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Hey RSDNation… you know how to party!

In this article you will learn how to be persistent WITHOUT being needy, and you’ll get a glimpse into what an amazing peer group can do for your game.

I’ve been hanging out in Los Angeles with Tyler for the past weekend and learning a TON from the experience.

It’s always so interesting when I get to go out with another instructor, as I get to see a fresh and different approach to game and to bootcamp. But this is particularly true with Tyler because he is ALWAYS trying something new.

This weekend, in particular, was a time of small but significant revelations in terms of what is optimal in the realm of game. Some of that comes down to learning, and a big part of it comes down to attitude… however in game, attitude is EVERYTHING.

Before I get into the videos I want to remind you guys that Inner Circle is now live. We will be holding our global kickoff event in Los Angeles this coming Sunday.

The Papa Bachelor Bash Customer Appreciation Seminar will be a full day of presentation by Tyler, Jeffy, Papa, and myself and it should be absolutely amazing. The event is free for all Inner Circle members and we'll be posting an exclusive video for anyone who can't attend.

Also if you are interested in more information about Inner Circle in general, please visit www.rsdinnercircle.com

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EDIT:  One more thing that came up after wrting this article is I got an unexpected bootcamp sign-up in Los Angeles this weekend.  So I'll be teaching the 13th-15th if anyone is interested.  Contact me or call our sales team as the program is not listed on the schedule yet.
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OK, on to the videos. The first video is from the Los Angeles Free tour event and I talked about a topic that really seems to mess with people’s heads when it comes to pick up. Specifically, that is the difference between “be persistent” and “be willing to walk away”.

These philosophies would seem to be exact opposites, yet both are routinely given as pickup advice. How can that possibly make sense? Well I explain in the video.



Basically, when it comes to game, I like to make a distinction between “how” and “why”. The how is the specific actions you take, while the why is the intention behind your actions.

A phrase I’ve used for a long time, to explain the “new” philosophies on game is, “If you get the why right, the how will follow”. I believe this is true in the majority of cases. Most of game is about FAKING being a cool guy, but if you can actually convince yourself you are cool, you no longer have to fake it.

On a practical level, what this means is that I would encourage the “how” part to be persistent, while the “why” part is outcome independent. That is it is persistence without agenda.

Persistence should occur because it is fun, or because it’s the right thing to do… rather than persistence out of neediness or desperation. It’s a simple concept, but the vast majority of people get it badly wrong.

This concept was brought home to me by two students on bootcamp this weekend.

One of them had kind of a rough night for most of the night, but he kept smiling and having fun throughout and at the end he PULLED A THREESOME. Yes, you heard me; a threesome pull!

The other student was smart, successful and talented, and he did a lot of things right, but he would keep censoring himself a few minutes into the set. So his sets would look really good for a few minutes, then he’d start thinking and they’d fall apart.

The advice I gave him was to stop trying to make it work, and I also gave him some exercises for speaking illogically. The difference when he just had fun was pronounced.

I told him, “Stop trying to make it work. Start trying to make it epic.” I then proceeded to write this quote on my facebook and twitter pages. If you’d like a steady stream of lines, advice and philosophy to help you with women and with life, subscribe to my pages at:

facebook.com/rsdtodd

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twitter.com/rsdtodd

The second video I’ve included for your viewing pleasure today is a little personal narrative about Project Hollywood and my first summer with RSD.

Basically, that summer was a huge formative experience that helped me become the man I am today, and I could not have done it without a great crew of guys around me to support me. I hope you enjoy the video.



If you want access to a peer group and mentors who will push you to excel, click over to www.rsdinnercircle.com and get involved.

It’s funny how clearly I can remember those early days at project Hollywood because they were so meaningful to me as a young kid. I can assure you that without being immersed in an environment where pick-up was normal and encouraged,

There is no way I would have achieved the heights I currently have in terms of my game. I encourage you all to find a peer group like that, whether through RSD or on your own.

Ok, time for me to go, but I’ll be back with a new article next week, and I encourage you to attend the FREE Papa Bachelor Bash Seminar if you are able.

‘Till next time,
-Todd

p.s. My upcoming bootcamp dates with spots available are September 21-23 in Austin, TX and Nov 30-Dec 2 in Chicago, IL.

I will also be doing speaking for free in Boston, Philadelphia, San Francisco and Washington DC within the next two months, so if you are in those cities and would like to attend, email me and I’ll hit you back with the details as soon as we finalize them.

p.p.s. Please check out www.rsdinnercircle.com and get involved in the most comprehensive pickup immersion available anywhere
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#1

Robster

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boo
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EnVee

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dope!
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Will you be doing any kind of free tour or speaking event while in Austin?
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roadrally

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 Todd are you going to do a free tour event in austin?
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Todd

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We don't currently have anything scheduled in Austin, and we did a free tour there really recently (I think), but my official policy is I'll get in front of an audience anywhere anytime that I can...  SOO the answer is yes, but I haven't figured out how yet.  Maybe it will be a speech, maybe just sitting down with a few guys for a lunch.

please rsvp to todd@realsocialdynamics.com so I can get an idea of who and how many are interested.

Also, any Inner Circle members in Austin who are interested, I will try to meet up with you separately as is my promise whenever I go to a city.
dave7- wrote:
Will you be doing any kind of free tour or speaking event while in Austin?
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Todd

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Also, after posting today I got an unexpected bootcamp sign-up in Los Angeles for this Thursday-Saturday Sept. 13-15.  I wasn't even planning on teaching this weekend, but now I have a program that is currently a 1-on-1 and not even listed on the schedule yet... for anyone who is interested.
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H0wardR0ark

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 What ever happened to the guy who approached 12 girls a day for 2 years and never got kissed?  Did he eventually get good?
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Xandercage

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hey todd,
your public speaking is improving! for me the best part about the vids isnt always the content, it also includes how the instructor expresses himself. seeing the instructor's reality manifests itself in the way he presents his content helps me develop my own reality in relation to the video content but also my own reality to everything else in and outside game.  ima be an asshole and tell you that i'd like to see more intensity. i almost said aggressiveness, but you've got a defined style that already has some of the element of "Aggresiveness" - i just want to see more "raw" in your actual speaking presentation.  :)

as far as content (me likey), i really relate to your old sticking point of not escalating. i started laughing when you told the story of "isn't a handshake a little too formal for us?". honestly, ive had that shit happen to me A LOT. sometimes its like i dont even see that window (even though its blatantly obvious), other times i just delay it and delay it and delay it and then i realize im being a and im like "shit fuck balls step it up shit fuck..." and i turn escalation into a massive huge deal and then me and the chick are both like what the fuck!? oddly, as soon as i overcome one thing by stepping up as man to woman i forget about it completely because of how miniscule it becomes and then wonder why im plateau'ing again...

you mentioned the best way to get past this is hitting it up hard with like-minded people; im seriously considering RSD Inner Circle :P biggest thing im curious about is how a 20 year old (me) could utilize the program. (ive got a million excuses: im too young, i cant get into bars, no one wants to drag young-newbie around, not enough money... etc etc.) i moved to San Diego at age 18 from east coast and I still barely know anyone out here, im tired of fucking around like a little girl and want to go all out and get my shit on track, step it up with no excuses but damn when im by myself i feel like batman in the big dark pit. its difficult to tell myself "do it, OR YOU'LL DIE LIKE A CHODE" 24/7, if that makes any sense.

as always thanks for the free content, keep up the really great work!
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#9

RobbieTeutonic

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Join Date: 04/24/2012 | Posts: 297

polarization is something i need to get in my reality cause it includes irreverence and freedom from outcome in a way. Nice videos man!
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Stinkfist

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 Yay mister Todd is back with some heavy shit! Great stuff buddy.
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Dr Feelgood

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I like the "Beauty and the Beast" ad in the background of the second vid. "How brave is your love?" Very fitting...
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Bossco

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Good.
It's amazing how many paradoxes there are with this stuff; impossible to grasp though without  experience.
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Brucefast

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"Fuck Pleasant" Be Polarizing, they either love you or hate you!" Very Astute and potent point! Todd. When game is approached from this perspective a lot ambiguities just simply fall into place. IE:

Why do some guys pull and other guys don't? guys who pull are taking th risks.

Why are some guys getting attraction every time they go out ? risks all the time-rather being nice and girls recognize the guys who are confident enough to take the risks
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sapmi

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Its the difference between being reactive and responsive! If you're chasing the girl coming from a position of being responsive and cool, thats fine. If you're chasing her from a position of scarcity (reactivness), snap yourself out of it. The reactive/responsivness distinction has been my major epiphany these last few weeks
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Basically just go out and esculate.
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Smash Adams

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 At 19:03 "Half-assed lukewarm sets don't get anybody anywhere. They're just a waste of time for you and for the girl. Don't do that."
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Join Date: 05/24/2011 | Posts: 8

The second video explains EXACTLY how I want Inner Circle to be. People who aren't afraid to step up and succeed, people who will push each other and not make any excuses, who are willing to take action and have a blast doing it. No one can become GREAT on their own. Let's do this.
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awwww.... todd just identified my #1 sticking point lol
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another angle to "intent vs. freedom from outcome"
mix in a little humor and your videos will rock!

btw: the new Inner Circle page is understandable! good work, especially that there are 2 different membership options wasn't clear to that point!
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