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Some of the common problems include:
. You leave sets too early
. You have approach anxiety
. You don't approach hotter girls
. Your interactions die when they seem to be going well
. You don't escalate when you should or simply not at all
etc.
The list goes on and on.
Nobody cares.
Your insecurities don't matter to anybody. You can talk about it forever. You read about solutions and they don't seem to work for you. You tell your friends, your buddies at the forum and sure, they will listen but for how long? But at the end of the day the only person that matters is you.
To live the good life you need to cut  out the middle man. You need to go straight to the shit. Ever heard a winner complain about anything or mention/focus on what he cannot do. Focusing on the negative is in itself counterproductive. You are wasting time. To win, you must move away from the bad. In other words you need to move to your strengths and forget your weaknesses for a while.

What's the big deal here?
Most sticking points lists prevent guys from taking action. In other words, you will avoid those very things outlined in the list. You will stay away from that list. Rather than escalating, you will delay the escalation on purpose or not do it at all. It prevents them from taking action.

Even if they knew what to do they wouldn't do it. Reason being action is key to dissipate sticking points. Chances are you are holding back in those areas that you need to improve and take action in. You get caught up in the drama of the sticking points. Chances are you are waiting for something to happen as opposed to making something happen. You don't want to face the problem.

You build anxiety over time around your sticking points. By not facing them you reinforce them. Too painful to face it, but far more to know deep down in your heart you are not addressing it. It is like when you hear somebody complain, "I have no life, no girlfriend or friends", and you truly want to help but they won't take your advice. Ever tried to give somebody direction in their lives and they refuse to consider your ideas because they don't find them useful.
You tell them, "If you are fat, why don't you try a diet and the gym", to which they reply, "Can't because diets don't work for me plus I have no time for the gym". In other words, they don't want advice but somebody to agree with them. In the game, I ask guys, "Why do you leave sets early?", most times they say, "I don't know. It kind of dies on me". I realize that most guys "want to" leave the set early. They can't take the pressure of sustaining an interaction for too long. They want to be over with it.

Being a Victim of your Sticking Point
Victims look like victims. You hear a lot that muggers pick victims in general by their body language. They identify people that are "muggable" by how they behave. Muggers operate just like predators in the wild they pick and choose their prey among the weakest of the herd, sometimes but not always the youngest.
If you approach sets already with the idea of leaving it early, you convey that insecurity to your girl with body language and general vibe. Women pick it up  and you are done. But that's what you unconsciously wanted to begin because you don't like holding the pressure of talking to her and her group.

Winners are Pushy
In a  good sense, winner push themselves beyond the limit. Stop walking around with a bulls eye in your back. Sticking points are there so be it. Take the action you require anyway and accept the consequences. Winners accept the loss and move on if they must. They don't avoid it. In the movie "The Hustler", the all time champion applauds the opponent when he made a good shot. He knew that the game was not about "the one shot", the game was the "long game", not the short. Whoever resists the pressure the longest without avoiding it becomes the champion. Deep down inside winners accept pressure as a by product of winning. Some get to enjoy it.

Imagine Yourself Without the Sticking Points
Let's say you don't have them anymore. What would you do? What happens when having a sticking point doesn't stop you from action? What will you do different? What happens when your subconscious mind stops thinking about limitations? Imagine yourself more powerful, bigger, better but also honest and down to earth. Some bully victims have changed their body language and have reported they don't get picked on at school anymore. Imagine this is just a body language change.
You don't want it to be about body language because you want long term solutions like attitude adjustments, not quick fixes. You want change to happen from inside to outside, not the other way around. As a coach, I work with a student from inside out, not outside in.

Outside changes are faster to implement but won't last long.

Chest champions use their disadvantage to their advantage. Bobby Fisher, for example, would play the same opening game with every opponent. He would not change his strategy, no  matter what. Most chess players would look at this as a disadvantage. They would think that you become predictable and they can anticipate your moves.
But Fischer found a way to make it work. His knowledge of the openings was so deep that nobody could beat him at those openings. In other words, he made a limitation into a weapon. In sports, you will find plenty of examples of players using their limitations to their advantage. In baseball, you have the short guys shrinking the strike zone by squatting so pitchers can't throw strikes.
In soccer, you have dwarfish players like Messi who are able to pass defenders by changing speeds and sneaking in the kill zone. In the pickup game you have shy guys turning into attraction magnets by being mysterious and making girls chase. The list goes on and on.

Comments are welcome.
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I will be next:
February 28-March 2, 2014: London, United Kingdom
March 7-9, 2014: Oslo, Norway
March 14-16, 2014: London, United Kingdom
March 21-23, 2014: Amsterdam, Netherlands
March 28-30, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 4-6, 2014: London, United Kingdom
April 25-27, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 2-4, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 16-18, 2014: Stockholm, Sweden
May 23-25, 2014: London, United Kingdom
May 30-June 1, 2014: Copenhagen, Denmark
June 6-8, 2014: London, United Kingdom
June 13-15, 2014: Munich, Germany
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Much love <3
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Honestly I cannot find the courage to step outside of my comfort zone to do what needs to be done, at least when I've tried alone I just paralyze
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I've a hard time remembering the last time Ozzie's stuff was not on-point. This shit right here is so spot-on. Keep it up man.
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I just went and re-watched some of your other youtube vids.

As you're talking I'm actually imagining myself in the club moment-to-moment. In other words the content is super relevant to the field. Sometimes other instructors' content (while awesome as well) is more abstract and harder to plug-in when out in field.
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Is there ever a bad article by ozzie? Nope. This is absolutely on point. "Face the pain. Pain is the only indicator that lets you know you're alive."
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Yeah yeah... it was realy good video
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Truth, your blog posts are always on point Ozzie, thanks. I want to live in more chaos now!
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Personaly i've a hard time on this but it getting much understandable now! +10
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Ozzie I got into fights when I just kept talking after they shouted ''FUCK OFF''. Usually they go cursing me and when they realize they dont have a grip onto me, it has happend that they went physical. Im a muscled guy so no real harm done, but these days I just avoid those situations and when they tell me to fuck off, I just leave because there are so much more girls. 

Kinda confused about this.
 
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Full_intent~ Wrote:
Ozzie I got into fights when I just kept talking after they shouted ''FUCK OFF''. Usually they go cursing me and when they realize they dont have a grip onto me, it has happend that they went physical. Im a muscled guy so no real harm done, but these days I just avoid those situations and when they tell me to fuck off, I just leave because there are so much more girls. 

Kinda confused about this.
 

never allow a situation escalate. walk when they tell you to fuck off. 
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Great article, immense value. I love new perspectives like these. ^^
For example, I'm really sensitive...I don't know how to translate properly...I mean that when a person criticizes me I get mad deep inside, if it happens when I know the girl for a hour at least (before it's just a shit test and I have a laugh at it). Well, that's a SP. But I turn that into a "congruent" willingness to go away, and the girl starts to chase me. So yeah, turning SP into gold...and changing SP by discovering new ones by fear....Great great great dear Ozzie, love ya.
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Yeahhh!!!

Good stuff, I think next time I'm out my goal will be to approach the hottest girl there!

Thanks
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Ozzie Wrote:
Full_intent~ Wrote:
Ozzie I got into fights when I just kept talking after they shouted ''FUCK OFF''. Usually they go cursing me and when they realize they dont have a grip onto me, it has happend that they went physical. Im a muscled guy so no real harm done, but these days I just avoid those situations and when they tell me to fuck off, I just leave because there are so much more girls. 

Kinda confused about this.
 

never allow a situation escalate. walk when they tell you to fuck off. 


Yeah I guess it all has to do with using common sense, if they shout fuck off while smiling or teasing just keep talking, if they are tense and angry just walk. Working with fear technology for the last 3 months and Im way more confident then I used to be. I notice that I loosen up in day to day life, and I even got my cocky funny thing back. When you understand that nothing bad happens you start gaining confidence and enjoy approaching women.
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What do you mean by fear tech.?
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Hands down most underrated/best RSD instructor.. Your game structure is cohesive and instantly applicable, the more popular instructors spew out a lot of abstract mental masturbation ideas which is fine because it's cool to hear their innermost ideas, But from a teacher standpoint... Your stuff and Todd's really resonate with the real world. Keep it up!
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Hitting the spot again, very nice. I think that what you say about people rather not wanting advice but wanting people to agree with them goes for 95% of the guys in the forum complaining about looks.
But then, how does one change this? Can it be done from the outside at all? I think Owen is currently implicitly attempting to figure this out with the newbie site and his last freetour video and all that.

This article goes in my archive for a re-read, thanks!
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That ending... funny and relevant as fuck!

Cheers Ozzie
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love your stuff ozzie. good content :)
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Ozzie i'm fine at approaching and i can go out solo. Although there is still a stigma attached to going out solo.

I can approach hot girls, i tend to use hand of god iv'e found more on them recently, where they don't take my hand and then i go and intro myself but a lot of the time they say they have a boyfriend. I persist and say things like "why are you telling me this?" "what do you do?" "I bet when a new guy starts at your work, when he speaks to you, you tell him you have a boyfriend, when he only wanted to know where the toilet was" Or anything else fun.
But i get the boyfriend line ozzie and then they look away and turn to their friends and then one of her friends tell me to leave. My problem is i'm out of work, and so struggling for money to go out to clubs at night because i really want to go out more when at the mo, it's once a week or fortnight.
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Dean I know you it's me Sam from Birmingham. Soz about before.

The only advice I'd give is that you perhaps go in to hard. Especially early in the night when there is still a long time to go. Its rare that they'll want to be pulled at 11 or 12.
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OH MY GOD OZZIE

THE BEST VIDEO EVER

I'm always there complaining, and with that thought,

No, I still do not beat tests perfectly, I will fail, so I will not even approach,

Should be afraid of success for sure!

Thank you.
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Yeah.... Hawk i'm probably the opposite to most guys.
I don't think about being entitled or anything.... i just go in and do it, grab them, spin them around and chat. Where some are are to soft when they touch a girl, because there thinking about it to much.

But i also do, handshake and chat....  not always hand of god and spins, but they get me in a good commanding kinda vibe where i'm really me, letting loose.
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#24

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Hey Ozzie,

I'm already doing Brad Branson's Lifestyle Acadamy and on top of my list of what to do next is your bootcamp.

My ultimate goal is to be that fearless, unapologetic, and unbelievably indifferent person who bangs the hottest women on the planet.

Fear Technology -- the only way.
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Do it slowly, leave your c-zone step by step. Greets
 
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Great article!
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Nice One!
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