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What's up!

I've just come back from Seattle which was absolutely awesome.

We ventured out of Belltown and into Fremont which allowed us to stumble onto way hotter girls.  Funny enough the same happened recently in Atlanta where we got out of downtown and into Buckhead where the girls were much hotter as well.

Gotta keep exploring the city you're in!  There's always hot women somewhere!  Except San Francisco which has girls who are really SMART AND NICE!!

Anyway I've got a few events on deck I'm pretty excited about, including my first ever trip to Philadelphia.

June 28, 2012: Philadelphia
July 12, 2012: Denver
August 2, 2012: Honolulu (taught with Julien as well!  Last event of the year we both teach!
)

www.rsdfreetour.com / www.rsdhotseat.com / www.rsdbootcamp.com

I'm totally psyched to visit Philly as usually people have to drive into Manhatten to see me.  I've also only ever done Denver in Winter so it's gonna be sick to check it out over the summer months.

Finaly Honolulu is going to have Julien and I teaching the Free Tour, Hot Seat, and Bootcamp, so if you've ever considered visiting Hawaii this would be a great time.  I look forward to hitting Hawaii all year.

And you want to know what else I look forward to all year?  The Real Social Dynamics World Summit.

www.rsdworldsummit.com

The Summit is coming up August 19 - 25 2012.

One of the very first video blogs I EVER SHOT IN MY LIFE was in Vegas explaining the event, so have a look and see how you can improve when you do something repeatedly -- ie: how we've evolved.

(The information about the Summit is still totally relevent.)


This Summit is THE ABSOLUTE SHIT.  A truly high value event you will carry forward with you forever.

Take the plunge into a week of full immersion, experience Vegas, get laid like crazy, change your life.  Get on it!

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Anyway I'm going to crack into 2 brand new videos today.

The first is a video where Julien and I talk MASSIVE AMOUNTS OF SHIT.

I want you to assume that this is pure nonsense and no need to take it seriously.  We're just screwing around.

Basically we give examples of some of the silly shit we do with CERTAIN GIRLS at CERTAIN TIMES.

These are HIGHLY CALIBRATED situations which if you're new to talking to girls you can just LAUGH AT THE FUNNY-NESS of the video and NO NEED TO ATTEMPT ANY OF THIS.

Note that it is NOT a "missing peice" in your game.  If you're not already getting laid this will be pure entertainment value.  A guy doesn't fail to get laid because he's not being enough of an idiot, it's because he's not a friendly cool guy.

But once you have BECOME that guy and are calibrated and getting laid, you may SOMETIMES do funny shit like this on RARE OCCASSIONS where the girl likes it, which you can gauge because you're highly socially aware.

CLICK THIS VIDEO TO SEE WTF I'M TALKING ABOUT.  YOU WILL BE CRACKING UP AT THIS NONSENSE.  HAVE FUN.


This event was such a blast and I hope you enjoyed this.

The main key is to realize that there's a tiny percentage of girls who like the craziness we're talking about here, and all other girls will just think you're an idiot, and possibly get you beaten up.

Focus on the PRINCIPLE of WHO HAS THE DOMINANT REALITY.  Apply the principle in your own way!

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So that video was more for fun, and this one is a bit more serious.

Actually it's also pretty funny but the message is more important.  Basically what it's going to communicate is how in the game you are constantly EVOLVING.

And whatever helped you at ONE PARADIGM is oftentimes LIMITING YOU at the next.

Take any technique, whether humor or physicality or whatever, and consider that it makes you MORE of your NATURAL SELF initially.

You try it out and feel NATURAL with it.  It feels GOOD and this gets you more girls.

Then over time what happens is you build an "entitlement criterion" around it, where you no longer feel ENTITLED to get attraction from hot women UNLESS you are using the type of humor or physicality, etc etc.

For me personally the ideas in this are super relevant to where I'm at in the game.

Basically the zone I'm in now is I get great results, but the only way I will break my current plateau is by totally stripping away EVERYTHING and just being 100% ENTITLED NO MATTER WHAT I'M DOING.

In other words at the place where i'm at in my journey. it's' about building that total entitlement no matter where i am, how i'm dressed, or what I'm doing.

Examples...

Eye contact is GREAT!  Yet I have to be at a point where I can pull without it.  (Hint: you can).

A good voice is great as well.  But I have to be at a point where I can pull even if my voice is shot from teaching seminar.

Being funny and physical are fantastic.  But I need to be able to pull just chilling and doing shit all.

It sounds bizarre and maybe over thinking it, but also consider the thousands upon thousands of hours I put into this.  Gains in progress get hard to come by, and for me this is what I know will bring me to the next level.

(I've always have an intuitive sense of what I need to do for the past 11 years in this.)

Bare in mind I'M A HOBBYST.

I do this shit for fun.  Purely just to do it.  I already get lots of girls -- often a few a week.  And have a great rotation.

So this isn't like "You have to get to this point to get laid..."

Rather it's that as a "game purist" who plays the game for no other reason than the pure joy of walking the path to mastery, this is what I'm currently focused on.

You don't need to focus on this to get a girl.  But if you want to learn what someone who is on this path focuses on at a certain point, you'll enjoy the vid!

CLICK HERE TO SEE ME EXPLAIN BOTH AT A NEWBIE-COMPREHENSIVE LEVEL, AS WELL AS ON A SUBTLE LEVEL, WHY YESTERDAY'S EPIPHANY BECOMES TODAY'S GIMMICKY CRUTCH.


Hope you got a lot of value out of this

It's something that you may appreciate if you're really walking the path, and maybe unneeded if you're more passively just trying to figure out how to get laid.

btw I noticed on the forum people kept asking about the asian girl in the front row, who is a friend of mine.

She's a cool girl who thought the social dynamics stuff is interesting -- ie: how you see at the top of the RSD Nation header "Your Hub For Dating Advice, Social Dynamics, And Self Actualization".

(The latter 2 are of interest to people, even if they're not MEN.).

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Alright so it's 6AM and I've just gotten home from another long night of gaming -- out since 9PM and totally wiped out.

I'm gonna crash so lemme know what you thought of the ideas in here.  Did you find the harsher stuff funny?  Do you have any personal experiences with this?  How have you found "stripping away the layers" of entitlement criterion to be helpful in your game?

I WANNA KNOW!! :)

Thanks for reading I'll talk to you soon!

Tyler

PS:  No more "First!  Second!  18th!!" shit.  KILLS the comments section.  It was cool.  It's done. :)  Appreciated!

PPS:  I KNOW YOU CAN RESIST!!  It's know hard.  You're the FIRST!  How can you not shout it out to the world?!  And yet men have accomplished great things in life, and I BELIEVE!!
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#1
Lupino-

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Awesome!
I 'm currently in a relationship but I've noticed my girl starting drama every one in a while - it's like she needs it - like she likes to be dominated. Like she likes those calm romantic moments after the storm. True story.
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Standza

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hooly shit..its so fucking difficult.fuck you tyler :))))
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Awesome post tyler ! 
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 Julien you stufuck ugtard, get slimfitshirts!
Big love :*
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#5
Robert Paulsen

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FIRST... video was fuckin jokes
the epiphanys and full on paradigm shifts can be way more satisfying than a woman's validation.
great vids, well done tyler
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travis_bickle

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1. I feel the last line of video 2 actually the most important one and resonates with me.

2. The video no 2.'s so real that it gave me the epiphany that even I was like "yeah Tyler"...I forgot that I came to the video to actually to learn and not for idol worship...

3. I also face the time when I find that when I'm into improvement, I know that I can do it (I actually do it, in cycles though) but I dread that I have to go through the phase of leaving my old identity and work habits. The time of knowing that what you were doing earlier was wrong and "this is the right way" is terrible coz it makes me feel that "oh, now I have to go in improvment mode, which I am not in currently, so fucked up things like who am I creep up"

4. As about the lines of self improvement and self acceptance, I want to share sth with you. Last year I had a lot of goals (out of which I achieved a lottt :)) but I had to go through a lot of habit changes. This burnt me up completely till mid 2011 and I purchased You can heal your life by Louise Hay and read it cover to cover. That book and also The Power of Now actually made me reach in such an awesome state of mind that I stopped resisting anything both in social life and its challenges and eventually things worked out for me. I even got an admission in an awesome MBA clg. That was the zone time for me when I wasn't cold but I was untouchable and had infinite self acceptance (LOL faced the same issue like you while writing....one can't define the extent of self acceptance).... Well now am 50% back on my old habits due to my laziness but still got the sense to improve. 
The SHIT part is I feel that I have to read those books again to get in that mood again. I know that I am missing things to understand or have forgotten them. Hey jewels are jewels and are meant to be learned....So I guess it boils down to your point in blue print that "saying ""to chill"" is easy but you need to have a foundation to be chill".

5. Lastly I couldn't thank you less for the awesome knowledge that you put up. Thank You coz it got me moving again and my life's a lot changed since I saw this stuff from Dec 2010.
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 P.S. Last year I was so much in the self loving self acceptance zone that I stopped coming to this site :P
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Next time I fuck a chick.....

Say Your 12 Bitch....

SAY IT!!!
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#9

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Last video is so the shit, I wanna stick my dick up into it. Gracias Grande, Mr Cook!
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 I CANT WAIT TO APPLY THIS MISSING FOUNDATION OF MY GAME K THX ;)
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SAAAWEEEET, new material to use in teh club AWWWYEAHHHHH
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#12
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"Gotta keep exploring the city you're in!  There's always hot women somewhere!  Except San Francisco which has girls who are really SMART AND NICE!!"

Dear Tyler,

Go fuck yourself

Love,

Jeff
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First vid was fucking hilarious, yep, small gradual improvements rocks.. 
Sec vid was fucking scary :)
Third vid was cool, specially liked the first 30 minutes.. and.. I coincidentally had this Dre Remix on repeat in the background when the Dr. Dre part came on in the end.. hilarious stuff

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OfbyNDiBKc
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Manu Frio

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I tried the "creating drama" stuff that Julien spoke of the other day (The girl I fucked said she wants to have my babies after 2 days of meeting her...)

Keep em coming fellas... Lord knows there's an abundance of Super Turbo honeys in NYC... I've been hitting NYC & Montréal lately, craziness all around!!!

Would love to see [Jeffy Free Tour Video], like for example what he did in Seattle... Jeffy reminds me of my cousins who are all natural [I Don't Give A Fuck] guys...
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I like articles which are authentic!!
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 haha im from cincinnati and was partying in buckhead while you guys were in atl... sad i didn't run into guys... and agreed wayyy hotter girls!
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 Yeah I find when my weaknesses are "highlighted" to point of being painful, but then I decide to keep going out and sticking to the process I definitely improve and move to a new plateau. It's just being concious of being on the journey and being ok with negative experiences. 
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 wtf

if a girl does that shit to me (again)

i'll take her hand, lead her to the door and say "have a nice life" then close the door behind her

what's wrong with that :) why play into all that bs
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#19

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First video is hilarious, though shows me a reality way deeper than i thought, this social dynamics stuff can get crazy

Second video really interesting. I can defo relate, after using "the mystery method" for bout a year or so, it was wierd, i was obsessed with if i had "value" or not. Like say im at a social gathering, if i wasnt the centre of attention and talking to lots of people, i suddenly felt like a loser. I had to be the one the girls fancied, that was talking to everyone, or I was nothing.

funny how our minds work, i guess the main thing ive taken away from this video is "i am enough" and that all the "techniques" and other things like self amusement, are just there to highlight and reinforce my belief that I am enough. as long as i believe and act true to that, i can get any girl

awesome and funny vids man, i look forward to seeing them both for value and entertainment now!

thanks
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 Love all the pimping value in these videos but I think I enjoy the comedic aspect better.  My belly hurts from laughing so much.  You guys are nuts.
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#21

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Now trying No eye contact and No phisicality and No awesome voice.
Already lauging inside. Fuck fucking, laughing is better.
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#22
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 Btw, best newbie gimmick.

"Hi my name is Owen Cook"
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#23
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 Dear tyler....as a newbie some of this shit fucks me up.  Everytime i start to feel like i "get it" one of your videos comes out and spins my head.  Would you suggest not watching any of your new videos except for foundations and the audio clip until you start getting crazy success?  I know that I should be able to filter what applies and what doesnt apply to my level, however I am still a retarded newbie and have been only in this stuff for a year now.
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#24

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Dear Tyler... I enjoy how all your videos fuck with my head (in a good way).

Where's that meditation video at?!!
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#25
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Women's experience of reality is different from that of men.

If we could take a pill that kept us in the "sweet spot" of chill / fun / challenge / funny / just cum for the rest of our we would be happy.

THAT'S 5 WHOLE EMOTIONS!!  WHO WOULD NEED MORE THAN 5?!?!

Women have hundreds upon hundreds of permutations, and want to experience ALL of them.
 
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Awesome!
I 'm currently in a relationship but I've noticed my girl starting drama every one in a while - it's like she needs it - like she likes to be dominated. Like she likes those calm romantic moments after the storm. True story.
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#26
Tyler

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Haha I actually don't mind the "First!" thing but my intuition is it's not good for the readers.
Standza wrote:
hooly shit..its so fucking difficult.fuck you tyler :))))
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#27
Tyler

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Thanks man.

The reason you're having trouble maintaining all this without continuing to read Ecky or watch my vids is that you're not SUPPOSED to be able to.

Humans are social.  We are who we surround ourselves with.  We're SPONGES.

Does it surprise you when a sponge soaks up red liquid that it's now RED, but that after the liquid dries out you need more of it?  Or that if you squeeze the red liquid out and soak in blue liquid that it becomes blue?

Stop trying to do it all yourself.  You can't.  It's okay to deliberately choose to surround yourself with positivity to soak that in.  I do it as well.

travis_bickle wrote:
4. As about the lines of self improvement and self acceptance, I want to share sth with you. Last year I had a lot of goals (out of which I achieved a lottt :)) but I had to go through a lot of habit changes. This burnt me up completely till mid 2011 and I purchased You can heal your life by Louise Hay and read it cover to cover. That book and also The Power of Now actually made me reach in such an awesome state of mind that I stopped resisting anything both in social life and its challenges and eventually things worked out for me. I even got an admission in an awesome MBA clg. That was the zone time for me when I wasn't cold but I was untouchable and had infinite self acceptance (LOL faced the same issue like you while writing....one can't define the extent of self acceptance).... Well now am 50% back on my old habits due to my laziness but still got the sense to improve. 
The SHIT part is I feel that I have to read those books again to get in that mood again. I know that I am missing things to understand or have forgotten them. Hey jewels are jewels and are meant to be learned....So I guess it boils down to your point in blue print that "saying ""to chill"" is easy but you need to have a foundation to be chill".

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#28
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Sorry, actually the second hottest girl this year for me was that model / lawyer chick from San Fran.  Then again she's from Paris and living there temporarily, but at least the city attracted her there.  Then again in Paris girls like her are a dime a dozen, but then again San Fran has Ghandi.

jlaix wrote:
"Gotta keep exploring the city you're in!  There's always hot women somewhere!  Except San Francisco which has girls who are really SMART AND NICE!!"

Dear Tyler,

Go fuck yourself

Love,

Jeff
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#29
Tyler

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That would be pretty sick in da club.
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First vid was fucking hilarious, yep, small gradual improvements rocks.. 
Sec vid was fucking scary :)
Third vid was cool, specially liked the first 30 minutes.. and.. I coincidentally had this Dre Remix on repeat in the background when the Dr. Dre part came on in the end.. hilarious stuff

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OfbyNDiBKc

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Did you make it to Free Tour?  Even if you don't do a paid program, ALWAYS do the Free Tour, they are excellent!
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 haha im from cincinnati and was partying in buckhead while you guys were in atl... sad i didn't run into guys... and agreed wayyy hotter girls!
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Nice.

I think you're doing a LOT of the right things to get good at this btw.
dave7- wrote:
 Yeah I find when my weaknesses are "highlighted" to point of being painful, but then I decide to keep going out and sticking to the process I definitely improve and move to a new plateau. It's just being concious of being on the journey and being ok with negative experiences. 
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Why do anything?  Fun.

But if you don't find it fun, no need at all.

btw if you think you can treat a girl the way I treat that girl and not at SOME POINT OR OTHER get shit tested on it (at least consistently by most girls...), maybe not realistic.

What's cool is once you pass the test she accepts the dynamic and you are good to go.  She re-tests once in a while when other hotter guys who would treat her better come around, but you pass again by the same format you zoned into the first time and you're good.
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 wtf

if a girl does that shit to me (again)

i'll take her hand, lead her to the door and say "have a nice life" then close the door behind her

what's wrong with that :) why play into all that bs
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Thanks, yeah I always want to make the videos outgoing / carefree / funny because that's such a huge part of the game.

It's the guys who are like "Yeah it's funny but where's the TECHNIQUE..." (despite that all that shit is laid out in Foundations and it would be pointless to hammer it again and again) who don't realize the game is morea bout SOUL than some sort of nerdy science.
AndyDufresne wrote:
 Love all the pimping value in these videos but I think I enjoy the comedic aspect better.  My belly hurts from laughing so much.  You guys are nuts.
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You've got to decide that on your own, but if your intuition is telling you it's information overload, then yes that's a good idea.

The main key is GO OUT A LOT!

If you go out a lot all this shit easily makes sense.  YOU  MUST GO OUT!
ApolloX3 wrote:
 Dear tyler....as a newbie some of this shit fucks me up.  Everytime i start to feel like i "get it" one of your videos comes out and spins my head.  Would you suggest not watching any of your new videos except for foundations and the audio clip until you start getting crazy success?  I know that I should be able to filter what applies and what doesnt apply to my level, however I am still a retarded newbie and have been only in this stuff for a year now.
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Thanks, will be out next few months, I have a lot in the pipeline already cut!
gotenks wrote:
Dear Tyler... I enjoy how all your videos fuck with my head (in a good way).

Where's that meditation video at?!!
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#36

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Awesome vids Tyler. Can't wait for the Philly programs!
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Tyler wrote:
Did you make it to Free Tour?  Even if you don't do a paid program, ALWAYS do the Free Tour, they are excellent!
tryhariwab wrote:
 haha im from cincinnati and was partying in buckhead while you guys were in atl... sad i didn't run into guys... and agreed wayyy hotter girls!

would love to check it out next time your in chicago... definitely worth the drive from cincy... keep it up!
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#38

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There should be a rule of thumb including newbies that if  a girl social violates, you have the green light to get in her face and tell her she would act like that because she wants your fucking babies and is distressed at the thought of  potentially never getting slamed by you (Yes Ive feild tested it word for word in first person along with others pretaining to them wanting my dick). Ive had some of my best results (night time) in a bad mood where I'm just really confruntational and impatiant which contrasts my default state to some extent. The second video really validated some of my experiences.  I guess the key to not over callibrate aggressive arguing is to maintain the man to a women frame which would be the distinction between a stud who doesnt take shit and an emotionally unstable individual that cant filter themselves. The eyes matter to. As long as I have a slight squint, it subcomunicats I know I can get away with what im saying rather than returning an emotional breakdown and reacting to the girl. I also know Im doing it right when the girl dennies the exchange ever happened. You guys could really turn this into a newbie proof gimmich If you analyzed the microcalibrations involved. I would overuse the shit out of it.
     Btw Tyler, if I saw you in a club, I would get a boner also ;)
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#39
statham

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 Seems the more fun you have the easier success gets. In a short amount of time I already have some great stories of interactions i've had, which feed the self amusment level getting me in state.....ahhh the circle of state.

Tyler and Julien sound like they have had such a laugh doing this stuff.
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Frank128

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Man your videos are always inspiring!. Always getting deeper into the understanding of the matrix ;) 
Dude can you write a post about the topic of intelligence. Is it needed in order to be successful in life?. I'd love to hear your insights about it.

Thank ya.
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#41

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I appreciate the videos today. Sometimes I get more value from the videos where you guys just fuck around as it tempers my tendency to get overly analytical. I picked up on a similar theme in the second video. 
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#42
Xandercage

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wicked awesome how much content TYLER has been putting out recently. Weird how much I'M enjoying the value from the little things in "the game". videos with two instuctors are always SO much fun to watch, seeing two mega chill dudes vibing on a topic is great for getting multiple perspectives at once; just watching how "HIGH value" looks is helpful in the teaching process, idk why, LOL!
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#43

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Hah. I'm female and I went along to the last Perth free tour with Julien. I'm often asked why.

There is a lot of generally applicable advice here. I went through 3 stages of interest:

1. Fascinating analysis of interactions
2. How can I respond to guys who have these skills?
3. How can I use this process to improve my own skills?

If you ever want to branch out to women I'd be happy to guinea pig for you. Although if you admit to helping women you lose the secret society appeal where guys think they are getting an edge on the competition. It's a game not a war...
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#44
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Inspired.
Tyler wrote:
Nice.

I think you're doing a LOT of the right things to get good at this btw.
dave7- wrote:
 Yeah I find when my weaknesses are "highlighted" to point of being painful, but then I decide to keep going out and sticking to the process I definitely improve and move to a new plateau. It's just being concious of being on the journey and being ok with negative experiences. 

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#45
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Join Date: 03/28/2012 | Posts: 23

 Loved the 2nd video!

In the old days, I could give myself permission to k-close once I saw 2-3 IOIs. Nowadays, it's as if I literally have this HUGE checklist of things I need to be/feel/do before I feel entitled to act!!

Gotta keep an eye out for this limiting problem. Thanks Tyler.
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fsally

fsally

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Join Date: 07/07/2007 | Posts: 451

 
"HELLO I'M BENGALI!"

LOL you made me admit that I'm a paki curry in bootcamp. In my mind I was like 'Bitch I'm fucking Bengali / Bangladeshi. Fuck you!'

Lol anyway I absolutely loved the 2nd video. It's one of the best videos you've ever released. Keep up the good work buddy. I'll try to be there to see you in summit!

Faisal.
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#47

alvferna

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Join Date: 07/26/2011 | Posts: 30

You say you couldnt hang with Dre! hah im sure you could xD even though i understand u where trying to make a point there...
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orgazm

orgazm

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Join Date: 04/07/2011 | Posts: 394

 yea. you raised emotionnal intensity by simply raising the volume. gat me more associated. 
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#49
~cavalheiro

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Join Date: 08/29/2008 | Posts: 118

Ay TD

I have this pattern happen to me for awhile: I'm totally free to make intimate kino,  touching areas that normaly other guys don't do, girls are confortable around me, but they simply don't let me k-close/start a relationship !

Why is that? is bad to go to hard on kino in such areas? is that what causes the girl to "shut down"? should I keep the kino lightly..?

I wonder if is that issue by girls dont wanting to be perceived as sluts, the right way is to go "romantic"? respecting the girl, making cumpliments? this situation is happening to me very often.

You see, I had this girl, she LITERALLY put my hand in her ass inside her pants, under her underwear while we were in a party, but when I came for the kiss, she denies, I plow, try it again, she gave me a lightly slap on my mouth saying "stop it!" - what a fuck? what is a kiss to whom was with his hands in her naked ass??

I saw a video of yours were you talk about girls being attention junkies.

I was talking to this girl and in the second she was talking about the way one of her friends walks, calling him gay, and then said that I am too. the issue was boring, I ignored her naturally, not as a way to push her bottons, she starts to scream "IM SORRY.. YOU ARE NOT LIKE THAT I'M TALKING TO YOU (repeat 3x)" and then starts to talk about sex between me and her. or qualifying about her hot body.

I'm kind of lost here. What's the "correct" way when a hot girl start to brag about her hotness? when she put my hand in her ass after me touching her back, talking some random shit, she says "I know what u're looking for" and put my hands there, (and NO, she wasn't drunk, her beer was even not that ice) I react with relaxed "oh my god girl u're hot" face but I think that this is a matter of attention junkie. so, stay icey or what?

for now I'm treating her without reacting too much when she do some intimate kino on me, but she keeps pursuing me and making some publics dramas

I remember Brad saying something about 'the dynamic of the girl pulling your clothes off almost rapping you instead the man doing this" , In the video "make her chase you" but the clip was cuted in this important issue. Would guys talk more about it? I want to know not as a magic pill, but the dynamic behind it.

I notice that I usualy go for the kiss when the girl gave me i/sois above mentioned. maybe this should be the prob.

p.s. I always see in your video (doing LESS with girls) you comenting about the importance of the meditation. how u usually do it? seated, staring the wall and just breathing? why not do definitelly a video on that matter, as a 20 sec bonus?  (i fortgot to ask that to brad on my bc) 
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#50
kyte

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Join Date: 11/08/2008 | Posts: 73

So you go against your own principles/rules of not drinking just to fuck some girl? I think the most important lesson I've ever learned is to always be true to myself and do what I believe in, and never change my opinion, especially not for some girl.

I've experienced the very same thing myself, and I used to just do what they told me, which got me laid, sure, but I always felt I had let myself down afterwards. Why do I have to smoke this cigarette just for her to be able to talk to me? Is it worth breaking my own rules just so some girl can feel safe/not judged/whatever and have sex with me? Do I even want a girl like that?

Is that what this is all about for you? Just getting laid, no matter what it takes?
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