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Hey there!!

Just finished up the Los Angeles Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp events!!

Felt like I took them to a new level, especially the Hot Seat where I just sunk everything I had into it since it was possibly the final "Hot Seat 2" that I'll ever teach in LA.

Snuck the Bootcamp students into the hottest club in Hollywood on Thursday -- WHAT AN INTENSE NIGHT!!

Just getting through the door with all the guys was really tough but I screamed at the doorman until he was frightened into granting myself, Todd, and each of our 3 students into the club.

Keeping everyone "in state" in a crazy environment like that was like performing a precision surgery, but 11 years of teaching BC's made it possible.  You'd think I'd want to avoid clubs like this on BC cause it's more work, but my view of life is THE MORE VALUE YOU GIVE, THE MORE YOU GET BACK.

(You can probably sense my view on that from the rate at which I release these vids...)

"Outflow maximizes inflow.  You want more, give more.  No way around this shit."

Most people are always trying to find a sneaky way to minimize time and energy output, not realizing that the sneaky "loop hole" in the system is to just provide a TON of value, and then you wind up getting back 100X MORE for yourself anyway.

Give and give without any concern, and just the act of doing so you wind up becoming better at taking care of yourself, as well as just getting a lot back.

Doing this type of thing, everywhere I go people are coming up to me, offering me favors, buying me dinners, helping me to get into clubs, cause I've affected their lives in a positive way.  In any major city in the english speaking world.

I come into every weekend challenging myself to step it up a notch, and that's what keeps me going.  If I was just going through the motions I'd have becomeone of those lame 33 year olds by now, but continuing to go further and further means I'm continually renewed.  By the time I'm 50 I'll be a teacher like the world has never seen -- I'm really just scratching the surface with all this.

(But if you want to take a PICKUP program with me while I teach PICKUP -- DO IT NOW!!)

Speaking of programs, I've got one coming up in CHICAGO coming up -- so if you're in Chitown definitely get on top of it!!  Here's my schedule for the rest of the year as well.

September 20, 2012: Chicago
October 4, 2012: New York City
October 18, 2012: San Diego
November 1, 2012: San Francisco
November 15, 2012: Albuquerque (first time in New Mexico!)
December 7, 2012: Las Vegas
December 13, 2012: San Francisco
December 20, 2012: Orlando

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

I have a 3 person team that handles ALL of your questions about RSD events -- Stuart, Huey, and David -- all guys in their 20's who are highly active in the game and pimp it with instructors personally, call them any time to talk game or ask any questions you want!

NORTH AMERICA (Toll Free): +1 (888) 546 7286
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Lastly, have you seen Julien's TWITTER page??  You gotta get an account on Twitter and SUBSCRIBE immediately, cause the funny lines on here are priceless and reflect the deranged mind of a total genius at picking up girls.

Speaking of value -- he's really challenging himself to come up with witty pickup related tweets at an alarming rate, it's really solid so check it out right now!

www.twitter.com/rsdjulien

And his Facebook page has the Twitter quotes as well, have a look...

www.facebook.com/rsdjulien

Anyway let's get into today's vids!

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So I was in Denver about 2 months ago, and already released the video blogs from while I was there.  I also did a "Free Tour" and have a few choice clips of what was unique content from the event.

The first is on the topic of "possessiveness" with women.

I generally think that this is a HUGE STICKING POINT for most guys, because they have their egos invested into these young flighty girls and bash their heads against the wall when the girl doesn't initially want to be with them and only them.

USUALLY DOES NOT WORK.

The general rule is if you want a girlfriend, you've gotta be able to go out and fuck OTHER GIRLS LIKE HER consistently.  Then when you don't give a fuck, and she senses this, she may be more interested in a relationship with her.

What you DO NOT get to do is go out and get the ONE girl who is hotter than all the rest you could get, and LOCK HER DOWN.

Good luck with that one!!  Leads to massive headaches, rarely ever works.

CLICK THIS VIDEO RIGHT NOW TO LEARN ALL ABOUT THIS, AND A SHIFT IN THINKING TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.


Interesting stuff, huh?

I always feel like the game gives me new insights, as well as the same insights but learned at a deeper level every year.

This was a lesson that I learned at a deeper level just from the girls I've been with in the past year who were so disgusted and turned off by otherwise very cool guys who were simply too possessive.

btw I read a few comments on the Youtube channel about how this differs from Julien's drama philosophy, where he gets the girls in love with him.  And basically it's just a different way of going about getting a girl hooked -- that's the whole point of having different teachers teaching different things.

I wouldn't say at all that one way is better than the other, it's more a matter of what best suits your personality and personal goals.  Personally I like girls who are "drama free" and allowing the casual sex to evolve into a relationship if we're honestly a good match, but there's also something to be said about proactively triggering the girls to become obsessed with you the way Julien does it.

Then again though, Julien is doing so from a FOUNDATION of not being needy AT ALL.  So he's got the foundation of the "positive emotional ecosystem" down pat, and then takes it to another level from that point.

(What he's doing wouldn't be so lethally effective if coming from a point where he was in scarcity and unhappy with his life.  So get this stuff down and take it to that level if you're inclined!)

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Next video is on a somewhat related topic, but different in the sense that I'm comparing and contrasting the 2 different models of attraction from the books "Selfish Gene" and "Sex At Dawn".

I only vaguely allude to the two books, but the general themes are covered in the vid.

It's basically the contrast between being THE MAN versus just realizing everyone's a part of the same tribe and WE CAN ALL FUCK EACHOTHER. :)

This sounds a bit bizarre, but it's a higher level realization that I've had as well as many of my best friends in the game.  You come into it with all these egoic desires but eventually realize that women love to fuck and make no big deal of it at all, and will FUCK ANYONE.

But then again, being "the man" helps that process along as well.  So it's a bit of BOTH views of the world.  VERY IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND!!

CLICK HERE TO LOOK AT TWO CONFLICTING MODELS AND LEARN THE LATEST LAME PUA JARGON:  "BRADTOLLE" :)


I'm sure Brad Branson will be very tickled by this one.

(Check out his kick ass blog at www.bradbranson.com !!)

I also want to throw in this old video blog on the topic of "emotional ecosystems" and see if it helps you to understand the lesson from the first video a little better.  Have a second watching of it after having just watched these vids and see if it makes more sense.


I think this video has a lot of wisdom in it, but probably hasn't been fully understood.  So I'll expand on it in in the future!

It's pretty profound though, like something that was on my mind as far as my progress in the game for the past year -- building that "emotional ecosystem"!!

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Lastly I thought I'd include a very cool video I stumbled onto about Boston Celtics star Kevin Garnettt.

I REALLY RELATED TO THIS VIDEO.

My mindset is nearly identical to this guys', and I hadn't seen it before so I really recommend you strap in for a hour and check it out.  Highly recommended if you're into success.

(The first few mins just look like a random basketball video, but keep watching and it's a video about general success from a guy who isn't just "teaching success" but actually walks the path...)


Anyway hope you enjoyed that a lot.  Some quality viewing there, much more valuable than watching TV.

^^Julien be sure to check that one out for motivation for your tour!!  And Jeff watch it cause he's exactly your age!!

:)

KG also had an amazing post season this year, to see an older guy crushing it in the Playoffs like he did, really inspired me as a 33 year old dude to KEEP DOING IT.

I'd love to see more older athletes make the decision to keep going, rather than become old and lame and fat.  But overall I really loved this guys' general attitude, and I never knew about everything he'd been through to get to his position until I saw the vid.

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Okay so I'm out of here, I'll hit you back with the Honolulu Free Tour and a World Summit clip next week!

(The Summit video features a bunch of vids of my kids, with Vincent up on stage with me laughing his ass off...)

HIT ME BACK WITH COMMENTS ON POSSESSIVENESS AND "BRADTOLLE"!! :)

I'll check em out and hit you back!!

Thanks for reading and have a fantastic day!!  If you're in Chicago, I'll see you for the events next week!  Peace!!

Tyler
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#1

Bushido1

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You are fucking awesome Tyler!!!

Keep making this world a better world!!!!

Cheers.
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 What is "Bradtolle" lol
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 Awesome videos!
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Kash.TO wrote:
 Like Johnny Drama: "VICTORY!"
Tyler mate, I love the brutal honesty and truth.

I still do not fathom how people still fear rejection or get approach anxiety?

The brutal honesty and truth should open up the eyes of others and they should see through the lies we are told in society.

In my mid 20s, I am noticing this stuff more, and more but, I am noticing how serious women want to get despite their bad decisions.

Your point about those women who treat their body like a dump truck is accurate.


I think most men are out for their girlfriend and then, to move on out of pick up.

Its not common to meet someone awe inspiring, the sort of stunner you recognize your counter balance in.

You feel that challenge and she is also high value herself which offers to the dynamic.


I still have a flirt and charm girls but, I am more of a tease than anything and I am open to suggestions for alternatives while in relationship?

If it were to end which is a high probability (at some point and time), I got to sharpen skills again but, the same truth is not said for women.

For us boys, there is no alternative way to remain on top form without taking the necessary precautions and continuing the journey.


So tyler mate, what is it all about? You know what I mean?
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Hmmmm, what's it all about?  Dunno. :)

Different for everyone I guess.

I think it's GOOD that as guys we have to re-sharpen the sword if the relationship ends.

It's super super super pathetic seeing how girls just jump to the next branch like monkeys, without having to mentally process the breakup, re-establish that "ecosystem of abundant positive emotions" or improve as people.

I've always come out of my hard breakups on top, while the girls just become lame with their new guy.  SUPER CHEESY.

My last breakup I was devastated while she got a new guy immediately and didn't have to emotionally process it.  I had to bang out like four 7's in a row just to get back in the swing of things, and it was tough to be back out in the harsh reality of meeting new girls.  But at the same time I improved so much, re-created my social circle, club connects, gym and meditation routines, etc etc.  Meanwhile she became a FAT with her new guy, and later repeatedly hinted at me to be allowed to come back as she saw me improve.

So good for guys!  Most people think women have it better but I disagree!  At least assuming know know the types of principles we teach here, I guess it sucks if you don't know them and just feel sad LOL.

I think it's up to you if you wanna fuck other girls, flirt and be monogamous, or even just not deal with girls at all and focus on your career -- if the girl dumps you for being more in scarcity, OH WELL GO FIND ANOTHER 21 YEAR OLD ANYWAY WHO CARES?!

Just stay passionate for something in life that challenges you, I don't think it's a big prob personally.

Tyler
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Kash.TO wrote:
 Like Johnny Drama: "VICTORY!"
Tyler mate, I love the brutal honesty and truth.

I still do not fathom how people still fear rejection or get approach anxiety?

The brutal honesty and truth should open up the eyes of others and they should see through the lies we are told in society.

In my mid 20s, I am noticing this stuff more, and more but, I am noticing how serious women want to get despite their bad decisions.

Your point about those women who treat their body like a dump truck is accurate.


I think most men are out for their girlfriend and then, to move on out of pick up.

Its not common to meet someone awe inspiring, the sort of stunner you recognize your counter balance in.

You feel that challenge and she is also high value herself which offers to the dynamic.


I still have a flirt and charm girls but, I am more of a tease than anything and I am open to suggestions for alternatives while in relationship?

If it were to end which is a high probability (at some point and time), I got to sharpen skills again but, the same truth is not said for women.

For us boys, there is no alternative way to remain on top form without taking the necessary precautions and continuing the journey.


So tyler mate, what is it all about? You know what I mean?


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 Awesome stuff, like always. The free tour videos + going out is enough to keep you in great shape with girls..thanks a lot!
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Jeffy went through 12 abortions?! DAMN lol
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Again a couple of awesome videos. Sending the one about going through a break-up to a friend who needs it. Love the KG documentary.

You really see the depth and strength in him from all the work he put in. Saw the part about his friend Malik dying in a car crash and it gets me every time.
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Show us yo baby mama!
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Yeah, positive emotions ecosystem. The hard thing is only the beginning. Then it goes woooosh.
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 Funny how these video always seem to hit you right where u are at in the game. Relate so much to especially the possesiveness video this time. :) keep hammering them out. Sooo much value
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 Can't wait for your kombucha video! :)
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Quoted:The general rule is if you want a girlfriend, you've gotta be able to go out and fuck OTHER GIRLS LIKE HER consistently. Then when you don't give a fuck, and she senses this, she may be more interested in a relationship with her.

What you DO NOT get to do is go out and get the ONE girl who is hotter than all the rest you could get, and LOCK HER DOWN.

Good luck with that one!! Leads to massive headaches, rarely ever works.


 Makes sense, Tyler.  Makes sense. It's so obvious, how did I not see it before? Probably my ego striving for a false future..haha
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Great video. I found one offering a different perspective : ) 



God i hate these movies...lol
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tyler wrote:
Tyler wrote:

Hmmmm, what's it all about? Dunno. :)

Different for everyone I guess.

I think it's GOOD that as guys we have to re-sharpen the sword if the relationship ends.

It's super super super pathetic seeing how girls just jump to the next branch like monkeys, without having to mentally process the breakup, re-establish that "ecosystem of abundant positive emotions" or improve as people.

I've always come out of my hard breakups on top, while the girls just become lame with their new guy. SUPER CHEESY.

My last breakup I was devastated while she got a new guy immediately and didn't have to emotionally process it. I had to bang out like four 7's in a row just to get back in the swing of things, and it was tough to be back out in the harsh reality of meeting new girls. But at the same time I improved so much, re-created my social circle, club connects, gym and meditation routines, etc etc. Meanwhile she became a FAT with her new guy, and later repeatedly hinted at me to be allowed to come back as she saw me improve.


Tyler mate, I see your point of view all too often and its part of that learning curve for me that shifts my paradigm.

It is what knocks a man side ways especially when unexpected and part of that, "two steps forward, one step back."

In those steps back, I feel a lot is lost, even that nasty bit of resentment, butt hurt but, it subsides and I learn the most.

Its sort of like a steeling effect of some sort though, there is the moments, i feel like Jude Law, Alfie on that bridge wondering?



This is huge in pop culture here in the UK but, not so much in North America.

I guess it could a case of karma or a series of events that just have no meaning or purpose.

Things just are as they are and people attempt to define or give meaning to "____" that, whatever it maybe.

Tyler wrote:
So good for guys! Most people think women have it better but I disagree! At least assuming know know the types of principles we teach here, I guess it sucks if you don't know them and just feel sad LOL.

I think it's up to you if you wanna fuck other girls, flirt and be monogamous, or even just not deal with girls at all and focus on your career -- if the girl dumps you for being more in scarcity, OH WELL GO FIND ANOTHER 21 YEAR OLD ANYWAY WHO CARES?!

Just stay passionate for something in life that challenges you, I don't think it's a big prob personally.

Tyler


Right on mate.

There is no accountability on their part for feed back so, there is little to no self development and mastery.

With that said, finding a stunner that is awe-inspiring, the sort you recognize your counter balance in.

I find her challenging me for the better as a man, and her as a woman which is hard to deny that.

Then again, if I were to be honest, there is a handful that would say here in London to their assumption, I am their boyfriend.

I am sort of between a rock and a hard place with pickup, monogamy, and well, masculine polarity that seems to have no off button.


http://www.rsdnation.com/node/225229

I believe this was what led to my ban but, this is truly the essence of my game.

At this point, I am no longer single so, freedom from outcome is just my go to state as I have nothing to lose.

If I posted advice about women treating their bodies like dump trucks, I would have got a lot of "cool story bro" comments.

You've did this now, maybe it will open the eyes of noobs, those who have approach anxiety or fear of rejection.

To me, this further instills why I should self amuse at their expense, bust on them (a bit), and almost even troll them but, not quite.


There is a level of proper respect that should be given but, this is not even on the radar of woman logic until they realize they have a short shelf life.

If the posts I made included visuals, video or pics, I am sure my popularity would rise a fair bit but, you got a visual for the sort of nonsense that I experience but, its as you say, everything is funny (blow outs, techniques, pick up, pulls etc).

While I imagine, your intent ions and business model was not based around the humor of what refined sugar and toxic behavior will do to a train wreck over a significant period of time but, believe me, I see it and I am laughing (especially at that pic I sent you FOR YOUR EYES ONLY)!

Its better then crying! wink
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Tyler-

Great perspective as always!

I notice myself needing more of an effort to warm up than other guys.  (I consider myself a pretty logical, sometimes quiet guy.  It takes me a bit longer of socializing and getting loose as compared to other guys before I hit my stride whenever I go out with buddies) 

I've noticed you say working on the "process" concerning warming a few times in recent posts.   Where do you cover this "process"?  Perhaps you've written about it on a different post?

Anything is appreciated, thanks! 
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#17

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tyler man,

I really like your videos man, alot of what you touch on really hits hard and resonates with home territory, changing habits and shifting out of the norm of day to day seems somewhat difficult, what sort of ways do you think you could develop some new sorts of hobbies when you dirt broke, hitting up girls all day can be fun, but other then girls building a cool lifestyle seems more important at this point, even when you can pull them in it seems to just get into this day to day routine of watch a movie, fuck, watch a movie, fuck over and over, and you get caught in this trap until you lose interest in the girl or she loses interest in you

any ideas on some cool ways to develope some new hobbies to find new ways to find enjoyment out of life when you're broke as shit?
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Great stuff as always.

I definitely think these shorter 30 minute or less snippets are much easier to digest.

Many times if I see something that's like an hour and half long, it will make me put it off since in my mind I'm trying to find the time to be able to take in that entire chuck and it never happens.
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Sasquash Spirit!
0:52, Third Video.
Great Fucking Advice, btw!
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small chunk it dude or save it for viewing on the weekend.
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Great stuff as always.

I definitely think these shorter 30 minute or less snippets are much easier to digest.

Many times if I see something that's like an hour and half long, it will make me put it off since in my mind I'm trying to find the time to be able to take in that entire chuck and it never happens.
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Great videos as always. If I could absorb/internalize even 10% of it ,that would be astonishing for my pickup rsults and life in general.
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that Garnett video is Awesome!!! That is one of the most inspirational videos I've seen. thanks 4 sharing.
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#23

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Tyler, a question from your first video

You talk about these 21 year old girls and how they don't get tied down and just wanna experience different dudes, etc..  Are you specifically speaking of places like L.A? and even more specifically, the night club scene? I live in a large city in Canada and I know tons of younger girls in the 18-22 range that are in long term serious relationships. Most of the girls I knew in high school actually ended up with serious boyfriends and even got married early on.

BUT...whats happened to most of em now that they're in their 30's, they are back out trying to meet guys now that they're divorced and shit. I see lots of girls spend their best years in relationships. Of course in night clubs you're far more likely to meet younger single girls. I also notice that the crowds at night clubs are getting older and older because of the divorce rate.

What do you think of the 25-35 age range for single girls? I find hooking up with these girls is a more straight forward process because these girls will be more honest with you on their intentions and they usually require less "game" to pull,they are generally more open to one night stands since they might be more comfotable with the idea based on the fact they have lived longer and experienced more sexually. As with youunger girls, they are usually more worried about reputations, what peers will think and social conditioning.
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Owen,

Why would the two be mutually exclusive and paradoxical ?

Can't you have extreme self love AND accept that wer're all one tribe and will fuck each other (given the right chance / circumstances) ?

Wouldn't that be the Zenith of self love. To reach a point where you have such self love for yourself that the actions of other don't phase that ?

[Maybe I missed a bit]
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 Sick!

Interesting seeing videos from freetour where I was at. What you think of Boulder/Denver?

Something I've noticed in my development is I'll go out hard and the rest of my life will fall apart. I've been paring down going out to 3 nights a week and not feeling motivated when I'm out because I'm not very clear about my direction in life (Just got out of college, figuring what I'm doing with my life.) Is this a similar process to what your talking about. Focusing on other aspects of life so when I hit up the field again I'll be better?

I'm gonna have to hit up the guy who got the cheerleader again and see where he's at.

Peace.
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Thought used to shock me before but then I thought I always want what's best for people - And if she's happy with my friend and he's happy with her, I encourage it. Then again, that's a tough mindset to have regarding a former cherish where a lot of emotional investment was made and it didn't end well. But that's definitely a mindset to strive for.
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You mentioned letting other guys fuck your ex's. You ever give up a girl you are seeing to a friend to let her fuck her? I dunno if I could do it, but talk about EXTREME non-possessiveness.
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 Pimp it............I've done shit I couldn't even imagine and especially of all people because of me due to the game. Making out hard on an open witha hot chick with fake tits while her needy male chode friend just stands by and watches. lol! I feel bad. Sort of. Except I've been there, and much worse.
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Weird, the no getting butthurt about she fucking other weird dudes at the same time doesn't seem advance to me, it feels like newbie baseline stuff, then again it probably means I'm not that advance.
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 beautiful man! that first video cleared up so many things for me!!!

and I watched the KG video, pretty dope. good lesson in that hard smart work = success!
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Cool video about the positive emotion ecosystem

it sounds like it sums up to just staying active and minimize the control that your mind has over you. if you are all always doing various different activities and busy going from one event to another, then you have no time to go down into lower consciousness and negative emotions.  

So my question is: Does it need to be an abundance of positive emotions, or can it just be being active and maintaining a busy and healthy (e.g., cant be only working all the time...) lifestyle?   

For people that live in big cities, it can be as simple as going to networking events and meeting up with people. I used to do this in cities that im visiting and going straight to meet pple.  Once you develop that ease of going out to new places and meeting others naturally, you position yourself more in the buyer framework, since you are opening and talking to everyone. And then can decide if you want to explore and push a certain set...you are just presenting yourself as that cool sociable person.  whereas if you only open sets and talk to people that you are attracted to, then it comes across that you arent comfortable and you come off as unsure of yourself, stressed, incongruent...

I landed in Rio de Janeiro alone once, checked in, and within one hour was already at an international networking event.  Made my stay interesting, met cool pple and got insight to make visit even more interesting.

Definitely been in situations where enjoying myself and then you have chicks come up and want to be part of it... so that level of positive emotions and fun attracts girls around. 

Awesome LA hotseat - so much valuable information... for pple that are hesitating (like I did) ... make it happen and come out enlightened 
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Hey Owen,

I am wondering if you can post a video that speaks on how to best deal with aggresive and/or competitive males that try to throw you off, or even disrupt your game. Generally when one is in state this isn't much of an issue, and I do usually deal with it fine. That being said, as my approaches become more advanced, more frequent, and thus more overt within the enviornment, non-abundant males often find themselves getting jealous and like to either intimidate from afar so as to throw me off, or try to get in and disrupt me (esp if they know the girl). If there is some greater insight that you can provide that would improve my learning curve on this, that would be great.

Thanks.
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man good timing for these videos haha, im going through this right now! ugghhh...
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You speaking about your break-up-aftermath success TOTALLY RESONATED with me!

Haha. Also, I love your philosophy on having sex. Basically its, EVERYONE FUCKS EVERYONE RIGHT? Sex is inevitable no matter who you are (but especially if you're a cute, young chick) and by realizing this you quit giving a fuck.....but IRONICALLY you end up getting laid more than anyone else because you conciously realize that you're a part of the "tribe". A complete mindfuck that can make a newbie get into his head and never come back but if you're out there doin' this like you're supposed to be this will COMPLETELY resonate.

I think part of getting laid a lot is having a pre-requisite of being open to sex. Highly highly highly open to the idea of sex and not just when it comes to you but anyone having sex. Anyone and everyone should and could be having sex if they wished and its a COMPLETELY normal thing.

Btw, your condom idea...I'll try it. I'm fucking filthy with that shit and its a bad habit.
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funny that sometimes I run into the same circumstances that the lastes rsd blogs talks about... so that  in a weird way I am prepared... good shit!!

thx peace...

P.S don't seek aproval...
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 Basically, BradTolle  =  Ego identification / Egoless state (being) 
                                           Logically constructing why you are the shit that night /  Being the shit 
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 Basically, BradTolle  =  Ego identification / Egoless state (being) 
                                           Logically constructing why you are the shit that night /  Being the shit 
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"BRADTOLLE" it's a THING
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Always a timely video for my situation.

Just got butthurt by a 21 year old who slept with me and stopped responding to texts.  I was depressed for like 3 days and in a fog.  I went out with my buddies but I sucked ass so bad, just going through the motions basically.

It got me to get hardcore back into meditating and focus on my life and game.  Net fucking positive.

It's crazy how most of our experiences are so damn similar.
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Very Inspiring that video of Kevin Garnett 
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Ozzie teaches the "we can all fuck" phillospohy using the analagoy of commumism on BC. It would be great subject for a fure Ozzie vid ;)
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Hey Owen

Just wanted to drop a note and say that your last 3 videos really helped - been going through some deep thoughts about game, and life, and how women play into or out of this in my overall life script.

It is difficult to give unselfish, unrestrained love to another, if that love cannot be found for yourself.

-AlphaWolf
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To think possessiveness was enough for the exgf to blew me off.

Simply fuck possessiveness, WE CAN ALL FUCK! ONLY ONE TRIBE IN TEH FCKING PLANET!

thanks Tyler
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Damn I think this may be one of the BEST ideas you've shared yet (at least for me personally)

Since I was on sports teams with varsity, junior varsity, etc. tiers in high school & college, I've always viewed the dynamics of attraction and "higher value" through the paradigm of "if she doesnt see me as the alpha leader/tier of the tribe, then i am 'not enough' to close with her"

But after you posted this article and your videos, I think I'm gonna have a lot less "resistance" to escalating for the close by reframing my inner game headspace to "self acceptance" and that "she & i are all equal" in the "human tribe" =D

NOW WE CAN ALL FUCK! (and strap up haha xD)
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Comment on Vid#1: 

I have noticed a girl in a relationship (|average cool relationship -not the one that have already decide that will cheat, neither the one that they feel completely fullfiled)  she will cheat only if she senses that the guy ONLY GIVES and she ONLY TAKES something, be it emotions, validation or sex.
 
The slighest attempt of the guy to ''take'' something and it is over. Normally for a relationship to develop there is some short of exchange, the guy gives emotions and takes sex or he gives sex and takes emotions or he gives comfort and take sex or he gives validation for sex or the opposite, whatever. When it comes to cheating then it only has to be giving!!

Seduction is a female characteristic. When developing a relationship girls want to ''seduce'' a man with a high value. They want to win him over.

In cheating they don't want to seduce nobody. They want someone to GIVE IT to them WITHOUT ASKING FOR EXCHANGE.  ''Give it to me baby'', this is how they want to think!They want someone to do the fucking job EASILY. Any attempt to take something and is over. Guys who fuck a lot have realized that is always giving. And what i say is that
''if  we guys realized that we are the givers, not the takers, we would be more picky to whom we give''


Canello
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Comment on vid#2:

Apart from value and good emotions there are two other factors that we guys don't take under consideration.

The factor of EASINESS and the factor of VARIETY.

Men and women follow eachother behaviors over time. For example men in our era are more responsible and more savvy when it comes to parenting and start a family, than fifty years ago, a trait that traditionally is considered female.

Women are moving towards the chase of sexual experiences consciously ( 'i want to have sexual experiences before i start a family'', not the girl that ''happened'' to have such experiences).

There is a generilization but you get the point. Society moves towards mixing of the traditional roles. That is why we ofter hear women saying ''there aren't real men anymore'' and the opposite. (Actually this is a good line that i use '' there aren't real women anymore'')

With this in mind girls develop male patterns of thinking and the opposite. This is amplified if the person is of high SEXUAL (not any) value. A male of high sexual value develops female patterns of thinking (imagine jagger or bowie) and a female of high sexual value develops male patterns of thinking.

Male patterns of thinking? YES. i have seen that a lot and i hear it all the times from girls.

Let's see a male pattern of thinking. ''I want to fuck lot of types of girls''....And another one ''when i want to fuck i like a girl who is easy.. who doesn't ask for more''.

Those are traditional male patterns of thinking when it comes to sex. Guess what! Women think the same way aswell!!!

IOW girls sometimes want VARIETY and other times want EASINESS.

That is why when a girl is horny she will fuck the low value guy. Because from her perspective is MORE EASY which is practical and sometimes arousing.

And that is why they will fuck all sort of guys because they want VARIETY, just like we want to fuck a model and a girl next door and a and an elegant classy girl and the secretary and the student and the smart girls and so on!!!

So next time we see a guy who doesn't match 'our criteria' let's  consider those two factors...EASINESS and VARIETY.

We're entering the era where girls are not looking only for the higher value male. THEY JUST WANT THEM ALL! LoL


Canello
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Owen, great distinctions!

i fully resonate with the first video because i'm going through these things now where i experience that the more girls i'm with the less needy (non-possessive) i am and that the girls can sense it and want me even more!

"oh, brother you're gonna be maaaaad"
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 How the fuck does he figure all this shit out. 
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