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You will find most people are friendly and take you in as long as you don’t behave like a weirdo and are cool. No need for sophisticated strategies or tactics here. Be enthusiastic! That’s about the only rule I have.

It is unlikely worst case scenarios will arise. Nobody will bite you head off for talking to them. Nobody will beat you up. Guys with girls you approach will be super friendly for the most part, provided you talk to them and are cool. Nobody gets into fights unless they are looking for them.

As to people being rude to you, most people will be polite when dismissing you. Girls that don’t want to talk to you will say “we have to go the toilet” or “we are going back to our friends” and excuse themselves.

So what’s the problem when approaching? Well, the real problem is fear itself. Fear of the unknown. Your fear of doing something new that you haven’t done before. Once it is done and repeated over time, it becomes simple and normal to do. Most guys struggle with unfamiliarity. Approaching strangers in a club is not something they are in the habit of doing. With time they get used to it and fear dissolves.

Just like bank robber Willie Sutton’s famous answer when asked why he robbed banks: “Because that’s where the money is.” The reason we approach in clubs because that’s where the girls are. Hundreds of them in one place.

Why not make a lot of questions

Making a lot of questions is another nasty effect of “my mind goes blank when I talk to girls”. Because they are trying to impress a girl, most guys run out of things to say in a hurry. Their minds cannot keep up with the stress of producing stories or recounts that would get them the desired approval from females. Out of desperation they turn to questions. Why? Because they are easy. No need to be a genius to produce 20 unsolicited questions. “What’s your name?” “Where are you from?” “Where do you live” “do you like the music here?” and so on.



It doesn’t take much to understand that most people will be turned off by this. It is so common in my trade that we gave it the name “interview style”. Instead of talking with a girl, a normal chat, you go into a “job interview”. Because every guy does this when they don’t know what to say, most girls have seen it all many times and are repelled by it. Most girls will just excuse themselves and leave and others will be rude to you and leave. That’s about the outcome of such a style. It is a no-no. As in don’t you ever.

What topics of conversation once I am in?

First thing, I wouldn’t talk about anything that doesn’t amuse me in the first place. If I see the conversation going in a direction I don’t like I cut her off with something like “that’s great but check this out”, and I change the topic into something I enjoy like salsa dancing or Barcelona-where I used to live-, etc. Most guys have problems with this because they think is impolite. Well, being the nice guy will not get you girls. Approval seeking only will get you into “try hard” territory-read most women will lose interest fast.

Once you get down to it, and by approaching lots of girls, you will find yourself talking about your personal interests and things you are into. One student said after the first night of live program “I have opened girls talking about pineapples, tap water and my country. So simple. ”

It is simple because-as you will find out after you approach hundreds of girls-what you talk about, the content, is irrelevant. The feelings, emotions, and general vibe you are bringing into the interaction will account for as high as 90 percent of your approaching success.

On nights you feel good, positive, enthusiastic you will float to success. On other less inspired nights, you will have to make it happen out of cheer muscle work. We are only human. I wish there was a button to push to make us execute to perfection but there isn’t. Don’t give yourself a hard time for it. Regardless of your level of skill, you will have nights where you tank. Get over it. Tomorrow is another day.

Token resistance or why you want to love ploughing thru

It is a given. When you first come in and introduce yourself, they are all asking themselves “who in the hell is this guy?” the question pops for a second in their head, and I have even recorded this on camera myself-yes, I have approached girls with a camera in my hand aimed at them, sue me. I can stop pause the video at the exact point when this question is going thru their mind-in fact I show it to my students during my seminars.

If you don’t know what I mean, think when a stranger stopped you for directions on the street. There was a split second there when you asked yourself “who is this guy, what does he want?”, but then your mind went “it is ok, he just needs help”. All happens fast. You pass a quick judgment on that guy as to “safe or not safe”.



Same happens with girls. At the beginning they make snap judgements that are activated in split seconds. Those judgments run along the lines of “is this guy cool or lame?” especially if you are trying too hard to impress them right off the bat, they go “lame” and turn their back on you. Sorry guys. Girls don’t have much time. Remember their biological clocks are ticking. They are looking for guys with potential for breeding.

Token resistance is just a screening mechanism girls develop over the years of meeting guys. They are programmed to give you some kind of resistance at the beginning to see if you are strong, sort of a test to pass. That’s why I love it when they give it to me. I see it as an opportunity to show her I am not your average Joe. I want to push through that initial wall and have a big chance at converting the interaction into a lay.

It is a fact that unless you are used to getting through that kind of resistance you won’t get laid often. Most of the students I have trained with amazing success during and after program are guys who aren’t fazed by this kind of resistance. Master ploughers as I call them. They even enjoy working their way through initial resistance.

Reality check: If you are looking for positive reactions right off the bat towards you-so called approval seeking in game lingo-, you will be pigeon holed under “entertainer” or “lame” labels. In both cases girls lose interest fast. Most guys that abandon ship early or give up on a girl too soon do it because they don’t get the reactions or approval they were looking for right away. Since girls are programmed to screen males and not give approval right away, those guys end up bouncing off girls all night and getting zero results.
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#1
Platoon

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Join Date: 10/08/2008 | Posts: 163

EXCEELLENCT article. I love your teachings.. :-)
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Arikmai

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Join Date: 05/15/2008 | Posts: 27

Hey O, great article.

So I just talk about whatever it amuses me, if she become dettach to it, do I say "fuck it" and walk away or let her go, or do I just grab them and like "hey you cant go" I have done both. But sometimes it doesn't work. The energy of the interaction just goes down. Do I just move on and find some more shinier objects or is there a way I can flip this around?
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Ty

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 Nice one Ozzie, great article.

I find that a lot of my interactions go pretty well, however the problem is, that when I get token resistance it affects me too much. All it can take is one dodgy look or an awkward pause and I'm looking to eject.

Something to definitely work on.
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Nimbus

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i really liked this article cuz I go out haha.
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IvánPérez

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Plow!

I like it.
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Bayroot

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I love the way you explain things man.
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SmoothGroover

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Fuckin AWESOME Ozzie. OPEN PLOW SKO !!!!! 
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Buhry

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Join Date: 09/10/2007 | Posts: 254

Cool article. Would be nice if anyone could go a bit more in depth on the ''how'' to plow though. I often read stuff like'' you gotta be unreactive and plow through the resistance'' but not HOW you plow through it. Would be nice to see something written about that.
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Eazy-R

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ozzman. i dig the article, and i like the reality check.

"master ploughers" thats what everyone needs to learn to train themselves into
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jay.vegas

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 An enjoyable, clear cut article. I look forward to your next posting!

Kind Regards

Jay.Vegas
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Charles Ou

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thanks ozzie nice post :)
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Deft

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Simple and cool.
Gracias
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Dawn1

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Plowing is the definition of itself.  There is no how.  It is inherently just doing what you want, and cutting the bullshit.  If you want to talk to her...talk to her, dont fuck around.  If you want to makeout, then makeout.  That's what plowing is. 

With plowing there is no why, how, or when.  Why?  Because you want to.  How?  How you want to?  When?  As soon as you want to.  Cut the shit, and just do it.

THAT is plowing, and THAT is how you do it.
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Dawn1

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Oh yeah, and btw, that was for you Buhry.
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Timbo Slice

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This is great because I am always looking for that positve reaction.. the approval, and then I feel I can show my true personality, and have a really hard time showing my personality without it.  This is probably the biggest sticking point for me.  I just try to push the interaction as far as I can go, but I get this sinking feeling like "this set is going nowhere.. Fuck!!"  The odd time I will get through it to great success, but most times I'm blown out or left bouncing off sets all night.  I guess I just need to practice being more persistant, and being a "master plougher". 

Cheers,
Tim
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ValentineS

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Nice .. makes me wanna wear my lame clothes and PLOW :) 
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Emjay

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Brilliant. After just experiencing a BC, I learned how much I enjoy the challenge of each new shit test that is thrown my way. I certainly don't pass all of them as yet but when I do and see the transformation in their receptiveness it reinforces the need to persist and deal with the tests.
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J-Dub

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@Drama,

A little late in the response but you bring up a valid issue with regards to alcohol and going out.  When I am drunk I am the most obnoxious and arrogant person around.  Really relaxed but have the "don't give a sh$t attitude".  I messed up a lot of good opportunities because of that too.

What I did to help me get past that point of not getting drunk at bars/clubs is to bring just enough cash to buy me a few drinks to get buzzed but not drunk (I never buy girls drinks for obvious reasons).   Also, target Happy Hours or events where the first couple of drinks are free, etc.  (this is possible in many big cities and especially in DC).   And most importantly, leave the plastic at home.  Without the plastic you are more aware of how many drinks you can have. Just make sure you have a full tank of gas in the car (don't ever drive drunk) or enough credits on your bus/train pass.

At one time I went out without any cash on me at all just to see if I could do it. Later that evening it was the girls and bartenders getting me drinks.  It was surreal and I even hooked up with this one chick.

All the same, you can plan to some extent your alcohol consumption when you go out.

Best,

J-Dub
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