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April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 2-4, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 16-18, 2014: Stockholm, Sweden
May 23-25, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 30-June 1, 2014: Copenhagen, Denmark
June 6-8, 2014: London, United Kingdom
June 13-15, 2014: Munich, Germany
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I am a big believer that high pressure environments create opportunities to maximize learning. As a coach I am all about cutting your learning curve in half and then go to work on you. Because of my time constraints of a 3 day bootcamp, I have to pick wisely my learning situations because I don't have a lot of opportunity to show what you need to learn.
High pressure situations have the capability to focus your concentration to the max, thus the higher payoffs in learning.

The score is tied, the game is on the line, you got the ball. You take a deep breath and here you go. Sink or swim. You are the hero or the villain. That  kind of pressure smartens. The players  such as Michael Jordan want the ball in those situations. I believe there has been better players technically in Jordan's time but none could achieve his greatness for that very reason. His ambition was unparalleled. He wanted to win. Wanting to win is not easy because winning comes with great responsibility. That's why most players don't want the ball. They don't want to be the one who screws up.

In business, think of a big account client you must win over. As the time draws near, your palms get sweaty, you go over your presentation many times until you know every detail without thinking. You go to the bathroom and puke your meal and so on and so forth. Life comes down to a few moments.

Again you want to replicate those conditions as much as possible when you approach because you will learn more and you will acquire the experience you need in a very short time.

But Why Are These Situations Harder?
Well, you have road maps for performance in your head. They are like a working model that you follow unconsciously. Your mind has become very good at them with repetition. For example, when you enter a burger joint and order, you barely think about what you are doing.

Your mind does all the work for you without you exerting yourself. The mental road maps work by themselves. In low pressure situations your mind does 90 percent of the work by simply recalling past events. Your mind is brilliant in those conditions. It functions like a computer program.
Well, when it comes to high pressure situations your computer program gets jammed. Your recall memory has no reference points of how things might go. In the world of sports, you might recall D'Baggio kicking the ball up into the air in the deciding penalty against Brazil in the World Cup. He choked.  The best footballer in the world was unable to do a simple task like a penalty shoot. His recall memory got jammed up pretty badly. How many times does a player gets to kick a deciding penalty worth a world cup? Like never. Your mind can't recall a procedure that never happened. Muscle memory doesn't work.

 What's The Key?
Since you learn more and faster in those situations, you want the bulk of your practice to be done in those situations. You got to have something to lose. I often tell my student, "that guy is going to kick your ass when you try to steal his girl. Watch him, he looks like a thug". 

Guys used to approaching in those conditions where they have something to lose they get immune to pressure. As a result, your performance will improve in those situations but all around in every situation. Get used to training under pressure. Make sure you risk something every time you attempt an approach. That's your school.

Wasting Your Valuable Learning Time
The flip side of this tells you you are wasting your valuable time when learning when the pressure is not there. By staying in comfort zone, risking nothing, you learn nothing or you are less efficient than the guy that practices under pressure.

Use A Mantra In High Pressure Situations
You read things like "Be the ball" for basketball players throwing a free shot. "Try easy" for baseball players and all kinds of things out there you can use to overcome high pressure situations.
I use some of my own on program that I have stolen from movies like "Improvise, Adapt, Overcome" from Clint Eastwood' s "Heartbreak Ridge". I also tell my students "Fail Big" if you are going to fail. Nobody learns from small failures.

Repeating a mantra to yourself as you attempt those situations might help you get the edge off and keep your mind distracted. This is key for your procedural mind to kick in and do its work. If you are mind gets engaged in the pressure you make mistakes.

Pressure Only Exists In Your Mind
I guess this is a bit wu wu crap but it is true. You create the pressure yourself. You release those chemicals in the blood stream that make your performance go bad. You manufacture the pressure with your own thinking. Nobody has seen pressure. It is not an object. It is your perception of the situation that creates pressure. Pressure is something you could control if you control your expectations about the situation.

One technique you want to use is to lower your expectations in such situations. Pull the bar all the way down. However it is only through repetition you will truly learn to adapt and overcome pressure. Exposure is key.

Bravery Under Fire
You need to fight fire with fire. Wash, rinse  and repeat until you can perform under fire. Confidence is defined as absence of fear. You don't have to be brave. All you have to do is become fearless. For fear to disappear you need ever increasingly doses of it until you become fearless. Composure, coolness and smoothness come when you stop being fearful. Then the fun really begins.

Learn To Master Fear And Get Paid!
Most common question in job interviews is "Can you handle stress in work situations?". Recruiters know all about pressure and they pick their candidates based on "real experience". That's a fancy term for experience under fire. They want to know where you can handle deadlines, stressful work environment and so on. They are not stupid and they know true performance can only the measured under pressure. It is a fact that professionals that can handle pressure get paid more than those who don't.  Can you handle difficult clients, multiple demands and conflict? That's where you earn the big bucks.

Of course, it depends on the job. If you are a lion tamer or an organist for a church, demands on you are different. But most of all they want to know if you can thrive under pressure? What happens when you have different and conflicting demands made upon you?

High achievers tend to perform in those high pressure situations. I remember what my favourite football coach said yesterday, "We enjoy the pressure of working against the score". Later on today his team thrived under the pressure of the score and they moved onto the semi-finals of the Champions League by coming from behind a deficit of 2 goals. There is never  a sweeter victory than the one you earned by coming from behind in the score.
 
Comments are welcome.
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April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 2-4, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 16-18, 2014: Stockholm, Sweden
May 23-25, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 30-June 1, 2014: Copenhagen, Denmark
June 6-8, 2014: London, United Kingdom
June 13-15, 2014: Munich, Germany
www.rsdbootcamp.com
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SalaS

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First and what an awesome vid!
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lance135

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Thank you, Ozzie. You make a lot of sense with your desensitizing method of self improvement.
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The Hawk

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I've been a pussy for ages by doing easy sets. Time to change
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Callum_

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Yeah Hawk....just don't think and do it. You'll do fine mate.

I was going out solo at 18 to parties in other cities, not just for girls but for the music.
I didn't think i did anything amazing back then but then i hear about guys who have good jobs and nice cars and  pretty girlfriend probs from their social circle and i think... they're always had friends around them, always had a job and a social cirlce....it's easy to them.
But with me, i didnt have the people to go to house and techno nights and so i went on my own.... made friends there and met girls there. I didn't read anything on the internet to get me ready for my first night out in the 2nd biggest city in the UK at 17 when i'd never been there before on a night out at all before.  Also went to one of the biggest dance festivals solo at 17. I'd never done a festival before. So i didn't need to use my memory muscle.... i just did it.
It's funny...socialy, because i've not had the mates to rely on, my drive for going out and the music was so strong it took me out. I approach girls in big groups of guys...and do hand of god. It doesn't stress me.

But in work enviornment, then i'm more quite, not as confident with doing work tasks than i am at picking up girls or chatting to friends.
My brain must work differently.... socially i'm good but in a job i'm not as confident.
Maybe because i don't have the same enjoyment of a job and find it boring or hard or i'm incabable of doing it but socially..... where some guys who have good jobs fear approaching girls, i'm the opposite. If i could get my work life sorted and some regular peeps to go out weekly with, ideally in home city...then i'd be gooooood!!

Ozzie any help on this you can give me -

my first proper night out was solo in Birmingham, a city 20miles away from me, i got the train there on my own, never had been before, got in the club and was dancing from the off, chatting to girls, sociable with guys, never needed a drink to be like this.
I never need to use muscle memory....it had never happened. Yeah i felt abit nervous, but once in the club i was fine. The same with now. But i did it with ease, without even having any friends to talk to or tell them i'm going out solo for a boost. I just did it.

But in a job, with completing tasks or learnign somethting then i can get distracted and seem abit ADD.
I'm less confident in a job, you know with meeting targets and doing tasks but i'm very good at talking to customers, because it's talking to people, so it's natural to me.

So why am i good socially but in a job i'm not so good.
 
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BigBrother

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i enjoy your style of speaking. Lots of intent and body movements. the videos are edited great. i like that the content. it is all solid. Rock on!!
 
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im gonna try this out tonight ozzie ! thanks :)
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ozzzzzyy may man !
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Bruce D.

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Great stuff Ozzie. So you like Mourinho? Ha ha.

Honestly, I think you are the most understimated coach in RSD. I think your "fear technology" are top-notch concepts and that you should creat a product about it, kind of PIMP style. By the way, is there a possibility of you doing your own Hotseat in the future?
 
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I basically registered just so I can ask, why the heck does he say "yes" after everything he says, I'm used to listening to RSD while doing my university civil engineering projects and thats quite annoying once you start hearing it consciously
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This content is amazing and on point I have been following your work and it's getting better and better and more on point to the level of seeming you are talking directly to me

Oh boy I wonder what's coming next :)
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Ozzie is the most grounded pimp in my book, he makes it look so easy, that way you know it takes sacrifice!

Go Bang!
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