Hi guys, 

Loving my Holiday in Cuba. I decided to throw a video on
popular request. It is hard to shoot in Cuba being communist at all. You can
get arrested for filming easily, so I didn’t dare to use my tripod because I
would have a dozen security agents asking what the hell I was doing specially
in Havana City. I had to shoot on a beach, north of Havana, weather was not
that good but still managed to cut a video. Feedback is as always very welcome for
keeping the videos relevant.


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Here's the schedule for 2013 

January 11-13 Munich or London BC with Alex
January 18-20 London BC 
January 25-27 Oslo BC with Alex
February 1-3 London BC with Alex
February 8-10 Stockholm BC 
February 15-17 London BC 
February 22-24 Tallinn BC 
March 1-3 London BC 
March 8-10 Dublin BC 
March 15-17 London BC 
March 22-24 Berlin BC 
March 29-31 London BC 

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 Pickup Addiction

Being obsessed with something doesn’t mean you will be
better at it. In fact it often means the opposite.



 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-g-Ws5n9Nr4

In the old days, I
remember Jeffy telling students to “get a life” outside seducing women. Get
some hobbies. Not to become a one sided individual because you become weird
when your life is not rich with different activities. I became a one sided man
for two years when I first started. I neglected friends, job, my weekend baseball
games for a life of getting laid successfully I might add…but you want to check
whether you are infected with the pickup virus. Here in RSD we promote living a
better, fuller life. We are called Real Social Dynamics for a reason; we are
about more than just getting tail.  

How can you know you are addicted to Pickup? Let’s explore
whether you are a pickup addict.

You are hooked if:

 1. You are always in fantasy, pickup fantasy, that
is. Coincidentally you do nothing. You are always imagining or commenting on new
approaches and pickup lines, tactics and so on, but you fail to do anything
concrete.
 2. You spend too much time (3 to 4 hours a day) in
Facebook or social websites trying to get girls. You check it way too often
during the day to find out whether you got messages from hot girls. Even when
you are driving or walking down the street at the risk of getting into a
serious accident. That joke about having 200 Facebook friends but no real
friends applies to you.

3.  Getting super angry when things don’t work out
in the club. You fail to see the game as “a game” not to be taken too
seriously. The quote, “it is just a game”, applies here. You get frustrated
easily.
 4.  You neglect your studies, career and close
friends and family to go out and get girls. You forget there are more important
things in life than getting laid, which coincidentally will get you laid more
often than being a pickup schizophrenic.

 5.  You have far too many posts in pickup forums,
way more than the best posters. That could be an indication of how deadly
serious you are “about game”. You start online debates and troll around looking
for people to “fight with”. You seek attention from the people in the pickup
forum as opposed to go there to enlighten yourself. 

6. You have a collection of pickup products like DVD’s,
books, videos but fail to take action in accordance. It might mean you are
addicted to watching and learning but not to true growth in the game. You might
be a walking encyclopedia of pickup knowledge but your actions don’t add up to
your “superior” wisdom. Somebody with less information but more balls would
destroy you in the field.
 
 7. You talk constantly about game, so much so even your “pickup friends” avoid going out
with you. You spend way too much time commenting the latest Tyler’s video
instead of actually doing what Tyler is saying in the video. It might mean for
you conversation is the action.

 If you tick more than 4 out of seven boxes
above you might have a mild-to-serious addiction situation going. You might
want to get yourself checked out with the following simple steps.

1.   
Beating any addiction is all about substituting
unhealthy habits with healthy ones. In other words, you need to make lifestyle
changes. You might want to reduce progressively the time you spend in Facebook
or any social dating media to almost zero. Remember that real women are better
than virtual ones. Approach real women and ask for real dates as opposed to
intriguing on line with a woman you don’t even know or doesn’t look like the
one in the profile anymore (Number one complaint from online dating websites is
that people look nothing like in the picture.) When you do cold approaching
what you see is what you get. Unless the club is too dark (attempted humor).
Get a life instead. Use that time you spend on Facebook to go to an art class
where you can meet real women, for example.

2.     
Stop talking pickup with your mates. Chances are
boring them out of  your life. When I get
together with my crew, we chat about nonsense, joke around, talk about real
life things, never pickup unless we want make jokes about fat girls or skanks
or girls with moustaches. Tell them you will give them 20 dollars every time
you talk pickup around them. Let them be your addiction watchdog. A public
commitment is a guarantee for your success.

3.      
Find out what the payoff is. Every addiction has
a fringe benefit. For example, alcoholics drink to get happy because they are
miserable people. You might talk pickup instead of approaching because you
don’t want to be rejected. If you are talking to your male friends in the club,
then you don’t have to suffer rejection from women. Your male friends won’t
dismiss you but you won’t get laid either. By scoping the real reason you are
addicted to talking pickup , you put yourself in a position to do something
about it.

4.      
Check out whether you have an addictive
personality. Personally, I have been addicted to baseball, salsa dancing,
pickup, bodybuilding, video editing, work and the list goes on. It doesn’t take
long for me to dive head first into something that gets my attention. People
with obsessive personalities need to watch what they do and always try to have
a rich, fuller life. If you are hooked into seducing women, chances are you
have had other obsessions before for other things. You might find a pattern
there. If you do recognize an addictive pattern, it is easier to change it and
do something about it. Nothing beats an addiction like self-awareness. Seeking
pleasure at all cost and avoiding pain in kind defines an addict. Do you avoid
feeling the pain that comes naturally from true growth? Can the muscle build
without the pain? What are you avoiding? “Write that down!” (attempted humor
from my all-time favorite comedy “B. Wilder, Party Liaison..” or something like
that, check it out, it is hilarious. )



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxvQGW110-E

How to Survive a Bad Break Up
(relationship advice)

This is for people in committed
relationships who break up, not for one night stands or casual sex. Why? Shallow
relationships are easier to get over just by banging another 20 girls. Having
said that, I am assuming you love your girl and you are in it for longer than 6
months.

Ok, if you were committed and it
didn’t work out you might want to check the following suggestions. Just to
remind you these are just ideas, different ways to skin a cat I guess, not
definite solutions. Breakups hit you harder if you cared for her.

 (The following tips apply to recover against
any other bad experience like getting fired from a job, loosing a loved one and
so on. So, keep it in mind if you are in a bad space for any other reason.)

 1.      
Don’t look to friends for advice at the
beginning. You will be fine. Stay with the pain, lay low. Don’t rush into another
relationship; your friends might try to push you into it. Moving on too fast works
short term but it is counterproductive long term. Opportunity to reflect. You
might be with a different girl and still thinking about her. Bad for you and
the girls. Rebounding doesn’t work. Patterns repeat themselves and you don’t
want to repeat the same pattern. Understanding yourself and what went wrong
takes time. Heal yourself before moving on. Women learn from breakups but men
don’t. Men are action takers, and focus on quick fixes. On the other hand, women
are far more emotionally intelligent than we are.  Men must counter act this by seriously reflecting
on what patterns victimized us in the relationship.

2.      
Take up an instrument like guitar, book yourself
on a course, start a dancing lesson, rock climbing, scuba diving, something
new. It is important to fight fire with the proper tools. Don’t throw gasoline
on the fire. Do something positive in order to counter act the negative
feelings from the breakup. Do volunteer work. I know a guy who digs ditches as
a volunteer for a charity (he claims it is good exercise). Feel good about
yourself by being useful. It is important for getting back on your feet.

3.      
Avoid ALL CONTACT WITH HER. Don’t frequent
places she might be in (I stopped going to my favorite salsa dancing venue for
a long time, after I broke up with my ex girlfriend). Don’t answer her text messages
if any. Erase her from your life for a while. You will be thinking about her
and the relationship for a while. But you need time away from her to understand
yourself. Don’t get back into the relationship, not in the short term even though
you might want to.  

4.      
It is ok to sob. It doesn’t make you less of a
man (I didn’t cry on my last breakup so I bottled my emotions inside so it took
longer to get over her). You might want to watch a Disney movie and have a good
cry, get it out of your system. This might counter act suicidal feelings. After
you cry, your emotions clear up. If you don’t clear it up you will be stuck
with bad emotions which can lead to suicidal thoughts. Heartache and breakups
turn into doom and gloom mindsets in the general population because people
don’t clear up the grief of the loss and instead avoid feeling it.

5.      
You are not a loser. Most people who dare, about
50 percent, fail in relationships. You dared. You tried. There is no failure
but failure to learn. You are a winner for trying.

6.   
 Hang out with your bros. I am hoping you didn’t break contact with your male friends
while you were with her. If you did, you might want to reconnect. This is what
women do when they break up. They go out with their girlfriends and get support
(emotional intelligence). However, men isolate. You want to be around people
who know you. They will take your mind off the break up.

7. 
You can be happy without regular sex and her
company for a while. Be your own entertainment/support center. Repeat to
yourself, “I have the resources necessary to get over this”. You really don’t
need her to validate you, you can validate yourself.

8. 
The positive list. Keep a pocket book and write
in it good things in your life. Make your list up to 20 every day. 20 things
from morning to night. it doesn’t matter how small they are. Sometimes you
might want to write unrelated things like, “I love my new computer” and so on.
That’s how you stay positive. Keep adding new things every day until you get to
twenty. It is hard but you will be looking for positive things instead of
negative. Plenty of that coming from the break up. So you need to fight fire,
not with fire, but with the right tools.

9.
She is not special. It is crap when you say, “I
won’t find somebody like her again”. If you believe she was the best ever, you
won’t get over her. Remind yourself that it is just a broken record that
Hollywood movies play into our subconscious. There is no such a thing as “the
one” girl. Get rid of this virus in your head and you will start to recover
from the break up faster.

10.
Get on a fucking bootcamp. Seriously, it doesn’t
have to be mine. I train dozens of guys every year coming out of nasty
divorces, breakups and so on. Guys take action when they are up against it. I
also get plenty of guys coming for a second or third bootcamp with me after
breaking up with their LTRs in the game. They want to freshen up their pickup
skills with another program so they can get back on the horse as soon as
possible.. 

In general, having game minimizes the bad
breakup symptoms because you know you can get another girl. So, get game.
Breakups hit harder the average Joe with no game than the guy with some skills
to get laid.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQn5GFzHEnw

That’s all folks. Hope you found this post
helpful. I am soooo out of here!

Anyway. leave comments, criticism is welcome too. 


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Here's the schedule for 2013 
January 11-13 London BC 
January 18-20 London BC 
January 25-27 Oslo BC with Alex
February 1-3 London BC with Alex
February 8-10 Stockholm BC 
February 15-17 London BC 
February 22-24 Tallinn BC 
March 1-3 London BC 
March 8-10 Dublin BC 
March 15-17 London BC 
March 22-24 Berlin BC 
March 29-31 London BC 

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