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The fox is the animal used in mythology to represent trickery. Taking shortcuts.

Other symbols were used like the following.

Trickery

The myth of the trickster is so commonly represented that it has lost somewhat of its negative meaning. Even Pinocchio runs into a couple of tricksters who convinced him about doing certain things, which threw Pinocchio off his course.

Basically that’s the function of trickery. It throws you off the course of real learning. I have used trickery until it was too late to realize what I was doing. No such a thing as too late.



“Real growth cannot be faked. You must pay the price.” Steven Covey

That applies to everything and anything. For example, plenty of dating companies have gone down the toilet or are semi-active today. The reasons are many: no foundations whatsoever, no business model to stick to in hard times, no solid teaching fundamentals. They just grew at a time where you could sell anything because consumers had money to burn. It was not real growth. When the market boiled down, they ended up where they started.

Growth is a slow maturation process, emphasis on slow. There are really no shortcuts. I remember almost 5 years ago trying to emulate Tim, Tyler and Jeffy’s programs and not measuring up every time. I couldn’t bring what they brought to the table because they have walked the path of growth in teaching this thing. I was way too anxious about results. As a consequence, I was always trailing and taking whatever they gave me to improve my program. Years later, I realized I couldn’t force growth; it had to happen on its own. Pay the price.

Modern Trickery


Today we got planes, cars, internet, iphones which all give you the impressions that distances are shorter, time is not a problem, etc.

That still applies to the outer world. We can all say that we have more time because we have machines that do what 20 servants would do for you in the middle ages. Computers, washing machines, internet shopping, microwaves, vacuums, etc.

This trickery to cheat time is ok as long as we see it for what it is. Just trickery to cheat time and space. Get a job done.

Trickery and Skill Learning

There is a self-discovery process when you learn a skill. When Zen Buddhists learn the art of archery they are not learning how to shoot an arrow. They are learning about themselves. They use it as a form of meditation. It is a process by which you learn about yourself, your inner tendencies, how you deal with your frustration, with your internal chaos, etc.

This process cannot be accelerated more than it should. In fact, trying to accelerate this self-discovery can be counterproductive. You are only going as fast as you can.

It is mind boggling to me the tremendous progress a student can make in one night compared to 5 years ago and still you hear “can I go any faster?”. Yes, you could. But would you really want to?

You are already going faster than any chode out there. You are probably driving at 100 mph compared to the 25 mph you were doing yesterday.

In the back of your head, “modern trickery” rears its ugly head. We don’t even see it, but it is there. It makes us anxious, tense and self-conscious - all negative things to learn a skill which requires presence of mind, relaxation and a learning disposition.

Modern Trickery as Applied to Pick Up

Faking state, using opening lines, cleverly crafted jokes, drug and alcohol induced pick up, reaction seeking material, etc., are part of the modern trickery to fake real growth, namely, bringing your best self to people.

I hear my students say “I used to drink alcohol to approach before this program. I realized I don’t need it anymore”. Modern trickery at work.

Being yourself doesn’t cost anything

Yes, but it is hard as fuck. Talking to people from a place of honesty, discarding their liking you or not as a way to get confident, being out there with your naked self is not easy. Reason why few guys get laid.

We all want to be liked and avoid disapproval as much as possible even if it doesn’t mean anything in the middle of a crowded club. Approval is like candy, we all want it.

This is the reason people thrive on shortcuts. They want the modern trickery. If they can’t find it, they will search the earth for something that resembles it.

Things Get Worse Before They Get Better

Everything looks bad in the middle. If you look at a pie in the oven while it is half baked it doesn’t look good at all. It takes a while before they get their golden colour and tasty looks.

So will your skills in the middle. Nothing would look remotely successful. Blowouts, awkwardness, half-finished interactions, girls taking over your conversation and tooling you, etc. - a work in progress. If you keep your eyes on the growth process of it, you will have no problem. However, if you start thinking of modern trickery, you will delay rather than speed up your growth.
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Mozart

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sick post
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ericmarion15

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Nice post Ozzie! Encourages people to be their true self and not to give up if you don't get the results right away.. exactly what beginners need to hear.
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best article ive read in a long time.
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great article
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Wow.
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I usually don't comment on these..
This one is good though.
GJ! :)
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Ozzie, your self-development articles are the shit! Thanx for pure valuuue ;) 
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Great post dude, I really like your articles Ozzie
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Ozzie wrote:


For example, plenty of dating companies have gone down the toilet or are semi-active today. The reasons are many: no foundations whatsoever, no business model to stick to in hard times, no solid teaching fundamentals. They just grew at a time where you could sell anything because consumers had money to burn. It was not real growth. When the market boiled down, they ended up where they started.

Damn. Great articles Ozzie!

This part right here about having a solid foundation is what i learned most from the article. You need to have a solid foundation. Know you goals and stick to them.Have a plan. Follow through with it....and when hardship comes along your ready for all its got.

Thanks dude
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Interesintg post Ozzie, especially interesintg hearing about your own experiance on the subject.
Good stuff!
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I probably couldn't have read this article at a better time in my personal development - made a lot of different things in my head organize themselves properly.

Respect Ozzie.

-TheAnswer~
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Just went through a gnarly break up and this really helps. I was honest with girl and called her on her bullshit and it really accelerated the end of the relationship, but it felt right to own up and be real. It hurt like hell to put myself out there honestly like that and not be received how I wanted but...“Real growth cannot be faked. You must pay the price.”
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Truth at it's best.  Thanks Ozzie! RSD really is built on great principles.
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WOO ANOTHER SHORTCUT! I didnt even have to figure this out on my own!
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Excellent insights Ozzie. 
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I have finally got round to reading mastery ozzie, and its all true, you have to work hard at everything so it becomes easy!!  so wierd your post co-incided with the book i'm reading!!!
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excelent, as always
it's related to george leonard's "mastery", great book btw.
loved this post man

mucha suerte wink
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I love the apple pie anology

love you man 
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I agree with hunter...when i saw - "Being yourself doesn’t cost anything" - it really struck home. Great post man! AWESOME!
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Thanks Ozzie. This is what I needed to hear.
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being yourself: hard as fuck. so true... getting rejected, the awkward moments, the hurt feelings, looking like a dumbass.. thats the true price of growth teeth
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Ironically i never finished reading Mastery.
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This is a great post. I enjoyed reading this because i'm really beggining to understand and enjoy that this whole thing is a transformation that takes place over a long period of time, and requires continious effort and growth. The more i go out, interact with people, and learn new things about myself makes me realise more and more that this is a journey. I feel that in accepting that it is a journey, i truly enjoy it now. Rather than doing things just to 'enhance' myself, i see going out every night, eating healthily and becoming a better person as a whole, as opposed to things that will add up eventually to make me a better person, if that makes sense...
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Very, very good article.

First this point really resonates with me:

"Everything looks bad in the middle."

Here's my experience over the last couple of years; and #s 5 and 6 is the tough part. I'm kind of at 6-7, I hope

0. Start off as a Chode. Living life in a *trance*.
1. Read 'The Game'. Feel like I just discovered X-ray glasses or something. Look up other trickery on line as a result.
2. Get some exhilerating results - beginners luck style
3. Novelty wears off, 12 months in. Plus you only seem to get a certain type of girl. And ONS. And day 2 flakes
4. Start going Natural, but get frustrated with the lack of consistency. Crave the drama of 1 and 2
5. Realise that you don't really know what you're looking for in life. Only that pickup is not the answer
6. Start to realise that being a natural is really going back to being a Chode but with confidence, experience, and awareness of himself and the social world around him. As opposed to a PUA who is a validation junkie.
7. Start to accept it, and get on with life. Go back to how you were at 0, but really all you learned 0-6 is still with you and has changed you, in subtle, but significant ways. And that now, you have as good as chance as anyone of attracting women - but you can't guarantee it on a per-case basis.
8. Pick up less girls, but have better quality relationships with people, men and women, and have the confidence and knowledge to know what is going on in your relationships. Realise that its quality, not quantity that counts.
9. Be a normal human being, not a PUA.

Second, and this really depends on each individual, there is a whole spectrum between trickery and fully natural, and its finding the right mix for you.

For me, I had a lot of early success (#2) because I WAS 'natural' but with a few new tricks that tipped the balance for me, and see a whole new world that previously was just out of view. The problem is when you get hooked on Game and overdo, or 'fix' things that weren't even broken in the first place that you get to the tough middle part. For me the right mix is about being natural (with confidence, awareness, experience), which can build attraction and comfort with a girl. But also using 'trickery' for pumping buying temperature and moving things forward. Just like you drive a car, instead of walking and are aware that it is a shortcut for a very specific, useful purpose. But that's all. The rest of the time you keep fit and walk.

Does this make sense to anyone LOL!? Anyway, brain dump over LOL

Thanks Ozzie!

Sub5tance
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I had to comment on this.  This was an awesome one.

Yesterday I went to the club and I'm not going to lie, i drinked some alcohol and that busted my confidence, but i approached before i got intoxicated. So i remember having good interactions and bad interactions. Indiference was the final thought that night. I just tried to pulled the lessons out.

But, here comes the trickery that Ozzy mentions. I just wanted to give up this pick up thing because it seemed to hard and impossible. It was a quick thought but it strucked me down for a moment.

Now that I've read this i feel fantastic. Because i realize that everything is a learning process and taking an example as Ozzy or Tim or Jeffy, evern Tyler too, I cannot imagine how it is not possible for a normal guy like me to become extraordinary if i pay the right price.

It was quite amusing to see the looks of every guy in the crew i was hanging with when I was coming back from an approach. I mean, this is life, and it's freaking scary sometimes, but the sensation i get from taking action and putting myself out there even if I am blown out by a young girl that doesnt even know the great pearson I am makes me feel ALIVE.

Makes me feel like Im making the best use of what i have to give and give all that value against the odds of trickery.

Great article Ozz.

Greedings.
Esteban Ibáñez.

Stay AWESOME.
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Jack Hammer

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This article came at the perfect time for me.

There's definetly been a long period lately of zero progress with more of a foucs on how much I suck and why as opposed to looking at it as a growth process..It's not about the skill, but the chance to learn about yourself and you're own discovery..

Great article and good hanging with you in Miami..

Till next time

-Nick
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 Amazing article , this also remind of Author Robert Kiyosaki.

He says the same thing " Its the process that is important , its the process what u go through makes you successful, but most people just want success without going through the process "  Lot of people wanna be Bill Gates , Tiger woods , Micheal Jordan but they are not willing to pay the price (proccess) to achieve that.

Only difference between us and tiger woods is the number of hits :)

It takes drive , determination , corrections , just cant quit.
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SO true. This one is an eye opener.
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I can’t believe we still have to make a case about harm of quick fixes like routines and alcohol. But that is the reality of life I guess. It is one thing to get to this level of understanding yourself. Yes, it is steady long term process. But once you are there - it is completely another thing to try to bring others where you are. If you thought you were slow – try to inspire transformation in others! Many of them wouldn’t even listen. So you sit there and think to yourself: here is your issue right there, but you don’t see it and I can’t make you to. But eventually you will… and yes – it will take time…
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*JP*

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 Thanks Mate

This is something I needed to hear, I'm alway trying to accelerate thing in my learning.
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Mongo

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just what i needed to hear oz

i am currently going throw the "kill the boy" period and this was just what i needed.
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Great article ozzie!

Peace
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Fully agreed, its something I have to constantly remind myself

Thanks Man
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wow i've never thought of it this way
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Very well put, you can't force change, and you certainly can't induce it by ultering your state of mind with substances, if you can't pick up a girl sober, then you won't be able to drunk either.
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