RSD In Action's Blog

This weekend was literally the most life changing weekend in my entire life. Nathan, Tom, and Alex really care deeply about their student’s success, not just on a professional level, but a personal one. Literally, it’s saddening. I truthfully feel on the verge of crying, how much effort they put in and how much they really fucking care. I’m by no means a softie either. These guys are the fucking shit and represent the core of Real Social Dynamics.

My buddy on the forums who I met at RSD Superconfrence in New York City back in May of ’08 flew to Austin with me to take this program. He flew from NYC, I flew from Wisconsin. Both of us had taken RSD programs before when we were in the ‘beginning’ stages of our game. 6 months had passed for me, 12 months since boot camp for my buddy. So naturally, seeing as we were the only 2 students, the program’s content was tailored to us being more advanced than the ‘usual’ student, (if there even is such a thing).

We both flew in on Thursday, the night before boot camp and went out together. It went good; I enjoyed myself and got accustomed to the Austin scene which is A LOT different than cities I’ve “gamed” in before, IE Toronto, London (UK), Cancun, New York City, Chicago, etc. Everything is so laid back as far as dress code goes and bouncers barely even check ID’s … also drinks are super cheap and none of the bars have cover.

Day 1 of boot camp:

We meet up at the hotel he’s giving the seminar at. We kind of shoot the shit and get to know each other a little as Nathan figures out where both of us are at (as far as our game goes). Soon enough, it’s time to hit the field. We go back to our hotel and grab a very small bite to eat and meet the crew back at the hotel. We roll to the first venue. Nathan rolled out a ‘kind of game plan’ of being the social closer, a guy who’s simply social, who just happens to close. So we begin just chatting everyone up at the venue, hot girls, ugly girls, medium girls, old/young/black/white/Indian. Nathan and the crew bring a camera, and without me really knowing they were shooting in-field footage. All was going well and chicks were friendly and at the very least receptive.

As the night progressed and we got closer and closer to bar closing (2 AM), we were to increase the intensity; this was something new for me. I would open sets and use the same pace regardless of what time it is. I really feel that this will have an impact on my game, because I will run into less and less, either pulling too quickly, or running out of time.

I’m in a few really good sets. At one point, a girl has a full drink and I knocked her arm and caused her to spill it completely. It was interesting because the ‘community conditioned’ part of me told me to not buy her another drink. I really thought for a second, “if some chick spilled my drink, or a dude spilled my drink; it would be the right thing for them to buy me another one unless they were really broke” … so I said “eey, let’s go to the bar and I’ll buy you another drink” … I grab her hand and lead her to the bar. It’s early on in the night and this girl is not the type of girl I want to take home, just due to the high number of other quality women in the bar. So it was time for me to hit up much hotter girls anyways, so we got to the bar, I ordered her - her drink and myself a Pepsi (no alcohol) and brought her back to her friends and said goodbye. Nathan had me get her number just in case I changed my mind and want to fuck her later.

Later in the night, some dudes come in and try to fuck up my shit completely. 2 completely random dudes roll up when I’m in set and grab me and push me back. I IMMEDIATELY plant me feel as they are pushing my chest. I’m 5’10” and 135 pounds … small skinny white boy (so to say) and these dudes are A LOT bigger than me. I grab their wrists and remove their hands from my chest, firmly look them in the eyes like I’m going to fight and say “BACK THE FUCK OFF, NOW (with fury and intent to fight)” … they go “what are you goona do white boy” … I pointed to Tom who’s like 6’8” and just a HUGE fucking dude, and said “Well if you guys wanna fight, my boy Tom can join in” … They IMMEDIATELY rest their hands and start qualifying themselves and their actions saying “oooh, dude, your making everyone here feel uncomfortable” … I go, “I don’t give a fuck” … and walk around them and go back to my girl that they tried breaking me apart from. Surprisingly, it wasn’t ruined and I talked to her a little bit more.

I also have ‘other dude’ problems, there is this SUPER STUNNER blonde, and she’s fucking adorable and cute and hot and everything. I roll up to her with full intent and express how I think she’s just sexy and feminine. She is actually pretty receptive, then after like 5-10 minutes, her fiancé comes in. He, like everyone else, is much bigger than me. I look at him, shake his hand, ask his name, and immediately turn back to the girl, unphased by him. He doesn’t know what to do, so he sits there for a few minutes while I chat her up. Nathan, Tom, and Alex are watching, videotaping … after a few minutes the dude tries to push me away, putting his hand to my chest, I plant my feet, grab his hand and remove it off my chest and tell him “eey, I’m just being social” … I go back to the girl and continue talking … she is continuing to be receptive to my every word and she’s fucking HOT. I go to her, “eey, is he really your fiancé,” and she replies, “yes, but he’s being a fucking dick” … I tell her that I understand and decide that the likelihood of me hooking up with her before Sunday is very very slim, so I tell her “listen, your cute and adorable, it was really nice talking to you, take care of yourself” … She gives me a hug goodbye (I believe).

We eventually bounce to another venue where the girls are sluttier (it’s a club versus a bar) … Nathan tells us here, girls are either ZERO’s or ONE’s … either you would fuck them, or you wouldn’t. I understand, we do a few sets under the close eyes of the instructors who are giving me feedback in between like every set, which I’m very impressed about. Somewhere down the line, I grab a tall girl, she’s in love with me immediately and I can just tell she’s down to fuck, so I grab her, pull her to a different level and make-out … she’s good and I can tell she’s horny. I go, “let’s get out of here” … I lead her down the stairs to the door and she stops because she she’s her friends. I lead her to her friends and her friend goes to me: “are you ready to go, come with us” … I walked out of the club and it just felt weird … it was like I was playing ‘follow the leader’ and I wasn’t the leader … I was being chode following these girls to some place I don’t know. I just knew at that point that if I followed them, I wouldn’t be getting laid, plus my girls’ state dropped like a motherfucker as soon as she left the club. I go back in and find Nathan; he says what happened was totally normal.

I run into another girl who I opened and she responds with “hey beautiful” … I’m like ‘yup, this is good’ … grab her, bring her to the bar and get my first drink of the nite, it’s 1:45 am … she takes a sip and is all over me, expressing how badly she wants a thick, wet dick inside of her. I start talking dirty to her and she tells me “I go to bars and clubs all the time, but I don’t fuck, I’m a virgin” … I think to myself, ‘you’re a virgin because your waiting for a guy like me to step the fuck up’ … I talk to her and I’m prepared to lead her to my hotel to fuck her until some dude comes up and literally grabs her from me and says “her friend told me to” … Nathan later tells me I should have punched the guy in the face, Nathan saw the whole thing.

We call it a night and head to the curb to debrief. Nathan and Tom are awesome guys and provide EXTREMELY helpful feedback and insights … what really took me though is the time that Alex spent with me. He basically talked to me like he was my older brother and/or dad. I nearly cried because he told me a bunch of stuff that I already knew about myself. Stuff like how I’m not ‘being real’ in set, and how I’m ‘acting like a douche bag’ … He says that’s why girls initially love me when I come into set, but disappear after 15-30 minutes, after they feel that I really don’t care about them. He explains that’s probably why sluts love me, because they don’t care. So I can be a douche and still get laid, just by different types of girls. I have game, but no heart. My heart was sinking as I knew this was the truth. This is why even keeping female friends is a challenge to me, why girls don’t want ‘to party’ with me, and why rarely I get with a girl more than once. Yea, I get laid, but there’s something missing, a heart.

They had me do a couple of street game approaches late at night, just trying to grab girls and walk them back to your hotel. Didn’t have any success, and I’m super ‘mentally exhausted’ from the program. We go back to our hotel and write in our journals.

DAY 2:

We meet up at the hotel, Nathan continues debrief and Tom and Alex chime in with some good stuff to. We watch the videos from in-field and talk about that. Then, after a couple hours, as a complete surprise to me, he says “yea, we’re goona do in-field day game” … I was like “oooh shit” … Tom shares a few day game stories with us and talks theory for a very short period of time. I NEVER do day game, and I know I’m going to be pushed WAYYY far outside of my comfort zone. Alex takes us to Whole Foods and right away they push me into set with a hottie in plad. She’s wearing iPod earphones and I try to use this as an excuse to not approach. Me to Tom: “dude, she has earphones in, should I still approach” … “Yup, she’ll remove them” … I go in and it opens right the fuck up, I tell her I’m from Wisconsin and I think she’s cute” … I’m feeling an adrenaline rush as I’m talking to her and it’s fueling me to propel forward. Guess what, I did just fine. He keeps pointing out set for me to go into, and I do it. Eventually, I’m told to get numbers, so I do. It isn’t hard, it’s just something I’ve never done before and need to start doing. I walk away from the instructors and then I see a TOTAL cutie, she’s blonde, young (like 18 years old) has really nice curvy legs and nice breasts” … She’s texting on her phone, so I tell her she has to be careful texting cuz she’ll get run over … it’s silly and she laughs, I tell her a story or two and she’s really receptive. I get her number and invite her to come out with me tonight. I did this all without any instructors pushing me or watching me … I just saw her, I wanted her, so I got her. I felt really good. We debrief and take a break before its night-game time.

We roll to a really cool venue, I arrive with my buddy before the instructors arrive and I chat up these two cutes at the bar … I’m getting a water for myself and they’re super receptive. I’m just being cool, that’s all. One of the two girls has to go to the bathroom, so she leaves me alone with her friend. This is obviously a sign that they like me, cuz otherwise she would be like “WE’RE GOING TO THE BATHROOM” … so Blondie goes to the bathroom so I’m chatting with Brunette … Once Blondie gets back, brunette has to go to bathroom, so I chat up the other one. It was quite interesting how they both had to go to the bathroom, but they purposely went separate, probably because they knew they would be sending out the ‘we’re not interested’ signal if they said, “we’re going to the bathroom together” … When the brunette is gone and I’m chatting with the Blondie, the bartender knew what was going on, a pickup, so he signals with his hand, asking the blonde whether I’m cool or not, thumbs up or thumbs down … I see what’s going on and just sit there chill thinking “well, I’ve done everything I can so far, we’ll see what she says” … I was well ready to accept the fact that this set might be over because the bartender is forcing her to make a decision about me. She signals to him that I’m cool. He gives her the thumbs up. Nathan reminded me that ‘that’s the bartenders job’ … because all he sees all day long is pickup.

After a while, I see Nathan, Tom, and Alex have arrived. Tom is in set with 2 blondes, so I depart my lovely ladies and go wing Tom. He intro’s me and I hit it off with the blonde. These girls are professional gamers, like they have all the lines, tactics, and game to get fucking laid. They’re laying it on us pretty hard, although they’re not the best looking girls, they’re the type that at the end of the night, you’re like “you’ll do” lol

I roll upstairs and wing my friend’s set, Tom videotapes, it’s going good, but I’m not really giving a fuck about her, she was feeling “yup, this guy does this to everybody” … it didn’t stail out though, because she stayed in with me and continued to be receptive. Really, I was being a douche by having no heart, but she stayed there because she knew that if she stayed with me, she’d get laid. So I left that set and we rolled downstairs, where I saw a 6 set of blonde hotties. I asked Nathan if he wants to open, and I’ll wing. He goes “yup,” he opens 1 blonde, immediately mini-isolates her with me, she’s hot, but I don’t have any excitement for the set … Nathan explains that’s because I didn’t open it. It was the first set all weekend that I didn’t open myself. Asking Nathan one time to open a set for me was enough.

We roll to another venue and everything is going good … I see a girl on a couch and Nathan tells me to open her by grabbing her hand and pulling her up. I try this to no avail, its 2 girls and 1 guy …. The guy talking to the other girl got confused by the whole thing and just disappeared. Nathan explains that I should have been slower and smoother with me standing her up.

We roll to another venue; it’s a VERY SEXUAL ENVIROMENT. We roll in and there’s two girls ‘doing the scissors’ with each other. Alex gets this on video. Like straight up, vagina on vagina grinding action. I don’t think there were panties involved, just skirts lifted up. Wow, that got me excited. I took over and there’s some chick that’s lifted up her skirt, grinding her vagina (through panties) on this dues’s leg … straight up sexiness. I’m like “holy shit” … I’m thinking this is like some sex club. It’s nearing the end of the night and Nathan tells me to go FULL INTENT.

He explains how that around 1:40 AM, the girl’s receptiveness decreases, and I kind of agree, I’m noticing it. I keep trying though; I open up a set where the girl starts slapping my face at a distance. I’m like ‘wow, this girls aggressive’ … So I grab her hands, put them down and hug her, she’s with it for a moment than starts grabbing my cheeks some more. Then, after some time, I realize that I’m just delusional confident, because she says how she wants to punch me. I let her go, naturally.

We keep going until Nathan calls it a night, so I go to the door and I see this cute chick by the door, she’s not receptive at all, then I pull out my magic shit, “look, it’s the end of the night, I’m sure you’ve been hit on by 47 lame ass dudes all night, right? … Yea, so anyways, I think………..” …. She opens RIGHT THE FUCK UP! … Boom, get her number and tell her “Look, you’re here with your friends, you know what I’m all about, how are we goona make this happen” … She goes “it’s probably not goona happen” … I tell her how I want it to go down, and try my best, she felt it at the moment, but once I joined Nathan and crew outside later and texted her, she wasn’t feeling it anymore, naturally.

We debrief and Alex gives me some pointers and deep advice again, Nathan and Tom also help out tremendously too. We pick a time and place to meet up for day 3.

DAY 3:

We meet up at a restaurant about halfway between the airport and the city … we eat, and then debrief. Nathan, Tom, and Alex go over EVERYTHING …. Everything we did well, what we need to work on, and make sure we FULLY understand and have ZERO questions left. They do an awesome job! … I’m amazed at how the weekend went, how much fun I had, and how much I felt like these guys were not just here for business, or the money, but because they really cared about me as a person. I honestly feel brotherly love for those guys.

We try to take a group picture as our taxi waits, but some lady obviously didn’t take the pictures as when she gave us our cameras back, there weren’t any pictures on them. We didn’t realize this until we were at the airport and Nathan texted me “dude, email me your pictures because the lady didn’t actually take any on mine” … I look at my camera and realize she didn’t actually take any on mine either! Lol, but too bad. It was an awesome, unforgettable, life changing weekend and I’ll never forget these guys. I’m writing this as I’m on the place ride back home, so I’m sure all 3 of you guys are reading this, and I don’t think I can thank you guys enough. RSD has done an awesome job at facilitating the future successes of my life and I’m going to be eternally thankful.

Take care guys,

-Matt