Woooo 2 heads!!  The Beard is going strong.  OMG.

Just crackin’ along the Pacific Ocean on a train from Los Angeles to San Diego. Winter in California so it’s a lil cloudy but still beautiful. I’ll be running a few programs there this weekend, should be sweet.

I’ve recently decided to do another Free Tour – the Free Tour 3 – between January and the World Summit in August.

We're going to get into a NEW VIDEO in a minute, but check out the dates right now and if your city is on the list get registered ASAP.

www.rsdfreetour.com

United States (taught by me, I'll be doing Hot Seat 2 and Bootcamps in these cities as well...)
January 19, 2012: Los Angeles
January 26, 2012: San Francisco
February 2, 2012: Chicago
February 9, 2012: New York
February 23, 2012: Miami
March 29, 2012: Phoenix
April 12, 2012: Las Vegas
April 26, 2012: Washington DC
May 3, 2012: Boston
May 17, 2012: Austin Texas
May 31, 2012: Atlanta
June 14, 2012: Seattle
June 28, 2012: Philadelphia
July 12, 2012: Denver
August 2, 2012: Honolulu

Europe (will be taught by a variety of instuctors including Brad, Alex, Ozzie, and Papa...)
January 5, 2012: Stockholm, Sweden
January 12, 2012: Helsinki, Finland
January 19, 2012: Budapest, Hungary
January 26, 2012: Berlin, Germany
February 2, 2012: Zurich, Switzerland
February 9, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 15, 2012: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 22, 2012: Munich, Germany
April 19, 2012: London, United Kingdom
April 26, 2012: Copenhagen, Denmark
July 27, 2012: Athens, Greece
August 26, 2012: Madrid, Spain
August 28, 2012: Valencia, Spain
August 31, 2012: Barcelona, Spain

Australia (taught by Alex and Papa)
May 24, 2012: Sydney, Australia
June 7, 2012: Melbourne, Australia

Canada (taught by Jeffy and Papa)
January 5, 2012: Vancouver
January 12, 2012: Calgary
January 19, 2012: Toronto
January 26, 2012: Montreal
...and a second set of dates (two different instructors I recommend attending both!)
July 5, 2012: Montreal, Canada
July 12, 2012: Toronto, Canada
July 19, 2012: Vancouver, Canada.

South America (taught by Brad)
February 23, 2012: Rio de Janeiro, Brazil
March 1, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil
March 22, 2012: Buenos Aires, Argentina
...and a second set of dates (two different instructors I recommend attending both!)
June 21, 2012: Buenos, Aires, Argentina
June 25, 2012: Montevideo, Uruguay
June 26, 2012: Rio De Janeiro, Brazil
June 28, 2012: Sao Paulo, Brazil

Asia (taught by Alexander)
March 15, 2012: Hong Kong
March 22, 2012: Singapore, Singapore
March 29, 2012: Tokyo, Japan

Take 5 seconds and hit up the following site to get "in the loop" on this, the free events are absolutely THE SHIT...

www.rsdfreetour.com

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This may be the last time I run a tour this extensively as it’s *technically* not so good for RSD for me to be working so much IN the business when I should be working ON the business.

Regardless the improvements in teaching are obviously a big asset to the company, and I’ve been working out the systems for instructors do to future similar tours. They say that in business you’ve got to master the process before getting other people in on it, so I’ve been really getting this down.

Then obviously from a hobby standpoint, this has been the most fun I’ve ever had in my entire life. It’s challenged me and run me into the ground, but the glory of being out there killing this shit is something I’ll take with me until the day I die.

This sounds funny but I often find myself having so much fun I feel bad for everyone else. Like EVERYONE ELSE. On the entire planet.

My brain is so stimulated and I’m in a creative peak. The camaraderie on the programs is so intense, it’s like being in the movie “The Hangover” every single weekend – except everyone is getting laid left and right and stays sober so they can actually remember it. :)

I’m often out in some new city in some crazy club, just listening to the music, macking out with some girl, looking at the room around me…..and it’s like, AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHH LIFE IS FUCKING AWESOME.

I have the Miami programs to look forward to in the winter and Vegas to look forward to in the summer. Then I have a beautiful family waiting for me back home, and good variety of both “wins” and “losses” (both success as well as exasperating frustrations) to keep me challenged and moving forward.

It’s crazy to think about growing the business because I’m having so much fun at the current size and rate of growth. It used to double every year pre-recession and these days it grows around 50% ever year which is great. The promotion we had from David and The Game has slowed down but the positive word of mouth from students getting good results has increased. It’s pretty rare to see a business grow organically just by improving product quality and offering more value, without any advertising or marketing to push in new leads, but we’ve become an example that it can be done.

My main reason for moving forward is that I strongly believe it keeps you young.

I’ve been lucky to have some really talented friends over the years, and the ones I’ve watched grow have become happier and more successful, whereas the ones who have stopped have just sort of become......OLD.

Well obviously you become old regardless, my receding hairline and increasing crow’s feet around my eyes are evidence of that.  But mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually I feel younger than ever pretty much every year.

I feel like this is SUPPOSED to be how it all works. You’re not supposed to become some shit talking bitter old man. You’re supposed to kick fucking ass and have a more fun life every year. There’s really no excuse for it to be otherwise -- but sometimes people just get bogged down by life and it "doesn't work out".

Obviously doing the same thing over and over would be holding myself back, so I’m going to continue to grow and challenge myself.   Then we can have new sets of challenges and puzzles to figure out.  I think I owe it to my team and the people around me, and if you’re given gifts and don’t cultivate them to add value then you’re going to have them taken from you -- that's one hundred percent for sure.

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So today I'm going to crack out a new video on the topic of holding onto a girl when you're first seeing eachother.

This topic has been sort of beaten to death over the years, but this video has A UNIQUE TWIST. :)

What you're going to see in here isn't just talking about the blatantly obvious idea that you need to maintain your own sense of self as you begin dating a girl, but what happens when you're at an ADVANCED LEVEL IN THE GAME and then the scarcity based "one-itis" hits you by surprise.

This is a funny one because when you haven't experienced it in a while it can really floor you.  And the lessons you learn from it wind up taking your game to the next level.

Funny enough, if you follow what I'm saying in here, you can even wind up pulling the girl you've messed up with back in.  This has actually happened to me where I've messed up with a girl, followed the instructions I reveal in here, and then she wound up back in my life.

CLICK ON THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW AND GAIN THE WISDOM FROM THIS, THIS IS SOMETHING YOU'LL DEFINITELY NEED IN YOUR ARSENAL IF YOU'RE GOING HARD IN THE GAME, SO GET READY FOR IT NOW...



Interesting stuff huh?

What's funny about this video is that most people watching it will halfway take it on board, but then hit a point where it becomes relevent to them and it's like, "OHHHH YEAH!!!!  WHOOOOAAAA!!!"

I combined the vblog format with the seminar in the video because I had more to say on the topic and felt a bit inspired to expand on it.  Please let me know how you liked it -- I probably wouldn't be inclined to do it again, but you never know.

One other thing btw -- the video is for people in the EARLY PHASES OF DATING before they've established a relationship.

I think I messed up in my communicatinon a bit in the video -- it somewhat comes across like I'm saying "If you don't have tons of hoes at ALL TIMES you sink into SCARCITY and you are FUCKED!!" Or even that EVEN IN A RELATIONSHIP you need to have tons of girls for your main chick not to leave you.

That's not what I meant at all, but it sort of came across like that. I only noticed this after uploading the video.

What I meant is that sometimes you meet that rare girl who is so attractive to you that she "knocks you off your perch" and you become overly attached as a bit of a fluke -- and then the GIRL hasn't experienced the same emotional attachment as you have, so she loses interest in you when she sees it happening.

So now you've stopped seeing other girls because you like her so much, and she doesn't feel the same way.

The way out of this is to take massive action, even if you don't want to. Hit it back up! After all, she's probably doing the same thing.

We're only human. The reality is that sometimes you just LOSE your sense of abundance -- even if you usually maintain it. It's no different than how even if you do meditation and stay present most of the time, you can still sink back into a "painbody attack" occassionally.

And if you're really experienced in the game this can really floor you. So these are the instructions on how to get back on track that I personally found really useful. In my case I wound up attracting the girl back into my life -- a girl who has so many guys hitting her up that it was really difficult to regain her attention after I'd lost it, but when the tables shifted back to abundance on my end she wound up making more effort than I did to get back together, etc. :)

You obviously do NOT need to maintain "abundance with women" your entire life. That would be pretty weird unless you run a company on the topic like I do. There's obviously other aspects to life that keep you in that "higher state of mind" when you've entered into a relationship -- it's simply the next phase in your life.

The main point of this video is to hammer home the vital importance of staying in that same state of mind that you were in when you first met the girl, and not to use her as a crutch to sink back into old weaker behaviours.

Stay abundant! Stay happy in your own reality! Stay appreciative of your own life!

It's YOUR movie.  You want your movie to be so kick-ass that she's drawn into it.  She should be the one tripping out, never ever YOU.  Do this for her and she'll thank you by wanting to stick around.

Oh yeah and PS...: 

There was another video blog I made a while back on a similar topic a while back if you want to explore it further.

If you want to really cement this topic I'd highly recommend giving it a lil click. :)



Okay you're good to go! ;)

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On another note, there was an post that some buddies and folks on the forum liked so I'll repost it here in case you didn't see it.

It's on the topic of using "failure as an anti-example" in order to get ahead.  I really believe that modelling success is important because it provides a light at the end of the tunnel, but FAILURE is equally important because it gives you the bondaries to the narrow road you need to walk to keep moving forward.

This has been pretty key for me so check it out.  It was in response to Utopia5's comment that there had been some bullshit in the forums in terms of people's attitudes and whatnot.

HERE IT IS.

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What you're seeing with any bad posts in the forum (it's not all bad your RAS is overly focusing on it at this exact second, but there's a lot of bullshit for sure...) is basically ANTI EXAMPLES.

This is actually one of the things that got me to become good at this: reading the whiny, pathetic, self limiting posts on forums for so many years gave me a roadmap for what not to do, what mental pitfalls to avoid, what behaviours are a waste of time, etc.

The anger you feel when reading this is actually not at the individuals writing it. It's at that PART OF YOURSELF that is a whiney self limiting little pussy, which begins to resonate with these types of posts for a second and then you write something like this to DETOX IT OUT OF YOURSELF. It's like your brain's immune system.

I remember when I was having my first kid it was by accident and a buddy of mine who had a kid spent an hour on the phone with me giving me a sob story about how 1) he couldn't make progress in his career because he had to raise his kid, and 2) there was no way I'd be able to be successful anymore now that I had a kid coming.

It was around an hour conversation and had some of the most hardcore limiting beliefs and EXCUSES I'd ever heard. Problem was this guy was my friend so it got a little bit too far into my system and made me doubt myself. I was sickened by it, absolutely fucken sickened.

Then I spent the next week writing this article...

http://www.rsdnation.com/tyler/blog/hey-wise-old-man-everything%E2%80%99...

That's funny because an average article takes me only a few minutes or maybe an hour, but this one took a week because it was like my brain's immune system detoxing from all the excuse-making bullshit I let into my system. I had to really "work out" what I actually believed and the article wound up being the springboard I used to find the motivation to do the crazy touring and grow the business while simultaneously dealing with the new pressure of having a kid.

I think that ANTI examples are equally important as examples.

Study failure. The guys who make posts about excuses and limiting beliefs, or who want to focus on small issues of little relevence, are FAILURES. They sick a fat dick in life. That doesn't mean that they won't improve but that's where they're currently at.

It's very real to them what they're saying. They feel it deeply. On the good side they may want someone to disagree with them and put them in check, but often it's just to reinforce their need not to take significant action. So study them and tap that toxic feeling to focus yourself on what you don't want to become.

To study only success creates optimism, sure, but it also makes you think that you can be unfocused and "everything will be okay" as long as you stay positive. It won't be. Books like Jim Collins "Great By Choice" talks about this rational paranoia that you need to maintain -- if you don't focus you'll be another fat dick sucking failure like the millions who have already existed. God hates pussies, God hates unfocused people, and God has given you the tools to manage yourself and become what you want to become. It's up to you what that's going to be.

The world will keep spinning either way and it's not really a big deal. But if you're gonna be ALIVE why not try to make something out of it? You've gotta laugh at yourself and not take things too seriously because nothing is ultimately serious, but if there's a game in front of you that's worth playing, you may as well give it a real shot and see what you can make of it. :)

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Alright so I'm out of here.  Hope you enjoyed it!

The article was delayed this week due to uploading issues but I'll be back next Wednesday with some material from the San Francisco event I did with Jeff on the topics of 1) condom use (maybe the funniest video ever) and 2) building momentum (one of the most important videos ever).

It's going to be sweet!

From there I'll be returning home to prepare the launch of the Hot Seat 2.  The promotional materials should be pretty bomb.  And obviously the event itself is going to be OFF THE FUCKING HOOK.

Just absolutely loaded with value.  Wait until you see this.

Let me know about your experiences "crawling out of scarcity" and what you've found helpful from the video.  I want to know what's on your mind!!

Have fun I'll see you soon!

Tyler

PS:  Brad Branson has up a kickas new video on his blog which is at...

www.bradbranson.com

PPS:  The Hot Seat 2 launch is going to feature new content that I'm shooting right now.  I'm hoping so anyway, depending on how much time I have.

It's going to be a bit of a different style of launch than I've done in the past, and I think you'll enjoy it.  Stay tuned. :)