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Here is my schedule for the first quarter of 2012, Europe. I will be hitting some big European Cities with Nick’s Hot Seat. Check it out. I haven’t travelled in Europe in years because I decided to make London my home base and build the UK market. I already did. So, time to spread the love. All my Bootcamps now feature Fear Technology as taught in London for those who have asked me whether I run the same type of program on the road. Yes, I do.

Flat Schedule

February 17-19: Barcelona, Spain

March 15-17: Amsterdam, Netherlands (Thursday-Saturday; Nick doing hotseat)

March 22-24: Munich, Germany (Thursday-Saturday; Nick doing hotseat)

April 19-21: London (Thursday-Saturday; Nick doing hotseat)

April 26-28: Copenhagen, Denmark (Thursday-Saturday; Nick doing hotseat)

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In our capacity to get what we want, we get sidetracked from the real deals of life.

Bogey Man And Other Myths

We grow up fearing the bogey man that’s gonna take us away from mom and dad. We grow up fearing it. We find evidence that the bogey man is true, that we are not safe. For example, we walk into our new school and we find that this is going to be harder than our last school. Unless we put up a show we will not survive it. We need to step up our game, so we can get through secondary school, same with high school..all the way to today’s job. Then your boss becomes the bogey man. We are not safe, we must put up a show in front of him. We need to step up our game.

Fear Is The Fuel For Survival

In nature, we find plenty of fear. I go jogging every morning on weekdays in a park adjacent to where I live. I see squirrels gathering food every god damn morning. They are programmed by nature to gather for the winter. As soon as they see me coming the run for their lives up the trees. You would think they would have learned by now that I am harmless, that I am not a predator. But fear is an instinct, deeply buried in their minds, to keep them alive.



Instinct Gone Awry

We live in the safest society known to man. You are unlikely to die even from a heart attack. Chances are you will die from old age. Still you feel like the squirrel. Fear drives you for survival. You are not afraid of predators but you are afraid of the boss, the bad economy, getting fired, being rejected and disliked. None of them are survival threats yet we make them into survival threats. Just like the squirrel s make me into a survival threat but that squirrel is likely to die from old age. They live in a park without real dangers or predators, except the dumb fox who is too fat from dumpster food to even run after a squirrel. We are all safe. However, we are all scared for survival just like the squirrel. I am like the squirrel when it comes to paying my rent, bank account charges, monthly expenses and so on. I get all worked up by it. It is survival to me.

Common Sense As Ignorance

We always take the position that common sense is better than science. Not in human relations. Common sense is often ignorance as it applies to our game. It is done to avoid the real issues. It is done in an effort to bypass troublesome emotions that surface when a guy tries to approach hot women or a groups of attractive people with the purpose of snatching a girl. However, you might want to think about the fact that common sense dictated, before Columbus, that the world was not round but an even parking lot!

Emotions and common sense don’t match. Just because emotions don’t make sense, it doesn’t mean they are irrelevant in PU. We don’t pretend mountains aren’t there because you never saw when and how they formed. You should treat your emotions with respect like the mountains because they define you in field. (I will talk about a concept I call “grounding” later on)

Lame Attempts To Bypass Uncomfortable Emotions

Common sense tells you that people or women will be attracted to fun because you see that on tv all the time or fun people entertain others and they get attention. So there you go and become a fun guy even though you are not and never been. You can’t pretend the mountains are not there because you ignore them. Mountains are still there and so are your emotions. People will read between the lines and see you are not fun at all, you are just pretending to be fun.

Furthermore, because of movies and what not, people get the idea that a woman will be attracted to “alpha male qualities” as seen in motion pictures like leadership, assholeness and what not. So there you go and become an “alpha male” just like in the movies. Again, the mountains are still there, you are just trying to bypass them and not look at them. Ignoring the mountains doesn’t make them go away. If you don’t feel worthy of women, a quick paint job will not change that fact. Also you must remember that movies are just movies, not real life. Some common sense for you.

However, this is common sense at work. It is appealing because it makes sense. You adopt certain desirable characteristics or fake them (it doesn’t really matter how) and you will become desirable. Common sense, right? Any variation of asshole “game” is based on the fact that any attention is better than no attention. So if you get them mad or dismissive, you have done your work. It kind of reminds me of pulling the pigtails of girls in primary school: you get them to pay attention somehow. But how far does it take you into leading a woman to bed?

The truth is that you cannot “adopt” these characteristics at will, at least not for the long haul. Furthermore it is not necessary. Then again, a bunch of women are attracted to those “alpha” traits but others are not. You end up at the same place where you started. You got the same chance that if you didn’t approach with such alpha vibes.

(I really don’t know how to finish this article. Doing the best I can here. Anyway let’s try some solutions and see if it works as a wrap. Sorry I went too long on the alpha shit. It always irritates me. Rehashed stuff.)

Try the Road Less Travelled



Humility is key in this process

You must accept that some girls might not like you for who you are. You need to be ok with others giving you negative evaluations. however, on the flip side, there will be another bunch of girls who will be psyched to know more about you for congruence breeds immediate trust. Some people will trust you implicitly without question once they see you are real person not a phony.

But the biggest pay off is that you will feel right inside. you will realize that you are likable as you are without adornments and that people don’t care that much in the first place for a superficial paint job. You will grow confident and congruent, both attraction generating qualities women fall for.

However this won’t come easy. It needs a lot of rehearsal or exposure to your worst fears.
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#1
J0akes

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Pure awesomeness. 
I wanna know what the dude said to stop that moving set.
Or did the chick just decide to test Mr.Spread Eagle's will power. He didn't even flinch.
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Pumba

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 Ozzie thanks for the huge value you provide in your articles. Second vid was awesome btw

Sidenote, I visited London in September as well, kinda laughed when watching the first clip remembering about my chode approaches in Trafalgar Square.

Also, quick q, The 'Nick Hotseat' is that gonna be mostly Tyler's clips? 

Cheers,

Sebastian
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Awesome F

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Ozzie

I always feel you bring a real grounding to RSD’s playboyness, Like some Hardcore Army drill instructor. Who you hate at first because you know he is right and he will beat the bitch out of you which will be painful process which in the End you will thank him for. I am interested to hear more about your grounding process. Love your no nonsense approach.
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Rosco

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lol the social pressure drills get some funny reactions.

These vids are good for reminding me about bootcamp and facing the fears, thanks Oz!
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is it possible that julien does the hotseat/free tour in munich? ;)
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Frank128

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very good post ! , loved the second video, thanks Oz
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Frank128

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very good post ! , loved the second video, thanks Oz
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#8

Waginator

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This really hits home for me as far as the boogie man. I've been so intimidated by the club scene I haven't been going at all. Just waiting for day time. Ok so stoked to get back out there Once again you cut through the bull and challenge me to step up.
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#9
Indio

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The last two paragraphs really hit it home.  It really does come down to just being yourself and acting in a congruent way.  If you are confident in putting yourself on the line women will sense that and be much more responsive & compliant.
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JohnnyCanada

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Damn, does every Club in the world play the same songs over and over?
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Professor Hughes~

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J0akes wrote:
Pure awesomeness. 
I wanna know what the dude said to stop that moving set.
Or did the chick just decide to test Mr.Spread Eagle's will power. He didn't even flinch.
I doubt he said anything.  Girls are attracted to a guy who is not afraid to do that shit (or at least appears to not be afraid haha).  On my bootcamp with Ozzie, multiple girls came up to me or the other student all 3 days when we were doing the social pressure drills.  It's really amazing actually.

Love the videos Ozzie- brings back a lot of memories!
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#12

Knoxville

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 Whenever I read your articles and watch your videos I feel like I have been given a piece of a whole with pieces missing. If things were just a little more elaborated they would make more sense for me. Your point was summed up when you mentioned that exposing yourself to your worst fears is key. 

As I type and think I begin to understand what you are talking about. You basically mean its best to face your worst fears so that you end up realizing that its not actually scary. 

I got confused when you mentioned that you cannot just emulate what is seen in the movies because it is not genuine (what connection is being made?). I understood that we must face our fears and become more congruent which in turn will make us more attractive. 

I do get the general ideas of the article. Thanks for your value! It is appreciated. 
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I only like Ozzie's stuff these days.
Take the best and leave the rest.
This is the best.
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sint

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Is he doing the Hitler's Greeting? I'm all up for public humiliation, but that's just dumb ;)
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Ozzie I love your articles to fucking death but please stop posting exaggerated claims of in-field footage.

None of what we've seen is even close to good. If I wanted to see in-field shit I'd go to the hot-seat or SimplePickup's youtube channel.
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Kuz

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 I LOVE LOVE LOVE your work Ozzie.

Even though i'm getting laid consistently, i'm seriously considering taking another bootcamp with you.

I took one with you 5 years ago, which was the start of my journey in this. I think i should take another one.

:)
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#17

LoveHandle*

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 Whoa Ozzie. Thank you
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#18

mr.technical

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Case 1 wrote:
Ozzie I love your articles to fucking death but please stop posting exaggerated claims of in-field footage.

None of what we've seen is even close to good. If I wanted to see in-field shit I'd go to the hot-seat or SimplePickup's youtube channel.

whatever man. being in the field on an ozzie bootcamp is insane. ive done it. ozzie is the truth
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The Baverien

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 Why is there no hotseat in Barcelona?
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AssEatingOwl

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great stuff ozzie, cant wait to take a bootcamp with you.
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AssEatingOwl

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great stuff ozzie, cant wait to take a bootcamp with you.
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#22
Jake454

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 Id say my biggest fear with this method is that, what if im just pretending that this is true "I just cant get some girls" and its actually a defect in my personality and it could be avoided but im just lying to myself to feel better. 

On the other hand iv had refrence experiances where I see what your saying and its so fucking true. Hard for me I guess, pushing your comfort zone though and gaining refrences experiances cant ever really be a bad thing though so why not! :P

great post.
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#23
Dr. G

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This is scary. Mostly because I know what you are saying Ozzie is true. I guess I'm still kinda living in a fantasy land thinking that pickup is going to make me attractive to ALL women, and ALL people. Like I can be some super fun guy that everybody will love. Exposing your own personal weaknesses is always hard to admit, most people just like to cover them up, make up excuses, or pretend they don't exist. I've already began to find comfort in the unknown and constantly improving myself, but it didn't get any easier. It got harder. It's not going to change, I just have to get used to it. The Navy SEAL motto goes, "The only easy day was yesterday." Because every single day in their training is harder than the last. As soon as you adjust, it gets harder again. And it's scary, because I know I'm going to have to face the music that a lot of women and people out there are not going to like me, and I already know I'm going to have to deal with that emotional pain that comes with it, when I see the opportunity.

Oh well.
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#24

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#25

ElTighre

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So do you still consider alpha male traits desirable for pickup? For life? You're not trying to say they can't be acquired, are you?
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Adam!

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lol at the spread eagle drill! I remember that well.
At the time I hated it. Only afterwards does it's usefulness becomes apparent.
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#27
NapoleonHill

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Wow! That first video where Ozzie is asking that invisible guy all those questions was powerful! Those are they types of questions every guy should ask themselves as often as they can. How much more comfortable will you be in the club after going out EVERY weekend for two months? How proud of yourself will you be? How much more excited will you be to go out? How much more fun are you going to be having? How many more women are you going to lay on a weekly basis? How much more confidence will you have? How big is your social circle going to be? How many high status character and behavioral traits will you have internalized? How many cool guys will you have met? How many more friends will you have? How much more resources will you have available becuase of the new connections you have made? How many reasons will you accumulate that you are a bad-ass motherfucker!?
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#28

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Great ending to your article. Good stuff.
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#29
maxil

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Niiiice ! I really needed to hear this ! thank you ozzy 
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#30
Jeff Winch

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Brilliant video Ozzie, I have only just got around to seeing this - and have noticed that it was actually me in both of the videos!!!

I can confirm that being put into those situtations at the time was scary as f*** - however after you have done these things, doing something else afterwards, e.g approching a chick in a club/bar is so much easier. (there was actually another video of me having to approach a mixed group with my hands behind my head and holding it for 2 minutes, while trying to talk to the girs and having the guys laughing right in my face the whole time!).

I've still been going out regulary and still think I need a lot more improvement, however  I think these lessons have really helped me develop my game.

THANK YOU AGAIN!
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