Hey!  I've just flown into Chicago and preparing for tomorrow's Free Tour!

If you're in Chicago be sure to come hit me up!  I won't be back in town anytime soon, and the Free events are absolutely top notch!

The rest of my programs for 2012 are as follows...

September 20, 2012: Chicago
October 4, 2012: New York City
October 18, 2012: San Diego
November 1, 2012: San Francisco
November 15, 2012: Albuquerque (first time in New Mexico!)
December 7, 2012: Las Vegas
December 13, 2012: San Francisco
December 20, 2012: Orlando

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

I have a 3 person team that handles ALL of your questions about RSD events -- Stuart, Huey, and David -- all guys in their 20's who are highly active in the game and pimp it with instructors personally, call them any time to talk game or ask any questions you want!

NORTH AMERICA (Toll Free): +1 (888) 546 7286
EUROPE: +44 (0) 2079 934 034
AUSTRALIA: +61 280 155 522
ASIA: +81345789305

Lastly, Julien and I are going to be running "5 Day Alumni-Only Bootcamps" in New Orleans for Mardis Gras, and Miami South Beach during the infamous "Model Season" this Spring.  So if you're considering attending then start looking into it now!

www.modelseasonbootcamp.com

(We haven't created a page for the Mardis Gras event but you can have a look at the above site for Miami...)

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Okay so shooting into today's 2 videos, I've got this first one that I posted only a few days ago on my Youtube channel and and already has 12,000 views and a ton of positive feedback.

I was really surprised because it was one of those videos where I very nearly didn't put it out just cause I thought the topic might not interest people -- was even the one time I've ever read a "negative review" of the Free Tour on RSDN. :)

http://www.rsdnation.com/node/237789?

LOL so yeah I guess I figured it was more interesting to me than other people, but I decided to cut it and throw it out there anyway and I guess I'm glad I did.

The topic is on "how you talk to yourself" and basically explains the method I use not to take myself or life too seriously.


Now also remember that this is a paradox, because you SHOULD take your life seriously, and yet also keep a good perspective.

And that's what leads to the NEXT video which is on the topic of taking things VERY seriously. :)

I decided to throw videos of my kids into the video as well, to really hammer that as your life increases in responsibility, you'll need to work progressively to produce better results.

(IOW it's easy to be like "Yeah fuck everything, life is a big joke..." until you have kids who rely on you...)


Funny enough, for me having kids wasn't any big change in responsibility, because I already run a business.

But it increased the stakes as far as me NOT being allowed to fuck up.

I think many guys probably fear having kids for this reason, but it actually increases your happiness overall.  It's amazing how NOT HAVING A CHOICE but to produce results is actually EASIER than giving yourself the option not to, and then questioning yourself.

It's the same reason I go to the gym every day "come hell or high water, no matter what..." or that I post on RSDN every Wednesday no matter how busy I am.  By stripping myself of the option to NOT do it, it's actually EASIER.

I tend to think that having kids is a natural part of your evolution, and that if you deny yourself this there's a lot you will lose out on.  But then again if you didn't have kids, you could do other things that could substitute their role in your life.

Oh and P.S.. on this, the reason I often mention my kids are "accidents" is because almost everyone I know has had abortions at one point or other, so I like showing people that you DO have a choice if you want to keep the kid.  I hope by people seeing my kids they think a bit about their decisions.  I personally have zero judgement on what people do and don't care at all, but I like people to at least realize they have the option.

I was personally in massive financial debt (half a million) at the beginning of the 2008 recession and didn't see much option to keep Vincent at the time, but decided that I'd have to FIND A WAY to do it.  This lead to me creating the Hot Seat, Free Tour, Video Blogs, RSDN 2.0 that you read here, and World Summit.  If I hadn't decided to keep Vincent NONE OF THESE THINGS WOULD EXIST.

Now I'm sitting here in an opposite (and much more positive / relaxing) financial situation -- so keep that in mind when you think not taking on more responsibility is "fun".  Yeah it's more leisurely in the short term, but over the long term you lose out on a SATISFYING LIFE.

I don't even care about the kids aspect of this equation, but rather just as far as pushing yourself in general. :)

Anyway thought the 2 vids would make an interesting contrast in content and vibe, showing 2 sides of the same coin -- intent + freedom from outcome.

Video #1 is about freedom from outcome, video #2 is about execution of your intent!

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Okay I'm off to go shoot around Chicago, maybe record a few vids.

Please let me know what you thought of the "self talk" and "would and could" talks, and hit me back with your thoughts!  I want to know what you think!  Let me know!

I'll be back next week with 2 short clips from World Summit, and I'll see you soon!

Thanks for reading!  Have fun!

Tyler