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Ozzie
 
 Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:
How to break through your fears while staying a "shy guy"
How to approach dating from the "being awkward" standpoint
How to build reference experiences while remaining introverted


Comments are welcome.

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Being shy and successful with women don't have to be excluding.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pYsr8bbifg

 It is pretty hard
meeting women as is. If you feel you are afraid of being shot down in front of
friends and looking the fool, then you need to take a look at what's stopping
you.
If you find yourself on your back foot because of your
shyness, you must know the window for approaching closes with hesitation. It
feels worse if you let her walk away. Women won't  make the first move though. However, there
are no accidents. she might be sitting in the club or near the bar for an
specific reason: she wants to be approached. Proximity to you might mean she is
looking at club level. She came near you to show you she is available.  
But it doesn't matter to a shy guy. They find it hard even
when the girl is interested in them. They find themselves blocked away by their
emotions.
1. Outcome dependence: if you are starting out, you must
stop thinking about getting women, phone numbers and dates and focus on getting
better with women in general. In other words you must focus primarily on skill
building, not on results. That that means to you is you must be able to
approach women anywhere, anytime without hesitation. you must focus on
reference experiences, not on results for a while. As you become more outgoing,
women will become more attracted to you naturally, not through gimmicks. Skills
are built on reference experiences, not exclusively on results.
2. Rejection. That bad word. Learn to take nothing
personally. This applies to life in general by the way. Women don't reject you
personally. She doesn't even know you. Her rejection might have more to do with
the way you approached her, her mood, her personal situation than with you
personally. Get over yourself. You are not the centre of the world. Not
everything is about you. However, you might want to start off by admitting
to  her your awkwardness by saying,
"I know this is awkward but I just wanted to say hi..." and move one
with the interaction. Honesty goes a long way in cold approaching. Again, it
doesn't guarantee results. Remember she might have her reasons not to talk to
you, even when you are doing a near perfect job. You might find your most
awkward approaches become the best ones.
3. Cut out face book and other media to meet girls. I know
you are shy but you might delaying your skill building by meeting girls in a
"rejection safe" way on line. You must bite the bullet and cold
approach. you will only be stunting your 
learning process. Fear builds in avoidance. By not confronting your
fears dead on, you only grow them.
4. Don't forfeit interactions because they start off bad.
This is your rule of thumb. Most interactions that start out awkward become
gold mines if you stick by them. Guys who reinforce the habit of leaving too
early, they never get laid. you want to reinforce the habit of committing to an
interaction, which means following through. Most interactions won't go anywhere
unless you push them. You must push girls out of their comfort zone for them to
sleep with you. In other words, it must be uncomfortable for them too. Making a
decision to sleep with you  it is out of
her comfort zone too. you must help her by making that decision for her. Then
she will follow you. Remember she must be able to backwards rationalize
sleeping with you on her first date by claiming you were "pushy".
Shy or not the above applies to all dating enthusiasts. But
more to the shy guy who can't find his way to approaching women.
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Ozzie
 
Hey guys,

In this article,

How to your ego
How to bring ego down through the power of identification
How to get over ego-related bad nights in the field

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October 18-20, 2013: Frankfurt, Germany 
October 25-27, 2013: London, United Kingdom (Special Daygame Only
Bootcamp) 
November 1-3, 2013: Zurich, Switzerland 
November 8-10, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands 
November 15-17, 2013: London, United Kingdom 
November 22-24, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden 
November 29-December 1, 2013: London, United Kingdom 
December 6-8, 2013: Copenhagen, Denmark


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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCUUeVBFnyQ

 

The Wizard of Oz

This movie has become an icon for our culture because it
expresses parts of the human being that find themselves in disarray with the
authentic self. You find characters in this movie that represent generic
archetypes of human beings. They are all parts of the ego-centric society we
live today in.
In the times of the Wizard of Oz, you had to go to the
circus in order to receive a dose of intense emotions. You wanted to
experience  fantasy you had to wait until
the circus was in town. Today the circus comes to you through DVD's, internet
and all kinds of media. People can experience intense emotions and travel into
fantasy land just like Dorothy if they are naive enough. However instead of a
lion tamer and a clown you get to dream about a life that's not your own
through crafted environments, multimedia and well crafted marketing
presentations. The ego is fed. Critical thinking is annihilated in favour of
fantasy.

Dorothy
Dorothy needs to take the hero's journey and go from being a
naive young girl into the world of adulthood. But she must pay the price. In a
sense she represents the many people who delude themselves into thinking that their
happiness is "out there" somewhere and fly like blind bats into the
open. They just need anybody who makes them believe so. If you watch movies
like "the secret" you will find the easy way to find something out
there that will make you happy. So if you "manifest" whatever you
wish for, you will be made. Dorothy follows that path in the story. Painfully
she gets to know the truth.  The
eye-piercing colours of the land of Oz are not what is real. And that there is
no place like home. She learns to love truth.
Most audiences in dopy-like states induced by marketing
believe what they are told by gurus that true happiness is "out
there" in material things, fantasies, opulent life styles, and other
narcissistic forms of self development. Narcissism is a loaded gun for the
soul. You will never get enough of whatever you crave. It will never ever be
enough. A self serving narcissist ego is detrimental and debilitating because
it always craves more and you will find yourself in a negative state of mind
eventually.

The Wizard
You can equate the wizard to the different marketing gurus
of our time, trying to make people believe they have the secret to a better
life. They make sure they sell through audiovisuals, marketing ploys, carefully
crafted narcissistic images. All fake in the end just like the Wizard of Oz. An
ego blown out of proportion with fine cover up job. Inside the ego there is a
frightened adult in a childlike state, pumping himself up like a blow fish.

More related to our business, I remember when that book
first came out and all of a sudden hundreds of pickup companies came out of the
woodwork. All of a sudden we had competition. Internet allowed for people to
just start up a pickup company by just having a website. Of course, they would
go down under within three months of starting up but who cares. Anybody with a
camera and a bit of enthusiasm can set up a website for pickup with pictures of
beautiful girls an even throw in some infield footage without having any
experience coaching clients. Who cares? The internet is like that Koan,
"if a tree falls in the forest...". It's like the wild west. It is
funny to see people in this day and age with gold fever. They talk as if they
were possessed. They have gold fever like in the old west. They believe their
own hype. They cater to an audience of Dorothies. (If you look into his
briefcase he is probably packing one of those books about how to quit your day
job and live off an internet audience by working about 2 and half hours a week,
pitiful-when did we decide that the 
future of the work market  is to
be a bum? Lord, have mercy on the economy!) Learning real skills takes years, but
where is the fun in that, right? It has taken me 8 years to come up with
original pickup content for my programs, moreover writing a book on pickup
takes years. However, a website can be set up in one day. A video can be shot
in 30 minutes and carefully edited to meet the needs of an audience. The wizard
all over again.

The Wizard of today is basically a predator, trying to lead
people into investment seminars, Corporate propaganda, transformation programs,
pseudo spirituality and so on deceiving unsuspecting Dorothies.

The Wizard represents the false self. It needs to be
dismantled. In the movie, the wizard is a frail old man hiding behind a curtain
which represents the "marketing ploy" of deceit, manipulations and
lying. It hides the true self away and doesn't allow for the person to grow.
The curtain and the image represent the illusion of power and manhood, both
corporate myths. Today we find our society bombarded with false projections of
manhood, power and wealth. People find themselves deceived by this "New
Age" symbols. People buy into this false "magical" projections.

As a coach I stay away from the archetype of the Wizard as
much as I can. I know for true transformation to happen, my students need to
drop the false  self and embrace the authentic self, which is more human. So I make clear to my students this is not going to be a fun weekend. For true transformation to happen there needs to be
pain attached to it, because the inflated ego must die. Just like Dorothy in
her painful journey from delusion to reality, but certainly reality is far more
enjoyable than any fantasy you might conjure up in your head.

Toto, the dog

Finally the dog pulls the curtain to expose the Wizard. For
me it represents the natural instinct we have for truth. You need to follow
your animal instinct if you want to find the truth. Also you must remember that
the dog bites the witch. The natural part of you will "punish" the
forces of evil as, represented in the witch, the negative side of the ego.

This dog represents our animal instinct in the story. In
order to save yourself from the false self you must become like an animal
sometimes. Bite the hand that's trying to pull you into fantasy and deviate
yourself from your true self. As a male, living in a society that indoctrinates
to act like a woman, you must cultivate your male natural instincts for
adventure, exploring and conquering but not fantasy, reality. In the end it was
a dog who exposed the manipulations and deceptions of the wizard by  throwing the curtain down by sniffing out the con. Intuition is key. You must develop your natural intuition and you will
find your way.

Comments, welcome.


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October 18-20, 2013: Frankfurt, Germany 
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Bootcamp) 
November 1-3, 2013: Zurich, Switzerland 
November 8-10, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands 
November 15-17, 2013: London, United Kingdom 
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Ozzie
 
Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:

How to build a strong character resilient to failure
How failing big can help you grow
How to reinvent yourself in the field when results go down


Comments are welcome.
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September 27-29, 2013: Oslo, Norway 

October 11-13, 2013: London, United Kingdom 
October 18-20, 2013: Frankfurt, Germany 
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November 1-3, 2013: Zurich, Switzerland 
November 8-10, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands 
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHPcUyLuZi0

See you later.

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September 27-29, 2013: Oslo, Norway 
October 11-13, 2013: London, United Kingdom 
October 18-20, 2013: Frankfurt, Germany 
October 25-27, 2013: London, United Kingdom (Special Daygame Only Bootcamp) 
November 1-3, 2013: Zurich, Switzerland 
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Ozzie
 
Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:

How to Become Outcomeless For Real


How to Improve Confidence When You Approach

How to succeed by losing your obsession with results

Comments are welcome.

Writing this article from Vegas. Lots of stuff going on in the World
Summit. Crazy As usual. I don't have much time to write so I decided to do it
quick and dirty and give you a piece of my speech in the Summit. Enjoy.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XCicNFeFy78&list=HL1376063753&feature=mh_lolz

No time for more. I will write a more detailed account on my
next one.

See you later.

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Ozzie
 
In this article you will learn:
How fear of success stops you  on the road to your goals in Pickup
(I have to apologize for the audio on this webminar. I wanted to put it out anyway. It was a way longer presentation, I just took what I thought relevant. I hope you still enjoy it.)
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August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine        
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QfUjmiK01Eg

Body Language VS Content

1.  No free lunch. This theory  of the free lunch proves true. People don't
want free stuff or don't value it as much. In order to make them see something
as valuable, they need to work for it. women tend to be the same. Men that are
too available raise suspicion. That's why compliments don't work unless they
did something to deserve it. Women are more aware of social dynamics men. and
they are experts on body language. They know when you are over extending
yourself for them. they realize they are getting something for free. it makes
them suspicious. When you lean in with your body, you sub communicate you need
her attention. Quick and dirty tip is to lean back. However, it doesn't work
for long.

2. Leadership. Women appreciate leadership because it relieves them of the stress of making
decisions. they don't have to do anything and be passive in the courtship.
Physically leading her  goes a long way
into proving to her you are the real mc Coy. Moving her around the club,
grinding her on the dance floor, pulling her away from friends to bring her
back later goes a long way to prove you are a worthy male. However, you must
also establish verbal leadership. Are you adding or subtracting from the
interaction? How much are you contributing? Are you expecting her to lead the
interaction? If she is testing, are you passing the tests or are you being
reactive? If you get angry or discouraged because she told you she has a
boyfriend early in the interaction, you will be sucking value out of her. People
don't want to carry  water for you, at
least not all of it. you need to give them a reason to talk to you. Sometimes
you don't want to lead when interaction gets uphill. those are great
interactions to learn how to lead verbally. How much fun are you  bring to the table in the first 2 minutes?
How many questions are you asking? asking too many questions makes her think
you invested in her without a reason. Again, she starts acting brat because you
are not leading, and you are asking her to lead. Communicate your passions to
her within the first 5 minutes of the interaction. Some guys find it hard to
talk themselves but you are missing opportunities to lead.

3. Fidget. Guys that are stressed out display body language that produces awkwardness. in fear
technology we call this projecting symptoms on to people. Same if you are bored
or sad. you might trigger her defence mechanisms against that behaviour. Women
need to make split second decisions about men and they use body language to
read you. We, men, couldn't care less. We are wired to listen to ideas. Females
focus on other things. Biology endowed them with other abilities because they
need to raise kids. So, a mother just looks at an infant and needs to  follow intuition as to what he needs. That's
why they are naturals at reading body language. Women do better at
"caring" careers  than men. So,
if fidget, move around too much, carry tension in your body women will know.
Sometimes I touch a guy's shoulders  on
program it feels like concrete. That tension is transmitted  on to others. You can't fake real confidence.
the fact you are bored or stressed out or both can be found in your tonality.
that's why it is paramount you make an effort to project  your voice. it is easy to see whether you are
committed to what you are saying by your pitch. It is not about the content as
much as the intangibles. Content can be about you dancing naked in the shower.
She won't mind as long as she can see you are committed to the story.

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August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine        
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17 Comments | 7,277 Views
Ozzie
 
In this article you will learn:

How to Easily Get out of a Bad Frame of Mind

How To Get Attraction Beyond state

How to Not Panic And Work Your Way out of Feeling like a Failure

Getting ready for a big weekend in Stockholm
with Alex and his Hot Seat. But altogether gearing up for the World Summit in
Vegas.

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August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine        
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece


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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BZyWTk2EdQ

Sometimes it happens after approaching several groups and
getting the boot. Other times one single approach have the power to break you
down. It depends on your frame of mind on a particular day.

First of all what not to do.

1. Don't check how others are doing. if other guys are
talking to girls around you, even when they are chumps, it will bring you down.
Don't pay attention to your surroundings because it will bring you further
down. I direct my students to their bodies when they feel like shit. I give
them the V shape which means, what part of their bodies is in pain. They
usually have tension in the chest area or back area. I ask them to focus their
attention there rather than their environment.

2. Don't base yourself worth in girl's approval when you
approach. You don't want the worst to be confirmed. If you are looking for
validation you might get the opposite. You are likely to come across
controlling and people react badly to a predatory presence.

What to do

1. Finish what you started. don't go home in shame. Don't stop approaching. Follow through to the best of your ability. Get through your approaches. your luck might change. But also your mindset next day will feel
like a winner. You will somehow have a sense of accomplishment for getting
through the night.

2.  Big picture. Here you are in the middle of the club approaching chicks while somebody is in the
hospital dying. Who cares if you are having a bad night? It is not such a huge
drama as you are drumming it to be. Things pass. Just another night in the
field. you are lucky to be doing what you are doing. victim mentality, self
pity gets to you when things go south. You might want to curb it by reminding
yourself of the good things you have going for you.

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July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
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August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine        
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece

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Ozzie
 
In this article you will learn:

How to Easily Get a conversation Going without "gimmicks"

How To Get Attraction by Being Real

How to Make Girs Feel Comfortable while "boring"

I am enjoying my time in London after all the crazy travelling I have done.
Getting ready for a big weekend in Stockolm with Alex and his Hot Seat. But
altogether gearing up for the World Summit in Vegas. Much to do there.

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July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine        
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dnUJtM9pN_s

Among some of the top behaviours that turn women off not
being confident ranks high. if you behave like an insecure brat around she will
know. Think on it, if you don't like who you really are how long before she
finds out? if you act nervous and scared around her, she won't have it. You
will lose her. That's why it becomes top priority for me to cure guys of their
fears before they attempt any serious approaches.

acting like a brat alpha guy

You might want to mask your insecurities by feigning certain
attributes. the downside, women will see right through them. Why? you won't
keep them up for long. Stop making stupid remarks and statements about how many
cars you own or the size of your Johnson. overcompensating behaviour will crush
faster than being awkward. Learn to be humble and accept when you are out of
your depth with a girl. I have seen guys score saying things like "I feel
really awkward talking to you". overcompensating is not necessary though
you are free to try it.

Most guys learn to overact their social side with friends.
they find it "works" in social situations. What they need to find
though is that is not absolutely necessary. They can become attractive with
exactly who they are.

Don't hesitate to tell girl, "you are getting bored
with me, I can see that". it is not the end of the world to say that and
some women might react well to that by trying to make you feel better. They see
you are being humble. Or simply say, "I am boring you by talking about my
job. It bores me too sometimes". Pieces of honesty go a long way, sometimes
further than overcompensating

Admit to the situation, "I feel great sitting here with
you and not having to talk all the time or be funny or amazing". It
sometimes grounds the interaction to 
more human level. 

Dumb Guys

Dumb guys succeed where others fail. Dim witted guys don't
see the boundaries. They don't know/don't care why things don't work out. They
play just that one note and they keep playing it. They don't know any better.
As a result, they won't quit and they take the cake. Over thinking works
against you in a crowded club. Figuring things out from your head lands you in
tough waters. It leads to paralysis. Knowledge is overrated as well as
intelligence when diligence is of the essence. Don't have to be a genius to
pickup women.

The Guy With the
Amazing Shirt


If she finds out you spent more time figuring out your
outfit and combing your hair than she did, she might turn itself off to you. It
doesn't turn on a woman to be with another woman. if you spend too much time in
the mirror, you are acting like a girl. Stop having the perfect hair, perfect
shirt, perfect shoes. Women interpret that as chick behaviour. Learn that good
enough is good enough. Don't over do it. I used to obsess about what to wear at
the club. What is the best cloth to get attraction? Behaviour builds
attraction, not wear.
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August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
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18 Comments | 7,949 Views
Ozzie
 
 Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:
How to Get Out of Comfort Zone Through Painful Challenges
How To Become Successful with Women Through Embracing The Pain of Rejection
How to Find Your Resistance Points To Growth And Overcome Them
Comments are welcome.

On Munich as we speak. Coming here for the third time this year. Our German market has grown exponentially since we started consistently delivering Quality Free Tours/Hotseats and Bootcamps here.
RSD delivery never disappoints, that’s why I am back with more clients here. 
There is a webminar coming on the 25 of June(10 pm, London Time) for Inner
Circle guys only.
I hope we can get that done. I really enjoyed my last
webminar. I love Inner Circle and I go to all the dinners they organize. They
are cool guys and I think Todd/Mario/Alex V are doing a great job at it. Go
Todd!
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August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine       
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3cMklqIp44

I don’t want to sound new-age and all but I feel the need to
redeem pain as transformational too. Why? Most transformations, if deep, turn
out painful for the individual. If you look back growing up became painful for
you, turning into a pre-pubescent teenager made you crinch with pain. Growth
becomes painful in this game because it happens outside your comfort zone.
Terrified of change most guys transform while kicking and screaming all the
way. It comes down to embrace pain as pathway to better things to come. When my
students “graduate” from my program I request they write down goals that make
them uncomfortable, outside their comfort so they must stretch to get them.
Stretching is painful for somebody who has lived without mental exercise for a
long time. You must welcome the pain.
Finding Your Resistance Point
In order to make yourself whole you need to find what you
won’t face. Most guys run away from the pain of rejection from women. They don’t
want to feel that ever again. You want women to like you and acceptable like
“cool male”. You think the pain of rejection is a low down feeling not worthy
of you. You want to get rid of the thought of being rejected. Your ego dictates
you only see yourself as a “desirable male”. If you are rejected your ego won’t
like it. You can see how fear of rejection has to do more with your ego
rejecting “uncool” you than a woman. Women only trigger the ego reaction. In
other words, women become part of the solution being part of the problem. Women
offer a perfect opportunity for growth outside your ego. By facing your
resistance point you grow.
Redeeming Pain
As a society we reject pain. Westernized societies produce
thousands of pain killers and pharmaceuticals to help avoid pain. Even mental
pain can be arrested through “tranquilizers” for humans. Most guys come to
program thinking “how can I get around pain and still take the cake?”. This
attitude doesn’t work.  They are not to
blame because they have grown into “pain avoidant” beings as brainwashed by
commercial society.
So we outlawed pain and see no value in it. Problem. How can
grow and mature without pain? In other words, if you avoid pain you could say
you avoid growth all together. Not only that, you don’t grow out of your pain
you will subject others to it. You will cause yourself more pain if you don’t
face it dead on. The pain of avoidance, living in limbo, not facing up to
challenges will far exceed the one of just getting on with what needs to get
done. It takes way more energy to keep pain down than to get rid of it.
Being alive is painful already. Why don’t you accept it
already? You get up in the morning, face the traffic, get to the job, work long
hours just to get by. If that’s your case, you are already in it. You might as
well face it and stop avoiding pain.
The promise of bad experiences
Every challenging moment will have transformational power
for you. Change doesn’t come without a price. Learning is painful otherwise it
is not learning. Embrace pain as a path to transformation. There is always
something to learn behind  a challenging
approach waiting for you. Believe in yourself above all. Believe that the pain
of change is for the best. 

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June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013: Tallinn, Estonia
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 29-31, Kiev, Ukraine
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece

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Ozzie
 
 Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:
How to go out alone and get away with it
How not to be the creepy guy in the club by yourself
How to socially proof yourself to the women in the club
Comments are welcome.

A big thank you to “Big” Oskar(“6-feet viking man”) from Gothenburg for helping me shoot this video there. He put up with my “crankiness” when I shoot. He had to shoot me walking backwards and endured my perfectionism at the same time. He was cool about it the
entire time. Big thanks.
My program in Gothenburg was very rewarding in many ways. I learned a lot from students there. My students showed a commitment to growth that blew me away. Kudos. Other than that, nothing
unusual to report except there is a webminar coming in the third week of June for Inner Circle guys only. I hope we can get that done. I really enjoyed my last webminar. I love Inner Circle and I go to
all the dinners they organize. They are cool guys and I think Todd is doing a
great job at it. Go Todd!
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June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013: London, United Kingdom                                                                  
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
www.rsdbootcamp.com
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXI1upBoLTc

Some further ideas on going out alone.

Don’t drink. A buzz is not the solution. Even a beer will
affect you. Alcohol acts like a depressor. 
You might feel it is helping on the short term but it will bring you
down on the long term. I have a strict policy against alcohol on my programs.
Some students give up alcohol altogether after a fear tech bootcamp because they
feel they don’t need it to approach
anymore.
Some say to me, “This is the first time I ever approached women
100 percent sober”. They mean to say they need a beer or two before they
approach. It became a crutch.

Be the New Guy in
Town


Be cavalier about being alone. You might get a buzz out of
believing you are on your own. You can act like the stranger nobody knows
anything about. I used to love to go out of town on my own because I felt
nobody knew me there. I had carte blanche to do whatever I wanted. There was an element of risk involved and
challenge. It always gave me a buzz. Be the stranger women want to meet.

Don’t look desperate,
boring and creepy


Women are naturally attracted with the guys having fun with
a group of people. Their alarms go off when they see you standing around scoping the room. Women think, “Just another regular Joe, getting drunk, hoping to get lucky tonight”. You are more
attractive when you are surrounded by people. Let’s face it. Even when you just
met those people. So, be in groups as much as possible. Even if you are just
talking to only the males in the group, even when you are talking about
football.

Expect the first approach to be difficult

When you are in the club with wings, you might feed off
their vibe and be more in the mood to approach. You might also count on them to
have your back. But when you are alone you face the music. Nobody has your
back. You might get a thrill out of that by the way. Because the challenge is
big the payoff is even bigger. If you pull it off, the self confidence you get out of it will skyrocket your
momentum for the night. So welcome the challenge. You might say, “I approached
my first set and they didn’t bite my head off”. As a result you get more out of
it because you have it harder than the other guys who have wings.

Talk to people all
the way


If you take a taxi, chat the taxi driver on the way there.
Taxidrivers love small talk. When you get in the line, talk to the guys outside
the club. Make your friends in the line before you get in. Practice social
skills before you get in. Once inside the club all you are doing is to continue
your social skill practice. If you chat guys on the line to the club, you are
already working on potential wings.
You enter the club as part of a group, so you are more desirable to women
there. This progression from solo to a group can be done if you try it.

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June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United
Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam,
Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013:
London, United
Kingdom                                                                  
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
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Ozzie
 
 Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:
How to increase your chances for success by being aimless in your approach
How to reduce fear of failure by becoming outcomeless
How to succeed by losing your obssession with results
Comments are welcome.

Writing this article on my flight to Gothenburg for a bootcamp.  Sitting at the back of the plain, back of the bus and shit, miles above ground. I feel safer in airplains today. I lost my fears of travelling through relentless flying all over the world. Europe has become my home, not just England. Easy flights around European cities and gruelling bootcamps. I have no mercy on my programs with my clients. You want to become the best you must pay the ultimate price. Simple. You must go deep. Just like that movie "Apocalypse Now", "If you are going to get off the boat, you must be ready to go all the way". I am loving my job recently more and more since it has become a place for personal growth for me as well. So at the end of the program I tell my students what I learned from them too. It turns out I learn more from them that they learn from me. 

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June 7-9, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
June 14-16, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013:London, United Kingdom
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
www.rsdbootcamp.com

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MpDIfrg3ekk

If you are approaching and you are overly concern about a bad first impression, that fear will interfere with your performance. You might kill that way your chances for success. Tricky as they come in this game, your "over-performance" becomes an overkill. You might want to leave it up to the universe to do "well" or not. Who can decide what "well" means anyway? It depends on the level of difficulty of your approach. What might be considered "well" in situation A, might not cut it in situation "B". Success is relative to the observer. It is always biased. Can you botch the approach and still live with yourself? It doesn't mean you don't recognize failure when you see it. One thing is being dillusional but another is to be too realist. Realists in general are negative about the world and they hurt their chances for success with their overly realist approach to reality. They expect doom and so they don't take chances. Playing safe is the quickest way to fail in this game. You get nothing. 
What did I do wrong?
You don't want the attitude of not giving a damn and expect that things will happen by themselves. It is a disaster waiting to happen. Being outcomeless or aimless means we do give a shit but we don't become attached to the outcome. As men society teaches us outcome dependence! On program, I always get bombarded with, "How can I stop a moving set?". Men are hunters. We become obssessed with moving targets. It doesn't really matter but stopping a moving woman becomes a realistic, manly target. It is like a predator. I think a moving woman becomes a bit of a bird or a gazelle that needs to be stopped. The reality is that the more you try to stop moving sets the worst it is sometimes. They stop for you by themselves when they perceive you don't care. My students pull girls from moving sets on daytime all the time without trying. They must be put in a position where they don't care as much for the outcome to pull that off. 
Skill and success
Skills are overrated. You heard it. Have you ever seen a professional soccer player miss a winning shot with the whole goalpost wide open so the only thing he needed to do was to push the ball in? it doesn't matter. I have seen the worst team win over and over in football. I love that old russian movie where a young boy claims he can build a huge iron bell and he is given a deadline on his life. He ends up building the bell without having any skill whatsoever. instead of skill, you want to change the way you think about the whole deal. Does that mean you give up on your goals? Nope. But you want to connect with the moment. The present time. One of my biggest job as a coach is to keep bringing my student's wandering mind into the present. If you are distracted with the future(outcomes, lays,phonenumbers, kisscloses) you miss the interaction in the here and now. People feel you are distracted and they won't connect with you. What if you don't like the girl. You might meet a girl through an approach and you might not want to see her again. It happens. You don't have to date all the women you meet through cold approaching. How about focusing on getting to know her first? This proves to be effective in day time where interactions are more verbal at the beginning. 
The real issue with outcome dependence
It thwarts the growth process. By obssessing with future outcomes you miss all the growth here and now. Since outcome dependendence doesn't allow for failure, it doesn't allow for learning either. Can't have one without the other. The way to success is paved through failure. You want to approach because you want to, not because you want to win. If there is a script in your head about perfection, you might not take swift action. It is not worth doing unless it is flawless. it leads to paralysis. It kills spontaneous actions. Results mindedness leads to too much planning and thinking. You can't approach like that. Approaching is an art form, not exact science. You can't create art by being controlling. You need to be ready to act with 20 percent of the information. Learn that you will never have 100 percent of the information. You will never be 100 percent prepared for an approach. It destroys all the fun. Fun and outcome dependence cancel each other out. Guys report getting bored in the field after a couple of months of cold approaching. Something tells me they are results-obssessed when they get like that. Going out turns into a job. It stops being fun if you "have to" do it as opposed to "want to" do it. The attitude is different. So are the results.

PS: Follow my free tour with Julien and Alex around Europe. I might hit your town some time soon. See you there. 
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June 7-9, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
June 14-16, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013:London, United Kingdom
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
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