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"OK, so she agreed to meet me for a date. Now what?!" That's the question I used to ask myself when I was first starting out in game. There's tons of theory out there, but how do you actually make your first date work, if you haven't had much experience dating? What are the most important criteria, which make a first date work?

I've been on A LOT of dates since when I've started doing pick up. And I could nowhere find the definitive guide that would tell me what are the key elements in making the first date go well. So, here I present you with the most important things you need to know, when going on a day 2!
So, the 2 most important things to know are:

1) Outer things like logistics (where you will set up the date and how will you get to the "sex location") and activities (what you will be doing during the date.)

One of the most important things, when setting up a date is having good logistics, which is having the sex location close to where you're meeting her. If she's driving a car, tell her to leave it by your home and then walk to a bar, a cafe or, my personal favorite, go ice skating (if she's good at it, you'll both have a great time, if she doesn't, you can teach her, and if you suck at it, it might be a nice skill to learn) or go ride a bike. To sum up, you can choose any activity that will allow you to get to know each other better and also will give you something to do (which means no cinema, as well as preferably something more interesting than cafes, restaurants and bars), and, preferably, make it somewhere near the place you plan on having sex with her (your place, her place or wherever else, depending on how adventurous you are.) 

It's also a good idea to make the plans earlier. This will create anticipation and will show you respect her and her time.

2) Your game[/u] - what should you be doing on the date?

One of the most important things when going on the first date is being relaxed (which comes with time and experience). If you find yourself being nervous before the date, realize that the girl probably is feeling as nervous as you are, and NEVER try to hide your nervousness. Instead, just express whatever you think and feel. This will make you act congruently: your thoughts, words and actions will be aligned. Acting naturally will also make the girl feel comfortable being with you.

There are 3 key factors in the date: building rapport, building physical comfort and being playful, which come naturally, when you become more experienced. But I will expand on each of them, so you can get a feel for what it is:

1. Building rapport. And, no, I don't mean using weird techniques like in the old days of pick up. Instead, I mean things, that naturally create rapport. As you will be talking with her, you will see, that you have commonalities - whether it be liking the same band or movie or having similar values, it will eventually make you feel closer and experience a deep connection, as if you've known the person for a long time. So, just be talkative and attentive, and trust, that as time will pass, you will become closer and feel better being with each other.


2. Building physical comfort. I'm sure you've heard the phrase "Be physical!" many times. It is an extremely important aspect of the game, because, that is how you establish a man to woman interaction, instead of a friend to friend frame. Touch her not because you should, but because you want to! You can also just go ice skating or do any other sports, that will establish that physical rapport. When you're walking with her, say "come here", take her hand and lead her wherever you're going. Then drop her hand. And repeat it several times, this will make her chase you. Then you can either hold onto her hand or just, as you're talking, go for a kiss. Don't wait for the perfect moment, because it will never come. Don't wait for the end of the date. Follow this rule: when you feel like you should kiss her, just go for it. Even if it doesn't work, you will have established the right frame and showed her, that you're a man of action. Remember: it doesn't matter what moves you're making, as long as you're making moves.


3. Being playful. Use push-pull when you want to, tease her, express a full range of emotions, call her names - this will make her chase you. If you don't do that, you will stay in the friend to friend frame and the interaction will just fizzle out, become dull and boring. 

With practice you'll get good at it, just keep trying to apply it.


Apply these concepts to your game and you will have amazing first dates! But, most importantly, when you're with a girl, be solely externally focused, have your attention on her, not on how you're doing. Trust that it is all in your subconscious and just let the interaction flow naturally.

Be present, be positive and be a man of action!

Namaste, motherfuckers.

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Join Date: 03/09/2015 | Posts: 9

Lol, awesome man. Thanks :)
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