Okay, I basically got 2 dates - one from a 'sort of' CA and the other from my very first Direct CA (and only so far) in the daytime.
Anyway, i basically had the 2 dates and then Easter came which meant i couldnt go out on the weekend in the day, so I've slipped off for the passed week or so.
So I thought I'd post up that I'm going to go out. EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
In the City
I will now start going out at night to approach. I will go to the city alone on days when no one else is going out AND I will get the 5 girls I normally go out (usually jsut for a night out) with to help me approach other women.
I will also do lone night game but as the train home is at 00:15am, i will have to make them short nights.
Also in attempts to expand my social circle (I have a good one I just don't meet up with the people in it!) I will go out with them and make plans to chill with them.
Remember I want to be really good, I basically want to be able to walk up to a girl day/night and do a good shot at it walking away pretty certain that I couldn't have done more - I hate the feeling of knowing you should have done more/less.
I want to have a good dating/sex life as right now its been non-existent for 3 years! 1 gf, had sex with 1 girl, no dates or ever really put it on a girl. I never knew how it worked and always thought I'd be a monster for attempting to.
I want to have fun with girls! I want to give value, i love flirting and love the feeling you get from just socialising with people and flirting with girls.
I like being in control of my life and proving things to myself.
I feel like Im on level 4.
level 1 was just getting into it.
level 2 was when i could finally speak to an attractive girl on CA.
level 3 is flirting in my social circle and being able to open CA directly "You look really good" in daytime but eject after.
Level 4 seems like is actually making proper approaches and feeling like more of a closer. Liek now i feel more of a sexual being (without sounding gay) Before it was hard to approach and girl and do anything because i had no idea what i was doing, so closed up and distant from my sexuality!
Oh I thought I would add a technique I use in the gym.
Basically when I'm in the gym, I'm always alone - well others are around but I have no partner. And its hard to keep focused, keep pumped for the whole routine or do the right/progressive weight.
Recently I came up with a technique which I'm sure people use but I've always lacked focus and motivation always drifting off into my head.
This is it.
You think of everything that has ever annoyed you, angers you, pisses you off which for me is anything that is to do with me not being my best self such as 'not closing that girl', 'losing a girl', 'not turning for the gym a certain day', 'the fact I'm lazy', 'getting into a realllllllly bad uni'. I focus on these and say to them myself (almost, if not actually, verbally) and it pisses me off! I say stuff like "What? You cant do 112.5kg on this squat for 1 measily rep? You're a fucking failure, go do something with your life! How are you going to look people in the eye if you can't even perform this peice of shit task? If you fail here, you're just showing your habit of being a failure".
Then I think "Fuck you, watch this! I'm a man! I finish and complete things, I go 100% into life. Fuck you!" And Ive been doing great, its helping me with my Deadlifts and Squats especially and generally helps me finish my routine. Stops me falling into a lazy pattern.
Also I only challenge msyelf to make it to the gym I dont think "Oh shit, i have to go to the gym, go up a weight on my squat then do leg extensions, oh shit, I'm supersetting them with leg curls too. . . I do need a rest actually"
So literally turning up is my ONLY goal. I'm thinking of using this for game, I sorta do but its hard, I'm definitely going to start doing NightGame - daygame is hard to stay in the 'mode'. Most girls are walking fast etc. I always knew daygame was just to crush my AA though :)
Hi all, I am a total newbie for everyone on here!
I do daygame because I don't really have anyone to wing. Well now i do - before i felt i was too lame to ask the girls i know to wing with me (my main friends are 6 girls) and I can't find any wings that want to go out regularly.
So now I have spent mooonths desensitising myself to being able to approach Directly in the streets.
In the process (a long one) I learnt many things;
I can actually learn and succeed at things - had many stop-starts and 'Give up' moments due to extreme limiting beliefs.
Girls can find me attractive.
(learnt this one after today's outing) That game is about as soon as you set your foot out the door NOT when you 'decide' to start playing.
Generally being normal whilst going to the close is your best bet. I've done the weird stuff in my early days.
Make small - TINY - goals for each step. Like this Go Indirect, Go indirect + compliment, Compliment + eject, Compliment + stay and carry on.
Each day progress tiny amounts.
Get as many dates as you humanly can. Always close any girl you think its going well with.
Don't limit your game to 'just CA' (as i did) or Just social circle. Blend both. I used to think "Ah i could get with this girl but I haven't learnt so and so yet". Nope! You have to DO it first then after a while you'll get better PLUS accept that you are good enough already for girls.
Why Im here : I never planned on RSD but after the year or so since i found out about the community, it is the most active one around, also it doesn't help you in a certain sense but gives you all these CLOUDY concepts that really help you push through. Its hard to explain, I was seriously RELUCTANT to like RSD at first ahaha :D
Also Im starting to notice just how important voice is.
Question: How do I ask questions and newbie things on here? I dont want to clutter the board or lower the Signal:Noise ratio.