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Last week on program, as I opened the hottest group in my vicinity,

Hot Girl

and by far the hottest girl in the club that night - I open the sets nobody wants to open - I got some unlikely hardcore rejection coming in. The not-so-hot girl in the set put her hand in front of my face in a “Stop now” motion.

Stop

It is very unlikely for this to happen but when it does it never ceases to amaze me how much of a hard on I get -  I love the challenge. Why? I know this from experience: if I am able to turn this rejection around coming in, the girls in the set want to sleep with me. They get mesmerized by how easy I handle rejection.

Anyway, I stuck in, plowed and it turned out the not-hot girl was half drunk and her boyfriend too. Cool. Immediately the hottest girl want to talk to me and we initiate a chat and it turns out she speaks a bit of Spanish and we talk and get physical very quickly as she is leaning into me like a motherfucker. I can breathe her hottie smell. She is supper friendly as all truly hot girls are with no hang ups or inferiority complexes. Sooner rather than later her not-hot friend and boyfriend disappear leaving us alone. I introduced the hot girl to my student who is standing there watching me. He gets excited and goes kino on her ass.

Now, most guys would have walked away when they get this type of rejection coming in.

Bullseye

Unfortunately they don’t see the silver lining whatsoever. Rejection as an opportunity to show how strong you are internally.

I literally make guys provoke rejection in women in order for them to be able to survive a bad first impression. I give them all kinds of retarded openers, make them approach on one leg, make them open with embarrassing statements about themselves, make them approach women in “impossible” scenarios etc. All this to make them fail, get up, get over and keep walking. Just like a kid would do with no self-consciousness whatsoever.

Little children fall all the time, cry, get up and keep playing. That’s my ultimate goal with guys on program. No matter how many times they fall they must go back in time and become like a kid again: egoless, spotless, impervious to bullets.

Create Opportunities for Rejection

Most fear of rejection is killed when you realized it is not life or death. You won’t die from a rejection. Chances are you are likely to get excited because you dared to do something brave like opening the toughest set in the club etc.

Opportunities for rejection are plenty in a club. However, you can create them. Expose yourself to being blown out and you will grow faster in the game. The goal is not to avoid rejection but to lose our fear of it.

What I found in my own practice is the hotter the girl, the better. So if I get rejected by a hot girl it really turns me on to try it again. The bummer is that most hot girls are friendly and rarely have an attitude. It is just the skunks, midgets and fatties who are defensive. It doesn’t turn me on as much being rejected by a fattie since I have no vested interest in her talking to me.

“I Made A Fool Of Myself”

Most guys dread this. However, there is a major therapeutic value in looking like a fool sometimes. You won’t take yourself so seriously and approaching would not seem like a burden to you. “Now, I have to approach, puffff..”: most guys don’t want to look bad.

Read Mastery by George Leonard and you will find that a key to mastery is to risk looking like a fool, taking chances, risking being rejected etc.

I made a habit of looking bad in front of others. I do it so much I don’t even notice it anymore. I clown so much in public places with my students that I think I embarrass them half the time. Because I do this embarrassing things, my students are not afraid to look bad anymore. Most times we both do embarrassing things together while I film people’s reactions etc. after students see the film they get excited to find out how people don’t give a damn about what you are doing.

Making a fool of yourself should be your credo.

Guide to Look Bad

1. Write down your top 2 fears in a club
2. Put yourself in a situation likely to cause your top 2 fears
3. Repeat

Let’s say your top fear is “rejection by a hot girl”. So you must approach hot girls in order to elicit those fears in you. You will be surprised how those feared scenarios rarely happen. You will kill your fear.

Don’t Entertain Yourself with Your Dark Side

Refuse to evaluate those situations after you have dared to look bad. Don’t curse, criticize or otherwise flagellate yourself for looking bad. Your only goal was to look like an idiot. You did. Mission accomplished. You are golden. Keep doing it and you will eventually not even think about what you have just done. Get negative evaluations about yourself out of your system. You are a champ because you dared. You tried. Make this your only philosophy.





Groucho
He may look like an idiot and talk like an idiot but don't let that fool you. He really is an idiot.
Groucho Marx
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#1
Nimbus

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I love the challenge too!

I had a tough set and my brother was watching, he's like "lets go." I am thinking in my head, "NO I Love this!!! the harder they reject me the better."

Love the "be a fool" mentality, best frame for learning anything.
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He may look like an idiot and talk like an idiot but don't let that fool you. He really is an idiot.
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WHAT???
How is this going to help?
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amazing post!
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#4

berlinrsd

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the fool thing is a substitution for any real content?
Like when you see pimpski transformation pix. He does so many weird facial expressions.
TIm does the cyclone, alex puts lemon in his eye, ozzie dance like a retard.

This game sucks.
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Touch me.
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Love it! Massive sticking point for me right now. Feels like this stuff is cyclical aswell. You get used to acting like a fool, people really love you, all of a sudden you have this idenitiy in your head where you care what people think cause they all think you dont care.... or soemthing like that.
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Steve-0!

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Acting a fool removes that social self mask and let's the real you come to the surface.

Ozzie, you should add this to your post! Haha... Is Trafalgar square a real square? Oh how stupid can one person look. Go stand up in front of people and tell them how you spent 13 years playing the friend card.

Find success in your actions not your results.
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I love your philosophy haha "getting rejected gives me a hard on" haha sweet bro
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QBOne

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This is awesome.

Rejection as an opportunity to show how strong you are...

This line alone makes the whole process take on an entirely different meaning!  Niiice.
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Flannery

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Christ you come up with some posts that put me in a great headspace
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fpales

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 I love this article.

Funnily enough, I can see a relation with martial arts: this attitude is called "Fudoshin" or "immovable heart". It really connects with an egoless attitude and in control of your emotional state.

So it brings da floooow...

PD: I am definitely gonna read this Mastery book after Nine Ball.
Keep giving value!
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Achilles~

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Thanks for the awesome article ozzie.
Gunna apply it right right away. it will make going out alone more fun too.

its the times when you challenge yourself that you grow.

Achilles~
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woooop woooop. this is golden!!!
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articles are getting more and more out there... but closer to our home.. if ya know what i mean ;-)
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PUA of the Future

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Zebra wrote:
Love it! Massive sticking point for me right now. Feels like this stuff is cyclical aswell. You get used to acting like a fool, people really love you, all of a sudden you have this idenitiy in your head where you care what people think cause they all think you dont care.... or soemthing like that.
Hahah o yes been there!  Then from there you just got to learn to actually truly not care instead of pretending.  Thats the phase that Im in right now.
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I just came...VERY GOOD POST
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Wow, man GREATEST article ever!

Thanks for making me feel good about the fuck im doing all night ^^
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Dick Gallo

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Dude, this is fucking gold right here, Ozzie! 

Just what I needed being 2 days into college with a fucking faggot shield up.

I gotta man the fuck up.
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cheers.  
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Ramin

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My top fear is walking nude into a club an kiss 2 gay guys

but I fear approaching women too. So I first start with approaching women^^
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HI-LUX

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When I go out sometimes I think "I will get the rejection I think it is better so I will not be afraid!" and felt good to get out, but also did not open any girl. I was not sure if it would work. Now I have.

Thanks Ozzie.
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Me gusta este muchísimo!
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Good post. Making a fool of yourself per se is not attractive. Its the NOT CARING about how you come across that is attractive. Being non-reactive and non-apologetic. This also helps weed out low value women. Women who reject your fun, crazy frame have their own issues that make them try and act higher value than you. Move on. Find a 'hot' chick in the true sense of the word, instead. A chick who is herself, doesn't care what others think, and can see that quality in you, too.
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Exactly what I needed to read. Preparty starts in 23 hours. Hoping for lots of rejection and people laughing/pointing at me =)
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You need to learn that a stranger's rejection means absolutely nothing. Some cute girl should have no bearing on how you feel as a man.
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luved it
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I like this post. BUt that girl looks like a transvestite. Come to sweden and I will show you hotness!!!
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And herein lies the key. You embarrass the ever loving SHIT out of yourself until you become immune to the objections and opinions of others. Hence, you trust in your own faculties, thereby making you non-reactive, which in turn causes you to become naturally attractive. This is what I'm putting my self through right now. Awesome fucking post, homey!
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Dude, not that I'm a pick-up guru by any stretch, and, coming from a place where I used to think the same exact thing.....the point is --- by embarrassing yourself and putting your personality on the line, you get to a place where it no longer bothers you because you have experienced it so much that you become numb to the opinions of others. When you are numb to all external factors, your naturally attractive Blueprint will come to the surface. You literally become the only constant in your reality. Because of that, you define everything. I haven't quite reached the indifference threshold just yet, but I've had nights where I was coming from this headspace and chicks could just sense it automatically, and really be into me. It's weird. But when you stop looking to external sources to verify you as a human being, you inherently become attractive. This is the whole point of doing stupid, crazy, wacked- out shit. You just get tot that place where you don't give a fuck. Your reality is stronger and others will be able to sense that vibe coming from you. Sorry for the long post.  
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i like this because i think it's one of the hardest things to 'get' when you're constantly being told the opposite through other sources
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#31

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This is article is spot on. When girls are neutrally bad, they become neutrally attracted to you. But when they're actively pissed off, they're gonna be all over you if you turn it.

As they say, a fine line between love and hate. And this article is the roadmap to crossing it.
Just close!
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 AWESOME post! Just what I needed.
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fpales

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Rockavon wrote:
Ozzy I am hoping you or someone else can help answer this question I have after reading your post.

What if you go out and get rejected a ton and even though you have successes here and there you remember the rejections and the rejections outweigh the successes and it affects you mentally?

If all you remember is the really embarrassing rejections or blowouts or the weird face the girl makes or the name the girl calls you or whatever. I just dont believe that being rejected a bunch of times makes you more confident. It doesn't make me more confident. I was much more confident when I lived inside my little social circle box where I was the guy girls wanted to hook up with all the time. So if being rejected is not helping you, what then? What happens when you go from a guy getting rejected, sometimes even purposefully, to a guy with the self image of someone who most women reject? That can't be helpful can it?
Rockavon, my two cents:

-whenever you open, keep an attitude of giving value without expecting anything in return. Just give value. It is very rare that you'll get blown out with this attitude; however, if you get blown out your state will stand strong, because your intention was good (it's their thing if they don't take the chance to enjoy with you).
Again, just give value, and don't expect anything in return, that is, you're not TRYING for rapport.
The key then is to know how to give value in any given social situation.

Cheers from Barcelona,

Javi Garcia
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#34

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touch me....
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#35

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This is an amazing article. You just lure me into this forum.

Its such a paradigm shift.
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#36

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Here's a line for when you get blown out of a set that I always use with great results:

"Okay, no prob, I forgive you.  Everyone makes mistakes ;)"

1. you have accepted the rejection cool and calm, it hasnt phased you. 

2. You are not afraid to point out something wrong that she's doing (rejecting you).

3. You have put her into the "everyone" category which subcommunicates that you believe she must've not been anyone special anyway.  Often times this will cause her to want more validation from you because you have taken it away from her.  It also makes you look like the one who is putting HBs through the screening process... i.e. "okay, this 1 isn't up for it, onto the next 1"
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