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I always felt fake trying to make me feel positive, kind of forcing it onto my perfectionist

nature. I tried to escape it. I have a tendency to control the world around me, in a way; it is a

trying to avoid my negative feelings inside. That’s where my perfectionism took me.

Whenever I tried to stop my negative thinking I felt guilty for it. Which led to beating myself

down and further negativity. I was more like a watch dog for negative thought.

Concluded that I was trying to too hard at being positive.

Trying to hard at being positive made me more negative. I was always fighting. I was being

controlling. That is not being positive. Even having a “positive” agenda it made me controlling

and negative in the long run. Why? Because I saw everything at the mind level. I never

thought about my body as part of it. Most emotions are felt in the body; symptoms of fear

appear in the body. I was ignoring those in favour of the mind. I was a brainiac.

Positive thinking didn’t make me more positive

It actually made me more judgmental, more in my head trying to find “reasons to stay

positive”, looking at the “silver lining” of things. I found I was forcing myself to be positive

instead of actually being positive. I noticed that naturally positive people rarely use logic, at

least not in an obsessive way. Getting logical, in the name of positivity, gets you negative,

because you get into rigid thinking. Most natural positives, they flow with reality, they don’t

try to change it. They kind of roll with it, not try to control it. In controlling it you become

miserable because you can’t overcome reality and its “swings”.

Imperfection

I was still imperfect at being positive. I made mistakes in real life, wrong decisions that

invariably brought me down from the positive mountain of logic I had built for myself. Positive

thinking didn’t give me any respite because I was still being logical—and I hadn’t really

changed. I was still fighting, judging, being “good at it”, and wondering when life would finally

get positive for real. The old “fake it till you make it” strategy.
 
Using my head, being logical was the problem, overanalysing things, trying to be perfect at it

became the issue.

Being Non Judgemental

If you stop judgement, if you can, trying to figure things out, and accept reality as it is you

become more grounded. Acceptance is the opposite of changing, fixing and control. It makes

positive immediately because the need to “arrange” is gone. Acceptance takes practice.

Staying with the disarray of reality, with the uncomfortable symptoms is what defeats

negativity. You find out, nothing is ever that bad. Your mind creates fear out of nothing. It

creates these scenarios you are trying to control when in reality there is nothing to control.

No need. You only have to stay on course. Life drives itself.
 
Accepting the Bad

There are things you don’t like about yourself. Sometimes trying to change them makes

them stick rather than getting rid of them. I normally ask my students to tell me something

“uncool” about themselves and start conversations with people using “uncool” stuff as an

opener. They are surprised to find out people not only they don’t care they embrace those

things. Why don’t you embrace those parts of you? If you pay attention, those parts of you

are not that bad after all. In certain situations they have been assets to you. Love every part

of you, not just the good stuff. If you do, you will find others follow suit. It is usually self

perception. Sometimes the job is thought of as a deal breaker. For example, “ my job is

boring”, or “menial”. You will find that people don’t care as much, it is only you.

People

Tim, former RSD instructor deluxe, instead of trying to control things to happen a certain way

or resisting what “is,” he would chill out. This doesn’t mean to not do anything. It simply

means being clear on what you want, setting your intention, doing what you can to achieve it

and then let go. Finding the “natural” way simply means being clear on the bad traits,

responding instead of constantly initiating, and letting the universe bring you the results

you’re supposed get. Loved being around that guy who was always making jokes and having

fun out of ridiculous situations we got into travelling.

If you find yourself feeling down after being around certain people, limit the time you spend

around them. Instead, spend time with  friends who are uplifting, and seek out new friends

who leave you feeling positive. Life can be hard, and no one wants to be bogged down by a

partner with a negative outlook on life. When you look at the brighter side of life, your

interactions will be positive and more enjoy.

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hahaha great stuff
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Thank you for your revelations in this field!!!! The complexity and value of this principle is beyond my ability to describe. Any attempt falls as short as throwing a stone at the moon. Their are countless examples of the power of this. Another one is , if your afraid to fight someone that has a knife..... when and if you train to fight against3 people that have knives ,you will find that your fear of fighting only one is gone.... proof not promises"
Thanks again
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Thank you for sharing :)
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Loved the blog about acceptance ozzie thanks
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Great video thaks for this Oz. Lately I have been reading Arnold Schwarzenegger biography and one thing i learned from him and wanted to share is that you have to accept the good and the bad as the same and love both of the same. One thing i saw which was a real learning lesson is when he was going for governer he was once walking and he got egged. I like the way he reacted and handled the situation. He made a joke out of it and carried on holding his state togather. 

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Same with pickup the good side is you can approch a girl, have a good vibe, get an instant date, close. There is also the bad side you get cold reactions, the look, freeze out. 

You have to take the whole package and embrace them both the same. Since doing this i enjoy pickup more and am getting into the habbit of accpeting flaking, cold freeze out's. I laugh it now and find it funny. 
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nice
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cool, a new perspective, awesome
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cool, a new perspective, awesome
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