Okay so I've decided to run the last 4 Hot Seat events on the West Coast that I'd scheduled, as a few people had already signed up and were disappointed I was not teaching them.

That being the case the last 4 Hot Seat events I'll be running personally (Papa will continue doing them overseas) are in Los Angeles, San Francisco, Seattle, and Honolulu.  I may cancel Honolulu as there's usually only 3 or 4 people (compared to the typical 50 or 100) but if anyone in the Hawaii pickup group wants a Hot Seat in Honolulu you can gather a handful of people and let me know -- I lived in Honolulu for 3 years and I'm always down to teach there.

Obviously I can't continue running around the country like a madman forever, especially with my second child being born in 2 or 3 months, so assume the Free Tour and Hot Seat events you see coming up will potentially be my last. The dates are the following...:

Los Angeles Free Tour & Hot Seat:  May 26, May 28
San Francisco Free Tour & Hot Seat:  June 9, June 11
Seattle Free Tour & Hot Seat:  June 23, June 25
Honolulu Free Tour & Hot Seat (Hot Seat is tentative):  July 14, July 16

That's about it for me for the time being!  My son will be born after that so I'll be taking some time off.  If you've ever considered doing my events and you live in or nearby these cities, click over to these sites right now.  I'm also doing Bootcamps those weekends, some of which are already full.

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

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So I've just gotten back from about a month of nonstop travel.

Chicago, New York, Washington DC, and then back to Chicago for an entrepreneur's event (I'm on the board on EO Los Angeles -- for any fellow geeks out there).

Yes I've been a horrible father for leaving my son alone that long, let alone my girlfriend with a baby in her tummy.  I come back to Los Angeles to see them for a few days and then bounce again.  Been feeling bad about this lately -- I believe it will pay off for my sons in the long run but in the short term it hurts.

Nonetheless I've learned a lot about GAME.  Yes, yes, horrible father, but that's my demons to deal with not yours. :)

I'm doing this pickup thing full go at least a little bit longer.  I've commited myself to accomplish everything in pickup that I set out to do so many years ago and that's definitely been happening -- recording the entire thing with hidden camera footage in 1080p for World Summit as well.

I want to leave behind the legacy I envisioned and so I've been going harder at pickup than I ever have in my life.  I'm out constantly.  These are among the most amazing times in my life -- I've never had more fun, never been happier, and yet never been busier and more run down.

Anyway the recent smash of game, game, game has yielded a number of insights to me.  Some more profound and some very simple, and yet even the simple ones I've found to be very key.  I'll be releasing them in the coming weeks.

This video represents a very SIMPLE insight, and yet I believe it has the potential to GET YOU LAID.

Watch the video right now and then I'll comment on it.  I know it's going to make an immediate different for you, as it has for me personally.

TAKE A SECOND TO CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW AND THEN I'LL EXPLAIN BELOW...



As a notable aside, I was so many days on about 3-4 hours sleep as of the time I recorded this (and on zero hours sleep in the video) that I decided not to try to hide it and just bitch about it at the start. :)

Being a young father running Real Social Dynamics I'm often so overwhelmed with tasks that my sleep is decimated, my cortisol is through the roof, I haven't had a "day off" in weeks or months -- yet I have cameras in my face like "PUT IN A BIG SMILE TYLER!!"

This is a sort of "on and off" type thing -- during certain periods I'm lucky not to have to go into an office and I can work only 7 or 8 hours a day with 2 or 3 day weekends.  But other times I have to go, go, go, and when I'm called upon to do this it's pretty insane.  The crazy thing is I've gotten BETTER at depriving myself or sleep or leisure, and because I know I'm able to do it, I wind up doing it more and more.

I've decided that this needs to stop as soon as possible -- as I mentioned in a previous article, I've seen the quality of my work go down.  In this case I was kind of disappointed when I arrived to shoot the video and my brain just wasn't working.  I figured I'd rather be "congruent" to the tiredness than fake it.

Regardless my goal for the coming months is to increase my sleep and lower my cortisol levels.  I believe it's like a "next level" in my own evolution, as weird as that sounds.  The past 18 months I've proven to myself that I'm capable of pushing, now I want to prove to myself that I'm able to be a balanced person.

Funny how most entrepreneurs go through the same pattern.  They get fat and sick too often in their early twenties, then lose it all and become focused on health.  Become workaholics and then learn to relax and take time off.  Become egotistical, get severely and painfully humbled, and then re-focus on just offering value.  I think my story is pretty typical here.

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Anyway as far as the video goes, I really like the distinction of the 3 layers to physical game.

I'm at a point where I often go physical too early, escalate too quickly, and it's because I'm LAZY.  I know that if I just do this on a few sets that one will hook and will require little work.

The girls always laugh when you escalate quickly because they're obsessed with sex.  They like it, but they screen you out because of it.  Why??

Because they can see that you're doing it because you AREN'T ACTUALLY ATTRACTED TO THEM.

I mean let's be real here.  This is no different than when you're sick of having sex with your girlfriend and you become too lazy to give her any foreplay.  So rather than getting bored fingering her you decide to just "jam it in" because at least the sex and busting a nut will make you feel good.

The same goes for many girls.  You're bored of them and you're like "Well at least if we were making out in the corner this would be kind of amusing."  The girls sense the laziness that you aren't willing to put in any work to be with them and so they screen you.

YET IS THIS THE CASE FOR MOST GUYS???

Absolutely not.  Most guys reading this don't go physical not out of laziness, but because they're too scared.  "Waiting to go physical" will do nothing for them -- absolutely nothing, in fact it probably just conveys a lack of entitlement.

The reason that "not going physical" right away works for veterans of the game is because when you get your eyes right up to the girl, she can feel the full entitlement and lack of fear to go physical.  It's extremely obvious to her, in the same way it's obvious that a trained fighter can get in your face and it's obvious he's not afraid to kick your ass.

So it's in that subtlety of the lack of fluctuation in the eyes -- that sexual steadiness that the girl senses from you -- that makes her realize "Wow this guy likes me, but he's in completely control of HIMSELF AND ME."

This is sweet because the girl will put her lips right up on your lips, dance in front of you and try to turn you on, and you're up in her face but showing that she needs to turn you on MORE.

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So as far as implementation.............there's no use to any of this if you aren't able to do the immediate physical stuff.

Going immediately physical is so important in loud clubs in order to take control of the girl, and so important as far as pulling girls out of mixed groups quickly, and so many other things.

Physical game is so important, it conveys so much.  What I'm saying is there's different levels to it.  Everything comes full circle.  If you're still new to this, go hit the first level.

And if you feel you could benefit from going from the second to the third, maybe it's time. :)

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BTW as far as the New York Free Tour video I was talking about last week, I've decided to cut it down to about 35 minutes instead of releasing the entire video.

The reason for this is that I like the material in the middle so much that I want to develop it further and then release it.  I think the material is so raw and controversial that I also need to polish the delivery, make it funnier and more positive, because certain people will freak out and get all butt hurt about it.

That being the case I'm going to release the 35 minutes or so, which are absolutely hilarious (probably the funniest shit I've put out so far...) and then you can expect to see the material I've cut to be released in a more polished / developed format in the future.

I've also got the Washington D.C. Free Tour coming up, 2 videos shot in D.C., and 2 videos shot in Chicago.  That should keep the deck full while I'm back in Los Angeles for the month not travelling.

I'll be recording hidden camera footage most nights here in L.A. to build on the videos I've already accumulated, and then I'll be working on a number of other projects that I mentioned in the forums.  There's actually a thread I wrote about this earlier in the week inside the forums in case you're a front page reader but don't read the forums -- here it is.

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/187608/forum 

I've got a lot planned and a lot going on, but life is good.  It feels good to have a lot to be excited about, as opposed to just walking through life going through the motions.

I'm actually off to the gym right now as I missed the past 2 days and will have to do a major workout to catch up.  Then hit the sauna for a bit and editing up the new videos I brought back from the trip the rest of the night.

I'll be back next week with NYC Free Tour and in the meantime enjoy and implement what you learned in this video and article.  Let me know your thoughts on it as I read the comments -- always appreciated.

And thanks for reading.  It means a lot to me that people read my stuff -- my biggest hobby is game and creating new ideas, and this is what allows me to do it! :)

Tyler

PS:  This is pretty much it for me personally doing Hot Seats for a while, and possibly forever, so take advantage!  I gave forewarning that that was it for the East Coast, and this is pretty much it on the West.

Los Angeles Free Tour & Hot Seat: May 26, May 28
San Francisco Free Tour & Hot Seat: June 9, June 11
Seattle Free Tour & Hot Seat: June 23, June 25
Honolulu Free Tour & Hot Seat (Hot Seat is tentative): July 14, July 16

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com