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Jeff is finally hitting his last United States dates for Jeffy Free Tour and Jeffy Hot Seat -- Chicago and New York.

Big announcement along with that, in case you haven't heard. :)  Not only will I be teaching the Bootcamps with Jeff in these cities, but I will be giving a FREE FULL DAY SEMINAR ON SUNDAY entitled "Foundations: Reloaded" for anyone who attends the Jeffy Hot Seat.

So if you live in the USA (or anywhere in the world for that matter) and want to get a full two days of seminar for the price of one, hit up either of these events.

October 13 - 16, 2011: Chicago
October 20 - 23, 2011: New York

www.jeffyfreetour.com / www.jeffyhotseat.com

This is the first time I've done a full day of seminar since recording Blueprint Decoded in 2007. It's going to be a "redo" of Foundations but updated to the most current and cutting edge concepts -- so if you want to learn to get good at pickup FAST this is the absolute most efficient weekend to do it.

Likewise I really recommend hitting up the "Jeffy/Tyler" Bootcamp as we've had a history of running absolutely top notch programs together and these will take it to the next level. I'm in a zone with running Bootcamps right now where I can honestly say they have consistently been BEYOND EPIC every weekend -- and with Jeff and I teaming up to run them it will be an experience that you would carry with you for the rest of your life.

www.rsdbootcamp.com

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So I'm back in Los Angeles and just finished up a kickass Bootcamp with Jeff and Julien.

The Jeffy Free Tour was absolutely awesome, as we both tag teamed the event, and then Julien and I did the Sunday "Foundations: Reloaded" seminar as the bonus for the Jeffy Hot Seat students this afternoon.

This was the second Sunday event, the first one being last Sunday in San Francisco, and the feedback from students has been outstanding.  The San Francisco Bootcamp was really insane as well -- the "momentum building" demonstration I did on the Thursday was definitely the most intense I've ever done. ;)

In the meantime I'm going to quickly introduce a new FIFTY MINUTE VIDEO today that I know will rock your world.  I shot it a few months ago in Seattle and haven't put it out as I'm behind in my stack of Free Tour videos.

If you've gotten good value and entertainment from the previous Free Tour vids, this one will probably be your favourite I've put out so far.  The first half is just off the wall and funny as hell and then the second half reveals the most powerful new concepts on "Charisma VS Congruence" I've ever stumbled upon.

CLICK HERE TO HAVE THESE NEW IDEAS REVEALED (also please re-click for 2 seconds if you've seen it already in the forums as it bumps the Youtube views on the good vid!).



So yeah the main idea here...:  emotions come in waves, be "congruent" to who you are in the moment, say "yes" to wherever you're at without resisting it.

Of course "you" being congruent to a wave of awesomeness is usually going to be more "shiny" to the girls in a high stimulus club than "you" being congruent to being chill, in a nervous mood, or whatever else.

However that's REALITY. You're not always going to "riding on the wave of awesomeness" right? :)  And if you remember the results you got the last time you were and try to replicate it, you come across try-hard and wind up creating barriers between yourself and the girl.

Be congruent to wherever you're at and allow the wave of awesomeness to come when/if it comes. Otherwise assume you can still do decent just by being congruent to even a shitty mood, if need be. You can flash fry a steak or cook it gradually -- ie: hook up in five minutes or hook up in a few hours -- and it's all good, as long as you eventually get to enjoy a nice steak. :)

It's NOT about walking up to the girl and saying "I'm out of state" as a TECHNIQUE. That would be utterly pointless -- does absolutely nothing. Rather it's just saying whatever is in your head -- literally whatever it is, just express it so that your thoughts, words, and actions are aligned.

The reason it can still create attraction is that the girls are looking for fluctuations (or "tells" of fakeness) in your eyes, and if you just go up fully congruent to WHATEVER your eyes will still hold steady -- and you can get up in her grill and relate as a man to a woman because she doesn't get the vibe you're doing someting weird -- as opposed to if you escalate while pretending to be confident. Then as you start making out with her you usually go into state anyway so all good -- but again, even if not, ALL GOOD. :)

(Beyond that simply being normal, even while uncomfortable, will at very least mean people will be friendly to you which allows you to get into conversations and gradually get out of your head. So it can be both a winning strategy on the set itself, or at very least something that moves you towards getting out of your head over the course of the night.)

The long term benefit to this is that it gets you in the GENERAL HABIT of not trying to change yourself to please people and get their approval.  It's sort of a paradox because on one level you want to deliberately build momentum and make it likely that you'll get in state, but at the same time you do it from a standpoint of accepting whatever state you happen to be in.

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btw you probably noticed the top notch content is in the latter half -- but I thought I'd test out throwing in some of the "looser" content towards the front half of the video just for fun.  The comments from people who watched it in the forum earlier this week seemed pretty positive so I may do it again in a few future videos as well.

Free Tour is great because it allows me to tell stories that people find entertaining and of moderate educational value without turning them away from the paid product -- which allows me to release brand new video content every single week as opposed to something like "Blueprint" that took me 4 years.

The general way I go about it is I have a "skeleton" for the most important key concepts I teach at Free Tour, which makes up about a third of the event. So everyone leaves with a super good concept of game from the main content.   But then I create brand new content off the top of my head for the other two thirds and then I use this for the free tour videos (because if I released the skeleton of main content people would see it all within a week or two and then I'd have nothing else to release on the front page).

It's super challenging to create seminar bits in your head in "real time" and then nail them out. I chose to go this route because it was the polar opposite of spending a lot of time on a seminar like I did in the past, just cranked it out. It's a new skill for me and it's been difficult to learn -- like that "charisma VS congruence" but right off the dome was fucken crazy to just nail that out.

I actually modelled it after, believe it or not, LIL WAYNE. I figured that he was successful simply by cranking out song after song and SOME of them caught on. People eventually just get used to hearing the guy and if something sucks they know that he'll put out something decent at some point soon regardless. So I figured I'd keep nailing out video after video and see which ones "caught on" -- which was funny because many of the more popular ones weren't the ones I expected, meanwhile the ones I thought were the best sometimes didn't make much impact.

(Like check this one out -- the style of delivery is totally different, but people liked it as well.  I keep switching it up to keep people guessing but also to work on expanding my "range" in terms of what I can do as a speaker...)



My goal is to keep working on this in my early thirties so I can learn more about speaking and work on my craft, and then later on people can just see the progression when I go really big in the 13 billion a year self development industry.  My confidence is high because the same way I progressed in game can be done with delivering seminars.

(It's funny cause I used to be embarassed of some of my older DYD stuff but yet because people could see the progression people would always compliment me on how it was "good for the time..." and yet amazing that the shit has improved. So as a result of this I have no fear of putting out basically ANYTHING and just leaving it there so people can see the progression when I improve over time.)

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Anyway been a fucken crazy week, like just slamming out work and getting shit done to prepare to go back on the road.

People have been stopping me on the street and asking about my plan to go out every night until I'm 35.  Been going out every night for the past 2 months and it's been insane.  Here's a few updates on that...

First up I didn't really explain the reason why I got this idea in my head, but it was basically that I realized a few months ago that if you have a talent at something it's worthwhile to develop it.

I think people get focused on "rounding themselves out..." but you can't really reach an elite level at anything by doing so.  I realized that when I go out with other entrepreneur's the first thing they want to see is that "elite level game" shit they've read about, and when I've blown them away it's opened up a lot of doors for me.

So many of the opportunities I've gotten to build RSD have simply come from big shots coming to meet me and having their expectations surpassed.  Then I've also been getting amazing word of mouth on my live programs because the shit I'm doing in the field has been really great and it winds up translating onto students when they see what's possible.

Beyond all that I find that my public speaking gets really nuts when I'm out there cracking the guns all the time.  Yeah sure having great content and doing a lot of events is important as well, but when I'm out there living this shit my seminars are at their best.

So you can see here that this is simply GOOD BUSINESS as opposed to being something the average person would necessarily want to do.  I'm in a unique position here -- that's a big reason I'm doing this -- I'm not necessarily suggesting that YOU do the same AT ALL, that's a personal decision.

At the same time it's actually probably "better business" for me to spend all my day doing press, promotion, affiliate marketing, and other shit I know how to do for the company.  But life is short.  So fuck it. :)

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And of course the reason I go hard at the RSD thing by focusing on the word of mouth that comes from teaching great game as opposed to the more "marketing focused" stuff is that I have a massive passion for it.

I couldn't have cracked my previous plateau unless I'd gone out for a few months straight like I did.  And DAMN did I crack it.  And crack it and crack it and crack it.  Like nearly every damn night I went out.

(It's gotten a lil much to be honest, like it's been a lil overboard over here.  Be careful what you wish for...)

It's crazy because I feel the pressure of the growing business and the conflicting goals that come along with this.

Why am in RSD?  Because I love to game and teach game.  I love to be in the flow.  Period.

What does RSD's growth mean?  It means I get people coming up to me more often when I'm out wanting to take pictures (at best) or follow me around and stare at what I'm doing (in a way that weirds me out).  It takes away from my pimping and slows me down.  It's a distraction from what I love.

Guys coming up to say hi when they know and like my shit is cool.  But when random guys just gawk and aren't there to meet girls themselves, then leave the club as soon as I'm done, the shit is obviously strange.  Yet how can I complain when I CHOOSE TO BRING THIS ON MYSELF?

I love my life right now.  If I could keep it exactly how it is I'd be the most happy.  I have absolutely everything I want.

Yet I feel an obligation to God to push myself to do what I'm capable of.  I've had a blessed life and had so much given to me, so much luck, so many bizarre circumstances spinning in my favour, all I've had to do is maintain faith in God that if I pushed myself and didn't complain that everything would turn out amazing -- and it has.

(And before you ask -- what YOU call "God" and what I call "God" may be different -- and not based on what some person or institution or book tells me, but what ANYONE should be able to intuitively come to understand through their own experience of life.  Don't ask further: no interest in getting into it here, FIGURE IT OUT.)

I feel that God has given me the gifts I've been given because I'll do good things with it, and as funny as it sounds, if I were to stop on the journey it would be like Odysseus stopping on the island of the loteus eaters in "The Odyssey".  I have to keep going, even if it means sacrificing what I love.  I have to trust God and have faith that I'll find new things that I love and new paradigms where I won't have to think about the past.

This total self trust has been in my core for as long as I can remember, and I think most negativity that people have is simply them not having faith in themselves to come out okay.  Obviously this faith has to be backed up with massive action and continual growth in focused discipline as well -- like you've gotta kill at this shit.

I'm not sure what the future holds but my only true fear aside from the safety of my kids is not seeing the potential I feel inside of me manifest itself into the world.  This is all I think about and dream about, and really the only true joy I have yet to experience before I die (cause damn I had a lot of tillation so far and I'm numb to it...killing at this shit is truly what I love).

What's crazy is that what I imagine isn't the finished product but the PROCESS of creating it.  I imagine myself at the highest level of my creativity -- with years of work all streamlining into one moment being at my peak.  I don't give a fuck about "who is the best" because that's a circle jerk and a matter of opinion.  Maybe my shit even sucks -- who cares?  It's about the enjoyment I personally derive from it and the value of whoever is able to see it.

Like people talk about "Oh Blueprint was cool..." and I don't remember that shit.  "Hot Seat was cool..." and to me that shit is just in the past.  I want to create the next BP.  The next Hot Seat.  I don't give a fuck about the finished product that's like some aftermath of a bomb that went off, I want to be in the middle of the next explosion not staring at some dead unanimated creator in the ground.

(Like look at Kobe in this video....Then look at the END where he's won the Championship.  The music is all quiet and he's holding the trophy.  Okay whatever, he's got a trophy, that was fun.  But compare it to the first few minutes of the video when he's out killing it.  The championship is just the target to give you the direction, but killing this shit is where the real fun is at...)



(I watch this video like five times a day btw.  I use it to tune my RAS to GO FOR IT when I'm out.  Make shit happen -- no excuses.)

The projects I've done so far are like the late twenty year old versions of the drawings my kid does with crayons.  I want to keep pushing the envelope for the next thirty or fifty years and just kill at this shit.  That's why I do all the anti-aging stuff, the meditation, the no alcohol -- I have dreams that will take me decades to accomplish.  And yet I have no rush to get there, I'm loving every minute of the journey.  I'm not defeating myself by saying "If I ever did XYZ it would be sooo coool..." but just cranking out whatever I'm capable of NOW and slowly but surely improving it by 0.01%.

For my last few years in the game I want to continue to the Hot Seat and do one last "foundational" program as well as one last "advanced" one -- for future generations of younger guys who like my shit.  I also want to run the most kick ass live programs ever done -- even if only a few people experience them and probably forget them, I feel like I'm writing a little known peice of history that's private to just me and my friends every weekend we do this crazy shit.

When the universe ends it won't matter anyway, but it was meaningful to the people involved. :)

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Anyway I've been out nearly every night and am now bumping into road blocks.

Like all this shit has challenges obviously, right?  The past few months have been awesome but I'm finally hitting them now.

Recently Jim Collins put out a new book called "Great By Choice" (http://www.amazon.com/Great-Choice-Uncertainty-Luck--Why-Despite/dp/0062120999/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1318251118&sr=8-1)

In it he wrote that the companies that thrive do what he calls the "20 mile march" where basically they hit a pace that's sustainable, as opposed to overdoing it when they see easy opportunities and slacking when things get hard.

I think I've fallen a bit prey to that recently as I agreed to travel with Jeff for the four consecutive BC's and Sunday "Foundations: Reloaded" seminars, and then followed up by scheduling 3 corporate events the same three weeks.

It's funny because I had the Austin and Atlanta events back to back, and then shot into these 4 weeks of events with Jeff back to back.  Whereas usually I do 2 events per month so my voice and energy can recover.

This was fine because I wanted to accompany Jeff since his tour is loooong and gruelling as well, and also because I've wanted to work on this new Foundational program, but then I got a kickass invite from a big blue chip corporation to do 3 gigs with them that I was excited about out of the blue.

So I took not only the 6 weeks in a row of events but then now the 3 corporate events, and am preparing to travel to D.C. tommorow, then Chicago, Boston, and New York over the next two weeks.  Funny enough my energy level is totally good to go but my voice is utterly shot and will only get worse over the next two weeks -- may have to cancel or have Brad replace me at the corporate events I was all psyched about.

(This is a constant plague for public speakers...I take vocal training as well as do all sorts of exercises and drink teas to keep my voice healthy because I'll require it for many years -- but this time I've pushed it too far.)

Funny enough though I always maintain faith in that higher purpose, and in my game and speaking I believe I can benefit from being quieter and relying less on vocal power to project my energy.  I've been thinking lately in game that I can use my voice less -- and if you look at my videos above you can see in the second one I have decent presence just by being chilled out.

In the coming weeks -- with my voice absolutely hacked and destroyed from months of going out and teaching -- I'll be working on that.  Then I'll take time off in November.

(Incidentally I'm also planning to be at the Eckhart Tolle event in Maui in November, so if you're going maybe you'll see me there.  www.eckharttolletv.com)

So yeah it's 6AM and I leave for Washington D.C. in a few hours for my first corporate event, and if you're in Chicago or New York I'll see you there!

Let me know your thoughts on the video -- CHARISMA VERSUS CONGRUENCE -- and any ideas you have about this article as well.  How have you pushed yourself to reach your potential in your own life?  What have your roadblocks been?  What are your major skills that you could take to an elite level if you were willing to make the sacrifice?  Let me know!!

Tyler

PS:


I be teaching the Bootcamps with Jeff in Chicago and New York -- as well as giving a FREE FULL DAY SEMINAR ON SUNDAY entitled "Foundations: Reloaded" for anyone who attends the Jeffy Hot Seat.

October 13 - 16, 2011: Chicago
October 20 - 23, 2011: New York

www.jeffyfreetour.com / www.jeffyhotseat.com

Likewise I really recommend hitting up the "Jeffy/Tyler" Bootcamp as we've had a history of running absolutely top notch programs together and these will take it to the next level. I'm in a zone with running Bootcamps right now where I can honestly say they have consistently been BEYOND EPIC every weekend -- and with Jeff and I teaming up to run them it will be an experience that you would carry with you for the rest of your life.

www.rsdbootcamp.com

PPS:


Brad Branson also has a new article out today!  Definitely check it out.

www.bradbranson.com
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#1

SiLvEr

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Your best video so far. Really hit home for me. Thanks man.
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SiLvEr

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Btw is the new Foundations talk gonna be recorded?
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 inspirational
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Tyler your more than welcome to join jeff in Perth!! Australian girls are cute and I think your sexy as fuck!
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I suffer from Modern-Day Low Attention Span Disorder Due to Internet as I'm sure many of us do.

But when Tyler posts a 50-minute video, I'll stop what I'm doing and watch the whole thing. No foolin'.
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 LMAO awesome video man.The funniest you have ever put out. I love that story with the russians, but you gotta be more carefull, that stupid shit could have meant the end of your journy, so watch out for those tipes of girls and don't get in places you don't seem to trust. Be safe.
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Another sentence: "After that I went out and hit on 40 girls like a motherfucker" would just be perfecto.
duckmack wrote:
did 40 minutes meditation and then watched kobe 4 times, just to combine kobe video with 'freedom of outcome' as in a video there's insane amount of intent so risk of a burn out, yet with massive freedom of oucome- lethal!
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Thats got to be the best distinction i've heard, thinking about it now from past experiences when i've done well was when i was being congruent, and when i've done not so well was when i was 'pretending'.....also that realisation puts less pressure on yourself which allows you to just 'be' which in turn means the 'true self' can 100% come through. Awesome vid, i think your best one yet ;)
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I weirded out these two ASU football player girlfriends THREE times. and I saw them again...I was thinking about the tall asian girl story and I had just watched Thor, so I imagined a combo of him and someone else just telling me "AGAIN!"....shit

"Hey guys I just wanted to apologize for being weird earlier, like, I KNOW I was weird. I'm sorry"

(They open up like magic) "hehe. It's ok, don't worry about it. really don't worry about it" *being super friendly*

bla bla

to make it short, at some point I "resisted the moment" and caused me to get inside my head again and I lost them.

But yeah, the congruence thing is LEGIT. I almost feel like all my life I haven't been relating to people the way it was meant to be. Like, I've always had all this bullshit in head and didn't even know it. It's liberating "Woah! I could be like this from now on?!!!!" I just feel so free talking to people, like "ahhhh". 

Thank you Owen, I am so glad I found RSD
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Tyler, I think you've the most pure expression of enthusiasm I've ever seen.
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I loved the charisma-congruence thing. Thank you, Tyler.

And broken man game :)
I´ve done that once and I consider that girl my best achievement so far. I think it was also the genuine not giving a fuck that made it work cause in a bad mood you don´t give a fuck, don´t look for approval etc.

But I must say I did not like the first ~15 mins this time. It just sounded negative to me no matter how I try to understand why you did it like that. Maybe that´s just me...

Many awesome points anyway. Great!
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 Love that vid. Wish I was in USA to attend the Foundations reloaded.

My little roadblock or challenge is how to make this going out sustainable and time management.

I believe that you are really pushing it hard, travelling from city to city, working so many hours a day, going out every night + your other habits.

Do you have any tips/hacks for people who go out 5-7 days a week?

Especially how to keep your voice healthy? Going out 5 nights a week is a real strain for my voice.

Thanks.

Love your stuff. keep it going.
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 The Kobe Video was the best.  Can you get him to do some free tours please?

lol

Real good video tyler.  learned a lot from both videos.  keep em coming bro.
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Amazing!
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Congruence is sooo key.
I realized this last weekend :
Went out for the first time since two month. Approached supercongruent all night. Had the best night in my life.

I went up to girls at the beginning of the night, just standing there ,,Hey, what up...Ok this is pretty akward situation...how do you feel about it?....Im not warmed up yet." Just vomitting out what was on my mind..

Result: So much pure fun. Never got so many compliments from girls on my personality.

Im totally gonna reach the "Alex-Level" you talked about :p
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I've been hitting it hard for 6 months, and it is the first "journey" that i have followed through on, that wasn't structured by society, or the military, or a job.

The feeling of freedom you get from that is absolutley unexplainable, and to a reasonable degree euphoric.

Man I can't stress enough dude, thank you thank you thank you for blazing the trail and displaying the things that are possible when you have a vision, and work relentlessly towrds it.

see you in the Chi

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SICK DUDE!!!! Love it :D
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I love that you posted this because I recently understood the importance of congruence myself.

you either get this by "good genetics", other factors in your upbringing, or you just get numbed by so much rejection of the person you are portraying that you just dont give a shit anymore,

OR: you start being the person you want to be RIGHT NOW and you feel like the shit and you are internally validated and ALL THE GIRLS WANT TO FUCK YOU!!! :)
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Wow after going out every weekend for 12 weeks odd ive kinda just got abit burnt out after the other night thinking its time for a break but that video has really put the peices together for me.
 
If you start the begining of the night focused on congruence does your charisma rise and get better then ?
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Roe wrote:
This kind of intensely focusing on yourself is what causes you to be in your head regardless. "Am I being congruent duuuurrrrh"

It tends too, but thats the importance of not taking it too seriously. When I'm in field and getting in my head, I immidiately find someone to "vomit words" about what I'm thinking. If its wierd they usually give a "wtf???" thats pretty funny.
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Tyler, love the video!

I think your advice on acting congruent with cause two mistakes...
I wrote about that here: http://www.rsdnation.com/node/201550
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 What happens when you're not in the mood to hook up with chicks? Do you be congruent to that too? 
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Yeah faking being horny isn't helpful.

I'm actually releasing a kick ass video on this topic at some point, which will explain.  Recorded it the other day, it's really good.
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 What happens when you're not in the mood to hook up with chicks? Do you be congruent to that too? 
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Great vids...also like the Kobe vid in there too...

It's very well known in the basketball circles that Kobe's work ethic and the workouts he puts himself through are more intense then anyone in the game right now.  His personal workouts are at such higher levels then other players that it has had a profound effect on the top players such Lebron etc.

Like he will spend hours on the most methodical and fundamental aspect of 1% of his game.

Great correlation
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#26

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 Tyler, I really like the Kobe video. 

Everyday when I turn on my computer I watch this video, it's very similar


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkrYX9EGUpM
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Haha I downloaded this off youtube. 1.4GB, huge for 50 mins, good quality.

Funny as fuck, and love the congruence part is now on video.
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#28

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 Hey Tyler, just made an account, after three years of reading RSD articles, to comment on this video. That being said, this shit is money. I feel like every time you make a new video it addresses some problem I've been having recently (Like trying to go to hard when it would be incongruent to do so). Much love!
                                                                                                           
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The congruence stuff is MONEY. I've tried to come up with my own distinctions to get better at social situations in college, but just being you no matter what is getting the best results so far. It also helps you develop a personality because people get used to you acting certain ways to certain things and being predictable in that sense really helps you build trust.
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It's interesting, I get horny and intent only with fatty junk food. But it kills my woo and energy. I hope the video helps then.
Tyler wrote:
Yeah faking being horny isn't helpful.

I'm actually releasing a kick ass video on this topic at some point, which will explain.  Recorded it the other day, it's really good.
walter wrote:
 What happens when you're not in the mood to hook up with chicks? Do you be congruent to that too? 

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Matt281

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What's crazy is that I was there at the seminar, but I feel like I picked up different things from watching it this time.

Guess going hard 3+ nights a week every week since will do that :)
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Tezer

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Although this topic has been covered by a lot of instructors; Brad's 'Spectrum of authenticity', Tim's talk in Flawness Natural about communicating from your core and showing congruence, I think Tyler's really fleshed out the idea here. It's definite goldust.
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 oh man i wish i could see tyler in a free tour. lol i remember seeing some of him from the blueprint decoded on youtube and i was like, WHO IS THIS MAN???!
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Moliere

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WOW! owen thank you so much for this video. when i saw it's 50min i was so happy  l'v almost fell out of my chair!
its better then watch a move i just love to hear  you and your stories so much you have such a great humor and such helpful knowledge. the congruent part was brain melting shit(!) i always knew that to be congruent/authentic is important  but until you gave the example i guess i never really understand it.

so thanks again and hope to hear from you soon
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I`ve been in the game for fuckin`...FOUR MONTHS!
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 You increasing come across as an amazing human being(deep insight) by how well you cover what matters. Riding the wave of good(arsehole) or bad(chodey) emotions no matter what. 
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#37

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Tyler wrote:
Yeah faking being horny isn't helpful.

I'm actually releasing a kick ass video on this topic at some point, which will explain.  Recorded it the other day, it's really good.
walter wrote:
 What happens when you're not in the mood to hook up with chicks? Do you be congruent to that too? 

Interesting. Sometimes I wonder if I really want to pick up chicks and have sex with them. It is very strange, but it's like I feel quite good without them…

You can say it sucks.

I can say whatever. I have other goals and try to handle myself, get healthy and strong, acne-free & wealthy. It already takes a lot effort and time. Maybe I'd like to learn how to handle myself before learning how to handle chicks.
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 I wanna attend Jeffy hotseat so baad! but i'm only 17 and moving to florida in the end of october from moscow.
have no money whatsoever. starting new life . a lot of desires...
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 I was so excited to hear an in-depth talk on this.

I've noticed this more and more as I go out, how being congruent to whatever state you're in is best.
Usually, I've noticed that it's ok if I'm in a bad mood, as long as I'm ok with it, but if I'm not "ok" with it, then it's bad.

Keeping the goal in mind, while staying congruent = awesome.

Thanks a million, Owen!
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Gift~

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 Tyler - how old is too old to be gaming? Really? I know the usual response of "I had a guy on my bootcamp who was 103 years old and he was macking it etc etc ..." but I mean really! You are saying these are you last years of gaming and you are going to go out hard until you are 35 so presumably you see the end of "gaming" as 35? (not including the "game" of life and your direction into general self-help stuff)

I know, Ozzie is over 40 and Jeffy is 34 or something but, without offending them (or myself!) don't you think it's kind of running on empty by that stage? 

Just looking out on the streets or in a club, 35 is the high end wouldn't you say? Not to mention the possible desire for having a family and all that stuff.

I got into knowing about the game at 28, I'm 35 now and I am still a novice. I kind of feel, "what's the point of still trying to learn this stuff? It's too late!"

Thanks

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I have 2 children who will soon start using the internet and discovering their daddy runs around videotaping himself pulling women, etc.

This is the life I've chosen so I embrace it -- more importantly I know that if I'm going to be ready to expand into other things I need to get RSD into a really good place within a few years, so rather than dilly dallying around I'm going full hardcore with the intention of getting done what needs to get done.

(I also want to expand because I know the impact I could make.  This industry has been a training ground to make a difference on a greater level.)

Do you have children?  If not then there is no reason you couldn't continue at this for as long as you want.  Don't use the fact I have a family as an excuse -- that's ridiculous.  Good luck! :)

Tyler
Gift~ wrote:
 Tyler - how old is too old to be gaming? Really? I know the usual response of "I had a guy on my bootcamp who was 103 years old and he was macking it etc etc ..." but I mean really! You are saying these are you last years of gaming and you are going to go out hard until you are 35 so presumably you see the end of "gaming" as 35? (not including the "game" of life and your direction into general self-help stuff)

I know, Ozzie is over 40 and Jeffy is 34 or something but, without offending them (or myself!) don't you think it's kind of running on empty by that stage? 

Just looking out on the streets or in a club, 35 is the high end wouldn't you say? Not to mention the possible desire for having a family and all that stuff.

I got into knowing about the game at 28, I'm 35 now and I am still a novice. I kind of feel, "what's the point of still trying to learn this stuff? It's too late!"

Thanks

Gift~

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Enjoy...

:)

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Moliere

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Gift~ wrote:
 Tyler - how old is too old to be gaming? Really? I know the usual response of "I had a guy on my bootcamp who was 103 years old and he was macking it etc etc ..." but I mean really! You are saying these are you last years of gaming and you are going to go out hard until you are 35 so presumably you see the end of "gaming" as 35? (not including the "game" of life and your direction into general self-help stuff)

I know, Ozzie is over 40 and Jeffy is 34 or something but, without offending them (or myself!) don't you think it's kind of running on empty by that stage? 

Just looking out on the streets or in a club, 35 is the high end wouldn't you say? Not to mention the possible desire for having a family and all that stuff.

I got into knowing about the game at 28, I'm 35 now and I am still a novice. I kind of feel, "what's the point of still trying to learn this stuff? It's too late!"

Thanks

Gift~

so you wait for other people to dictate for you what is right and wrong (or in your case whether its too late or not) ? do you really think that Ozzie or Jeffy gives a fuck about what other people might think of them?! they do what feel right for them and you should do the same. you just need to chose. GL.
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#45
Neutryno

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Tyler I have a little question

About congruence. On one side you want to be congruent, express how you're really feeling, which completely makes sense. On the other you have the "How to Win Friends and Influence People" mindset, where you want to build solid relationships with people and that means not being mean, negative, not criticizing following those principles, which also makes sense.

So, which way? Or is this a thing where you have to be able to hold paradoxical ideas in your head?

Thanks,
D.
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#46

Bertl

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I think "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is all about being congruent.
Why not be congruent about being positive, not criticizing,...
And when you don´t feel like it on certain occasions then don´t act like a clown...
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#47

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Bla
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Gift~

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 Thanks for the 2 responses Owen...

I did a bootcamp with Ozzie back in early 2010 and am familiar with that video (although had forgotten about it)

I guess it all comes down to the way the individual thinks, his worldview. I suppose all of the game does at the end of the day, just comes down to our thought processes and our strongly held beliefs.

It's a bigger picture thing.

And no I don't have children yet but a lot of my friends do now, it's what happens in your 30s! (as you obviously know : ) - I wasn't using the fact that you had a family as an excuse, just pointing out that it's somehting we all start thinking about as we get a bit older and it must impact on the "game" lifestyle.

I think the point I was really making was that I see you progessing as you should be and I feel I am not living up to my own pottential - I too have a huge interest in self-actualization and want to see my life as an amazing tapestry of self-expression and manifestation but my self-limiting beliefs hold me back from doing so! It's very frustrating...

Anyway, love your videos, they are very funny and always full of appropriate wisdom. The ones on the Hot Seat were amazing too, that latino chick was so hooooooooot...!!

Thanks

Gift~
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#49
szaka67

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Tyler said clothes dont matter and he is wearing Armani !!!! WTF???
Kidding man, AWSOMEEEEEEEE video :)))
Love you
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#50

Amir1

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I kinda lke this polo shirt. Where'd you get it?
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