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"Nothing is of value to you unless you are willing to publicly declare it"
("Value Clarification" by Sidney Simon)




When I came across this quote I realized I had been doing this unknowingly in my life and in my
coaching. I believe it has profound meaning for everyone involved in the art of meeting women.
For personal growth, there is nothing like pledging your values and goals to others because you will
be held accountable. In other words, if we summon others and explain our beliefs and take action
based on that belief, or behave in a way congruent with that belief, then we can truly say it is of
value to us.

I say, “We are going to walk exactly into our fears when we meet women anywhere, everywhere
we are.” I declare this at the beginning of my Boot camp to my students. That’s exactly what we do
when we step into a club to approach women. We walk into our fears.

(I think the following video has the broad strokes of declaring our fears and go after transcending
them. It has some infield footage so you might want to watch. So click the link and enjoy)



We spot our top fears in the club and walk straight into them. By declaring it, not only I am
personally accountable for doing it (It means I have to be the first one to do it), but I hold others
accountable by agreeing with me.

Success and public declarations


To succeed big you have to declare. It is a critical ingredient in the success of an enterprise. You will
never succeed unless you are able to have witnesses to your story, be it an internet forum, group of
friends, a significant person or a coach.

At the end of my program, I make my students write down and declare their dating goals to the
group for the next 3 month. They must commit to others and to themselves what they are going
to do. For many it is the first time they declare anything to anybody so it is stressful. Some cannot
write down their goals or simply write meaningless goals so they don’t have to stretch. I am quick
to correct this and force them to write 5 or 6 goals and pick a meaningful one. The one that makes
them stretch.

Your accomplishments have an impact



Those very people you committed to will be inspired by the completion or your living up to
your declarations. You will grow in front of their eyes. Just the fact that you are living up to your
standards will make them respect you and they will look for your council. But this is not why you do
it. You don’t do it to impress others. You are after personal growth.

When a person has had a life-changing experience and then gives witness to it, the impact of such
behaviours forces others to change and grow. When others see somebody going after something
with excitement and belief, they can’t help but feel excited too. During the process they will see you
struggling at times, happy at times, concerned and finally making it. They will witness your journey
to accomplish such feat because you announced it. It doesn’t matter if it is a specific dating goal or
a value you decided to live by. The key to its completion is making it public. Now the world knows
what you know. You can’t hide or be a victim anymore.

Many guys I meet tell me, “I want to change this part of my life. I want to improve and meet
beautiful women”. I always ask, “How many people know about this?” You can guess what their
answer is. Most guys don’t tell or feel “ashamed” about not being successful with women. They feel
if others knew their goals they will think he is a loser. Actually others will respect him more if they
knew.

Public commitments in dating you can make today to your close friends, internet forum or
significant people


1. I will approach every hot woman I run into whenever, wherever
2. I will stop talking about my bad luck with women
3. I will go out twice a week to a hot club in town and meet at least one hot girl
4. I will have a date with a hot girl within a month
    Etc....

Feel free to add anything of value to you.

Ozzie

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#1
Angelo_chill

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Join Date: 02/15/2011 | Posts: 30

Le premiéééér, yeeah wouhou
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#2

dassy

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Join Date: 03/28/2010 | Posts: 10

totally awesome. This is exactly what i needed

cheers man!
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#3
Goran~

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Awesome Article, dude, cheers, needed this!

Also that blonde was HOT!
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playingthegame~

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Join Date: 01/05/2009 | Posts: 88

 Great article and I love the quote at the top, words I will now strive to live by. Ive recently started being much more open about being a part of this community and going on a bc and all to many people if the topic has come up. Many of them know I have success with women but had no idea why or how when I tell them they dont condemn me, most of them dont even know how to process what I just said the ones that do though normally either shrug and go thats cool or start asking me about things to do with it. It does take a lot of courage thought to shrug off that self preservation instinct and put yourself out there the first time. But if we dont put ourselves out there unashamedly  to the people we know and care about, how can we put ourselves out there unashamed to a hot girl?
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André Jr.

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LOL sometimes i think you read our minds ozzy. Actually i personally think that way sometimes, i am in this for a long time ( but not time enough ;P), and i don t talk about it with my other friends just to not feel the pressure of acomplishing my goals, ridiculous. Anyways, i  came back to my country about a month, after being in adventure land as tim says in belgium for an year and a half, i m starting again, going out frequently, but looking more for meeting gorgeous women during the day, strugglin sometimes but whatever i ll keep going cuz thats what i want in life and having guys like you wishing for us to succeed there´s no excuse not to succeed at this! Thanks for your support, i m telling that i will acompplish my own goals for my own good, and as soon as i can i will also make a program with you ;)

I will meet the women of my core, i will date them and i will get this part of my life handled.
I will challenge my fears, i will beat them, and i will share my transcending experiences!
I M GONNA MAN THE F*** UP!

HOLLA BACK Ozzie and fellows
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#6
Kris-

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 Great Insights as always Ozzie. I recently have started declaring my goals for woman and what i want out of life to one of my friends. Just me telling him what I want has inspired him to make a change and to join me on my conquest! 
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AZmagic

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 Thanks man!!! Thank you so much for your invaluable perspectives on fear and success. One of the coolest things I've learned from you has been "let the fear be your guide."

It's fucking beautiful.
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Lateralus

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 Good Article. 
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#9

bighawke5

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Join Date: 09/15/2008 | Posts: 15

I read the article/watched the video and i think i was confusing your message a bit.
There's a difference between "mindless approaching" and "mindless approaching".  I think many of these concepts and ideas get misunderstood sometimes because of the wording.

when you mentioned "Mindless approaching" to me it means "approaching without doubts or without letting that voice in the head tell you the 1000 or so reasons why she won't talk to you." And that to me is something good, but then you say thats wrong and you dont like it....

so maybe im not getting it? are you saying "see a girl, start thinking bout the million ways she could reject you?" What do you exactly mean by "mindless approaching"?
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Purple Haze

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 ^
I think he means mindless as in not present, having no intent- Approaching to say you approached, which is a good start... But at some point you have to go up and totally OWN the approach, be into it, have intent, be present. Put YOURSELF into the interaction and pay attention, don't walk up and wear your PUA mask and hope that gets the girl interested.

I know I have approached plenty of times and patted myself on the back YAY I DID IT and then start acting like a tryhard or trying to be too cool and fade away/blow myself out since I accomplished OBJECTIVE 1: APPROACH, instead of riding the wave further. Mindless.
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progress-now

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Hey, Ozzie, I find this interesting.  you seem to be saying that instead of hiding your fears, instead of hiding your feelings of insecurity, you should OWN them?  I've been talking about this on the forums, and it seems to be some of the newest concepts RSD is dishing out.  Does this sound right? 
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#12
Kaladyn

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great article ozzie , my best friend has been hitting this "Mindless Approaching" wall and I've been trying to work him past it.

The public declaring of goals is great, found it very relevant to how I constantly hound facebook expressing things
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#13

CBAABC

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 Ozzie you´re on FIRE recently.

Awesome article...also loved the video where you said something like: "you don´t have to be alpha to get results".

ChinaBoy
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dzdevil®

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Dig it.

Especially the part about stretching to actually challenge yourself. So key, i think because it's easy to rest on past successes.
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#15

Bru

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"4. I will have a date with a hot girl within a month"

I've read a book about physical game a couple of months ago that say 'NO RESULT ORIENTED GOALS' ;p
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detourxl~

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Ozzie is the Joe Campbell of pickup. Methinks bout investing in Ozzie Program
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Shoryuken

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Bru wrote:
"4. I will have a date with a hot girl within a month"

I've read a book about physical game a couple of months ago that say 'NO RESULT ORIENTED GOALS' ;p

He's just saying it helps you strive towards it by declaring goals like this to others so you're pressured to take action.
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RagaTanha

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Awesome article, I will be making my declaration of my summer goals once I finish beasting my finals.
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AssEatingOwl

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This hit home for me just for the problem i had this weekend.

Went out weekend befor last had great results which havn't had befor, was completly present and totaly owned the situation make out in 5 mins (never done before), straight away aproached a few other sets (never experienced this either was in good state) and all was good. This weekend i think yea i can do this i may have lost some of my social momentum but i can get it back by aproaching, what happened.. i approached mindlessly didnt go off not one sucsesfull set like you said in the end i didnt feel like approaching at all.

So next weekend i geuss i need to be more pressent?
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new.startf

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 That thing you said about mindless approaching really hit me. I used to do it all the time. I would go in, stay in the group for a very short time, then go on the the next one. Never pushing the interaction really, or challenging myself.
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#21

Slash

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Link to the YouTube video? Doesn't show from my phone.

I'm doing the same thing with my up coming kickboxing fight. Started training camp today. I've got 1 month!
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