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Hey there, it's Todd.

In this article you will learn how releasing outcome can give you ultimate power in any interaction. You’ll also see practical examples of how to negotiate and how to force people into your frame of reality.

This is a topic I’ve had on my mind for literally years, but I was never sure quite whether or how to put it out. I’ve always noticed that the guys who seemed to have the least going for them seemed to have most success with women, but it took a long while for it to dawn on me that the reason was that they also had almost NOTHING TO LOSE.

I’m currently writing this article before getting maybe two hours of sleep and then running off to teach a regional conference and bootcamp, so I’m going to keep this short and sweet. The concepts in this video WILL help you if you internalize and apply them.

This week I’ve been doing a 5-day bootcamp with Jeffy in New Orleans and I can tell you that they call it “The Big Easy” for a reason. The girls here are soooo DTF! Jeffy called it redneck vegas. Lol. Anyway it’s a fun time, though not the classiest place I’ve ever been to. Speaking of travel…

Where I'll be next...

BootcampFebruary 22-24, 2013: New York, New York, USA
BootcampMarch 1-3, 2013: Washington DC, USA
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BootcampMarch 8-10, 2013: Los Angeles, California, USA (under 21 bootcamp)Wait-List
BootcampMarch 22-24, 2013: New York, New York, USA
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BootcampMarch 29-31, 2013: Austin, Texas, USA
BootcampApril 5-7, 2013: Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, USA
BootcampApril 12-14, 2013: Boston, Massachusetts, USA
FreeTourApril 25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands (7pm-9pm)
BootcampApril 25-27, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
BootcampMay 2-4, 2013: London, United Kingdom
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BootcampJune 27-29, 2013: Montreal, Canada
FreeTourJune 27, 2013: Montreal, Canada (7pm-9pm)
FreeTourJuly 3, 2013: Boston, USA (7pm-9pm)



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Ok. On to the video.



As I said, I’m keeping this one short and sweet, and the video pretty much speaks for itself. The major point is this. Anything you are attached to is a weakness because it has the potential to hold you back. Fear of loss keeps you from being free and from taking risks.

Recognize that everything can and will be taken away eventually, and act accordingly. There’s more, but watch the video. I think it’s quite entertaining.

Also please post your comments and feedback. I’d like to find out what is most important to you, so I can adjust accordingly.

Before I sign off, I want to mention that if you want more unique thoughts and information I put out ideas and lines on both facebook and twitter daily:

facebook.com/rsdtodd
and
twitter.com/rsdtodd


Thanks again, and until next time,
-Todd

p.s. Check out www.rsdinnercircle.com for more info on the program and how to get ongoing lessons and support from RSD Instructors like myself.

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#1
Law~

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1st.
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#2
Smokin'

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2nd. 

Awesome video, man. This is probably one of the most important views when it comes to both game and life, in my opinion. Glad you adressed it! More videos like this are most welcome, thanks! :)
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The Mack

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damn
I remember watching Fight Club back in the day
and wanting to be like Tyler Durden
now we see everything he said is true
its all real
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#4

MikeGlory

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Hey, Todd.

Strategy wise... Would you say going super hardcore should be not at the beginning of the night (say, 11pm-1am), but later?

So, at the beginning it is like cool and friendly, and then, you go "nothing to lose" authoritative/asshole mode? 

Ready to make male friends, female friends get shocked at you, etc. Ready to get kicked out of the club?

I just don't see myself going hardcore early... it seems to be a waste of energy.
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BerlinCity

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sick as usual, man....straight to the point.
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#6

Teuton

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Hey Todd,
can you do a video on your day2 tatics that gets girls to invest and game you more? I really liked your tip about making things awkward at the start so it can only get better. What are some other distinctions that make your close rate be so high on day2s?
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Frank128

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dude the video was awesome, I liked it a lot. This has been your best video, articulate speech
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Timone

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Great fucking video Todd, seriously, one of the only ones I've downloaded to save for later. Fantastic. Really need to think this way more often, are there any books which will push your point further, I head about Jed Mckenna but I'm not sure if that's the same theme. I'll be rewatching this video A LOT. Thanks dood.
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#9

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Awesome vid! I agree, think this is a really important point. Loved the fight club clips too, such a good film
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#10
Zer0.Point

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Jed McKenna is pretty much a nihilist, and apparently it has made a pretty big impact on Brad's game.
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Paris Boum Boum

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Wow man, this is hands down one of the best vids I haver ever seen, ever. Incredible.
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#12

G Bizz

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Great video Todd. I can relate to this one much more than your other ones! xD
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Curtis.Slone

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Like the video Todd. This is a great philosophy to push.
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IndyJones

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definitely my favorite Todd video by far

good shit mang keep it up
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Murdoc

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Todd!

Thankyou this video really resignated with me.

I am turning 19 at the end of this year and how you described yourself at that stage of your life is exactly how I am now.

I am always working on what I can do in the future, and whistiling away what I could do right NOW. It is so weird you talking about a situatuon that is practically identical to mine, "preserving" myself for someting better, the special unopened trading card was a great analogy. Haha!

Anyways thanks Todd, another thing you have said recently that I am starting to hammer in, is the closing stuff. Actually trying to be a finisher, I hate to admit it but I think I am also afraid! So embarrasing.

Since I found game, about 5 months ago (was 17 then), I have gained so much more confidence and I know I have what it takes to become a fucking master at this stuff. But im not jumping through final windows, I even found myself last month telling a girl I was going to find my freinds when I thought she ready to be fucked.
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Yo, any books on Nihilism besides fight club?
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Awesome insight. I'll be using that mindset tonight. 
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Dr Feelgood

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How did the story with your buddy and the homeless guy end? Did your friend pay?

And what would you have done?
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Zer0.Point

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Lupino- wrote:
Yo, any books on Nihilism besides fight club?
Jed McKenna

This video is also probably one of my top I've seen. Very deep shit going on there.
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#20

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where do I find these...wigmen
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#21
Bruce

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stranglely enough my buddy whose been with hundreds of chicks always says teh same thing  "you got nothing to lose youre gonna die someday anyway, you could die tomorrow you might as well."  todd is right
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yeah i really like it 
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#23

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This vid is great! It put me back on the path I'd forgotten about .I've pretty much realised that when I die I probably will not even know that I ever existed. My life now is to undo the conditioning and just get to the point where I can fully appreciate the meaninglessness of life.
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Sweet as
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his name is Robert Paulson
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Sweet vid Todd, really enjoyed it. Hopefully I'll be at your London Freetour in May!
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#27

onzalimey

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Amazing topic and great video. Something I've realized before too but noones made a point of expressing it before. Well done. Would like to see you talk about it even more since I feel it is such an in depth/important topic. I agree too though it is frustrating since it seems like its backwards if you want to achieve success. Makes you think for sure.
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#28

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This video just gave me the biggest epiphany since at least a year. This is exactly what I've been trying to get to. This place of having nothing to lose. I couldn't explain it untill this video. 
I've trolled your videos a little in the past but I take it back. You have my respect.
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#29
smack_attack

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It's so much more beautiful, not having anything to lose. You legit don't care. When I heard that, I thought that meant not enjoying anything, but it's really the complete opposite.
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#30
Anthony John

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"Stop trying to make it work, start trying to make it Epic."
In my philosophy class I learned about a greek god whom did not love his family.  This god did not love his family because he was at war, so if someone were to kill his family, he did not feel any remorse.  Now this may seem very extreme being family and all; however, you can apply this method with anyone you meet.  So if you had a friend or a girl flake on you, or even stab you in the back, you feel nothing.  Having nothing to lose helps you be clear in your intent, because all you want to do is have fun, make it epic, and maybe get laid. 
This is one of your best posts Todd, and you have many of them. 
Just Let Go!
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#31
Polarize

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The way I've rationalized Nihlism is even if the universe has no meaning, this doesn't mean we can't create a life with meaning for ourselves. Which I think what you said comes in to play "Stop trying to make it work and start making it epic".  

To take it a step further, I think when we disapprove of someone's behavior, many people will try to tell you that you're not really a "Nihilist" because you're trying to impose your morals. Which people will say that you're logically inconsistent for doing so. However, I've been able to reconcile those behaviors along with Nihilism IMO. 

This is how I've done it: When I disapprove of someone's behaviors, I am simply displaying how I'm disliking certain actions, but in no way am I making moral claims. I am simply being emotionally honest by expressing myself about it while simultaneously being aware that the universe has no meaning. 

But then again, I don't have to be logically consistent :P

Anyway, thats enough philosophy ;-)
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#32

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Awesome video

- If anyone is under 21 and lives in the St. Louis area (I'm in West County/Kirkwood and 19) who wants to go out then send me a message if interested. Thanks
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I wasn't sure what to expect according to the title but it was a great vid, glad I watched it.

Great quote at the end actually "Stop trying to make it work and start trying to make it Epic".
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#34

kapo

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everytime i reflect on this notion it guarantees i open or take action
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