Hey there it's Owen AKA TYLER of REAL SOCiAL DYNAMICS.

MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM ME AND ALL OF RSD!! :)

My family is in bed sleeping, while I sit out here just me and Santa Claus deep in beard-to-beard conversation.  The Beard is still going strong as you can see, although by last week it had become so epic I was becoming MORE BEARD THAN MAN -- then trimmed it down to more of a "Player Beard" as you see here.

This hasn't stopped the endless flow of women oowww'ing and awww'ing however.  In the coming weeks leading up to the January 11 2011 Hot Seat 2 official launch you'll be seeing little bursts of infield footage with me pimping with The Beard mixed in with the vblogs and promotional materials.

And you will realize that yes:  YOU CAN DO IT TOO.  That's right, even YOU can pimp with a ridiculous beard.

(Get excited for this -- the first one is already uploaded to Youtube and waiting for me to make it public -- the Hot Seat 2 promos are obviously advertisements but gonna be VERY COOL nonetheless...)

Anyway I thought I'd crack out the closest thing to a Christmas present as I could give to you, so I'll be releasing 3 new videos today.

All 3 are absolutely solid, but ONE of them is the best present I could ever give to you -- because it's going to reveal the secret I've used to KILL IT for many years and never been able to properly explain.

We'll jump into them below in a sec -- first a few dates to put you in the loop on the upcoming Free Tour / Hot Seat 2 / Bootcamp schedule.

January 19, 2012: Los Angeles, CA
February 2, 2012: Chicago, IL
February 9, 2012: New York, NY
February 23, 2012: Miami, FL
March 15, 2012: San Francisco, CA (Note that SF has been bumped to this new date...)

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

I'd recommend you take a program with me while I'm in full gear like I've been.  Free Tours have been ridiculously fun and educational, Hot Seats have been ripping people's eyes open about what's possible and how success gets done, and Bootcamps have been more and more the landmark program they've always been.

THESE ARE DESIGNED FOR OVER A DECADE TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER:  IF THIS AREA INTERESTS YOU THEN MAKE YOUR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION TO GET ON THE DAMNED TRAIN.

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One last thing as well, as not many people know about this...

Last year I decided to create a "5 Day Alumni Only Bootcamp" during the Miami Model Season.  I wasn't sure if it would be a good idea but it turned out to be the best program I've ever done -- as well as being a "next level" for both Jeff and I in terms of game.

We've decided to do this elite program at least once more, so we've opened up spaces just today.  This one filled very fast last year so if you're interested check out this video and then the very cool RSD Miami page.


www.modelseasonbootcamp.com

You can also email stuart@realsocialdynamics.com with the subject "Miami Bootcamp" if you want to ask more questions about this, such as logistics, what to expect, etc.

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So we've got a lot of material to cover today.  Let's crack into it!!

As I've talked about in previous blogs I've been working a lot on my speaking and communication over the past 2 years of touring -- obviously with the goal of preparing for the future with the self help company I've been building up in my head since my early twenties.

I've been working on mastering the delivery of "off the cuff" content -- to allow myself to create content on the spot with no preparation, deliver it clearly and provide lots of examples, while lacing in comedy, entertaining stories and thought experiments to keep other guys my age entertained.

(Honestly I wouldn't watch something unless it's entertaining as hell, so I try to keep both the content good and the entertainment value really high.  Basically I aim to create the videos I'd personally want to watch.)

I also challenged myself to hit a nice balance between being authoritative (which is pretty authentic -- I know my shit...) as well as humble and not "talking down" to people.  My goal is to just share what I know and you can take it or leave it -- to be at ease but with a focused intensity.  It's all a learning curve and I've found a lot of highs and lows as I progressively improve -- just like how I continue to improve in the game.

Anyway the recent series of events I did during the USA SF/LA/CHI/NY tour with Jeff were IMO the best ever.  I just slid into a nice groove and each program was more and more awesome.

And the first videos from those series of events are here today. :)  So without further rambling here, we'll start with a pretty off the wall video that covers the debate between "Strapping up" and "Hitting it RAW". :)

The backwoods hick guys who think condoms are ridiculous made this one HILARIOUS.  I always love capturing these funny moments of interaction with an interesting audience.    Love these guys -- although hopefully their dicks haven't rotted off since the event. ;)

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO DISCOVER FUNNY YET FRIGHTENING PERSONAL EXPERIENCES I'VE HAD THAT CHANGED MY PERSPECTIVE ON THIS ISSUE FOREVER (HOPEFULLY YOU'LL VAGUELY REMEMBER THIS SHIT THE NEXT TIME YOU'VE GOT A GIRL IN BED)...


I joked around a lot here because I don't think anyone wants a lecture, but the issue is serious as fucking hell.

All the sex you've ever had will feel like a waste of your time if you contract a serious disease from this shit, and you've got to remember that basically NOBODY uses the damned condoms.

Everyone thinks that THEY are BEATING THE SYSTEM.  They think EVERYONE ELSE is strapping up so they can "get away with it".  Well guess what dumbass?  Everyone has the same mentality so you're potentially dipping your dick into a warm wet hole of infectious nasty shit if it's a girl who you don't know.

Yeah it feels good temporarily as your DNA rewards you for the increased chance of GETTING HER PREGNANT.  But then over the next few days as it begins to burn, or swell up, or your immune system gets comprimised because you've got AIDS, the vague distant memory of getting laid becomes blurred as the new reality of your situation comes to the forefront of your day to day life.

I wouldn't let my kids learn the game unless I believed they'd strap up.  If you're going to learn this shit and fail to do so, you're better off being a chode.  Save hitting it raw as a personal reward for seeing the same girl more than a few times and getting to know her.

And if you're going to rail new women on the regular, get tested at least once a year.  Nobody gets tested although everyone claims it.  Funny enough though most STD's can be easily fixed if you learn about them early -- but otherwise something as simple as Chlamydia can asymptomatically rot out your nuts and make it so you're not capable of fathering kids.

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Well wasn't that a nice Christmas warning.  Merry Christmas you're infected! :)

LOL uhhh yeah, so next up we're gonna crack into what is by far the most results-producing set of ideas I've ever released.

But here's the deal...

The secrets in this video took me years of introspection and personal experience to figure out.  They are rock solid and if you follow them religiously for a month or two your life will change in ways you cannot remotely grasp at this point in time in front of your computer.

You'll have heard me allude to everything in here before, but if you follow it SPECIFICALLY the small subtleties will make a world of difference.

To put it in perspective, using what you'll learn in this video allows me to get laid like fucking crazy -- IF I FOLLOW MY OWN RULES.  It's to the point that I even get laid on nights I "shouldn't" be getting laid -- like nights I'm too tired to have sex or in a bad mood, and I go out and apply this and wind up taking the hottest girl home and fucking the shit out of her.

(Then the next day I'm even MORE tired and destroyed, but let's not focus on that...)

I realize that you read a lot of marketing mumbo jumbo, "This is the super secret blah blah..." and that that's what I'm sounding like here.  I want to emphasize that SOMETIMES THE MUMBO JUMBO IS TRUE.

The reason I'm hyping this up so much is because I WANT YOU TO FOLLOW WHAT YOU LEARN HERE.

Here's another thing though.  What you're going to learn here is what I believe will be my lasting contribution to pickup after I'm done with it.  There's an entire philosophy behind this, which I cover extensively in the Hot Seat 2 and show video examples to back it up and make it super clear.

This video I actually did not intend to release as it only GLOSSES over the philosophy and I want to explain it with a crazy intense clarity later, like with Powerpoint and the whole deal.  It deserves that kind of attention.

But as I was cutting out the "condoms" video and saw that this, I realized it was the first time I'd alluded to the philosophy in a Free Tour event.  Then I thought "Fuck it, I'm going to probably cover this so extensively in the future that it wouldn't be a bad idea to put it out NOW."

Anyway check out the video right now and then I'll explain what I want you to really look at below.

Again this is sort of an "introduction" to these ideas that have gotten me laid more than anything else I've ever stumbled upon.  I've covered this in the past but the subtleties in the explaination are what makes it really work.

Merry Christmas!!  CLICK THIS NOW AND WATCH IT SEVERAL TIMES THIS MONTH UNTIL YOU HAVE IT DOWN!!


Okay so as you can see this video covers the idea of "Social Momentum".  However it's covering it from a FINED TUNED PERSPECTIVE.

Let me give you a few examples of how my brain works here...

I arrive in a new city a day before bootcamp and decide to go out.  My wingman has already arrived and he's tired as hell and having a shitty night.  He says "Fuck it man it's closing in an hour, we're both tired..."

I say to him "No follow the method exactly and we will get laid.."

I walk into the bar and TIREDLY say "AAAAYYYYEEEE!!!" and fuel my brain with "proof NOT promises..." that nothing will happen to me.

I feel my "RAS" is finding EVERY REASON NOT TO APPROACH and I KNOW THIS IS A FICTION CREATED BY MY BRAIN.

MY ONLY GOAL IS TO SHIFT MY "RAS" TO LOOK FOR THE UPSIDE AND NOT THE DOWNSIDE, AND I KNOW THAT IF I PROVIDE MY BRAIN WITH ENOUGH "PROOF" THAT NOTHING BAD WILL HAPPEN THAT IT WILL REALIZE IT'S A MINIMAL TIME INVESTMENT TO LET ME APPROACH.

As I prove to my brain that nothing in the environment will hurt me, both through yelling and approaching the "mid range" girls, I feel "RAS" looking around to see if any guys are getting mad.  After all, my brain thinks I'm in a new 150 person tribe and doesn't know who has the high status.

Once my brain thinks that I HAVE THE HIGH STATUS I suddenly burst into STATE.  Then my "RAS" suddenly stops trying to prevent me from approaching, and makes me want to do it.

I make out with a few 6's and 7's which gets me aroused, and my brain sees that nobody is getting angry.  Yet my brain isn't sure yet if anyone will be confrontational if I approach the top girls in the environment -- the 9's and 10's.

Funny enough I'm probably ALREADY DATING GIRLS WHO ARE HOTTER THAN THE HOTTEST IN THE VENUE.

As a general rule I'm dating hot women, and because the girls I "keep around" are usually the best I get over a year period or so, they're really hot.  Yet funny enough my brain is intimidated by lesser women for the simple reason that my brain recognizes that IN THIS PARTICULAR ENVIRONMENT THEY ARE THE TOP GIRLS and therefore the guys may get mad.

This isn't an entitlement issue of what I deserve, because I already have hotter.  Rather this is my brain's VERY SANE WAY OF PROTECTING ME FROM BEING ATTACKED IN A FOREIGN ENVIRONMENT.

If this were MY environment and MY social circle I wouldn't have to deal with this.  But my very sane brain gives me approach anxiety to provide IMPULSE CONTROL from doing something stupid.  My brain doesn't WANT me to get laid until I give it PROOF NOT PROMISES that nothing bad will happen.

So I start hitting up the hotties and doing short little approaches.  Again my "RAS" starts looking around to see if anyone is mad (this is very subtle -- you've gotta be ultra self aware to notice it).  Nothing bad happens, and suddenly all my RAS can see is the DIMES of the club.

I hit up one of the top girls, she shit tests me and I plow through it with charisma and hilarity, because my brain now has the proof that it's okay to do so.

We make out, I take her home, have sex with her, take her for dinner at an afterhours restaurant to further joke around and cement the day2.  Then we fuck the rest of the weekend during the off time between the program while I"m still in town, and for the rest of the year she hits me up on text to say how amazing it was and how much she thinks every other guy she's met since me SUCKS.

(Obviously....who the hell works at this shit so much??  Zero competition.)

This shit has allowed me to go on runs when my body chemistry would actually prefer I chill out for a bit.  In other words, I actually believe there's just times that your body wants you to CHILL for a minute and not go out and bang new girls.  But you can literally DEFY this tendency by FORCING It.

Not sure how healthy this is, and yet it fucking works.

What's interesting here is that all this relies on sticking to the principles.  If you don't stick to them, it doesn't work.  You've got to establish your own rhythm and build upon it quickly.  It is the bomb.

Think of it like how the best elite NBA players not only put up 30 points on the scoreboard, but also establish a rhythm on the basketball court where EVERYONE IS REACTING AROUND THEM.  They are dictating the RHYTYM of the game.

The same goes for pickup.  You've gotta force yourself to hit a rhythm and slide into being at the "Cause and not the effect".  This shit allows this to happen.

Anyway think of this as a preview.  It's not adaquately explained as of yet so if anything about it seems a lil "off" to you or incorrect, you'll likely have a different opinion later.  It's an entire philosophy about how momentum bleeds not only through a night, but a weekend, and a lifetime.  The philosophy even goes into every day life -- health, finances, and the whole deal.

More to come on this. :)  Stay tuned.  And if you want to see the version that has all the infield videos showing how I do this and the results I get with it, check out a Hot Seat 2 event.  You can sign up now at...

www.rsdhotseat.com

(It's still listed as the Hot Seat 1 page, but over the next few weeks it'll be upgraded to Hot Seat 2 with the official launch.  If you sign up early you can still get the bonuses that will come out later, so you're good to go.)

THE MAIN KEY TO SUMMARIZE THOUGH:

When I get out there, whether it's for bootcamp students or reporters who whoever, my main thought is...

"My RAS is blocking me.  I need to keep fuelling my brain with proof and not promises so that my RAS shifts..."

Then I just keep slamming it until my RAS shifts.  No matter how hard it is to believe that my RAS will shift I know that it will.

I have a TOTAL TRUST that once my RAS shifts that my natural charisma will unlock.  I have the understanding that the ability to attract women is buried within us all naturally, and that I simply have to "unlock" it.

Then I do so.

Think of it like a horse and chariot rider.  You can't just tell the horse to go where you want it to go.  But you can do something that TRIGGERS it do move where you want.

Well in the same way you can't just say to your brain "BE SELF AMUSED AND CONFIDENT".  But you DO have the limited ability to put STIMULUS IN FRONT OF YOUR BRAIN that tells it that it should unlock.

It's no different than how you can't say to your dick "Ejaculate right now!!" (Well if you can, that's pretty cool...).  But you can give it the stimulus to do so, and trust that it soon will.

Then you monitor this as you move from environment to environment, until your brain neurochemistry crosses a point to where the emotional state becomes SELF PERPETUATING and deeper and deeper.

(My friend Mellissa who studied brain neurology actually gave me a term that explains this, after hearing me talk about it.  Mel if your'e reading this please post a link to Wikipedia or something, thanks!)

EDIT:  She just texted me that it's called "self propagation".  If anyone here has a link to an relevant article please post it below.

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Okay so that's a lot of video but I thought that with Christmas being here I'd throw in one more.

I was totally trashed (underslept) in NYC but thought it would be cool to record at the top of Rockerfeller centre before I left town.  So Julien and I trekked up there and shot a quick video with like 50 people staring at me while I did it.

What a view!!!!  DAMN!!

It took a lot of concentration and felt a lil weird.  And then guess what?  We found out the camera was out of focus and had to reshoot!  With my tiredness in effect is was like "OOOOH SHIT NOOOOOO!!"

Then I realized that it's always good to talk about a topic that relates to whatever state you're in, and I'd been planning for a while to do a talk on overcoming negative emotions, so I did it up here.

Funny enough though, I think the height of the building caused audio signal interference between the microphone and the camera, so the audio is a little spotty.  Sorry!  I decided that I loved the view and that it would offer value overall, so rather than reshooting it in a different location I figured we'd release it.

This is a very important video to me on a personal video, as this glosses over a decade long personal journey that it took me to crawl out of the hell of addiction to bullshit negative thoughts and emotions.

Check it out now....

(Funny enough I thought that that beard was CRAZY at the time.  But I look at it now compared to the current beard and it just looks like a bit of stubble.  Isn't it funny how our minds make our self image into a big deal?)

btw please let me know if you liked the video or not with the fucked up sound.  I wasn't sure if I should put it out.  Would it have been overly uptight to scrap it once I saw the sound wasn't perfect, or do you think it's better to focus on the highest standards like I normally do?

Like I said I released it rather than re-recording because I personally really enjoy that view and wanted to share it, but maybe you don't really care. :)  I also threw in that lil bonus stuff with me and Julien at the end because it basically just shows what was explained -- ie: socializing, having friends to joke around with, having interests that keep you passionate, etc.  Then we randomly bumped into the statue that's on the cover of "Atlas Shrugged" (a common favourite of people who are into RSD) so that was really sick, too.

Also -- do you remember how in that previous Chicago video in my friend's apartment I said "This video isn't for you if you're weird, but we could make another video for you if that's the case..."

Well THIS is the type of video I was talking about.  I think that in the future I want to make a series of videos for guys who are "hard cases" and totally fucked up.  This one was a starting point, and yet I think EVERYONE could benefit from doing what I talked about here.

Also note that I think pharmaceuticals are a miracle of science for people who have mental health diseases that cannot be treated otherwise. But for the overwhelming majority of people these methods could have been implemented beforehand

There's a lot that's within your control that doctors will usually not recommend -- it's an absurdity of modern society that people don't try these things before using what should be a last resort.  Check out "The Ultramind Solution" by Mark Hyman if this interests you.

I can definitely attest that by following the ideas I spoke about, I was able to shift my "happiness set point" from around a 2 out of 10 to around an 8.  In the future maybe it will be a 10, but then again I sometimes find people who are too happy a lil weird. ;)

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Okay so I'm out of here!!  Santa and I will be resuming our lil chat and then I'll be off to bed.

Hope your Christmas is kicking ass, and if not, then I hope this lightened it up a bit from me to you.

The coming weeks have some SERIOUSLY LEGIT content coming up on here as well, so I hope you're looking forward to it.

I'll also be back with the Hot Seat 2 promotional materials in the week between January 4 and the January 11th release.  This material will be really engaging and not just commercials -- you'll love it as it will feature short tiny bursts of infield footage that in and of themselves will teach you a lot, and I think entice you to realize the immense value of the Hot Seat 2 event and prompt you to attend.

Absolutely let me know what you took from the videos!!  I know it's 3 videos which is a lot to get any conversation going in the comments, but I'll check back and respond.

Any experiences with the "condoms VS bareback" debate?  Be honest.  It's all good, it's an anonymous forum anyway right? :)  Let me know.

Also have you tried out the momentum building stuff that I explained.  There were subtleties here that I've never been able to properly get into, and it's these exact subleties that have allowed me to get the craziest results of my life.  I feel good to have gotten this out and will properly expand on it later (or see the infield version at Hot Seat 2) but FOR NOW what have you learned?

And any thoughts about combating depression and addiction to mental bullshit by the 5 ways I covered in the videos?  How was your experience of watching it with the sketchy audio?  And do you have any experiences with improving your emotional health in your own life?

Thanks for reading and watching.  Have fun!!

Tyler

PS:  

Get on this!  Now is the time!

January 19, 2012: Los Angeles, CA
February 2, 2012: Chicago, IL
February 9, 2012: New York, NY
February 23, 2012: Miami, FL
March 15, 2012: San Francisco, CA (Note that SF has been bumped to this new date...)

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

PPS:

Hot Seat 2 will begin promotions January 4th and include some funny bursts of infield footage as previously promised, and will officially launch to the world on January 11!!

The Hot Seat 2 is really cutting edge and this is definitely something you'll want to attend.  Stay tuned.