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 Hey guys,

In this article you will learn:
How to increase your chances for success by being aimless in your approach
How to reduce fear of failure by becoming outcomeless
How to succeed by losing your obssession with results
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Writing this article on my flight to Gothenburg for a bootcamp.  Sitting at the back of the plain, back of the bus and shit, miles above ground. I feel safer in airplains today. I lost my fears of travelling through relentless flying all over the world. Europe has become my home, not just England. Easy flights around European cities and gruelling bootcamps. I have no mercy on my programs with my clients. You want to become the best you must pay the ultimate price. Simple. You must go deep. Just like that movie "Apocalypse Now", "If you are going to get off the boat, you must be ready to go all the way". I am loving my job recently more and more since it has become a place for personal growth for me as well. So at the end of the program I tell my students what I learned from them too. It turns out I learn more from them that they learn from me. 

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June 14-16, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013:London, United Kingdom
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
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If you are approaching and you are overly concern about a bad first impression, that fear will interfere with your performance. You might kill that way your chances for success. Tricky as they come in this game, your "over-performance" becomes an overkill. You might want to leave it up to the universe to do "well" or not. Who can decide what "well" means anyway? It depends on the level of difficulty of your approach. What might be considered "well" in situation A, might not cut it in situation "B". Success is relative to the observer. It is always biased. Can you botch the approach and still live with yourself? It doesn't mean you don't recognize failure when you see it. One thing is being dillusional but another is to be too realist. Realists in general are negative about the world and they hurt their chances for success with their overly realist approach to reality. They expect doom and so they don't take chances. Playing safe is the quickest way to fail in this game. You get nothing. 
What did I do wrong?
You don't want the attitude of not giving a damn and expect that things will happen by themselves. It is a disaster waiting to happen. Being outcomeless or aimless means we do give a shit but we don't become attached to the outcome. As men society teaches us outcome dependence! On program, I always get bombarded with, "How can I stop a moving set?". Men are hunters. We become obssessed with moving targets. It doesn't really matter but stopping a moving woman becomes a realistic, manly target. It is like a predator. I think a moving woman becomes a bit of a bird or a gazelle that needs to be stopped. The reality is that the more you try to stop moving sets the worst it is sometimes. They stop for you by themselves when they perceive you don't care. My students pull girls from moving sets on daytime all the time without trying. They must be put in a position where they don't care as much for the outcome to pull that off. 
Skill and success
Skills are overrated. You heard it. Have you ever seen a professional soccer player miss a winning shot with the whole goalpost wide open so the only thing he needed to do was to push the ball in? it doesn't matter. I have seen the worst team win over and over in football. I love that old russian movie where a young boy claims he can build a huge iron bell and he is given a deadline on his life. He ends up building the bell without having any skill whatsoever. instead of skill, you want to change the way you think about the whole deal. Does that mean you give up on your goals? Nope. But you want to connect with the moment. The present time. One of my biggest job as a coach is to keep bringing my student's wandering mind into the present. If you are distracted with the future(outcomes, lays,phonenumbers, kisscloses) you miss the interaction in the here and now. People feel you are distracted and they won't connect with you. What if you don't like the girl. You might meet a girl through an approach and you might not want to see her again. It happens. You don't have to date all the women you meet through cold approaching. How about focusing on getting to know her first? This proves to be effective in day time where interactions are more verbal at the beginning. 
The real issue with outcome dependence
It thwarts the growth process. By obssessing with future outcomes you miss all the growth here and now. Since outcome dependendence doesn't allow for failure, it doesn't allow for learning either. Can't have one without the other. The way to success is paved through failure. You want to approach because you want to, not because you want to win. If there is a script in your head about perfection, you might not take swift action. It is not worth doing unless it is flawless. it leads to paralysis. It kills spontaneous actions. Results mindedness leads to too much planning and thinking. You can't approach like that. Approaching is an art form, not exact science. You can't create art by being controlling. You need to be ready to act with 20 percent of the information. Learn that you will never have 100 percent of the information. You will never be 100 percent prepared for an approach. It destroys all the fun. Fun and outcome dependence cancel each other out. Guys report getting bored in the field after a couple of months of cold approaching. Something tells me they are results-obssessed when they get like that. Going out turns into a job. It stops being fun if you "have to" do it as opposed to "want to" do it. The attitude is different. So are the results.

PS: Follow my free tour with Julien and Alex around Europe. I might hit your town some time soon. See you there. 
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I will be next:
June 7-9, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
June 14-16, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam, Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013:London, United Kingdom
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
www.rsdbootcamp.com
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 nice video thanks
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can anybody tell me why is this the second time in a row that I can´t listen to Ozzie's videos? I can listen to all his other vids  and the definitions (i,e, quality, volume, etc) are all the same.

I can also listen to other instructor's vids
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 is it the audio? might be your computer. never got that from mine or anybody else. i normally get feedback from our technical staff. let me know.
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Kid_Ink wrote:
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weird coz your 2 last videos of your youtube freetour channel have no sound to me but the rest of them are ok. My friends have no problem so I think its something to do with my computer, but its very strange as it never happened before with any other vids besides those 2.

I think I ll survive with only the written summary of the video
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Hey guys, I was there in Amsterdam and took bootcamp with Ozzie aka The Boss. The Boss knows a lot more than what you can get from this website. He will teach you a philosophy for LIFE, not just women. Friends are telling me I'm a different person since the Bootcamp, I have way less fear in life,I'm happier and I have met some amazing people and had one of the best weekends ever last weekend. In fact although I've had a few dates and numbers since program, i don't even worry about success with women or life anymore. i know if i follow The Bosses principles I'll be fine! You can read my full review on the success stories, but what are you waiting for? Sign up with him and prepare to have your reality blown
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 I definitely experienced this last night. I took a nap before hand, so i was a bit groggy. And when I came to the club, I was just like Fuck it lol Im just gonna practice different shit just for the sake of practice and didnt give a shit! Warming up was fun in itself cuz I could plainly see why it didnt work out and within minutes just from bouncing around from one girl to the next, this cute ass chick pulls my arm out of nowhere and starts dancing on me. It was awesome yo!
 
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great video ozzie!
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 Great content!
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 Great video, it makes so much sense now. When I go out and I don't give  shit I always get laid. When I go to prove somebody that I am the shit I usually fail.
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Me too!
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Great article Ozzie,

This as been a sticking point that as keeping me on my current plateau and preventing from getting results because of intent+freedom from outcome

I'm lowering more and more the bar to what is fun and and I want to just go out and have fun for me is a great night

The challenge is to keep lower expectations when you approach but as with everything you have to do it until you internalize it
Measuring your progress with a dairy is key :)

You WANT the girl, but you don't need her

All the best!
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Solid knowlegde dude ! 
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 I only get audio on left channel, so might be something there.
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 it is my mic is broken. i just ordered a new one.
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gilfox wrote:
Great article Ozzie,
This as been a sticking point that as keeping me on my current plateau and preventing from getting results because of intent+freedom from outcome
I'm lowering more and more the bar to what is fun and and I want to just go out and have fun for me is a great night
The challenge is to keep lower expectations when you approach but as with everything you have to do it until you internalize itMeasuring your progress with a dairy is key :)
You WANT the girl, but you don't need her
All the best!

i dont like to lower the expectations. it sounds like you won't think big when you approach. i instruct my students to want success when they approach tough situations. the situation itself should be high expectations but the internals need to be dialed.
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Ideastools wrote:
Solid knowlegde dude ! 
cheers
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Being Aimless is the balance that I'm "Aiming" for. Balance between the extremes out outcome oriented and having no goals oriented. I had some nights where I must achieve results no matter what and none of those results were achieved. I had nights were I had no outcomes but also no goals were I did not approach any sets. Thanks for reminder to bring the wandering mind to the present and playing it safe gets you nowhere.
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Good point thanks :) if you are not pushing it you're shrinking and that's why when I approach the hotter sets I get stuck on my head,, implement whenever I feel that felling in the top of the stomag oh that's the one you have to go to
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gilfox wrote:
Great article Ozzie,
This as been a sticking point that as keeping me on my current plateau and preventing from getting results because of intent+freedom from outcome
I'm lowering more and more the bar to what is fun and and I want to just go out and have fun for me is a great night
The challenge is to keep lower expectations when you approach but as with everything you have to do it until you internalize itMeasuring your progress with a dairy is key :)
You WANT the girl, but you don't need her
All the best!

i dont like to lower the expectations. it sounds like you won't think big when you approach. i instruct my students to want success when they approach tough situations. the situation itself should be high expectations but the internals need to be dialed.
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Ozzie is amazing !!! I go infield and test this.

Ozzie have one video of identify and fix the errors in the game? Sorry for bad english, im from brazil,

Good Hugs.
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 So I went out last night with this in mind and ended up going to an afterparty, then getting filmed for some crazy fringe video about ancient technology, and getting hired as a research assistant for a movie. Aimlessness rocks!
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Powerfull concept, last night was one of the most amazing nights from the social point of view, awesome material Ozzie, and btw yes I did approach the hottest girl in the venue and kept approaching for the reminder of the night :)
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 great video
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wow
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The audio is not working in my computer.. 
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The audio is not working in my computer.. 
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The audio is not working in my computer.. 
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Wow!
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