What's up?!  Long time no see.  My second son Dylan has just been born and I've just come back from vacation.

With the Jeffy Free Tour and Jeffy Hot Seat underway I'm now "retired" from those events, however there are TWO FINAL EVENTS that I've left on the schedule because I didn't want to blow off the students who'd already signed up.

I'll be running Free Tour, my recently recorded Hot Seat, and Bootcamp in Austin and Atlanta over the coming weeks.  Of course, they will be absolutely epic and once in a lifetime learning opportunities.

Austin:  September 8 - 10
Atlanta:  September 15 - 17

And that's it!  My other events for the year have been cancelled as my second son has been born and I'll need to help out around the house.  If you're interested in working with me in Austin or Atlanta hit up...:

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com


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So I'm back!  Some recent news...

My second son Dylan was born at nearly 9 pounds.  The doctors didn't know how to deliver him and were going to pump him with Pitocin and then require a C-Section, so I "Googled" how to deliver a baby and gave them instructions.  An hour later the giant baby was born with a regular delivery. :)

(Modern medical system:  nice business model!  Huge appreciation goes to the doctors who delivered him nonetheless.)

A few hours after the delivery, and on zero sleep, I went into the Los Angeles Bootcamp and did one of the best programs of my life.  It was totally intense and kick ass.  Todd was on call to teach for me in case the baby was born, but I figured that the students had travelled from far away to work with me so "The show must go on..."

Having two kids in the house is awesome.  I want more.  Soon as GF is fertile again I may put in another -- don't tell her as I've said we'll wait so she doesn't freak out, but she can't resist unprotected sex! :)

Next up is I just came back from my annual vacation to Honolulu and the Napali Coast, and then the World Summit in Las Vegas.  All were amazing peak experiences that I'll never forget.

In Honolulu I broke the shit out of my diet and ate everything in sight.  Beaches every day and bomb restaurants every night.  Chilling in front of the ocean.  Hung out with my buddies.  Clubbing at night and the adventures that that entails.

Napali Coast was amazing as always.  I often say "I don't know if there's a Heaven but you can always go to the Napali Coast."  It's an eleven mile hike in along trecherous cliffs and then you camp on an isolated beach that has streams you can read by to cool off, caves to explore, the ocean to body surf in, etc.  Zero cell phones or email or hospitals if you fall off the cliffs.  The island of Kauai is one of the most isolated land masses in existence, so it's like being at the end of the world.

My schedule during the year is intense -- 80 to 100 hour work weeks and sometimes months without a day off -- and I tend to be resistant to taking vacations.  Nonetheless I "make myself do it" because I want that anchour in my head throughout the year that I only have to make it "X number of more months until vacation".  I like that Napali Coast is lined up beside World Summit because it makes it more of a break.

To do this I sort of wind down the jet engines over a few weeks.  Now I'm in the process of firing them up again.  Hitting this level of workpace is pretty hardcore so it's a process.  The travel is endless, the programs are non stop, and the tasks during the week is like shovelling a pile of snow that just gets bigger and bigger.

Gotta love working for yourself, you even get to set your own hours:  WHATEVER 16 HOURS YOU WANT!!

Anyway I managed to record videos while in Hawaii because I wanted to bring YOU in on the adventure as well.  The video below is shot in the Napali Coast and I'll have a bunch more coming over the month.

This one reveals the paradox between "self acceptance and self actualization".  It also includes a little burst of infield footage as I've promised I'll be doing in a few videos (I'll explain more about this below...).  Hopefully it'll help refocus you on what's important in the game if you've been stuck in a "circle jerk" with these concepts.

CLICK THE VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO WHISKED AWAY TO THE NAPALI COAST, AND TO HAVE THE SECRETS OF THIS CRITICAL PARADOX REVEALED...



Fun stuff, huh?

The little open I did on that girl was during a Bootcamp, and was deliberately friendly and non threatening because it's nighttime on a street while she's alone and I'm surrounded by guys.

The BC students follow me around on extractions, and I bring in the girls friends and make sure that everyone pulls -- otherwise I bail.  BC's have non stop attention to the point that students usually want to run away in terror!

The reason I chose that little open in particular was because it uses virtually no technique whatsoever.  There's very little going on in terms of outer game -- I'm not even talking for the first few seconds.  Notice that you don't need to talk when you open if you're coming from the "right place" internally?  For some reason took me many years to figure this out, and yet it's so easy when you realize it.

EXPERIMENT WITH ESCALATING OFF THE BAT -- YOU DON'T ALWAYS NEED TO TALK!

Now what I want you to do is watch this next video as well, and see how it corresponds to the first one...



See the link? :)

So basically what you see here is the girls will say stuff like "You're beautiful..." out of nowhere simply because you 1) assume a positive response, and 2) are grounded in your own energy with no need for an outcome whatsoever.  In the little open from the first video she says "Okay I love you..." which is the same type of thing.  They'll usually say something along these lines when you're on point, so I want you to recognize that this is what happens when you get this down.

Also btw -- the instant lay is NOT the go here.  You want to try the fastest route to get from Point A to Point B, and then if it doesn't go you try the second fastest route, the third fastest, etc.  It's strategic because you wind up getting instant lays every so often while it's just "playful fun" to the majority of girls who won't instantly fuck a guy they just met.  I've done a few instant lays in my life, some with girls who were pretty damned hot, and it's been by two main methods:  1) just recognizing she's down and making out (and maybe fingering her) and then extracting, or 2) hardcore push pullling, amping up the energy, yelling, etc, and then when emotions are high doing the extraction and lay.  Neither was the move in this case -- even if I'd been stronger on the pimp hand with the hotel thing.  Instant date is easy and consistent.

I'll be putting in a few bursts of infield footage in a few future video blogs, including some instant hook ups as well, so it'll make more sense.  I plan on putting up bursts that grab the imagination as far as what's possible.  Let me know if you enjoyed this as a little preview in the meantime, but it's more to feel out how people like it. :)

(btw the contrast between a Hot Seat event and a burst of infield footage is the difference between a few seconds of a random interaction versus seeing the entire deal go down, from open to close, and have it broken down in micro detail while it's paused over and over so you can see subtleties that are impossible to notice if you haven't been in the game many years.  Then the instructor lays out his entire personality throughout the day and does exercises, so this is really the most invaluable experience you can possibly have.

Again check these sites for dates -- www.jeffyhotseat.com and www.rsdhotseat.com, and given that Jeffy is touring only once and I'm on my last two events, this is well worth hitting up.  Sorry if the blatant pushing you on this event is annoying but I want to urge you to attend -- the Hot Seat may not be around forever and people will go on about how "back in the day" this amazing inexpensive program existed, how awesome the reviews made it sound, etc.  These events exceed the hype and offer a "no questions asked" money back guarantee for a month after you take it and the seminar high has worn off, because they're THAT valuable to your life.)

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Anyway the other reason I thought it was cool to post up the "self acceptance versus self improvement" thing was that it was a hot topic in the forums recently.

You may have noticed I'm posting regularly in the RSDN forum again, and that's because I want to get it back on track to the being the value loaded hot spot to exchange ideas, like it was back in the day.  That will be a process but YOU have to help me as well -- don't protract arguments, don't take things personally ON THE DAMNED INTERNET, and offer advice that's based in real world experience. :)

It's already improved a lot over the past few weeks, and we'll see if we can get it to continue.  It's funny that I'm the busiest in RSD and yet post the most, and yet I think the message here is "If you want something done, give it to a busy  man..."  It's actually easier for me to post more than it is for other instructors because I never stop working, so I don't have to "switch gears" in order to slam something out.  It's like how these articles typically run me like 20 minutes to write, whereas most people would probably take a few hours.

Take this as a lesson -- challenge yourself!  Work harder.  Make more money.  Fuck more women.  Fuck HOTTER women.  Produce more value.  Travel to more cities.  Read more books.  Crank out more kids.  Get more in the zone.  Kick more ass.  Eat better food and put nothing bad in your body.  DOMINATE!!

Every year gets exponentially better because you improve -- better, faster, stronger.  Your capabilities of the past are a joke compared to your capabilities of the present.  Everything's lead up to this, and this will lead into a future without limitations.  Possibilities are infinite -- you can write your own ticket in life, people have sacrified for centuries so YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT.

Think there's a lack of opportunities?  Think "the little guy can't win"??  You're wrong amigo.  No excuses.  In fact if life sucks it's just an advantage because it hardens your resolve to take control over it.  I feel sympathy for people who gain their advantages naturally or with minimal effort -- they're usually just too soft and unfocused.

(Hmmmmmmmm can you tell the jet engine is whirling up again?  Here it comes.............)

But getting back to the video again.............. :)

The forum had definitely had too many inner game circle jerk posts this year.  There's something really offputting about a guy who talks about "working on his inner game" when it isn't accompanied by posts about himself going out, pimping girls, hitting it up HARD, etc.

There's no value in studying inner game without being hitting the field extremely hard, and there's no value in gaming hard if you lack an understanding of why inner game is important to your success (I did it from 2002 to 2004 -- the weird effect it had on me is well documented!).

The inner game of pickup and outer game of pickup are twin engines that need to be maximized.  It's my opinion that accepting yourself is like 80% of the battle, and yet the "self actualization" of learning outer game is needed regardless, so you'd might as well assume it's 50/50.

Why do I say that self acceptance is more important than outer proficiency in the field?  Well a lot (not all, but a lot) of your "outer game" is really an EXPRESSION of how you feel internally.

The study of inner game is amazing.  STUDY IT.  Learn it hardcore, and go DEEP in the inner game circle jerk. :)

But couple it with going out, ideally every night, and if not then as much as possible.  I'm personally out every single night -- even nights that would seem fucked up to go out, because I absolutely love this shit.  Having a life outside women is important too and makes you more attractive.  It ain't rocket science -- MAKE THE DAMNED TIME.

The hardcore inner game stuff is valuable to guys who go out a lot because it furnishes you with a rock solid sense of entitlement, keeps you out of your head and unreactive to bullshit from the hottest women, and makes you an icey bastard to dickhead guys who try to fuckup your shit.  Again:  it's what makes the outer game work.

But do both.  Don't assume that because "Brad and Tyler love to talk about inner game..." that that's all we do.  Brad has been out nearly every single night for many years.  That's why he loves inner game -- it gives him the CONTEXT to decode his massive base of reference experiences, how he slept with the girls he met, etc etc.

The topic is very cool, but only to people who go out.  You don't go out, work on that first, work on theory second.  A little theory is all you need to get started -- that's IT!

:)

We don't rehash the same outer game basics over and over, because that would be boring.  We'd lose our audience of advanced students (most of whom don't post).

But if you don't know the basics, go learn them TODAY.

Then hit me up on RSD Nation forums and we'll talk about how you're applying them, get you kicking ass, getting laid, and then you can improve your game from the position of it being a "hobby" instead of all desperate and weird.

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So yeah I wanted to write something up quick to get you updated on what's been going on.  I also put up a big post about the upcoming videos and areas I'm focusing on in the forum, which you can find right here...

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/197516/forum

(I talk about my recent creative processes as well.  Hit me up in the forum if you want to talk game in general, I'm up in there lately as I mentioned.)

And in case you don't click, the videos I have coming are...

-Seattle Free Tour (this is maybe my best Free Tour vid so far. REALLY like this one -- some sick shit in there and the speaking is the best I've done).
-Cisco Systems speach that I did -- I wanna hit up a few clips from it with me dressed all chodey professional and talking to the corporate crowd. Sort of a trip to see me doing this.
-Hawaii Free Tour -- had some nice stuff in here, and good impressions of Japanese girls :)
-Napali Coast video blog about "reading" that I shot by a stream I spent several days reading by...It's like half an hour long
-Waikiki video that I shot on the topic of "being the chariot rider" -- ie: how to control your brain and make it do what it wants

They're all pretty decent, on par with the one I posted today.  Then I'll be working on new stuff here in Los Angeles, and on the Austin and Atlanta trips I have coming up.

Thanks for reading.  Hope to keep you entertained!  A lot going on, let's catch up soon!

And please let me know what's on your mind.  How do you find the distinction between "self acceptance" and "self improvement"?  Did the video make sense to you?  What insights did you gain?

I want to know! :)

Tyler

PS:

The Austin and Atlanta Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp are my last for quite a while.  I'll probably teach Bootcamp but that's about it.

The dates are coming up shortly if you're in the South, and will be life-tradjectory altering learning experiences for those who attend...

Austin: September 8 - 10
Atlanta: September 15 - 17

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

See you there! :)

PPS:  There's 3 pretty kick ass RSD blogs up and running right now...

1) Brad's blog at www.bradbranson.com -- this is always a classic.

2) Alex's blog at www.alexattitude.com -- he's been posting up pictures, and recently has pics of his Russian adventures.

3) My co-instructor Julien's blog at www.julienlife.com -- people rave endlessly about how proficient his game is, and he writes articles about it that you can enjoy.

Okay it's 7AM and I'm going to bed.  I nailed this out tonight so I can focus on video editing tommorow, so I'll have videos I can post up while I'm in the South.  Have a great day!