Las Vegas Socialite and Entrepreneur

Papa
 


I’ve dated a lot of girls that I’ve met from cold approaches, but I’ve also dated a lot of girls that I’ve met by using my skills at doing cold walkups to random girls to build a social circle of amazing girls, all of who have introduced me to their attractive girlfriends. The way I view a social circle is that a social circle is like having a boat with a giant net to catch fish instead of pickup, which is more similar to going fishing for 1 fish at a time.

Growing up in grade school, my social circle was relatively small, and it consistently mostly of people from my school and sports. However, outside of sports and school, I’d rarely hangout with these people. Thus, while attending the University of Wisconsin – Madison, I was determined to have an awesome social circle from the get-go. So I started throwing amazing parties, hung out every day with new friends and girls from the dorms, and I valued my relationships with my friends above and beyond anything else.

I found that by developing a fun social circle, I’d always have lots of interesting women around me and gave me plenty of opportunities to meet new girls. Developing a social circle became a passion of mine, but it got replaced by my newfound addiction to picking up girls.

For the first couple years of living in Los Angeles, my entire social circle revolved around Real Social Dynamics; however, I decided to make a change when I joined the young Hollywood socialite party organization, Xenii. Every Friday, we’d have all-night parties at movies studios, and, every Sunday, we’d have all-day parties by the poolside of mansions of other members in the club. Some of the sexiest girls in LA were at these parties.

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My favorite Xenii summer poolside party at the mansion of the CEO of Bear Stearns.

When I started going to events, I didn’t know anyone and I was going solo, but there were regular poker events at the parties and I’d sit down to play poker and network with the guys there. My poker skills were pretty good because I used to spent hours playing poker on the internet while listening to CDs about how to pickup girls. And I always enjoyed meeting new people.

All of the guys who were members had similar interests so I found myself hanging out with a bunch of them to go to bars, make them my wingmen on trips (ie Mardi Gras in New Orleans), and to hangout at restaurants or house parties. Although my friends never studied how to pickup girls, they would walkup with me to meet girls and I’d carry the set. On the other hand, some of them were total closers with the ladies and would frequently hookup with new girls.

When I was not at the poker table, or hanging out with the other members, I was constantly doing cold approaches of girls and gaming them up and exchanging contact information. Soon, the girls and guys that I met would introduce me to their friends, and this adding perpetual motion to allow me to grow my social circle.

Sometimes, I would a female friend that I didn’t have an interest in hooking up with, so I’d do a double date with her with a cool guy friend of mine, and she would hook me up with a hot female friend as well. When I introduced the girls to really cool guys, they’d appreciate that and help me hookup with their girlfriends. And they would hookup me up with high quality girls because I introduced them to high quality guys.

I started doing this so often that I had one month where I literally had a date with a different girl every night of the week. Many of them were from cold approached myself as well as from introductions via my social circle. I’ve always been the kind of guy to field test everything to see how it would help me get hot girls.

Whenever I would go to the Xenii events, I’d text message all the other guy members that were my friends to make plans to meet up, and I’d also text message all the girls that I met at Xenii and outside of it to invite them to the events. The girls appreciated this because the events that I invited them to were absolutely amazing, and they would bring their friends along. What started off as a small handful of girls joining me eventually became several dozen girls rolling to the party with me every night. I became somewhat of a party promoter or a VIP Host.

In fact, I spent about 2-3 hours/week text messaging my social circle. Good thing I had the unlimited Verizon Wireless text message plan.

Every text message I sent out with hard sell whatever party or event that I would be involved with to make it sound like the coolest party, whether or not it was the best party or not because I knew it would become the hot party when I contacted my list (and my list of girls and guys were loyal to me because I would always make sure my events were truly fantastic).

For example, when I would organize a dinner party one day, I sent out:

“I’m hosting a special event dinner party at Magic Castle tonight at I’d love for you to join me. There will be roaming magicians, great food and drinks, and a hot crowd in a trendy mansion full of secret passages.”

On the other hand, when I would travel to cities where I didn’t know many people, I’d do similar text messages by promoting whatever nightclub I was going to attend (even if there wasn’t anything out of the ordinary happening, but hype it up so that the girls and guys I met would join me:

“I’m posting a Red Carpet event tonight at Pascha so come join me. It’ll be the hottest thing in town.”

Sometimes, my friends would get a table so we’d have a private area for our invitees to party with us. Other times, we would just party away with the rest of the people we invited. Regardless, I had a great time, and so would the people that we invited.

Although not everyone would respond to my text message, a lot of them would RSVP or tell me they wouldn’t be able to make it, but that they appreciated the invitation. Either way, it kept my name fresh in their mind so they would reciprocate by inviting me out to other events as well. Whenever holidays came by, I’d wish everyone else the best via text message (ie Happy Valentine, Day. May all your deepest, wildest fantasies come true) via hundreds of texts.

Some girls didn’t respond to my text messages for a couple years, and would suddenly show up at my parties. I actually dated a girl who was in this situation. She was dating other people, but when she became single, she started going to my parties. Suddenly, we were hanging out on 1on1s outside of my regular parties and hooking up. This is why I never get rid of a girl’s phone number even if she isn’t responding to my texts at first.

And I knew that whenever I went to a particular party, I could help make it truly outstanding by bringing a lot of hot girls. One night, the NBA basketball player, Stephen Marbury, had a party at his Starbury Mansion in the Hollywood Hills, and I texted 400 girls I met, but 50 of them showed up (which is above the average 10% response rate that I usually get, which I consider pretty awesome for such a large list). Thus, almost all of the girls at the party were invited to it by me. So I would get invited to more private parties because I became known as a guy who knew a lot of girls.

This reputation would increase in status as my list of girls that I contacted on a weekly basis (or more often) grew from a few hundred to a few thousand. All of these girls I had personally met in real life via my social circle or via cold approaches. Some of my friends use Facebook and MySpace to contact thousands of girls they don’t know to invite them to parties. Others use email newsletters, but I’ve always wanted a more personal touch.

A lot of my friends became super promoters and popular socialites in Hollywood. Many of them modeled what I was doing and I was modeling the innovations that they were doing as well. I sometimes enjoyed the social networking and politics of Young Hollywood more than picking up girls, and many of my friends were in the same boat. We just loved the process of meeting new people and the excitement of new events.

Today, several hot girls rely on me for their social life to tell them about the hot parties in town. In addition to rolling to Xenii with hot girls, I’d text message girls telling them just to go to various hot nightclubs in town with me and sell the club as the hottest party around at that particular night.

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Hanging with Snoop Dogg with Girls at a Movie Studio Afterhours Party

Also, whenever I met another person I respected, like successful CEOs, peers from Real Social Dynamics, or celebrated entertainers (ie the lead singer of the rock band, Candlebox), I’d invite them to join me at the Xenii events. Soon, I’d also get invited to go on exotic vacations with other Xenii members and I would travel to Sundance Film Festival, ski trips on Big Bear Mountain, and to rent mansions with other members at the concert festival, Coachella.

I really liked doing these travel adventures with my friends and social circle because it added the diversity of doing things outside of parties. One of the things I liked about Xenii was that every party was at a different venue, and they also hosted non-party activities, such as dinners, wine-tasting, cocktails at private residences, international VIP special event invitations, and they hosted a social networking site for us to organize our own events.

Thus, I started invited others to regular dinner parties and events myself in small groups. I enjoyed doing this very much, and it reminded me of a smaller-scale version of what I did at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, but with only a selective high caliber group of people.

To manage my social life, I built multiple lists of contacts to organize the various people in my phone. I’d store people in my phones under categories: hot girls, bottle service guys, friends, hot dates. After getting a 1000 people in my phone, I moved my contacts to Excel and also organized them by city because I was doing a lot of traveling. Soon, I had a couple thousand people in my phone and started using more rigorous software. I spent hours working my lists.

Girls who were on my party list would be moved to my “hot date” list if I started inviting them out for dinner or drinks outside of parties. If it didn’t work out, I’d move them back to the “party girl” list. Many girls would go back and forth my different lists. And I’d invite girls from one list to particular events and girls from other lists to other events.

I’ve now pride my skills in building a social circle as one of my strongest skillsets. I travel so often that I’ve learned how to land in a city and build an instant social circle. Sometimes, I’ll use social networking sites, like aSmallWorld (a private invitation only social networking site). I would post about how I’m traveling to a city and meet up with whoever was interested in hanging out.

Other times, I’ll just go out to the bars or other public places and start socializing with people. I’d do this both solo and with friends depending on whether I was traveling with companions or not. Either way, I have a very easy to model system on how to build a social circle and I am not confident that whenever I live in a new city for an extended period of time, I can quickly and easily create a group of friends and meet a lot of girls through it.

Whether I am inviting people to an elite party at the Playboy Mansion, inviting people to a dinner party, or casually meeting people for a beer at a local bar, I find that by having my head on building a social circle, my overall social skills with picking up girls and all other aspects of my personal development have improved as well.

It may be constant work, it is also a lot of fun, and similar to how I am a business man who has regular operations to manage, I’ve found that by running my social life like a business, it is very profitable.
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#1

Holden

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Join Date: 02/08/2009 | Posts: 8

 Thanks for the article.  I find this quite eye opening.  As for me, a pretty regular guy who is looking to expand his social circle, but is not overly charismatic or extroverted, what do you recommend?  I, along with my friends, find that branching out and expanding the social circle is difficult (despite living in Chicago).   I have a pretty intense job that only allows for me to 'party' on weekends, and typically will go out out only one night a week.  

Do you think the imperative first step to building a social circle with beautiful, well rounded women, is to get good at picking up women? 

Thanks for any feedback

PS - Go Badgers
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#2

Shazam!

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What song is this?
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Papa

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The same, simple method of building up a social circle in Young Hollywood can be applied in any city and any demographic and the way I did it above only took a few months to really build momentum to do it properly:

Step 1 - Start doing cold approaches and build a list of hot girls to followup with on a regular basis.
Step 2 - Invite the girls out to social gatherings and/or dates, and build a network of cool guy friends.

For me, getting good at pickup allowed me to do step 1, and step 2 was just the followup.
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The Duck ✘

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Awesome post!

This is inevitably the steps I'll be taking, when I have pickup under my belt.

Speaking of exclusive networks

Have you by any chance heard of : http://www.finestclubs.com/
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#5

Mo~

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Really awesome post. One day my social circle will be as elite as yours
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#6

fsidontknow

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It is great that you have such a big social circel and sharing how you did it. I can definitly see the upsides. You have more people to chose from who you really want have a deeper relationship. But is it all worth it? It sounds like allot of work to keep up with everybody and how do you handle with friends that you want to see regurarly. It sounds like you will have a really shallow relationship with most of the people. Not even remembering anything about them or knowing what you guys talked about. And can you even recognize them? I know I am focussing now on the negative aspect. But its just something I wonder about. What I am trying to say do you have enough time left for your real friends. I don't think someone has to hangout with girls all the time, guyfriends are also important.
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#7

Silicone Pimp

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Wow, that is insane.  Very interesting post.  I envy your social skills, haha, I know I can do something like this.
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#8
hexen220

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yea awsome fucking post papa your networking skills are impressive
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#9
Moss

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wtf.  that's ridiculous
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Butter®

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 Candlebox is amazing... I'm stunned.  I had no idea!  I can't wait for the speaking tour.
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Alexxxander

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Sounds awesome Papa, you've inspired me to do something similar for when I start Uni =) It's going to kick ass
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Daniel

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Its incredible how things can be achived so simply.
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Papa

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I looked up the song for Shazam and it is Bhanga by the Asian Dub Foundation.
Fsidontknow, yes, putting in the work (whether in pickup or in building a lifestyle/social circle) is definitely worth the effort.
I've made many great friends from doing this and whenever I am in LA (or other big cities), I can contact my closest friends knowing that I have a tight crew of friends (guys and girls) to grab a bite or drink.

Although it started off like a lot of the people in my social circle were people who I only had surface level relationships, I'd chat with these people for a little bit every week I saw these people, and they would, over time, convert into deeper and more personal relationships. In fact, I have a very close friend who I got to know over 5 minute conversations over 2-3 years at Xenii, and, now, we are tight. This happened with girls and guys, and it is very fun to build this lifestyle and social circle as well.
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#14

oasis123

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It looks as if you are living the life Papa, nicely done. I can't even begin to imagine where you were 5-10 years ago.
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#15
Ray!

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good stuff man, thanks for sharing.

on a technical note, on my phone, i can only add 10 people to each group.  is that the same for you?

what kind of software did you use to organize your contacts after excel?

thanks again man, valuable post.
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#16

Shazam!

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Thanks papa. Also, awesome article, I've been wondering a bit about this, and I suppose the next logical step for me would be DO it
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Papa

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Yes, 10 is usually the amount that you can add to groups; however, if you use Outlook for email, you can create a system that uses an add-on that will allow you to send an email that converts to text message. A lot of my friends use this, but I haven't personally implemented this yet because I like sending out text messages on my down-time and I'll customize some of my text messages so that the name of the girl is included in the text message to add a personalized touch.
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The Duck ✘

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Never used Outlook before, but just had a look and it's a pretty awesome program..!

Thanks for the tip Papa..
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#19
DarkMatter

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 I'm a total geek, and my first thought for stuff like this is to automate parts of it... I'd really love to get an idea of what someone with a social circle your size would consider THE ultimate contact manager.

Things like personalizing texting from - say - an online contact manager is "easy" to do. Personally I need to keep notes, because I'm damn bad at remembering people, so managing it on my phone is not an option - I need to manage it somewhere else and then import the phone numbers to my phone.
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Awesome, cheers reminds me to keep up my own pace, even though it is not as
hyped or extended as the LA lifestyle. Live in Bergen with a quarter million people.
For those who wonder and are students I will definentley recommend joining
the volunteer organization for throwing concerts and such.
Or fetch a job at a bar, instantly meeting people of the bat.
It's awesome, phone list went up by 150 or so within a month, for me, thats like a peeble and
Mount Everest. Took me moving to a new town, but heyXD
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#21

Shig

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How did you manage to get into Xenii?  Isn't that an extremely exclusive club?  Can you expand on how you were able to do that?
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#22
Coxter

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Great artical. It is brilliant and yet so simpel. It is like the snow ball running down the mountain growing bigger and bigger helped by ones own gravity. 

P.S. This is the the first thing I have been writing on RSD. So thank you for making making sutch a gift thank you for letting me on board.

Coxter
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#23
Papa

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Yes, I got invited into Xenii because of a mansion after-party that got hosted at Project Hollywood Mansion when I was living there. The party organizers invited me to the grand opening of Xenii at a skyscraper in Beverly Hills, where every female celeb and model in Hollywood attended. I became one of the charter members of the organization and then became so active that I was elected onto the Board of Xenii. As a result, I had the social access to the top special events and parties, which I leveraged to create an amazing social circle.
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#24
Mongo

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thanks for the insight, just started building the circle because i used to only focus on closing. i tried to make the game so linear that it hindered my success, now i am meeting lots of girls and building what i call "party rapport"
and it is goin well only a month into the process. but i cant lie, every night i get texts and calls inquiring on what i had planned. 
thanks
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Mongo

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ps, go badgers, i party often with the kdchi girls on broome st.
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#26

bfish

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papa, I'm out in LA. veice beach. how do I get involved with xenii?
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#27
Palm

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Papa, your posts are great.

Keep all of this in mind when I do my world tour!
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#28
Nonoo

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Thanks for this post :)

Cheers
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#29
fullysick

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Papa you make it sound so simple. But I think it will be that simple. 

So it would just be 
1. Build up your awesomeness/game skills 
2. Network like crazy
3. Build up a network of numbers and a list of hot girls
4. Make events with guys and girls regularly

Papa wrote:[/b]
Papa wrote:
The same, simple method of building up a social circle in Young Hollywood can be applied in any city and any demographic and the way I did it above only took a few months to really build momentum to do it properly:

Step 1 - Start doing cold approaches and build a list of hot girls to followup with on a regular basis.
Step 2 - Invite the girls out to social gatherings and/or dates, and build a network of cool guy friends.

For me, getting good at pickup allowed me to do step 1, and step 2 was just the followup.
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#30
TooManifesto

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This is AWESOME... PURE GOLD. haha

This gives me a lot of ideas, thanks a LOT for sharing. I'm actually in a position where this is my real focus for now.

Thank you
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#31

tiaantromp

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can I coppy and paste this in my book that I am writing Papa?
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#32

avi22

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AWESOME
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#33

rjenman

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Papa. Thanks so much for this article. My entire life purpose has become clear and many ideas I've been having have come together through your simple and down to earth sharing of your life experience. I love you
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#34

rjenman

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And your gritty background realism that I can feel how it got there
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