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 Here is my schedule for the first quarter of 2012, Europe. I will be hitting some big European Cities with Nick’s Hot Seat. Check it out. I haven’t travelled in Europe in years because I decided to make London my home base and build the UK market. I already did. So, time to spread the love. All my Bootcamps now feature Fear Technology as taught in London for those who have asked me whether I run the same type of program on the road. Yes, I do.

Flat Schedule

February 17-19: Barcelona, Spain

March 15-17: Amsterdam, Netherlands (Thursday-Saturday; Julien doing hotseat)

March 22-24: Munich, Germany (Thursday-Saturday; Julien doing hotseat)

April 19-21: London (Thursday-Saturday; Julien doing hotseat)

April 26-28: Copenhagen, Denmark (Thursday-Saturday; Julien doing hotseat)

The Circumstances

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Don’t fight them. You have arranged circumstances to help you to get higher places. Your mind has done that in mysterious way. If you are standing in line for the club for two hours now, that’s where you should be. If a hot girl rejected you that’s where you should be.

So welcome the circumstances as a natural byproduct of your subconscious mind. You put yourself in this position for a reason. Don’t spend your life trying to change your circumstances. Pay attention to your present and accept your negative feelings whatever they might. It doesn’t make you a loser! Fighting them will cause them to become stronger. Let the subconscious mind do the work of resolving any situation. Then discover the lessons to be learned by accepting those situations rather than trying to change them.

It will be tiring and obtuse to oppose the powerful forces your mind is releasing, instead go with them to whatever they might take you. It is a journey of discovery.

You are unlikely to agree with this. Why? Because it is painful to just stay with whatever negative stuff your mind is giving you. But staying with it is the beginning of the solution.

“Loud Music, Bitchy Girls…” And Life At The Club

Can’t change the fact that the music is loud. Can’t change the fact that some women will reject you. However, you can change yourself. If you take responsibility is like swallowing a big lump. But you will realize you only have to change yourself, not the rest of the world. You have the strength and the chance to change yourself, but not the world.

However, you may spend the rest of your life trying to change the world but you won’t make it. Even if you did you will feel you aren’t very happy about it. You must understand the simple truth that every problem you see in the world starts with you.

Alignment



It begins with yourself and your emotional reaction to what happens outside. Once you practice a little bit you will find that your inner world starts to align with the outer world. There are no problems to fix anymore because you took care of the biggest problem: you. Isn’t it obvious that when you feel alright, the world is alright? The opposite is true.

So if you are ok with girls being bitchy, it is not a problem anymore. You allow yourself to be around them even when they don’t like you. You start to think it is funny they don’t like you.

Constant State Of Background Fear

Because you are constantly monitoring circumstances you life is lived in fear. Circumstances change and so you are always on the lookout for new input because you want to change them as opposed to accept them.

Life becomes a dull struggle for survival when you are always trying to change the circumstances. All kinds of illusory threats get projected onto the background of the club and the people in it. We constantly challenge ourselves to move through circumstances that in reality they are all static. We move but they don’t. The reality of this game barely changes from one night to the other. It is fairly static. Club crowds do the same no matter what. Women’s behavior in clubs remains the same. We change. If we let circumstances take care of us we will live in fear of them. Fear will become also static in our lives.

Your Thoughts At The Beginning Of The Night

If you are worried or in fear of your circumstances you are likely to have the same thoughts every night you go out. Guys fear their performance that night. No matter whom I get on program, whenever I inquire at the beginning of their night I get the same feedback:

“Club is too crowded”, “Girls are too hot”, “Music is too loud”, “I feel I don’t belong here”, “I feel like a weirdo here”, and so on.

At the beginning of the night you will always have performance related fears. Your mind becomes negative. Your mind’s agenda is survival. Your mind wants you to stay put and do nothing. Most guys fight these thoughts with alcohol, affirmations or simply ignore them. They have a cute name for it, AA. Another word for fear. If you fight those mind cognitions you will create unnecessary conflict. The negativity reasserts itself. It will slow you down.

You Must Challenge Those Thoughts



However, before you ever get to do that you must invite them in, not judge them. Performance related fears at the beginning of your night are all but normal. But if you judge them, try to ignore them or change the circumstances to make them go away you are in trouble. Those thoughts get stronger and destroy whatever is left of your self-confidence. Instead accept them as part of your process. Invite the negativity in. it is like releasing a boulder down the hill. It will move us, at first slowly, but inevitably and relentlessly to a different point of view. It will shift your consciousness. I call this technique “grounding” and it goes a long way into getting rid of negativity faster than anything I have ever tried before.

Like I ask to students at the end of the night, “Do you remember what you were thinking before you started approaching?” 9 out of 10 they don’t remember the negative thoughts they had some hours before. The reason is the thoughts were challenged through the actions they took and were proven wrong by positive evidence. No need to lobotomize yourself. Reality is the ultimate cure.
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 FIRST
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go tiger
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Good post! thank you
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 Very good.
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good food for thought
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Thank Oz ! it's a relieving feeling to know that I don't have to confront my negative feelings at the beginning of the night and just welcome them and take action, I've been having these Performance related fears and I've been having terrible nights but now I have a new perspective, thanks a lot !
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 Great post. One of the best ive read
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great article....weak infield footage tho
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I loved the video! The guy was getting all up in that.
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Gold!
Nice article simple & to the point, in my opinion one your best!
Thanks!!
if you ever come out to Cali the crew & I will come see you!
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weak video lol . yeah right, after last week's infield videos from tyler and julien, now every infield footage will seem "weak " if you compare, thing is it's only DIFFERENT, and that guy in the video is doing pretty good in the end, girl looks hot
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 Thanks! love it!
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 ok, i'll see how this applies tonight, thanks
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Great to have another post video by ozzie after the massive tyler and julien dominance lately.

Just what I needed right now, I'll go out tonight in spite of various adverse circumstances.

Sometimes I think it's funny. Here I am, just a random dude from germany, somewhat offside from the action of the big world, following the adventures of the RSD crew in sheer astonishment. Most importantly, RSD has helped me to change my little life in a positive direction.
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Ozzie wrote:
 No need to lobotomize yourself. Reality is the ultimate cure.

I love this. Have always found your articles SO SO MUCH more helpful after a night out, hitting it hard and going after things. Thanks a lot Ozzie. 
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awesome article and videos man, the 'fear as fuel' one really hit me. thanks
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 excellent article! thanks
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I just love your accent.shades

10/10
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 Ozzie!

Love your shit man.

Great to see you posting. Mazel tov!

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 Time to Transform!
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These articles are meant for people who go out and want to find things out for themselves by practical experience.
No wonder they bug the KJ's and yet at the same time the people in here who really go out think they are the BEST articles on RSD nation.
Keep going Ozzie. Your stuff inspires me everyday.
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 boing, boing great stuff Ozzieboy
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great stuff ozzie. love your posts
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Awesome Ozzie.

The infield footage isn't weak lol its showing a student not taking action in set then his progress over the night being more physical and taking responsibility, kinda obvious :s ha.

Great article Oz.
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 Omg. I'm printing this out right now and taping it to my wall so I can read it every day. Thank you so much, Ozzie, for your courage to pursue excellence and truth. You are a MAN.
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Among all the advanced stuff on here, it's nice to have someone emphasising on the roots of it all.
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Conquering your fear is good, that's on a high level. But there is an even higher level and that's the level of understanding that as a MAN, you can do whatever you want, say whatever you want, go for whatever you want. When you internalize this - the fear goes away for good, never to return. So it's great to feel the fear and do it anyway, but its even better to kill it's root (irrational fear of rejection, of not being good enough, of strangers) and then you don't have to deal with it at all. Its harder work but the reward is worth it. Go for complete inner transformation - not simply "ignoring" the fear.
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 Amazing , thank you. I'm printing it out too
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The tricky party is putting this stuff to use infield. Like...you can train how to wrestle a lion and figure out how it moves etc. And you probably even build a certain confidence at the thought of wrestling even the biggest goddamn lion out there. But then you're out there, and the lion is darky and noisy and everyone's talking in tight groups (I've lost the lion metaphor, whatever) and shit gets real, as they say. It's much harder to regain confidence and achieve acceptance when you're already halfway down the hill to nowheresville ten minutes into the night. Suckssss.
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I choose to educate with my videos, not to entertain. There is no flash in real life teaching.
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Sometimes I can't help but read what you write, Ozzie, hearing Tyler's impression of you :D All due respect. Love your stuff, sir.
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Ozzie is back!!!
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Thoughts of fear comes up and Ozzie recommends that you
"invite them in, not judge them. Performance related fears at the beginning of your night are all but normal. But if you judge them, try to ignore them or change the circumstances to make them go away you are in trouble. Those thoughts get stronger and destroy whatever is left of your self-confidence. Instead accept them as part of your process. Invite the negativity in. it is like releasing a boulder down the hill. It will move us, at first slowly, but inevitably and relentlessly to a different point of view. It will shift your consciousness. I call this technique “grounding” and it goes a long way into getting rid of negativity faster than anything I have ever tried before". 
- I did invite my negativity in. I saw myself with my bloated ego, trying not to be reacting while I wanted immensely to be liked, like a dog waiting for the pad on the head - and I felt the self loathe. I don't experience fear in walking up to girls, I just never experience or see any attraction, since the little shit I am have this weird dilemma that on one hand I feel, a delusion, more intelligent than most people I talk to, and on the other hand I want other people to like me. So my attitude is a mix of superiority and supplication. I went into these feelings and decided that I couldn't live with that, so I bought a gun in order to blow my head off if I didn't change. The first day I felt great without any restrains or agendas towards people, however,  the next day I really hadn't changed. Perhaps you should be carefull about inviting the negativity in?
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martind112 wrote:
Thoughts of fear comes up and Ozzie recommends that you
"invite them in, not judge them. Performance related fears at the beginning of your night are all but normal. But if you judge them, try to ignore them or change the circumstances to make them go away you are in trouble. Those thoughts get stronger and destroy whatever is left of your self-confidence. Instead accept them as part of your process. Invite the negativity in. it is like releasing a boulder down the hill. It will move us, at first slowly, but inevitably and relentlessly to a different point of view. It will shift your consciousness. I call this technique “grounding” and it goes a long way into getting rid of negativity faster than anything I have ever tried before". 
- I did invite my negativity in. I saw myself with my bloated ego, trying not to be reacting while I wanted immensely to be liked, like a dog waiting for the pad on the head - and I felt the self loathe. I don't experience fear in walking up to girls, I just never experience or see any attraction, since the little shit I am have this weird dilemma that on one hand I feel, a delusion, more intelligent than most people I talk to, and on the other hand I want other people to like me. So my attitude is a mix of superiority and supplication. I went into these feelings and decided that I couldn't live with that, so I bought a gun in order to blow my head off if I didn't change. The first day I felt great without any restrains or agendas towards people, however,  the next day I really hadn't changed. Perhaps you should be carefull about inviting the negativity in?


If you are serious try and read some of my reviews snd you will see how we do this in field for real. What you are describing has nothing to do with the way it is done.
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 Accepting where you're at instead of fighting the current circumstances, genius. 
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Osvaldo, this is the most profund thing I've read from you to date. Thanks a lot
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Started to go on RSD nation very rarely. AND Damn man, whenver my mind is in trouble, Your article is there to help out.

Thank you
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