Alright fellas, as per your requests today I want to tackle the subject of Qualification – what it is and where it stands in a Game 2.0 universe.

Let’s start at the top. Qualification is the process of actively getting a girl to demonstrate value to you – to essentially earn your approval and affection. The idea is that by qualifying, you accomplish 2 very important things: 1.) You get the girl actively trying to earn you, thus you’re setting yourself up as the prize, getting her invested, ect and 2.) You give her grounds to believe that you like her for non-superficial (sex) reasons.



As the community has advanced the notion of qualification has drifted a bit to the periphery as it’s accepted more and more that 1.) it’s totally ok to pull girls just for sex and 2.) qualification is part of a rigid structure that has generally been replaced by a more free-flowing, natural style.

So, does qualification still have a place in PU dogma?



Well, in almost every one of my recent pickups some form of female qualification certainly occurred – though at this point to actively seek to qualify would be asinine and almost backwards. See, qualification stems from a model in which the girl inherently has higher value than the guy – so the idea was to pump your value to the point that you have enough compliance from the girl that she’ll buy into qualifying herself, and when she does she’ll backwards rationalize “oh, I’m telling this guy how great I am, I must want him to like me because I must obviously like him…”

At first glance that may seem logical, but look at the corresponding thought going through the guy’s head – “ok now I think I have enough value and compliance to get her to qualify, I’ll start qualifying and hopefully she’ll start trying to ‘win’ me”.

Personally that is the absolute LAST headspace I want to be in when I’m out. Remember – the self is always shining through – you are like an open book, the last thing I want the girl to see me thinking is “what step should I take now to get her”.


Instead, when I’m out my thoughts resemble a broken record “Yes!.. It’s on… Yes… It’s on…”

When I’m in this headspace she can what kind of guy I am and the whole value issue is subverted entirely.

Beyond that, consider this… in field guys always ask me things like “ok the girl did bla bla bla and said bla bla, what should I do?” – my answer is always this:

“Imagine you have a signed contract saying she IS going home with you tonight – no matter what she’s going home with you…how would you behave for the rest of the night…?”



That is – assume the pull…now what?

Well I can’t answer that for you, but if I’m talking to a girl and I know it’s on (well let’s face it, it’s always on ;-) then I’m gonna do 2 things. 1.) Enjoy the night and 2.) Take the time to get to know her. I’ll drop the ‘game’ and simply start getting to know her as a person – not because it’s the ‘right’ move, but because I like meeting people and beyond that I know I’ll enjoy what comes later much more if the person actually means something to me – if I like them on both a physical and personal level.

And because the girl senses I’m a confident guy, operating without an agenda, her natural reaction is going to be to share the parts of herself that she feels best about – the parts that actually mean something to her…

So with traditional qualification it looked something like…
Guy: So I really like Italian food, what’s your best dish?
Girl: Oh, I cook really good spaghetti.
Guy: Oh cool, I like that…

You can see this is happening on a very superficial level, and realistically, what are the chances that the girl actually identifies with her cooking skills…?



Now instead, if I simply assume it’s on and allow the girl to communicate with me in a way that lets her know I’m not judging her – she’ll much more readily open up on things she naturally identifies proudly with…So it will look more like:

Me: Yeah I moved to Chicago about a month ago, I love that I can just grab a cup of coffee in the morning and write for a while before I even start on my day…
Girl: Oh yeah, I moved here for work also, I teach autistic kids and there’s a really good program for them here…

See, because I went first and shared a piece of myself, agenda-free, she’s going to reciprocate by doing the same – and what she does respond with will be infinitely more meaningful than something as trivial as her spaghetti skills.

The result: I become the guy that likes her for the REAL her – that appreciates the things about her that she wishes other guys would appreciate. And as all my subcommunications are showing – It’s On – at this point is she really gonna disagree??

Cheers,
Ryan