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How can you do it? We can agree if that was the case we would approach every hot girl without caring where, when and how. What can you lose? Nothing. You can only win if at all. Going in hard into every set without caring what happens.
I have tried to figure this one out. Because I very well know there are only good things in store for you if you do the above. But how can you engineer something like that? Apply it, teach it, get away with it.
Logic And How We Use It
We are constantly evaluating ourselves in comparison with others and the environment. We amass a variety of comparisons in order to compete in areas that favor our strengths. This is often tainted with our fears. We have a survival scale based on which we have decided to live and to assess the world in relation to the threats or priorities of survival.
Kind of social Darwinism of sorts. We evaluate the environment based on accumulated data and we make choices as to what is the safest or likely to succeed.
Problem
However, safe won’t make you happy. Safety has never made anyone happy. It could be argued that it has the opposite effect on people. The more predictable, structured and safe your life becomes the more you crave for the opposite.
Logic won’t make you happy either. Why? Logic and consciousness is an adaptative mechanism designed for survival only. It will do just that. Again survival doesn’t make you happy unless you are living in the caveman times.
Going Back To Playing Like You Got Nothing To Lose
It implies leaving your survival compass at home. It implies throwing yourself in situations you can’t control. Situations that challenge logic. Getting through them creates real growth in your game. Not thinking logically. Following instinct, not logic.
For example, you see a hot girl surrounded by 3 or 4 dudes. What should I do? Logic says that there are easier situations where you are more likely to succeed. However, instinct says that you should move in into that situation right now. Why? This is the situation more likely to create growth in my game.
What can you lose if you did approach such situation? Let’s be logical about it. You have nothing to lose, except a bruised ego. Even if you did got your ego bruised or got rejected, you still learned that you are safe approaching such situations. You will bring this earned confidence into your next approach. Logic at work.
Marriage Between Logic And Instinct
Very desirable. Making sense out of the instinct. That’s where the sweet spot is. Use the logic not for survival but for true happiness and growth in the game. What can you lose?
The truth is that you can’t lose by following instinct. You can only gain.
Pain
Because the road of instinct leads to pain, our logical mind may be terrified with the unknown. Your logical mind focused on survival, avoiding pain and looking for pleasure will steer you away from instinct. We might fear it because it might ruin us, but in actuality it can save us. We can’t accept that survival doesn’t make us happy. Furthermore, situations that put as at “risk” can often in the long haul lead to growth and a naturally even state of mind.
Bootcamp Story
Once a student of mine lost the soles of his shoes on program. I made him keep approaching anyway flapping around with his raggedy soles. He thought it was death. He ended up making out with two chicks that night. I am sure his logical mind put up a fight to do this. He just let me lead him instead. It worked for him to go against logic.
Most successes on and off program are rarely based on survivalist analysis but on sheer power of instinct in field.




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Thats really helpful , great perspective
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Fear goes down (by stretching comfort zone, taking risks, doing shit you don't even feel will go 'well')
and as a product of fear desensitisation....Performance goes UP! (cannot willingly just make yourself act cooler)
I made a checklist for taking Fear down as from leaving home to coming home (with girl)
- Decide to go out, wear clothes you feel badass in
- Yell, laugh, sing aloud, smile once you're out the door - joke with friends; loosen up
- Talk to strangers in passing about whatever, little comments, anything
- Start saying things to random girls (even just "hey hey", doesn't matter)
- Directly approach girls, tell them they're cute
- approach hot girls, even if they're in a big group / with a guy
* all the while going for the close (makeout, pull, isolation), push/pulling, and self amusing, not focused on the outcome, only focused on having fun during all this risk-adventure
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If you read my bc reviews you will find it there in detail.
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smart is when i approach with a goal in mind, usually a learning goal or growth goal in mind. hope it helps clarify.
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Though I think mindless approaching is the shit when you are warming up.. ;) and mindless approaching is a thousand times better than only approaching a few a night, which (lets face it) a looooooot of people in the community are stuck at... smart approaching i think is for when youre "On"..
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Though I think mindless approaching is the shit when you are warming up.. ;) and mindless approaching is a thousand times better than only approaching a few a night, which (lets face it) a looooooot of people in the community are stuck at... smart approaching i think is for when youre "On"..
The fact that you are on is a direct result of smart approaching.
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Boom!
Instant makeout.
Tonight I will be more aggressive with women.
Respect.
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So, I'm the camera man in the very top video -- the one who was making "advanced mistakes." I lost a couple hot girls in Barcelona because my advanced mistake was failing to lead the girl to the dance floor after hooking her. i was trying to manage the outcome and keep the "good interaction" going.
I'm happy to say that since this video was shot last fall, I've blown past that fear (well, for the most part) and have had some awesome results, and have been going for a lot more makeouts, pulling to dancefloor, etc. In other words, I've neutralized my perfectionism. In Barcelona, I was afraid simply to take a girl's hand -- a girl who LIKED ME! -- and drag her to the dance floor. Lately, I've been doing things as bold as "parting the red sea" and grabbing girls surrounded by guys and treating her like my GF.
Just wanted to underline Ozzie's main point: Get out there and MAKE THOSE MISTAKES. Because you really do learn from them.
That is all! Hope all's well with you, Ozzie...
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Just to be clear approaching any set that looks hard to challenege my fear isnt mindless approaching?
Also approaching easy sets, isnt mindless as long as it opart of zig-zagging my way through the night?
Cheers
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ALWAYS GREAT!