havnt done a blog update since i first started this adventure/journey so here goes with a small blog update were i am upto after being in the game/rsd after 6 months.
just come back off my second bootcamp and hotseat,
things i have learned about myself
to stop beating myself up when not in state. also if i am not in state enjoy and ride it just as much(HAVE FUN) as when you are as you wont be in the present moment instead being in your head talking shit. on sidenote on this is getting state off the music in a club at one point i felt guilty as its "not drawing state from within" which is bullshit which i have now learned is fine as long as your not drawing state off the good emotions of the girl or her reactions
having more energy/ not being half hearted or wishy washy more intent assume attraction
one of the biggest things i have taken out of this bootcamp is just being totally centred (unreactive but responsive) at all times or as much as possible as its like a muscle! which can contract and expand and which i control
persisting at times, i just bail because im thinking about the next set instead of staying in and seeing how far i can push it
finding the solution to the girls situation not letting her bored friend drag her away
expressing myself better just saying any shit if i run out of things to say
self amusing is big for me i know that once i start expressing myself properly too i will be unstoppable as i have had a number of experiences of this but its still not consistant as i would like
a lot more narcisistic reframing of situations lol eg i am getting more and more awesome because i am taking care of business,nutrition,working out, taking action in field
theres so much more i can say right now but they are the main things that are in my grid at the moment. i might put up some of my field reports from the last few months or i might just start afresh
ok so this is my first blog entry, went out in good old Liverpool UK i am from the outskirts so not far for me
have not been out for 2 weeks so was rusty for sure, were as a 4 weeks ago i opened 7 sets , i was actually getting pushed by a very good wing who only comes out now and again and he knew when getting ioi`s, proximity etc plus the fact i felt a good pressure to open. i dont know why but when someone tells me to open it feels easier, i am thinking i obviously need an internal voice that says GO GO GO OPEN OPEN.where as a few weeks ago with another wing i only opened 3 sets but did not do as well as i wanted but learnt that what i have to improve...eg body language, body rocking distance from set, eye contact, vibe.tonality needs to improve big time
this week was awful i only opened one set really, although we were out from 8:30 to 12:00 only i was very chilled and relaxed but had a stomach ache also the fact i have got a bit of oneitis at the moment was effecting me big time, although i should of pushed through these and opened more, the other thing was that my wing was opening first anyway and i would come in later.
on a sidenote i am having problems hearing people when i am out as i have always been slightly deaf and this is for sure a big problem for me. i will have to get down the chemist and get some ear cleaner as im sure it might help me a little.
so to this weeks episode:- i wont really go into fine details but we are using opinion openers, along with other material
wing opens first set of 3 seated set,i move over as he gestures towards me. they look bored to begin with and when he works his magic, they still look bored out of their mind maybe they were just boring woman anyway imo hard to completely judge or maybe he didnt come in strong enough? he looked fine to me on approach but i couldnt quite hear his delivery. what happens next is 2 girls come back from the bar who are actually friends of theres who were standing at the bar but we knew they were sitting with these girls originally, these girls seem the more happy ones to me, i actually reacted by getting out of her way maybe i should of not done this really. its clear my wing was sitting in one of there seats and by there reaction was getting nowhere. so he ejects. the question for me is in that situation if you stayed in set should you screen/qualify them or eject judging by there reactions that there not hooked.
my wing who was not well either opened second set with opinion opener and time constraint then i come in but he is doing all the work with me throwing a few comments, small negs and vibing, asking them how they know each other they were cousins. the problem i had in this set was that they were sitting down behind us, i was actually the only one standing due to table position, and was blocked from sitting down myself. so something i have learnt it is really important where you are positioned. i did have a chance when one of them went the toilet to sit down but only analyzed all of this afterwards. this was the best receptive set of the night and we could of pushed this really. if i had of been sitting down i should of isolated one of them in conversation and im am sure we could of progressed.
third set and last set of the night, we actually met on the way to another bar and started talking to them in a situational opener, i cant remember too well but they mention they are going to a certain bar, and my wing mentions a few good places that you dont have to pay to get in. not sure how to handle this i actually say to my wing so they can hear we have got to go and meet girl so we dont look needy. so we go to another bar but theres hardly any woman in so we eject fast. we eventually go to another place and go to the bar to get water its quite packed so waiting a while, i notice two girls who i wanted to open but because they were getting drinks i wanted to catch them afterwards but that was never going to work. so at bar girls next to me i should of situationly opened just to keep my state up but didnt i will start doing this from now on. we get our drinks go and sit down and low and behold it was the same to girls from earlier. we dont open them straight away as they were constantly on there phones dont know weather they were doing that before we sit down. so i look at one of them when she gets off her phone and she notices me and my wing and i say are you following us what are you after now? jokingly ..... at this point i start speaking to other girl nearest to me at first we are vibing well thought i opened her pretty well but eventually she goes on her phone again.. what could i have done to get here to pay attention to me, negged her maybe, next she goes to another area of the room i presumed obviously she was genuinly speaking to a friend and leaves me and my wing with her friend. my wing is already working on her , he displays high value etc his conguence is fine imo. she too is like shania twain "that dont impress me much " attitude and isnt opening up much maybe she just doesnt have a personality to begin with. when her friend comes back i am back turned slightly and looking for other sets in the vicinity. there was one set i was about to open and then before i knew it they were gone! so we say goodbye to playing hard to get girls and go home.
so in conclusion even though it wasnt the best of the nights for me i was still learning shit