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Ozzie
 
 Hi guys,

On Budapest as we speak.
Excited to be here and do my first webminar. I decided to throw a Google type
of video this time around sprinkled with some infield from the Oslo BC
(disclaimer: infield videos are not up to Hotseat standards of quality)
relevant to the content. I ran a program with Julien and a free tour in Oslo.
It was amazing the turnout. Thanks for coming out, you guys and girls (some
women too) were great.

 I will be changing the format of articles and
write up articles and videos on the same topic rather than different topics as
I have done until now. It makes sense marketing and content wise to center on
one thing per article. Whatever I won’t cover in the video, I can make up for
it by writing about it. Sometimes I can’t talk about certain things in the
video which I would rather write about. Anyway, hope you like it. Comments,
constructive criticism, welcome as usual. I try and answer all your questions
same day depending on how busy I am or internet availability.

 I will be next:

May 17-19, 2013: Budapest, Hungary
May 24-26, 2013: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
May 31-June 2, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 7-9, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
June 14-16, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam,Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013: London, United Kingdom
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece

www.rsdbootcamp.com

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-zbHpQJWL5w

 The thing to remember about low self-worth is that it
fluctuates. There are days when you have it or on others you feel alright.
Still, if this is the case there is room for improvement and growth and you
might as well start working on it.

Indicators of low
self worth

1. You have trouble and anxiety shaking hands with
people in general, you feel you don’t deserve to be treated well and you most
of all you don’t deserve the attention
of hot girls.


2. You become overly upset with rejection when cold
approaching. You need people to like you to like yourself.

3. You don’t feel competent or intelligent when
approaching women. You avoid the task altogether and if you do it, you do it on
the down low. You pick situations that are few and far between and don’t represent a threat for your ego.
You might approach easy and simple sets over the juicy, big sets with the super
hot girls in it.

Common types of
negative self beliefs


The following beliefs spawn negative self talk. Always
remember that beliefs are  NOT  facts. They don’t necessarily have to be
true.

In this game, you might find yourself thinking.

1.  I DON’T HAVE ANYTHING INTERESTING TO SAY AND I
WILL COME ACROSS LIKE AN IDIOT IF I  DO
APPROACH. (this is accompanied with anxiety and butterflies in your body when
you are around hot girls. Obviously, the negative belief is that “you are an idiot and incompetent around
women”.

2. I DON’T HAVE A GREAT PERSONALITY AND NO WOMAN
DON’T FIND ATTRACTIVE.  (You avoid
situations where this can be revealed. You feel anxious around women and again,
you are thrown into paralysis.)

3.I AM NOT SMART/GOOD/CHARMING ENOUGH FOR COLD
APPROACHING. (So, you think that only a few “chosen” guys can do this. You
always fantasize you had the skills of your 
best friend “the natural” but deep inside you know you are hopeless.

 Need I say more.

Make a list

Good things always start making a list. Write down at least ten good things that are going on in
your life. May be your job, your new android phone, just anything. If you keep
adding things to the list you will start finding things about yourself that you
like. It might cheer you up and you can use that when talking with women. The
best thing about the list is that it is real. Everybody has positive things
going on, they just don’t bother to look.

Winner body language

I make my students walk like a winner for 5 minutes in the
club before approaching. It raises their self esteem most of the time. Practice
walking like a winner. Changing your
body language has an effect on the chemicals in your brain. It might off set
the negative chemicals that are making you negative. Try it and try it again
until you get the desired effect. Don’t pay attention to your mind if it tells
you “you are still a loser” when you do this drill. Make sure you make eye
contact with women when you are walking around.

How to make her want
you more (relationship advice)


. Care about how you
look
. I didn’t care about how I looked around my ex. I didn’t know she did.
She made every effort to look good for me but I didn’t reciprocate. You might
be transmitting to her you don’t care about the relationship. Dress for the
occasion. If you are going to dinner, dress smart. If you are going dancing, it
is ok to wear different types of cloth but try and not look scruffy. Women hate
that. It also kills her attraction towards you.

. Hung around other
women.
She wants to know you can handle women in general. Don’t go
overboard there. But you must show her other women find you likable. In social
situations, step aside and talk to her friends and be sociable and ignore her
for a bit. Show her other women find you attractive(no need to create jealousy
plot lines here. Be easy about this). You might also convey you are slightly
unavailable to her that way. In the same vein, don’t answer her texts right
away. Keep her waiting for a bit. It raises your value to her to think you have
your own life and she is lucky to be a part of it.

. Avoid lying to her.
Women know when you are lying. Make sure she deserves the compliment before you
give it to her. They can read you like a book. Remember if she is your ltr you
spend a lot of times together and she knows all your little body language signs
and tell-tale signs like a poker player. You can’t fool a woman, not for long
anyway. If she has a nice dress, tell her. If you don’t like it, tell her too.
I always say to her, “I like that other dress you were wearing the other day”.
You are not criticizing her present dress but you are also conveying what you
want from her. Be clear in your messages but kind.

 And I am out of here. Hope you enjoyed the video and my
webminar if you were there. Peace out!

I will be next:

May 17-19, 2013: Budapest, Hungary
May 24-26, 2013: Edinburgh, United Kingdom
May 31-June 2, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 7-9, 2013: Gothenburg, Sweden
June 14-16, 2013: London, United Kingdom
June 21-23, 2013: Barcelona, Spain
June 28-30, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 5-7, 2013: Vienna, Austria
July 12-14, 2013: London, United Kingdom
July 19-21, 2013:Cologne,Germany
July 26-28, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 2-4, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 9-11, 2013: Las Vegas, Nevada, USA
August 16-18, 2013: London, United Kingdom
August 23-25, 2013: Amsterdam,Netherlands
August 30-September 1, 2013: London, United Kingdom
September 27-29, 2013: Athens, Greece
www.rsdbootcamp.com

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#1
vanceb

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Big thanks Ozzie for the webinar. Great info. I really like how you work your boot camp students through approach anxiety. Fear of public humiliation I think is the #1 human fear. I love your idea of using fear as energy. Thats great.
As always Ozzie, thanks for the value you give. Have a great weekend.
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krisit

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Damn i missed the webinar, because i was out aproaching. Where i can watch it ?
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#3
Ozzie

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webminar was kickass. i will be doing some of those. need alex V to hook me up with them more often. i will be doing one for innercircle. 
vanceb wrote:
Big thanks Ozzie for the webinar. Great info. I really like how you work your boot camp students through approach anxiety. Fear of public humiliation I think is the #1 human fear. I love your idea of using fear as energy. Thats great.
As always Ozzie, thanks for the value you give. Have a great weekend.
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Ozzie

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i will release it in parts on you tube soon. 
krisit wrote:
Damn i missed the webinar, because i was out aproaching. Where i can watch it ?
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#5
Bossco

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Enjoyed the video Ozzie, looks like a nice city.

 I appreciate you covering these concepts regularly - I think you have a great understanding of what holds most of us guys back.

Thanks
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#6
J Dilla R.I.P.

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 Very nice mate,

I think self worth/self esteem/your SELF IMAGE is one of if not THE most important things in this game.

"there is no reason why I'm" how does the rest of that go again?

Cheers buddy
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#7
gman3

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Hey ozzie, I can def relate to the beginning of the article when you talk about self worth fluctuating. For me personally it seems to be fluctuating less than before, but it still does from time to time. What would be the best way to have a more consistent high self worth?
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Mdng

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 Welcome to Hungary! Hope you'll have a great time while you are here!
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Dinosaur

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 Ah damn! Forgot the webinar!!!
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#10

The Hawk

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Hey Ozzie, great little vid here. Also, the webinar was really good last night. I had to go bed but I thought.. no im staying up this wont happen again. I was glad I did.

The tips about keep moving her around I liked. I've done that before and it was a massive reminder and also the explanation about loud clubs was great.
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#11
UtopiaFive

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Hey Ozzie, I like this stuff.  

You've clearly read some CBT and other psychology stuff.  Also based on this thread
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/136308/forum?page=1
you also read some of Martha Beck's Finding Your Own Northstar.  

I know this includes a lot of the ideas you find most important...but do you have any particular psychology/personal development book recommendations that a lot of the other RSD coaches don't talk about much?  
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#12

renia68

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if you reread your post you might identify several of your own beliefs as well ;)
in case you re serious about what you said obv
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#13

EZ-E

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THIS WAS awesome dude,, I like the relationship stuff. Cause Im in one and sometimes I feel im falling off in it, but I find my way back especially with good articles like this one.
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Ozzie

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actually i am. thanks.
Mdng wrote:
 Welcome to Hungary! Hope you'll have a great time while you are here!
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Ozzie

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it is a lot about getting yourself back on track over and over. you can't be perfect. 
EZ-E wrote:
THIS WAS awesome dude,, I like the relationship stuff. Cause Im in one and sometimes I feel im falling off in it, but I find my way back especially with good articles like this one.
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Ozzie

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i read that book. i think it is very interesting. i used to read it like 3 years ago.
UtopiaFive wrote:
Hey Ozzie, I like this stuff.  

You've clearly read some CBT and other psychology stuff.  Also based on this thread
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/136308/forum?page=1
you also read some of Martha Beck's Finding Your Own Northstar.  

I know this includes a lot of the ideas you find most important...but do you have any particular psychology/personal development book recommendations that a lot of the other RSD coaches don't talk about much?  
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#17
Ozzie

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not high or low but right size. if you go too highe you might find yourself low. so what's the middle for you. you need to find that out.
gman3 wrote:
Hey ozzie, I can def relate to the beginning of the article when you talk about self worth fluctuating. For me personally it seems to be fluctuating less than before, but it still does from time to time. What would be the best way to have a more consistent high self worth?
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#18
Ozzie

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indeed this is a nice city. lovely people too. 
Bossco wrote:
Enjoyed the video Ozzie, looks like a nice city.

 I appreciate you covering these concepts regularly - I think you have a great understanding of what holds most of us guys back.

Thanks
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#19

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About the video: first of all, great work as usual. I have a point to make about the comparison to others. There are many guys out there who constantly and viciously compare themselves to people who are worse off, ending up in what seems to me a high level of confidence but what's more important, high level of effectiveness in work, sports and some other "tests".
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Villy Nikkersen

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 Great blog, really enjoyed it! Bootcamp was awesome last weekend!
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#21
Ozzie

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I think this is articial self worth created by cmparison. Your unconscous will not be convinced with tricks. It will backfire. Thanks for the input.
Elamanopiskelija wrote:
About the video: first of all, great work as usual. I have a point to make about the comparison to others. There are many guys out there who constantly and viciously compare themselves to people who are worse off, ending up in what seems to me a high level of confidence but what's more important, high level of effectiveness in work, sports and some other "tests".
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#22
Ozzie

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.cheers. looking ripped there. Glad you liked it.
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 Great blog, really enjoyed it! Bootcamp was awesome last weekend!
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#23

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 I want to add that when you are an intermidate or advanced comparing yourself to yesterday can also backfire. It has happened to me when I feel shitty because I am not being able to do what you did yesterday.

The best comparison is to not compare be present and have right action as the only criteria for success. If yesterday I was completely extroverted with a lot of energy but today i am tired and in my head, I shouldn't compare myself to my past success (they are only references that mean that I can do it) today I need to be present and take right action according to what I am capable of doing RIGHT NOW.
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#24

Barry-White

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"My name is Tim and I am obsessed with SEO..."

Good you see you getting your keywords in thier Ozzie! Brings back some funny memories...
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oouaf

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congratulation.
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