to really own life. I honestly should have dropped out of school 2 years ago, or at least switched schools, but I was just to pussy. Now I m finishing and Im finishing as could as I can, and its really pain, a lesson for not to ever listen to anybody again, for life being hell, when you do the wrong things, like a bad dream.
Im not sure yet, what I want to do afterwards. plan is focus on music, girls/pickup and money. But I want to really succeed, so maybe I will have to drop one of the things...Hahha dunno where its going but its gonna be good ( better than this fuckshit of school anyways ).
19 years old.....20-30 years left to make sth really happen
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oh also in school, there was this one girl, I really wanted and thought had this deep connection with....but it kinda just....faded away ( our relations ) and i think it's a way of life telling me, i did wrong not dropping out of school. I feel like I kinda fucked up my whole life, for not putting my balls out there and risking it all....but well fuck.....its too late, so ill just keep thriving and maybe ill find a way to get in my full powers again
would be really awesome if I one day can get back in my zone again....and just....own it....
I honestly do not know if it is too late and i fucked life...but if I had any advice to any young man i would advice them to do a 100% what they "feel"
they are meant to do....and just fucking do it and trust life and the magic of life that this is the best thing....wish i really had done this earlier...dropped out of school and focused on fame/music
oh. And not give a fuck. about their mum, dad, friends, best friends. maybe they mean good, but their advice is shit. they are fucked. people telling you or trying to influence you in a certain direction are fucked up and have failed their own lives. please dont listen to them, and only listen to your "heart", seriously.
but ahhhhhh, well.... :/ :D:)
mortalis
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Hot Seat 2 with yourself in Montreal would be awesome!
Send me the link, ill send you my CC info.
Dr Feelgood
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Great speach, one can see you are totally in the zone there, everything comes out like a flawless inner monologue!
Frank128
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Please do an article about DISTRACCION, I think it's one of the worst problem of today society and in the game
CHEERS !
The Scarlet Pimp
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Thank you for all your prolific posting. I have friends who are new dads so I know how precious time is. Saw this last night and it's permeating in my brain. I did Hotseat about a week or so ago and it's still settling in. What I've noticed in myself is this slight calm detachment. But rather than leading to a state of 'bliss' it's altered the way I see interactions with myself.
Before my conversations with women had this nice 'flow' to them. Kinda like a trip down a stream where you're floating a long and taking snapshots of the passing trees. It was nice. What I realised after Hotseat was that what people want and what gets you laid is two tickets to head down some raging rapids. Super fast conversation and complete stream on consciousness. No bullshit and no filtering. Just total going with it. You're just crashing down the rapids and everyone is screaming and yelling and having an amazing time. It's dangerous and a bit crazy and sometimes people fall out, but who cares cause the 'rides' exciting.
The main thing I finally 'got' was taking the filters off. They aren't off all the time, but there's this strange self-deprecating content coming into my interactions and it's highly amusing. I saw Eddie Izzard live on stage a week ago and he was a wonderful example of his this head space. It was the first part of his new show and you could see him INSIDE his head going "where's the comedy? where's the comedy?" Then once he starts flowing you see him go "AH HA... there it is" and he's off.
Sick stuff man. Not sure if you've time to read much being a new dad, but if you haven't had a chance check out "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintence' and then 'Lila' by Robert Pirsig. These books rocked my world to it's core. They resonate with a lot of what you are writing here, how to balance things out.
Peace.
SP.
FeelsGreat
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Great article! The fact that sometimes you're in pain makes the wins a lot sweeter because you earned them. I wouldn't change it for the world.
So true...
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Metta
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I'm sooo pissed I missed your first hotseat. All my friends say it was probably the sickest thing they've ever seen.
I can't not emphisise enough how much I would love to see you deliver a hot seat.
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markzor
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While you can only show people what needs to be done (and they need to do it for themselves to get it)... this also has a hint of NOT taking responsibility for it. the easy way out.
i definately agree on your statement, but i think there can be a LOT improved to get things less "ephermal". Use the increased clarity from meditation to really get in touch with what your actually experiencing, and try to embed that as much as you can in your teachings.
i read some great stuff from another company that made things so much more practical and thought me a lot -- although I initially "got it" on a more shallow level. their teaching was more powerful because the connected to actual experience; observations and feelings in your body.
like, you can talk about "getting state from within"; which is abstract; or about how you have your attention on your body and on yourself when you are drawing state from within, and you attention literally in your head an outside (on the girl) when you are drawing state from outside,... and that if you feel uncomfortable connecting to yourself, you have to just experience that discomfort, because trying to cover it up by "getting girls" is not going to work. or something like that.
think that will bring shit to next level!
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Belga
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I was in the Jeffy Hot Seat in London and would travel to the UK again to see your Hot Seat 2!
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The strenght of your reality is maintaining a carefree attitude that's everythings funny !
Cuz you don't give a fuck, your unreactive to bullshit around you (ego).. And you've got state from within instead (self-esteem/presence) !
If i interpeted it right...
I noticed this unreactive to externals and being in your own not giving a fuck drawing state from within everything's funny thing VERY clearly with HankMoodie from californication !
This totally wraps game up for me !
Thnx for the vid (will be reading article soon) !
The Art of Cons...
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Seriously, what you have become,
who you are,
you are beautiful.
Cheers :)
tristam15
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Cheers,
Tyler
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I think Dre is the more talented producer but because he failed to put out music for so long he's lost confidence in what he has to offer. OTOH Kanye has been cranking out music and WILLING TO TAKE LESSONS by put out the odd track that's not so good.
The reason I keep slamming out these clips is to get a better sense of what works and what doesn't. Next few weeks I'm releasing some clips that I'm not really sure are good or not -- next week's in particular is kinda all over the place, but we'll see if people dig it. In the end it leads towards those awesome creative works that blow people away.
I made a similar mistake to Dre when I waited too long to do The Blueprint book. Then it got leaked and I lost passion in using my time to finish it -- despite that it would've massively sold. Woops. :) Lesson learned.
even if it comes out even then kanye west still wins with dre as he puts solo album after album and all of them ROCK!!! i can't believe dre could make something more creative and impactful than "my beautiful dark twisted fantasy"
Tyler
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Part of the agreement I made with GF was that if I was going to travel 2/3's of the year I wouldn't go overseas for a while so I'll be staying in the USA. Being that far away from the kids is pretty insane -- it's hard to put in perspective but when you eventually have them your own children you'll probably think back like "What the hell was that dood doing?"
I'll make sure that I include some sick new infield footage for the Euro/CAN/AUS Free Tours so that I'm "there" at least in video format. Some other instructor will do a fantastic job.
Tyler
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Tyler
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Tyler
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So my game just keeps getting more refined. I couldn't be with a girl who was too jealous to stick out of my personal business. Maybe someday it'll blow up in my face because people are people, but it's been good for a long time.
How do you guys manage to keep improving over years even when you get a girlfriend? Every time I've gotten a girlfriend my game SUCKS afterwards. It's like my brain will think on abundance -or what it WAS like- but after months of fucking only one girl it's like "You live in abundance? Yeah right..." I really cannot think of any way other than cheating on her OR not getting a girlfriend in the first place.
Anyway, bonne récup' and thanks for the article!
Tyler
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vURXoPnN0m4
if you can't get energised by this your dead! turn it up!
Tyler
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Great words/Video mate. I was thinking about this too, that you need to focus on basically one thing to really own life. I honestly should have dropped out of school 2 years ago, or at least switched schools, but I was just to pussy. Now I m finishing and Im finishing as could as I can, and its really pain, a lesson for not to ever listen to anybody again, for life being hell, when you do the wrong things, like a bad dream.
Im not sure yet, what I want to do afterwards. plan is focus on music, girls/pickup and money. But I want to really succeed, so maybe I will have to drop one of the things...Hahha dunno where its going but its gonna be good ( better than this fuckshit of school anyways ).
19 years old.....20-30 years left to make sth really happen
---
Edit:
oh also in school, there was this one girl, I really wanted and thought had this deep connection with....but it kinda just....faded away ( our relations ) and i think it's a way of life telling me, i did wrong not dropping out of school. I feel like I kinda fucked up my whole life, for not putting my balls out there and risking it all....but well fuck.....its too late, so ill just keep thriving and maybe ill find a way to get in my full powers again
would be really awesome if I one day can get back in my zone again....and just....own it....
I honestly do not know if it is too late and i fucked life...but if I had any advice to any young man i would advice them to do a 100% what they "feel"
they are meant to do....and just fucking do it and trust life and the magic of life that this is the best thing....wish i really had done this earlier...dropped out of school and focused on fame/music
oh. And not give a fuck. about their mum, dad, friends, best friends. maybe they mean good, but their advice is shit. they are fucked. people telling you or trying to influence you in a certain direction are fucked up and have failed their own lives. please dont listen to them, and only listen to your "heart", seriously.
but ahhhhhh, well.... :/ :D:)
Tyler
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Jeffy Hot Seat will be in Montreal early 2012 and will be super good.
Hot Seat 2 with yourself in Montreal would be awesome!
Send me the link, ill send you my CC info.
Tyler
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Thank you for all your prolific posting. I have friends who are new dads so I know how precious time is. Saw this last night and it's permeating in my brain. I did Hotseat about a week or so ago and it's still settling in. What I've noticed in myself is this slight calm detachment. But rather than leading to a state of 'bliss' it's altered the way I see interactions with myself.
Before my conversations with women had this nice 'flow' to them. Kinda like a trip down a stream where you're floating a long and taking snapshots of the passing trees. It was nice. What I realised after Hotseat was that what people want and what gets you laid is two tickets to head down some raging rapids. Super fast conversation and complete stream on consciousness. No bullshit and no filtering. Just total going with it. You're just crashing down the rapids and everyone is screaming and yelling and having an amazing time. It's dangerous and a bit crazy and sometimes people fall out, but who cares cause the 'rides' exciting.
The main thing I finally 'got' was taking the filters off. They aren't off all the time, but there's this strange self-deprecating content coming into my interactions and it's highly amusing. I saw Eddie Izzard live on stage a week ago and he was a wonderful example of his this head space. It was the first part of his new show and you could see him INSIDE his head going "where's the comedy? where's the comedy?" Then once he starts flowing you see him go "AH HA... there it is" and he's off.
Sick stuff man. Not sure if you've time to read much being a new dad, but if you haven't had a chance check out "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintence' and then 'Lila' by Robert Pirsig. These books rocked my world to it's core. They resonate with a lot of what you are writing here, how to balance things out.
Peace.
SP.
Tyler
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Takai
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Rather than announcing vids on the forum to build hype amongst people whose attention you have already have aroused, just release the vids or don't mention them.
ZOMG praise RSD etc.
When you talk about future events,as in what's possible, is that NLP of does is it result in your bootcamp students gaining success, or both?
I laugh when I hear hotseat success stories mentioning that you sound creepy. Creepy yet getting results. May the best man win :)
Thing is when you are throwing against Leonardo Dicapro in Sydney against the next 'top models', he has 'game' and fame and his results are written about in main stream papers for real lol. It's not a moot point. Some dudes have 'game' AND money AND fame. Not sure how a bootcamp remedies that.
One more thing, how does one deal with having only one penis, limited time and unlimited girls?
randombaz
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Shame as it would be a low cost event overheads wise, you could present from your location, and people like me would still change full hotseat amount
Part of the agreement I made with GF was that if I was going to travel 2/3's of the year I wouldn't go overseas for a while so I'll be staying in the USA. Being that far away from the kids is pretty insane -- it's hard to put in perspective but when you eventually have them your own children you'll probably think back like "What the hell was that dood doing?"
I'll make sure that I include some sick new infield footage for the Euro/CAN/AUS Free Tours so that I'm "there" at least in video format. Some other instructor will do a fantastic job.
Jordanfan
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I am an ENTJ and I really like the way your videos are organized. I like ideas to be presented and then I like to examine how these ideas effect my own life, and then make changes accordingly.
I'm in the Ebook writing business and recently had an Ebook completed and ready to be edited and after my editor read it he told me that I have a problem of discussing ideas but not creating "links" or "guidance" on how to apply the ideas.
He told me that I write this way because it is the way that I learn; however he said that most people do not learn in this fashion; they need more guidance and applications.
Your writing and videos sometimes fall into this category. They present ideas but lack guidance in terms of applications and examples of practicality. I personally like this style, but that is because I am analytical.
In the contrary, I have friends who I've shown your videos who don't understand anything. They watch the video and are like, "cool ideas", but they don't spend time considering how they will apply the information. Some of these friends are intermediate/advanced dudes, they literally need someone to tell them exactly how information applies to their life.
I've read you rationalize that your content is for "advanced dudes" and this is why the masses cannot understand it, but I wonder whether you might be wrong-maybe instead your material doesn't reach the masses because it is written to target people who think and learn like you do.
I think if you examine the forums you will find that the people who like your information, the most, are ones who have very similar learning styles to you.
It would be an interesting expirement if you created a video with more examples of how the information can be used, and then examine how people respond. Try creating more of a guide that people can follow and see if it produces more interest.
WillH
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Sales copy page: "Rumor 1: “RSD World Summit 2012 Will NOT Be Recorded”
TRUE – The seminar portion of RSD Summit 2012 will be held exclusively in a closed door environment with ZERO recording equipment of our own.
In fact, we’ve taken it a step further and hired off-duty police as security guards to guarantee that not a single person that enters our sound proof room (not even RSD staff) are able to make neither video nor audio recordings of the top-secret seminars inside. Furthermore, everyone will have to empty their pockets into secure pre-assigned cubbies before entering seminar rooms at all.
Why? Because each seminar is 100% “secret” exercise-based learning that cannot be taught through DVD or CD products. This means you can only soak up this ultra-profound knowledge if you experience it in-the-flesh."
Four months later: "New Video From World Summit: Power Of Drawing State From Within, Emotional Control, And Being Carefree"
---and---
You're in the video...
I don't care, I just think it's funny.
DoggyStylz
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bellagio
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Maybe other shit works, but it doesn't have the total emmersion effect that you have created, it just doesn't feel like doing the act "pickup", it is a way of life. Thanks man, like seriously.
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Tyler
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btw I'm actually unaware of the shit people give me because I only read RSDN so I'll take it there's still haters on other PUA sites? LOL ohhhh well I'm just doing my thing. :)
Yeah I usually just talk about whatever is on my mind, which is a habit I developed from years of going out every night. So if I'm excited about something and I happen to mention it it's probably because I've been sitting in the editing studio for hours bored out of my mind, so talking about it motivates me to finish cutting the footage. It's not really to "build hype" because, as you said, the forums users are for sure going to watch the videos regardless.
As for outgaming Leo -- I'm not really trying to compete against that guy. :) He's the man. The only girls I'd beat him out with are the ones who don't really believe they could get him.
Rather than announcing vids on the forum to build hype amongst people whose attention you have already have aroused, just release the vids or don't mention them.
ZOMG praise RSD etc.
When you talk about future events,as in what's possible, is that NLP of does is it result in your bootcamp students gaining success, or both?
I laugh when I hear hotseat success stories mentioning that you sound creepy. Creepy yet getting results. May the best man win :)
Thing is when you are throwing against Leonardo Dicapro in Sydney against the next 'top models', he has 'game' and fame and his results are written about in main stream papers for real lol. It's not a moot point. Some dudes have 'game' AND money AND fame. Not sure how a bootcamp remedies that.
One more thing, how does one deal with having only one penis, limited time and unlimited girls?
Tyler
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Don't really want to charge people money for a virtual teleconference, I'm more into live events. I'd highly recommend attending the Hot Seat 2 with whatever instructor is teaching it though man. You can focus on what you're NOT getting and get all hung up on it, or just focus on what you ARE getting and gain the benefits from it.
Shame as it would be a low cost event overheads wise, you could present from your location, and people like me would still change full hotseat amount
Part of the agreement I made with GF was that if I was going to travel 2/3's of the year I wouldn't go overseas for a while so I'll be staying in the USA. Being that far away from the kids is pretty insane -- it's hard to put in perspective but when you eventually have them your own children you'll probably think back like "What the hell was that dood doing?"
I'll make sure that I include some sick new infield footage for the Euro/CAN/AUS Free Tours so that I'm "there" at least in video format. Some other instructor will do a fantastic job.
Tyler
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Thanks for reminding me though, it gives me more motivation to finish that new site!
I am an ENTJ and I really like the way your videos are organized. I like ideas to be presented and then I like to examine how these ideas effect my own life, and then make changes accordingly.
I'm in the Ebook writing business and recently had an Ebook completed and ready to be edited and after my editor read it he told me that I have a problem of discussing ideas but not creating "links" or "guidance" on how to apply the ideas.
He told me that I write this way because it is the way that I learn; however he said that most people do not learn in this fashion; they need more guidance and applications.
Your writing and videos sometimes fall into this category. They present ideas but lack guidance in terms of applications and examples of practicality. I personally like this style, but that is because I am analytical.
In the contrary, I have friends who I've shown your videos who don't understand anything. They watch the video and are like, "cool ideas", but they don't spend time considering how they will apply the information. Some of these friends are intermediate/advanced dudes, they literally need someone to tell them exactly how information applies to their life.
I've read you rationalize that your content is for "advanced dudes" and this is why the masses cannot understand it, but I wonder whether you might be wrong-maybe instead your material doesn't reach the masses because it is written to target people who think and learn like you do.
I think if you examine the forums you will find that the people who like your information, the most, are ones who have very similar learning styles to you.
It would be an interesting expirement if you created a video with more examples of how the information can be used, and then examine how people respond. Try creating more of a guide that people can follow and see if it produces more interest.
Tyler
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Yeah in the salescopy when it says "World Summit will not be recorded" I think that's pretty accurate. It's a 7 day full steam day and night event -- my buddy Aron loves to film and was like "Hey could I shoot a few shots of this maybe you'd want a clip for RSDN?" and I was cool with it cause I thought it would be fun to release a few short clips -- not even lit properly or on a tripod, I don't think this would offend any attendees at all.
(Dood also recorded me in another speach, again with shitty lighting and no tripod, but I'm going to release a clip next week because it's not even 1% of the value of the event.)
Point being is that most people think we're going to record the World Summit with a big camera system, proper lighting, etc, and then release it to make extra money. Then they can download it for free and not have to attend. So we let people know "It's not being recorded" so they realize it's a once in a lifetime experience that you have to attend in person.
btw -- any salescopy that says "Hey it's TYLER..." at the top is written by me. And then any salescopy that doesn't say it's from me is usually written by some random guy who is just trying his best, so it's gonna have weird stuff in it. I simply don't have time to write out every salescopy because it takes away time from creating new content, running programs, etc. So I write it personally when I can but sometimes I just have to let shit go and allow it not to be perfect. Running a business is very hard - so many conflicting demands - keep program quality high yet prices low, keep instructors well paid yet maintain a small cash reserve, keep my game good by going out yet stay on top of the business, etc. I work 16 hour days and just do the best I can with the time I have.
Sales copy page: "Rumor 1: “RSD World Summit 2012 Will NOT Be Recorded”
TRUE – The seminar portion of RSD Summit 2012 will be held exclusively in a closed door environment with ZERO recording equipment of our own.
In fact, we’ve taken it a step further and hired off-duty police as security guards to guarantee that not a single person that enters our sound proof room (not even RSD staff) are able to make neither video nor audio recordings of the top-secret seminars inside. Furthermore, everyone will have to empty their pockets into secure pre-assigned cubbies before entering seminar rooms at all.
Why? Because each seminar is 100% “secret” exercise-based learning that cannot be taught through DVD or CD products. This means you can only soak up this ultra-profound knowledge if you experience it in-the-flesh."
Four months later: "New Video From World Summit: Power Of Drawing State From Within, Emotional Control, And Being Carefree"
---and---
You're in the video...
I don't care, I just think it's funny.
Tyler
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Just remember that while you're learning about inner game, you simultaneously need to be going out CONSTANTLY and hitting up girls CONSTANTLY.
One without the other is a waste of time.
Tyler
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Maybe other shit works, but it doesn't have the total emmersion effect that you have created, it just doesn't feel like doing the act "pickup", it is a way of life. Thanks man, like seriously.
Tyler
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I was working to cut up ths nearly hour long clip from a talk I did for Cisco Systems but we had technical problems in the editing studio and that's why this article failed to make the Wednesday deadline and came out Friday. Then I thought "Why not just grab a small clip from those Summit videos we have?" I figured it would be interesting just to see everyone on stage so at least would be cool in that regard. I actually didn't think the video was very good but some people have said it's their favourite video so I'm pleasantly surprised. I guess everyone just gets hit on different levels.
Fluid
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I usually dont respond on here but i just wanna jump on this real quick plus i really like the video your last few vids ive been really enjoying.
Anyway yeah i really think you sometimes arent taking enough responsibility for how you present ideas the whole ''its for advanced dudes'' is a bit of a copout. I feel ya and on the one hand its true we simply arent catering to newbies but still its also a bit of a copout.
im exactly like this guy really people dont understand my points about life pickup because i think in abstract and often big picture exacty liek you and people lack the context to udnerstand im bad at making the detailed application links. thats basicly because sitting on the couch we think big picture and abstract and the actual real learning and understanding we do in our body when were actually doing and learning the things,
for example the drawing state thing i dont care what you say you just vague as fuck about that and always been. i understand perfectly. but i had to learn
you were never good at writing from a 1st person perspective, you think fromj out that 3rd person analytical perspective.
anyway long story short what im trying to say is obviously were not all of a sudden gonna be full on practical hands on catering to newbies
but you cant use that as a copout for limiting your range because i feel sometimes your jsut being lazy and throwing out overly abstract stuff that couldve been presented and brought much better if youve found them middle gorund even 3/4 ground
good stuff oh and were all waiting for some bits of infield man nobdy's expecting a free hotseat its all good but give us a lil love man .
Ever since that 90 minute long vid with that way to long goofy ass story about the china girl on a date or something ive been really on your vids man.
Also really enjoyed the last one about locking into your mode or something whatever it was i really connected w/ it.
while im responding now anyway might as well give you some other feedback i had on my mind for a while i think purely as a speaker away from content quality i think your at your best when your just being real. and do the less is more thing. you are enough and just speaking strongly is already a great rpesentation stories jokes and all these things are all great and needed part of the mix obviously . Howver what im gettin at probably much more your vids of this summer and before but often times it seemed like you were to busy finding ways to self amuse or sometrhing or maybe to keep yourself in state or something but you jsut made way to many jokes and lil self amusing whatevers and it just looked a little stupid and goofy, like your trying to hard to be compelling and or funny or something or like your doing pick up on stage or something vs being a compelling speaker. like a barrage of lil state spike thingies and i thikn it takes away from the realness and thep resentation.
anyway much respect and im really seeing that evolultiion in your personality. beginning this year and probably summer i looked at these vids and tought hes still a lil weird and a lil try hard sometimes.. and you could see you were focussing on aspects its been all coming together though and you seem to really be more and more fully into that headspace where its jsut all real and you flowing out its so much more ''whole''
(and yeah being on stage may add some more pressure and all that but n$ever the less)
anyway tought that should be mentioned, because the growth really is massive i skipped out a big chunk of summer .
cool my 2cents,
later
Thanks for reminding me though, it gives me more motivation to finish that new site!
I am an ENTJ and I really like the way your videos are organized. I like ideas to be presented and then I like to examine how these ideas effect my own life, and then make changes accordingly.
I'm in the Ebook writing business and recently had an Ebook completed and ready to be edited and after my editor read it he told me that I have a problem of discussing ideas but not creating "links" or "guidance" on how to apply the ideas.
He told me that I write this way because it is the way that I learn; however he said that most people do not learn in this fashion; they need more guidance and applications.
Your writing and videos sometimes fall into this category. They present ideas but lack guidance in terms of applications and examples of practicality. I personally like this style, but that is because I am analytical.
In the contrary, I have friends who I've shown your videos who don't understand anything. They watch the video and are like, "cool ideas", but they don't spend time considering how they will apply the information. Some of these friends are intermediate/advanced dudes, they literally need someone to tell them exactly how information applies to their life.
I've read you rationalize that your content is for "advanced dudes" and this is why the masses cannot understand it, but I wonder whether you might be wrong-maybe instead your material doesn't reach the masses because it is written to target people who think and learn like you do.
I think if you examine the forums you will find that the people who like your information, the most, are ones who have very similar learning styles to you.
It would be an interesting expirement if you created a video with more examples of how the information can be used, and then examine how people respond. Try creating more of a guide that people can follow and see if it produces more interest.
Tyler
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Join Date: 08/20/2006 | Posts: 6902
So basically I do a section of the seminar that's the "real material" and then also challenge myself to create jokes or stories ON THE SPOT. This is difficult because you've gotta create the story/joke in REAL TIME and then nail it out fresh. Most standup comedians can't even do this, as their best material has to be tested a few times before they put it on a video and release it.
The result is I'm able to create new video content for the front page of RSDN every week. If I released the canned seminar it would be really good the one time I released it, but then I'd have nothing left. This is actually why Papa does not release his Free Tour speach -- it's a very good speach but once the cat is let out of the bag there's nothing new or different in it to keep people watching.
(So the attendees are usually very happy and learn a ton -- but it's not useful for new seminar bits every week on the frontpage. That's the real challenge of balancing the goals of presenting a clear Free Tour that helps people while creating brand new content for the frontpage every single week -- literaly OUT OF YOUR ASS.)
I think a good middleground based on your feedback and Jordanfan's would be to create a really linear and how to newbie site, so that people see I have the ability to communicate from a practical standpoint. Go easy on the joking or crazy stuff just make it really practical to people who want to know how to do this shit.
Then on that same page I'm thinking to create three sub-pages 1) free tour, 2) vblogs, and 3) instructor content. On the top of each section I could put a video that explains what each of them is. On the Free Tour subpage I could explain that it's basically "infotainment" with abstract ideas -- ie: the random stuff that comes up during Free Tours that I use for the frontpage since I probably won't use it again -- watch if it interests you but it's not necessary, etc.
Basically my goal with the Free Tour clips was to make it like a free and entertaining weekly show that just keeps people in the general headspace. It's not "necessary" to know everything in it, it's just FUN for the people who regularly go out (fuck everyone who doesn't go out -- seriously, let's not cater to their egos wanting to "know everything" about a lifestyle they don't even live). I don't think anyone who goes out finds it too much info, they just get entertainment from it which is why the series is popular. So I need to make that clear at the top of the page that houses the videos -- "This shit is for fun, it gives insights, but it isn't needed to get laid" etc.
Then have that practical newbie website that reinforces the core available to everyone instead of charging money (or more realistically -- making people have to go to the trouble to download rather than just having it conveniently on a website), so that in the future on the RSDN forums people can keep pointing people who have gone too deep into "theory land" back to the basics of what works.
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btw the infield stuff I'm gonna post will be on that site. I've already got 2 videos with infield out now but because they get buried in Youtube you still have all the people saying "Oh there's not a single infield from this guy!" So putting out more and more won't fix that -- it's all about a main site where people will see the bursts of infield right from the get-go and eliminate that perception right off the bat -- which is a funny perception anyway because I have hundreds of hours of the stuff that I show all over the country. Of course this won't fix these random doods from saying "These girls are UGLY DRUNK SLUTS and I fuck girls like this ALL THE TIME they're all 6's who are DRUNK!!" But to any reasonable person it will show what's possible right off the bat.
That said I still have a few cool ideas specifically for videoblogs that I want to put out a lil infield, similar to the Napali Coast video with that lil open. So there'll be a bit floating around, but the main thing will be the newbie site I'm working on.
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One last thing as well -- I'll never look 100% natural and congruent in my lifetime because that's not who I am, because my emotional circuitry was damaged at a young age. I'll always have that little bit of social anxiety in my body, always have to take proactive steps to reverse the depression, learning disabilities, etc. This is because my mother was abused while I was in the womb and I had the shit knocked out of me for years, terrozing me as a kid, followed by being a juvenille deliquent for fifteen years. I'm basicaly like an abused dog who can become normal again to an extent but at the same time will have those weird emotional reactions to shit.
The cool side is that I've taken that past and still managed to hook up with the hot girls that "cool" guys would normally get, and create a successful business that helps other people who went through similar shit do the same thing. I basically had to reverse engineer what it means to be a normal cool person and learn it conscioussly since I could never learn it naturally, which makes the content really sharp and onpoint.
The key for me is ACCEPTANCE of who I am as a person and to accept that I have the fucked up emotions in my body and not resist them. Doing this I've become a very happy person -- and actually really happy given I have the workload of around 4 guys on my plate at any given time, just due to my decision to create a business (all young biz owners go through this). So I sort of improve on it every year but at the same time the fact I'm a little weird is what makes my shit identifiable to other guys who are fucked up too. I'm like the ultimate "If he can do it I can do it too type guy". I also piss people off because I'm such a natural lamo/loser that if I did it and you didn't, it's full proof you fucked up. So that creates the polarizing reactions. :)
I go out and kill it so hardcore in the field and stunt all over your face, and it's like "Are you serious? How the fuck is this little loser making out with the dime of the club while I'm sitting here with my dick in my hands?" Even if it took me a whole night of warming up and building momentum to get her, they're gonna see it happen. So it's a great contrast that makes the shit compelling to watch. It's also funny to watch the cooler guys who thought "I can recognize a cool guy who gets laid and this isn't it!" get humbled and say "Okay I'm ready to learn". Bottom line is I took proactive control and beat the odds by going out every night for years at a time. Proof of what the human brain is capable of if it repeats the same behaviour for hours on end.
All that said I want to keep improving as a congruent speaker and it gets better with time, so even if it's never 100% I'm taking responsibility to keep getting better with it. Ultimately I just enjoy the process and honestly allow it to improve with age. As humans get older our emotions naturally get more even-keeled no matter what we went through, so I hope to benefit from that more and more.
I usually dont respond on here but i just wanna jump on this real quick plus i really like the video your last few vids ive been really enjoying.
Anyway yeah i really think you sometimes arent taking enough responsibility for how you present ideas the whole ''its for advanced dudes'' is a bit of a copout. I feel ya and on the one hand its true we simply arent catering to newbies but still its also a bit of a copout.
im exactly like this guy really people dont understand my points about life pickup because i think in abstract and often big picture exacty liek you and people lack the context to udnerstand im bad at making the detailed application links. thats basicly because sitting on the couch we think big picture and abstract and the actual real learning and understanding we do in our body when were actually doing and learning the things,
for example the drawing state thing i dont care what you say you just vague as fuck about that and always been. i understand perfectly. but i had to learn
you were never good at writing from a 1st person perspective, you think fromj out that 3rd person analytical perspective.
anyway long story short what im trying to say is obviously were not all of a sudden gonna be full on practical hands on catering to newbies
but you cant use that as a copout for limiting your range because i feel sometimes your jsut being lazy and throwing out overly abstract stuff that couldve been presented and brought much better if youve found them middle gorund even 3/4 ground
good stuff oh and were all waiting for some bits of infield man nobdy's expecting a free hotseat its all good but give us a lil love man .
Ever since that 90 minute long vid with that way to long goofy ass story about the china girl on a date or something ive been really on your vids man.
Also really enjoyed the last one about locking into your mode or something whatever it was i really connected w/ it.
while im responding now anyway might as well give you some other feedback i had on my mind for a while i think purely as a speaker away from content quality i think your at your best when your just being real. and do the less is more thing. you are enough and just speaking strongly is already a great rpesentation stories jokes and all these things are all great and needed part of the mix obviously . Howver what im gettin at probably much more your vids of this summer and before but often times it seemed like you were to busy finding ways to self amuse or sometrhing or maybe to keep yourself in state or something but you jsut made way to many jokes and lil self amusing whatevers and it just looked a little stupid and goofy, like your trying to hard to be compelling and or funny or something or like your doing pick up on stage or something vs being a compelling speaker. like a barrage of lil state spike thingies and i thikn it takes away from the realness and thep resentation.
anyway much respect and im really seeing that evolultiion in your personality. beginning this year and probably summer i looked at these vids and tought hes still a lil weird and a lil try hard sometimes.. and you could see you were focussing on aspects its been all coming together though and you seem to really be more and more fully into that headspace where its jsut all real and you flowing out its so much more ''whole''
(and yeah being on stage may add some more pressure and all that but n$ever the less)
anyway tought that should be mentioned, because the growth really is massive i skipped out a big chunk of summer .
cool my 2cents,
later
Thanks for reminding me though, it gives me more motivation to finish that new site!
I am an ENTJ and I really like the way your videos are organized. I like ideas to be presented and then I like to examine how these ideas effect my own life, and then make changes accordingly.
I'm in the Ebook writing business and recently had an Ebook completed and ready to be edited and after my editor read it he told me that I have a problem of discussing ideas but not creating "links" or "guidance" on how to apply the ideas.
He told me that I write this way because it is the way that I learn; however he said that most people do not learn in this fashion; they need more guidance and applications.
Your writing and videos sometimes fall into this category. They present ideas but lack guidance in terms of applications and examples of practicality. I personally like this style, but that is because I am analytical.
In the contrary, I have friends who I've shown your videos who don't understand anything. They watch the video and are like, "cool ideas", but they don't spend time considering how they will apply the information. Some of these friends are intermediate/advanced dudes, they literally need someone to tell them exactly how information applies to their life.
I've read you rationalize that your content is for "advanced dudes" and this is why the masses cannot understand it, but I wonder whether you might be wrong-maybe instead your material doesn't reach the masses because it is written to target people who think and learn like you do.
I think if you examine the forums you will find that the people who like your information, the most, are ones who have very similar learning styles to you.
It would be an interesting expirement if you created a video with more examples of how the information can be used, and then examine how people respond. Try creating more of a guide that people can follow and see if it produces more interest.