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it is very exciting to understand this part of learning. It can be empowering to know that your brain is thirsty for new learning experiences. You might know this from spiritual leaders of our time who "warn" us to keep a beginner's mind when facing life. In other words they urged you to "keep learning". Gurus and spiritual leaders didn't have scientific proof that they just knew it worked. Secret to spiritual growth is to keep learning and an "open mind". With time, due to negative experiences in their lives most people become increasingly "close minded" to new ideas. However, now there is scientific proof that your brain keeps evolving at a physical level. New pathways are created constantly and old ones are discarded. So goes transformation.
Writing With The Opposite Hand
Some of the research has proven that writing with the opposite hand for example creates new pathways in your brain to new information and scenarios and can be the catalyst for other major changes. So it is for learning a second language. Brain gets stimulated and sometimes it has been observed to grow for second language speakers.  For a long time it has been assumed that as you became older connections in your brain became stagnant and "traditional" avoiding the new. However, it has shown that it has nothing to do with the brain, it has to do more with how the brain is used. Of course, if you go to work and drive the same route all the time your brain is not "challenged" enough to learn new and better alternatives. In other words, brain's flexibility and plasticity that is not put to use, becomes stale and resistant. Your brain never stops changing under the right circumstances.
Ability As A Catalyst For Change
Under this new assumption of "use it or lose it", we can create new strategies for change. Apparently it is all related to skill and learning. Nothing like learning to put those neurons to good use. I, myself, practice what I preach. I am a terrific learner. I am a junkie for learning because I know of the transformational power and the great feelings I get when I learn something new. I am always excited about learning. Always looking for new challenges no matter how much resistance my mind puts up. One thing I notice is that my mind rebels against it right off the bat. My mind wants to stay with the old. In other words, fear always gets in the way.  Quite simple: new learning experiences involve failure. My mind doesn't like trial and error. It is biased against it. No wonder I am a die hard perfectionist.
Breaking Through Fear
whatever your fear is you must break through it. Fear acts as a mind regulator blocking change. However, once you take the plunge and do what you are afraid to do you realize there was nothing to be afraid about. First step is to understand how your mind acts as guardian of change. it doesn't like change. It naturally rejects new information even when it is good for you. Change of any kind for good or bad is rejected by your mind. As a result, no new neuropath ways are created, you misuse your potential. It also keep you from being happy. Happiness comes as a result of overcoming your fears and realizing your potential.
Bootcamps And Brain Plasticity
Many students ask me whether it is normal that they find trouble sleeping after a night of bootcamp in a club. Most student find it hard to sleep during program nights because their brains are in a state of neuro "rewiring". Your brain struggles with new experiences and finds it hard to adapt to the new neuro pathways are being created and old ones are being discarded. New learning experiences become the catalyst for new profound changes. Your brain works on overdrive during those times.
Drawbacks are predictable. Your brain might snap "back into place" once in a while in an attempt to restore "old pathways". It is not a linear process, more of a spiral upwards where old places are revisited while you keep going up in circles. Circular or spiral growth is how your brain evolves. It is a complex process, difficult to describe but there is definitely order in that chaos.
Greedy For Learning Experiences
As a student you must push the envelop for new and exciting learning experiences. Do what you are NOT supposed to do. Break the mould. Explore outside your comfort zone. That seems to do the trick
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I am a big believer that high pressure environments create opportunities to maximize learning. As a coach I am all about cutting your learning curve in half and then go to work on you. Because of my time constraints of a 3 day bootcamp, I have to pick wisely my learning situations because I don't have a lot of opportunity to show what you need to learn.
High pressure situations have the capability to focus your concentration to the max, thus the higher payoffs in learning.

The score is tied, the game is on the line, you got the ball. You take a deep breath and here you go. Sink or swim. You are the hero or the villain. That  kind of pressure smartens. The players  such as Michael Jordan want the ball in those situations. I believe there has been better players technically in Jordan's time but none could achieve his greatness for that very reason. His ambition was unparalleled. He wanted to win. Wanting to win is not easy because winning comes with great responsibility. That's why most players don't want the ball. They don't want to be the one who screws up.

In business, think of a big account client you must win over. As the time draws near, your palms get sweaty, you go over your presentation many times until you know every detail without thinking. You go to the bathroom and puke your meal and so on and so forth. Life comes down to a few moments.

Again you want to replicate those conditions as much as possible when you approach because you will learn more and you will acquire the experience you need in a very short time.

But Why Are These Situations Harder?
Well, you have road maps for performance in your head. They are like a working model that you follow unconsciously. Your mind has become very good at them with repetition. For example, when you enter a burger joint and order, you barely think about what you are doing.

Your mind does all the work for you without you exerting yourself. The mental road maps work by themselves. In low pressure situations your mind does 90 percent of the work by simply recalling past events. Your mind is brilliant in those conditions. It functions like a computer program.
Well, when it comes to high pressure situations your computer program gets jammed. Your recall memory has no reference points of how things might go. In the world of sports, you might recall D'Baggio kicking the ball up into the air in the deciding penalty against Brazil in the World Cup. He choked.  The best footballer in the world was unable to do a simple task like a penalty shoot. His recall memory got jammed up pretty badly. How many times does a player gets to kick a deciding penalty worth a world cup? Like never. Your mind can't recall a procedure that never happened. Muscle memory doesn't work.

 What's The Key?
Since you learn more and faster in those situations, you want the bulk of your practice to be done in those situations. You got to have something to lose. I often tell my student, "that guy is going to kick your ass when you try to steal his girl. Watch him, he looks like a thug". 

Guys used to approaching in those conditions where they have something to lose they get immune to pressure. As a result, your performance will improve in those situations but all around in every situation. Get used to training under pressure. Make sure you risk something every time you attempt an approach. That's your school.

Wasting Your Valuable Learning Time
The flip side of this tells you you are wasting your valuable time when learning when the pressure is not there. By staying in comfort zone, risking nothing, you learn nothing or you are less efficient than the guy that practices under pressure.

Use A Mantra In High Pressure Situations
You read things like "Be the ball" for basketball players throwing a free shot. "Try easy" for baseball players and all kinds of things out there you can use to overcome high pressure situations.
I use some of my own on program that I have stolen from movies like "Improvise, Adapt, Overcome" from Clint Eastwood' s "Heartbreak Ridge". I also tell my students "Fail Big" if you are going to fail. Nobody learns from small failures.

Repeating a mantra to yourself as you attempt those situations might help you get the edge off and keep your mind distracted. This is key for your procedural mind to kick in and do its work. If you are mind gets engaged in the pressure you make mistakes.

Pressure Only Exists In Your Mind
I guess this is a bit wu wu crap but it is true. You create the pressure yourself. You release those chemicals in the blood stream that make your performance go bad. You manufacture the pressure with your own thinking. Nobody has seen pressure. It is not an object. It is your perception of the situation that creates pressure. Pressure is something you could control if you control your expectations about the situation.

One technique you want to use is to lower your expectations in such situations. Pull the bar all the way down. However it is only through repetition you will truly learn to adapt and overcome pressure. Exposure is key.

Bravery Under Fire
You need to fight fire with fire. Wash, rinse  and repeat until you can perform under fire. Confidence is defined as absence of fear. You don't have to be brave. All you have to do is become fearless. For fear to disappear you need ever increasingly doses of it until you become fearless. Composure, coolness and smoothness come when you stop being fearful. Then the fun really begins.

Learn To Master Fear And Get Paid!
Most common question in job interviews is "Can you handle stress in work situations?". Recruiters know all about pressure and they pick their candidates based on "real experience". That's a fancy term for experience under fire. They want to know where you can handle deadlines, stressful work environment and so on. They are not stupid and they know true performance can only the measured under pressure. It is a fact that professionals that can handle pressure get paid more than those who don't.  Can you handle difficult clients, multiple demands and conflict? That's where you earn the big bucks.

Of course, it depends on the job. If you are a lion tamer or an organist for a church, demands on you are different. But most of all they want to know if you can thrive under pressure? What happens when you have different and conflicting demands made upon you?

High achievers tend to perform in those high pressure situations. I remember what my favourite football coach said yesterday, "We enjoy the pressure of working against the score". Later on today his team thrived under the pressure of the score and they moved onto the semi-finals of the Champions League by coming from behind a deficit of 2 goals. There is never  a sweeter victory than the one you earned by coming from behind in the score.
 
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First let's review what it means TO LACK a single purpose and then we take it from there. If you tick more than one box you lack single purpose in your interactions.

1. Interactions often die on you.
2. You end interactions before they are over.
3. You can get passed the first minute and often give up just right at the beginning.
4. You ignore signs that the girls into you in favour of the opposite type of signs. For example, you don't see her stepped aside from her group just to talk to you but you focus on the "negative fact" her body language is not right.
5. You settle for a phone number as a way to get out of the interaction.
6. A girl likes you but you fail to act quickly and close the deal, instead you remain passive.

The list goes on but you get my drift.

Why do you lack single purpose?
First off it is comfort zone behaviour. It is ten times more comfortable to try and back off when things don't go your way. You risk nothing but you earn nothing either. Pushing through makes you fearful that they will reject you even harder. In other words you reject yourself before any real dismissal appears.

Your approach tends to be to cut losses way too early. There is punishment for this kind of behaviour. You won't get laid. Cutting small losses won't get you the big bucks. You rationalize it by saying that it would be better to move on and invest yourself in a "winning interaction" where you don't to work so hard. Comfort zone behaviour.

Second, most guys don't want to know what they are really made of, let alone confront themselves with their lack of purpose. Self knowledge is great but it is a fickle sometimes. You don't want to admit to yourself certain things that don't show you in a good light. You might have to change and that possibility scares you. Once you identify your behaviour as flaky you have to become more consistent but what's the fun in that? Being consistent is not fun, it is just work. Somewhere you heard that approaching girls must be fun.

Thirdly, who cares? It is easier to go, test the waters and step in if the water is warm. Who says you have to jump into the cold swimming pool of rejection? Why risk anything?
All of those reasons are understandable but they sound all too familiar. You are just following conventional wisdom that takes people nowhere. Common sense is not common practice.

Let's talk  about why you want to have single purpose.

Not getting through the interaction because you lack purpose is devastating to you. You reinforce the idea you are a loser in this game. You don't deserve to win. Leaving interaction because you were soft and undecided becomes a ghost that will follow you and take away your motivation.

Not pushing things as far as possible makes you feel like you keep handing in the work unfinished. You don't feel good about yourself.

Having the single purpose of "Winning" the interaction even when you don't get the girl or any outcome at all might bring joy into your life. Why? Because it is a worthy cause. You can't live a happy life with accomplishing your missions.

Men are hunters. We need to shoot for something. It is what makes you get out of bed in the morning. Having a mission to accomplish will benefit you and others. Girls might start enjoying your company too because you are more confident and want something out of life. Women love guys with a purpose. Women follow those guys because they are going somewhere.

Yet another fringe benefit of single purposedness is the removal of suffering. When you have purpose in what you do, even when you don't get it right away, the fact that you have direction in your life will significantly reduce your complaining and suffering.

You will become opportunity minded instead of problem oriented. You become an opportunity hunter instead of fixer, which always gets guys down. There is no joy but suffering in fixing. There is joy in opportunity.
As a result of you wanting to win, you might engage in skill learning at a deeper level. You will realize there is a need for skill and you simply develop that skill. You don't leave it up to chance. You are proactive while the other guys just try to get lucky on the approach.

Rising above Yourself
Once you commit to a single purpose of "winning" the interaction you rise above your smaller self. If you always short yourself when you do anything and you are going big this time you can't hide anymore. You are up against it. You have to rise.

There is no way but up and that in itself will transform you. Women will see that in you, that you are doing something ballsy.

I remember one time on program I send a student to approach a girl who was behind two or three tables full of people. She saw him push through people, jump chairs, painstakingly work his way through her. Needless to say she loved the guy and rewarded his behaviour and his "single purposeness". But what a lesson he learned there too. He thought if he could do that he could do anything.

Anyway, just a word here on motivation. Have to signoff now and see you guys on the next article.

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Some of the common problems include:
. You leave sets too early
. You have approach anxiety
. You don't approach hotter girls
. Your interactions die when they seem to be going well
. You don't escalate when you should or simply not at all
etc.
The list goes on and on.
Nobody cares.
Your insecurities don't matter to anybody. You can talk about it forever. You read about solutions and they don't seem to work for you. You tell your friends, your buddies at the forum and sure, they will listen but for how long? But at the end of the day the only person that matters is you.
To live the good life you need to cut  out the middle man. You need to go straight to the shit. Ever heard a winner complain about anything or mention/focus on what he cannot do. Focusing on the negative is in itself counterproductive. You are wasting time. To win, you must move away from the bad. In other words you need to move to your strengths and forget your weaknesses for a while.

What's the big deal here?
Most sticking points lists prevent guys from taking action. In other words, you will avoid those very things outlined in the list. You will stay away from that list. Rather than escalating, you will delay the escalation on purpose or not do it at all. It prevents them from taking action.

Even if they knew what to do they wouldn't do it. Reason being action is key to dissipate sticking points. Chances are you are holding back in those areas that you need to improve and take action in. You get caught up in the drama of the sticking points. Chances are you are waiting for something to happen as opposed to making something happen. You don't want to face the problem.

You build anxiety over time around your sticking points. By not facing them you reinforce them. Too painful to face it, but far more to know deep down in your heart you are not addressing it. It is like when you hear somebody complain, "I have no life, no girlfriend or friends", and you truly want to help but they won't take your advice. Ever tried to give somebody direction in their lives and they refuse to consider your ideas because they don't find them useful.
You tell them, "If you are fat, why don't you try a diet and the gym", to which they reply, "Can't because diets don't work for me plus I have no time for the gym". In other words, they don't want advice but somebody to agree with them. In the game, I ask guys, "Why do you leave sets early?", most times they say, "I don't know. It kind of dies on me". I realize that most guys "want to" leave the set early. They can't take the pressure of sustaining an interaction for too long. They want to be over with it.

Being a Victim of your Sticking Point
Victims look like victims. You hear a lot that muggers pick victims in general by their body language. They identify people that are "muggable" by how they behave. Muggers operate just like predators in the wild they pick and choose their prey among the weakest of the herd, sometimes but not always the youngest.
If you approach sets already with the idea of leaving it early, you convey that insecurity to your girl with body language and general vibe. Women pick it up  and you are done. But that's what you unconsciously wanted to begin because you don't like holding the pressure of talking to her and her group.

Winners are Pushy
In a  good sense, winner push themselves beyond the limit. Stop walking around with a bulls eye in your back. Sticking points are there so be it. Take the action you require anyway and accept the consequences. Winners accept the loss and move on if they must. They don't avoid it. In the movie "The Hustler", the all time champion applauds the opponent when he made a good shot. He knew that the game was not about "the one shot", the game was the "long game", not the short. Whoever resists the pressure the longest without avoiding it becomes the champion. Deep down inside winners accept pressure as a by product of winning. Some get to enjoy it.

Imagine Yourself Without the Sticking Points
Let's say you don't have them anymore. What would you do? What happens when having a sticking point doesn't stop you from action? What will you do different? What happens when your subconscious mind stops thinking about limitations? Imagine yourself more powerful, bigger, better but also honest and down to earth. Some bully victims have changed their body language and have reported they don't get picked on at school anymore. Imagine this is just a body language change.
You don't want it to be about body language because you want long term solutions like attitude adjustments, not quick fixes. You want change to happen from inside to outside, not the other way around. As a coach, I work with a student from inside out, not outside in.

Outside changes are faster to implement but won't last long.

Chest champions use their disadvantage to their advantage. Bobby Fisher, for example, would play the same opening game with every opponent. He would not change his strategy, no  matter what. Most chess players would look at this as a disadvantage. They would think that you become predictable and they can anticipate your moves.
But Fischer found a way to make it work. His knowledge of the openings was so deep that nobody could beat him at those openings. In other words, he made a limitation into a weapon. In sports, you will find plenty of examples of players using their limitations to their advantage. In baseball, you have the short guys shrinking the strike zone by squatting so pitchers can't throw strikes.
In soccer, you have dwarfish players like Messi who are able to pass defenders by changing speeds and sneaking in the kill zone. In the pickup game you have shy guys turning into attraction magnets by being mysterious and making girls chase. The list goes on and on.

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This article is kind of part 2 to the previous one. I believe I didn't get deeper into the emotional thing in the field so this is meant to explain that a bit more.
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I want to get straight to it. What are the "tells" that you are not being emotionally sound in the field.
You are emotionally unsound or lack emotional intelligence around others if:
1.  New social situations scare you and you don't know why. For some reason you think people are out to harm you. You have a natural aversion to meeting new people like on plains, buses or social situations. You think of yourself as awkward and unable to handle the stress of new social situations. You fail to see the advantages of meeting new people except for having sex with a girl. But that's not enough of a reason to risk yourself out there.
2.  You are unable to spot "where you are going wrong". In other words there is a lack of awareness of your "sticking points" when it comes to others. Generally you are aware there is a problem but cant pinpoint it. You are stuck saying things like "I want to be more social but can't". Those statements reveal a lack of self awareness that needs to be overcome. In other words you feel a general state of paralysis. On the flip side you don't know what your strengths are. You fail to see the good things in you. Even more, you dont know because you cant get the courage to try and find those out. You are stuck in paralysis.
3. You can't focus when you enter a club. You can't stop paying attention to bouncers, screaming girls, alpha guys walking around, it almost feels like an outer body experience in a club. On other hand, if you did approach a girl you get easily distracted by what she says, does, her body language, her friends in the group and so on. In other words you are all over the place which disturbs emotionally and renders you incapable of doing your job and become successful. Pretty soon your sets die in your hands because you are not present and they can see it in you.
4. Emotions get out of hand infield. You can't pinpoint it but sooner or later you know you will get out of control. Again, awareness is key, you have no idea why this happens eventhough you are ball park about it with all the game lingo thrown around like outcome dependence, being reactive but you can't really tell for sure what's wrong with you. You are kind of oversensitive to girl's reactions and also situations getting out of hand. In other words if you do approach you still in "control" mode and walk away before you escalate.
5. You find it increasingly difficult to be positive and stay positive. Unless girls give you "something to work with" you lose motivation to approach in a hurry. You constantly predict bad outcomes will happen so you shrink from action. That includes escalating sets that are going well for the fear you might wreck the interaction.
6. You need an external source to validate you to take consistent action. If you don't get that source in the form of validation from girls you struggle with approaching and staying in set.
Ok. If you tick some the behaviours and mindsets above there is room for improvement in the area of emotions in the field. You might tell yourself you are not so bad but you know deep inside you know you can't stand emotions in the field and they get in the way of your success.
Let's talk solutions, shall we? How can we as people overcome this?(attempted humor)
First off, emotions get reflected or "printed" in your body. What physical symptoms do you experience if at all? (Worth mentioning that some people don't register physical symptoms, they are kind of "head people" and they become negative but won't feel a thing). Physical symptoms include butterflies, tightness in your chest, shortness of breathing and so forth. For example, before you get frustrated too much in the field you will notice how heart rate speeds up, breathing gets shorter or you start to feel "tight" all over your body. It will help you to identify these symptoms ahead of time before it is too late. That's emotional awareness. You want to develop that. This is solution oriented and proactive. Let me give you an example of how I do this with students in the field. In the field I constantly monitor symptoms in my students so I am quick on my feet to stop paralysis before it happens. If I detect early that my student is going into symptoms that can jeopardise his approaching and therefore tank his night on program, I ask the student to take a step back. Key is to see this early enough so it doesn't become a problem. By taking a step back, I don't mean stop approaching. I sometimes ask a student to do "the minimum" for a while until the symptoms get better. Sometimes I call off physical game for a while, others I ask them to "just survive". Eventually emotions improve because of lack of pressure to perform and they can go back to physical game, pulling, trying to separate girls from groups or whatever target they had. Doing this reveals emotional control and awareness. As opposed to keep on being frustrated until it is too late and you can't go back to regain control of your emotions.
Prevent "blanking out" emotions
Most people want to avoid emotions so they blank them out. They do this by not being present in their bodies and minds. They also "distort" emotions by telling themselves "this is not happening". Both trends to blank and distort can prove deadly because they allow for emotions to fester and not transform. Imagine a soldier in a field of battle telling himself he is not afraid, that fear is no real. Telling himself "I don't want to die". This is an extreme example but at club level you might find yourself "talking yourself out of emotions" as opposed to recognizing them and letting them be which is another way of "letting them go and transform". We are after transformation in the field, not after denial, distortion and blanking out because it won't allow time for transformation to happen. Fear can transform into excitement. Frustration can evolve into positive thoughts and so on. For transformation to happen, honesty is the word.
Without emotional awarenes you won't be able to understand what you need in the field. There are times when you need to "step back" and lower your sights. On the flip side, you will also understand when it is time to "step it up" and escalate more aggressively or take more risks.
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June 13-15, 2014: Munich, Germany
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http://youtu.be/o1vTjBJKOnQ

Increasing disorder
nature has a way of disordering itself and reordering itself back up again. Think of hurricanes, tornados and natural  disasters that  according to scientists they serve a purpose. Nature loves chaos but humans don't. In some way we were built wrong or "unnatural". We live in an increasingly "safe" society where we try to  keep "nature" away as far as possible. People grow for an "unnatural" distaste for chaos, thus denying that chaos has its purposes and functions.

Patterns in chaos
Scientists have been able to map out chaos. They have found there is order in chaos if you care to look. The bigger the chaos the more the patterns are exquisitely complicated and mind blowing. Apparently there is a higher complex order in nature, our human can't fully comprehend. They have found that those patterns appear and disappear in chaos and not come up in the same way ever again. Still there is an order in chaos.
 
How does this apply to approaching women?
Well, you see where I am going with this. Can we predict the result of it? Obviously, we can't. Thus we live in chaos in the field. Most guys want the familiar equation that will produce the same results every time they approach. They want to be safe. They want order where order cannot be found. There is order but not where you want it. By trying to find order in attraction formulae you are just setting yourself up for more chaos. Why? It is like the "butterfly effect". One thing that happens in the interaction will offset another and you are no longer in control. For example, a girl laughs at your jokes and you think she is attracted but for her it just means you are some kind of comedian. So one thing creates a ripple effect in the girl that leads her to a different attitude towards you. So when you ask for the phone number she won't give it up because she thinks you are too funny for her taste. Snap. 

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March 28-30, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 4-6, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
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April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 2-4, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 16-18, 2014: Stockholm, Sweden
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http://youtu.be/o1vTjBJKOnQ

Increasing disorder
nature has a way of disordering itself and reordering itself back up again. Think of hurricanes, tornados and natural  disasters that  according to scientists they serve a purpose. Nature loves chaos but humans don't. In some way we were built wrong or "unnatural". We live in an increasingly "safe" society where we try to  keep "nature" away as far as possible. People grow for an "unnatural" distaste for chaos, thus denying that chaos has its purposes and functions.

Patterns in chaos
Scientists have been able to map out chaos. They have found there is order in chaos if you care to look. The bigger the chaos the more the patterns are exquisitely complicated and mind blowing. Apparently there is a higher complex order in nature, our human can't fully comprehend. They have found that those patterns appear and disappear in chaos and not come up in the same way ever again. Still there is an order in chaos.
 
How does this apply to approaching women?
Well, you see where I am going with this. Can we predict the result of it? Obviously, we can't. Thus we live in chaos in the field. Most guys want the familiar equation that will produce the same results every time they approach. They want to be safe. They want order where order cannot be found. There is order but not where you want it. By trying to find order in attraction formulae you are just setting yourself up for more chaos. Why? It is like the "butterfly effect". One thing that happens in the interaction will offset another and you are no longer in control. For example, a girl laughs at your jokes and you think she is attracted but for her it just means you are some kind of comedian. So one thing creates a ripple effect in the girl that leads her to a different attitude towards you. So when you ask for the phone number she won't give it up because she thinks you are too funny for her taste. Snap. 

I will be next:
February 28-March 2, 2014: London, United Kingdom
March 7-9, 2014: Oslo, Norway
March 14-16, 2014: London, United Kingdom
March 21-23, 2014: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 28-30, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 4-6, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 2-4, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 16-18, 2014: Stockholm, Sweden
May 23-25, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 30-June 1, 2014: Copenhagen, Denmark
June 6-8, 2014: London, United Kingdom
June 13-15, 2014: Munich, Germany
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March 28-30, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 4-6, 2014: London, United Kingdom
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E60fDWs4Zsk&feature=youtu.be

What is it that you are procrastinating? what don't you want to do? Putting things off is a huge sign of fear. Most people postpone success indefinitely because they dread it. Some they limit their action taking because they don't want to face their fears. What is it you are saying "no" to? What are you "depriving" yourself of? I was laying down a game plan for a student the other day and he had the idea of getting a threesome. He was quick to erase that idea from the paper and he would not let me see it. He was afraid of it. I asked him to put it down again and write his fears around that goal.
As it turned out, he was more afraid of success than of failure. I already knew that so I told him to accept those feelings of fear and change them to "excitement". You are not afraid. Most of your fears translate into the excitement category. My student's concern were about how to perform sexually in a threesome and whether he would do a "good sexual performance". Having had my own experiences with threesomes myself with  a limp pecker in the middle of it (stage fright I guess), I understood his preoccupation with performance. My student concerns with the "what ifs" rings true of fear of success.
Don't forget to breathe
You want to feel your fears in your body and hold them before you do anything. You want to face them rather than avoiding them. Stay with your fears and allow yourself to ask what's on the other side. You will immediately connect with excitement. Excitement is waiting on the other side of fear. Rather than being limited by your emotions, get the lessons that accompany them and move on. What is this emotion teaching me? What am I afraid of? Dare to ask the relevant questions.
Afraid of chaos?
Let's get back to our student planning on getting a threesome. His fear was about chaos, things getting out of control with two girls in bed and he felt it will be overwhelming. You want to realize there is an order in chaos. Fear makes chaos. Once the fear is gone order is restored and you feel in control again. If you felt chaotic about something, it means you are afraid of it. Chaos and fear go hand in hand like "cocaine and waffles"(attempted humour, not really). Again, I bring my students into chaotic situations or potentially chaotic situations. You want to find out that there is order in chaos for yourself. Once you get rid of your fear, order is restored. In order for fear to go you must face the situation. "Just do it" by Nike seems to get the gist of it. Embrace chaos and find order in it. By conquering chaos you will get excited. You will find you can succeed beyond your limits.
Gold in Fear
Where ever you find fear there is gold buried underneath. Confusion, procrastination, anxiety and so on hide amazing payoffs on the other side. Fear tricks you. You will find fear in all kinds of disguises. Chances are potential for excitement hides behind all of those.
We all go through fear motions but most people don't know how to exploit this. Turning your fears, your lack of motivation, your confusion into a success story might seem undoable at first. Make juice out of that lemon. Personal growth hides behind fear. Sometimes I make a student triple his initial goal if I see he is not being ambitious enough.
For example, if the student writes down he wants a new lay this month, I make him triple that so that he gets some fear pumping through his system. That's not fear. It means excitement. They are close to each other. A good solid goal in this game must come with some element of fear attached to it. Chances are fear might be holding you back from abundance. You can do more.
Build on something small
Can't stress enough this one. If your goal is a threesome and you only managed to talk to a couple of girls for 5 minutes, it is a start! Keep talking to 2 sets until your start pulling them. Forget about the outcome. Keep talking to small groups of girls and try and venue change them for a while. Small chunk your goals into smaller doable steps. Get excited with little progress. Everything becomes a stepping stone.
If you are coming back to the gym, after a long hiatus, you don't shoot for long sessions. Instead get excited just because you did a good 20 minutes work out. Realize you won't get the six pack abs just yet. Take one tiny step at a time and get excited about it.
Too much going on
It saps your energy to spread yourself too thin. It creates more fear. Instead, laser focus on one goal at a time and give yourself a time frame to achieve it. Be accountable to somebody, a friend, a forum or your bathroom wall. Try not to focus on too many things at once. Just that one little goal and don't step until you get it. It will excite you and you won't sap your valuable zest into many tasks. One task it!

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April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
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http://youtu.be/O4PqCfH0ebY

New year full of promise and you want to turn January into the month that ends all. Same here, can't avoid it. January turns into the month in which we make or break it. Wrong.  You want to turn last year's resolutions into the new year's shining new successes. January registers a 200 percent increase in new diets and gym applications. Simple, people start with food and exercise. They also call it post-Xmas desperation. Hopefully you are smarter  than that. Probably not. News flash: you are setting yourself up for failure. It seems a big part of January is too feel guilty for the fun we had eating and relaxing on the last month of the year.
Stop being your own worst enemy
Stop persecuting yourself. So you decide to live in starvation and anxiety for a month as a true penance for your dirty deeds as the only way to feel good about yourself. You want to attach merit to good deeds in order to counteract the bad ones. You want to feel good about yourself again by punishing yourself. Code of the true samurai who lives in permanent death. Banning stuff seems the right way to go.
Stop the madness
A health body with an useless mind doesn't work. You want to starve our mind of negative thoughts not pour new ones in.
Some of the typical mistakes of an unhealthy mind is to work in cycles of punishment vs starvation. You do a bad deed and you punish yourself with negative thoughts but as a result you feel even worse, which feeds more bad deeds. It leads to being hopeless long term. It just doesn't work. It is a waste of the present moment in favour of the past and the urge of the future. Stop saying "I will be whole if/when "xyz" happen". One way ticket to misery. You sacrifice what's happening to you now and your awareness and you torture yourself with a possible bright future. It is kind of sitting in a restaurant and saying, "I want whatever that other table is having", instead of enjoying the meal you already have on your plate. Not realizing you are unique, one in a million creation right now. Instead of putting yourself down, realize what a wonderful thing you are  instead of punishing yourself for not having something yet. Instead practice some here and now Eckhar Tollish stuff.
Your Guide To Feel Good Now
. Enjoy the little things of right now. Finish this sentence, instead of saying, "I will be happy when I get an amazing job/ferrari/hot girlfriend..." say, "I feel good when I....laugh/clean my apartment/enjoy a good meal/meet a friend/amazing workout  at the gym". These are all easily achievable things that you can do right now, no delay, no wait. Go do them. Realize that you won't get the big goals if you are not happy, content and maintain a positive mental attitude.
. Look to others for inspiration. Look at people who have achieved what you want to achieve and try to mimic them instead of punishing yourself for not being there yet. Most  of those people keep a healthy mental attitude and you want to copy that. Plenty of biographies out there of successful types. You want to read them for clues, not of success, but how they manage to keep healthy mental attitudes when they had not achieved their goals yet.
. Don't doubt yourself. Being hard on yourself means you doubt yourself. Deep down, you think you don't deserve the good things you plan for 2014. You can't afford to doubt yourself. You need unlimited confidence in yourself. You can't do things half way. You need whole hearted confidence that you can handle whatever is being thrown at you. You are it. You are the bee's knees of your life, nobody else is coming to do it for you but at the same time don't be afraid to ask for help. It takes a confident person to ask for help. Be confident and ask for help, get a wingman to go out, ask an advance guy for an opinion about your problems with women.
. Blow little successes out of proportion. Dwell on your little victories. I can't stress enough how this keeps the healthy mental attitude. Whatever little progress you made, over endorse it and over hype it. You don't need a super positive mental attitude but you do need a healthy one. Self-promotion is really important. Negativity gets you distracted. Bad things are going to happen anyway, it is about distracting yourself from them. Make a list of all the little things you have achieved. By default, you minimize success and blow up failure. Do the opposite for a change.
. 10 percent of this dating game is skill and 90 percent is how you handle your emotions. Learn to handle your emotions under fire. Spend time on that 90 percent. Chances are you already know the basics and so forth. What's missing is the healthy mental attitude. Emotional intelligence is key to success in any area. Remember it is not about being "positive", but about being mentally strong.
Vision for 2014
I dare you to dream. Let's do this. Write down your top 5 results game wise you would like to realize this year. It is important as you write them down that you feel symptoms of fear like goose bumps, butterflies or cardiac unrest. They also have to be things that excite you. Excitement and fear are generated in the same parts of your brain. They feel alike and the flip, that's how you know you are excited. Let's say having a hot girlfriend both excites you and scare you because you might fail. Dare to write it down. Most perfectionist types have a hard time writing goals down because they are terrified mistakes and errors. I say, challenge your perfectionism by putting yourself on the line. Instead of banning yourself from things, write things down that both excite you and scare you.
Remember if you are not planning success you are planning failure. Simple reason for that is if you don't plan you will leave everything to the unconscious. Success is a conscious exercise. There is no place for accidents. You won't accidentally stumble to success. Success is a conscious effort, that's why it is said that it is 90 percent perspiration and 10 percent inspiration. If you leave it up to inspiration, you are giving yourself a 10 percent chance. Won't work. Probably the only thing I agree with from that film "The Secret". They got it right when they said you need to have clear vision for your future. They left out the fact that the vision has to match your values, beliefs and emotions. Most people are not interested in the truth. So it sounds easier to memorize a check for x amount of dollars or stare at a luxury car for a while and try to "manifest" it.

Not everything you want is aligned with your inner reality. It might be a cover up for something you lack. Let's say you have low self esteem and you think making  x amount of money will raise that or a fancy car. You will find that low self esteem requires inner change, not from the outside. You might get the car but deep inside you are still lacking self esteem. Work and planning has to be done to come out with an appropriate vision for you. I do this exercise of vision with my students at the end of bootcamp.

Some students feel excited about getting one goal that might mean nothing to most people. Because it is in tune with their inner side. Students are different and they all have different end goals in mind for their game. Their dreams might not look too ambitious to an outside observer but to them they mean everything.
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April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
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Common Thought Loops In Pickup 
"it won't work"
"I will suck"
"it will be weird so I rather not do it"
"Can't do it because I don't have the skills/pickup line/right mental state right now"

I deal with this stuff every weekend. I coach guys through this and rarely the work done at the weekend is enough. They go home with a lot of homework to do.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kz6a24NfpKA
 
Picking up girls live in field will amplify whatever character flaw you have to stratospheric levels. If you are a thinking negative type you will become doom and gloom. If you think you are awkward in social situations, now in pickup you become "weird". If you behave like a victim, always whining to friends and colleagues, in pickup you will become a drama queen.

In other words everything gets blown out of proportion because there is fear and rejection involved. It is like they say in sales, "not everybody can be a good salesman" because not every can handle rejection on a daily/hourly basis. I was in sales a long time ago and the best salesmen were guys who didn't care about the customers at all, in other words they had a very simple approach, "just make the sale". Everything else was meaningless to them.

Pickup is not sales. But you have to be able to handle fear of rejection. To achieve that you have to act sometimes like you don't care even if you do care. Everything else is a waste of time. The best way that I have found to teach this is to expose my students to the possibility of rejection and ask them to push through failure. Simple enough, but complicated to implement.

Circular Thinking And Fear Of Rejection

I don't know who said that if think the problem is a nail, everything becomes a hammer. Or something. For a person scared of rejection anything becomes a sign they are being pushed away. For example, if she is laughing at your jokes you think she is just being polite. If she shrugs her shoulders it means she is bored. If she talks to her friends for a couple of minutes, it means she doesn't want to talk to you. Everything is a hammer.

Circular thinking is a lot like that proverbial hammer. Things "have to" go a certain away every time. The same thought pattern or "rigid" way of thinking interferes with positive action taking. I was watching that movie "the secret life of Walter mitty" and it was interesting to see the main character going into the same fantasies over and over, kind  of in a loop. So he would look at a girl and always think that he was inadequate and not attractive enough to talk to her.

So he would make a up a more appealing sexual man in his own head and create a fantasy around him, who would attract the girl sexually. At the end of the movie he finds out he is that man anyway. That he doesn't need the fantasy anymore. With loopy thinking you find out the same thing, you don't need to be amazing to approach a girl, that you won't suck as much as you think. Probably the truth is somewhere in the middle. You are not so amazing but you are not so bad either. Walter Mitty finds that reality by taking action. So will you if you decide to challenge loopy thinking.

You need action because action clarifies. On the one hand you find out you don't suck as much as you think, and on the other if you did suck it is never as bad as you imagined. That applies not only to approaching but also to escalation and closing the deal with women. You find that guys get trapped in the loop, "yeah, I can approach but then nothing happens". Action clarifies here too.
I tell my students in the day time approaching to invite girls for coffee all the time and collect "no's" for a while. So their job is to fail at it for a while. Once they lose their fear of failure, they start disappearing for a couple of hours with girls on "instant dates". In other words, they have disarmed the power of loopy thinking through clarifying action. It is funny how now they expect every girl to say "yes" to the invite. Total transformation happens.
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February 21-23, 2014: Barcelona, Spain
February 28-March 2, 2014: London, United Kingdom
March 7-9, 2014: Oslo, Norway
March 14-16, 2014: London, United Kingdom
March 21-23, 2014: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 28-30, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 4-6, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 2-4, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 16-18, 2014: Stockholm, Sweden
May 23-25, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 30-June 1, 2014: Copenhagen, Denmark
June 6-8, 2014: London, United Kingdom
June 13-15, 2014: Munich, Germany

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