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Hey back up in here.  Just got off of a month long tour with Jeffy through San Francisco, Los Angeles, Chicago, and New York.

Then I hit up the Eckhart Tolle event in Maui for a week to relax.

Voice is shot up to hell.  The Austin and Atlanta events leading into the USA tour and then the corporate events stacked on the weekdays between was WAY OVERKILL.

Regardless I learned that 1) I can pickup girls with nearly no voice, 2) I can pickup girls with a ridiculous beard.

Like you read the reports of me doing my thing in the BC reviews and this is VOICELESS.  Totally insane.  I don't make excuses I just go go go.  Hit the club and see the hottest girl -- get up in her face even if I can barely talk.

Irrelevent.  No excuses.  Take the blowout or get the girl.  Whatever, the students learn regardless.  I did some pretty crazy shit.  Crazy how girls will get down with a dood with no voice and a ridiculous beard.

Cool stuff.  I recorded a video during the midst of all this right before the voice crapped out.  I actually woke up early to catch the sunrise because the lighting would shoot into my friend's apartment and looked amazing on camera.

BUT.  I missed the sunrise.  Like an idiot.  Failure to execute.  Excuses are excuses, but at the end of the day the video looks a lil weird.  Oh well.  Something is always better than nothing.

The video content itself is............TOP NOTCH.

I doubt most people who watch it really see the subtleties in it.  They're probably like "Oh cool..." or whatever.  But if you actualy follow what you see in here, your results with girls will change pretty drastically.  This shit took me years to figure it and it's as potent as anything I've ever put out.

(It's on the topic of the 20 minute lockin period, the secret reason that congruent communication gets you laid, and how to cultivate the strengths in your personality.)

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW AND ALL WILL BE REVEALED.  WATCH THIS A FEW TIMES IF YOU GO OUT REGULARLY BECAUSE IT'S AN IMPORTANT ONE.



I actually considered re-recording the video with proper lighting in a different environment, as I tend to be a perfectionist.  I actually scrap about 2 videos out of every 3 that I record.

Then I realized that there was something unique in here.  In the video you can actually see me "warming up" from the 7AM that I'm woken up on the 2 hours sleep to around 7:20 when the video is done.

Initially you see me struggling to think of what to say.  Then as I keep talking and talking I ease into it.  This is pretty similar to how I look in the field except that it's over 4 hours and it just gets better and better.

YOU can do the same.  TRUST IN THE PROCESS THAT YOU WILL BECOME SOCIAL.  It'll happen for you.

Total self trust.

Oh and btw....  Brad Branson has just created a brand new article on his blog which comments on this video.  Check it out soon as you're done reading this one...

http://www.bradbranson.com/how-to-be-congruent-explanation-examples-and-action-plan/


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Funny enough you'll tend to come back to concepts in circles as you progress in this shit.  It was only when I thought about it that I realized I'd stumbled onto a similar epiphany on the last massive rampage in South Beach earlier this year.

Check this out...

This video watched in tandem with the previous is a siiiick one two punch to hammer this in.  And this video is pretty epic (and properly lit LOL).



Interesting that it's a similar idea but from a different angle.  I'm focusing on how just going in with "freedom of outcome" in the initial warmup helps you later in the night.  But in the Chicago video I'm calling it a "20 minute lockin period".

They both accomplish the same thing, but I have so many game ideas as I hammer it out everynight I can't remember them all, and so wind up reinventing shit by accident from other angles. :)

Regardless I think they add onto eachother nicely.  I also like the focus on emphasizing your strengths in the Chicago vid.  Try all this and let me know what you think!

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Anyway the brain is still a lil broken since getting back.  Even the week in Hawaii hasn't totally recuperated it after the 7 weeks on the road.

It's funny because most people work hard so they can take a week in Hawaii.  I take a week in Hawaii so I can come back and work with a clear mind.  It usually takes about 2 weeks with a lightened workload to see the return of complex thoughts -- until that point I just sort of have regular thoughts.

All I really like doing is RSD and spending time with my kids.  Everything is really centered around RSD.  The reading, the meditation, the gym, the diet and anti-aging, the 7 nights a week pimping, the meeting of high quality people, etc.  It's so I can be in that one moment up in front of a Free Tour or Hot Seat or Bootcamp and just KILL IT.

Everything else is boring to me because it's like the volume is turned down.  I live for the peak experience of fucken killing it.  What can I say?  This is my passion and love.

Look at Kobe Bryant up in this video.....



Do you think this man gives a fuck about taking a week in Hawaii?

The shit is irrelevent.  He wants to be streamlining his craft, ripping it, dunking on fools, winning championships and being the shit.

Kobe has pros and cons in his game and can be a ballhog.  But dood's "RAS" is attuned to victory and victory only.  I copied this from him in life and in game.

It's crazy because as you get older you get everything you want and your life looks like a rap video.  I got it all basically and I'm nearly numb to external stimulation.  It's crazy how people spend their lives chasing this shit because it's really only temporarily gratifying.

But hey, go get it.  I did.  You should too.

It's not really that hard.  Just focus and work non stop for like 5 years and you get everything.  If you use your head and continually strategize and have no fear.  I think you should really have no fear, even no fear of dying for what you believe in because death is inevitable and better to go down hard then go down as a lil bitch.

Definitely you should have no fear of hard work.  Just do it smart though, just because you're working hard doesn't mean you're getting ahead.  I'm pretty smart about all this and shit think about it constantly.  I actually think it's funny that people think I'm motivated because it's not in my reality that anyone is any different.

(Watch this for sure if you haven't seen it......Tim forwarded me this the other day, it's bomb and explains what I'm saying perfectly.)



So yeah maybe once or twice a year I spend time around people who aren't like this, and I think they're kidding.  Like I'm growing this ridiculous beard right now as a joke and I'm kidding.  I think they're doing it as a joke like imitating people who are sleeping through their lives.  It's weird that people are actually like this but I don't judge it at all, because I was blessed with a lot of impediments which helped motivate and shape me into a focused dood.

The focused get more focused, the unfocused become dead to life.  My focus is good but I think it's maybe 5% of what it could be.  I think I'm actually a pretty big clown and eat shit compared to the vision of where I know I could be at, but I'm doing good for 32.  I thank God every day for the courage to go after my dreams and not be a full on lil bitch, and the strength not to succumb to instant gratification or short term pleasures.  All I want to do is the right thing.

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(Here's what I'm listening to as I type this btw.....)



So talking about leveraging your natural strengths, I've been thinking a lot about what type of business I want to run in the next few decades.

I have a good structure for a 100 million dollar business and think I could do it pretty straightforward, but it involves crossing into the mainstream.  I realize this sounds a lil over the top but I know the self development industry inside and out, like as well as I know pickup -- it's a 13 billion dollar a year industry and I grasp the subtleties and levers of what makes it work as wel as anyone in the world.

The mainstream is REALLY ANNOYING though.  I actually put out material that's a lil deliberately confusing because I like to screen my students.  I love this shit for the genuine transformations, and that takes a certain type of individual.

Going into mainstream media means having to frame things in a way the masses can understand.  Yeah I know how to do it but it's not really my passion.  I don't really relate with the masses anymore because they choose to stay plugged into "group think" at the expense of the quality of their lives (and the lives of their families and friends, society, etc).

My real interest is living a life that's in alignment with my core purpose -- whatever God wants me to do.  If God hasn't instilled in me the desire to teach the mainstream then maybe I should just keep doing what I'm doing, cultivate it further, and maybe the material will be better understood after I'm dead.  I'd be absolutely fine with that -- especially because I'll go pretty big regardless, just not crazy huge like I know how to do.

Or if I want to do media just do it in my own way and be unapologetic about it.  This would result in people really misinterpreting what I have to say but the people who are ready to see it would see it no problem.  That's likely the best solution although again it messes up my privacy which makes it harder to pimp.  All I really like doing at this point in my life is game and teaching game so this is so hard to imagine right now, but my views on it may change as I get older similar to how a kid no longer wants to play with toys.

My love for game could eventually translate into teaching huge audiences, so I could maybe get the fix I need from that.  Then I could go to South America to game as the odd vacation here and there, where people don't know me.

I think a lot about all this because if you don't have a gameplan your mind will put up success barriers.  I'm in this for the long haul and to the death, so I'll probably just take my time and keep hitting up the RSD thing til around 35 or so and then spend from 35 to 55 or so hammering on the next biz.  Probably expect to hit the first big peaks around age 45 and then really hammer hard on it around 55 or 60.

You can probably see I'm tired out of my mind as I'm typing this.  I use this blog as a personal journal because I hammer so much content in the videos regardless, so just noting down where my head is at at 32 years old.

Do you find any of this a lil crazy?  All good.  It'll make it more interesting to watch.  Self made individuals who have a lot of success do tend to think like this though, sorry to tell you. ;)

(You've also gotta understand the sheer exhaustion of what I do, when your cortisol is that high and you feel like you have nothing left you have to find ways to stay focused.  You need to see a bigger picture that's aligning you to do what you need to do.)

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Funny enough the dreams I have aren't really about commercial success at all, although I know more extreme levels of it come as a secondary result of what I love.

What I love is the feeling of all your efforts streamlining into a single moment.  I love how the repetition, doing the same thing over and over, kicks in as you go "into state" and just LET IT RIP.

The game is such an amazing outlet of this for me which is why I'm addicted to it.  I also have a pretty high sex drive after all these years so that feeds into it as well, it's a hobby that's satisfying on multiple levels.

I have dreams of creating the programs I know I'm capable of, and communicating them in such a way that the people who want to see them are affected in very profound ways.

Beyond that, I have dreams of discovering the actual insights that I want to teach.  I have so much in the cannon right now in terms of self development -- but I know that I need to keep learning more and more.

I wonder if I could stay true to who I am and draw people into it?  It's challenging because from the average person's perspective who I am is pretty insane.  Years in the game has made me irreverent as all hell and I just don't give a fuck anymore -- I've lost the ability to emotionally care of people like what I'm doing or not as long as I think it's cool.  But I come from a good place and want to help people, and I think that to anyone reasonable this obviously comes across.

Maybe I'll decide to become more practical and change.  Or maybe I'll start to enjoy other aspects of life, relaxing more, seeing the world, etc, and lose the desire to push myself.  I'm not sure.

I figure be open to whatever comes.  It's all good.  Life is short - it's a cliche, but actually very accurate.  This is important to keep in mind.

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I'm out of here for now.  What did you gain from the videos?  I posted the Chicago video earlier this week in the forum so I've already had a lot of comments, including where people had trouble interpreting it.

Let me know what you think!

Tyler

PS:
 Got several months worth of video content that I'm editing down right now.  Gonna be a doozy of an edit to prep all this stuff.  But definitely the best material I've ever released -- stay tuned.


PPS:  My wingman Julien is travelling Europe right now.  He's the guy who has taught Bootcamp with me the past 2 years.  He's in the top 5 in the game for sure -- it's a privilege to learn from this guy.  If you live in Europe and want to see him do a free talk he's going to be offering them in quite a few cities as he travelling, just email julien@realsocialdynamics.com with your city IN THE SUBJECT LINE and he'll let you know if he's rolling through.
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#1

gamejunkie

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Ability to hold eye contact = you're not a pussy

THAT'S IT.

Whatever it says about congruence/incongruence is second
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AsierGonzalez

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 DEEP , INTENSE , CRAZY and WEIRD.

Haha that what I felt with this , anyways I'll have to re-read this sometimes.

I prefer second video btw... I think average guys couldn't stand this... That's why they're average.

What if I like wavy personality ? Haha
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 Owen, i dont have enough words to praise the value that you bring with your articles ! Thanks a lot for the work.
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Love the articles thanks for the high value, your changing lives
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RSD=Life changing.
Owen I can't say how much my life and outlook has improved since finding RSD... You are a hero!
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#6

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Tyler
Is the kind of thing you mention here the same as that self esteem epiphany you had that you mention in the Blueprint?

Great article :)
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Tyler us advanced guys out there want to see the results u can get. Only then can we continue to have faith in the system, so to speak. Don't say hot seat, I went to jeffys it did not deliver this. I would appreciate if you could think on how to prove everything you mention works. Thanks
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inspirational, you are great inspiration for a 23 year old guy like me who wants to achieve great things in life and develop myself all the time. Being doing this for a year and I m learning more stuff everyday. Huge value and reading and watching  your stuff gets me pumped with positive and powerful emotions.

keep it real :)
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Tyler you have to go big and teach the masses !!! make no excuse ! btw I live in South America :)
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If I didn't know what type of value you are able to offer, and I would see one of your intense, CRAZY videos where your babbling away I probably would be a bit like "ERM, wtf is this dude all about, who does he think he is?" or something like that. But now as I, and we others here at RSD have come to know what you're about we dig it, cause we understand you more now. I think if mainstream people somehow realized "this dude is legit, he can help me out in my fucked up life" (they can sense it somewhere in the background beneath mental bullshit), and also they get the time to "get to know you" they would most probably be "hooked in", just as we are. The way to do this, I don't know but I think you'll figure it out ;)
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definately gonna camp out here for a while...lots of value! thanks tyler!
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#12

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Note to self: set REAL MANS BLOWOUT on to-do list for the weekend on iphone.

It's my 19th birthday today, that means it's 1 year since I started writing field reports. It's motivating to see the progress, although it's not THAT big.

It's funny how I used to be SO lazy and unconcious of things that would improve my life, I simply ignored it.
After discovering the pickup industry(RSD) I've become very consious about very much.
Examples:
I used to hate working out, aaand pushing myself? Forget about it. Now I fuckin love that shit, I work out 5-7 days a week and I own it. I've started doing MMA and I improve fast.

I went mainstream and followed my father's advice on career. Well I guess I still do, I'm an electrician apprentice. I love to travel so next year I'm working as an electrician in Italy, for three months. AWESOMe. When I get my licence it's back to school and I'll figure out what direction I want to be heading.

Eating healthy? It never crossed my mind, except I knew that I didn't want to get fat.
Now I eat fairly healty, fairly. I will work on this over time.

Self confidence. I used to think I was stupid because people said so. I'm working on this and I'm starting to see that actually I CAN do whatever I set my mind to.

Taking action. As I said I used to be very lazy. This is the one I've been struggling with the most. My goals for 2012 is to minimize TV shows and just be productive or social all the time.

When it comes to dating I go out 2 times a week, in a couple of years I will take a journey on my own, going out 4-7 nights a week. I have to fix my finance first

So thanks for the Video and overall motivation Owen, and Happy birthday to me! :D

-Fredrick
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you were at ckhart Tolle event with Wayne dyer? im so jealous of you!

I wish you all the luck with your dreams
and honestly i hope you end up more like Dr Wayne dyer then Tony robbins
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Dear Tyler,
Pls clarify these things for me.

1. RELATED TO GAME

I'm 24, virgin, was a nerd with a mediocre,non existent personality (which I am improving by learning a lot) both in school and college. My past experiences with girls trying to propose them ended brutally for me (4 in nos.)

Now I am learning to approach girls, and trying to learn and inculcate the habit of not caring i.e. not giving a fuck about what others and even the girl thinks of me. As guilty, in learning the game, I approached a very few girls (I guess only 7-8..without any success but with good learning and experience) in last 8 months (I had my reasons, I know i have to increase, but it is still more from what I have done in my whole life so wheeee...:) )...

What is fucking my game is as I get emotionally closer to the girl in my conversation, the past bitterness in me rises and if the girl blows off me, I get all defensive and angry on her...
What to do to end this...??...do it more???? Its really messing with my mental peace and stopping me to do furthur approaches.

2. RELATED TO YOU (and me)

Tyler, I used to plan like you a lot. Plan like hell, each and every single day of my life...What used to happen is that my plans combined with my ego and prompted me to do more and more to aim more and more. Then I stopped suddenly because in the aim of following my plan, I was becoming very hyper and hard on myself. Have done it (the planning) a lot in my school and college days.Then, I got tired of all the tension and just stopped planning. I haven't planned for the last 8 months and life's tension have reduced.

What is my paradox is when I don't plan, I am cool and relaxed and I am getting "some" success in general life, but I am not confident about it, the old planner and "get more, do it more" kicks in again and seeing persons like you having lots of plans and intensity in life makes me feel nervous as if is this the way to live life or achieve your aims..or one can have the same level of happiness while achieving less without planning but of course less stress.
I believe in the end we all have to die and to make the experience richer, its better to get a right system to follow...I am known to be pretty naive and straight forward in such issues but its better to clarify them sooner than to live in a walking haze.

3. BOOTCAMP/ FREE TOUR

As I always requested, please plan one in India...go see Taj Mahal or something... :)

Regards,
Travis Bickle (an alias of course)
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This is the video where you have talked about the blow out the most and that too when the approacher becomes a real man....its slightly discouraging....real man's concept is a bit far fetched to me...I think whatever works to get laid is the right way...real or not.
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 Awesome post.
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#17
Tyler

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This is a subtle point.  I like that you see it shows you aren't a pussy.  Then there's a deeper level to it as well that helps you get laid faster, because the girl is able to evaluate you more quickly and determine "Yeah he's legit".


gamejunkie wrote:
Ability to hold eye contact = you're not a pussy

THAT'S IT.

Whatever it says about congruence/incongruence is second
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 Tyler: "But I come from a good place and want to help people, and I think that to anyone reasonable this obviously comes across."

That's it, that's why I like you man. 
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Thanks, by "wavy personality" I mean that it's NOT YOU.

It's like the quasi version of YOU.  Like you go up to the girl and you're saying this or that or the other thing to impress her, or going up and pretending you want to dance with her when you don't like to dance, etc.

The girl presses on the personality via congruence tests and sees "Something here doesn't line up..."  As opposed to if you're extremely well centered in being the way you are and yet still relating as a man to a woman, she presses on it and says "Yes this is who he is..." and then can decide from there if she wants to have sex with you or not.

By using a wavy personality she's forced to wait longer and longer to say "Oh that's him!" and decide or not.  It's not that a congruent personality automatically means you get laid, but it at least allows the girl to decide and not wait.  She's going to figure out who you are at some point, or else she's not going to fuck you, but you're not usually going to trick her with smoke and mirrors.

(Unless of course you are DAMNED congruent with the smoke and mirrors, which many "sleazebags" are.  But this isn't the fastest way to learn to get laid and doesn't get you the girls you have the most chemistry with.)


AsierGonzalez wrote:
 DEEP , INTENSE , CRAZY and WEIRD.

Haha that what I felt with this , anyways I'll have to re-read this sometimes.

I prefer second video btw... I think average guys couldn't stand this... That's why they're average.

What if I like wavy personality ? Haha
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Yeah there's similarities in the sense that you anticipate girls will "like you just for you...".  Thanks!


Broheem wrote:
Tyler
Is the kind of thing you mention here the same as that self esteem epiphany you had that you mention in the Blueprint?

Great article :)
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I've spent the past month working on a newbie seminar (boooooooring!!!  KILL ME!!!) that will be free of charge on www.howtoattract.com (not currently up) and it will include little shots of infield footage that should make it obvious to any reasonable person "this stuff works and will help me".

That said, the section you saw of me at Jeffy's Hot Seat is about what I'm capable of.  So if you're not diggin it at this point I'm not sure what else I can do for you.  As an advanced guy I'd assume that you getting laid yourself would help boost up the faith. :)  But if you have any ideas lemme know. 


randombaz wrote:
Tyler us advanced guys out there want to see the results u can get. Only then can we continue to have faith in the system, so to speak. Don't say hot seat, I went to jeffys it did not deliver this. I would appreciate if you could think on how to prove everything you mention works. Thanks
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Thanks!


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Love the articles thanks for the high value, your changing lives
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Well it's interesting because "teaching the masses" means you won't see as many videos as the two I posted up here.  The masses do not have the ability to relate to those types of videos.

I think what most people in our little RSD bubble fail to realize is how "dumbed down" you need to make something to make it relatable to 90% of people.  The reason businesses do this however is that you increase your audience base from 3% of the population to 100% so there's simply so much more money in it.

We choose to alienate the majority of the world by teaching the way we do.  Even something as simple as swearing in the video alienates a big portion of the United States.  Wearing a V-Neck tee shirt alienates a big portion (crazy huh?).  Remember that the demographic with the money is guys in their late thirties and forties who work typical jobs.  We do things the way we do out of love for the game and because WE HAVE TO TEACH THESE GUYS IN PERSON so we want to teach students who we personally like and enjoy spending time with (which is why I love teaching so much -- if the masses were taking my programs I don't know if I'd still want to teach).

That said as I get older I may take more interest in teaching the masses.  There's also ways to offer basic programs and then more advanced programs as they go along their journeys.  It's just that when something as simple as creating a newbie website is so much like pulling teeth for me out of boredom, the ideas of teaching the masses for most of my life seems really against the core purpose for why I'm on this earth.  Again though I may change as I age.


Frank128 wrote:
Tyler you have to go big and teach the masses !!! make no excuse ! btw I live in South America :)
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Mr. Man wrote:
If I didn't know what type of value you are able to offer, and I would see one of your intense, CRAZY videos where your babbling away I probably would be a bit like "ERM, wtf is this dude all about, who does he think he is?" or something like that. But now as I, and we others here at RSD have come to know what you're about we dig it, cause we understand you more now. I think if mainstream people somehow realized "this dude is legit, he can help me out in my fucked up life" (they can sense it somewhere in the background beneath mental bullshit), and also they get the time to "get to know you" they would most probably be "hooked in", just as we are. The way to do this, I don't know but I think you'll figure it out ;)
Thanks man!  What you're describing here I talked about in this video...



The mind eventually "syncs up" with the sort of "rhythm" of the value being offered.
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Yeah it was sick.

Wayne Dyer also said that he's been diagnosed with Leukemia and has chosen to not treat it conventionally, as he believes the power of intention will cure it on it's own (I'm really paraphrasing here -- he has a whole philosophy on it, and believes this guy "Jon of God" has cured him remotely from Brazil).

So it was good to see him while he's still around and doing his thing, as you never know.  Obviously as a natural skeptic I'm pretty concerned about him but hopefully it works out!  He seemed like a really passionate guy.


Moliere wrote:
you were at ckhart Tolle event with Wayne dyer? im so jealous of you!

I wish you all the luck with your dreams
and honestly i hope you end up more like Dr Wayne dyer then Tony robbins
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travis_bickle wrote:
1. RELATED TO GAME

What is fucking my game is as I get emotionally closer to the girl in my conversation, the past bitterness in me rises and if the girl blows off me, I get all defensive and angry on her...
What to do to end this...??...do it more???? Its really messing with my mental peace and stopping me to do furthur approaches.
Gotta become "icey" amigo! :)  The game is about YOU not HER.



Stop being a butthurt lil boy and become a man. :)  I know it's easier said than done, but it comes from working on yourself personally and going out a lot.
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 Pure gold as normal, Its skocking how we have come to excpect this from TD. I found the long spech it pretty shocking how I have been slipping, its like a snap back. Give more value and be honest with yourself 1st. Man up and don'r be soft. He says one thing that stuck out. 
Are you winning to give up the you today for the you tomorrow......Vid below
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travis_bickle wrote:
This is the video where you have talked about the blow out the most and that too when the approacher becomes a real man....its slightly discouraging....real man's concept is a bit far fetched to me...I think whatever works to get laid is the right way...real or not.
I get blown out a lot.  My game is refined and effective from years of going out 7 nights a week.  I get blown out a lot.  I've dated attractive women who should by all rights be way out of my league.  I get blown out alot.  I've had sex with models and strippers and highly intelligent women who probably wouldn't give you the time of day.  I get blown out A LOT.  A LOT.  A LOT.  None of this is a contradiction.

If you're not getting blown out you're not playing the game.  Guys will say otherwise to "one up" people who simply admit the truth.  Many of them even believe what they're saying because their "RAS" only tunes into their successes and erases their failures (mine does too -- I'm just able to back away from it from time to time).  It's up to you if you want to buy into that but I chose from the start to tell it like it is.  And so I get blown out a lot.

Not all women will allow you to isolate them, pull out your cock and put it into their vaginas and pump them full of cum, just because you approached properly and were attractive.  This is a good thing -- as hard as that may be to swallow.  The world would be totally messed up if that were the case.
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duckmack wrote:
EPIC! MOVING! INSPIRATIONAL!
Thank you Owen!

with regard to videos- awesome video of Arnold Schwarzenegger, comparing muscle to mental strength,
and even though mental strength cannot be directly observed it seems to be the most important,
like in the gym- when it hurts mentally- there is growth,
the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qps1vPKsxns&feature=player_embedded

Sweet!  I just linked to this one from that one -- check it out...

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Thanks yeah I think life is a combination of "intent + freedom from outcome".

So al this intense stuff is cool, and then on the flipside you don't want to get caught up in it.  You do this for LOVE.  Not because there's somethin missing in your life that you think it will fulfill.

Happiness comes from both inner and outer circumstances.  I don't buy into the "It's all from within...." stuff you sometimes hear, but I also OBVIOUSLY don't believe it comes from external achievement either.

It's a mix.  I love to challenge myself because it brings me closer to who I am.  The Bhagavad Ghita talks about how there's two paths to enlightenment 1) contemplation, 2) action.  For a young man it's like 20 minutes a day contemplation, the rest action.  Then the ratio shifts in balance as you age.

PS:  I don't like the bits about not sleeping in Arnold and the hip hop dood.  Sleep as much as you fucken can.  I do what I do because I chose to do this tour and doing a tour is hard fucken core.  But if I'm working from home I sure as hell don't set an alarm to wake up -- I sleep my 8 hours and wake up fresh and ready to go.  It's a matter of health and mental performance.


Awesome F wrote:
 Pure gold as normal, Its skocking how we have come to excpect this from TD. I found the long spech it pretty shocking how I have been slipping, its like a snap back. Give more value and be honest with yourself 1st. Man up and don'r be soft. He says one thing that stuck out. 
Are you winning to give up the you today for the you tomorrow......Vid below
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Thanks to everyone else who commented who I didn't reply to btw!  I'm off to the gym. :)
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 "I'm in this for the long haul and to the death, so I'll probably just take my time and keep hitting up the RSD thing til around 35 or so and then spend from 35 to 55 or so hammering on the next biz. Probably expect to hit the first big peaks around age 45 and then really hammer hard on it around 55 or 60."


THIS ^^^ has nothing to do with getting human female homosapiens per say yet it resonates with me on a very deep level. I've dreamed BIG my entire life. At the age of 5 I wanted to be a 6'5'' Black NBA superstar. At the age 17 I wanted to be the next Andrew Reynolds in his prime, just frontside flipping massive 16 stairs. At the age of 21 I swore to myself and friends I'd be the next Hip Hop beat making guru. However at the age of 25 going on 26, at right now, non of that previous stuff matters to me like it did when it was *new* to me. I go to community college for reasons I have no clue why and work at Macy's as a part time merchandiser for money. I guess what I am trying to say is, Tyler, I hate you. lol You inspire me beyond anything I could every type in this comments section. Viva lifes journey. 
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Tyler, how do you deal with your lack of sleep?

Do you take drugs or are you really feeling ok after a 2-hour night?
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 Question---- If you apply the 80/20 rule to pick up which actions would you consider is the 20% of the things you do that produces 80% of your results?????

-NZ
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Tyler wrote:
Yeah it was sick.

Wayne Dyer also said that he's been diagnosed with Leukemia and has chosen to not treat it conventionally, as he believes the power of intention will cure it on it's own (I'm really paraphrasing here -- he has a whole philosophy on it, and believes this guy "Jon of God" has cured him remotely from Brazil).

So it was good to see him while he's still around and doing his thing, as you never know.  Obviously as a natural skeptic I'm pretty concerned about him but hopefully it works out!  He seemed like a really passionate guy.


Moliere wrote:
you were at ckhart Tolle event with Wayne dyer? im so jealous of you!

I wish you all the luck with your dreams
and honestly i hope you end up more like Dr Wayne dyer then Tony robbins

thank you so much for reply to me really appreciate
just show how much you do care.

and yeah i know about dyer condition and im fully believe in him;
this man is the real deal. and so are you. you two are my roll model and i know i choose right.shades


btw
dont you have some instructor training course?
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Moliere wrote:

Tyler wrote:
Yeah it was sick.

Wayne Dyer also said that he's been diagnosed with Leukemia and has chosen to not treat it conventionally, as he believes the power of intention will cure it on it's own (I'm really paraphrasing here -- he has a whole philosophy on it, and believes this guy "Jon of God" has cured him remotely from Brazil).

So it was good to see him while he's still around and doing his thing, as you never know.  Obviously as a natural skeptic I'm pretty concerned about him but hopefully it works out!  He seemed like a really passionate guy.


Moliere wrote:
you were at ckhart Tolle event with Wayne dyer? im so jealous of you!

I wish you all the luck with your dreams
and honestly i hope you end up more like Dr Wayne dyer then Tony robbins

thank you so much for reply to me really appreciate
just show how much you do care.

and yeah i know about dyer condition and im fully believe in him;
this man is the real deal. and so are you. you two are my roll model and i know i choose right.shades


btw
dont you have some instructor training course?

Yeah, it would be really valuable if you gave the training that instructors go through. I want to reach "instructor level" without becoming a instructor.
Right now I'm intermediate level---I can cold approach to sex 4 times a month with 7s-9s girls because I live in LA

Like say what did Ozzy have to go through with Jeffy in Barcelona? Just go out everyday?
Tell us we want to know! =D
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I saw that you posted on RSD this morning just before my midterm. I was psyched to read it after my midterm. I found myself pointlessly walking around not knowing what to do and feeling purposeless for about an hour or two (after my midterm) while opening girls around campus. Found myself disconnected with myself after being super focused towards school. I strolled around a bit more and remembered "oh shit Owen's article!" What a burst of excitement and a reward after a couple of weeks of hard work and growth through school.

Love the journal entries. The mindsets and ideas you include help add to my craft to keep me traveling, one day, at light speeds in everything I produce.

You hear over and over that the people who thought different...who were great thinkers were scorned away and were prized only later when society was ready to widely accept ideas from that individual.

Maybe you will just live to lead the pack that will continue to wide spread your beliefs during the time that you are here and when you are gone, your energy transferred onto others will continue to resonate among the Universe. Think about it man. You're changing thousands and thousands of lives. Most of these lives will go on to raise families based on the impact your touch has had on their lives.

Thinking about the future is always suspenseful . At times you feel uncomfortably doubtful (at the same time you are on 2 hours of sleep typing away. These feels arise when you are lacking sleep)...you feel a bit fearful, but I think embracing the suspense and loving what life has to throw at you is the exciting part. Its like the mentality that you will handle what it throws with love and acceptance and very little resistance if you can.

OWEN YOUR SO FUCKING IMPACTFUL! I LOVE IT!

Its cool looking at your video "Entitlement" video vs your "Real Man" video. There is a growing genuineness to you specifically in front of the camera in the "Real Man" video. 

Towards the quote below...

Is there a way you can present the inner frame works of instilling unconditional acceptance from your main stream audience to get them to listen with non judgemental ears? What if you made your self improvement also based what we can give others? Unconditional acceptance from one person during the roughest part of my life is what kept me afloat. 

Tyler wrote:
I wonder if I could stay true to who I am and draw people into it?  It's challenging because from the average person's perspective who I am is pretty insane.
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 Super excellent. Wouldn't be where I am today without RSD and it's people. Keep going!
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 Cool post bro...

But when you say you need a game plan.... Or else your mind puts up barriers to success.. Well this takes nothing away from Ekhart and enlightment does it?
           If your goal is to become less reactive to life situations, and think without loads of chatter.. Well this means you don' need to rush into goal setting and the like. You can 'be in the present' without your mind putting up barriers to success??
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i feel tyler fisted me up the ass in that first movie.
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I can't believe Tyler listens to Nipsey Hussle. That's so cool
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J-man wrote:
 Cool post bro...

But when you say you need a game plan.... Or else your mind puts up barriers to success.. Well this takes nothing away from Ekhart and enlightment does it?
           If your goal is to become less reactive to life situations, and think without loads of chatter.. Well this means you don' need to rush into goal setting and the like. You can 'be in the present' without your mind putting up barriers to success??


It's not that black and white. Being present doesn't mean you become some dumb animal with no comprehension of the past or future. Tolle himself addresses this. Have you read his books?
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#43

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Tyler wrote:

I get blown out a lot.  My game is refined and effective from years of going out 7 nights a week.  I get blown out a lot.  I've dated attractive women who should by all rights be way out of my league.  I get blown out alot.  I've had sex with models and strippers and highly intelligent women who probably wouldn't give you the time of day.  I get blown out A LOT.  A LOT.  A LOT.  None of this is a contradiction.
What do you mean by "way out of my league"? In terms of what? superficial or as a person?

Also, are the blow outs more from lack of chemistry rather than lack of congruence?

thanks
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 So I tried this in the day time and some things happened that I'm definitly not used to happening...

One girl literally just starts dancing in the middle of the day and it really shocked me, I didn't expect that. Then my dumb ass kinda messes it up because I kinda made a shocked look I think... 

I'm not sure about something though. When a girl does something like this, should I show my approval for what she's doing? Or do I just still stay unreactive? I definitly felt like she was trying to show me that she wanted me... I think.

So I'm not talking bout approval seeking, I'm talking about approval giving
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NaturalZane wrote:

Moliere wrote:

Tyler wrote:
Yeah it was sick.

Wayne Dyer also said that he's been diagnosed with Leukemia and has chosen to not treat it conventionally, as he believes the power of intention will cure it on it's own (I'm really paraphrasing here -- he has a whole philosophy on it, and believes this guy "Jon of God" has cured him remotely from Brazil).

So it was good to see him while he's still around and doing his thing, as you never know.  Obviously as a natural skeptic I'm pretty concerned about him but hopefully it works out!  He seemed like a really passionate guy.


Moliere wrote:
you were at ckhart Tolle event with Wayne dyer? im so jealous of you!

I wish you all the luck with your dreams
and honestly i hope you end up more like Dr Wayne dyer then Tony robbins

thank you so much for reply to me really appreciate
just show how much you do care.

and yeah i know about dyer condition and im fully believe in him;
this man is the real deal. and so are you. you two are my roll model and i know i choose right.shades


btw
dont you have some instructor training course?

Yeah, it would be really valuable if you gave the training that instructors go through. I want to reach "instructor level" without becoming a instructor.
Right now I'm intermediate level---I can cold approach to sex 4 times a month with 7s-9s girls because I live in LA

Like say what did Ozzy have to go through with Jeffy in Barcelona? Just go out everyday?
Tell us we want to know! =D
i think part of the training that instructors go through is about being an instructors(!) so if you have no interest of being one that make no sense. you just want bootcamp 1 on 1.   i'd actually love to be an instructor.
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#46

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Since you're into Kobe, if you haven't yet, check out Kobe Doin Work, doumentary where Kobe sits down and does commentary on a game he plays in and talks about what hes thinking about during the game, pretty awesome.

Great video, so motivational and i'm definitely gonna get some real man blowouts

Thank you
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Moliere wrote:

NaturalZane wrote:

Moliere wrote:

Tyler wrote:
Yeah it was sick.

Wayne Dyer also said that he's been diagnosed with Leukemia and has chosen to not treat it conventionally, as he believes the power of intention will cure it on it's own (I'm really paraphrasing here -- he has a whole philosophy on it, and believes this guy "Jon of God" has cured him remotely from Brazil).

So it was good to see him while he's still around and doing his thing, as you never know.  Obviously as a natural skeptic I'm pretty concerned about him but hopefully it works out!  He seemed like a really passionate guy.


Moliere wrote:
you were at ckhart Tolle event with Wayne dyer? im so jealous of you!

I wish you all the luck with your dreams
and honestly i hope you end up more like Dr Wayne dyer then Tony robbins

thank you so much for reply to me really appreciate
just show how much you do care.

and yeah i know about dyer condition and im fully believe in him;
this man is the real deal. and so are you. you two are my roll model and i know i choose right.shades


btw
dont you have some instructor training course?

Yeah, it would be really valuable if you gave the training that instructors go through. I want to reach "instructor level" without becoming a instructor.
Right now I'm intermediate level---I can cold approach to sex 4 times a month with 7s-9s girls because I live in LA

Like say what did Ozzy have to go through with Jeffy in Barcelona? Just go out everyday?
Tell us we want to know! =D
i think part of the training that instructors go through is about being an instructors(!) so if you have no interest of being one that make no sense. you just want bootcamp 1 on 1.   i'd actually love to be an instructor.


I have no interest in being an instructor whatsoever but I do want my game to as good as someone who has been going out for 10 years. That's why Tyler's vid titled "10 secrets of the game" was very helpful because I like to use the 80/20 rule on learning a new skill.

-NZ
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Tyler wrote:
Well it's interesting because "teaching the masses" means you won't see as many videos as the two I posted up here.  The masses do not have the ability to relate to those types of videos.

I think what most people in our little RSD bubble fail to realize is how "dumbed down" you need to make something to make it relatable to 90% of people.  The reason businesses do this however is that you increase your audience base from 3% of the population to 100% so there's simply so much more money in it.

We choose to alienate the majority of the world by teaching the way we do.  Even something as simple as swearing in the video alienates a big portion of the United States.  Wearing a V-Neck tee shirt alienates a big portion (crazy huh?).  Remember that the demographic with the money is guys in their late thirties and forties who work typical jobs.  We do things the way we do out of love for the game and because WE HAVE TO TEACH THESE GUYS IN PERSON so we want to teach students who we personally like and enjoy spending time with (which is why I love teaching so much -- if the masses were taking my programs I don't know if I'd still want to teach).

That said as I get older I may take more interest in teaching the masses.  There's also ways to offer basic programs and then more advanced programs as they go along their journeys.  It's just that when something as simple as creating a newbie website is so much like pulling teeth for me out of boredom, the ideas of teaching the masses for most of my life seems really against the core purpose for why I'm on this earth.  Again though I may change as I age.


Frank128 wrote:
Tyler you have to go big and teach the masses !!! make no excuse ! btw I live in South America :)

dont waste your gift and cheap yourself just so you can make more money
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#49
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This is very motivating, thank you!

Regarding the sleep: I remember Lil' Wayne saying he is trying not to sleep so he can work all the time (which I admired). On the other hand that dude is always on syrup, so I guess he's not an expert on having a healthy lifestyle.
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#50

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You're not Anthony Robins bro. You're Eckhart tolle.

You're not a motivator. You're someone who lives it, then just tells of his experience and thats how people learn from you. You just speak the truth and that's what resonates stronger with people then any pre-determined motivation triggers.

Fuk you've got it worked out already. You're kelly slater bro. just keep doing what you're doing.
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