I live in Los Angeles, 28, 5'10", dark hair and eyes, never married, no kids, from Sacramento, I have a masters degree in business and I run my own company, I am warm, fun, ambitious, creative, I have a worldly charm, I am adventurous, easy to talk to, I love learning, I am stylish, I work out at the gym, race cars, likes snow skiing, fine-dining, reading, movies, I enjoy awards shows and special events, likes to travel around the world, enjoys good wine, and drive the fastest BMW in LA.
I grew up in Sacramento and then moved to the East Coast to go to boarding school in New Jersey at Lawrenceville School. Had great fun afterwards at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. And then spent a few years traveling the world with a small group of friends. Finally, we moved to Hollywood together into a mansion in the Hollywood Hills we named Project Hollywood Mansion. We transformed the former Dean Martin/Rat Pack Mansion into my office, where I build a global publishing and dating coaching company. We now run bootcamps worldwide in over 75 countries and 250 cities, and ship home study courses to every country in the world. I've moved out of the mansion, yet I still jetset around the world, and love living the Young Hollywood lifestyle.
I wanted this article to celebrate many occasions, including celebrating RSD’s 10 Year Anniversary, my Engagement to my fiancé, my successfully joining the Travelers’ Century Club (for having visited 100 countries), and Valentine’s Day.
Valentine’s Day is not just a day to celebrate if you are in a relationship rather it is also a great day to go out and take action as a single guy. In fact, it is a day that many people can take advantage of to meet single women because every girl that is celebrating without a boyfriend or significant other is definitely single and ready to meet you because girls that are out at nightclubs partying on V-day are definitely not in exclusive relationships. Thus, you are filtering out all the women that are available for you.
Don’t just sit around at home like the many cartoons that you see when you google losers complaining about hating V-day.
It’s probably the most awesome day for you to step up and make a commitment to take action because it is so contrary to what most chodes who decide to use Valentine’s Day to catch up on their internet porn.
In order to celebrate Valentine’s Day weekend, I took my girlfriend to the Maldives, my 100th country, where I took her to a private, virgin island (that we named Awesomeness Island) and I proposed, and she said YES, so we are engaged to be married on 12/12/12.
If you are interested in seeing the video of the proposal, click the below video (the sound quality is pretty poor because it was very windy – I consider this to be my final in-field video):
For the last 3 years, I’ve been on tour with my fiancé teaching RSD Free Tour Workshops and Hot Seat seats, which I completed in 270 cities and 70 countries. However, I decided to continue traveling well-beyond my tour until I hit 100 countries, which I celebrated in the Maldives for my proposal.
In addition to my own personal celebration, I wanted to share my story of how I met my fiancé and use that to share some of the lessons I’ve learned as both the co-founder and student of RSD, which I’ll do towards the end of this article.
I co-created Real Social Dynamics with RSD in 2002 as a 22 year old college student when I was socially experimenting and always taking action on learning new things. Now, I am 32 years old and I wanted to share the lessons I’ve learned from being in the field as the CEO of RSD. In addition, I’ve decided to resign as the CEO of Real Social Dynamics effective immediately and thus I will no longer be an Instructor because I will be establishing a new lifestyle for myself as a married guy.
My plan is that I will still remain active in the RSD community as a member of the Board of Directors of RSD, but Tyler will be taking over as the CEO. I’ll still share for my stories as a member of the RSD community and you’ll probably see me at the World Summit or possibly a Hot Seat.
In fact, I also am still very focused on ensuring the success of the new global RSD fraternity, which is known among a few of you guys as RSD Inner Circle. Tyler and I are still working out the kinks in the development of this program before launching it full-scale. And I’m sure you guys are going to be very pleasantly surprised with what comes out of it. However, if you’d like to be active in it before the launch, please visit the RSD Inner Circle website by visiting:
My main plan now that I’m leaving RSD as an active instructor and CEO is that I’ll be involved with using the lessons I’ve learned from RSD to create a new business in the tech field that RSD will take advantage of because it will create technology to assist RSD in booking conferences, especially considering that RSD conducts approximately 1000 live programs annually around the world.
However, since I’m not planning on starting my work for this until the Spring-time, in the meantime, I’ve decided to share my story about how I built the business of RSD as the creator of a special business retreat called Xavii.
Tyler and I will be co-hosting the event as speakers and will share to attendees how RSD relates to help people in the business world, and it will be taking place in Las Vegas at the Las Vegas Mini Castle (followed by parties every night in Vegas on the Strip and at the private estate).
Those of you that are very involved in business, finance, or entrepreneurship, then this is your unique opportunity to learn from my personal rolodex of the most successful people that I know that have been instrumental in my education in learning how to transform RSD from a small internet website into an Inc 5000 company that has taught 40,000 students at our live programs and has over 1000 people working with us around the world to ensure that our product quality is the best.
If you guys are interested in attending, and getting a special rate on attendance as a member of the RSD Nation community, please join me on March 8-11 by getting a ticket to the Las Vegas business summit by visiting:
As many of you already know, RSD has been recently teaching how the principles that you have studied from us help you in more ways in life than just meeting women. You may have also seen Tyler’s recent video where he trains the staff of Cisco Systems in his business consulting session with their top executives.
And if you are one of the many entrepreneurs of business-people that have emailed me about wanting me to teach you about what we did to build Real Social Dynamics into a global company, then Xavii will be your only chance to learn this because this event is only happening once.
Now, let me share with you the story of how I met my girlfriend before I bid you guys farewell.
PHOTO OF AMBER AT A RSD INNER CIRCLE NEW YORK SPECIAL EVENT PARTY
I met my girlfriend during a Board Advisory Retreat with my entrepreneur forum in Park City, Utah. While walking down the Main Street, my friends decided that they wanted to enter a bar called the No Name Saloon, but I decided that the place looked a little dodgy. So I told my friends to go inside and I’ll wait for them outside. While waiting, I saw my future fiancé, Amber, walking down the Street with her girlfriend and so my natural instinct was to immediately approach her.
While approaching her, a couple other random chodes started approaching her as well, but I caught her attention by being more assertive both verbally and physically, and then I removed them from the conversation. A few minutes later, my entrepreneur friends came outside of the bar and I invited Amber and her friend to join us for drinks and sushi. She joined us and drinks turned into an instant date at a concert playing at a nightclub, which then turned into her deciding to travel with me around the world.
Instead of writing all the details about this, I created my first and last video blog with Amber as my camera-woman. This video blog discusses the reasons why I was able to successfully pull her away from the other guys that were trying to pick her up and keep her with me. Check out the video that I created in front of the Burj al Arab, a 7-star hotel in Dubai, that I made today by clicking on the below video:
The video shares some of my favorite insights that have been ingrained in me, but I will also agree with Woody Allen who is famous for saying, “80% of success is just showing up.”
Thanks again for supporting RSD and being a part of the continual development of RSD. It has dramatically changed my life and I hope that it has done the same for you.
It’s the Holiday Season and I’m in Salt Lake City, Utah, where it is snowing and very cold; so, in order to help warm me up and celebrate the Holiday Season, I’ve been checking out lingerie and I’ve found many ways that you can take advantage of lingerie to excite your sex and dating life. I’ve purchased various lingerie and outfits over the years and I have found girls love to role-play and get into lingerie and outfits. Even girls that you may have been dating for a short period of time seem to love lingerie.
So here are a few lingerie ideas that I’ve found to be great …
First of all, my favorite website for lingerie, which includes one of the largest varieties and collections (after searching the entire internet for the best lingerie website) is Rupaz’s website: (this is actually a site that was created by Real Social Dynamics Bootcamp Alumni that loved how lingerie helped them enhance their dating lives).
The founders come to RSD World Summit every year and share with me their stories about picking up girls, crazy parties, and dressing girls up in sexy outfits. I got so excited about what these guys were doing that I joined Rupaz’s Board of Advisors when I flew to Canada to check out their corporate Headquarters office on a day off from doing the RSD Free Tour workshops and RSD Hot Seat seminars. They have a huge warehouse full of every possible kind of lingerie imaginable.
They have everything from sexy lingerie to naughty costumes on the Rupaz website. Every time I’ve gone lingerie shopping, the girls show their appreciation and love the occasion of the unique thought of it. Also, they have some pretty awesome fashion show invites. I highly recommend you check them out because you see lots of hot models and meet lots of interesting girls. Fashion shows in general are great locations to go to meet lots of beautiful girls so I love frequenting them.
My VIP Host, Kelsey Kolberg, invited me to the Victoria’s Secret shows, which are awesome and I can send you invites if you want to check them out. Oftentimes, girls tell me how much they would love to check out the Victoria’s Secret fashion shows. I’ve always found it interesting how much girls love observing other beautiful girls flaunting their sexuality even when they are not lesbians or bisexual. I think it is because it is a creative outlet where girls get ideas of how to increase their own sexuality.
Secondly, if you have a La Perla shop nearby, go shopping there in person with a girl and they will try on the lingerie and show it to you right on the spot. This is very expensive and high-end lingerie, but you don’t have to buy it. Just getting the girl trying on outfits is fun and gets the girl thinking about sex fantasy. The girl will get to feel sexy around you and I often have done this on dates before dinnertime so that you set the mood early on.
Third, I’ve found that you can also take the above lingerie shopping idea into the realm of free. If you go to Victoria’s Secret website (http://www.victoriassecret.com), you can enter your email address and get a free gift certificate for free lingerie / underwear once per every month. All you have to do is bring the certificate with you to a store and go shop for lingerie for free with the girl of your choice. No purchase necessary and you get free lingerie and a fun reason why you need to go to a sexy lingerie store with a girl.
One thing that I will focus on is that you should pick out lingerie for her that you think is sexy. The reason why is because if you pick out lingerie for the girl and she comes back home with you to try it on and it doesn’t turn you on, then that can be very bad. I remember several years ago, I thought it would be funny to get a girl to buy a sexy pirate outfit. However, I thought it was so funny that I couldn’t stop laughing when we were in my bedroom and, thus, we didn’t hookup and the pirate outfit didn’t work.
Another time, I tried to get a girl to satisfy my curiosity by getting her to wear a stringy goth-like lingerie. However, that also failed as I was totally not turned on by it and when she came into the bedroom wearing it, I just said, “Wow. Cool.” She replied, “That’s it.” It was the last time that we hooked up because she had a fantasy in her head that she was trying to fulfill and my lack of excitement and enthusiasm killed the mood in the long run.
Thus, you must get something that will excite you so that when the girl shows up wearing it to knock your socks off, you will be, “Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh Yeahhhhhhhhhhh!”
My preference lies in the classic and classy lingerie outfits. However, if you have that fantasy for banging a girl in school girl uniform or naughty nurse outfit, then go out and fulfill it. Girls love to role-play and they love to utilize costumes. That’s why almost every girl’s Halloween costume is the “Slutty XYZ”.
I love girls dressed in these outfits as it gets my mind wandering and that is also why my favorite party ever is the annual party at the Playboy Mansion for Halloween, where every girl falls into this category of dress (at least until the night goes on, where girls start getting riskier and begin to take off their outfits in exchange for body paint or just to go naked and wrestle in the grotto). You can get tickets to these parties at KandyHalloween.com (VIP Invitation Code: NK1140).
I’ve hosted several parties at the Playboy Mansion and I’ve learned that creating the right ambiance is the key to a successful party. However, the biggest key to creating a successful ambiance is having more girls than guys and the girls have got to have a sexual vibe. Lingerie and outfits helps out with this big time. This is why so many nightclub owners will hire gogo dancers to go on platforms and pump their booties in the air all night long.
For girls you haven’t dated that long, or even on a Day 2, you can still go lingerie shopping, but you shouldn’t make it as if you expect them to have sex with you because you are going lingerie shopping with her. Even though what usually happens is that you hookup wearing the lingerie you went shopping for with her. Most shopping malls have decent lingerie stores, but if you are not interesting in leaving your house, you can still do this online at sites like the Rupaz website.
The advantage of online shopping with the girl is that you can just do it at home in your bedroom with the girl, and you don’t have to actually go to a shopping mall. Thus, you are already in a location where you can be free to hookup since you are already in the mood after looking at tons of hot girls in lingerie and fantasizing with your girl(s) about what you want to do.
If you are going lingerie shopping with a girl that you have been having sex with for a longer period of time, then you can go all-out and reveal your deepest fantasies and be completely open. This can really help enhance your levels of intimacy. I’ve had girls tell me over dinner how much they love to just go lingerie shopping for fun outfits, buy a porno, and just re-enact what they see on video. Also, many lingerie shops sell accessories to enhance your sex life (like furry handcuffs, oils, and games/toys).
Just make sure that if you are using sex toys, you do not get anything too kinky, like a Voodoo Dildo…
However, if enhancing your sex life with innovations is the key, then check out my favorite books on the subject of sex, which is the Cosmo Kama Sutra Book:
My girlfriend and I have tried out several of the creative innovations from the book and I’m sure that you will find it satisfying as well. Everything from creative positions of sex in the water, on the bed, or elsewhere are discussed. If you are in a long-term relationship, this can help spice up your sex life. And if you are hooking up with a girl for the first time, the ability to have hot sex is a definite plus if you want to see that girl again after your experience in the bedroom.
I know some guys that will be excited to pull a girl home and have sex with her, but then they do not get a call back when they try to call the girl because the girl thought that they were so horrible in the bedroom. So having this knowledge of how to enhance your sex life will definitely help with this.
So if you want something to spice up the Holidays, or anytime of the year, try out new lingerie, positions, outfits, and share the results (and maybe a few pics). I’ve love to hear your field reports involving girls in lingerie (and other innovative naughty stories) and see if you guys have any other interesting ideas to share about the subject as well.
In addition, Real Social Dynamics has been ranked as the 60th fastest growing private company in the Los Angeles area and the 59th fastest growing Consumer Products & Services company in the United States of America.
Over the last 7 years, we’ve grown into a company offering live programs in over 200 cities and 60 countries, consisting of a global network of over 400 people working together, offering almost 1000 live programs every year that has taught over 20,000 live program students, and this is mainly because of the word of mouth of happy students. So I want to also thank all of you for helping us to grow into the world’s largest dating coaching company.
I also want to let you guys know about some of the amazing things to come because after this year’s rapid global expansion plan, including me personally traveling to over 200 cities and 60 countries in the last 6 months during the RSD Free Tour workshop series (http://www.rsdfreetour.com), we have some amazing new ideas in the works.
First of all, we are about to launch the most intense program on how to pickup girls that has ever been created. It is called the RSD World Summit (http://www.rsdworldsummit.com) and we already have over 200 people confirmed to attend the event in Las Vegas from September 28-October 4, 2009. So gather your friends and come join us in Vegas.
To give you a preview though, the World Summit will include:
- Access to hot nightlife in Las Vegas and a RSD Photographer will be available to create a photo journal of the entire Summit's debacles.
- Celebration of Tyler's 30th Birthday (expected to be held at the 10-bedroom house of Adam Sowell, a new RSD Intern) with corporate alcohol sponsors and the party being DJ'ed by DJ Timothy Marc himself. Guest DJs may include DJ Ashley Taylor and DJ Style Wise. Participants will actually be involved with helping to plan, organize, and learn how to throw a big party.
- Mission Impossible exercises organized for students of any age group (including a custom mission for students under the age of 21).
- In-field videos from the Bootcamps of various Instructors.
- 4-hour seminars of each Instructor in RSD's Executive Coach staff
- Bootcamps being offered that weekend with any Instructor in RSD
- A chance to network and meet every member of RSD, including both the Instructors and Business Teams.
- Participate in a Global Mastermind Group in the fun environment of the City of Sin.
This event will not be recorded for mass distribution and we will actually have a security team outside of the conference room throughout the duration of the RSD World Summit to make sure no electronic devices (phones, computers, camcorders, or any other recording devices) can be brought into the meeting because we will be revealing secret field reports and hardcore videos that we only want made available to attendees participating at the event.
Secondly, there are several more books coming on the way. Of course, we have just released Nine Ball (http://www.the9ball.com) by Jeffy, which is the most fascinating piece of literature that I’ve read in my entire life over 432 pages in a hard-cover book. I thought I knew Jeffy until I read this book and discovered so much that I didn’t know. He basically walks you through the stories of having sex with over 100 women and the drama & adventures coming from it all.
Check out a preview of what you can learn from Nine Ball:
This book is so good that it should be made into a best-selling television series or a feature film.
However, soon you will see other amazing books coming from the RSD Instructor staff, including:
-Tyler releasing a unique book on relationships so that you can develop the skills to manage a success long-term relationship with the woman of your choice.
- Ozzie releasing a book on physical game so that you can develop the ability to escalate physically with girls quickly and easily.
-Tyler releasing the Blueprint book, which will contain new concepts that supplement the Blueprint Decoded (http://www.blueprintdecoded.com) to explain concepts about authenticity, psychology, and identity-level change so that you can develop a strong internal belief system that will help you in every aspect of your interactions with beautiful women.
-Alex releasing a series of books on his crazy adventures around the world and the lessons he learned.
-Tyler releasing a tactical e-book that will explain the Foundations about how to pickup girls so that you know exactly what to say and do when interacting with beautiful women.
… and several more books and programs coming from RSD Instructors (Nathan, Ryan, Brad, myself etc.)
Third, after traveling around the world this year, I’ve created several new ideas about how to run a series of new, innovative live programs that we will be releasing so that you will be able to have RSD instruction available in nearly every city in the world on a regular basis. Of course, we already do that with our bootcamps, but we will be expanding the scope of the live programs and they will be very intense, fun, and help add continuity for live program alumni.
Fourth, we will be offering monthly teleconference programs with our entire Instructor Staff to help provide training to you. We already offer this to our bootcamp alumni and Jeffy has spent the last year doing this as well for those people that have received special invitations. However, we will be marketing this to the public soon as well.
Fifth, we are going to be re-launching RSD Underground (http://www.rsdunderground.com). Although this site is defunct right now, we have invested over $100,000 in rebuilding a new infrastructure so that you will be able to see videos of our Instructors in action. You saw what amazing things we were able to do to RSD Nation after investing almost $200,000 into the new software, but you’ll be blown away by the new video infrastructure of RSD Underground.
Similar to how RSD Nation has blogs from every Instructor via featured articles on the RSDN Homepage, we will be using RSD Underground to be our video blog and so much more.
On a personal level, let me tell you about some of the amazing things that has been going on in the personal lives among the RSD Staff.
I’m getting ready to fly to Washington DC for the Inc 5000 Awards ceremony. When I return to LA, Tyler and I are celebrating at the Playboy Mansion, where I am in charge of bringing 350 girls as the manager of the female guest-list. It feels so good to be back in LA as I take a break from my crazy “day-to-day a different city travel tour”. I’m looking forward to spending more time with my closest friends and family now that the RSD Free Tour is almost over.
Right now, I am in the USA, but I have traveled to every continent around the world in the last year. I’ve been hanging out with the RSD Staff and volunteers in 70 countries around the world, but I also took a break with our Board of Advisors (a group of other highly successful CEOs) in Park City, Utah, where I picked up a hot girl, who later flew down to visit me in LA for dinner.
During dinner, Wolfgang Puck himself cooked a personal dinner for my date and I because Wolfgang wanted to meet me when someone at his restaurant told him that I was coming to his restaurant, Spago’s. Definitely made me feel lucky and I loved the food. Afterwards, I took my first vacation of the year in Las Vegas and Salt Lake, where adventures continued, including in-door sky-diving, spas, Le Reve cirque de soleil, and a helicopter tour of the Grand Canyon.
Tyler has been doing bootcamps every weekend in Los Angeles, but he has also been trekking down to Phoenix/Scottsdale in Arizona with his instructor assistants. He’s been working out hard at the gym and hiking across California in his spare time.
Brad is touring around Europe for Special Event bootcamps and is available in any city in Europe for programs; however, Alexander is planning to take over his tour because Brad is planning on doing a USA tour after the RSD World Summit. He is using a new video camcorder team and setup to record some hot, hardcore videos (Jeffy, Ozzie, Ryan, Alex, and Tyler have recorded some amazing in-field footage to be shown at the RSD World Summit as well).
Jeffy is preparing for his Nine Ball Customer Appreciation Seminar for those lucky people that ordered Nine Ball book before September 5, 2009. The program will take place in a famous location from Nine Ball book on 9/9/2009 (lots of 9’s in that date) and it will be recorded and given to those people who were invited to the event (whether they could attend or not). You still have 24 hours to get an invitation by ordering Nine Ball book right away.
Ryan has been hanging out with fellow RSD Instructor, Saad, in New York City, where he and Sam are available for bootcamps every weekend. Our Instructors have been doing bootcamps every weekend in other cities, such as London (with Ozzie), San Francisco (with Jeffy), Texas (with Nathan), Australia (with Alexander), Los Angeles (with Tyler), Europe (with Brad), and, soon, Chicago (which will be run by Brad).
The legendary, Flawless Natural, Tim, will be coming back to teach RSD bootcamps as well. He will be doing his first bootcamp in over 1 year during the RSD World Summit. I’m so excited about this that even I am thinking about signing up to check out the program as a student because he is the only Instructor that I didn’t get to learn from during my Instructor training program last year.
He has been DJ-ing at nightclubs in Melbourne and managing a club in Australia, but he is ready to get back in action to harness the amazing skills he has as a RSD Instructor.
In addition, all of the Instructor staff has been working our asses off so hard that we’ve decided that the day after the RSD World Summit, we are all taking an Executive Retreat to Miami South Beach with the rest of our staff to relax, party, and enjoy good times with close friends.
Well, once again, thanks again for all of your continual support over the years, and I’ve hope you have enjoyed this short update that I may make a regular occurrence per the recommendation of the Instructor staff here at Real Social Dynamics. If you want to stay up to date with the latest RSD news, I also recommend you signup for our Newsletter by visiting: http://www.RSDNewsletter.com.
Partying at a Summer Poolside Party with Young Hollywood
One of the most fun ways to attract beautiful girls into your life is to throw a party. Throughout my youth, I have thrown several parties. In high school, I rented out a large Manhattan nightclub called Club Apple after my high school prom for a large after-hours party. From there, I went to the University of Wisconsin-Madison and threw very grand parties.
I started off by having my dorm friends and I buy a bunch of alcohol and then throwing a party in my dorm room, where there was a keg of beer in my shower and a mini-fridge full of alcohol. It escalated to me renting a 55 foot motor yacht and having an all you can drink booze cruise. Then, it escalated to me renting a 3 story supper club and transforming it into a fully catered event with a separate DJ in the first 2 floors and 3rd floor with free drinks and finger foods.
I started throwing regular parties throughout my college career and it allowed me to meet lots of girls. In order to fill my parties, I’d approach hot sororities and invite their girls to come to my events. I’d also drop a private newsletter in each of the cubbies of girls in my dorms to invite them to my parties. And I reached out to the press and my parties were discussed in newspapers and magazines.
Soon, I got the attention of Playboy Magazine, who recruited me to start throwing parties for them as a representative for Playboy Magazine’s College Division based out of New York. I’d receive regular promotional material packages of Playboy that they’d want me to promote via various parties.
However, when I graduated, instead of renting out venues and spending a lot of my own money to do so, I joined Xenii and they organized the parties, renting out large movie studio stages and mansions. As a member, I had fun attending the events, but I also promoted the parties via text message. My blackberry can send out 2000 text messages with the push of a button.
I’ve also masterd the ability of throwing a party. In fact, on a NY bootcamp in January, I threw a party at Pop Burger, where I invited VIP promoters, girls, and event got people to buy bottle service, and the entire event was organized in 30 minutes of text messages. The contacts, I built up in the previous week via cold approaches and networking in a social circle that I built in 1 week.
That goes to show you how easy it is to throw a party and get people involved in your events. This is a great way to keep girls going out with you to your events on a regular basis. If you don’t want to throw the party yourself, you can promote the nights when you go out to hot nightclubs and call it “hosting a party” since you are the one who is organizing everything.
As a result, I have several girls in Young Hollywood, whose social calendars revolve around events that I throw. My friends and I often get invited to other parties and hot nightclubs because we invite a lot of girls to the events that we go to. In fact, myself and others will even get paid to promote these parties and go to them with our girls.
I’ve been offered equity in exclusive private membership social clubs because of my knowledge and relationships in LA nightlife. I’ve offered served on the Members Board of Xenii, which was a young Hollywood social club for young socialites, models and celebrities who paid between $650-$25,000/month to party in all-night Friday movie studio parties, all-day mansion swimsuit summer parties, and elite vacations with special event access to exotic locations like Park City for Sundance Film Festival or Rio De Janeiro for Carnival.
Inviting Friends Out to Party in Hollywood
Parties can help you develop a lifestyle and it doesn’t require a lot of money or a lot of resources. All it requires is a bit of time to network. Most of the contacts I’ve made to establish my rolodex were from cold approaches. I didn’t start off with a list of hot girls, cool dudes, industry connections, and models, but I did have a drive to build my contact list and to have a lot of fun doing it.
Instead of using my skills to pickup girls solely to get phone numbers of girls that I’d want to date or hookup with, I also used my skills of walking up to random strangers to develop a social network of male and female friends that would help me build a fun and cool social circle. When I got the phone numbers of girls, I’d invite all of them to weekly parties (and sometimes more frequently). Instead of spending a month organizing a sophisticated gala, I’d organize a small wine tasting or dinner party with an exclusive, tight group of friends.
Although I’d develop a lot of broad relationships with everyone, I also kept close relationships with a tight, small circle of friends, and we’d throw parties together. Sometimes, we’d combine forces to rent out large houses for parties, or get alcohol sponsors to provide us with booze, but we each threw our own parties. Once you get the hang of throwing parties, it is a very fun, rewarding experience, and it is an easy skill to master.
When I organize a dinner party, all it takes is to send out a text message and invite a bunch of girls and guys to the restaurant for dinner. Likewise, if I want to do a wine tasting, I’d simply text message my friends to show-up at a wine tasting lounge. Sometimes, I’d throw a party at my house and invite everyone back to my place for an after-hours party for when the nightclubs closed, but this wasn’t absolutely necessary.
Other times, I’d throw parties at my friends’ houses or wait for my friends to throw parties at their houses. I have a lot of friends who have very cool homes or know of great locations to throw parties. And when my friends host a wine-tasting or private dinner at their house, I can get credit for inviting hot girls and cool company to the party.
New York Party Home of One of My Friends
There are several things to consider when you are throwing a party so I’m going to make a short list of what these are here (it is not totally comprehensive, but it should give you a simple checklist to help you throw your own party):
1) VENUE – Where are you doing to throw the event? Is this venue unique, hot, or have a special appeal to your party-goers? Will you be able to host a party for free or will they charge you for bringing your people to the venue?
2) GIRLS – Do you know a lot of hot girls that you can invite to the party or will you have to do cold approaches to build up your rolodex? Will your friends invite hot girls to the party? What will you do to make sure that the girls at your party are of a high caliber?
3) DRINKS – Will an alcohol company sponsor your event or will you have to charge money for booze? What are the laws governing the sale of alcohol in your city at a party? Do you have enough drinks for the people attending your event for the duration of the event?
4) MUSIC – Are you going to DJ your own party or hire a DJ? Do you have a good sound system to use or will you need to oursource your sound system? Does the venue you are using already have the music setup for you?
5) FOOD – Will you cater the event with a meal or finger foods? Do you have light foods or a dinner meal? What staff will you need to cater your event? Will guests help you with food or do you know of local restaurants that can sponsor your party? How about a chef for a dinner party?
6) AMBIANCE – Is this party a classy and upscale event with a sophisticated theme, furniture, and décor, or is this going to be a more laid-back and down to early party-scene? Will the music, fashion, and venue match the ambiance that you want to exude for your party?
7) FASHION – Is this going to be a down-to-earth casual or semi-formal function or will party-goers be required to dress to the nines or wear a funky costume? How are you going to let your audience know what to wear?
8) LIGHTS – Will you host a sophisticated lights show or have the audio/visual company that you need to project lasers or video images? Are you going to need a technician to have lights on the dance floor?
9) DANCING – Will there be a hip hop dancefloor or a more classic feel to the dancefloor? Are people going to be dancing throughout the night or will there be no dancefloor at all? Do you need a portable dancefloor or does the venue already have one in place?
10) POKER – Do you offer Texas Hold’em poker, have a table, and hire a professional dealer to run the cards, in which case your guest play for real money? Will there be “play money” competition on different gambling games? Is there going to be cash or other prizes for a tournament?
11) BARTENDERS – Who is bartending your event? Are the bartenders educated on mixology and complex drinks or are they only trained on making simple mixed drinks? Do your bartenders work for an alcohol sponsor or are they simply working for the venue hosts?
12) PROMOTERS – Who is promoting your party? What kind of people are on the list of the promoters that you invited to promote for you? Do you offer a commission for selling tickets, memberships, or VIP bottle service?
13) VIP – Do you charge a premium for a roped-off VIP area for private clients? Are you going to have VIP Hosts manage special guests with drinks and food? Will you offer VIP security for premium party guests? Will celebrities be in a roped off area?
14) GO-GO – Do you want go-go dancers or a cirque de soleil show available at your party near the dance floor or for entertainment? At what hour(s) of the night will your entertainers be performing at your party?
15) SECURITY – Do you have good security protecting the door of your party and also inside of the venue to prevent drunken fights? Are you using off-duty cops to protect you from noise violations in a private neighborhood with easily disturbed neighbors or a random door guy?
In addition to the above questions, as a party host, it your job to make sure your guests are having fun, and this can be as much work as running a business enterprise. This is why it is often easier and more fun to promote your own party, but let someone else host the party and create the entire production.
I’ve done both, and I have a lot of fun doing both, but I definitely have a lot more fun when I am just promoting the party, because when you organize the production, you have to manage the party and make sure everyone is having fun. However, if you do produce the entire event, you will get more credit for the party and a lot of hookups, favors, and connections.
I’ve dated a lot of girls that I’ve met from cold approaches, but I’ve also dated a lot of girls that I’ve met by using my skills at doing cold walkups to random girls to build a social circle of amazing girls, all of who have introduced me to their attractive girlfriends. The way I view a social circle is that a social circle is like having a boat with a giant net to catch fish instead of pickup, which is more similar to going fishing for 1 fish at a time.
Growing up in grade school, my social circle was relatively small, and it consistently mostly of people from my school and sports. However, outside of sports and school, I’d rarely hangout with these people. Thus, while attending the University of Wisconsin – Madison, I was determined to have an awesome social circle from the get-go. So I started throwing amazing parties, hung out every day with new friends and girls from the dorms, and I valued my relationships with my friends above and beyond anything else.
I found that by developing a fun social circle, I’d always have lots of interesting women around me and gave me plenty of opportunities to meet new girls. Developing a social circle became a passion of mine, but it got replaced by my newfound addiction to picking up girls.
For the first couple years of living in Los Angeles, my entire social circle revolved around Real Social Dynamics; however, I decided to make a change when I joined the young Hollywood socialite party organization, Xenii. Every Friday, we’d have all-night parties at movies studios, and, every Sunday, we’d have all-day parties by the poolside of mansions of other members in the club. Some of the sexiest girls in LA were at these parties.
My favorite Xenii summer poolside party at the mansion of the CEO of Bear Stearns.
When I started going to events, I didn’t know anyone and I was going solo, but there were regular poker events at the parties and I’d sit down to play poker and network with the guys there. My poker skills were pretty good because I used to spent hours playing poker on the internet while listening to CDs about how to pickup girls. And I always enjoyed meeting new people.
All of the guys who were members had similar interests so I found myself hanging out with a bunch of them to go to bars, make them my wingmen on trips (ie Mardi Gras in New Orleans), and to hangout at restaurants or house parties. Although my friends never studied how to pickup girls, they would walkup with me to meet girls and I’d carry the set. On the other hand, some of them were total closers with the ladies and would frequently hookup with new girls.
When I was not at the poker table, or hanging out with the other members, I was constantly doing cold approaches of girls and gaming them up and exchanging contact information. Soon, the girls and guys that I met would introduce me to their friends, and this adding perpetual motion to allow me to grow my social circle.
Sometimes, I would a female friend that I didn’t have an interest in hooking up with, so I’d do a double date with her with a cool guy friend of mine, and she would hook me up with a hot female friend as well. When I introduced the girls to really cool guys, they’d appreciate that and help me hookup with their girlfriends. And they would hookup me up with high quality girls because I introduced them to high quality guys.
I started doing this so often that I had one month where I literally had a date with a different girl every night of the week. Many of them were from cold approached myself as well as from introductions via my social circle. I’ve always been the kind of guy to field test everything to see how it would help me get hot girls.
Whenever I would go to the Xenii events, I’d text message all the other guy members that were my friends to make plans to meet up, and I’d also text message all the girls that I met at Xenii and outside of it to invite them to the events. The girls appreciated this because the events that I invited them to were absolutely amazing, and they would bring their friends along. What started off as a small handful of girls joining me eventually became several dozen girls rolling to the party with me every night. I became somewhat of a party promoter or a VIP Host.
In fact, I spent about 2-3 hours/week text messaging my social circle. Good thing I had the unlimited Verizon Wireless text message plan.
Every text message I sent out with hard sell whatever party or event that I would be involved with to make it sound like the coolest party, whether or not it was the best party or not because I knew it would become the hot party when I contacted my list (and my list of girls and guys were loyal to me because I would always make sure my events were truly fantastic).
For example, when I would organize a dinner party one day, I sent out:
“I’m hosting a special event dinner party at Magic Castle tonight at I’d love for you to join me. There will be roaming magicians, great food and drinks, and a hot crowd in a trendy mansion full of secret passages.”
On the other hand, when I would travel to cities where I didn’t know many people, I’d do similar text messages by promoting whatever nightclub I was going to attend (even if there wasn’t anything out of the ordinary happening, but hype it up so that the girls and guys I met would join me:
“I’m posting a Red Carpet event tonight at Pascha so come join me. It’ll be the hottest thing in town.”
Sometimes, my friends would get a table so we’d have a private area for our invitees to party with us. Other times, we would just party away with the rest of the people we invited. Regardless, I had a great time, and so would the people that we invited.
Although not everyone would respond to my text message, a lot of them would RSVP or tell me they wouldn’t be able to make it, but that they appreciated the invitation. Either way, it kept my name fresh in their mind so they would reciprocate by inviting me out to other events as well. Whenever holidays came by, I’d wish everyone else the best via text message (ie Happy Valentine, Day. May all your deepest, wildest fantasies come true) via hundreds of texts.
Some girls didn’t respond to my text messages for a couple years, and would suddenly show up at my parties. I actually dated a girl who was in this situation. She was dating other people, but when she became single, she started going to my parties. Suddenly, we were hanging out on 1on1s outside of my regular parties and hooking up. This is why I never get rid of a girl’s phone number even if she isn’t responding to my texts at first.
And I knew that whenever I went to a particular party, I could help make it truly outstanding by bringing a lot of hot girls. One night, the NBA basketball player, Stephen Marbury, had a party at his Starbury Mansion in the Hollywood Hills, and I texted 400 girls I met, but 50 of them showed up (which is above the average 10% response rate that I usually get, which I consider pretty awesome for such a large list). Thus, almost all of the girls at the party were invited to it by me. So I would get invited to more private parties because I became known as a guy who knew a lot of girls.
This reputation would increase in status as my list of girls that I contacted on a weekly basis (or more often) grew from a few hundred to a few thousand. All of these girls I had personally met in real life via my social circle or via cold approaches. Some of my friends use Facebook and MySpace to contact thousands of girls they don’t know to invite them to parties. Others use email newsletters, but I’ve always wanted a more personal touch.
A lot of my friends became super promoters and popular socialites in Hollywood. Many of them modeled what I was doing and I was modeling the innovations that they were doing as well. I sometimes enjoyed the social networking and politics of Young Hollywood more than picking up girls, and many of my friends were in the same boat. We just loved the process of meeting new people and the excitement of new events.
Today, several hot girls rely on me for their social life to tell them about the hot parties in town. In addition to rolling to Xenii with hot girls, I’d text message girls telling them just to go to various hot nightclubs in town with me and sell the club as the hottest party around at that particular night.
Hanging with Snoop Dogg with Girls at a Movie Studio Afterhours Party
Also, whenever I met another person I respected, like successful CEOs, peers from Real Social Dynamics, or celebrated entertainers (ie the lead singer of the rock band, Candlebox), I’d invite them to join me at the Xenii events. Soon, I’d also get invited to go on exotic vacations with other Xenii members and I would travel to Sundance Film Festival, ski trips on Big Bear Mountain, and to rent mansions with other members at the concert festival, Coachella.
I really liked doing these travel adventures with my friends and social circle because it added the diversity of doing things outside of parties. One of the things I liked about Xenii was that every party was at a different venue, and they also hosted non-party activities, such as dinners, wine-tasting, cocktails at private residences, international VIP special event invitations, and they hosted a social networking site for us to organize our own events.
Thus, I started invited others to regular dinner parties and events myself in small groups. I enjoyed doing this very much, and it reminded me of a smaller-scale version of what I did at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, but with only a selective high caliber group of people.
To manage my social life, I built multiple lists of contacts to organize the various people in my phone. I’d store people in my phones under categories: hot girls, bottle service guys, friends, hot dates. After getting a 1000 people in my phone, I moved my contacts to Excel and also organized them by city because I was doing a lot of traveling. Soon, I had a couple thousand people in my phone and started using more rigorous software. I spent hours working my lists.
Girls who were on my party list would be moved to my “hot date” list if I started inviting them out for dinner or drinks outside of parties. If it didn’t work out, I’d move them back to the “party girl” list. Many girls would go back and forth my different lists. And I’d invite girls from one list to particular events and girls from other lists to other events.
I’ve now pride my skills in building a social circle as one of my strongest skillsets. I travel so often that I’ve learned how to land in a city and build an instant social circle. Sometimes, I’ll use social networking sites, like aSmallWorld (a private invitation only social networking site). I would post about how I’m traveling to a city and meet up with whoever was interested in hanging out.
Other times, I’ll just go out to the bars or other public places and start socializing with people. I’d do this both solo and with friends depending on whether I was traveling with companions or not. Either way, I have a very easy to model system on how to build a social circle and I am not confident that whenever I live in a new city for an extended period of time, I can quickly and easily create a group of friends and meet a lot of girls through it.
Whether I am inviting people to an elite party at the Playboy Mansion, inviting people to a dinner party, or casually meeting people for a beer at a local bar, I find that by having my head on building a social circle, my overall social skills with picking up girls and all other aspects of my personal development have improved as well.
It may be constant work, it is also a lot of fun, and similar to how I am a business man who has regular operations to manage, I’ve found that by running my social life like a business, it is very profitable.
As a defiant young kid, I first started going to nightclubs when I was 12 years old. At the time, I convinced a nightclub owner to give me a job, which was passing out fliers to promote concerts at the Cattle Club in my hometown of Sacramento. As a result, the owner of the club would get me into the club and sneak back stage to hang out with the rock bands, like Bush, Korn, and Deftones.
I’d also hangout on the dance-floor and bar with all of the college girls to grind the night away. I think I looked older for my age because those college girls got pretty freaky on the dance floor with me, and they must have assumed I went to the college across the street with them.
It was the perfect job for me because the bar was across the street from the California State University of Sacramento, where my father was a professor at the time. He’d pick me up after work at the university and would even let me stay out late at night until the club closed. My father had a very active youth, and supported anything I wanted to do, as long as I kept my head on my school, where I was a straight A student and heavily involved in athletics.
However, I always felt like there was more adventure to be gotten. I was always restless. Thus, when I got to high school, I took things to the next level. I convinced my parents to allow me to attend a boarding school in New Jersey near New York City. It was like living in the movie, Cruel Intentions. In addition to witnessing social politics on a high level, the owners of a popular NYC nightclub let me rent it out and host my first private for my underage high school class.
I loved hosting parties so when I got to college level at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, I started throwing huge parties. I’d rent out 50 foot yachts; 3 story nightclubs where I’d recreate the masquerade ball from the movie, Romeo and Juliet; and throw big parties with my fraternity at a $30 million mansion on the lake.
My parties got me so much attention in magazines and newspapers that I decided to take my involvement with nightlife to the next level and I got recruited by the New York Office of Playboy Magazine to be a marketing representative for the Playboy College Marketing Office, I got to throw parties at where my role was to throw parties to promote the “Girls of the Big 10 Colleges”, assist with model interviews, photo-shoots, and venue-scouting.
That’s me in the bottom right corner of the 2003 edition of Playboy Magazine for the Girls of the Big 10.
My parties led me to adopt the nickname, “Nick Papageorgio”. This was because my friends thought I reminded them of the character Nick Papageorgio from the movie, Chevy Chase’s Las Vegas Vacation. In the movie, Nick Papageorgio was an underage kid in Vegas who threw extravagant parties. This was similar to what I was doing. Eventually, the name got shortened to “Papageorgio”, then “Papa G”, and finally to just “Papa”.
These big parties made me very popular at school. Even in a large campus like the University of Wisconsin, everyone knew who I was. Girls would be interested in me because of these parties and the social status I created with these parties, but I wasn’t dating the girls that I really wanted and I wasn’t sure how to attract those stunning girls that weren’t interested in me for me. I felt like a lot of the girls liked me for my adventures and parties, but not just for me.
Well, I decided to find a solution.
My friends and fraternity brothers used to meet on a regular basis at a strip club, where we’d talk about how to pickup girls. We were so into picking up girls that we even wrote jokes, stories, and scripts to say to girls … scripted pickup lines. My friends and I were convinced that we created masterpieces because we got amazing, sporadic successes, and we shared crazy stories, but it resulted in some big embarrassments as well.
I remember one date with a gorgeous gap model, where I had prepared 7 hours of scripted conversation that I thought at the time was full of brilliant lines. The problem was that the girl wasn’t very talkative and what I thought was going to be 7 hours turned into 3 hours followed by 4 more hours of lots of silence because I didn’t trust myself to say anything as interesting as the weeks of preparation of “canned/scripted material” that I was using.
One of my friends found a website on the internet that had more pickup lines to use and I got addicted. I thought I needed more lines so for the next year and a half, I dropped everything in my life: school, friends, work, everything, and, all day long, I studied picking up girls. I went out during the afternoons to practice picking up girls, and went out at night and continued to pickup girls.
When I get involved in anything, I go to the extreme. My curiosity in aerospace engineering, got me to create a team of engineers in the Air Force ROTC, raise $100,000 for a NASA project on a zero gravity flight on the KC-135 that I flew out of Johnson Space Flight Center, and got me a NASA Academy contract. My interest in politics had me run for Wisconsin State Senate. My interest in business spurred me into jobs at Fortune 500 companies. Picking up girls would be taken to the extreme as well.
I proceeded to memorize and practice using pickup lines and, within a few months, I had 100s of pages of scripts. During the day, I’d make up new ways to pickup girls and I loved treating the world like my own social experimentation laboratory. My excitement for pickup in general had me travel to random metropolitan cities around the world just to explore my curiosity of picking up girls from around the world.
Each day, I obsessively wrote “field reports” detailing my expeditions picking up girls and the details of the success I was getting. What started off as a few 100 people reading my online articles, soon became 1000s. Then, I was invited to join an underground fraternity of other guys who were doing the same thing. It was called The Lounge, and I became its admissions officer.
I started traveling around the world meeting other prospective members to see if they were good with girls, and I’d invite them to join our fraternity. My obsession was to find any missing pieces that might help me get the hotter and hotter girls, to help me take my game to the next level.
I became a much more self reliant and dominant personality. I experimented with crazy ways to pickup girls. I would pickup girls in my car, on the streets, in shopping malls, on the train, in the plane, everywhere. And I was meeting others, like Tyler, who was doing the same pickup mission as me.
However, traveling around the world is expensive. Soon, I ran out of money, but a random guy from the internet, who had read about me emailed me, and said he’d pay for my airfare to fly to San Diego to teach him how to pickup girls. I said I’d do it if he’d invite my friend, Tyler, as well. And he agreed.
So we flew down there and we met the guy, who happened to be a 23 year old virgin. After working with him for 2 weeks, he got his first kiss, and a few weeks later, he got laid for the first time. Soon, he was telling everyone about us, and we started getting invitations to teach others as well. So we created a curriculum and started selling seats for a $600 workshop while hosting dinner parties for prospects in major metropolitan cities around the world.
Thus, we would travel to random major metropolitan cities and teach a dozen students. Then, the next weekend, we’d teach 2 dozen students. Another weekend, we’d have 3 dozen students. Soon, we’d have as many as 60 students in 1 weekend in London a few months later. That’s when I knew that we really had a business now.
So I decided to take the underground pickup artists from the Lounge and turn it into the first corporation dedicated to teaching guys how to pick up girls with wingmen educating students through real world experience (similar to how Russell Simmons did the same with pioneering the path to take the underground hip hop world into a worldwide influencing business).
My friends decided to move with me to LA, and I took a lease on a $4.5 million mansion in the Hollywood Hills to become our Headquarters because it was where my friends and I believed was the city with the hottest girls in the world. This house had the history of being the ol’ “Rat Pack Party Mansion”, where Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin, and the crew used to party; and my bedroom had belonged to Dean Martin. I built a company infrastructure out of this house.
A couple years later, I moved out of the house, spread our staff all over the world to gain global reach, and I got an office at a plaza in Pasadena to manage the business. We formed a global mastermind group of the guys who Tyler and I found to have the most amazing skills with girls, great core values, and a passionate desire and ability to help others transform their lives to achieve amazing success with girls and life in general.
Since that time, we’ve evolved “the game” to focus now on conveying the attractive qualities of your identity through a more natural form of expression and discarded the canned lines. Our focus is more on expression and not trying to make the perfect impression. We have learned how to really cut years off the learning curve of our students in days. And we make all of these transformations using the same real world exercises and adventures that we went through.
Due to a post-Grammy’s party hosted at our Project Hollywood Mansion, I met a socialite who invited me to the grand opening of a celebrity party club in a skyscraper in Beverly Hills. Here, I got my first exposure to my new passion, the Young Hollywood lifestyle. At this party, each floor was packed with 10:1 women to every man. Every sexy female celebrity and super-model was in attendance, and I decided right away to do whatever it took to get deep into this.
Thus, I put my social life above and beyond everything, and dove as deep as I could into the world of Young Hollywood; and I was eventually elected onto the Members Board of the elite Young Hollywood party organization, Xenii. Members paid $1000-$25,000/month to party with gorgeous models and celebrities. I networked my way through Young Hollywood until I became what I consider to be the equivalent of a “Social Senator”.
I learned how to treat my social life like a business because I am a business man. I spend a lot of time developing it and put just as much time improving it. You can find me spending 2-3 hours a week sending out text messages to guys and girls to continue to build upon my relationships. My number 1 rule was that whenever someone asked me to do something social, I would always say “YES”.
As a result, I found myself being invited to daily parties on mansions in the Hollywood Hills, movie studios events, cocktail parties at private residences, taking executive retreats with successful CEOs and socialites to famous special events (ie Sundance Film Festival, Playboy Mansion parties, exotic vacations). And I’d use the skills I learned to pickup girls to help me to build a fun lifestyle and make great friends, in addition to picking up amazing girls.
All of this was done while I finished up my Masters in Business Administration at the University of Southern California, where I studied Entrepreneurship and the Entertainment Industry. However, right about the time when I graduated, Xenii disappeared due to the investors pulling out. I stayed in touch with all of the great friends I made during my adventures in it, but I decided it was time to get back into RSD Instructor mode.
Now, I have a great dating life with beautiful girls, have an amazing social circle, and amazing world traveling adventures and experiences. I’ve used my skills to gather friends and build a global business while simultaneously building a global social network. In addition to learning the skills of pickup, I’ve gained overall life and social skills. There is nothing more important than the relationships we form with people important to us, especially our friends & family.
In addition to going out with the RSD boys to pickup girls, I am often introduced to girls through my social circle now. In between longer term girlfriends, I’ve had a few months in which I’ve had dates every night of the week (some from cold approaches and others from my social circle).
Today, I’ve transformed from someone who was young, naïve, and often loss for words, but very ambitious; into someone who has approached 10,000s of strangers in random public places around the world forming relationships, picking up girls, and building a global network. I’ve find myself comfortable in almost any scenario due to constantly pushing my comfort zone. My adventure still seems to have just started though.
While my business partner, Tyler, and I met in Hawaii, we came to the conclusion that he would return to Los Angeles and help me grow Real Social Dynamics on a business administration level with our local HQ staff; and, in return, I’d resume my mission as a RSD Instructor and continue to teach students through bootcamps and seminars. I’ve found this decision to be one of the most inspiring and life-changing choices that I’ve ever made.
Since 2002, I’ve worked with Tyler and the RSD team to build Real Social Dynamics into a multi-million dollar global enterprise, teaching over 20,000 clients in over 200 cities and 30 countries. People joke about my love for “high society” – and I’ve always enjoyed playing around in the high status venues, primarily because the types of girls that I meet. However my love for the game is so strong that I’ve continually put the growth of the organization as my highest priority, and I’ve reinvested nearly every penny I’ve gotten from RSD back into the business.
We continue to bootstrap just like when I began my journey, traveling around the world as a poor college student, spending countless hours studying pickup, and crashing on people’s couches to learn about how to pickup. Instead of traveling in hotels, I stay for free with RSD volunteers. Instead of paying for flights, I’m doing a RSD seminar road trip across the USA, and Europe via train. And our marketing is still almost all via “word of mouth” due to our thousands of success stories.
The skills you learn while studying how to pickup girls has changed every aspect of my life for the better too, including non-pickup related aspects of my life, such as inspiring me to train heavily for the Iron Man triathlons that I’ll be racing this year; fulfilling my passions in travel, dining, and education; and also in building an amazing network of friends around the world that I value more than anything. And I hope that you will all use the skills from RSD to transform your life.