statham's Blog
I have noticed in the last week that the women I have known from before I started this, are really different with me.
Last night I was watching the football in the pub and a girl that used to date a mate of mine came in with her friend. She said hello to me from the next table, I said hi then leant forward on the bench I was sitting, opened my palms and puckered my lips gesturing for a kiss. I did this with a real serious face, like she was in the wrong here. She said “what” I replied “I am waiting for my kiss!” She immediately went “oh sorry!” and rushed over for a kiss and hug.
We joined them for the rest of the evening and had a great time. There were a few guy friends with them but I quickly established higher value in the group by telling more entertaining stories and gags. I paid some attention to the guy’s stories and more to the girls but never gave myself to full spectator mode. I had people in the spectator mode when I talked. I did notice that when the girl was telling her stories, she had a few her eyes tended to be on me.
The football was done (c’mon England!) and we were at the bar and I was making the effort to chat to my mate, having our own little chilled party. I left the group chatted to another mate that was in a group of lads. I good point to make is momentum and state does not have to come from approaching just women, or clowning with your mates. If you’re introduced to some cool new blokes that you have a good chat with that can fuel it too.
The girl and her mate had come outside now with their chodey bloke mates from work. I got back in with them got their emotions up a bit with a few gags, kissed them both on the cheek got hugs and was gone.
So...This time last year I was not even in this girl’s radar to worth remembering my name, now its hugs and kisses without any kind of event before this that would give us this “friend” status. I found my actions relaxed, unforced, un-needy, not trying to impress but actually doing it.
I would like to know if anyone has had the same kind of experience, a kind of female acquaintance barometer in your social group?
Last night I was watching the football in the pub and a girl that used to date a mate of mine came in with her friend. She said hello to me from the next table, I said hi then leant forward on the bench I was sitting, opened my palms and puckered my lips gesturing for a kiss. I did this with a real serious face, like she was in the wrong here. She said “what” I replied “I am waiting for my kiss!” She immediately went “oh sorry!” and rushed over for a kiss and hug.
We joined them for the rest of the evening and had a great time. There were a few guy friends with them but I quickly established higher value in the group by telling more entertaining stories and gags. I paid some attention to the guy’s stories and more to the girls but never gave myself to full spectator mode. I had people in the spectator mode when I talked. I did notice that when the girl was telling her stories, she had a few her eyes tended to be on me.
The football was done (c’mon England!) and we were at the bar and I was making the effort to chat to my mate, having our own little chilled party. I left the group chatted to another mate that was in a group of lads. I good point to make is momentum and state does not have to come from approaching just women, or clowning with your mates. If you’re introduced to some cool new blokes that you have a good chat with that can fuel it too.
The girl and her mate had come outside now with their chodey bloke mates from work. I got back in with them got their emotions up a bit with a few gags, kissed them both on the cheek got hugs and was gone.
So...This time last year I was not even in this girl’s radar to worth remembering my name, now its hugs and kisses without any kind of event before this that would give us this “friend” status. I found my actions relaxed, unforced, un-needy, not trying to impress but actually doing it.
I would like to know if anyone has had the same kind of experience, a kind of female acquaintance barometer in your social group?