Hey so Julien is downstairs doing laundry (woooo!) and in 2 hours we will be flying out to AUSTIN TEXAS for tomorrow's Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp.  If you're in Austin we'll see you there!  Psyched!

I've got a new video today that continues the previous series about "Short Term VS Long Term Mating Strategy" which I shot recently in Phoenix.  It's going to reveal answers to many of the questions you may have had about what it takes to feel entitled with hot women as well as balancing work and play.

In the meantime my upcoming programs are...

May 17, 2012: Austin (taught with Julien)
May 31, 2012: Atlanta
June 14, 2012: Seattle
June 28, 2012: Philadelphia
July 12, 2012: Denver
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Julien)

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com ./ www.rsdbootcamp.com

Absolutely get signed up on these if I'm coming through your city or anywhere close.

Incidentally Atlanta, Seattle, Philadelphia, and Denver are RSD's smaller markets so the programs will be more intimate than the bigger cities where I usually teach.  This has the added advantage of me being able to answer tons of questions and provide more personal feedback.

I only come out to them once a year and in the future I may not be able to continue to make it out there, so get on it now while it's hot in your mind!

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Okay so we're going to rip into today's video which is a continuation of the "Short Term VS Long Term Mating Strategy" series.

I got the idea a few years ago and explained it to a bunch of my buddies, and they were really blown away with it.  It sort of explains a lot of what you see as far as naturals and deciding how you should live your life.

CLICK THE VIDEO NOW AND I'LL GIVE SOME BREAKDOWN BELOW...


Okay now I also strongly recommend you click this one, to go over what the Free Tour video was talking about.


The idea of these videos is basically that on a certain level our brains detects a combination of.....

1) How much pre-frontal cortex activity (willpower!) we have.

2) What our best strategy is in the environment

And then decides what the best "strategy" to reproduce is.

For example I've been lucky to cultivate a huge amount of willpower over my life.  So on a certain level my brain is able to look at my pre-frontal cortext and say "Yeah this motherfucker has the ability to raise a few really solid children that will survive for sure..."

That being the case my brain has these emotional mechanisms in it where if my circumstances aren't all set up properly to raise a child, I get all these negative feelings that "keep me out of state" until I've re-fixed my life.

Well how about a guy like Jeffy's buddy Evil Stifler?  When his brain detects his PFC activity what does it say?

Probably something like "This guy can't pay his damned rent, how is he going to raise a child?  Better to focus on keeping him in state at all times so hundreds of chicks fuck him and then even if he isn't around to raise the kids there's just so damned many of them that at least a few will survive."

Basically it's like a dandelion just shooting it's spores in all directions and assuming that at least a few will start growing, whether in the cracks of concrete or a nice grassy field.  As long as some of them go on it's all good.

This is no different than choosing between spending 4 years to create Blueprint Decoded or just shooting out random videos and assuming some of them will catch on as I've been doing with the Free Tour (although I think the quality has improved since BP so actually it's a mixed strategy).  Life is all about how you decide to burn away time and energy, so you look at what you're capable of and work with it.

Two points of emphasis here...

1) The brain is constantly looking at what it thinks you're capable of and RATIONALIZES what to focus on (in terms of RAS) and then comes up with a gameplan.

Funny enough this even applies if you look at Youtube comments under RSD videos from guys who say that picking up girls if you're a regular dude can't be done.

Do these guys have the willpower to go out consistently and slowly improve?  Well, probably not right?.

So their RAS looks for reasons it's impossible -- whether it's focusing on how I suck (which even if that's the case how does it stop THEM from picking up girls?) or some vague cause-and-effect relationship they formed in their heads from seeing a few good looking guys get laid ,and assuming "well the little guy can't win then...meeeeh!"

Beyond that, their brain also say "Well if I can't get the LONG TERM benefits of learning this anyway, may as well give myself the SHORT TERM positive brain chemicals that come from feeling superior by....MAKING MY LITTLE COMMENT!!" :)

This is why hating on shit is so self destructive -- your brain has literally evaluated you as a dummy and decided it's better off to shift your RAS to focus on how you're so cool for "knowing the truth that this is bullshit" than actually implementing information that could massively help your life.

Have you ever had it where you broke up with a girl who you helped a lot in her life -- let's say you got her to eat healthy and get in kick ass shape -- and then she blows off everything you did to help her and decides you're this massive peice of shit?

A few months later she's fat and yet BLAMES YOU for being a dick who didn't care about her?  Yet obviously you must have cared about her more than she cared about herself if she was hot with you and now suddenly fat, right?  Well that's another example.

Her brain has detected she doesn't have the PFC activity to make her stick with it, and that she'd rather have the IMMEDIATE POSITIVE EMOTIONS of thinking you're an asshole so she doesn't have to feel sad.

So she "re-organizes you" in her head as the devil and sends you insane text messages about what an evil person you were, which blows your mind that someone you've done so much for has become angry at you.

But it's NOT HER FAULT.  It's that her brain is doing this to her -- it's controlling her RAS to make her focus on what it perceives as most beneficial in the short term (saying "fuck that guy" makes it easier for her...), because she doesn't have the PFC activity to benefit in the long term from the positive experience you provided to her life.

It's a bummer, and yet both ex girlfriends and sometimes GUY friends will do this as well, because the mind is constantly controlling and re-directing your focus in ways that are hard to understand.

(I've spent years looking at this in myself as well -- and when I see it in others you know what I do?  I sure as hell don't say "Fuck this person..."  Rather I say "Oh HUMANS DO THIS, that must mean that I DO IT AS WELL because I AM A HUMAN... So where am I doing it and what can I learn from it and how can I improve?"

That's why what Eckhart Tolle says about "reclaiming consciousness from the mind" is so bang-on -- when you're stuck in your thoughts and fail to become present to the moment (rise above consciousness as he calls it), most people will succumb to this at various times.

Every day of my life I'm trying to become more grounded in the present moment with meditation, nutrition, exercise, but mostly just keeping a POSITIVE POINT OF VIEW.  It's slow-going as fucking hell, but it also gradually improves.  When you see someone after a year they've *always* either gotten better with this or worse.  And after a few years the effects are really apparent and it makes you realize how important it is to make this a priority in your life.)

2) It doesn't actually matter to the girl whether you're some douchebag whose RAS has rationalized you're the shit, or that you "actually" are.  As long as you have it straight in your head some way or other that you're entitled, she gets attracted because the confidence is the same.

The key however is that if you're one of those guys whose brain is so wired for "long term" that you can't rationalize it, you're going to have to play along and work on improving your life.

That said though, also be aware that this IS somewhat of a silly emotional game your brain is playing with you, and look at examples of losers and douchebags who get laid in spite of their lives being a total wreck.

**I remember my buddy Derrick always emphasizing it to me that "YOU HAVE TO HAVE IT STRAIGHT IN YOUR HEAD THAT THE GIRL SHOULD BE WITH *YOU*.  HOW YOU DO THIS IS UP TO YOU, BUT ONE WAY OR ANOTHER IT'S GOTTA BE ALIGNED."

The truth is that it's all very subjective, right?

You could tell yourself you need to be this or that to get a girl, and whatever it is that you tell yourself, YOU'RE RIGHT!!

There are always guys who have less than you who still GIVE THEMSELVES PERMISSION to be entitled and believe that the girl should be WITH THEM.

So I always emphasize to guys who are actively improving themselves to give themselves a break, because the fact that they EVEN CARE AT ALL puts them head and shoulders above most douchebags who fuck the most girls.

Let me tell you from watching my GF's hot female friends that none of them can ever find a decent boyfriend, because the guy is either a provider-chode with no emotional relevance or a douchebag with nothing going on for himself.  So the fact that you have a bit of BOTH is absolutely amazing and you should stop questioning yourself.

Regardless though, the LESS you think you need to be "entitled" with women, the better.  That even goes as far as not needing to be in state, not needing to do a certain type of game, WHATEVER IT IS, THE MORE YOU CAN *REDUCE* YOUR CRITERIA OF WHAT IT MEANS TO BE ENTITLED, THE BETTER.

That's why you often hear "The fact I'm a guy and she's a girl means I'm enough..." or "The fact I have a dick means I have value..."

Obviously none of this really makes sense, and ignores a lot of other factors like that there's an abundance of willing DICKS around to stick in her, but if it works in the dude's head then that's fantastic!

Anyway just a few ideas to throw around and I hope it gets you thinking.  I have a lot more to say on this topic, which will be one of the pillars of my self help stuff in the future, but obviously in massively  more detail and implications to modern society. :)

Hope you enjoyed this though!

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btw speaking of "what it takes to feel entitled" ..... If you haven't seen this video I did with Alexander yet, ABSOLUTELY CLICK IT because I think it's really great.


I had a blast recording this with Alex.

Wanna know something crazy we observed though?

As we were recording there would be this constant stream of people just walking RIGHT IN FRONT OF THE CAMERA!

It was insane.  And again it's that "RAS selective focus".  People see something in their way and figure "Well it saves on time and energy to just walk right through it, and it's not MY FAULT these guys chose to record here..."

Then it makes their focus ignore that there's very obviously a video being shot and they walk right through.

To deal with this we created a wall of jackets and bags to make people walk around us.  And it really made me realize why governments and whatnot have to create all these ridiculous incentive / disincentive systems for people to do the right thing -- because our brains just work the way they work.

Once we built the wall we decided that if anyone else walked through the shot we'd just use them for comedy in the video, but funny enough it seems that a RETARDED KID walked through!

And I didn't even notice until I read a comment that I stopped a retarded kid at 11 minutes, and I clicked it and sure enough I'm grabbing some retarded kid.  Uhhhh, woops! :)  Yet it makes it even more classic. :)

The other guy who walked through I think made an honest mistake, he was just out of it.  So I guess that if once the wall was built it was just a retarded kid and someone who was out of it (like we all can be at times) it isn't that bad.  All it took was a WALL to make people be nice.... That's it. :)

Seriously though, I hope you watched the video with Alex and also checked out his 2 hour manifesto.  Because I spent 2 weeks with the guy and watched him get really phenomal results.  He's DA MAN so be sure to check out his stuff!

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And aside from that, I've gotta run so I'm out!

Tons of life updates going on but I'll save them for another time!  I'm having a blast though and things have been good!

Let me know your thoughts and experiences as far as "short term VS long term mating strategy" in your own life.  How has it affected your emotions, focus, RAS, gameplan, entitlement, etc?  I want to know!!

Beyond that, I was also absolutely destroyed in the Free Tour video as far as being on little sleep, but it made me more chilled out and laid back.  Let me know how you found it -- I always appreciate feedback on this as I'm thinking LONG TERM. :)

Thanks for reading and I'll see you soon!

Tyler