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I wanted to have fun on  this article just reminding myself of some of the worst things I have

said to women in the past, mostly before I learned game, but also after being in the field for

some time I still have some slips of the tongue here and there. Funny how the mind betrays

you when you are in the middle of an approach and all the pressure is on you.

Again some things are very obvious but some variations of those things you still might find

useful to know. Most of the time the following screams of insecurity and lack of manliness

and initiative. Women don’t want to take the initiative in courtship for obvious reasons. So if

you sound insecure or lacking in the risk taking department, it will kill attraction on the spot.

1.       Let’s start with the obvious: “You are so beautiful”. Ever said that? Or a variation

like “You are hot”. Sounds like nobody says that anymore except followed by some

backhanded remark meant to insult the girl. Either way, complimenting on looks is a big “no”

in this game. Variations such as “Why do you wear your hair/cloth..like that?” will get you

also into trouble. Girls spend time and money on their looks so stating the obvious would not

get you any extra points. It also screams of objectification which women hate with a

vengeance.

2.       Another major grand prize: “Can I kiss you?” If you have to ask, don’t bother. This

kills attraction. Why? Again, no initiative. It shows your insecurity and lack of initiative. On

top of that, you are asking her to take responsibility that should be yours. Instead, go for it.

Be prepared for her to turn her head, even several times. They want it but they want you to

work for it.

3.       “Can I take out sometime?” Again with the questions that kill the mood and make

you sound like totally inexperienced. Don’t want to ask her out, take her out instead. “Give

me your number, we should hang out sometime, it will be fun”, shows initiative and

confidence in yourself. In my program, since my students need to get a pull in under 2 or 3

minutes of meeting a girl, my students are prepared for “objections”, they are supposed to

make it look she is missing out on the most fun she will ever have in their lives. We do it

through practicing the nonverbal communication to elicit emotions in the girl. But this is way

more sophisticated and needs to be practiced.

4.       “Your friend is hot”. You don’t want to go there. Now, this might be worse than

saying she is hot. Unless you really want to piss her off, you don’t want to say anything

about her female friends that cause her to compare herself with them. Women are ultra

competitive when they are out. They dress up to get validation, most have low self esteem

and you don’t want trigger that. Use at your own peril if you want to make her jealous. There

is a difference between jealous and pissed off. Insulted women will push out of their groups

on principle and you won’t even know what hit you. If you must, remember the cardinal rule

to always compliment on personality. “Your friends are cool” will take you further into the

interaction if you back it up with friendliness and a cool vibe.

5.       “Bitch”, “Cunt” or any variation of those. There are insults that women don’t forget

and that’s one of them. Call them anything, “Brat”, “Bad girl”, if you must, but not the “C”

word. Variations include “Don’t be stuck up/bitchy/mean”, and they are all bad.

6.       “Calm down”, “Relax”, “Chill”. Not the kind of thing you want to say when women

are mad. If you piss off a girl in an approach, refrain from curbing/placating her mood.

Women feel patronized and that her feelings don’t matter to you. They will retaliate with a vengeance.

7.        “You on your period?” Women hate that because they hate being in their periods.

Since their faces break and look like shit. They don’t like it and you bringing it up even if it is

not true, it is an insult that you won’t be able to come back from any time soon.

8.       “Why don’t you smile?” Bad approach. If she was pissed off, there is no benefit in

you bringing it up. If a girl is hanging around in the bar, looking shitty, you don’t want to go

around poking the tiger or you are going to get fangs. I would stay away from pissed off girls,

but that’s just me. Variations such as “You look tired” will sink you. Really, is that the best

you can come up with? It shows an absolute total lack of imagination on your part. It shows

you are not even trying. You might as well give up. She will pick up on this and throw it right

back at you peppering it with female venom.

9.       Ethnicity remarks will kill you faster than a bullet. “(ethnicity) girls are hot, and they

are more loyal/better girlfriends/know how to treat a man...” It speaks of your ignorance about

other ethnicities and that you make judgements based on stereotypes you watch on some

stupid Hollywood flick. Don’t do it. It also shows you are trying to manipulate her to like you

to get in her pants.

10.   “You don’t look like (insert job)”. This is considered touchy feely territory. You are

seriously asking for trouble. NOBODY LOOKS LIKE ANYTHING. You succeeded at being

clueless about female psychology. You are seriously looking to bring her feminist beast out

for a stroll. Most women take their careers seriously. They get enough patronizing from their

boss at the office, they don’t need any more from you. In my years as a corporate drone, I

got to witness what women go thru in an office with an idiot boss. Guys that don’t get laid

should not be in charge. But they are and they make women angry. 
  
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I'd also ad, if you are intermediate and above, don't go out with begginers unless you enjoy trying to teach them shit and them blowing up your sets.

And their nervous energy fucks with your state.

I for one felt like slapping a few wings when I would tell thim to approach women and they gave me excuses.
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julien disagrees with number 5...
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This list is fucking golden
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RSDHouse

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Great article Ozzie
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Snakeeye

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great stuff ,,, i have to learn this the hard way, 
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great stuff ,,, i have to learn this the hard way, 
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great stuff ,,, i have to learn this the hard way, 
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genius2005

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Thanks Ozzie.

I've been following you for years because of "fear technology" and most of my game is practicing "physical game". 

Physical game is the hardest thing to do when symptoms of fear keep poppng up the higher you climb that escalation ladder.

You rarely talk about in your Youtube videos what to say, but I'm glad you mention some important reasons why it's not good to say certain things that will increase the likelihood of blowouts.

Real nasty blowouts used to happen to me a lot but now they are more low key soft blowouts, because I've been lazy and gave compliments, like "...you have a face like an angel" etc.

After that nice little pat on the back from the girl and her reply:  "...nice to meet you", almost makes you wish for a more hardcore blowout than a soft one.

Thanks again brother!
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so true brother.
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Mike-AK

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I really like the way you talk about fear and how it consumes you if you don't know how to deal with it. A lot of this stuff you learn when you actually go out and interract with new people. 

Great vid
 
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Kierron

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I feel like its rather how you say some of these things which dictates how to the girl will recieve it
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