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“I wanna be great”, says the main character while his hands bleed from drumming and

pushing himself over the limit of human resistance. In other words he claims “I won’t be

forgotten”. He was wrong in the movie about that. He misunderstood true greatness. He

thought to be great all he had to do is to forget his real needs and spend more time

drumming. He got worst that way. Because greatness comes when you understand your

personal rhythms and utilize them wisely.

Nurture vs. nature

The movie is about that whole debate which for the Japanese is a mute point. Japanese

culture praises balance over skill. Skill comes from a balanced approach. Western culture is

not about balance, it is about speed. We focus on time. “How long will take me before I am

good at this?” Japanese culture doesn’t ask such questions. For them it is the wrong

question to ask. For them, a balanced approach to skill and patience are the key ingredients.

However, they are the pioneers and market leaders of electronics and software. Literally they

are the true champions of making things smaller and ever faster. But Japanese culture is not

about speed. Speed is a by-product.

“Faster, Faster”

His conductor yelled at him while he pushed himself with bloody hands. It was torture. His

conductor wanted him to learn things through pain and blood. Pain is a great teacher. Nothing

imprints urgency faster than pain. I am a true believer in pain. But also I believe in balance,

meeting your basic needs while striving for greatness. I believe in inspiration, but not by

itself. You need sweat and blood. This is why most geniuses go insane. They get suicidal

because their lives are unbalanced, one dimensional. Can you meet your basic needs while

striving for greatness? Western culture says no, while Japanese culture says yes and it is

necessary. In the movie, this part is represented when he has a near fatal car accident while

distracted driving. He lost his mind with his obsession and also his shot at greatness there.

The movie is clear on this. What can happen to somebody who forgets he is human?


Sustainability

Looking at an activity as a marathon, and not a dash to greatness. Most people would not

make it because of their short-sightedness. They see things through the eyes of time.

Eastern culture looks at the world as a continuum where things happen over and over.

Nothing new for mankind. Only the names change, behaviours repeat themselves. Eastern

philosophers don’t talk about time as a factor. They look at sustainability. Long term

development. Speed is detrimental to development because people burn through cycles and

don’t become whole. It slows them down in the end because the fundamentals are not honed

in.


Music as a skill intensive activity

Learning an instrument is one of the most painstaking, technical feats ever performed by

humans. It requires repletion to the max because hand eye coordination needs to be exact.

Piano players play 8 hours a day minimum. Imagine not meeting your basic needs and

playing for 8 hours everyday. How can you endure without breaking?

“I am here to push people beyond what’s expected of them”

The conductor is a man that believes “single purpose” means forgetting about yourself, your

real needs. He thinks that the real person is “expendable” and a good job is not enough. “Is

there a line?” asks the main character. His philosophy is charming. I love it. But it is

extremely unhealthy. Needs to be taken with a grain of salt or least know what you are

missing. Life doesn’t rewind itself again for you to live it. If you become dedicated to one

activity at the expense of others you risk burn out. Again, that’s  a choice you have to make.

There are plenty of brilliant people saying exactly the opposite. They claim they became

really good when they found balance in their lives and stopped being obsessive. But again

this is a matter of personal choice.

You can see clearly that the person who wrote the script loves the conductor’s point of view.

They also offer doubts about his way of thinking and his teachings. It is hard not to love the

conductor and his approach to music greatness. He is a true believer. But in the movie they

plotted out his demise. The entire movie we are waiting for it. We are intrigued about what will

be the end of this guy. Can he sustain it? Can I as audience believe in this guy? Without

spoiling it for you, the movie has a finale with a reveal. The writers were playing with you all

along. “I smell a rat” I say.

Overdoing Things Might Cost You

I keep saying to guys that they want sustainability when they approach pickup, not

obsession. Quality over length of practice, depth over shallow approaching of women,

maximizing learning profits in short periods of time, Why? It prevents boredom and burn out.

It keeps things interesting. I always stop writing on highs. Go away and come back later to

keep writing. My writing production has improved over the years using this simple trick.

However it sounds like I am sabotaging myself by walking away on highs but I am not.

Hemingway used to do that. By doing that you maintain interest on a topic and yes, you

produce more.

In the end(spoiler alert ahead), the main character in Whiplash lost a bit of love for his

instrument due to overdoing it. I am not going to spoil it for you but he was shooting himself

in the foot. He was killing his motivation to become a great drummer. Anything you overdo,

you end up paying for it. Balance is key. For me, it is all about motivation and keeping things

interesting. Why? I have ruined plenty of hobbies for myself by overdoing. I got tired of them.

Your Lesson

Self teaching is key in any skill development activity. You need to have the ability to teach

yourself like the guy in the film. Self education is an ability in of itself. It is a skill. For me

self teaching is the only way to go. I learn what I can with a coach or instructor and teach

myself the rest. I don’t expect coaches/teachers/instructors do all the leg work for me. I am

my own teacher. I use teachers and qualified people simply as guides.

Anyway, hope it helps and see you later!

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I always felt fake trying to make me feel positive, kind of forcing it onto my perfectionist

nature. I tried to escape it. I have a tendency to control the world around me, in a way; it is a

trying to avoid my negative feelings inside. That’s where my perfectionism took me.

Whenever I tried to stop my negative thinking I felt guilty for it. Which led to beating myself

down and further negativity. I was more like a watch dog for negative thought.

Concluded that I was trying to too hard at being positive.

Trying to hard at being positive made me more negative. I was always fighting. I was being

controlling. That is not being positive. Even having a “positive” agenda it made me controlling

and negative in the long run. Why? Because I saw everything at the mind level. I never

thought about my body as part of it. Most emotions are felt in the body; symptoms of fear

appear in the body. I was ignoring those in favour of the mind. I was a brainiac.

Positive thinking didn’t make me more positive

It actually made me more judgmental, more in my head trying to find “reasons to stay

positive”, looking at the “silver lining” of things. I found I was forcing myself to be positive

instead of actually being positive. I noticed that naturally positive people rarely use logic, at

least not in an obsessive way. Getting logical, in the name of positivity, gets you negative,

because you get into rigid thinking. Most natural positives, they flow with reality, they don’t

try to change it. They kind of roll with it, not try to control it. In controlling it you become

miserable because you can’t overcome reality and its “swings”.

Imperfection

I was still imperfect at being positive. I made mistakes in real life, wrong decisions that

invariably brought me down from the positive mountain of logic I had built for myself. Positive

thinking didn’t give me any respite because I was still being logical—and I hadn’t really

changed. I was still fighting, judging, being “good at it”, and wondering when life would finally

get positive for real. The old “fake it till you make it” strategy.
 
Using my head, being logical was the problem, overanalysing things, trying to be perfect at it

became the issue.

Being Non Judgemental

If you stop judgement, if you can, trying to figure things out, and accept reality as it is you

become more grounded. Acceptance is the opposite of changing, fixing and control. It makes

positive immediately because the need to “arrange” is gone. Acceptance takes practice.

Staying with the disarray of reality, with the uncomfortable symptoms is what defeats

negativity. You find out, nothing is ever that bad. Your mind creates fear out of nothing. It

creates these scenarios you are trying to control when in reality there is nothing to control.

No need. You only have to stay on course. Life drives itself.
 
Accepting the Bad

There are things you don’t like about yourself. Sometimes trying to change them makes

them stick rather than getting rid of them. I normally ask my students to tell me something

“uncool” about themselves and start conversations with people using “uncool” stuff as an

opener. They are surprised to find out people not only they don’t care they embrace those

things. Why don’t you embrace those parts of you? If you pay attention, those parts of you

are not that bad after all. In certain situations they have been assets to you. Love every part

of you, not just the good stuff. If you do, you will find others follow suit. It is usually self

perception. Sometimes the job is thought of as a deal breaker. For example, “ my job is

boring”, or “menial”. You will find that people don’t care as much, it is only you.

People

Tim, former RSD instructor deluxe, instead of trying to control things to happen a certain way

or resisting what “is,” he would chill out. This doesn’t mean to not do anything. It simply

means being clear on what you want, setting your intention, doing what you can to achieve it

and then let go. Finding the “natural” way simply means being clear on the bad traits,

responding instead of constantly initiating, and letting the universe bring you the results

you’re supposed get. Loved being around that guy who was always making jokes and having

fun out of ridiculous situations we got into travelling.

If you find yourself feeling down after being around certain people, limit the time you spend

around them. Instead, spend time with  friends who are uplifting, and seek out new friends

who leave you feeling positive. Life can be hard, and no one wants to be bogged down by a

partner with a negative outlook on life. When you look at the brighter side of life, your

interactions will be positive and more enjoy.

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I have decided to throw a video for newbies and advanced alike. These are mistakes I see in

both. Most advanced guys forget the fundamentals once they start getting results. They

think they are “above” them. They make up for their forgetfulness with “game”. They struggle

as a result. So this video could be a reminder for them. For newbies, they can profit from the

straightforwardness of the lessons here. You can apply them right away and improve your

game quickly.

In this video you will learn:

1.       Group Dynamics: what makes a group take you in on a cold approach

2.       The concept of Newcomer hostility

3.       How Positive Traits operate in groups and turn groups around

4.       How to “mask” your incompetence of a newbie you enter a big group

5.       Become Aware how the group impacts your behaviour and be ready to change

negative traits that result from it.

I hope is useful. 



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Ever Wanted To be Somebody Else?

The whole superhero cartoon/comics/Hollywood industry is built on this concept. They prey on the weak minded. Escapism is the name.

This desire to be another is a form of running away. The ever unpopular nerd, heavily addicted to role-playing games, is a perfect example of this. Imagine the character Clarke, escaping into superman costume in his head righting the wrongs.

To experience the negative effects of shrinking away from reality you don’t have to fly too far. It comes in many forms, some rather subtle, and prevents us from doing what we need to do to improve the circumstances of our real lives.

Whenever you fly into fantasy you are trying to avoid your “real self” because it poses some kind of challenge in real life, something you don’t want to face. Pretty crazy stuff. That way of attempting to negate our personal responsibility and to avoid the discomfort of existential pains or things that are beyond control.

We are ultimately responsible for all the decisions that we make and the actions that we take, but living in a fantasy world is a way of absolving ourselves of the consequences of our actions. When you escape you no longer have problems and don’t have to face realities.

Achieving Goals Vs Fantasy World

Ever wonder why New Year resolutions never pan out. Most people plan but it never comes to pass. They are masters at creating a fantasy goal but are really bad at follow through. Excess planning is another form of escapism. Most people that succeed proceed to action with little or no information. However, when a fantasist creates life goals they can’t avoid but to engage in fantasy about how, when and where they will be a year from now. Fantasy world rarely disappoints except when time passes and you don’t do anything.

Oops There Goes Gravity!

Life has a way of waking you up. Take the guy who imagines and visualizes himself being an alpha male approaching women and sweeping them off their feet. Then goes to a club and see that, not only he can’t use his fancy talk there because of the loud music but also women are so distracted they barely pay attention.

Reality hits him and withdraws and crawls back home. That’s how most fantasist operate. The drum up another fantasy and they go at it again. It could be an addiction.

Take Time Off!

What’s your favourite activity? I know mine is soccer. I gotta read the news all the time and keep up with my favourite team. I know it is fantasy. Sometimes I spend way too much time on it. I love reading about it. Again, I always was a wanna be athlete. I get to live that fantasy through others. I need to get off it.

What’s your favourite time-consuming activity? Lay off it ...for a while! See what happens in your life. See what happens when you can’t play “Call of Duty” for a week. See how much time you have and how much you can get done with all that time. A friend of mine got a degree by studying during his commute time.

Most people commute with an android and some video game. How about doing something real with that time. How about approaching one girl every time you commute, start a random conversation with one girl every time you go on that train. Many things can be done in that spare time you save by being in fantasy.
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Why Live In Fantasy When You can get What You Want Now?

 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-UixQ348r0
 
Ever Wanted To be Somebody Else?
The whole superhero cartoon/comics/Hollywood industry is built on this concept. They prey on the weak minded. Escapism is the name.
This desire to be another is a form of running away. The ever unpopular nerd, heavily addicted to role-playing games, is a perfect example of this. Imagine the character Clarke, escaping into superman costume in his head righting the wrongs.
To experience the negative effects of shrinking away from reality you don’t have to fly too far. It comes in many forms, some rather subtle, and prevents us from doing what we need to do to improve the circumstances of our real lives.

Whenever you fly into fantasy you are trying to avoid your “real self” because it poses some kind of challenge in real life, something you don’t want to face. Pretty crazy stuff. That way of attempting to negate our personal responsibility and to avoid the discomfort of existential pains or things that are beyond control. We are ultimately responsible for all the decisions that we make and the actions that we take, but living in a fantasy world is a way of absolving ourselves of the consequences of our actions. When you escape you no longer have problems and don’t have to face realities.
Achieving Goals Vs Fantasy World
Ever wonder why New Year resolutions never pan out. Most people plan but it never comes to pass. They are masters at creating a fantasy goal but are really bad at follow through. Excess planning is another form of escapism. Most people that succeed proceed to action with little or no information. However, when a fantasist creates life goals they can’t avoid but to engage in fantasy about how, when and where they will be a year from now. Fantasy world rarely disappoints except when time passes and you don’t do anything.
Oops There Goes Gravity!
Life has a way of waking you up. Take the guy who imagines and visualizes himself being an alpha male approaching women and sweeping them off their feet. Then goes to a club and see that, not only he can’t use his fancy talk there because of the loud music but also women are so distracted they barely pay attention. Reality hits him and withdraws and crawls back home. That’s how most fantasist operate. The drum up another fantasy and they go at it again. It could be an addiction.
Take Time Off!
What’s your favourite activity? I know mine is soccer. I gotta read the news all the time and keep up with my favourite team. I know it is fantasy. Sometimes I spend way too much time on it. I love reading about it. Again, I always was a wanna be athlete. I get to live that fantasy through others. I need to get off it.
What’s your favourite time-consuming activity? Lay off it ...for a while! See what happens in your life. See what happens when you can’t play “Call of Duty” for a week. See how much time you have and how much you can get done with all that time. A friend of mine got a degree by studying during his commute time. Most people commute with an android and some video game. How about doing something real with that time. How about approaching one girl every time you commute, start a random conversation with one girl every time you go on that train. Many things can be done in that spare time you save by being in fantasy.
 
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I wanted to talk about this movie because it is the first motion picture I have seen that approaches fear from the fear tech perspective. It is a movie entirely dedicated to the concept of fear, all kinds of fears. The movie is about a motivational book that seems to inspire people. You learn about the book’s ideas second hand through how it changes the lives of people in the movie. I think it has so many successful Hollywood actors in it because they identify with the ideas in the script. They believe in the movie. The movie is a “no bullshit” approach to success and motivation.  What motivates people? Why do some people rise above their difficulties and others don’t?
1.       “There is no stopping someone who would stop at nothing”. So if you want something, you have to decide how to get it. I love the quote. Be stopples. Stop at nothing. Success is a decision. Whenever you succeed at something it is because you decided already you will win. So success it is a conscious decision. Fear overcome. At that moment you decide your fears won’t stop you. It is kind of fear tech. We accept the symptoms and we march into battle. Failure is part of it. We accept it as part of the risk, the package, the deal. This is how we empower ourselves. I remember when I first started in the game and I decided I wanted the success that those jerks in the club were having. They seem to march out of the club with the girls while the rest of chumps watched. I decided I didn’t want to be a chump anymore. I wanted to win. Stop being a spectator and become an actor. 
2.       Life goes by and one day you wake up and feel like your time has passed you by. So the time is now. Very few people achieve. In the movie you can see why. Most people become involved with their fears. They give power to their fears by dwelling in them. They become part of their fabric, of who they are. We want to get to know our fears, not because we want to cuddle them, because we want to get rid of them, we want to nuke them. In my bootcamp, I want my students to become aware of their fears. Last weekend I had a student who was afraid “to be arrested like Julien RSD instructor for groping a girl”, but Julien was never arrested for doing what he does. He made up a negative fantasy in his head about a hypothetical situation that never happened but he believed it. It is funny how many students I get over the years with same fears of being arrested because they approached a girl. They become invested in their fear. Needless to say, by the second night of program, they forgot this fear. I make it a point to remind them where they were the day before and see how much progress they have made in just one day. They have new fears on the second day of bootcamp. They are afraid to fail, not get what they want when they approach and so on. New fears pop up. That’s why fear technology is about fear resolution, not fear avoidance. We dwell in fear long enough so we can get rid of it.
3.       “Empires are built on a kiss”. Action is the magic word. There is no wrong action. Failure is just feedback. When did you start being a slave to your fears? “We get what we want by smashing through by sheer will...” Stallone’s character says. It is important to know what you are and what you are not. You need to get to know “you”. You need to know what stops you, what motivates you. Most guys want what they see in others but rarely are aware about what’s going on inside. Build your private empire. Make a wish list. Then investigate your fears around it and dedicate the next three month to break through them. I make sure my students get to approach the hottest girls in the club every night. They need to get close to the dream, the wish list and keep the dream alive. Soon they start isolating them and the dream becomes more real. They still lack the confidence to go for the kiss but so be it. They start to entertain the idea that their belief system was wrong. That approaching hot women takes the same amount of energy that approaching average looking girls. You need to break through the glass ceiling of fear.
4.       “I am Roger and I don’t smoke”. I love that line. It is useless to whine. In the movie, one of the characters can’t quit smoking. He loves the drama of trying to quit cigarettes and not being able to. People love the drama of being hopeless. “I can’t get girls because I don’t know how”, “I can’t get girls because I lack the skills/the confidence/the looks...” and so on. You need to stop “struggling” and decide what you want and go get it. Stop the drama of “I cannot do it”. Stop fueling the idea that are not made for success. There is no stopping somebody who would stop at nothing.
5.       Afraid of your own potential? Fear of Success disguised as fear of failure? In the movie the main character is afraid of public speaking, he is afraid of the limelight, literally. Think about yourself. Break it down. Break yourself down and build yourself back up. Be ashamed of where you are today and be disgusted with it and promise you will change it. You are either yesterday or you are part of today. Feel guilty and ashamed for what you were yesterday. Somehow you have to be disgusted at yourself in order to succeed. Personally, I get my motivation by thinking of all the time I have wasted in my life, letting others rule me with their opinions, hung ups and criticism. I am disgusted with all the time I spent trying to get validation from family and friends who don’t care about me. Then I decided to go after whatever I want in life. I know fear will be there waiting for me but I refuse to let it rule me. I accept it as part of the deal. What are you disgusted about in your life today? Be ashamed of it and decide to change it. Let it be a motivation to move forward. It takes more work to fail than to succeed. Think about it, everyday you have to wake up and think up reasons why you stay stuck. Moving forward is a simple idea, deciding to succeed is a simple idea that doesn’t require over thinking. 

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