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Hi guys,


Had to cut this article in two because it got too long. Don’t like to do, hate the cliffhanger,  that but I had to. I chose to outline the problem on Part I and offer tools, drills and solutions on Part 2.  Hope that’s ok but again feedback is welcome as usual.

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Lame Attempts To Control Women
I ask a student on a program night, prior to an approach, “What do you think of those girls over there?”, to which he says, “I am going to run out of things to say and I will suck”. Normally I would say, “Let’s go and suck”. I project his “gloom and doom” future scenario with him. I don’t contradict him or try and make him “be more positive” because it doesn’t work long term. Let’s see why.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y6bZrTuU1HA


It is widely accepted that when your mind is in the future, you are in fear and when in the past, you are in resentment (another word for fear, since fear is an emotion that always lies under anger, you get angry when you feel defensive, the pre-emptive strike response.) So you are always in fear, past or future. BUT YOU ARE NEVER HERE.
You are missing the present. In this article, will try and teach you how to solve the “not being in the present” moment issue, so crucial when you interact with girls. Women (and men) can feel when you are not “here and now” and reject you based on the assumption that “something is off with you”, even when they can’t pin point what. As an extension you can use those tools in your job, social life, and anything really. At the end of the article I will outline some solutions that might solve the problem even before the problem starts.
First, let’s explain why this happens, to give you a context.
I will explain why you become so negative when you try to control your environment. Welcome to the world of the control freak, my kind of world. You could say, “But I am not a control freak”.
And you might be right about that. Sometimes controlling issues appear only in certain areas but you need to deal with it anyway. Maybe, you enter a club and your control mania kicks in. Other guys, psychos, autistics, spend hours aligning and re-aligning their toy soldiers in their shelves. You, on the other hand, want to control women, people, situations. You want to fiercely re-align those “toy soldiers” so they always “look good”.

My Pattern
I travel to a different country every other week. I try to figure out the weather patterns for the weekend in every country I go to. I am preparing myself to “imaginary” challenges. In other words, I am trying to control the weather. My pattern kicks in especially in winter months where there is rain, snow, cold and I arrive in a town I don’t even know the clubs. I feel threatened by the unknown circumstances I will find when I land there.
I have been travelling for 7 years in this job and I still find myself worrying about this every time. At an unconscious level, I figured that I can control the weather. Basically, when I am in my control freak mode, I am playing God. However, weather, when I land, it is going to go either way and there is nothing I can do about it. As a control freak, I don’t want control, I want the illusion of control so I can relax. It is all fear-based. I want to get rid of my fear by controlling my environment. I am trying to figure out what I am up against in those bootcamp destinations. But since it is impossible, I want an illusion of control through a weather forecast or any other way. And now the weather controls me. I gave my power away to the weather.
There is not a big difference between me and my travelling weather obsession, and a guy in the club trying to control girls reactions. A guy in the club is as fear-based as the guy trying to figure out the weather pattern so he is “prepared”. They both want an illusion of control for the lack of any real confidence.
We are both afraid about what will happen when we are “not in control”. But since control is an illusion, it is not real, we worry about something that is fake. Yes, control is fake. It is never true control. That’s why real confidence is all about being ok with the odds, no matter what.
Another way you control is by “attaching” yourself to an outcome. The most common outcome guys attached themselves to in dating is girls liking them. They think they can control that. As a result of that, they give their power away and women are the ones in control. Guys become reactive to girls. They end up micromanaging interactions by being funny, arrogant, exciting, “sucking girls in” and so on. But because of the nature of micromanaging, you lose the big picture. If you want to be successful, you want to “macro” manage interactions. It means you roll with the punches and don’t take things as face value either good or bad but instead focus more on the interaction moving forward as a whole.



ww.youtube.com/watch?v=70Ty-LVGwVg

The more “in control” you are, the less you are in control. Things feel more out of control the more you try to control the little details of the interaction from the opening sentence to the close. You feel like somebody is in control. And you are right! Another person is in control, the girl. She is controlling you because you are so worried about anything she does or says because you are using it as feedback of how well you are doing.
Humans Love Control. Here Is Why?
Fear is the number one cause for controlling behavior. Fear based people feel out of control all the time. They feel they are “being played” rather than “playing others”. Fear of humiliation dominates guys in the field. you don’t want a female to expose their shortcomings in an approach. You try to control female’s reactions because we are afraid of what can happen if we don’t. We are afraid they will freak out and tell us to go to hell. So the obsession becomes about making them laugh, comfortable and so on. However, attempting to control things makes you feel out of your mind crazy. Your focus becomes too narrow and you start become reactive.

Fear And The Fight/Flight Response In Social Situations
All animals including humans are equipped with fight/flight response. They are programmed by years of evolution to fight/flight/freeze in response to a threat. The problem is that in humans it happens in social situations where they can’t control the outcome. In nature, the outcome is very specific; just survive. In social situations, survival just doesn’t quite cut it. Actually it can be argued that surviving only will lead to isolation and despair. We want results!
However, fear gets in the way, the old fight/flight/freeze response to a threat. In this case, women are the threat. You want to control them. You want interactions to go your way. And that generates the gut wrenching fear. You set yourself up for this the moment you become controlling. You are afraid you won’t get the desired outcome of the interaction. In other words, you think you can play God and control the future.
Becoming comfortable in your mind and your body becomes a paramount issue. How do we do that? How can we beat years of biological evolution?
How can we let go of the fear and truly become comfortable in those feared situations.

“I Am Ok With The World” Response
I tell my students on program, “People want to be friendly”. It is true if you give them a chance most people are friendly even when you are bothering them. To illustrate, I make my students walk backwards into a thick crowd in central London with clear instructions not to apologize for bumping into or stepping on people’s toes. I also make my students block with their bodies the escalator exits of the tube stations so people have to push them aside to get through. Students are surprised to find out that most people are friendly in those situations and actually apologize to them! Not the other way around.
If I am ok with the world, the world is ok with me. I used to read this Indian Guru who would keep saying to his disciples, “there is nothing wrong with the world”, “Look inside”. At the time I was so deep into pickup theory that I didn’t understand what he was saying. Today, I see what he meant. If I look for validation outside, I will always be at odds with the world but the world doesn’t have to conform to me. There is nothing wrong with the outside world. However, something is wrong with me when I look at the world in a negative light, in a fearful light.

Women Control In Relationships (Relationship Section)
The most common way is through the withholding of sex. It is funny that I was the one doing that to my ex in my past relationship. She was chasing me for sex all the time and I would withhold it from her until she would do whatever I wanted (you can do this by applying the tips for becoming a sex God in previous article). I became a chick in that relationship. It is embarrassing but I did.
Anyway, this is about women not me.
Let’s get back to those awful bitches (attempted humor). So, women know men are dogs, they only want to bury the bone. So they withhold sex from you if they know you want it bad. That’s how they control you. Sometimes it is subtle, other times this is very obvious.

How Do They Do It? One Subtle Way Women Control
Fights.
They pick up a fight with you over nothing. And when I mean nothing, I mean absolutely nothing. Typical fight goes like this:
Guys notice girls in a “mood”. Conversation goes something like this.
Guy: what’s wrong?
Girl: nothing.
Guy: you look mad. What did I do?
Girl: nothing.
Guy: why you acting like this.
Girl: I don’t know.
Guy: what the fuck is wrong with you?
She cornered you into a fight. She wanted control and she got it. she got you to react. Now you are her bitch. Now it is your fault for biting her bait and she can ignore you in bed.
How can we, as people, avoid this? (more attempted humor, slowly becoming a comedian in this article)
Don’t bite. Don’t play the game and you won’t lose. You need an awful lot of restrain to pull this off but it pays off big. Your girl will become as docile as a sheep. Say something along the lines of, “Oh, you would tell me when you are ready.” Fake it. Remember this is a war and you will lose if you bite. Act as if she was the nicest girl in the world when she is in a mood.
Women use their moods to control and manipulate us. Women are passive aggressive. They can’t express their anger, they have to swallow it (pun intended). Western/eastern society won’t allow for women to be angry. So their anger at men comes sideways in the form of moods and withholding. Understand also what women go through in our male-centric society. They get used to the idea that males are in control. So they rebel against it but sideways.
That’s why when you ask why they are mad, they get annoyed. In their head, they think, “doh, don’t you fucking know why I am angry”. Maybe they are angry because you forgot her birthday but she won’t tell. The fact that you don’t know, makes her even more belligerent. So sex becomes a bargaining chip (sexual criptonite) they will use against you, to punish you. They can’t use it if you refuse to play. You take away their chip by refusing to engage in fights. So, so after a while, they become submissive. Women give their power away all the time you just have to know how to get it.
Cool. Back to the article. Relationship section ends here. (Thinking of striking this section off because of lack of feedback on it. I don’t think it is landing with the guys here. That’s why I keep making it smaller.)
Here is another solution to the letting go challenge
Letting Go Of The Body…. (to be continued in Part II of this article, next week.)

Anyway leave
comments, criticism is welcome too.



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January 4-6 Amsterdam or London BC with Alex

January 11-13 Munich or London BC with Alex

January 18-20 London BC

January 25-27 Oslo BC with Alex

February 1-3 London BC with Alex

February 8-10 Stockholm BC

February 15-17 London BC

February 22-24 Tallinn BC

March 1-3 London BC

March 8-10 Dublin BC

March 15-17 London BC

March 22-24 Berlin BC

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Ps: Loving all
the comments I got in the previous article, including the youtube comments.
Working on some of the suggestions there. Video quality improves slowly but we
are getting there. Soon I will release some infield if possible. Anybody from the
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First.
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The relationship part was great! Don't take the fucking bait. Her bad mood is not that important. You absolutely cannot improve the situation by entering her world. Stay in yours and let her join when she's ready.
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great stuff as always ozzie
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 You are fucking awesome ozzie!
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ozzie's videos have an intersting vibe to them. different but i like it.
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 Shit. That last sentence hit me hard.
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Ozzie, THEY DO LIKE FAMILY GUY!!
Bob Dylan music in the background wooooooooww!
Good videos great points thx!
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 Great article! 

You make me conscious about that controlling pattern, a pattern that tends to make itself present when I'm not. You do not feel good in your own body, that energy fuels your thoughts about how much you are lacking. The result of that is this controlling behaviour, you want to feel good in the moment so you try to control your outcome with the girl with this controlling behaviour that you describe, I got it? :)

I guessing the solution to this in your next article is all about being present to the moment and draw state from within.
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 You are fucking awesome ozzie!
cheers.
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Dawinci wrote:
 Great article! 

You make me conscious about that controlling pattern, a pattern that tends to make itself present when I'm not. You do not feel good in your own body, that energy fuels your thoughts about how much you are lacking. The result of that is this controlling behaviour, you want to feel good in the moment so you try to control your outcome with the girl with this controlling behaviour that you describe, I got it? :)

I guessing the solution to this in your next article is all about being present to the moment and draw state from within.
yes. controlling gives your power away to the girls. they are controlling you but you can't control this pattern. you can't control the outcome. so you manufacture fear.
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toasteroven wrote:
The relationship part was great! Don't take the fucking bait. Her bad mood is not that important. You absolutely cannot improve the situation by entering her world. Stay in yours and let her join when she's ready.
great. easier said than done. women have this sucking energy about them, they will draw you in, especially if you live together. that's why it takes a real man in the true sense of the word, not in the alpha sense. it takes  a real, grounded guy to maintain his frame when a woman is in her "kali" energy as they call it in sanskrit. female energy is very powerful and it sucks in the weak guy who responds to it. women don't have upper body strength but they trully make up for it with brain power. you won't know unti it is too late and she won.
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bingobango wrote:
ozzie's videos have an intersting vibe to them. different but i like it.
cheers. all instructors are different. i would love to have the positive, hyper up vibe of others because i lack it. sometimes i can manufacture it. i usually draw it from an audience. this was inner circle so i tried to be more chilled and have a conversation with them as opposed to a big speech. those guys were cool.
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it will be interesting to see some of those drills and techniques in the second part.
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 Shit. That last sentence hit me hard.
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sick!
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 You are fucking awesome ozzie!
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 Really cool to read your tips on relationships Ozzie looks like you been through a lot and know what you are talking about! Haha keep the section please! Cheers
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Cool! A more modern and psychological angel on the "freedom from outcome" subject :) I have heard psychologists talk about having strong personal boundaries which means knowing and expressing what you will and will not accept. I defiantly think that it is a super important part in any kind of relationship and women find themselves drawn to that because of evolutionary reasons I guess.
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Thanks Ozzie.

Great wisdom.

What I did not quite understand is the relationship between fear and the need to control. Do you mean when we are fearful we develop the need to control the situation?
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 What's up Ozzie love the video about instant discomfort!

I am half through the Physical Game right now and noticed that freedom from outcome one of the main pillars of the book and it was hammered so deep into my brain that I am literally afraid to be outcome dependent now.

Some topics I and many guys would love to hear from you:
1) Going out solo (I am going out sober solo)
2) Fear technology

thanks man! keep killing it
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Great Article. One of the most advanced inner game teachings, The level compare to the Tyler Blueprint.

Topics connected to Dealing with Women area can be describe using two Continuum:

Inner Game <--------------> Outer Game
Advanced <-----------------> Basic

I like that you grasp it all (RSD team)

Sometimes you teach more Outer Game (most notably Julien, Tyler, Alexander, Brad)

Sometimes you grasp more Inner Game (obviously everybody as it's 80% of the game, but I would like to mention : Tyler, Ozzie, Todd)

Some of you prepare a lot of basic stuff (great for Newbie, but also to advanced guys who need reminders what to focus on, and some connection to reality if they are obsessed with abstract concept) - most notably Jeffy, but also Brad.

Yet some just love to go deeper and deeper, to become philosophical and spiritual almost: Tyler, Ozzie to some extend Julien.

What I mean is that there is great richness for people, especially the one like me who treats social dynamics not only as a means to achieve some benefits but as hobby in itself.
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Hey, Ozz, your Relationship Tips are on point. Please, keep it up. This is something particular about your articles.  So far, the Pavlov techniques are great.  Would love to see the advice getting deeper and-or farther out.

You HAVE to do something in Spanish.  The salsa music in contrast with Iceland was quite clever.  Ive noticed there is really few original Game shit in Spanish (not translated from English) if at all.

Looking younger as you get thinner!
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PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE KEEP THE RELATIONSHIP STUFF!
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You're the man Ozzie!
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yeah please keep on doing the relatioship stuff very helpful!
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The Relationship Section is awesome!! It has really been helping me and im glad its up here. :) 
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 Awesome article. I was doing exactly what you are talking about last night in a club. Gives me a new perspective on fear/approach anxiety.
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 Hey Ozzieeee! Relationship advices are great. Especially last one about treating the girls, so they get addicted to you. Field tested it the same night and yes... it works heheh!

Now have a date and felt worried if it will go all right.. haha but i guess this is the fear of the outcome, fear if i am gonna be able to control it! Fuck that - paint it black! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=InRDF_0lfHk

Loooking forward to part II!
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thanks. relationship section is getting good feedback so i will keep it. i think guys will prepare for the real thing once they get tired of random sex.
Athlonz wrote:
 Really cool to read your tips on relationships Ozzie looks like you been through a lot and know what you are talking about! Haha keep the section please! Cheers
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actually it is pretty easy to keep a girl hooked if you do the basics. always remember that women are more mature than men. it is nature's way because they are to be mothers. so by mastering that part of the game, you master them.
the_riddle wrote:
 Hey Ozzieeee! Relationship advices are great. Especially last one about treating the girls, so they get addicted to you. Field tested it the same night and yes... it works heheh!

Now have a date and felt worried if it will go all right.. haha but i guess this is the fear of the outcome, fear if i am gonna be able to control it! Fuck that - paint it black! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=InRDF_0lfHk

Loooking forward to part II!

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sick
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  i wasn't sure for a while or whether it was hitting home.
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instant discomfort is the magic pill in this game. hurts at first but progress is always faster. take the book lightly. it was meant to be a guide in the field. it doesn't include the fear stuff which is more current.
AlaskaKidzzzz wrote:
 What's up Ozzie love the video about instant discomfort!

I am half through the Physical Game right now and noticed that freedom from outcome one of the main pillars of the book and it was hammered so deep into my brain that I am literally afraid to be outcome dependent now.

Some topics I and many guys would love to hear from you:
1) Going out solo (I am going out sober solo)
2) Fear technology

thanks man! keep killing it
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thanks for the feedback. greatly appreciated. let me know what you want me to write about.
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yeah please keep on doing the relatioship stuff very helpful!
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i do believe we all teach the same thing from different angles. when i started i was all about outer game. now i am all about both. i think i have matured in the way i look at the game as a continious flow from inwards to outwards and viceversa.
Gulisos wrote:
Great Article. One of the most advanced inner game teachings, The level compare to the Tyler Blueprint.

Topics connected to Dealing with Women area can be describe using two Continuum:

Inner Game <--------------> Outer Game
Advanced <-----------------> Basic

I like that you grasp it all (RSD team)

Sometimes you teach more Outer Game (most notably Julien, Tyler, Alexander, Brad)

Sometimes you grasp more Inner Game (obviously everybody as it's 80% of the game, but I would like to mention : Tyler, Ozzie, Todd)

Some of you prepare a lot of basic stuff (great for Newbie, but also to advanced guys who need reminders what to focus on, and some connection to reality if they are obsessed with abstract concept) - most notably Jeffy, but also Brad.

Yet some just love to go deeper and deeper, to become philosophical and spiritual almost: Tyler, Ozzie to some extend Julien.

What I mean is that there is great richness for people, especially the one like me who treats social dynamics not only as a means to achieve some benefits but as hobby in itself.

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always remember we are nothing but mammals. pavlovian shit applies to both women and men. we react like the dog and the dinner bowl. women should salibate when you call them for sex. your girlfriend should be looking forward to having sex with you and you do this by giving it to her big time and then withdrawing it. that's how you create an addiction to you within reason. dont take it too far though because she might find enjoyment somewhere else.
MarriedGuy wrote:
Hey, Ozz, your Relationship Tips are on point. Please, keep it up. This is something particular about your articles.  So far, the Pavlov techniques are great.  Would love to see the advice getting deeper and-or farther out.

You HAVE to do something in Spanish.  The salsa music in contrast with Iceland was quite clever.  Ive noticed there is really few original Game shit in Spanish (not translated from English) if at all.

Looking younger as you get thinner!
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absolutely. fear is the reason behind your controlling behaviour.
sklu wrote:
Thanks Ozzie.

Great wisdom.

What I did not quite understand is the relationship between fear and the need to control. Do you mean when we are fearful we develop the need to control the situation?

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remember that psychologist don't do cold approaching. we are tested on a nightly basis on our internal boundaries because we approach people. players develop a resilience to rejection that can only be compared to good salesmen, probably better.
Noe wrote:
Cool! A more modern and psychological angel on the "freedom from outcome" subject :) I have heard psychologists talk about having strong personal boundaries which means knowing and expressing what you will and will not accept. I defiantly think that it is a super important part in any kind of relationship and women find themselves drawn to that because of evolutionary reasons I guess.

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it works great and it gets deeper with practice.
StevieManc wrote:
 Awesome article. I was doing exactly what you are talking about last night in a club. Gives me a new perspective on fear/approach anxiety.
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 Awesome article Ozzie, from beginning to the end, really really good teachings, the controlling behaviour thing and the relationship section both very inspiring. Many thanks Man!!
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Great article really hits home on this one!

The first part - obviously because I think I .. maybe seem it before ;-) - makes sense and already applied what I learned on saturday into my self-awareness and was the last piece of the puzzle for my club life:
I start the night really upbeat and happy just having fun and as the night progresses and the interactions happen I go into my head and finish the night not approaching at all, its so frustating -key word here- to see this but not be aware of why the heck I got into my head..

The reason? I start the might thinking in all the things I will do and imagining the interactions and the fun I'm having -instead of saying "I'll have"- and when an interaction starts I get to a point where I start wanting something out of it and get more frustated as the night goes on and by the end I'm actually running away from the pain and klinging to the last drops of validation that I still have fearing to lose them.

Right now I'm aware of it and working on it, one example is for instance when last night I left the bar becasue I could had fucked a girl in the bathroom but failed to see the window - even with her giving the tips.. - I slap myself out and got back there.. Stop being a pussy!

Ozzie really appreciate you taking time to share your insights and experience, they have added value to my experience and shifted paradigms, if you would be so kind to keep them comming!! :D

Peace and love
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 Thank you Ozzie :)!! EXACTLY what I needed :P... Something just clicked!! 
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Ozzie is Cuban but he has the insights of a Dominican! ; )

Keep the relationship section! I was re-reading Deida last night and your article emphasized the same point (I'm going through the same stuff with my girlfriend right now). I'm not taking the bait but responding cool and lovingly, which, of course, makes me an asshole (check out Alex's latest article on this same subject) in the short-run but then reminds her who sets the tone in the relationship.

I'm starting to think that one of the side effects of becoming more polarized in your masculinity is tickling the crazy-neurotic bone in women. Holy shit.

Good stuff, Ozzie.
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Ozzie

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cazador wrote:
Ozzie is Cuban but he has the insights of a Dominican! ; )

Keep the relationship section! I was re-reading Deida last night and your article emphasized the same point (I'm going through the same stuff with my girlfriend right now). I'm not taking the bait but responding cool and lovingly, which, of course, makes me an asshole (check out Alex's latest article on this same subject) in the short-run but then reminds her who sets the tone in the relationship.

I'm starting to think that one of the side effects of becoming more polarized in your masculinity is tickling the crazy-neurotic bone in women. Holy shit.

Good stuff, Ozzie.

Awesome. Cool and loving works. In her mind you are her daddy.
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Ozzie

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gilfox wrote:
Great article really hits home on this one!

The first part - obviously because I think I .. maybe seem it before ;-) - makes sense and already applied what I learned on saturday into my self-awareness and was the last piece of the puzzle for my club life:
I start the night really upbeat and happy just having fun and as the night progresses and the interactions happen I go into my head and finish the night not approaching at all, its so frustating -key word here- to see this but not be aware of why the heck I got into my head..

The reason? I start the might thinking in all the things I will do and imagining the interactions and the fun I'm having -instead of saying "I'll have"- and when an interaction starts I get to a point where I start wanting something out of it and get more frustated as the night goes on and by the end I'm actually running away from the pain and klinging to the last drops of validation that I still have fearing to lose them.

Right now I'm aware of it and working on it, one example is for instance when last night I left the bar becasue I could had fucked a girl in the bathroom but failed to see the window - even with her giving the tips.. - I slap myself out and got back there.. Stop being a pussy!

Ozzie really appreciate you taking time to share your insights and experience, they have added value to my experience and shifted paradigms, if you would be so kind to keep them comming!! :D

Peace and love

Fortune telling is all about predicting the future. Control behavior.
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#45

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Thank you Ozzie! This Article is GOLD for me.Maybe even PLATINUM.
I always try to control people. because im not good looking or rich. and can't feel that self promise in body.
know i think it's because i don't realize that i need push myself harder.
waitng second part like rain in desert!

cheers!
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#46

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 HOlyshit ozzie this is really good..
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AlexV

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 of course it's really good it's freaking ozzie

ever read physical game book??
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 I thought this was great, really connected with me based on the last few times I have been out. Its back to the old concept of being outcome dependent and getting rid of that. Although I do have a hard time getting my mind to trust you just based on the fact that I am 19 and you are much older, I know for a fact that what you are saying is gold. I see it in myself when I go up and approach the easy sets, I am trying to controll reality by doing sets I know will give me validation. "lining up my soliders" and honestly I dont think I have ever seen this concept explained so well.
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#49

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 this is sick dud!
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English Ben

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 Ozzie!

Your articles have become VERY awesome lately

Very much appreciate the effort in your new videos with different angles and locations etc

One thing I would say is because English isn't your first language, sometimes your grammar in your articles can be a little off and it can make things require a second read for them to be concise.  Perhaps consider having them proof read by a friend before you post.  There is so much value in what you are posting that it would be a shame for you to alienate readers because they have little patience for the difficulty in trying to decipher the meaning from your articles

Also, I now have a girlfriend and I am very much enjoying your relationship section.  It's easy to fall back into old patterns when you get a girlfriend so the ideas in your relationship section are perticularly important to guys as a reminder to stay on course after they've got a girlfriend.  Please keep it going!

All in all, really pleased you're re-inventing yourself to stay up to date.  Very much liking your recent material!

Ben :)
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